I’d like a bitter bunny bitcoin for every popular infidelity click-bait article that says, “Infidelity — it’s not so black-and-white!”
Black. And. White.
Moral judgment. How gauche. How narrow-minded. How dunderheadedly simplistic of you.
On Facebook the other day, I saw this criticism of a HuffPo piece by Jenny Ball, “Blind Faith — When Affair Partners Marry,” pointing out that it takes a lot of faith to marry a known cheater. Best of luck with that. (You call it “faith,” Jenny. I’d say “a staggering belief in your own exceptionalism.”) Any who… This comment later appeared on Ball’s Facebook page from “Pamela”:
Lots of judgment, black and white, no shades of gray, no ownership evident for her part in the unhappiness. As for whether affairs are ok, that question poses as demanding a simple answer when human relations are utterly complex. Who am I to judge.
Who indeed! You’re fine not judging people in affairs. But people writing about it? Gee, Pamela, you’ve got a lot to say about that — they don’t own their issues (that drove someone to cheat on them), they fail to understand Complexity (i.e., “you’re stupid”), and your personal devastation, Jenny? It’s no big deal.
No, no. Pamela’s not “judging” at all.
You see, affairs are very COMPLEX. Humans are COMPLEX. Infidelity is a GRAY area. Not so BLACK AND WHITE.
Yo, Pamela! Would you want to be cheated on?
Suddenly lost its complexity there, didn’t it?