Assuming one feels drawn to such an observance, I’d love some ideas about commemorating the day, and celebrating the new life to come. (I’m sure it’s not right for everyone.) In addition, I’m living in a new place that’s finally set up, furnished, unpacked, and decorated – and would love to make it sort of a house warming too. A no-gifts thing, with suggested donations for the local domestic violence shelter or a nonprofit STI clinic, something like that. Maybe something for the NPD Association, ha! They always feel left out when we don’t get them something, too :-P.
Pintrest has some great ideas – some hilarious cakes!
In my own case, I’m just looking to celebrate what comes next, not to vilify the ex (not that he doesn’t deserve it, it’s just not really my style.) But I can see a big “sendoff” to an ex might be very therapeutic.
Well, if you’re having a party to celebrate the dismissal of a cheater from your life, I can’t think of anything better to serve than cake.
But wow, a lot has changed since I last divorced. I just image googled “divorce cake” — OMG. Decapitation seems to be a theme. As does pushing your spouse off frosting precipices. Yikes!
I didn’t realize there was an entire industry devoted to the celebration of divorce. I thought folks just observed the day by sullenly paying their legal bills and having a shot of whiskey.
Sure, I could sure think of ways to celebrate leaving a cheater, now that you mention it. Party games like “Pin the Lie on the Jackass” or “Bobbing for Transparency.” On the other hand, isn’t celebrating something so ruinous a bit gauche?
I’m of two minds on this. Getting a bad marriage behind you and beginning a new life is certainly a cause for celebration. On the other hand, I wouldn’t want to trivialize how destructive divorce is with party balloons and cupcakes either. It’s a balancing act. Maybe if it was a really tasteful cupcake…
I’ll tell you what’s lunacy though — that “divorce party” that Jack White and Karen Elson threw on their anniversary to announce their “amiable” divorce, complete with the treacly sentiment that they were going to remain friends for the children. White is supposedly quite the cheater, so to throw a party with the guy is really serving shit sandwich canapés. Of course, now Elson has taking a restraining order out on White for harassment, so I guess the amiable divorce didn’t work out after all.
My take on it is as long as you aren’t partying with your cheating ex, do whatever makes you happy to celebrate your new beginning. Take a hike, throw a house warming party, strut down a second line in New Orleans. Decorate a violent cake.
So has anyone here thrown or attended a divorce party? How do you plan to spend the day? Did your marriage go out with a bang or a whimper?