Dear Chump Lady,
Okay, here is the situation. After 23 years together he has reconnected with an old girlfriend on Facebook and wants a divorce. After the initial shock, I told him if he wanted a divorce — go see a lawyer and get started. I have already done so. (He doesn’t know this).
However, most of our lives together he has said this is what I want to do, and I have done the leg work to get it done. (This is my gift, and I don’t mind doing it.) But I am not going to help him get a divorce. If he wants one, let him take the first step and I will follow. (I am armed and ready). This has been going on for four months. She is not local and I know he has only seen her a few times. My therapist thinks he has gotten himself in over his head and doesn’t know what to do. How long do I wait this out? Thanking you in advance.