Today Chump Lady is one year old! (Well, actually Chump Lady herself is 46…I mean the blog.) I have now inflicted Chump Lady on the world wide web for an entire year. And they said the bitterness couldn’t last. Surely my spleen would have ruptured and died by now, but no, I’m still penning invectives against narcissist cheaters and the Reconciliation Industrial Complex… (I will draw you with horns and mustaches… take that!)
Thanks to you all for making this a vibrant, compassionate community of chumps. Chump Lady is nothing without your support and willingness to share your stories. Every day I’m moved by how you all encourage each other and what you’ve survived. You’re all mighty!
Thought you might be interested in a Chump Lady time line, to show you how far we’ve come.
June — I attend a blog conference in New York to learn about this blogging thing and am told by experts that no man would ever read my blog. Apparently chumpdom is a chick phenomenon. And how quaint that I draw pictures. I tell the experts (by microphone in a room with a couple hundred people) that unless men are cheating with other men or sheep, that yeah, men cheat with women… which makes those women… OMG… cheaters.
I do pick up some valuable advice though, part of which is whore the thing around. (I write about infidelity — how appropriate!)
Summer 2012 — I whore the thing around. Given that my social media skills are very 2005, the little whoring I do is writing snarky comments on Huffington Post divorce with links to chumplady.com.
September 2012 — I am asked to appear on two video panels for HuffPo divorce. The producer says I look so much nicer than my comments. One is on being friends with your ex. I am the outlier who would rather eat toast generously spread with glass shards than be friends with my exes.
October 2012 — Huffington Post invites me to write a blog post for them. I send off What Not to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On.
October 23, 2012 — My first blog post appears. I am too busy trying to pass an organic inspector course in Minnesota to properly notice. The reaction on HuffPo is mixed. The trolls cannot decide if I’m bitter and sexless. Or just bitter.
January 2013 — Shameless merchandising comes to Chump Lady. It’s not enough to whore your blog. Whores need to be paid. My solution? To sell t-shirts that say “The muffintop that launched a dozen affairs.” The chump-o-sphere kindly informs me that as nice as my t-shirts and “meh” mugs are, they’d prefer a “donate” button.
February 2013 — Chump Lady runs its first ever Infidelity Valentine’s Contest, spawning over 200 limericks and haiku such as this:
If you had a soul
It would smell like a diaper
From baby Satan
March 2013 — The Chump Chat forum is born. Still figuring out the forum software, but bear with me, chumps.
April 2013 — Chump Lady takes its place in the online infidelity firmament, with nearly a half a million hits in its first year. And over 10,000 comments to date. My reputation as a Huffington Post regular blogger is solidified and I’m their go-to gal for bitter divorcee.
What’s next? I’m working on a book. Thinking about a chump retreat, (you all want some Texas barbecue?) and will keep at it on the blogging. From one chump to another — thanks for an amazing year!