This chestnut gets submitted to the UBT quite often. It must be the go-to default blameshifting nugget o’ stupid.
The problem is not (the cheating, devaluing, health risking, financial shiftiness, batshit crazy gaslighting), the problem is your lack of acceptance of (the cheating, devaluing, health risking, financial shiftiness, batshit crazy gaslighting).
Well DUH. Any healthy person wouldn’t accept that crap.
And yet, the jujitsu mindfuckery of this utterance goads chumps into a defensive posture. Hey! I’m open-minded! I’m forgiving! I’m understanding!
Alas, (head shake), you’re terribly judgmental and that is why they could not level with you about that double life. So — and they were just doing this to SPARE YOUR FEELINGS! — they got in front of it and lied to you, to protect YOU from your aversion to the truth. And themselves from your petty, small-mindedness.
“I lied to you because you can’t accept the truth.”
Huh? You’ve been judged before you even KNOW the truth.
Here are some responses:
“You’re lying to yourself, because you can’t accept that you’re a colossal fuckwit.”
“You lie because you can’t accept consequences. You know, like throwing all your shit on the front lawn, and divorcing you, if I knew the truth.”
“I can’t accept what I don’t know. Now that I know the truth — that you’re a cheater — consider it accepted. Buh-BYE.”
Of course the best response to Stupid Shit Cheaters Say is no response at all. That much stupid tells you all the “truth” you need to know.
Accept this truth — you deserve better.