If you ever thought the Reconciliation Industrial Complex has gone too far, get a load of this — “Domestic abuse victims to join abusers in family therapy.” According to an article in the UK’s Guardian newspaper:
Harrow council in north-west London, which has funded the scheme to the tune of £200,000, hopes that by providing specialist counselling sessions for couples who are violent towards each other future incidents can be reduced. The council, which has just begun counselling sessions with the first couple participating in the scheme, believes it can tackle domestic violence by bringing couples together in a “supportive environment” to discuss its impact.
Traditional models of tackling domestic violence usually focus on the abuser and not the whole family. The Harrow experiment is based on a US model. Social workers from Harrow will undertake direct work with the children of families involved to assess the impact of the violence.
The programme will be run by psychotherapists and counsellors from the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships who will work with the families to find the triggers for the abuse. Susanna Abse, the centre’s chief executive, said: “We are really delighted to be delivering, in partnership with Harrow council, such a new and innovative way of helping with the major challenges faced when interpersonal violence occurs between couples.”
Oh here’s a “supportive environment” idea for abusers — jail time.
Seriously, Susanna Abse, you think violence is an insight problem? We need trained specialists and 200,000 quid to explain the “impact” of slamming someone’s head into a door?
Oh my goodness! I’m sure Brutus had no idea he was being hurtful. “SHUT UP YOU FUCKING CUNT!” He should’ve used his indoor voice and his nice words. He has to learn other, healthier ways to get you to keep your filthy piehole shut.
Why if it weren’t for the help of these nice counselors, I’m sure Brutus would have no concept of proper civility!
What’s next? Coloring books for abusers? Puppet shows? Maybe we need to dumb this shit down for them further. Assign them all interpreters for their empathy disability.
Was her skirt too short? Did she get uppity with you? Susanna Abse your Council-Appointed Fuckwit Translator is here to help!
Brutus takes a swing. His victim ducks. “No Brutus! Use your words! What’s triggering you, sweetheart?”
[Grunt… spit….] “Bitch!” Brutus points at offending skirt.
“That’s good,” the Council-Appointed Fuckwit Translator coos. “It’s important to vent our feelings.”
Really, chumps, this is beyond satire. This is an actual program!
Councillor Pamela Fitzpatrick, whose responsibilities include adult safeguarding and preventing domestic violence, said the council was hopeful the scheme would help it to address the issue head on. “If the abusers understand the impact their behaviour has on their family, we hope they can change. We are delighted we are the first place to tackle the causes of domestic abuse.”
She added that the initiative would coincide with a campaign encouraging victims of domestic violence to come forward: “Victims are sometimes too scared to come forward and report it, or don’t know how to.”
Yes, the problem is abusers just don’t understand that they’re abusive! And really, if you’re the victim of domestic abuse, don’t you think it’s your responsibility to clear things up for them? Sure, Brutus might be a bit dim and likely to reoffend without constant civility reminders, but won’t you take that chance to save the guy who knocked out your teeth? I think you should, chumps.
Have a heart-to-
fist heart! Tell him more about your feelings! Just don’t dress like a slut, okay? 🙂
See, you’re part of the problem — you don’t know HOW to come forward. Dialing telephones is so complicated since they became screens. I stare at mine for hours. 9-1-1? Or is it 2? What’s the square root? OMG it’s difficult.
Don’t you want to sit on a down-stuffed sofa and dialogue with Brutus? Share your vulnerabilities with him? What you need is a Supportive Environment!
Ten thousand miles away from him.