Ashley Madison Wants You to “Find Your Moment”

Poor Ashley Madison has gone in for some rebranding lately. After its data hack last summer, the resignation of its CEO Noel Biderman, continued controversy over its blackmail billing practices, AM is trying to soften its image.

Instead of douchey men swiping right while singing “I’m looking for someone other than my wife” now we’ve got this sad moppet buttering his toast to a lugubrious folk singer. Please someone pity fuck this man!

And lest you think all the women on AM are fembots, here’s a video with a real woman! Her life was just her bland husband and forlornly slicing cucumbers in an unlit kitchen until a handsome grey-haired stranger sent her “concert tickets.” Pan to the classy hotel and exchange of naughty winks. Hey, they aren’t adulterers — they’re concert goers.


But wait! There’s more! Branching out from the married-but-cheating fuckwit demographic, Ashley Madison is for polyamorists too!

According to Ad Age’s Creativity , the ads started being televised on July 18 and will be supported by a $10 million media buy.

I think we at Chump Nation should help Ashley Madison with its new branding campaign. The old tagline was “Life is short. Have an affair.” The new tagline is “Find your moment.”

AM, I have moments!

Maybe that moment when I found another woman’s thong in my bed?

Or that moment I got STD tested?

Or found the burner phone? Or had to explain to a 9-year-old why infidelity and divorce would be upending his world?

So many moments to choose from… So chumps, what’s yours? Help Ashley Madison out. Or go slice a cucumber or something.

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still in the midst of this...
still in the midst of this...
7 years ago

When he took forty thousand dollars out of our savings and hid it because he hated himself and thought he might have to leave. Right…….

Drew
Drew
7 years ago

60K, 14k from son’s college fund, 3K from daughter’s, 6K from savings, 5k and 1.5k on vacation with OW. A home equity loan. And a 33K truck. Because that’s what good men do when they have a family. (*sarcasm font here). Cheaters dissipate assets first then run off with their affair partners.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Drew

They’re parasitic bottom feeders. They feed off of you and you get NOTHING in return.

Dianne
Dianne
7 years ago

What is with $40,000? Is there a playbook? After separation, $40,000 out of the account. Why?

Indignant voice, ” I NEED a pickup truck!!” Like I am crazy for not understanding this enormous need!

This from a man who never drove anything but a $90,000 Mercedes coupe…..a pickup truck???

That was a moment.

Sausalito
Sausalito
7 years ago
Reply to  Dianne

Yes, what is this NEED for extra vehicles? I got the same indignation when I questioned his NEED for a second sports car, which only had two seats and therefore was worthless to transport our family of four. Didn’t matter, he bought it anyway…

patticake
patticake
7 years ago

Same for me. 40,000.00 out of the 401k after divorce proceedings in full swing. He “had to pay some bills”. Yeah, I wonder why. Amazing how many moments we can have after we leave the fog of dday and learn to look at what is really going on. I think I was a stellar student at the Marriage Police Academy.

Sunrise
Sunrise
7 years ago
Reply to  patticake

When I read the “can I cum.c.u” text on his phone while he took a nap. And then when a search of the phone number returned the profile and photos of a plus-size tattooed prostitute.

Those were some moments. Some eye opening moments.

Chumptitude
Chumptitude
7 years ago
Reply to  Sunrise

“Those were some moments. Some eye opening moments.” Brilliant Sunrise!

still in the midst of this...
still in the midst of this...
7 years ago

Those video’s make me want to puke! What is honestly wrong with these people!!!!!

WhereisMia
WhereisMia
7 years ago

Well folks here in Australia their new ad campaign reads…. Life is dull…. Have an affair WTF!!!! Puke stop the world I want to get off !!!!

effiestillhertz
effiestillhertz
7 years ago

I felt the same way — a rising tide of nausea that our culture even allows a business like this to operate without shame.

Done4Good
Done4Good
7 years ago

Legalized prostitution.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Done4Good

Exactly my thoughts. It’s just offering sex services online.

lldodd60
lldodd60
7 years ago

That is because we have taken the shame out of so many things that used to be considered immoral. Hey it’s okay to commit adultery – just get a no fault divorce.

ChutesandLadders
ChutesandLadders
7 years ago

Yeah, I just threw up a little in my mouth watching that garbage.

Can we produce the response videos? Using the same folk singing soundtrack, we can show the chump finding the evidence of Ashley Madison and the devastation that it causes. And just so it has a peppy, hopeful message, we can have the final installment the chump finding Chump Lady online and kicking the cheater’s sorry ass to the curb. Last shot? The AM bill!

Flowerlady
Flowerlady
7 years ago

Chutes – yes, the AM bill at the end with the caption “Hope it was worth it . . .”

Enraged
Enraged
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

Do you realize the videos are on youtube?
Feel free to leave a comment right there. Just saw one that says: “This company, and what it promotes is wonderful, and everyone should experience it if they need to”
I think THAT really needs your answer!

rio72
rio72
7 years ago

Chutes: Love the idea to produce a response video. Maybe some chump has access to John Oliver’s “Last Week” program and can suggest it!

Done4Good
Done4Good
7 years ago

I don’t have the stomach to watch these videos so I can only imagine how disgusting and ridiculous they are. It’s still too fresh in my mind the moment I announced to the ex that I had found his new AM paid membership and asked him why in the hell he needed to pay for something that specialized in providing a safe place for married fuck heads to cheat discretely. He sure as hell doesn’t see me as his wife anymore so why bother hiding it?

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Or we could flash pictures of chumps holding a poster with a personalized message.

Found My Moment, followed by the TRUTH.

Peaceful chump1111
Peaceful chump1111
7 years ago

Find your moment…. It’s hard to pick, there’s so many

That moment…..when you find out from a computer software recording device that your husband wasn’t out working out at 2am, no, he had a good fuck with a woman and the back of the family pick up truck!

MidlifeBlast
MidlifeBlast
7 years ago

I’m having a “what is the world coming to?” Moment when I’m watching those videos.

I mean really, what? Life’s not complete without extra curricular fucking? What if the camera had a shot of your sad little kids faces after you get busted?

Enraged
Enraged
7 years ago
Reply to  MidlifeBlast

If you want to know “what is the world coming to?”
My son is 2. They taught him to call daddy’s babysitter “mamu”. I’m trying to tell him I am his mother, she is not etc. Now my son is having anxieties whenever he pronounces “mamu” by mistake (usually after he returns from a visit to his dad). He tries to correct himself, he is explaining to me she is not mama etc.
At 2 years old, my son is trying to protect my feelings. His world is splitting in 2 different realities. The double life his father chose, now my son must live it. In those moments, I feel my heart is ripped apart and I can’t do anything to help him. What is the world coming to?

KRKing911
KRKing911
7 years ago
Reply to  Enraged

Enraged, he’s two poor kid is experiencing things he never should have to. I’m so sorry for you. It’s horrible

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Enraged

Enraged – this makes me sick. The courts should not allow this. It is child abuse plain and simple. It should be law that if someone is unfaithful in their marriage (which proves they are not concerned with the well-being of their family – especially their children) then they must have supervised visitation for at least one year with children under 15 years of age. That visitation should be with just the parent only and possibly those grandparents. The year would be a good amount of time for the vitriol to die down and keep the cheater from poisoning the child against the faithful parent. It would also allow time for the relationship with the AP to either become settled and calm or (more than likely) to burn out.

Why the courts in this country seem determined to not protect children from their parents selfish choices is beyond me. If the problem is money, then they could train volunteers to do the supervised visits. I’d be the first one to sign up.

Enraged
Enraged
7 years ago

uneff, I live in Europe. I had to come to a compromise (called mediation) only so I can relocate to my home country. Then he will get to see his son twice a year. The hell is almost finished (under 1 year) as opposed to having to go through court and wait for years.

Enraged
Enraged
7 years ago
Reply to  Enraged

uneff, I give you extra points for your idea. It’s very well thought.
If you could push it through to Hague Convention, that would be great.

Because I’ve been stuck in a foreign county all by myself, without any support. Alone, if anyone can grasp that concept. Could not go home to my family. They had to make turns and come here to stay with the baby, so I can work and provide, pay lawyers and mediator. This whole year I’ve been working just for fees and can barely make it.
Meanwhile, the cheating husband has gone abroad to his home to visit family and friends, to smear me. Has bought a car to give her rides (until he left, he drover her in MY car)
It’s a f-ing nightmare this Hague Convention!

Yup He Sucks
Yup He Sucks
7 years ago

I think the problem is society is riddled with power hungry entitled assholes. Including judges attorneys and politicians.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Enraged

It’s sad that your Ex isn’t as concerned about his 2 year old. You wonder how these men were raised.

Confused123
Confused123
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

The saddest and most disturbing confession in that video was the women who expressed that she was too broken for true love and afraid of finding a guy like her dad. That brought a tear to my eye.
I wish I could give her a hug and tell her she is worth love. She is not a reflection of her father.
BTW, What kind of sicko puts a used condom in his 12 years room and shifts the blame to him by accusing him of sex????? What a sicko..

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

A little mini Chump Nation, with those kids.

Annie Get Your Gun
Annie Get Your Gun
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Yep. The week before my exFucktard sent me a text meant for the OW, he did the same thing to our 20 year old son. Son couldn’t figure out what to do until dday. He confessed this to me after the 2nd dday.

LadyStrange
LadyStrange
7 years ago

My son couldn’t figure out what to do when he found his fuck head fathers fuck phone. He wound up in the mental hospital for 19 days and “Nobody” (Actually just me apparently – pretty sure now asswipe knew why our son freaked out) knew why he freaked out. The day he got out of the hospital – my son told me about his fuck-head fathers fuck phone. NOW things started to make sense…..why asswipe was treating me like shit and accusing me of off the wall shit, why my son freaked out, why dumbass quit paying for things. Fucking assholes!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

The best thing about NASA is that we’re getting closer to finding Planet Fuckwit so we can assign one way tickets to these sociopaths.

JannaG
JannaG
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

Planet Fuckwit is going to fill up fast. Let’s hope they find Planets Fuckwit 2 thru 200.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  JannaG

True, they better find a whole Fuckwit galaxy.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

Bravo! I have a friend there. I’ll see what I can do.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

lol.

GG
GG
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Holy FUCK!

JannaG
JannaG
7 years ago
Reply to  GG

No kidding! The only bright spot in that whole fucked up video is that the kid kept the money. That money will probably be much needed money for therapy.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago

What Ashley Madison is proving with these ads is that you don’t need their services! There is a chick on a train that you can smile at! There is a grey-haired stranger staying at the same hotel if you want to cheat on your husband! There is a skank waitress if you want a threesome! They are proving that if you get out from behind your computer screen, there are a ton of idiots with shitty morals out there who will cheat with you.

New Ashley Madison tag line: “You don’t need us to cheat!”. What a bunch of dumbasses.

LIningUpDucks
LIningUpDucks
7 years ago

Or, the ads tell you that “Wow, I could be the chump husband whose wife cheats on me after making me a cucumber salad! Shit, women can do that?”

horsesrcumin
horsesrcumin
7 years ago

Uneff! But sad sausages might not KNOW where to look. Riiiiiight?!!! Brilliant, Uneff. On. The. Money. (Pardon the pun…)

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  horsesrcumin

Since most Sad Sausages couldn’t find their own asses with both hands, you are right, Horsesrcumin, they definitely need Gashley Cadison!

Wiseoldowl
Wiseoldowl
7 years ago

When I found a Victory Secret receipt on my dresser for an “outfit” I never received.

Finding a plane ticket with another woman’s name on it.

Blurting, “My husband is cheating on me.” To a random mom up at my daughter’s elementary school.

Finding thousands of dollars disappearing quickly from our bank account.

My grandmother telling me, “He’s a good person, father, and provider. Divorce is very hard. You should really think about how hard a divorce will be.”

Crying hysterically at a rest stop in Ohio in front of complete strangers.

Packing up my home of 20 years and getting rid of things I loved because I couldn’t fit everything into a small apartment.

Crashing my car. Probably due to no sleep for days. – Leaving me permanently paralyzed.

Being turned down for a second date due to being paralyzed.

Missing my home and my dog.

Finding crotch-shot pictures on my husbands phone.

Finding random items like earrings, a jacket, a hat, sunglasses…..in my husbands car and believing they were co-workers he drove to lunch or off-site meetings for work.

And yes, looking at the most innocent faces of young children and telling them their lives are changing dramatically. Forever. This was by far the worst.

Trying to make your kids happy because you know their lives are temporarily fucked-up. Oh, but you can’t because now you’re paralyzed do you can’t walk or run or swim or do things like most normal mom’s can.

Being totally broke and in debt from having thousands of dollars in a nice savings account. Now paying with counted out change from the car cushions.

Owing 36k in medical bills with no more second income.

There are still plenty of moments but broke, alone, handicapped, typing this with one finger, is light years better than living with a complete physcopath.

AM, my husband did have an account with you. I found it along with several other dating and affair websites.

Whoever is married and trolling your site for married men, totally deserves my husband or someone just like him. I hope you find each other soon!

Chump Princess
Chump Princess
7 years ago
Reply to  Wiseoldowl

WOO,

OMG! I am so sorry that this is your story/your moments. Double/Triple ((HUGS))! These are things that people who believe infidelity is “no big deal” need to hear.

Unfortunately, anyone who would set up/profit from or advertise about or on a site that ENCOURAGES people to seek relationships outside of their marriage is not going to want to hear or care about a message which reveals the stark ugly reality of infidelity. The morals and empathy of anyone associated with or interested in using AM (and any site like it) set sail for The Island of Empty Shells a long time ago.

WOO you have my admiration and respect for your strength and resilience.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Chump Princess

WOO

I’m so sorry for your pain and suffering. I struggled with thoughts of hatred, vengence, and ill wishes for the sociopath in my life. It’s a waste of my energy. Sending love and strength to you instead.

Tessie
Tessie
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Sending you hugs, WOO, and keeping you in my prayers. God the cheaters of the world really are a bunch of evil twits! They really deserve their karma.

Mehphista
Mehphista
7 years ago
Reply to  Chump Princess

Hugs, Woo.

Those AM moments have a way of becoming a lifestyle for us ‘collaterally damaged’.

Big hugs, and stay mighty!

x-Meh

LIningUpDucks
LIningUpDucks
7 years ago
Reply to  Wiseoldowl

WOO – Hugs to you, you’ve been through so much. “Blurting, “My husband is cheating on me.” To a random mom up at my daughter’s elementary school. ” I did the blurting thing, too. It was easier than telling people I knew, at first.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Wiseoldowl

Wise Old Owl – I am just so sorry for what has happened to you. Your children are very lucky to have you as their mother – a bright, articulate, loving woman. I wish you only good things to come.

Off the crazy train
Off the crazy train
7 years ago
Reply to  Wiseoldowl

Wiseoldowl – I’m truly sorry and moved to hear what you have been through and continue to go through. Thank you so much for sharing your story (your ‘moments’) with us.

Maybe you should tell your story to Ashley Madison? Directly, or in a public way? Twitter?

These adverts make me feel sick. The cheaters find their selfish moments, and we suffer the consequences. Perhaps it’s time that the victims of AM gave a little feedback?!

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago

Your story is an appalling example of the damage these cheaters do. But your post is testimony to your courage and resilience. One thing I know for sure: everyone here sees your worth and your mightiness.

KeepAwayNarcs
KeepAwayNarcs
7 years ago
Reply to  LovedaJackass

Totally agree with LAJ. You are so brave, WiseOldOwl. Thank goodness you got away from that monster!

Try not to worry about the medical debt. Just get food, housing, clothing, utilities taken care of first. I don’t know which country you live in, but in the U.S. you can get hospital bills forgiven in bankruptcy filing (current credit and income situation are important factors to consider before going this route, consult advice).

I’ve read that some people were able to get the hospital to waive the balance for extenuating circumstances (your story certainly would apply). There’s low-cost or free medical care for you and the kids (ACA or state MediCaid). Do an Internet search and find some contact numbers to call in your area. Keep trying until you find someone who can help you. Good luck to you and your kids.

horsesrcumin
horsesrcumin
7 years ago

Yes!!! Please do tell. Wiseoldowl. This narrative is so bloody much bullshit. I am seething. And I can’t express my sorrow fully for all that has happened to you. Tell them about your moments. (Like they’d care…fuck them. Oh wait. That’s the whole point, right?)

jessicawett
jessicawett
7 years ago

The moment I was writing thank you notes to those who attended our daughter’s funeral, when I saw an email from his 22 yo mistress with a hotel confirmation for their trip in a week to Mexico to celebrate is 45th birthday. And a note about how excited she was to go. Not only had he told me this was a business trip, but it was to the same place we talked about going on out babymoon together with out daughter and where we had our honeymoon 2 years prior.

Flowergirl14
Flowergirl14
7 years ago
Reply to  jessicawett

Jessicawett,
This makes my heart hurt. He didnt deserve to be her father. My ahole ran to screw his howorker 2 days after having someone in our immediate circle die. I was at home crying and all they think about is that dick. F your ahole and mine!

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  jessicawett

Jessicawett – that is just a whole new level of evil. I can’t even comprehend all of the demented a person would have to be to do something like that to their spouse. Also, the 22 yr old having absolutely no empathy for what you were going through. I hope the two of them rot in hell – it’s where they belong.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago
Reply to  jessicawett

Oh my…there is a special place in Hell for this level of betrayal

Off the crazy train
Off the crazy train
7 years ago
Reply to  jessicawett

Beyond comprehension. Don’t even go there. It sounds like the mind / soul of your cheater is a very, very dark place. It doesn’t sound like somewhere and someone you want to understand.

I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter.

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
7 years ago

// , Why dark? Why not gray, colorless, and empty? Or maybe an office-beige?

Enraged
Enraged
7 years ago

Hey Coward!
You don’t get to RE-WRITE the Bible.
So it stays as it has been established: Evil resides in a DARK place.
Just where you want to keep your name: in anonymity, in the DARK. Ha ha ha

Divorce Minister
Divorce Minister
7 years ago

That moment following abandonment and discovery of the affair….puking into the toilet bowl…for weeks!

JABT
JABT
7 years ago

This!!! Puking, lying in a fetal position on my floor thinking I would never get up again, my chest with an ache so horrible that I thought it was going to explode, so much weight loss that I needed belts just to keep my pants from fall down, not eating for days, my son crawling into bed beside me sobbing his heart out because his dad did not care one little bit about him, my son in hospital really unwell and his father too busy (with the OW) to even visit him once and lying about it, my daughter crying her eyes out at school, me going home to an empty house which he packed up while I was at work and just left, me finding him at the OWs house a week later at 1 am in the morning because he just needed someone to “talk” to…. yeah great moments!!!

Life now, happiness, fun, amazing kids, house, healthy, happy, laughter. 🙂

Kimberly
Kimberly
7 years ago
Reply to  JABT

JABT, it’s amazing how wonderful life can be when you get through it isn’t it? I was just saying that the other day – that I really, love my life. I’m at peace. I’m happy. I come home, do what I want to do, take care of my home and my young adult children and am really, really peacefully happy! I’m so glad that you are there too and I wish nothing less for the rest of Chump Nation. 🙂

JannaG
JannaG
7 years ago

I’m sorry DM. The truth is Mrs. DM is very lucky to have a guy like you. I’m glad you have a family now that is grateful for you.

StartofSomethingGood
StartofSomethingGood
7 years ago

This! ^^^^

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago

yes…”moment” where I weighed 113 pounds, my hair was falling out and I had hives. Couldnt eat for days after BD day and D day

expatChump
expatChump
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Ah, yes. The 20+ pound weight loss in less than a month. The hair falling out. The constant shaking. Not being able to sleep. Those priceless moments

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  expatChump

I was in good shape, after the cheater gaslight diet I was a stick, I lost all my body mass and it’s now a few years later and I have not been able to get it back. That moment when you realize how hard it is to get the hard body back that you always had. That moment when the asshole tells you his cheating was good for you, ‘look at how you lost weight’. Motherfucker, I didn’t need to lose any weight, and all these wrinkles that appeared because even my face became a skeleton? yeah, shitty.

GG
GG
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Yes I’ve had stressed induced hives but my DDay 2014 progressed to 4 hospital stays, the last in February 2015 &I left the hospital weighing 82 pounds. That was on top of the back surgery gone bad from November 2011 that I was just making headway with. I’m making a come back slow but sure I weigh 94 now. I’ve learned the patience of Job because I couldn’t leave. BUT JUST WAIT! Going to do what I have to do till it’s DONE!

informal
informal
7 years ago
Reply to  GG

Going to the hospital for hives was my final warning from my body. I went to the hospital in August and left in September. He was killing me slowly.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago
Reply to  informal

Informal…I never felt genuinely suicidal (as in being ready to actually harm myself) but I had moments where I BEGGED God to not let me wake up the next day and please give my life to someone who was dying whose spouse actually valued them. I remember being really angry when I woke up the next day.

He was slowly killing me but the bastard (soon after Dday) said “dont starve yourself for me” I suppose giving fair warning that he knew he wasnt worth that.

He seemed to be “living the life” with love form 2 women, forgetting he had children and doing whatever he chose regardless of who it hurt – while I had the weight of the world on me. Fast forward…he died and now cant redeem himself and cant enjoy all that life has to offer…I live and laugh and love and dance in my yard.

I just completed a round of preventative medicine visits getting all up to date with all that stuff us 50 yr olds are supposed to be watchful of because I have so much to live for.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Unicornnomore – I read your post and lived all the words with you. It’s an awful feeling and torture to have to go through what you did. I know what it’s like to no longer want to live. And I really liked the ending, where your Ex died and now you can fully live your life! Some people bring joy the moment they are out of out lives, I’m very happy for you and your new found life. Hope you get to enjoy each day to the fullest.

ChumpedUpKicks
ChumpedUpKicks
7 years ago
Reply to  informal

Emergency room hives!? Me too! Holy crap, I thought I’d never find another chump who had that happen to them. He (first asshole cheater husband) left his email open on the laptop, I stayed up until 4 am ready them. Suddenly, felt my throat tighten really hard and difficulty breathing. Eh, panic attack I thought. Makes sense. Then from my shoulders to my knees broke out in ginormous hives. I didn’t even really give a shit what was happening to me at that point… went nudged sleeping fuckwit’s shoulder “hey, hey… I am going to the hospital. I am in anaphylaxis or someone is praying for my death or some shit.” Then just drove myself to the ER in case my throat swelled shut. I have no known allergeries. Weird physical manifestation of extreme emotional distress, I suppose. Ahhh, good times.

GG
GG
7 years ago
Reply to  GG

And his AP OW was his brothers mil!! Oh &yea she would never do something like that he’s FAMILY

With brave wings
With brave wings
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Same here Unicornomore. I withered down to a size double zero, so, the same size I was in grade school. 107 pounds on a 5’7 frame looks so sickly, but there was nothing that I could do to change it. I was drinking Ensure (and only one a day because that’s all I could manage) and couldn’t eat a thing.

I know that many people find the divorce diet a sort of confidence boost, but to me, I was so ashamed of my body for failing me when I needed the strength.

It took me almost a full year to gain the weight back and look like my normal thin (not sick) self.

JK
JK
7 years ago

How about turning onto the street where you and your family used to live for 17 years and see your 16 year old daughter sitting on the curb in front of the only home she had ever known crying her eyes out. Nothing like sitting down beside her and hearing, “Dad, there are other people living in our house.”

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  JK

Jedi Hugs to you and your daughter JK

PianoMom
PianoMom
7 years ago

When my at the time 17 year old daughter found condoms in his wallet when I told her to look for some cash for breakfast out with her and her two brothers while he slept off his DUI after totaling our car the evening of her birthday. Fuckwit. Good riddance!

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
7 years ago

The moment he said “You *know* I was in Europe with another woman, no I can’t say I thought much of home at all.”

Tessie
Tessie
7 years ago

Watching cheater ex and schmoopie cuddle publicly at an Alanon meeting I had to chair, in front of thirty odd people who knew we were married. It was a sneak attack on their part. It was cheater ex’s and my “special meeting” we had gone to for a couple of years. I pulled up my big girl panties and chaired the damn meeting calmly. Afterwards I went into the bathroom and cried for about 6 minutes, splashed some cold water only face, and went out and confronted him in the car. Told him he had a choice to make. If he wanted her, he got her….he could go home and pack his shit.

lulutoo
lulutoo
7 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

Hugs to you, Tessie. (from another Alanon member). You rock!

StartofSomethingGood
StartofSomethingGood
7 years ago

My moments:

1. Finding out I’m being abandoned and left with a special needs daughter to look after alone.

2. Him stealing $50,000.

3. Hospitalization, fighting for my life.

Fun times.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago

That moment I realized my husband was out fucking around before, during, and after each of my two pregnancies, one of which I lost.

That moment when I remembered and understood in a new light the times my husband’s “best friend” came over for dinner and I was rushing around serving the two of them home cooked food, special desserts, and wine in a freshly cleaned house while they smugly sat there and let me.

That moment I saw the email sent from his “best friend” to my husband with a picture of nothing but his hotel bed. Not the view from the balcony, just the bed front and center.

That moment when I stood in the Publix giftcard section with tears running down my face as I tried to pick out an anniversary card for our 30th … none of them said anything close to what I was feeling and I didn’t even know about the 30 year gay affair yet, only the “emotional affairs” with female coworkers.

That moment I remembered and understood in a new light coming back from a 5 week emergency trip to a foreign country where my mother almost died from emergency brain surgery while on vacation … and walking in to find the two of them sitting there casually in our family room.

Those ads not only make me sick, they also make their “customers” look completely pathetic.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

That is haunting, DixieChump. I’m sorry about your miscarriages, your mother’s surgery, and your having to endure such an asshole for 30 years.

Done4Good
Done4Good
7 years ago

That moment you stumble upon your spouse’s newly-purchased AM account (after him recently mind-fucking me about how he was living a hermit lifestyle and absolutely was not looking for anyone or anything resembling another woman) and finally realizing you’re done being a chump. Divorce agreement is currently being drafted.

There’s your new ad!

“Ashley Madison – the company that proudly provides Chumps their well-deserved freedom from fuckwits.”

AllOutofKibble
AllOutofKibble
7 years ago

My moment?
An anonymous email of my husband with his mistress.

You want an open marriage have one. Deceit will cost you. Just ask my X.

Blindside
Blindside
7 years ago

What a bunch of cowards and losers. Has anyone ever met an adulterer that they respect (not even counting our spouses)? I didn’t think so. There’s a reason for that. They are total losers.

Off the crazy train
Off the crazy train
7 years ago

I have to say I find the poly one very, very disconcerting; the man looks like my ex and his partner looks like the AP! Very, very weird for me.

Perhaps this is their future? As two cheaters in a relationship, they’ll have to have a poly relationship to keep their relationship going?!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

The moment i heard he saw something he wanted it he went for it and didnt give a fuck who it hurt. His mask down, demons released, my eyes opened wide. Words burned burned in my brain.

Get Out Yo Seat and Chump Around
Get Out Yo Seat and Chump Around
7 years ago

I was going to chime in with one or two of my own “moments” but reading what I’ve already read here in the comments reinforces the fact I got off kind of easy by comparison. It didn’t feel that way at the time of course, after my life and heart and world were smashed to oblivion by a man who suddenly seemed to have bottomless disdain for me rather than a committed love. I’d just like to send ((HUGS)) to EVERY ONE o’ y’all.

expatChump
expatChump
7 years ago

@GOYSACH I’ve also read some of these comments and realized that, despite my utter devastation at my ex’s betrayal, I got off pretty easy as well.

Champ
Champ
7 years ago

Same here … what horrible things to happen to you. I mean, no matter the degree of betrayal, it’s all relevant, and our own personal horror, but reading these accounts makes me grateful I had a run-of-the-mill, cowardly, alcoholic cheater who made me feel worthless without causing too much lasting damage (I hope). I can get over feeling worthless. Definitely hugs to everyone.

And OMG!!! how many people would that $10 million ad campaign feed or house? How fucking greedy is that to spend $10 million to tell people that one comfortable life isn’t enough when you can have two!!!!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Champ

My guess is they will make lots more money then ditch. Or maybe that’s my hope. Chump the cheaters!

Done4Good
Done4Good
7 years ago

“bottomless disdain”

That was a punch to my gut too. I once asked him what I had done to him to make him hate me so much. He said he just couldn’t put it into words. Later he recanted and said he didn’t hate me, but his actions and demeanor said otherwise.

hurt1
hurt1
7 years ago

Having a nervous breakdown 3 months after dday & not hearing from ex & his entire family ever again.

Rose Red
Rose Red
7 years ago

That moment when you open a detailed 2 page letter from your 11 year old informing you your husband has been cheating on you.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Rose Red

I am so sorry your son had to deal with that. He sounds incredibly smart. Jedi hugs to both of you Rose Red

Done4Good
Done4Good
7 years ago
Reply to  Rose Red

OMG – I have no words….

Manchump
Manchump
7 years ago

Tracking my EW thru find my phone, to the local park at 3am , To find her snuggling up with the OM. Very confronting , but so character building. These things are etched into your mind for the rest of your life . Probably best if you move on and forget these things ever happened but , oh and don’t bring it up in any future arguments heaven forbid haha. Fark

MovingOn
MovingOn
7 years ago

Oh, Ashley Madison, the wonderful service my ex turned to when my eldest was only a year old. I’ve had many moments, which I’ve shared on here over the years:

Watching how hurt our kids have been by his and his whore’s actions has been the gift that keeps on giving.

It was fun dismantling our marriage of 13 years and crying every night in my bed for God knows how long.

STD testing and crying my eyes out to my OB/GYN was quite a moment!

Checking credit card statements and eventually learning how much of an asshole my ex was after the AM dump was super fun.

Yes, those were some wonderful moments.

You know, AM doesn’t share those moments in their nasty commercials, of course, but what they also don’t share is the reality behind their clientele. Do people honestly think that AM is loaded with hot people? If my ex and his hooker (since the men pay, AM is nothing more than a form of prostitution- enjoy those moments, ladies, when you are rendering your services that have been paid for by your john) are representative of who signs up, enjoy screwing ugly, needy, awkward people! But I guess that when you don’t have a soul and are just looking to satisfy your selfish needs, you’ll do ugly inside and out without even using a condom! Now that’s a moment to share with friends and family on social media!

How about, “Life is short. Don’t tie yourself down to one person; stay single so you can enjoy as many ‘moments’ of sex with a stranger in the back of your car as possible.”

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  MovingOn

Raises hand

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Yes!

informal
informal
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Yep!

Tessie
Tessie
7 years ago
Reply to  informal

Add me to the list……shithead cheater ex gave me a rest of my lifetime STD gift. Not HIV, thank heaven, just an occasional painful reminder of his suckitude.

WhereisMia
WhereisMia
7 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

I had to go to another locality to get tested as I work closely with doctors who are my referrers for work… Felt so humiliated I travelled far away to ensure my business remained private. So depressing I cried all way there and back ? I hate fucking cheaters

SnowyEgret
SnowyEgret
7 years ago
Reply to  MovingOn

How many other people had the “crying in the doctor’s office while getting STD tested” moment?

* Raises hand *

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Raiseshand

Annie Get Your Gun
Annie Get Your Gun
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Me too. She’s been my doctor for 20 years and asked why I needed STD testing. I told her everything. When I told my stepmom about the testing and it came out clean, she said that she thought he had an emotional affair. My reply was that was what he told me. He never admitted to having sex. Why should I believe a liar?

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago

The fucker told me, repeatedly, to his last fucking breath that he never had sex with her. I found the hotel reciepts after he died…never even gave me the info I needed to go to the doctor and get checked. The fact that I never got an STD (I know of) is amazing to me.

Annie Get Your Gun
Annie Get Your Gun
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

But I thought that getting a hotel room was just so they could play canasta? There was no sex. Honest.

I thing calling them half-wits would be giving them more credit than they deserve.

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Raise hand(s)… Yup! Twice bc I hadn’t found CL and was still playing the pick me dance, in bed! Fucker. Those STD panels weren’t covered by ins and I paid over $1200!

ChumpSaidBuhBye
ChumpSaidBuhBye
7 years ago

I have insurance, but my copay for all the lab work was still over $800. My OB/Gyn is a very kind older man and I could tell he was upset over it. His nurse was mad as hell.

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Raises hand.

My doc asked me “Well, do you have a reason to believe he gave you something? What should I test for?” I said “At this point, let’s just assume he gave me everything. The numbers could be in the hundreds.” He looked queasily at me and left to grab what he needed. (He was the stereotypical socially awkward silent type.)

I looked at the nurse and her eyes were full of tears. She said she had her tests for the same thing a couple of days ago.

That was the beginning of me learning just how common it was.

Stephanie
Stephanie
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

I’m sorry, but that reply from your doctor is just stupid. “What should I test for?” Really??? REALLY??
Sounds like a cheater.

Sunny
Sunny
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Yep, had to tell my doctor of nearly a quarter century that I’d just gotten divorced, that PreyingMantis had been unfaithful to me, and that heaven knows what kind of diseases I might have going on. Because that’s what she loves most of all – having to play medical janitor… 😛 As it turned out, I’m OK… but it was traumatic and humiliating. Until I got the results back, I was an emotional wreck.

With brave wings
With brave wings
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

I got tested for everything. I called my OB and scheduled my appointment but she couldn’t get me in immediately. She suggested that I go to Planned Parenthood for an HIV test that very same day though. And that’s exactly what I did. While the PP nurse was exceptional, she also asked me, “when was the last time you had an HIV test?” I lost it and started sobbing and told her that my husband was having an affair and I’ve never had to be tested before. She was genuinely kind and I so needed it in that moment.

I still tell people that want to pretend that affairs are no big deal or something that is between two people, how I was forced to get a damn AIDS test. My health and LIFE were compromised. Yes, maybe that’s dramatic, but it still holds true. He could have given me an STI or HIV and never once thought twice about it. Some people ask me, “oh an AIDS test, was he sleeping with men” and all I can truthfully answer is, “he’s a cheater and a liar, so I have no clue who he was doing”. Not my job to tell people it was a woman or to protect his image. They want to think he was sleeping with men, so be it.

Yup He Sucks
Yup He Sucks
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

*Raises hand*. My doc was funny. She said “motherfucker! You are the third woman today. Men are shitheads. Was she ugly?” I love my doctor. She gave me a hug.

Chumpfree
Chumpfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Yup He Sucks

“Raise hand”- January 2, 2015. What a way it was to ring in the new year.

Miss Sunshine
Miss Sunshine
7 years ago
Reply to  Yup He Sucks

Hahahahah! That’s awesome!

hurt1
hurt1
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

Yup, that’ll be me. It was also my 2nd “moment” that sealed the deal that he sucks big time.

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  SnowyEgret

*Raises Hand*

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

Forgot to add the extra humiliation of having to tell the Dr. to test for everything under the son since I caught him with prostitutes……………

Stbx sucks more than a hoover vacuum!

lldodd60
lldodd60
7 years ago

To have someone call you and tell you your husband and your friend were acting like hormonal teenagers at a Boy Scout training session and when confronted about it was told “She was mistaken in what she saw”.

Finding the text message on his phone that said “Thanks for the snuggles, xoxo’ to be told you are mistaken she just needed some reassurance after a difficult day.

To find him at her apartment with no lights on after he swore he wasn’t going back to her.

And above all forcing him to tell his 20 year old son he was fucking another woman after he cried and told them he wanted another chance. And watching your son crumble knowing that his father played him.

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago

Rebranding Ashley Madison is like rebranding $100 a can vomit flavored soda infected with a fatal disease. There’s no way to spin it that makes it a good thing and the target market is totally messed up.

Tania Rochelle
Tania Rochelle
7 years ago

That moment I caught him at it again after I’d married him for the SECOND time, when he dropped his mask, looked at me with his cold dead eyes, and said, “You’re so easy.”

lldodd60
lldodd60
7 years ago
Reply to  Tania Rochelle

That would be the moment I knew I was looking directly into Satan’s eyes.

horsesrcumin
horsesrcumin
7 years ago

That moment you find your (tiny, emaciated) body dangling by the neck from the woolshed rafters five months after D-day. And thinking, yes. I am insane. But it’s okay. Because I will be gone from here very soon. And the agony will be over. And no. I am not usually THAT insane …who even was that? I can’t even. I have kids. And I would never do that to them. Right? But I nearly did. Ugh.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  horsesrcumin

That moment passed HC and for good reason. We all have to tap into that one second we choose to fight for ourselves.

I repeatedly ask who that person was who lay there crying, not eating, or sleeping. This is why CL and CN are so important. We aren’t alone with our pain, the pain is finite, and we gain a life. ?So happy you are here.

lldodd
lldodd
7 years ago
Reply to  horsesrcumin

I know and feel your pain, I came very close to the same end myself. But thankfully, I have a very good friend who talked me down and reminded me that I have a Autistic son who needed me.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

wassup with that CL? got to be plenty of chumps born in July.

Shechump
Shechump
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

Heya, watch yer traps, ladies. hehe. You knew you’d offend a proud Cancer and Ruby birthstone from somebody around here.
Cut it out. Mine was a Scorpion and really suited it! ha.

Pondscumbgone
Pondscumbgone
7 years ago
Reply to  Shechump

I am a ruby, a Leo. I wish I had been an “asshole” 23 years ago and turned and walked away when I met my ex.

Shechump
Shechump
7 years ago
Reply to  Shechump

And, is that true? They changed the name of the company to Ruby? what’s with that!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Shechump

Their marketing is so immature and sophomoric, I’m sure it’s a Ruby Chasm reference (ladygarden).

NfV
NfV
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

well, a virtuous woman is above Rubies, no?

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

This is so fitting! I just scrapped the gold ruby ring he left behind that I bought him while we were dating. I also found his ruby class ring and dumped that too. He is literally a ‘Cancer’.

ByeByeCheater
ByeByeCheater
7 years ago

That moment when your then 16yo daughter is screaming at you telling you that it takes two to wreak a marriage and you need to stop playing the victim because dad is sorry for what he did and you should accept his apology and let him come home.

I was doing my best to not talk to her about our issues but apparently he wasn’t. And 3 years later, he still can’t stop even though we’ve been divorced for over a year now. I let her rant (much less of one now than it used to be) and don’t respond and she apologizes for letting him get to her. Rinse and repeat.

LadyStrange
LadyStrange
7 years ago
Reply to  ByeByeCheater

I had a similar experience BBCheater. When I told my son (the one who busted his dad to begin with) I was leaving, the response was “But dad won’t be able to afford to live here.” WTF? Maybe his stupid ass father should have thought of that before buying a fuck phone.
I’m almost quite certain asswipe has convinced our daughter that everything is my fault as well. She rarely talks to me. He’s very manipulative and can convince a person the sky is actually green rather than blue. So – I just have to wait for the day my kids figure that out for themselves. It took me 25 years….

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  LadyStrange

Lady Strange – “his father won’t be able to afford to live there”. what are you? A sugar momma. And he can afford a fuck phone, he can afford to put his dick in another woman, he should be able to afford the consequences. Too bad, so sad.

Shechump
Shechump
7 years ago
Reply to  LadyStrange

Fuck phone. Love it – that’s a new one and perfect. (I bought my X one so he could get into the internet age – the rest is history) Sorry about your daughter and her being so manipulated. She’ll figure it out eventually. It must be so hard not to lose your cool.
What did YOU do wrong!? Kids frontal lobes are not wired quite yet when they are teenagers. Patience, I guess. Peace to you.

Annie Get Your Gun
Annie Get Your Gun
7 years ago
Reply to  Shechump

Yes, the phones. I remember sitting in the living room watching Fucktard texting on his phone and being suspicious. Hell, he texted when we were shopping, on vacation, boating, fishing, etc. All the time he was texting. I remember thinking to myself that if he was having an affair, how easy was this for him that he was able to sit in our home and invite this other person into our lives because of the technology. When we first got married in the late 80’s, he would have actually had to leave the house to use a payphone or risk having me overhear him on our only house phone. There would not have been the constant communication between him and the OW. He wouldn’t have made much of an effort without the technology because he was just too damn lazy. I wonder how many more men and woman cheat because technology makes it so much easier for them to hide their shitty character.

Soldiering On
Soldiering On
7 years ago

That’s how I found out about his cheating; I always checked the long distance calls (being a cheapskate as I was) and found several LOOOONG calls to a number in So. CA. His rant: “Why do I have to justify making a long-distant call?” My answer: “Why do you have to make mystery long-distant calls?” This was also a long time ago, when Ma Bell sent itemized bills!

PF
PF
7 years ago

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Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  PF

PF – This is awesome!!

flutterby
flutterby
7 years ago
Reply to  PF

PF, this made me laugh out loud!!!! These are gems, “Inflated ego and shrinking of the Brain”, “Selfie Psychosis” and “Spray Tan Dependency”. These pretty much sum up the cheater x. I can’t believe that I wasted 22 years on that thing with a “shrinking Brain”!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chump Princess
Chump Princess
7 years ago
Reply to  PF

PF,

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SayNoToSparkles
SayNoToSparkles
7 years ago

The moment that I found a watch that was purchased, but it was the exact one that Ex had already gotten me the Mother’s Day before. He didn’t realize it was the same and would return it. Howorker emailed me later and told me that she hoped that I enjoyed the watch that he got her.

The moment of him saying he was going to kill himself while on a business trip and then went radio silent only to find out from the phone records he was talking to howorker all night on his phone.

nodancing
nodancing
7 years ago

Finding an email from a woman who had pretended to be my friend in order to get close to him, an email instructing him how to divorce me and keep as much money to himself as possible.

Much Better Off Now
Much Better Off Now
7 years ago
Reply to  nodancing

I love your profile pic, nodancing. Crispin’s crispian- the dog who belonged to himself. One of my favorite childhood books. <3

yo
yo
7 years ago
Reply to  nodancing

Sick

newdaydawning
newdaydawning
7 years ago

That wonderful moment when you read the text your husband sent to the ow telling her how much he loved her and how she was the best thing in his life and he is calling her the same affectionate name he called you.
That moment when he tells you that you are the biggest bitch he has ever met and he can’t believe he wasted 34 years of his life on you.
That moment when you have to change your son’s obituary at the last minute because he didn’t list you as a parent.
That moment when you realize the ow went on your family vacation with you because he was fucking your friend.
That moment you realize he was fucking her in your bed why you were working overtime.
God, the list could go on forever.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

He didn’t list you as your deceased son’s mother? Oh my, that is a special flavor of nasty evil.

2 people (his sister and his business partner – both cheaters) wrote obits when H1.0 died…when I read them I was like “who are you talking about ’cause I don’t know this person”. His stupid ass nasty cheater sister (who published a book of new aged poems and short stories about cheating while she was still married) put a quote at the end of his obit that was the absolute antithesis of who he actually was. Totally fucked.

JK
JK
7 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

Quite frankly, it’s hard to see how. I’m sorry.

With brave wings
With brave wings
7 years ago

The moment his grandfather died and he still stayed an extra day with the whore on their business trip. He arrived late to the funeral while chumpy me was there all day. I did however tell his aunt that he was having an affair and her response to me was, “I wish we could kick HIM out of the family”.

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
7 years ago

// , But will they? Well, no.

Chumps usually end up with the greater share of the consequences.

Eve
Eve
7 years ago

That moment when, after you tell Asshole you want a divorce, Asshole says he is going to call CPS and report you for sexually abusing 15-year old son. And then tells son that CPS is coming to take him away.

Followed immediately by that moment with the loaded handgun. And the rifle. And then the moment with the police.

Too bad the moment with the suicide threats in a GROUP TEXT MESSAGE to our three children didn’t pan out.

RockStarWife
RockStarWife
7 years ago
Reply to  Eve

My STBX was an abusive, personality-disordered con, like your Cheater. I have had too many ‘moments’ to count.

What is most vivid, though, in terms of horrible husbands, is an image related to the abuse of one of my kindest, most optimistic friends who was abused by her husband and spent a couple weeks in jail! After her time in jail (thankfully she was acquitted), I saw her and her young sons living out of her car–while her abusive STBX comfortably lived in a large house in a safe neighborhood chasing blond model-like women thirty years his junior. Would Ashley Madison please ad that image to their public collection?

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago

The moment when the whore’s husband pulls into your driveway and in front of your 10 year old son tells you your husband is a cheating bastard.

The moment you discover that you’ve been lied to about your husband’s income – by about $400,000.00.

The moment you look at your credit card statements and discover hubby spent $45,000.00 in one year on himself for clothing and shoes all while he admonished you for spending too much on clothes at Walmart for you and your son.

The moment you realize someone decided you don’t have the right to be loved.

The moment you realize your son’s childhood is forever tainted.

The moment you realize that your youth has been stolen.

The moment you realize your entire life is a lie.

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago

THIS!

The moment you realize someone decided you don’t have the right to be loved.

The moment you realize your son’s childhood is forever tainted.

The moment you realize that your youth has been stolen.

The moment you realize your entire life is a lie.

Oh, but let me also add this came to be after using find my iPhone to locate husband of 17 years at an Asian massage (hooker) palace when he was supposed to be at his own father’s birthday party with the whole family……………….

Yes, it felt like my heart and the whole world dropped out from under me.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

Oh, Current Chump, I’m so sorry you had to experience that. There should be a law against perpetrating anguish in your spouse.

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago

I just wish each one of these Ashley Madison creators urging people to “find their moment” could relive just 1 of our horrifying chump Dday moments………..
Bet they wouldn’t want to be working for or endorsing such a vile employer promoting that type of morally bankrupt behavior. Must be nice to know everyday that they get up & sell their soul to the devil to be paid to help ruin other people & children’s lives. There has to be a special place in hell for these people.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

I totally agree with you … facilitating others immoral behavior is repugnant. I’m sure they tell themselves that the cheaters would cheat with or without their assistance. True but irrelevant. Convenience stores that sell cigarettes to children say the same thing.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

CC – yes, exactly.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

Jedi Hugs Current Chump! Get thee away from him.

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

Thanks Dat-
My Dday was 2 1/2 years ago & I did finally get thyself away from him………thank god & CL/CN.

Something in this post triggered my sadness today instead of my usual IDAF attitude about loser stbx.

It made me remember how absolutely devastated I felt on Dday.

I guess I’m not at meh yet

Motherchumper99
Motherchumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

Me too ?????

The EX-orcist
The EX-orcist
7 years ago

When it dawns on you that the lying, blame shifting cunt and his prize catch the community drunk cock slobbering bitch were behind me losing my job. The job I busted my ass on, was a dedicated employee who never would have been terminated otherwise. Why did I immediately dismiss him as behind any of it? Because I projected my good character on him. He even commiserated with me trying to figure out who called my employer and fabricated a story that might possibly lead to my termination? WHO INDEED!!
Advice for all: DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT PUT ANYTHING PAST THE FUCKING ASSHOLES.

However, when I did realize it was him and that he endorsed the cock slobbering bitch to make the phone call (at the time I was not aware they were fucking-this was prior to d-day), he set the stage for this chump. I must have looked like Godzilla swinging my head around and looking him dead in the eyes and said “it was you.”
its been Godzilla ever since lol. And coward he is?? He runs and hides. oh, and continues to lie saying it wasn’t him “I swear on so and so’s life.” Fucking lying piece of shit you better RUN????

JK
JK
7 years ago
Reply to  The EX-orcist

On D-day my EW swore ON THE LIVES OF OUR CHILDREN that she had only one affair (boss) during our 20 year marriage, and that it was ONLY 10 months. Three weeks later, remembered another lengthy affair with another man seven years earlier (co-worker). Then, two years after D-day, she admitted that that first affair may have actually been a year longer than she originally claimed and, then again, it may have been even longer than that. Geez. No, I put nothing past her, and don’t believe a word she says anymore, even when she swears on the Great Pumpkin.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  JK

Jk, why didn’t she just simplify her story to “I’m a Whore” and be done with it. Sorry you ended up with such a shitacular specimen of the female gender.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  JK

I wish that cheaters and the pods they cheat with and people who excuse or think cheating is ok heads would explode and they wouldnr be around anymore. Harsh i guess but it goes with having a bad day.

The Ex-orcist
The Ex-orcist
7 years ago
Reply to  The EX-orcist
Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Find your moment….

It sounds so deliciously thrilling to abandon the couch and the cucumbers to meet someone new when your SINGLE or a reckless impulsive teenager who is embarrassed to buy condoms.

I’ve been approached while married over the years to have sex with total strangers who were married and also by friends. Just the idea was repulsive to me. I was Married and shocked. It was a no brainer.

As I’ve looked back over my life I realized I never enjoyed his company. That thrill and rush he wants to relive repeatedly is the anticipation of getting a stranger to have sex with him. That is what he lived for and always will.

The moment you get home from work and find you savings book with a balance of 0 with a note saying I’m leaving for California

The moment you smell perfume in your pillow and you don’t use perfume.

The moment you find condoms in the trash.

The moment he comes home with crabs.

The moment you can finally have sex after a year and a half due to prostate cancer and he says he is dating.

The moment you lose your home, become homeless, after he moves to Florida and never sends money.

The moment you realize he’s been telling other women he’s in the process of getting a divorce while living together.

The moment you open the healt statement in the mail and see he was tested for HIV.

The moment you realize he is a sociopath and while still loving him you know you have to save yourself and file.

The moment you face the pain and despite thinking it will never end it does.

The moment you find CL, Tuesday, and Meh.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Yes, the moment we find CL, Tuesday and Meh. Got that right!

Michael
Michael
7 years ago

I’ve been trying to watch what I eat which means allot of vegetables so I’m slicing cucumbers all the time.

Next time I do, I’ll be thinking about that moment when I realized I had HPV from my ex – cut to slow motion jaw dropping while looking down.

Or that moment when I found out my marriage was a lie – cut to rolling over in bed towards the camera while blurry woman in the background types away on her phone.

Or the moment the judge declared us single again – cut to the guy in the first video rolling out of bread and eating alone in the kitchen, minus the stranger on the subway.

Ah the moments! To many to count. Too scarring to forget.

liveandlearn
liveandlearn
7 years ago

The moment you call your husband who’s on a “business trip” to tell him about taking the kids and friends out to dinner and when would be a good time to call daughter later. Realizing he didn’t have a clue why he was being told this. It was daughters birthday that he totally forgot about.
Repeat for son’s birthday months later.

The moment of clarity when it all comes together and the earth falls away from under your feet. A moment remembered for a lifetime.

BetterDays
BetterDays
7 years ago

The moment I was nine months pregnant and discovered my husband answering Craigslist sex ads.

Fuck you, Ashley Madison.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  BetterDays

+1

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago

Although less traumatic than the ones sadly listed here, how about those moments when you are at family oriented places and events (theme parks, fourth of july fireworks, lower school graduations, etc.) when you are surrounded by seemingly happy, in tact families and it is just you and your child. I know now that some of those other families have cheating (discovered and not) going on too, but from the outside it is a sad and lonely feeling to observe and realize your child is seeing and thinking the same thing you are.

I can think of a variation on slicing up that “cucumber” scene … interesting little choice of metaphor there.

Finally Awake.
Finally Awake.
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

My whole marriage was like that. At least now there is the possibility of a future.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

And DC know your child looks up and feels proud her mama is holding her hand. She appreciates YOU. Know this!

Linden
Linden
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Been there, DC. And I still feel sad at school events when ex is there but we aren’t there together as parents supporting their kids and feeling pride over their accomplishments. I like it best when he can’t make it to events and I have them all to myself, like I will today when the kids present everything they’ve been working on for the last two weeks at their summer camp.

Lulu
Lulu
7 years ago

That moment when you find a mix CD of Polish love songs and folk music in his glove box…

… on your anniversary

… driving to the concert that YOU paid for

… and he’s been ignoring you the entire day

… and when you confront him AGAIN with your suspicions about the CD and the Polish ho-worker you’ve had numerous arguments about

… he yells at you and turns the car around to go home.

ANR
ANR
7 years ago
Reply to  Lulu

You’re not from Canada, are you Lulu? Not that my exwife is Polish and her AP was a married coworker (boss, actually) or anything ….

Lulu
Lulu
7 years ago
Reply to  ANR

The AP in my case was single and my ex wasn’t the boss.

ChumpedALot
ChumpedALot
7 years ago

The moment your husband tells you to leave his hospital room where he’s recovering from surgery (and not come back until the next day when he needs a ride home), so his “friends” can visit him…friends I can’t meet because I’m “too dramatic.” Asshole. I am happily divorced now.

LIningUpDucks
LIningUpDucks
7 years ago

How do these crooks have 10 million to spend on an ad campaign? grrrr

KeepNarcsAway
KeepNarcsAway
7 years ago
Reply to  LIningUpDucks

Ads are mostly likely funded by investor money.. and the ad campaign is to keep the business going until the ownership can find a way to unload it without losing their entire investment. I hope they lose all of their money AND go to Hell. These “moments” stories here are heartbreaking and have me seething at the abusive cheaters.

Tracy
Tracy
7 years ago

The moment my husband had the Sheriff come arrest me and escorts me out of my home for 20 years….because I found out he was cheating and Kathy Bates his car in the Walmart parking lot….Towanda….
And the time he planted his gun in my car 6 months prior to this to get my fingerprints on it to use it later to have me in jail for a year. Good thing I have the text message of me asking him “Why is there a gun in my car” him replying “it isn’t mine put it in a safe place for me”…..
I still sat in the county jail for 10 months because it was a gun charge in a very volatile divorce.
I welcome my jail experience. It humbled me in so many ways. It also showed me I’d rather be in jail than be in the prison of the marriage I was in with him for 20 years.
I work for my divorce attorney now. God has a sense of humor I guess.
Hugs to CN….these stories are gut wrenching.

Soldiering On
Soldiering On
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy

OMG, Tracy–I’ve never heard anything so vicious. I’m so glad you were able to get away from him. And I hope his nasty little winkie gets all pimply and infected and then falls off.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy

I’m so sorry Tracy. My moments were also orchestrated by the asshole, the night I told him we were divorcing he attacked me and when I called the cops he convinced them I attacked him, queue handcuffs and a night in jail. The cop was brutal, the other cop knew it was wrong and never appeared on the report. False report. I got a deferred dismissal, asshole tried punching himself in the face to get another arrest but his hand was too bruised. Eventually pulled a gun with suicide and threatening me. Cops say no arrest, it’s a he said/she said despite finding him driving drunk with the loaded gun sliding around in the trunk. He got a DUI. The justice system is a joke. It was just another weapon in the assholes tool chest.

The moment; after fleeing the house the day of the gun I called him and said I had to call the cops if a trusted person didn’t remove the gun, he said “how’d that work out for you last time sweetheart?” And damned if he didn’t convince them I lied about it. My worst moment came later when the cop said it was his right to keep a gun and it would be returned to him when they released him from his night in jail for the DUI. Or was it at midnight when he said he’s coming home and the door better be open? I went to a hotel and fought for my life back, not killing me you asshole, not ever going to hurt me again. I went Jedi Ninja, managed to get him committed and a PO, I still have the PO, keep renewing it. He’s afraid of going to jail, imagine that…

NewHere
NewHere
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy

Gracious, Tracy! I’m speechless…

informal
informal
7 years ago

The Moment:
You find condoms AGAIN -cue blaming others- and you are chemopaused and have no need for them because YOU are faithful and committed to the marriage.
Your GYN asks how many partners you have and did you not get my message LAST YEAR concerning the STD?
You are in for your second cervical biopsy BECAUSE of the STD.
You are taking 5 plus showers a day to wash off the skank.
Bless us when we walk out that door and nail it forever!

informal
informal
7 years ago

Adding- the moment our lives were changed forever because of his stupid decisions and not being a man and just leaving us.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago

I would just love to say how thrilling it is to see that bedierrman, his wife appliance, and his slimy company took such a large hit. I don’t normally wish bad things for people, but I saw him and wife on a talk show a few years ago i guess and they are both disgusting and immoral. They should have criminal charges filed as far as I’m concerned, for fraud. Filthy pigs.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

I think the best word to describe both of them was “smug”. Guess they aren’t so smug anymore.