Any of you poor chumps live in the states of North Carolina or Georgia? Better leave those cheaters FAST, before this insane piece of legislation goes into effect — mandatory waiting periods to “save your marriage” — TWO YEARS in North Carolina, (a year in Georgia). You read that right. Two fucking years. I think certain felons get lesser sentences than the chumps of North Carolina.
Who is responsible for this fresh hell? Beverly Willet and her merry band of lobbyists “The Coalition for Divorce Reform.” Sounds benign enough — who among us who has suffered a divorce wouldn’t like to see the process reformed? Men who pay alimony to cheating ex-wives? Stay at home mom chumps who got fucked over in a no fault state? Would you like a more equitable division of assets and custody that takes such injustices into account?
Not gonna happen. Ms. Willet and her fellow freaks would like to see you STAY MARRIED. See the problem isn’t the sex addiction or the financial fraud or the emotional abuse. No, you just don’t know your own mind there Missy! The problem is your communication skills. And clearly you don’t feel enough GUILT about your children.
The Act also extends the current one-year waiting period to two. During that time, all couples would take be required to complete courses on improving their communication skills and conflict resolution. Those with minor children would also be expected to take a four-hour class on the impact of divorce on children. The spouse seeking to divorce must give a formal notice of intent to divorce in order to trigger commencement of the waiting period. Statutory protection for victims of domestic violence would remain untouched.
Oh goodie! An exemption for spousal abuse! If you get battered, gee, you get a Get Out of Jail Free card. Oh, but hang on… no, not really. It’s only if you’ve gotten a criminal conviction against your abuser. Good luck with that! And how long does that take to wind it’s way through the legal system? Months? Years?
If you’re married to a cheater, drunk, addict, gambler, or other flavor of abuser — I’m sorry chumps, you’ll just have to stay married and grit your teeth. Do it for the kids! Your misery and chumpdom are so improving for them. Are you a young woman? Is your baby clock ticking? Let’s waste two years of your fertility while we’re at it staying married to a loser! Or better yet, have another kid with the dickwad! The state would LOVE to support your kid… oh but maybe not… lots of cuts to aid to dependent mothers… Hmm. Perhaps this was an oversight.
So who is this Beverly Willet and why does she want to keep you married? Well, Ms. Willet, like you, was a chump. Her husband left her for another woman, and instead of divorcing him, or granting him a divorce, she held the whole thing up for 5 years in court. Apparently with the notion that this would fill Mr. Willet’s heart with warm fuzzies and he’d recommit to his marriage. Maybe a little mandatory communication course could have changed his mind. Failing that, perhaps a trip to a Siberian re-education camp. I don’t know. But anyway, Mr. Willet moved across state lines to New Jersey and got his divorce there.
As much as I dislike cheaters, and pull for chumps, I can’t help but notice how clearly Beverly Willet aligns with Dr. Simon’s description of divorcing someone with a character disorder.
For the CD, it’s not about acknowledging failure in the marital relationship, separating, and moving on. Rather, it’s about punishing, destroying, or making someone else’s life miserable for daring to say “no” or declare an end to an abusive situation. Character assassination becomes the norm. The CD will arm their attorneys with examples of their ex’s “questionable behavior,” which are amplified to such an extent to paint the worst possible picture of the person.
Perhaps even more important is the ordeal the CD wants to be sure the ex-partner goes through. They’ll bring out such big cannons with their lawyer, that the other party has to spend much time, energy, and money either defending themselves or just trying to survive the ordeal that they have no time, energy, or money left to advocate for a stronger position.
So the remedy to a bad marriage is being forced to keep enduring it? Beverly Willet failed to keep her husband married to her by legal intimidation. So now she’d like to try this shit on the nation instead? Don’t you DARE leave ME!
Yeah, that makes for happy marriages.
Write your congressman, chumps!