Hey, I need some feedback. As I might have mentioned, I’m writing an infidelity support book and I’m shopping for agents.
I created the Chump Lady blog to be the sort of place I wish existed when I discovered I was cheated on. A sort of one-stop shopping for strategy (what to do when you’ve been cheated on), decoding of tactics (ego kibbles, the “pick me!” dance, cake, etc.), and support (trust that they suck).
Most of all, I created Chump Lady because I thought the Internet and Amazon inventories were lacking the commonsense “leave a cheater — gain a life” perspective. Which I find odd, because divorce is often the way marriages go after infidelity, despite our best efforts and all the hopium the Reconciliation Industrial Complex wants to sell us. Having lived it, and gotten to the other side with my soul intact, I wanted folks to know that hey, not only was it necessary to leave — life gets so much better when you do. All that energy you were hurling at a narcissist, you may now invest in yourself and your improved life. I also believe we can love again after infidelity and choose better next time.
So today, I’m asking for your perspective. I’m sure many of you have been Amazon chumps and read the infidelity literature out there. What agents want to know from my pitch is — how is the Chump Lady message unique? Is there anything else like it out there? Does it fill a niche?
What I want to know is — has it helped you? Would you like to see a book (and some snarky cartoons?)
I will include all these responses with my proposal. Sort of crowd sourcing, market research. I believe that we need some other voices out there on life after infidelity. Please tell me what you think.
I’m amazed every day at the wisdom, humor, and kindness demonstrated here. Thank you so much for this community and the time you take to help other chumps along the way.
All the best,
Tracy (aka Chump Lady)