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Help Annabel Go to School

February 13, 2015 by Chump Lady

AnnabelWelcomeTomorrow is Valentine’s Day and think of all the money you’re saving not buying an ungrateful cheater chocolates and flowers. Consider using the cost savings to help a 12-year-old girl, Annabel, start school instead. Annabel would appreciate your gifts. Cheaters, not so much.

Chump Nation has a big heart, as I learned during our “Buy an Orphan a Book or Some Sparkly Shoes” campaign last November.  For those of you just tuning in, my friend LeAnna Marr is stationed as a USAID officer in South Sudan. Last Christmas, in lieu of giving or receiving gifts, she asked for donations to an orphan school in Juba and posted her Amazon wish list to her friends. Unbeknownst to her, I posted that wish list here, and Chump Nation filled the list and then some! within 24 hours, bringing needed shoes, toys, and books to the kids. (See pictures here.)

Well, I hate to go to the well too many times, but guys, if you feel moved I’m asking you to help again. LeAnna has started an Indiegogo campaign to help one of the school girls, Annabel (her name has been changed to protect her privacy), receive an education in Uganda. I can personally vouch for LeAnna and the good work she’s doing in South Sudan.

Annabel is deaf. Life is very difficult in a refugee camp, especially if you are a girl (if you want the horrifying particulars, read this State Department report) — and especially if you are a girl with a disability. Annabel was brought to the school LeAnna volunteers at run by Confident Children Out of Conflict. They were able to get her medical help and eventually a place at a school for the deaf in Uganda. But her tuition and expenses are $3,500 a year. While she has a place, she doesn’t have funding. Enter LeAnna and her Indiegogo campaign.

If you think being a chump is humiliating, try starting school for the first time at age 12, sitting in the second grade. Above is a picture of Annabel (the tall girl) being welcomed at her new school in Uganda. This kid is an example to us all of resiliency. If she can be mighty, we can too.

Please consider giving here. Every bit helps, and heck, your money will go much farther than a reconciliation book bought on Amazon or lame cheater chocolates.

Tomorrow I’ll announce the Valentine’s Day poem winners. 

Annabel’s Story

annabelAnnabel* is a 12 year old South Sudanese girl. She has grown up living on the street, and was caught up in fighting in her home town when conflict broke out in December 2013.

She was referred to Confident Children out of Conflict (CCC) interim care facility because she was unaccompanied and at risk. It turned out she was also physically unwell and deaf. She never had hope of going to school, because in South Sudan there are no schools for children with hearing impairments.

Last year Annabel attended an end of year school event with some of the other girls from CCC. She watched three of her friends from CCC receive awards for excellent performance. The experience sparked a strong desire in her to go to school.

After an extensive search, the Executive Director and Founder of CCC, Cathy Groenendijk, found a specialized school in neighboring Uganda, the Mulago School for the Deaf, which seems to be ideal for Annabel.

Without any formal schooling, Annabel will need to start in second grade with children much younger than herself. Although she stood out because she was twice the size and average age of the other children in her class, she refused to let it get in her way. She went through a series of emotions: excitement, anxiety, fear… but remained calm and hopeful. She was admitted in the boarding section and bid Cathy farewell and promised to do her best.

Your Contributions

CCC has sent Annabel to her new school on a wing and a prayer. Annabel needs $3,500 a year for five years to keep her in this school.

This amount will cover her tuition, extra tutoring and classes, bedding, uniform, shoes, books, pencils, food, visitation, transport, specialized health care, and psychological and social services.

Our goal is to raise one year of tuition and costs for Annabel. Any additional funds raised over the $3,500 will go for Annabel’s tuition for subsequent years.

Thank you to everyone who has already donated to CCC, and specifically to Annabel’s cause. You are helping us to make Annabel’s dream of going to school a reality.

*name changed to protect identity

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Comments

  1. TheClip says

    February 13, 2015 at 7:42 am

    Consider it done.

    Reply
  2. Rebecca says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:11 am

    Thank you for giving me this opportunity! There is nothing I could do for anyone I know (I am blessed) that will bring the joy that this will bring to Annabel.
    Great outlet for this chumpy heart.
    Happy Velentine’s Day, Annabel.

    Reply
  3. Irene says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:35 am

    I’m in!

    Reply
  4. Kurleegirl says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:44 am

    Thanks for the opportunity to do something for an beautiful child who might not get help otherwise.My father took a missionary trip to Uganda some years back and he said the poverty is unbelievable. We each ended up supporting a child through other organizations for years as things there’re totally deplorable. Things like drinking water, basics we take for granted are not always available.

    Reply
  5. LovedaJackass says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:57 am

    So very glad to contribute in gratitude for all Chump Nation has done for me. And for those Chumps dreading Valentine’s Day–don’t. Remember humans do not need to be lines up two by two, with a partner, as if we were marching onto Noah’s Ark. Send Annabel a Valentine. Take yourself to dinner at your favorite place. Go through the house and gather old blankets and towel for the local animal shelter. Adopt a kitty for Valentine’s Day! Send a $10 gift card to someone who is alone. There are so many people and animals that need your love.

    It’s OK to be sad because your heart is broken, but if you were with a disordered cheater chances are Valentine’s Day was disappointing in some way or another. I spent last year crying into my yoga mat because Jackass sent me a cruel message. Never doing THAT again. I sent my contribution to Annabel and will put out a feast for the deer and turkeys and squirrels. And I will go to Five Guys for cheeseburger and fries and wear my sparkly lace dress and heels to do if it isn’t ten below zero. Celebrate your own capacity to love! Spread that good stuff around to those who will appreciate it, because clearly the cheaters didn’t.

    Reply
    • Syringa says

      February 13, 2015 at 1:37 pm

      LAJ….My Dday came five days after Valentine’s day several years ago so has particular meaning. My cheater said he was going to a city 50 miles away to buy my Valentine gift as he had seen something ‘special’ at Christmas in a mall there. Come Valentines day I got a gift certificate to a massage place down the street from our house. When I questioned this he told me he couldn’t find the ‘special thing.’ In reality he wasn’t really there looking for my present, he was there banging his skank at a shitty motel.

      If you lived close I’d wear a sparkly dress too and meet you at Five Guys ;-/

      Reply
      • LovedaJackass says

        February 13, 2015 at 8:06 pm

        I wish you could jet over here but I hope you find something to do tomorrow that is truly SPECIA (and doesn’t involve a cheating jackass and a skank…) :)

        Reply
        • syringa says

          February 14, 2015 at 12:50 am

          You just made me laugh out
          Loud of course I’ll find something cool to do. Wish you were here!

          Reply
          • Syringa says

            February 14, 2015 at 1:22 am

            P.S. LAJ…Bet it’s warmer where I am. I have tulips pushing up. So…I think you should come here tomorrow for a quaint Valentine’s party!

            The Truth: I had to Google Five Guys…never heard of it. The closest is in Seattle west 300 miles or Boise 380 miles south.

            Reply
    • Chris W. says

      February 13, 2015 at 3:49 pm

      Great post, LAJ!

      Contributed to Annabel, as it’s my education that has ensured the future of my two boys, and has ensured I’m not on the streets because The Cheater left. Go, Annabel!

      Love suggestion of Five Guys! I’m going there tomorrow to have a celebratory burger!!

      Reply
      • ForgeOn! says

        February 13, 2015 at 7:43 pm

        Love the Five Guys fries….addicted!

        Reply
        • LovedaJackass says

          February 13, 2015 at 8:08 pm

          So if you are alone tomorrow–or dining with a chumped friend, as I will–find a Five Guys and eat that cheeseburger! And some fries! The great thing is you can get the junior size if you are watching calories. But in any event, we should all have a fine meal and make a toast to the mightiness of Chump Nation!

          Reply
          • Uniquelyme says

            February 13, 2015 at 9:03 pm

            Don’t forget the milkshake.

            Reply
  6. Ronni says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:10 am

    It is so much fun to watch the dollars rise! Go Chump Nation!

    Reply
  7. Falcon says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:14 am

    Done, I lurk here and will do my part to support those that support us as well, We all need help at some point

    Reply
    • Moving Liquid says

      February 13, 2015 at 11:01 am

      So true, Falcon. I’ve been helped and now I can pay it forward (at least a little).

      Reply
  8. Chump Lady says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:20 am

    You guys are awesome!!! Thank you so much!

    Reply
  9. nomar says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:20 am

    Done.

    “This kid is an example to us all of resiliency. If she can be mighty, we can too.”

    Amen.

    Ju suis Annabel.

    Reply
  10. Lyn says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:23 am

    Thanks for giving me someone to show love to this Valentine’s Day. Chumps, don’t let anyone take Valentine’s Day from you, there are plenty of people who need love and you have plenty to give!

    Reply
  11. ringinonmyownbell says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Now this is a Valentines… perhaps CL you can spark a movement to wrestle this stinking holiday away from Hallmark and turn it back into what St Valentine was about: succour. Actually very little is know about St Valentine as the expert wikipedia attests… But here in a nutshell is what wiki said he did, “J.C. Cooper, in The Dictionary of Christianity, writes that Saint Valentine was “a priest of Rome who was imprisoned for succouring persecuted Christians.” So CL this request is truly in keeping with St Valentines. Thank you for doing this. Now go out and show your own world some MIGHTY love, MIGHTY chumps.

    Reply
    • Datdamwuf says

      February 14, 2015 at 9:48 am

      well now, that wiki entry is a bit short on history. You might want to see all the possibilities about how it became a holiday: http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day/history-of-valentines-day

      Like many other Christian holidays that were really “pagan” holidays co-opted and changed…

      Reply
  12. Doop says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:45 am

    Thanks, CL, for the chance to share some love this Valentine’s Day. This year, it’ll be sharing my love of learning with Annabel. She sounds like an amazing person.

    Reply
  13. EnoughAlready says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:04 am

    Having difficulty getting into indiegogo with my antique computer. Anyone willing to be a paypal pipeline to help with this?

    Also. While $3500 might sound daunting, if a mere hundred of us pledged $35 a year for the next ten years (or whatever the adjusted amount will be), she’ll be covered. Anyone else consider this a good idea?

    Reply
    • Chump Lady says

      February 13, 2015 at 10:38 am

      If you donate to me via PayPal (link on my homepage), put a message in there that it’s for Annabel and I’ll make sure she gets it.

      Reply
      • Chump Lady says

        February 13, 2015 at 10:39 am

        You can see my donation amount, btw, under “donors” so you know I’m honest. :-)

        Reply
      • Justme52 says

        February 13, 2015 at 11:59 am

        I donated through your site but used a credit card hope that still works. Didn’t see that PayPal part. Sorry. Hope it does.

        Reply
        • Chump Lady says

          February 13, 2015 at 12:01 pm

          I just sent it on to Indiegogo — Thanks!

          Reply
  14. Syringa says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:13 am

    Done Deal. I’m claiming Annabel as my Valentine this year.

    Reply
  15. nomar says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:16 am

    Theories on the meaning of the name Annabel: “Likely a variant of Amabel, an old French name derived from the Latin amābilis (LOVABLE), or from the Gaelic Ainè (JOY).”

    Reply
    • Doop says

      February 13, 2015 at 1:24 pm

      Perhaps nomenclature is destiny!

      Reply
  16. MN Moved On says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:20 am

    New chump hubby and I contributed as part of our Valentine to each other (and it’s our six-month wedding anniversary, too!) Pay it forward!

    Reply
  17. Chump Lady says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:37 am

    Chump Nation is incredible! Thank you! Do you realize we hit the half-way mark just THIS MORNING thanks to you? I recognize your emails and screen names on the donor list — so, hey, I know it’s you. ;-) You guys are the best Valentines ever. I’m all sniffly over here. Must be Texas cedar fever…

    Reply
  18. Chump Lady says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:46 am

    Here’s a video of the Mulago School for the Deaf.

    Reply
  19. ChumpsOfHumanity says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:49 am

    Count me in. :) Happy Valentine day to all my Chumps. CL you are the best.

    Reply
  20. Karma Express says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:55 am

    Done. It’s quick and easy. Thanks for sharing the love, everyone.

    Reply
  21. namedforvera says

    February 13, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Done. Especially delicious, since as we know after yesterday’s vomit letter, cheater’s can’t hear, and can’t be fixed. It’s a delight and a privilege to offer help to someone who will go far with it. Yay Anabel!

    Reply
    • namedforvera says

      February 13, 2015 at 11:04 am

      arrrg. I’ll bet she learns not to use Greengrocers’ apostrophes, also. too. “Cheaters”.

      Reply
  22. ForgeOn! says

    February 13, 2015 at 11:11 am

    WOW! Chump Nation ROCKS! I just checked the donation amounts for Annabel.

    Awesome!

    And, considering all that is covered by that tuition, it is really a bargain!

    Can hardly wait to see her “First Day of School” pictures!

    Thanks, Tracy and LeAnna, for the opportunity to be a part of something that really matters, really makes a difference.

    Forge on, all you generous ones….ForgeOn!

    Reply
  23. Moving Liquid says

    February 13, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Helped in my own small way and posted it on Twitter. Remember that you can put this on your FB page using this link: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/send-annabel-to-a-school-for-hearing-impaired

    In other words you don’t have to alert all your friends and family that you contributed through CL, just post the indiegogo link.

    Spread the love, you never know who will give and share.

    Thanks, CL. xox

    Reply
  24. Uniquelyme says

    February 13, 2015 at 11:23 am

    Done. What a wonderful opportunity to share our blessings to those who are truly appreciative. Thank you, Tracy.

    Reply
  25. Justme52 says

    February 13, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Done. Happy Valentines all.

    Reply
  26. FG says

    February 13, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    Done.

    Reply
  27. Out of kibbles says

    February 13, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    Done. Thanks, CL. What a wonderful and beautiful tradition to do some good on those rough days where emotional paralysis is on the horizon.
    Love to all at Chump Nation.

    Reply
  28. Syringa says

    February 13, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    Woo hoo!~ I keep checking back and they only need about $300 for Annabel’s first year of school. Go Chump Nation!!!

    Reply
  29. Lyn says

    February 13, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    It’s been fun to check the funds going up throughout the day. I’m sure we’re going to reach the $3500 mark. I posted it on my FB page but unfortunately doesn’t seem to be getting any interest. Sent it to my small church as well, they might be able to donate some. I know there are a lot of needs in the world, but it’s nice to be able to help one specific person to have a better life.

    Reply
  30. Live and Learn says

    February 13, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    Done. Thank you, Tracy, for giving us the opportunity to spread some love this Valentine’s Day.

    Reply
  31. movin_on says

    February 13, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    Go get ’em, beautiful girl.

    Reply
  32. Chump Lady says

    February 13, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    Hey guys, we are $65 short of the goal. SooooOooo close so fast! ALL THANKS TO CHUMP NATION! You guys totally ROCK. LeAnna’s in Dubai and just Facebook messaged to say Wow! and thanks! I’m sure we’ll hear more soon. So happy to be a part of making this girl’s education dreams become a reality. You guys are the best Valentines EVER!

    Reply
  33. EnoughAlready says

    February 13, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    So I called DD and told her I had been planning on calling the florist shop on her post and sending flowers, but how would she feel about our passing the love on to Miss A, and I got a very sparkly “Yes!” back from her. Then she asked me how I would feel about her doing the same, as she had been planning on sending me flowers, too. So I’m headed back to drop her donation in the bucket as well. And sooooo proud of my DD (whom, by the way, also shares the nickname Annabel with our little scholar.

    Reply
    • Chump Lady says

      February 13, 2015 at 5:22 pm

      You’re going to topple it over the goal! I got cedar fever (sniff) again reading this. Damn pollen.

      Reply
  34. ChumpsofHumanity says

    February 13, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    How do I check the donation amounts?

    Reply
    • Uniquelyme says

      February 13, 2015 at 6:15 pm

      Click on “Funders”.

      Reply
  35. Chump Lady says

    February 13, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    We did it! YEA!!! We hit the goal and a bit more! THANK YOU!

    And anyone else who wants to still donate, please use the indiegogo site (link in my post above), instead of via me. I made a couple exceptions, (about $400 worth), but I have to report all donations as taxable income, so it’s really best to donate via Indiegogo directly. THANKS.

    You guys never cease to impress me. I so appreciate your generosity. Thanks again.

    Reply
    • we says

      February 13, 2015 at 7:15 pm

      ouch, I didn’t think of the tax consequences for you.
      And your site never ceases to impress me, both for your wisdom and the mighty commentators.

      Reply
  36. TheMuse says

    February 13, 2015 at 6:58 pm

    Happy to help. I can’t imagine the challenge of being deaf at age 12. In the year leading up to my D-Day I was diagnosed with Meniere’s disease and in addition to frequent vertigo attacks I have lost 100% of my hearing and balance in my right ear. Thanks to CL and to LeAnna for the reminder that there is more to life that the shallow crap the cheaters and their AP’s are willing to destroy families over.

    Reply
  37. TodoVa says

    February 13, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    Done. I’m a little late to the game but better late than never :) My daughters donated their weekly allowance money as well. Off to reward them with some Dairy Queen ice cream!

    Hugs to all :)

    Reply
  38. LovedaJackass says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    Best Valentine ever. Let’s do it again next year!

    Reply
  39. Survivor says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    Got my bit in early, but can’t post here at work. Congratulations everyone on a fabulous life-changing Valentine’s gift! That is better than awesome!

    Reply
  40. Rally Squirrel says

    February 13, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    Done (through indiegogo)!

    Reply
  41. Rebecca says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:03 pm

    We are indeed a mighty community!
    In one day, the generousity of a group of individuals, who were made to feel worthless, joined forces to give the gift of an education and a safe, loving place to live to a young girl with few options.
    I will never again waste my love on anyone who doesn’t deserve it.
    I hope Annabel will be told that a group of strangers chose to give their love to HER today.

    Reply
    • Syringa says

      February 14, 2015 at 1:12 am

      Thank you Rebecca for saying the words that I felt. Yes. I so hope that someday someone tells this little girl how much she meant to us. To me. I wish I could hold her in my arms tonight and tell her how much she matters.

      Reply
      • Survivor says

        February 14, 2015 at 1:59 am

        perfectly said.

        Reply
  42. One Step at a Time says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    Done! After last year’s Valentine’s Day of false reconciliation and dancing the pick me dance, this feels so wonderful to be in control of my life and donating to a great cause. I would pick this over any other Valentine’s Day ever!!

    Reply
  43. Chumpita says

    February 13, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    Donated in the name of my divorce that may be finalized tomorrow, on valentine´s day! Something good had to come out of all of this.

    Best of luck for Annabel!

    Reply
    • Survivor says

      February 13, 2015 at 9:42 pm

      You kick ass, mighty Chumpita.

      Reply
  44. LeAnna says

    February 13, 2015 at 10:07 pm

    Wow. I am awed by the generosity of Chump Nation. Though not one bit surprised after your outpouring at Christmas. I am taking a bit of a breather break for the long holiday weekend. When I got on the plane, this was before Tracy posted on chump nation, we had reached 20% of our goal. By the time I got off the plane, we had surpassed our goal, all because of the donations flooding in from Chump Nation. You are awesome! Now that we have reached our goal, we would like to try to raise a second year of tuition! Your comments have really touched me. Annabel is such a wonderful girl. She has been through some really horrific experiences in her short 12 years. This will really help to give her the tools to take charge of her life and put the trauma behind her. She is now in a safe place where she can focus on her education. And ALL BECAUSE OF THE MIGHTY CHUMPS.

    Je suis Annabel. Nous sommes Annabel.

    Reply
    • Survivor says

      February 14, 2015 at 1:09 am

      LeAnna, this community is a lot of good and kind people. Giving people. Some aren’t able yet. Some aren’t free yet. And I can’t be happier that your child in need got some help here. It lights a torch that needs to burn bright.

      Reply
  45. Syringa says

    February 14, 2015 at 1:04 am

    It’s past 11:00 pm here on the West Coast and stayed up and checked….and Annabel has at least $3,900 in her account! First year of school paid for!
    Rock on Chump Nation!!!

    Reply
    • Survivor says

      February 14, 2015 at 2:11 am

      High Fives all around! OVER THE TOP!!

      Reply
  46. kiwigirl says

    February 14, 2015 at 2:27 am

    done what a cool idea to give back :)

    Reply
  47. walkingboots says

    February 14, 2015 at 4:07 am

    Done xxx

    Reply
  48. Twitching says

    February 14, 2015 at 6:28 am

    I only was able to send $5, but that was a better thing to do than spending this Valentine’s feeling pathetically sorry for myself.

    Reply
  49. Lizzy says

    February 14, 2015 at 8:16 am

    What a wonderful Valentines gift. I love CL and CN!

    Reply
  50. Bev says

    February 14, 2015 at 9:27 am

    They have extended their goal! Sucess by CN :)

    Reply
  51. namedforvera says

    February 14, 2015 at 10:34 am

    I’m sure you will, but CL–please tell LeAnn to tell Anabel that a whole big bunch of people from all over the world, are sending her love and encouragement, along with the money! Specifically her, Anabel. That she’s special, and so entirely worth it.

    Reply
  52. cheaterssuck says

    February 17, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    Sorry this took so long CL but I think everyone tried to do this at the same time on Friday because the site kept telling me it was too busy and to come back later. Later turned into I forget and I just remembered to try again. Better late than never right? So apparently I’m contributing to her next year of school but that’s cool because we all want her to be able to finish right!

    This is very close to my heart since my eldest son is also deaf. It sort of reminds you how lucky we are.

    Rock on Chump Nation

    Reply

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    February 28, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    […] Hey chumps, I just wanted to update you on Annabel, our Valentine. If you’ll recall, I posted a request that instead of sending cheaters chocolates this year, help put a deaf girl from South Sudan to school instead. […]

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