In the days following my one and only D-day I remember feeling so lost and confused. I have a girlfriend who had basically gone through the same thing the previous year and helped me set things straight. She gave me a quote that helped me tremendously:
“Cheaters are cowards that are tempted to chase the fantasy of what could be…instead of courageously addressing their own self-destructive behavior and cultivating what is.” ~Dr. Steve Maraboli
I framed it and put on my desk (along with other quotes I found helpful) and started a whole board on Pinterest dedicated to infidelity. The quotes helped me realize that his cheating was his fault. It was his shame to own and his alone. I found this completely liberating and necessary in order for me to move forward.
I was thinking about other fellow chumps who may be at the beginning or in the middle of their journey and wondered if you could set aside a column where we all chip in and share quotes or articles or lyrics or whatever helped us make it though. It might be a nice resource.
Consider it done, CakeBeGone!
For me the quote, and it’s inscribed in my book (shameless plug, buy the book, review the book!) — by the great abolitionist, orator, and former slave, Frederick Douglass:
“I prayed for 20 years and received no answer until I prayed with my legs.”
I LOVE this quote. It just knocks me out every time. Essentially, this is the mission statement of Chump Lady. I encourage everyone to pray with their legs. Quit wishing and hoping, and start escaping to freedom instead.
Your turn, Chump Nation! What inspires you?