Recently HuffPo asked me to contribute to a piece they wrote on Cheating Red Flags You Missed. (I’m Tracy S.) My example was dreadful time management skills. In retrospect the combo plate of intense solicitousness and flaky date canceling should have been a sign. But I spackled, because gosh, he seemed so sincere about wanting to get together, but Events Beyond His Control often interfered.
To maintain a double life, you need a lot of flexibility. But as I wasn’t really cognizant that Apparently Nice People engaged in such sociopathic subterfuge, I was chumped.
So, following up on the HuffPo question — any signs you missed in retrospect? The two on the HuffPo list that stand out to me are cell phone secrecy and defensiveness. Yes and yes.