I thought I would publish a couple letters I have received recently (with the permission of the chumps in question) letting me know how the “gain a life” portion of the CL manifesto has been working out for them.
The first letter is from Robin, who wrote back in January to ask if she should go after child support after her (now ex) “Pig Shit” abandoned her and their 14 year old son. She writes:
I still read the posts on chumplady.com everyday and still think you give the best advice out there. Just wanted to give a little update on me, my son and Pigshit. He got a job in January so child support is going to be much easier (straight out of his check). It isn’t completely settled yet but we’ve had two mediations and now it is headed to court in front of a judge. I have maintained no contact until mediation and you are so right…..NO CONTACT is the ONLY way.
He was really pissed off about me filing for child support which in turn gave me such happiness He even managed to squeak out a couple of fake tears once or twice Last Sunday he finally called my son and asked him if he wanted to go to lunch. He had his other son with him so my son said yes. Don’t think it made any difference to my son, but I was glad he finally made an effort.
He came to my house to pick up my son and he got to see my brand new truck. (Took your advise on spending a little money). He said, “Oh, now I get the child support thing” and I said, “No, that money is for our son. Now that I’m not spending my money on you and your bills, I am able to make a pickup payment.” He may have squeezed out another tear for real that time….HA HA. I’ve had a pretty great time these last couple of months…..Nail tips and pedicure (my first ever), some new clothes for summer and some really great new sandals. I love summer in Texas! My son and a couple of friends are going to Austin in July with my mom and I am going with my sister and a cousin to Vegas! It has now been 5 months since that awful day and I sometimes wonder what I was so sad about. The possibilities for our lives now seem endless. Happy Days Ahead! Thank you for all you do. It may just be a little blog somewhere on the internet, but it has helped me and so many others with your “no bullshit”, “take no prisoners”, “your life WILL be better” attitude. Thank you, Tracy!
P.S. His new job? He is a county dog catcher!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Life is just too damn funny sometimes!
Hey Robin — Thanks for letting us now how you are, and for investing in your son and your awesome new life. Sounds like you are doing terrific! I am resisting making a bad joke about cheaters being “dog” catchers…. Love that you have a new truck! And pretty new pedicured feet to push the pedal with with, far, far away from his cheating ass. Happy days indeed.