One thing that got me through infidelity, and I’m sure it’s helped you too — having an awesome soundtrack. I started with Dayna Kurtz a few days ago, and I’ll be occasionally adding to the playlist.
For your Saturday enjoyment, Cephas & Wiggins doing “Richmond Blues” — a classic cheatin’ heart song.
Any recommendations of songs that helped you? Send me comments!
Rihanna “Take a Bow”
P!nk “There You Go” or “I’m Still a Rockstar”
Beyonce “Irreplaceable” or “Best Thing I Never Had”
Justin Timberlake “What Goes Around Comes Around” or “Cry Me a River”
Carrie Underwood “Before He Cheats”
These got me through a LOT of tough times.
Also as a mother:
Kanye West “Hey Mama”
“I Will Survive”! Donna Summer
Joey & Rory: Cheater, cheater
Very good singers, I love the song and the lyrics.
Singing (or shouting) along will be a great release of tension!!
These are great! I’m thinking of making a post with links to a bunch of these, sort of one stop shopping when you’re in a funk.
Don’t forget:
Adele – “Rolling in the Deep”
Goyte – “Now you’re just somebody that I used to know”
Katie Melua – “Piece by Piece”
Duffy – “Warwick Avenue”
Leonard Cohen – “Hallelujah”
AND from the perspective of the remorseful wayward:
Cee-Lo Green – “Please”
I’m tired, so tired, of chasing the dream
With tears in my eyes I realize that it’s running away (It’s running away)
But with all the wrong I’ve done, how could love ever love me?
… but it took much to say
Took much to say
So please, please, please, help me,
Give me some kind of sign
Please, please, please, please. please. please
I want to be somebody, somebody, I want someone to be mine,
Please, please, please, please, please, please
The man, the man in the mirror, he won’t even look at me
Well you may not believe it, but my own reflection
Told me I ought to be ashamed of myself
Oh yes he did,
I’ve wasted my time, my mind
my energy, even let my body down on the bed
Oh yeah, but I can’t seem to win for losing, cause don’t nobody love me
So I’m begging please, please, yeah, please, send me some kind of sign,
please, please. please, yeah, please
I want, I want to me somebody, I want someone to be all mine
I’m begging please, please, please,
Someone, please, please, someone please
I said, I want, I want to be somebody,
I want someone to be mine
Someone, someone, I want someone to be all mine
Sometimes I got to move a long
I say hummm.
Well, there is the old Hank Williams’ “Your Cheating Heart”.
But, there seem to be quite a few songs glorifying cheating, as well.
“Me and Mrs Jones”, “Run to You” (Bryan Adams) and “Lips of an Angel” by some terrible group who I cannot recall.
Lots of movies glorifying cheating, too.
This song is one I’ve listened to over and over and over…
Ashes on Your Eyes
By Deb Talen
Just about the time your heart breaks like a wheel
Not in a straight line, but all in pieces
Some you’ll leave behind on a road you won’t revise
No, you won’t revisit that dirty compromise.
Now you only dream in peaceful blue
The morning doesn’t even scare you anymore
You are a phoenix with your feathers still a little wet
Baby, the ashes just look pretty on your eyes.
So look up, up ahead
The city lights are dancing for you
Or is it the aurora burning off the edges of the sky?
Don’t cry, don’t cry
That’s all over now.
Now you only dream in peaceful blue
The morning doesn’t even scare you anymore
You are a phoenix with your feathers still a little wet
Baby, the ashes just look pretty on your eyes.
Dry your wings in the sun
You have only begun to understand
When it’s time to move on there is no one
To hold your hand.
So let go, let go, let go.
Here the night is fine
The stars are sparks of steel
Chiseled in the mines of twilight
You tell me something real, say
“Don’t try, don’t try
Just remember how, remember, remember”
Now you only dream in peaceful blue
The morning doesn’t even scare you anymore
You are a phoenix with your feathers still a little wet
Baby, the ashes just look pretty on your eyes.
This was my anthem as I started to discover a whole lotta life on the other side:
Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings “Better Things”
A few other goodies:
The Helio Sequence “Lately”
The Avett Brothers “The Weight of Lies”
Great taste Rosie! I like Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings “Nobody’s Baby”
I need to work through some things (don’t we all) and so I am going to start posting my personal divorce playlist here, with the aim of posting at least one song a day. Music is how I deal with my *ish, so this is my way of getting to meh. Singing used to be such a soul-cleansing thing for me, but now I look back and realize that I haven’t sung in years. Trying to rationalize an a-hole’s crappy behavior and absenteeism has a way of taking the music right out of you, I think.
Anyway, I am going to categorize each song this way so you know what to expect before you listen:
*ILCS – I’m Leaving a Cheater Song
*CS – Cheaters Suck
*SS – Sad Song (great for when you just need to have a good cry)
*CPS – Chump Power Song (you can do it!)
*FTN – For the Next – as in, for the new person that will come into your life and love you honestly once you have gotten rid of that cheater
First up, “Bang Bang” by Nancy Sinatra. I’d say this is a CS and SS…this song makes me cry when I think of how young we were when we first met and married. I weep for that girl. Then I remember that he chose to be a liar and cheater and that he shot me down…time to stop feeling sorry for myself and deal with the pain.
http://youtu.be/T5Xl0Qry-hA
Fabulous idea! It’s crazy how lyrics I had heard many times became deeply enlightening after being chumped. They truly helped me sort my emotional state into words. I’m five years out from DDay and divorced for four and I still mentally categorize songs similarly to you. I probably always will. A few I’ve recently discovered: Mumford and Sons “White Blank Page” (SS) and “After the Storm” (FTN).
Cheers to you for channeling your anger and pain back into something you love!
Thanks Rosie! It’s good to hear from someone that has made it through 🙂
Today’s song of the day is an ILCS and a personal favorite, Green Day’s “Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”. I hope my STBX had the time of his damn life because this marriage is just about over. http://youtu.be/CnQ8N1KacJc
Another CS and ILCS song, especially appropo for today – my STBX told me that his side-piece is pregnant and it might be his baby. So “These Boots Are Made For Walking” by Nancy Sinatra is just what I needed today. My favorite line: “You’ve been lying, when you should be truthin'”…amen to that!
http://youtu.be/SbyAZQ45uww
Pink is what’s getting me through right now. I must listen to Blow Me (One Last Kiss) at least 3 times a day.
“Blow Me (One Last Kiss)”
White knuckles and sweaty palms from hanging on too tight
Clenched shut jaw, I’ve got another headache again tonight
Eyes on fire, eyes on fire, and they burn from all the tears
I’ve been crying, I’ve been crying, I’ve been dying over you
Tie a knot in the rope, tryin’ to hold, tryin’ to hold,
But there’s nothing to grasp so I let go
I think I’ve finally had enough, I think I maybe think too much
I think this might be it for us (blow me one last kiss)
You think I’m just too serious, I think you’re full of shit
My head is spinning so (blow me one last kiss)
Just when it can’t get worse, I’ve had a shit day (NO!)
Have you had a shit day? (NO!), we’ve had a shit day (NO!)
I think that life’s too short for this, I want back my ignorance and bliss
I think I’ve had enough of this, blow me one last kiss.
I won’t miss all of the fighting that we always did,
Take it in, I mean what I say when I say there is nothing left
No more sick whiskey dick, no more battles for me
You’ll be calling a trick, ’cause you’ll no longer sleep
I’ll dress nice, I’ll look good, I’ll go dancing alone
I will laugh, I’ll get drunk, I’ll take somebody home
I think I’ve finally had enough, I think I maybe think too much
I think this might be it for us (blow me one last kiss)
You think I’m just too serious, I think you’re full of shit
My head is spinning so (blow me one last kiss)
Just when it can’t get worse, I’ve had a shit day (No!)
Have you had a shit day? (No!), we’ve had a shit day (No!)
I think that life’s too short for this, I want back my ignorance and bliss
I think I’ve had enough of this, blow me one last kiss.
Na na na na – da da da da
Blow me one last kiss
[Not in the music video version:]
Na na na na – da da da da
Blow me one last kiss
I will do what I please, anything that I want
I will breathe, I will breathe, I won’t worry at all
You will pay for your sins, you’ll be sorry my dear
All the lies, all the why’s, will all be crystal clear
I think I’ve finally had enough, I think I maybe think too much
I think this might be it for us (blow me one last kiss)
You think I’m just too serious, I think you’re full of shit
My head is spinning so (blow me one last kiss)
Just when it can’t get worse, I’ve had a shit day (No!)
Have you had a shit day? (No!), we’ve had a shit day (No!)
I think that life’s too short for this, I want back my ignorance and bliss
I think I’ve had enough of this, blow me one last kiss.
Ancient thread, but here is a good one if an older one. Especially meaningful to me now that I finally woke the hell up– but yep, that was me begging and pleading. Lots of lines here right from the land of cheaters, the pick me dance, the needing time to decide, all of it. Time to take my pride for a ride!
“Bye Bye” by Jo Dee Messina
Boy you sure look good there
Standin’ in the doorway in the sunset light
Baby I read you wrong
Thinkin’ you could be my Mr. Right
While I was puttin’ my heart and soul on the line
You’d say you needed some time
Just a little more time to make up your mind
But it’s been long enough, time is up so
Bye-bye love I’ll catch you later
Got a lead foot down on my accelerator
And the rear view mirror torn off so I ain’t ever lookin’ back
I’ve tried all I can imagine
I’ve begged and pleaded in true lovers fashion
But I’ve got pride and I’m takin’ it for a ride
So bye-bye, bye-bye, bye baby
Bye-bye
Don’t think all those tears are gonna hold me here
Like they’ve done before
You’ll see what’s left of us
In a cloud of dust on highway four
Darlin’ what did you expect me to do
Just sit around and wait on you
I’m through watchin’ you just skate around the truth
I know it sounds trite, I’ve seen the light
Bye-bye love I’ll catch you later
Got a lead foot down on my accelerator
And the rear view mirror torn off so I ain’t ever lookin’ back
I’ve tried all I can imagine
I’ve begged and pleaded in true lovers fashion
But I’ve got pride and I’m takin’ it for a ride
So bye-bye, bye-bye, bye baby
Bye-bye
I lost the game I guess, but I did my best to win the part
But i’m leaving here with what’s left of my heart
Bye-bye love I’ll catch you later
Got a lead foot down on my accelerator
And the rear view mirror torn off so I ain’t ever lookin’ back
I’ve tried all I can imagine
I’ve begged and pleaded in true lovers fashion
But I’ve got pride and I’m takin’ it for a ride
So bye-bye, bye-bye, bye baby
Bye-bye