Tell Me Something Good

puppies_c_1982835In a similar vein to Tell Me How You’re Mighty posts, today I need some uplift. ANYTHING. A close encounter of the puppy kind, a generous neighbor story, the best cupcake you ever ate. Give me something POSITIVE and non-political that happened to you recently. Did your 5-year-old say something cute? Did someone pay you a compliment? Did you pay someone a compliment? Has a stranger committed a random act of kindness that made you go a bit weak-kneed and teary?

Can’t think of anything? Then leave some random encouragement to a chump who might be lurking on this site today and needs to hear that they’re going to be okay. That you care.

Want to do something nice for someone? I recently stumbled over this terrific site — More Love Letters. People submit stories of people they know who are suffering from depression, and strangers write letters (the old-fashioned kind!) of love and encouragement to them. The addresses are published in the link there. I’m going to get out some of my lovely stationery and write a couple of letters to the cause this weekend. You don’t have any lovely stationery? Go find some! Heck, buy a fountain pen if you really want to get fancy.

So that’s your Friday challenge, Chump Nation — be bluebirds of happiness. Be the nice person who gives another person hope. TGIF!

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Finally Awake
Finally Awake
7 years ago

Got a kitten. They really are adorable.

kiwigirl
kiwigirl
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

Second that. My cats have given me unconditional love through the last 3 years of pain and grief

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  kiwigirl

Me too my cats are the only reason I get out of bed some days. The pain is a tsunami, but my cats have to eat.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

My son broke his hand Monday and cut his good hand today. Two trips to the ER in one week, looming college application deadlines and a stressful week in my divorce from his stepfather, Dr. Crazy. But he scored a 33 on the ACT and just added his true “dream school” Tulane to his list.

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Geode, such a stressful week! Your son is a rock star! That doesn’t just happen. Congratulations all around.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Thanks 2do, Nomore and Roaring. My son really connected with his “charming” and “accomplished” stepfather, as we all did, but came to see the abusive, perverted fraud that he really is. So we encourage each other to keep moving forward, sometimes in baby steps and sometimes in great leaps.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

That is exciting! I wish him the best in college and a very speedy recovery!

notsurewhat2do
notsurewhat2do
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Yeah. Congrats! Love Tulane

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

I’ll tell you something good. This week I solved a technical problem (I’m an engineer) that will save my clients up to 36 million gallons of diesel fuel per year. It has nothing to do with riding bicycles or riding buses, etc. It was a pure technical problem that required a complex analysis. While there is much jawboning about saving the earth, real problem solvers are actually making infrastructure more efficient under the motivation of good old capitalism. I’ve worked in communist countries (China) where you don’t get a chance to succeed unless you’re politically connected. I’ll now go back to producing real solutions for the world instead of complaining about how “the white man” is holding me down. That is all.

FindingBliss
FindingBliss
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Wonderful, Sisyphus! Congratulations and keep being awesome.

Smart is Hard
Smart is Hard
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Just finished rereading Atlas Shrugged, Sisyphus-you give me hope : )

On my end, fixed a plumbing problem in my house by myself. Small thing, but so very important. Also, Meh is unbelievable ; )

Hugs to all of us!

MidlifeBlast
MidlifeBlast
7 years ago
Reply to  Smart is Hard

I fixed a tap the other day. I had to get instructions off about 4 people and find the mains. I felt awesome!!!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Yaaaayyyy You, Sisyphus!
It’s the so called ‘little guys’ like you that actually make the world go ’round!
Cheers to you as you ForgeOn!

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

Myself and my deplorable workmates will continue doing the things that have a real, measurable effect on the standard of living for everyone. Ironically we could have solved this problem long ago if we weren’t pre-occupied rolling out a major unnecessary technological system that was mandated by insane regulations.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

+1

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

I bought myself a crockpot ! Future ex-husband never wanted one, I intend to try it in my new apartment within the next couple weeks…a symbol for my fresh start away from the looser.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  AlohaFreedom

Another copy/paste for me, thanks for sharing AlohaFreedom !

AlohaFreedom
AlohaFreedom
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Google “chicken stuffing green bean crockpot.”

Sooo good. Personally I use a frozen 16oz bag of blue lake green beans. Yum yum yum!

kaycan
kaycan
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

I highly recommend finding “Dump” recipes online for crock pot meals. Cut and portion everything, dump it all (uncooked) into a freezer bag, freeze, and you’re done! The night before you want to make it, defrost in the fridge, and the next morning you can just pour the contents into your crock pot and go! It’s great for making multiples of the same meal to have on hand, or when you find a great deal on things like chicken breasts and can stock up.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

Kaycan, I just pulled my crockpot last week. I will use your prepare ahead of time suggestion. TY. xoxoxoxox

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

I will also need a freezer in my soon to be home I guess, merci kaycan ?

Flowerlady
Flowerlady
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Crockpot!!! My crockpot has been with me for 32 years!! It’s a big orange Rival brand from the 70’s and it has provided hundreds of delicious, cheap meals and even more leftovers. After my divorce 2 years ago and purchase of my new house, my crockpot was THE FIRST item I brought into the house after I got the keys. It was very symbolic for me. My crockpot reminds me that I can feed and nurture myself through thick and thin. It symbolizes my survival. I wish you the best of luck with your new crockpot! It’s easy and fun and rewarding!
Maybe we need a Chumpnation Cook Book!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

I love the cookbook idea, too. Recipes like “Fidelity Fried Chicken,” or “Gained A Life Gumbo.”

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

And for the cheaters, Fuck You Flan (because who wants to waste dessert calories on something that doesn’t contain chocolate?).

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Hahaha.

Maybe our wine selections could be called The Grapes of Wrath?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Excellent, Roaring!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

Awesome idea! Seems a lot of cheater freaks find lots to complain about when it comes to meals / food. So, as we go forward with our cheater-free lives, many of us get to relax in that department & fix what WE love, our children love. And delete what we don’t!

I am decidedly NOT a cook! But, I did sorta find my ‘inner chef’ once I was no longer bowing to all the cheater’s demands / complaints about meals & food. Therefore, I have some simple meal ideas I would love to share!

junglechump
junglechump
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

Oh my god true! My cooking was never good enouh for STBXH. And when I would cook exactely what he wanted and how he wanted it, he would fail to notice or say something nice. Fucker.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

I agree ForgeOn! I’m no great chef either, but there will never be over cooked food in my house ever again…I want to taste what real meat and crunchy vegetables taste like…

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

This is exactly how I feel, Flowerlady. It’s a symbol of my hard earned freedom and survival.
And I agree for a CN Cook Book ! Thank you for your kind words.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Pot Roast in the crock pot…..mmmmmm good.

8 hours of slow cooking that roast on Sundays while filling your home with that peerless smell reminds you of what authentic home life is all about.

My kids anticipation of the feast at 5pm reminds us all how grateful we all are to be sitting all together and to reminisce with each other all the while filling our bellies. Life is good.

BTW….the trick to an unparalleled pot roast is adding pearl onions and impaling the roast with garlic. Half beef stock and half wine. 4 pounder all day long.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago

Sure, what kind of wine do you use in this recipe?

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Pinot Grigio. Give the roast a small taste of sweet. 🙂

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

OK, now I’m hungry ! Too bad I don’t want to use my crockpot now : it’s really something I want to do with me and my kids when the asshole is not around. I will have to wait a little bit, but I copy/pasted the recipe on a sheet. Thank you SureChumpedAlot.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago

Yummy!

This2ShallPass
This2ShallPass
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Love a good crock pot. Put water in the bottom about an inch, put in some pork ribs with salt and pepper. Let it do it’s thing for five/six hours.

Easy and delicious!!!!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  This2ShallPass

Another recipe, looks easy too ! Merci beaucoup This2ShallPass

notsurewhat2do
notsurewhat2do
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Here is a great/easy/pratical recipe for the CrockPot, It isn’t fancy, though.

boneless chicken breasts (a pound or more)
Taco seasoning pack (or your own blend)
1 cup chicken broth.

Cook on low 6-8 hours or high 4 hours.

Shred meat. You can use this for chicken tacos, burritos, enchiladas etc. I always make plenty and freeze the leftover in small serving sizes.

Quicksilver
Quicksilver
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

I brought a crock pot full of chili in to work todzy. Getting ready for a chili cookoff to support Children’s Hospital. Love my crock!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Quicksilver

Quicksilver, I’ll need the chili recipe, it’s a dish my kids enjoy a lot…and future ex-husband not at all : two very good reasons I suppose 😉

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

You’ll love your crockpot! I recommend “Fix it and Forget it” cookbook. The recipes are submitted by people. Enjoy! 🙂

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

I hope I can find it in France, thank you Martha !

Notadoormat
Notadoormat
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Loulotte2 – where the heck did you find a crock pot in France? I live in France, too, and would love to get one.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Notadoormat

Amazon @ Notadoormat ! I knew I’d find a French fellow chump if I started posting after a few months lurking ?

Attie
Attie
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Me too. I live in France AND have a crockpot – yay for us. And the good news, The Inadequate One is back living in the States so the good Lord saw fit to put the Atlantic Ocean between me and him. Life just keeps on getting better.

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Slow Cooker Kitchen has a Facebook page. And, you can google crock pot/slow cooker and (for example) chicken tortilla soup (delicious) and find recipes.
Buy containers for leftovers!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

Off I go and check, thank you Louisvilleflower!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

Thank you Notsurewhat2do ! I knew I could count on CN no matter what…
I’ll try this as quickly as I can, hopefully within the next couple weeks.

Mom Of The Good Guys
Mom Of The Good Guys
7 years ago

I just stepped out into the pre-dawn to let my precious little dog outside. It smells like the holidays; the sky was lightening, and I can hear the sweet sound of freight trains, which is one of the most comforting sounds I love. It reminds me of my childhood.

My son is on the radio, doing his morning drive time program, and through the miracle of modern technology, I can listen from a distant city. He’s a good man.

And I’m drinking a cup of Hazelnut coffee from my Keurig! I was up all night seething about the election, but the sun is coming up, and it’s going to be a beautiful day.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago

I understand that my son also does a radio show somewhere in Montana. I have asked him when I might catch it online and he wont tell me (attempts thusfar to find it have failed) but I am happy for him!

Syringa
Syringa
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

unicornnomore, I lived in Montana for several years and worked in television so try the bigger markets like Missoula, Bozeman or Billings.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago
Reply to  Syringa

Missoula, yea

QueenMother
QueenMother
7 years ago

My 10-year old neighbor next door likes to do little things with me. He came over and helped me make invitations to a neighborhood open house. Then we went around and delivered the invitations. He planned games for the children. On the day of, one of the adults stepped in and provided support to the children’s games, and the children ran and laughed and played: glorious. Others carved pumpkins. Some were content to sip tea and eat pie, or tortillas and beans. Some brought samboosa.

Like you said, Chump Lady, love can and does return to our lives. The kindness and joy of my neighbors brought great happiness to me.

TodoVa
TodoVa
7 years ago

I finally accepted that it’s ok to do things for myself and not be bothered by what others think. It’s ok to move upward and onward (and far away!!!) from exH to make a new life for myself and my daughters. He chose to think and do as he wished while we were married. Why not me? Why not now? After all, we are divorced! It’s not selfish to think and do for my family, for me. If not me, who???

mickeyblueeyes just wrote an astounding and magnificent post in the forum, Fix yourself and not them. Go on and read it. It is exactly what I needed today to finalize this new life I’m making for my family and well, for myself. We are so worth it!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  TodoVa

Very nice TodoVa. I will certainly read what mickeyblueeyes wrote. It’s so hard to take the focus off of him for once and put the focus on me. I feel my whole life has been about focusing on others instead of myself. It’s really hard to change that mindset. Baby steps. We can do it!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha-

Focusing on “him” is no different than focusing on a shoe box. All you will get back is nothing but empty.

Take your love and focus on others that deserved to be focused on – kids, family, friends *and* YOURSELF! This will fulfill you, I promise.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago

Thank you, SureChumpedAlot. I know you are right. I’m looking forward to Meh and I know I’ll get there faster by doing what you said. Thank you. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

….and don’t forget Martha….we are all proud of you! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Martha
Martha
7 years ago

I’m proud of you, too, SureChumpedAlot and all the other chumps who get out of bed each day, brush our teeth, take a shower, make it thru the day and take positive steps to gaining a cheater-free, wonderful life! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Okay, I’m heading down the list soon. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

One last thing Martha….Read on down on my post below on “all good things come in 3’s”. This is why I give you 3 smiley faces first!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  TodoVa

TodoVa I just read the first paragraph and though to my self “Yep she gets it, This is it, this is what we all need to do.”

…then read your second paragraph. Kind words.

TodoVa
TodoVa
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

This is exactly what we need to do! And again, thank you. The extent to which I no longer feel anything for the exH is because of this site and powerful posts such as yours!

Betsy66
Betsy66
7 years ago

Your a bit later home from work than expected, one son is messaging to see where you are. Another son is phoning to see how long you are going to be, he’s starving. You enter the house and the cats come bounding down the stairs from the bedroom, as they have been there all day and they instinctively know it’s me. “Hi Mum, how was your day?”, a voice from the living room.
Positive note – my life is full, I have so much love around me, even the cats think I’m awesome! For anyone still “in it”, get rid of the fuck wit from your life! Those “where are you Mum?” messages and texts will not longer feel like pressure, they will make you feel alive, loved and a worth while person!! Something that an abusing, cheater never ever wants you to feel! Xx

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

Bestsy66,

This is perfect. I used to feel the pressure of being late and “What do you want to do for dinner?” as he sat on his cheesy puff recliner. Not any more. I love coming home to my dogs. They’re happier then they’ve ever been. I’m happier than I’ve been in a long while. You said it, “Get rid of the fuck wit.” It does get better.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

I felt that at 5 am this morning. Cat, little dog and 15 year old daughter who couldn’t sleep because of last week’s time change all in my bed snuggling until the alarm.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

Very nice! 🙂 The unconditional love of children and pets — the best!

WiseOldOwl
WiseOldOwl
7 years ago

Still in mourning- I got nothing.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, this soon after Dday this is big stuff. I remember just laying in bed sick to my stomach, shaking, so anxiext-ridden I actually had to tell myself to breathe. I finally realized I hadn’t eaten or showered in days. As I said in another post, I told myself to get in the shower or I would draw flies. Anything beyond comatose is a MAJOR feat! xoxoxoxoxox! Stay strong….this pain is finite, I promise!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

WiseOldOwl

Every day do something for yourself. You are a wonderful person. I believed this stage would never end. It will! Sending love and strength to you. You matter!

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, you are here. You are safe here. You will make it. Read all the archives. Journal. Hot baths and epsom salts. Lots and lots of sleep.

MehGloriousMeh
MehGloriousMeh
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, every single member of Chump Nation is pulling for you!!! I just said a prayer for you right here at my desk. 🙂

Give yourself credit for EVERYTHING. Even breathing in and out, which some days feels like hard labor. I promise that it gets better! I learned to judge my progress month to month rather than day to day.

Also, I got a good laugh from this meme during those early, hardest days: If I don’t kill someone, does that mean I saved someone’s life? Or something like that. 🙂

Your mightiness is growing day by day!!! Hugs to you, Dear Friend!

Mandie101
Mandie101
7 years ago
Reply to  MehGloriousMeh

Way to go wise! I remember those bed days. I want to thank my bed for being there. I’d take my iPad,phone,diary and just be. Going out to face people was hard. I felt that everyone could see my pain. But bit by bit it changed. Bed is still a sanctuary but I no longer dread life. Know that CN is a place where every single person actually understands you because we’ve been through it. Drop us a line any time from wherever

ChutesandLadders
ChutesandLadders
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

You got out of bed. You are winning!

It can’t get any worse, and IT WILL get better. Swear!

WiseOldOwl
WiseOldOwl
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Got my oil changed and bought new glasses. Something accomplished from out of my bed covers. Does that count?

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Oil change and glasses are major accomplishments when you’re world is in chaos. You also reached out to your fellow Chumps. Supportive human contact is very important. We’re here for you.

Chumptitude
Chumptitude
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Every little bit counts WiseOldOwl, every moment of your post-cheater life is a victory!

Some of these moments are actively spent doing things, some moments are just about being there to acknowledge that building a cheater-free life is an exhausting journey.

Like all who commented here, I am rooting for you, forge on WiseOldOwl!

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Getting up and being doing what needs to be done at this point for you is an amazing accomplishment. It gets better even though it feels like it never will. One day at a time. Try to find something to do every day that brings you just a few minutes of pleasure and savor them. It’s hard but you will make it!

mavis
mavis
7 years ago
Reply to  lostntx

WiseOldOwl,
It feels like you will never recover, but you will. There are many of stages of recovery that you will cycle through over and over. I spent the first year in bed overwhelmed by ptsd and depression. During the next stage, I became angry. I got to work, tripled my income and love, love, love spending all my free time with my growing children. Next stage? Emotion free focus on getting the best settlement for my children and myself. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time to grieve. You are mighty 🙂

KathleenK
KathleenK
7 years ago
Reply to  mavis

WiseOldOwl – hang in there. There’s nothing better than new glasses and I hope you look fabulous in them. I salute you for getting out of bed! Baby steps, baby. You’ve got this!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Everything you do counts WiseOldOwl! It’s not easy in the beginning but the pain really is finite and all of chump nation will be here to cheer you on or prop you up when you need it.

Jedi hugs to you!

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

I keep waking up and it is Monday. When will my Tuesday arrive?

oaktree
oaktree
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

absolutely, wise. cheers and hugs to you!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Absolutely that counts WiseOldOwl! Maybe your new glasses will give you a better focus on life and you will see your cheater for who they really are…a big shit!

Chumpzilla
Chumpzilla
7 years ago

I found a 1.5 week old abandoned kitten on 10/28. A few days later, she stopped eating and was having tremors. After two days in the kitty hospital, they thought she had an incurable neurological disorder. She has made a full recovery, however, and her vet thinks she’s going to be just fine (fingers crossed).

No matter what, she’ll always be mine and will receive the best home and the best care I can give her. She is a fighter — and winner — against nearly insurmountable odds and she’s my inspiration these days to keep my head up and keep going.

I wish I could paste her pic here – she’s ADORBS!

ChumptyDumpty
ChumptyDumpty
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

18 mos ago on by boyfriends bday I rescued a kitten from a busy road (at the intersection of Wildcat Drive – fate!) At the time I had an old & non cat-friendly dog w/ cancer. So, viola- instant bday present. Started out with the goal of being a barn kitty, but those two have a bromance no one would’ve ever believed. And his two dogs are great with the kitty too.
Fast forward to my dog’s passing. After a few months I was having withdrawals. Bf got me a chihuahua pup for Christmas & she hit it off with all his critters (my old dog didnt & we always had to keep them separated).
Especially the cat. She’s lonely on the days we don’t stay at bf’s place, so I thought about getting a kitten. But I’d just bought a townhouse & met the sweetest neighbor kitty ever. He comes over every day to hang out & play with the pup. It’s perfect & there’s nothing that makes me smile like watching their Garfield & Odie antics.
Just today I unpacked some silk plants & the cat’s having a blast hiding in the “jungle” & pouncing anyone/thing that walks by.
I’ve always had just dogs (bred & trained for many years), butt now I totally get how the crazy cat lady thing can happen. Lol
Pets are truly the best medicine.

ChumptyDumpty
ChumptyDumpty
7 years ago
Reply to  ChumptyDumpty

Forgot to mention that the rescued cat, now 1.5 yrs, had a sudden & pretty severe seizure last wk. It was so alarming & he was pretty out of it for a day or two, but has made a full recovery. I had an epileptic dog once & thankfully she only seized a few times in her 12 yrs. Hoping this will be true for the cat as well.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  ChumptyDumpty

My chocolate lab is epileptic. He was Fucktard’s dog but too much trouble with his seizures, medicine, and hell, you have to feed and water them as well as let them run outside. He was having seizures for over two hours and after I booted Fucktard out, I took him back to the vet. I told her that the seizures are getting much worse and that I know that Fucktard has explained them to her several times, but I needed to tell her again. She just looked at me. He hadn’t followed up with her at all and she thought they were under control. My poor baby spent over a year with cluster seizure and on the wrong medicine. Fucktard lied about talking to the vet. I got new medicine and he has about 2 ten minute seizures a year now. And, he’s happier than he’s ever been.

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

Humans should be more like animals. Your kitten will appreciate you and always be glad to see you and give you affection. They generally don’t complain about anything but truly appreciate what they have!

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago

I went to a household auction and got some really good items for a fraction of the retail price. Their previous owners might have died, but they will be appreciated and used going forward as this Chump rebuilds her life on a much smaller budget.

A Potato ricer for the smoothest mashed potato ever! A stainless steel vacuum flask for my morning tea on my commute. And, best of all, a set of kitchen steps so I can reach into my top cupboards!

PS any Americans got a wonderful meatloaf recipe to share with me? It has to be one that is made from scratch and mention the seasoning.

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Delicious low-carb recipe

1 lb ground turkey
1/2 yellow onion finely chopped
1 beaten egg
1/2 cup shredded Parmesan cheese
2 T Worcestershire sauce
1 teaspoon black pepper
1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper
2 teaspoons onion powder (optional)
3 T ketchup or tomato paste

Mix all items and put into baking loaf dish
Bake uncovered 350 degrees F for 35 min or until juices run clear.

Serve with roasted-creamed cauliflower and a green salad.
Yum!

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago

Thanks everyone! I asked from scratch not because of snobbery, but because we don’t have any meatloaf helper or ready mix around these parts.

Really love the suggestions!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago

Looks like we have a really good start on that CN Cookbook. What is it, 5 or 6 recipes so far in the comments?

And I haven’t even finished reading to the end of this lovely conversation.

Just in case that idea falls thru, I have been copying the recipes to my “Word” program.
What an precious bunch of humans we have here at ChumpNation!

Here’s to all as we ForgeOn! with our culinary skills!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

1 pound of the best quality hamburger you can get
1 small vidalia onion chopped small
1 clove garlic crushed or grated small
1 egg scrambled
2 slices cheap bread torn into small pieces
3/4 cup milk
1 tsp ground sage
1/2 tsp salt

Mix together well with your hands and press into glass loaf pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minuges

Topping … Mix 1/4 cup ketchup, 1 tbsp brown sugar, and 1 tsp worcestire sauce. After baking meatloaf for the 50 minutes, spread topping over loaf and bake 10 more minutes.

The garlic and sage make this to die for!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

I always use two cloves of garlic, but I’m Italian!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Strawberry ice cream for dessert!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Dang Dixie, strawberry ice cream – I’m there!

I will bring Beethoven. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Golly, I will be over at 5:00pm Dixie!! 🙂 I need to feed my cold, ya know?

Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago

I sent this beautiful advert to my friends in the US to cheer them up post election trauma

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr6lr_VRsEo&sns=em

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Check this out: http://giphy.com/gifs/136t38fGquezSM?utm_source=iframe&utm_medium=embed&utm_campaign=tag_click

I think this is the beginning of a movement! Yay!

IHaveHate
IHaveHate
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Adore!!

Soldiering On
Soldiering On
7 years ago
Reply to  IHaveHate

The bouncing hedgehog made me laugh out loud!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

This was priceless Digbert. You have successfully inspired me. Thank you.

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Thanks Digbert! That will leave me smiling all day!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you, Digbert…..still smiling!

Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

It’s great isn’t it? I sat there bleary eyed at 4:30am this morning with the cat wanting his brekkie and the 5am obligatory gym session beckoning and I felt a bit low contemplating possibly another commute to work …….. and then I watched this via my friends in the UK and I felt alive and happy! ?

Olesammie
Olesammie
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

John Lewis is the favourite brand in the UK, it is a fabulous shop, a department store like Maceys. Every year, the John Lewis advert signals the start of Christmas in the UK and we all wait for it, they always make everyone cry. This year, they went for happy as 2016 has been a difficult year, didn’t they do well? Totally love it! All our favourite Woodland animals, the hedgehog is the best in my opinion. Do you have hedgehogs in the US? Anyway, definitely has the feel good factor!!! Much love to all!

The EX-orcist
The EX-orcist
7 years ago

I’m MEH. 15 months out from D-day and the subsequent fucking tides of pain and emotional hell I actually survived it all. Enough said.

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  The EX-orcist

Wow you are so mighty. I have a long way to go.

paula
paula
7 years ago

I had an unexpected and difficult tooth extraction yesterday – after a sleepless post election week, I sat in the dentists chair and wept as they prepared for the procedure.

But then I got to thinkin’

I have a boss who is understanding of me needing to duck out of the office to go to the dentist

I live in an era of wonderful dentistry

I have dental insurance (thank you divorce lawyer)

I have the means to run to the store and pick up yogurt and soup post precedue

I have loving people who care that I had a tooth yanked out

When crawled into bed last night, jaw swollen and bruised, I wept again in gratitude and appreciation for a wonderful all providing universe

Mandie101
Mandie101
7 years ago
Reply to  paula

Yea. Sometimes I get like this. The small mercies are so overwhelming.

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago

My 72-year old mother comes every Thursday afternoon/evening. She watches the baby, makes dinner, and does a few household chores around the house. Not a ton, just enough that it keeps me from feeling overwhelmed. She is my rock and I am so incredibly blessed to have her.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  GetMeFree

That’s so wonderful! 🙂 You are blessed to have a mom like that.

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Yes simple stuff like this is wonderful. My 75 year old mum text me today to ask if she could buy me a gadget that kept half an avacado fresh in the fridge. Simple things like this make me smile.

Oh and she also text me the other day to say how proud of me she is 🙂

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

I have several people in my life who check on me, but my mom is my “main” support person. I am soooo grateful to have her. She told me not too long ago that she admired me for getting through so much. And here, I have been thinking how much I admire her for just stepping in to help and love not just me but my kiddos.

I want to grow up to be just like her (says the 45-year old!)

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

🙂 Nothing better than having someone tell you that they are proud of you. 🙂

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  GetMeFree

You truly are blessed. It is awesome that she can still help and does! Enjoy every day you have with her!

Polly
Polly
7 years ago

After years of loss of self confidence, trauma and pain I followed a friends advice and joined a running club. I am three weeks in and I am feeling so much better. Exercise really works and the pain I am now suffering is mainly in the knees and quads. My mood has definitely lifted.
I will be doing a 5K in December, well a slow mincing hobble probably but hey that doesn’t matter.

Love to you all and thank you chump nation for being here

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Yay, Polly!

I took up mountain bike riding. I am the slowest cyclist in the field, but who cares. I am off the sofa and out there.

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Yeah. This.

Personally, though, I grow super bored when running or cycling on roads; however, I love running and biking (and skiing) on trails. It’s a double whammy of goodness in that I get the south tress relief that comes with both physical exercise and time in nature, seeing wildlife and beautiful landscapes. If you run or bike, try a trail run.

Of course, I also really enjoy slower activities such as berry picking and fly fishing, as these repetitive motions wash way stress and help to clear and focus the mind.

I love that my kids, dog, and I, have soooo much more time to spend outdoors without my ex-wife’s influences and demands on our time. It’s liberating.

Time in nature, especially with my young kids or old dog, prepares me mentally and physically for life’s challenges, while reminding me that there is much beauty in the world.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago

See reply about to Martha. I love hiking and frequently get lost. If you’re ever in New York and pass a blonde more than once, and she’s muttering to herself as she’s spray painting red, green, yellow or blue marks on trees, point her the way out please.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago

especially if she’s walking around without a bra on.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

God how you make me laugh!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Great job, Polly! People keep telling me to exercise as I will “feel better.” I just don’t have the energy. I think I’m in a vicious cycle?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha: It really does work; start with a 5 minute walk. Next day, 6 minute walk. Day after–6 minute walk a little faster….. Pretty soon you’re skipping.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Okay, Tempest, I will. 🙂 I now live in a lovely, tree-lined neighborhood with sidewalks, so I now have no excuse for not getting a walk in each day (no sidewalks by my old apartment.) Thank you for the encouragement. 🙂

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha,

My sister and I took our dogs out this afternoon to a county park we haven’t been to yet. The park was wonderful and well groomed. The kids were running, birds were chirping, it was a perfect adventure. Then three hours in, winding our way through the switch-backs, we were mumbling to ourselves about the lack of properly marked trails. I think I may have even made a comment about coming back with cans of spray paint instead of breadcrumbs to find our way home. I told my sister if the cops caught us not to use the word tagging, “Honest officer, we’re marking the trails, not tagging them.” Anyway, I was thinking we would star in a Survivor spin-off and I’d have to trade my bra for peanut butter when we found the road about an hour later. You know New York has wonderful parks, so if you go farther than the neighborhood, bring a compass, paint, and an extra bra for trade. 🙂

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Fantastic, Polly! After all the trials & tribulations, you deserve to feel great!

seripanther
seripanther
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Slow mincing hobble FTW! I completed my first SMH 5K back in May, and last month I’m proud to announce I achieved a SMH 10K! Anything is possible. I’m so glad running is helping you to regain some emotional equilibrium. It also temporarily eases runny nose when you have a cold, as I’m discovering this week.

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Yea, Polly! Running saved me from falling into a pit of depression. 3yrs out and I’m still going. I’ve set new personal goals for myself. It all began with just trying to get to 2miles, then a 5k at 30min, on and on.

Hmmmm….. Maybe there should be a Chump5k- gaining a life run.

walkingthruhell
walkingthruhell
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Love the idea! At one race, I considered writing “I run for Chumps” on the back of my shirt!

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
7 years ago

We live in a world with music like this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLBmqwA4AGc

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Amazing, VulcanChump. Had to look him up, as I am not current with musical talent (tho’ VN is waking me from my slumber in these matters).
He is only 24 (!!!!!! really folks, 24) and has preternatural talent. I read that he was a professional magician at age 10. Someone to watch for. Someone creating beauty.
Did I mention born in 1992??
Thanx for the introduction, VC, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Who is that sexy motherfucker? Dang.

Lovely.

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago

I got laid. Ok that was TMI, but the guy was way too young. I felt pretty damn good that I bagged that lol.

Lunachick
Lunachick
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

That’s AWESOME! *high five*

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Do tell. How old was he?

junglechump
junglechump
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Hehe yes, I am curious too. I am a 35 y/o single mom of toddler and this very handsome, 28 y/o old has the biggest crush on me (not sure he knows my age or mom-status)… but for a bunch of reasons (godammit) I really shouldnt go there so I wont, but still flattering 🙂

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Wooohoo! It’s amazing what getting laid by someone else than the ex can do to one’s self confidence. I got laid myself about a month ago. It was the best sex I’ve EVER had. A-fucking-mazing! I need me some more of that…

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Me too! So strange and wonderful to have a generous lover.

Twitching
Twitching
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Me too! I had only ever been with my ex. I feel so much better now!
?

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Cradle robber! LOL! Good for you and your self-esteem.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Gooooo Cougars! Score!!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

You can warm the bench!

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Thanks, I’m only 34 so I’m not sure I qualify for team cougar yet 🙂

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Just a kitten, but you have it going on, DemHoez.
Is it TMI to say that I still hope to report the same??
I would be stopping strangers on the street (to TELL them, CN ~~ not to get it!!).
Nice, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

?

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

What the heck is that emoji ~~ kinda looks like a piggy. Can it be????
Hope so. xxx, V ?

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Oops, my bad. It is a kitten! Sheesh.
And I meant I would be the piggy. Definitely Not DemHoez.
OMG. I’d better go lie down and STFU! Ha, V

Sausalito
Sausalito
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

LOL, that’s awesome!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Hahahahahahahaha! I need to get off Lexapro so my libido comes back! Thanks for the laugh!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

High five! Made me smile 🙂

Christine Mecca
Christine Mecca
7 years ago

A co-worker who met me in the middle of my break-up/divorce told me yesterday that she is proud of how strong I have become and how many things I have accomplished on my own. I owe you, Tracey, and TN for this.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

Co-workers are amazing! And so are you! <3 🙂

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago

You are strong!! Anyone who goes through this and who not only holds it together but starts to thrive is strong. We are mighty!!

Rose Red
Rose Red
7 years ago

Last week, two of my middle school students gave me unsolicited “compliments.” I was having a bad hair day so I put my hair up and one student told me, “Your bun is lit!” Then another day a student told me “Your eyebrows are on fleek.” That’s why I love my seventh graders!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Rose Red

“Lit” and “on fleek”???? Compliments don’t come higher than that; congrats!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I’m going to have to take your word for it Tempest. I’m guessing they are phrases that would should show up on a list of things people over 30 aren’t allowed to say anymore? Is totes adorbs already outdated?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Yup, sorry, “adorbs” definitely on the dated list.

Don’t worry, many of us are in this boat. Most of what I say is on the outdated list (“fab”!), but I have a 15 year old who keeps me up on a few key terms in between rolling her eyes. Apparently my emoji use is pretty appalling too. Just for kicks, I like to send my children the woman with her hands on her head, and then her hands crossed in front of her, followed by “Hey, macarena!” I feel it’s my maternal duty to allow my daughters to bond over the shared view that “Mom is so embarrassing.”

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

That’s awesome Tempest ????!

I too REVEL in letting my kids bond over how much of an outdated nerd I am. They love it and and we have a lot of fun just being ourselves.

Truth is I am probably a pretty interesting guy for my age (48) brcause I am blessed to have an interesting occupation which I love and am good at, and as a result my work regularly gets public attention. Even my 17 year old stepson tells me of how cool his friends and coworkers think my work is, and that they respect my small accomplishments.

So, I like to ensure that my kids know, first and foremost, that really I am huge goof and an embarrassing Dad. Nothing special because of my carerer accomplishments. My ex wife likes to paint the picture of how perfect she is, and they must be – image management anyone? Too bad the kids and I are busy geeking out and a having a ton-o-fun together!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago

Forest for the Trees–the kids know the fun parent, is (and which parent always has their back). Good for you making their lives enjoyable AND safe.

Not sure how old your kids are, but a book I can highly recommend is A Lithgow Palooza! by John Lithgow (the actor). It is filled with zany activities to do with children of all ages (for the kid in all of us!).

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Thanks Tempest. I’ll check out that book.

My kids range in age from 17 to 4. With one in the middle. We have alot of activities we enjoy in common already, many of which they got me into to, and that we enjoy together at every opportunity. It’s great.

We’ve always been like this and that part of our lives has continued, and even thrived, now that we don’t have the daily stress of walking on egg shells around a disordered, selfish wife/mother. It’s just become so much easier. I try to impart on my kids the importance of being authentic with one another – which I think comes naturally for them.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Bwahahaha! You just made me choke on my icecream! 😛

kaycan
kaycan
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

My 14-year-old son is mortified by my use of emojis, so naturally I respond to his every text with a string of the most random emojis I can find. 🙂

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

Hahahaha. I can’t tell the smiley faces apart – all of them are too small and I don’t understand how to read them in a “sentence” anyway. I usually just type “smiley face emoji” when I want to use one.

And I don’t know how to text efficiently either. It takes a long time. Once, when texts were new, my daughter was in the emergency room at 4:00 am with a burst ovarian cyst. She received a text from a concerned friend but I responded to it (as her) as she was in pain..

Her friend told her later that he assumed she was in hospital having a psychotic break because her response was in complete sentences. With capital letters.

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

ha ha ha!

Poor girl that sounds agony.

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Lol
Apparently no end punctuation is very important as well.

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Yes! Teenagers! I have 2 but teach 7th and 8th graders too. So I got, “Your eyeliner is on point.” And, “You’ve got swag.” (I thought that was outdated but apparently not.)

I tell them to keep things on the down low, but they tell me that’s ancient and what I meant to say was low key. Lol

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago

Hahahaha.

nomar
nomar
7 years ago

Wednesday’s post election column has 622 comments. I challenge Chump Nation to post *more* than 622 comments on this column. To show there is more that unites people of goodwill than divides us, more joy in the universe than pain. God bless Chump Nation.

Maree
Maree
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

nomar, your challenge has been met and surpassed. Congratulations to CN as you have shown there is more that unites people of goodwill than divides us.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

I’ve been saving this thread for this evening. Parked in front of my computer, kids in bed reading, got icecream and tea (Yay Sensodyne!). Reading all the great comments and trying to leave nice comments where I can! 🙂

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Love your new avatar CDL!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Thank you! I am a rockstar after all! 😉

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago

Spoke to the senior partner at my lawyers office yesterday. He feels that with as much dirt as I have on Miserable Vomitus Mass( yes, I loved that so much I stole it!) that if we can get mediation done in the next 2 weeks (mandatory in my state) I might get the divorce final on Dec 1st. Freedom! Glorious freedom!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

Cautious hooray from me! Hoping an early December divorce for you! 🙂

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago

Hooray!!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago

😀

Sionara
Sionara
7 years ago

My divorce will be one week from today. I’m finishing the second week of my new job, a good, full-time job using skills I’ve honed and an intellect I had suppressed under layers of low-level anxiety, sensing something was wrong but not knowing what. I am living as an authentic person, without his decades of lies. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know it’s better–and getting better every day!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

Awesome Sionara! I’m just under one week away myself! I can hardly wait! The future will be glorious!

+1 for getting laid! 😀

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

While none of us know what the future holds you are rocking this Sionsra!

Sionara
Sionara
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

Oh, and DemHoes, I, too got laid!!!!!!

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

AWESOME

mavis
mavis
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

+ 1 lol 😀

Toni
Toni
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you CL! I haven’t been here in quite a while..for the longest time it put my head back in that bad place you all helped me escape but trying to escape the election I came back here (which remained one of my favorites) and I am once again reassured (I peeked from time to time) that I wasn’t letting anyone down here by staying away. My how the site has grown! ???So my good things are – barely ever think about that monster, I went back to painting and have actually sold some of my art, and I think the most important thing to me is I am a rock for my two grown girls and my Grands and that means the most. They were SO there for me and I love being healthy enough to switch roles again. Love you all!!! ‘Specially you CL! ??

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Yes, Sir, Boss!

Your rules and they make absolute sense.

Working It Out
Working It Out
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I appreciate your thick skin 🙂

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

And that, chumps, is a beautiful model of setting healthy boundaries. Spot on, CL.

CRHCHK
CRHCHK
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

+1

violet
violet
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you for keeping this site a place where we can come to heal, not fight. I have been so blue, for many reasons. But the people I love have been so concerned and supportive. Both my daughters sent me beautiful flowers, with heart felt messages. Gardening is what keeps me sane, so I took two days off from work and have started my winter flower garden, So far, I have planted pansies, violas, snap dragons and dianthus. I am waiting for my bulbs to arrive and, in the meantime, I have been preparing my beds for winter. My garden is better than any anti-depressant ever invented. Oh, and it looks like I am going to have a bumper crop of key limes, Meyer lemons, and tangerines. Even some of my temperamental herbs are behaving!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  violet

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ahhhhh Ian, you sweet thang!! I know this is for violet, and she so deserves it!
But it really touched me, for some reason.
Blessings, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Always a blessing to hear from you, Virago.

I was just riffing on Børnes’s butterfly and the tangerine blossoms. Voila.

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Don’t stay silent, my man.
I miss your voice! ??

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

No reply button, Ian! Thanks, honey. This is a beautiful piece. And yes, he was hurt often by women. Betrayed by his female friend (“part of his family”) who embezzled his money late in his life. Forever in love with Marianne, for whom he wrote lovely, poetic expressions near her death not ;long before his own. Remarkable. Always a gentleman when I met him on the streets of our city, standing out by his elegance and charm, tipping his hat to me (a stranger).

I just copy/paste the youtube address and it brings it fully here. Just lucky:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrLk4vdY28Q&feature=youtu.be

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Leonard Cohen was a bit of a stretch for me for some reason. I always sought out female vocalists, so Match Girl introduced me to him, really.

(posting youtube works with preview when you leave the “s” off of the “https” in the URL)

http://youtu.be/YrLk4vdY28Q

Don’t know if this is authoritative, but it’s a very good organ player here. And the lyric:

“Well, maybe there’s a god above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot somebody who outdrew you”

I don’t think Leornard was a chump, but this lyric makes him seem like he was wounded first at least once.

I hate 2016!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  violet

Kbchump
Kbchump
7 years ago

I’ve been working construction after my wife left, great pay but long hours and at 52 I’m pretty tired when I get home..Tuesday night I got home and just fell asleep on my bed. My daughter came home a little later and woke me up with a Crunch Wrap Supreme from Taco Bell..made my night..love that kid

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

Ahhh. I love it when I hear of kids being sweet to their parents. It really is the seemingly small things that are so great.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

<3 Very sweet of her! 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

Tuesdays are just the best KB, right?

Kbchump
Kbchump
7 years ago

They sure are buddy!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump
Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

??❤️

ANC
ANC
7 years ago

I jumped back into the PT paid work world this year consulting a smallish foreign start-up. I have busted my buttocks placing my client in secondary and tertiary segments where their product is an obvious fit. Found out late last month that they are a finalist for an big recognition award in the first market segment that they initially hired me for consult work.

Yay!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Good job! 🙂

And I totally agree with the fact that us stay at home chumps, who’ve raised the kids and cared for the home are just as important in the making of a corporate career as the person in the actual career. My cheater could not have climbed the ladder like he did if it hadn’t been for me. I found his college, I suggested people to contact for employment after college, I took care of kids, house and dogs. Dinner was always on the table for him when he came home. I always worked my ass off to stretch the dollar, to compensate for his spending habits, so that we could afford more. I never nagged. I would ask once, and if it wasn’t done, I would do stuff myself, without trying to be resentful. A lot of us stay at home chumps made our spouses lives very easy, and they’ll be surprised when they get out in to the real world, without us coddling them.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Yes, yes, and yes. My ex has no idea how to manage life or finances on his own. Rude awakening straight ahead!

paula
paula
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Wowza – I don’t know what any of this means but I’m impressed as shit!!!! Swear to God – this makes me want to update my resume and make another career push. Thank you for the inspiration!!

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Side note to chumps who left their careers to support the careers of their chumps- I left my job in the mid-90’s to support asshat’s climb up the ladder. During that time I had 4 kids, a few foreign moves and a few domestic moves as a SAHM.

Asshat is considered successful by his title. And I will ALWAYS remember how the CIO of a major retail pharmacy bluntly reminded him, when be was telling her of his last promotion, to never forget that he didn’t get there by himself. Never forget the people in the background (us chumps) are a big part of the reason they achieve success.

My point to chumps who left their career-building jobs for 5+yrs is to get out there and begin to volunteer in organizations that speak to you. Gain relevant, updated knowledge in a field of your interest. Apply your existing skills because they are relevant. Even your new chump skills. Jobs can be found via networking and for some us older contributors, networking is the best way to overcome Ageism in the hiring process.

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Well said, ANC.

Although why people prefer young people when they can have a mature, grateful experience older person is beyond me.

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

*support Cheaters* not chumps

walkingthruhell
walkingthruhell
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Staying home to raise kids put such a hole in my resume that my job skills became outdated. I’m back at school fine-tuning my science background for a new career – will graduate at the age of 48! ANC’s comment about networking is so true. Perhaps we should start a “LinkedIn for Chumps”!

Chris W.
Chris W.
7 years ago

I give you two heartwarming stories in the news I’ve run across over the last month. If you Google “McDonald conjoined twins”, you’ll read about 2 beautiful baby boys who were conjoined at the head, who’ve been surgically separated, and are doing well!! Literally brain surgery, people. Their mother, Nicole Mcdonald, has a Facebook page with pics of the separated babies and that they’re progressing each day.

The other story I’d have you Google is Dr William Petit, who 9 years ago lost his entire family in a horrific home invasion, got remarried a few years ago, has a new baby boy, and just this week got elected to State legislature.

Not puppies, but stories of rebirth, renewal, hope through devastating tragedy, new beginnings, rising through adversity, never giving up and perseverance.

Peace to all.

AlohaFreedom
AlohaFreedom
7 years ago
Reply to  Chris W.

I remember the Petit story from the news! That was horrific.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

I’m in my first job, post child birth. First job in 7 1/2 years. It’s nothing fancy, I’m “just” a cashier. But I’m hellbent on not remaining a cashier forever. The quote from Legally Blonde comes to mind: But if I’m going to be a partner in a law firm by the time I’m 30, I need a boyfriend who’s not such a complete bonehead.

So, I’m busting my butt. One of my supervisors came to me the other day and told me to go work on a lane. I asked why (I’ve been on self checkout lanes a lot lately), and he said: Because you’re so good at it. You’re a rockstar wherever I put you. 😀

But yeah, if I’m going to make store manager by the time I’m 40, I’m going to need to work hard, and not have a bonehead husband.

6 more days! 😀

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Oh! To add to this, I just got a personal recognition from a customer from one of my supervisors. It’s always nice when the customers go to that extra step to make sure we’re appreciated. 🙂

kmanning
kmanning
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

You are a rockstar CDL…and I know ’cause I know you in real life. You are a smart, funny, gorgeous chick who also happens to be one helluva great mom.

I can’t wait to see how you continue to lead a kick-ass life post-divorce, minus The Magical One.

Jedi hugs!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  kmanning

You do!?!? 😛 Now I’m curious. 😉

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Elle is the best role model! Congratulations!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Congrats CrazyDogLady!

You mention, – “and not have a bonehead husband”

Did you mean – and not have a BONER for an EX-husband? 🙂

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

I wish he had a boner… But even that was hard for him at times 😛

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Hahahah Friday night laughs!!

paula
paula
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

OMG – legit snort!!!! Thanks CDL

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Great job, CDL! We all know you WILL make store manager some day! And you are not “just” a cashier. ALL jobs are important!! This is a long time ago (early 80’s), but I started as “just” a cashier at McDonald’s and worked my way to management in two years. I was the head manager of the store within a few years. Now I know a lot of people will think it’s “just” McDonalds (no doubt my exes elite accounting co-workers looked down on me — one “man” even called me a gold digger to my face and of course my fiancé, my now ex, just stood there and didn’t stand up for me even though I was making more a year than him!!), but it was a very hard job and I learned a lot about a lot of different subjects about running a restaurant. Go get ‘um, CDL!!!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Congrats, CDL!!!

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

It’s wonderful to see you get recognition for your intelligence, your work ethic, and your drive. That’s light years from being devalued by a cheater. Rockstar!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago

An amazing sweet man sent me flowers for no reason at all other than to make me feel loved. Needless to say it worked!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

That’s awesome! 🙂 I’d love some flowers. I should go buy myself some this weekend! We all deserve some flowers 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Well Dixie, I’m sure you made one lucky man very happy also. 🙂

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago

I have the world’s greatest neighbors! The constantly check up on me, fixed my toilets, trimmed this tree from hell growing in my yard that is a moss magnet. When I thanked him for trimming the tree, he said, “wasn’t me, it was the tree bandit!” Thank you Mr. Tree Bandit!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Awesome neighbours! Mine called the police on me during the post D-Day haze for giant weeds and unmowed lawn. Appreciate the good ones <3

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

You, too, CrazyDogLady? (Looks like we share more than just tons of dogs.) My sanctimonious neighbor across the street (now known as ‘Weed Nazi’) called the Homeowner’s Association on me twice for weeds & an uncut lawn the week my divorce was final.

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Why didn’t they come over and help you?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Ironically, a few months later the Weed Nazi’s husband came to help me mow my lawn. The Weed Nazi herself is a superficially nice person, is highly judgmental, with no compassion, and apparently a coward (she could have said, “Hey, my lawn mowers are coming Tuesday, want me to send them over?). I have known her underlying crappy character for years, so no surprise she called the homeowner’s association. But it was a huge blow at the time, when I was still feeling slightly suicidal 4 months after D-day.

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Good neighbors are the best. I am so lucky to have them also.

Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

?❤️

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago

What I think we all want after dday is karma. Yes, for the cheater to get what they deserve the most in the most devastating way.

I will admit that I was one of those people. I wanted my ex wife to go down in flames. Well guess what, she did. But I will admit it didn’t make me feel the way I thought I would. Quite honestly, I felt the exact opposite. I was and am very sad on what she did to herself and how it effected my kids.

It wasn’t until I received the real karma – the genuine karma – that landed me to meh. You see to me, karma should be about all the good that should come to me and not all the bad that goes to her. I deserve good!

Once I figured this out, this allowed me to shift the focus from her to me. All the good that I deserve was dormant all these years. Once I got her out of my life, and quit wishing the bus to hit her and focused on myself all the good came in abundance.

Toni
Toni
7 years ago

The genuine Karma – love that!

mavis
mavis
7 years ago

^^^^^^^ THIS! EXACTLY 😀

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  mavis

Thank you Martha and Mavis.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

SureChumped

I created my ‘divorce vows’

Living better is the best revenge. I do.
Look at actions . I do
Leave a cheater and gain a life. I do.
I can drive my own bus. I do.
I can only control myself. I do.

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Inspiring.
Thank you so much for sharing this idea!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Doingme,

And you showing us that you are an intelligent, resilient, and probably one of the wisest and strongest people we have ever known. I do.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Ok SureChumped now I’m blushing. At least I got to keep those assets.

I’m going to use that CS if I ever get married again. Unchumped and Meh would look good on a Tee.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Haha, blushing is good!! Yes, you keep those assets, you earned them!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

I now pronounce you unchumped and Meh, Donna!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

I really like your “divorce vows.” I’m going to make my own, too. Thanks for the idea. 🙂

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago

And you deserve all the “good that came in abundance” (including that Cub win!).

I’m with you–I am now 2 years, 2 months exactly from D-day; yesterday was my 2 year file-aversary, and I have reached a state of zen that I did not think possible given my personality ; ). I recognize what I can and cannot change & act accordingly. I have achieved the ability to see the silver lining in bad circumstances (e.g., my house didn’t sell in time for me to satisfy the contingency on a house I reeeeaaalllly wanted, but my current house looks great after all the repairs and tidying up!).

I wouldn’t wish infidelity on anyone, but the fact that it happened to me brought me into this wonderful, warm, witty, wise CL community, where I have made lifelong friends.

I have experienced love and kindness from unexpected places (e.g., the neighbors on either side of me who, after seeing my exertions with a pushmower, have their lawn people cut as far over onto my boundary as they can). Betrayal opens our eyes to bad in the world, but with open eyes we also see good with more clarity.

A metaphor for my new outlook–as I left the dog shelter after volunteering the other day, the most fantastic rainbow appeared. May it have gold at the end of it for all of us.

Chumptitude
Chumptitude
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Thank you Tempest for all your wit and wisdom!! I’m also two years post-DDay, I have longer and longer stretches at Meh, still a long way to go, but I don’t get triggered nor baited as easily as I used to… So there is progress!

Another good thing? Being part of CN, huge thanks to CL for creating and nurturing this incredible community of survivors!!!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumptitude

and to you, Chumptitude/Meme Queen, for all your wit & wisdom! I’m sure Meh is hard to achieve when you’re still trying to parallel-parent with a fuckwit. (I myself am enjoying my zen, but have no intention of getting to Meh–cheaters still make me too angry and there is a Chump Revolution to fight!)

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumptitude

and to you, Chumptitude/Meme Queen, for all your wit & wisdom! I’m sure Meh is hard to achieve when you’re still trying to parallel-parent with a fuckwit. (I myself am enjoying my zen, but have not intention of getting to Meh–cheaters still make me too angry and there is a Chump Revolution to fight!)

CRHCHK
CRHCHK
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

?????!!!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

“Zen” is the keyword here Tempest. So happy to see your serenity transformation this past year. Very proud of you!

IMO, “Meh” comes with “Zen” – It’s amazing that both of these 3 lettered words are so powerful and life-changing. Even more amazing to me is really believing that “good things come in three.”

“The power of three is a principle that suggests that things that come in threes are funnier, more satisfying, or more effective than other numbers of things.” I Believe this whole-heartedly, just as my “3 little birds.”

Does this mean the Cubs will have 2 more World Series victories in the next couple years? Hail to a “three-peat” for the Cubbies!

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I love you, Tempest, because your character and integrity are present in every single sentence you write here.

There are many angels on this site. In this season of thanksgiving, I am grateful for all of you.

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago

This is so true! Mine is slowly continuing to fall apart. I am concerned now as how the kids will adjust to it. They are good kids and love her no matter what. I just hope they don’t get pulled into her drama. I am working with them trying to teach them how to set healthy boundaries. It has been good for a few laughs for me and helping me realize I wasn’t the person that destroyed her. It was her! Looking forward MEH as well. We will get to the point where hearing about them is like watching a story on the news.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  lostntx

Lostntx,

The kids will adjust because that’s what “good kids” always do. Job well done on continually teaching them healthy boundaries all these past years. Your kids sound very compassionate and respectful because they “love her no matter what.”

So when Mom crosses the Maginot line and embarrasses them in front of their friends, or become victims of collateral damage, just be present and available to escort them back to the safe and healthy side.

I feel Meh is just around the corner for you lostntx. Just remember, you will know when you are at Meh, when you *choose* to change the channel on your TV remote when a news story comes on that has been re-played over and over and over.

Tuesday is just around the corner, keep fresh batteries in your TV remote.

Kbchump
Kbchump
7 years ago

This is so true…I soooo wanted to hear how my ex wife was crashing and burning and not working for 2 years and totally dependent on her fuck buddy for spending money …but as time marches on I’ve realized I don’t give a shit anymore what happens to her it doesn’t affect me anymore as my kids are grown and I can be totally zero contact which is where I’ve been for well over a year now..just focusing on ourselves and our family that sticks by us is the key

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

Good karma to me and all of us chumps! I like that focus instead, too. 🙂

Capricorn
Capricorn
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

SureChumpedAlot

That is a lovely way to turn that karma thing around. I’m going to start thinking this way from now. ❤️

What a great idea this Friday challenge is. A healing kind of thing.

All the posts are going to give us all a well deserved Chump lift.

Mag
Mag
7 years ago

Knowing I would be distressed due to the election results and after a morning of trying to cheer up a few actually crying students – four students snuck into my room and hid behind a big table. “PPpsssst!, Ms. Magnito! Do you have any extra white paint in here??? How about a tan marker?? We want to stay here!”
Best thing the 4th best friend hiding is about as caucasion as you can get.

Why was he hiding? He just wanted to be with his friends…. talk about solidarity!

You can’t make this stuff up. At first I jumped, but then I laughed, because they took time out of their day to try to cheer me up.

ArmchairPsychology
ArmchairPsychology
7 years ago
Reply to  Mag

I’m guessing you teach a diverse crowd?

Sausalito
Sausalito
7 years ago

While shopping in the Nike Outlet Store with two teenagers and a cart full of expensive (even at outlet prices) gear, a random man walked up to me and handed me a coupon for $50 off because it was about to expire and he couldn’t use it. Unfortunately, my first reaction was to be suspicious that it was some kind of scam, but it worked at checkout! Thank you, kind stranger, for saving me money, and opening my eyes to the fact that not everyone is trying to put one over on me…

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Sausalito

I love doing that to people! I once had extra Haute Cash from Torrid, so I handed one out to another lady in line. And once in line at my grocery store, I had extra $5 off coupons I knew I wasn’t going to use, so I handed them out to everyone in the line. 🙂

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Sausalito

That is so wonderful when someone give you a coupon to help you save money!! I’ve had that happen to me a few times over the years and I’ve paid it forward myself. It’s always such a good feeling!! 🙂

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

I have one for you all. MY HOUSE CLOSED YESTERDAY!!!!! Next week gonna go find a place to live my own little house. Moving five hours from asswipe and going totally no contact! Thanks traci, thanks chump nation and a big shout out to my girl jeep tess!!!!!! I so excited. In just a couple weeks i will be gone finally and im taking my three antidepressants with me. Glory glory joy joy!!! Thank you for this site traci!!! Im free!!!!!!! Ive gained a life!!!!!!

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

That is wonderful news. Congratulations!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Thank you!!

Finally Awake
Finally Awake
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Congratulations to a well deserved escape. We all look forward to hearing all about you new and improved life.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

Thanks fa!!+

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Go you! 😀 Find a nice place! Get friends over to help you spruce it up. I’m excited for you!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Thank you. Im excited too!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Oh Kar, one more thing….did you realize that you thanked every.single.person that responded to your post? You are one thankful woman! You’re the best!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

I try sure chump. I am thankful. So thankful. And excited!!!! I dont know about the best but i am good!

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Hooray for Kar marie!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Hip hip hooray! Thank you!!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

********************Kar you Rock********************

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Thank you surechumped. Whoo hoo!

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

KarMarie, I’m soooooo happy for you!!!!!!! Yay!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Thanks!

The Ex-orcist
The Ex-orcist
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar Marie-so happy you finally closed on the house. I hope you never see that asshole again as long as you live. You are a lovely lady, please keep us posted on your future endeavors. Ha!!! Can’t wait for that pervert mofo to know he is completely on his own without your presence in his life. Don’t forget to leave his lovely photography as a parting gift. Much love to you my dear. Forge ahead and be mighty!!! With your babies?

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  The Ex-orcist

Thanks so much ex-or! I am leaving the photos for that pod. Im free to be me finally. Big hugs!!!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Yeah Kar marie! I know you’ve been wanting to go contact and now you can! Congrats!!!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Thanks cs! My actress days are over! Free to be me!!!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Congrats!!! 🙂

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Thanks!

JeepTess
JeepTess
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

((((((((KAR MARIE)))))))))

You are TRULY MIGHTY!!!!

YOU MADE IT! 😀

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  JeepTess

You know i love you girl! We are mighty!!!!

Tessie
Tessie
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

I am sooo happy for you! You GO GIRL!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Tessie

Thanks tessie! Three and half years but im at the end!

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

That is awesome! It’s always good to accomplish one thing so you can continue to move on. Good luck on finding a new home. I move into my cheater memory free new home in 12 days. Wish it was 5 hours away but that will come once the daughter graduates high school. Fill your memories now with good times in your new area and home!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  lostntx

Yes yeah for us!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Hip, hip hooray! Kar! Peace and Love to you!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Thanks. Im free!!!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Couldn’t have happened to a nicer person, Kar marie.

So glad to hear you’re moving soooooon.

Here’s a picture of you driving off and side-swiping his dumb ass on your way out!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Hahahahahahahaa! Spitting my coffee!!! Damn thats funny! My male pup loves coffee. Thanks ian!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Oh wait. Here’s a shot of his moving truck!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

My wish for asswipe is his life ends up smashed and dragged off that that truck! You always make me laugh!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

arrgh

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ian … You always crack me up! Every time!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Thats it! Coffee on the floor! Male pup on cafeine high! Stop! my sides hurt from laughing. I actually saw this happen one time.
I hope this happens to his life. Ive seen karma already i will hear about more later. My grandma always told me you get out of life what you put into it! She was right! Thanks ian you made my day!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar…….xoxoxoxoxox! Congrats!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Thank you xoxoxoxo!!!

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

That is wonderful news indeed.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  LovedaJackass

Thanks laj!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Fantastic news!!!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Thank you. The madness is finally over! Ye fucking ha!!

heather
heather
7 years ago

Secondary to some issues with my ex and his 4th wife, my children and I started fostering kittens. That’s been awesome in and of itself but that fostering has spawned my 4tg graders science project where she is using posters to get the long term cats adopted at out city animal shelter. That would have been awesome itself but in trying to get a local TV personality who loves pets get the animal poster s on TV, I wrote to him and he had her come on TV yesterday for animal shelter worker appreciation week. Awesome awesome…but as I sat on the sidelines watching as a proud mommy I met a shelter worker who will hopefully work with me to start a program where my Veterans with whom I work can volunteer with the shelter cats who are scared ….I am so fucking blessed.

kaycan
kaycan
7 years ago
Reply to  heather

That is beautiful, heather! Life is good!

Heather
Heather
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

Thank you 😉

Capricorn
Capricorn
7 years ago

I bought myself a Father Christmas indoor gnome today. I never used to buy things for myself. My first step towards making my first cheater free Christmas an occasion of love, joy and happiness.
I love Christmas and instead of feeling ashamed this year, of my utter sentimentality I am going to celebrate it.
It cheers me up no end to think about wintery evenings, mulled wine, mince pies and days with my three boys.
And after that? I remember someone here said that they had found ‘the one’ and it was herself. So my Valentine’s Day is going to be huge!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Capricorn

I love Christmas too. I’ve always kept decorations to a minimum, because STBX didn’t like the fuss. This year? I’m getting more stuff. And then I’m going crazy at the after Christmas sale for next year.

IF I ever find someone to share my life with again, I don’t want him being a grinch, like this one was.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Capricorn

Gnomes are awesome!! I hope it (he?) cheers you up all holiday season.

bree-zerc
bree-zerc
7 years ago

Kicked him to the kerb today!!! MIGHTY and POSITIVE! And my very first CN post… ☺️

Toni
Toni
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Yay Bree-zerk! This place serves up miracles as long as you follow the advice. It is the hardest thing I think I’ve ever done but I wish this site had been here sooner because I was Chumped more than once. My gratitude knows no limits for how I turned my life around.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Good for you. Keep coming here. You will never find a more understanding, supporting, and funny group.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome here, Bree-zerc! And good for you for getting rid of dead weight! 😀

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Kicked him to the curb Bree-zerc….great job. The curb will lead him to the sewer in which he belongs.

Stay mighty and from this point forward, make sure you start doing for yourself!

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome Bree-zerc! I can’t wait to hear your story and support you through this painful time as all of CN has been supporting me. Welcome to the club no one wants to join (but is eternally grateful for!)

The Ex-orcist
The Ex-orcist
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome to the voice of reason at CL. Our leader can and does save lives. You are safe here in supportive company. I PROMISE you will survive but you have a lot of work to do and it’s not easy work. Fortunately for you, you are where you belong!!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

You are mighty bree-zerc!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Supporting you!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome, Bree-zerc! 🙂 We are here for you and big (((HUGS))) to you, you MIGHTY chump!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome, Bree-zerc. You’re in for a roller coaster of emotions, but nothing softens the blow like CN.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Hugs!!! Best wishes on your new life!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  bree-zerc

Welcome brezz this is the very best site for comfort care and the outpouring of common sense. We are all here for you.

Bree-zerc
Bree-zerc
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Thanks KM, I have been an avid observer of some CN for some months now… the feasting of cake was just too much to bare today!!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Bree-zerc

Bree

Welcome to the club that sets you free to gain a life!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Bree-zerc

We are here for you. Post and post often it heals the heart and soul. I would be planted underground if it were for this site. It truly is life and soul saving.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago

Today is Veteran’s Day. I would like to thank all of our Veterans for their service and allowing us to enjoy all that is in our lives today.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Now that is classy NMSB.

Thanks you all to all Veterans for all you do for us and all the sacrifices you make.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago

Sure xoxoxox

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Yes, thank you Veterans!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Absolutely!! Thanks to all of our veterans.

Disillusioned
Disillusioned
7 years ago

Today someone dear to me and hundreds of miles away let me know they’re thinking of me. The sun popped out long enough this morning to give me a beautiful picture of bright orange, yellow and green leaves against deep gray clouds. It’s just over a year past D-Day and the good days are starting to out number the bad.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Disillusioned

This time of year is beautiful. And soon, every time of year will be beautiful. <3

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Disillusioned

I am so very happy to hear that Disillusioned! It does keep getting better! xoxoxoxox

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago

I just found out that X is living in the back room of his STORE, taking showers in a garbage can. Yes…a garbage can! This was the very place where he was secretly meeting up with his last Ho and when I busted him.

I also got proof four days ago of his cheating starting from the first six months of our marriage. I had boxes and boxes of old business records outside, and a huge rain storm soaked all the papers through and through. I had to sort through every one of them to salvage what I could, and lo and behold, seven months of his cell phone records were there. I could not help but notice the call logs were enormous…and kept seeing the same number hundreds of times per month…only during times that I was asleep between 10pm and 4am. Thousands of minutes on every bill.

Here is the biggest thing…IT DID NOT HURT ME AT ALL.

PucksMuse
PucksMuse
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

I keep trying to think of a funny, smart comment, but I keep giggling. Enjoy that garbage shower, jackass.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  PucksMuse

(as a punk rocker who was stuck in Texas in the 80s, Roaring, that sounds pretty glamorous, and I’d love to hear some Blondie – Ramones stories if you’ve got any, tbh

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ian, surprisingly, I have a lot of brushes with the Ramones. I was an X and a Clash girl. Still am – lots of prescient lyrics.

I LOVE me some Texas music. Bob Wills, Lyle Lovett…

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

I was thinking afterward The Cramps. Saw them in Austin. Lux.

I have always been British punk, so yes, The Clash and Pistols, but again you said NYC. Not LA. Listening to Oingo Boingo today. Seriously commercial, I know, but so LA.

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

I met joey Ramone having a smoke in an alley before a concert. I said hey and he said hey. Always loved that man.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Can we call your ex Oscar? As in the grouch who lives in a trash can…

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago

Hmm…he was never grouchy though. Why would he be? He had his whores and the wife appliance…what more could a man want? I think “Oscar Award” would be a tad bit more fitting since his acting skills pretending to be a Stellar Christian Leader were stunning.

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Perfect.

RockStarWife
RockStarWife
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Glad that you are escaping the effects of Oscar the Grouch (life imitates Sesame Street).

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Showering in a garbage can?!? All I can think of is, “Well, isn’t that special?”

Congrats on the no-more-pain, Sweetz. That state is hard-won.

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

When we were renovating our house four years ago, I custom designed and had a shower built for him that was fit for a (very large) King. He would often brag about it to people. When I first met him, he was living in the back of his store also…turns out this was after being kicked to the curb by his prior wife too, rather than the story he concocted. Wheels on the bus go round and round.

The garbage can shower thing is very befitting on many levels…not only is it designed to hold large amounts of “trash”, but it signifies the end of a dignified life that I had helped him to achieve…plus, he is a SLOB. He is now living with cockroaches, this I know for a fact because of all the garbage he leaves back there from lunches not disposed of for weeks on end. Yuck.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Cockroaches. My ex told me with pride that his new apartment came with free professional roach spray service monthly! Gee! Ya think that maybe that means you’ve got “room mates” there, Einstein?!?! Nope … Didn’t compute. He just loves freebies!!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

He should probably buy a gas mask, or make sure he’s out of the building on pest control day, or, you know….

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Un fucking believable. You can’t make this shit up. Why in the world did he choose this? Idiot.

If I was in a relationship with someone who loved me enough to DESIGN A SHOWER FOR MY PLEASURE, I would not only never leave that person, I would spend my life trying to live up to that honor.

You have provided a perfect image of entitlement and the perfect ending to a cheater narrative. I’m sorry you lived it, though.

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

I think he chose to live back there because he THINKS that I will eventually miss him and invite him back home…he thought that too regarding his ex wife before me (obviously, no dice). He does not want to waste money getting furniture and an apartment. That’s the only thing that I can figure without giving him too much real estate in my head…he also prides himself in being able to be “innovative” and a minimalist…having the survivalist mentality. After we got our relationship off the ground, he only moved out of that back room and got his own tiny apartment once he thought that he was going to need a large bed for having sex with me. It was never about not being able to afford better.

PucksMuse
PucksMuse
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Or he thinks you’ll feel so sorry for him, living in squalor that you’ll rescue him.

Nope.

Continue to marinate in garbage juice.

oaktree
oaktree
7 years ago
Reply to  PucksMuse

Sweetz and Roaring, I am so glad to hear you are away from such nasty jerks. Also, I had never seen Guy on a Buffalo. I love Guy a on a Buffalo.

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Mine too! He was a back-to-the-lander in his twenties – lived in a teepee on his uncle’s enormous ranch.

I thought it was refreshingly original. He and I are the same age and, while I didn’t know him then, during those same years I was a punk rocker in Alphabet City in the East Village and had never met anyone like him before.

Since D-day, I discovered that he had essentially been “banished” there after his fundamentalist Christian family discovered the extent of his sexual molestation of his little sister (for eight years).

Everything I thought was good about that guy turns out to have been the “cover” for something fucked up. Another example is that we dated for three years and I only met his sister and mom. I thought he had a very small FOO – like me! Another thing we shared in common!

NOPE! He had relatives coming out the wazoo. Further, the incest thing goes back generations.

Arghhh!

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

That is scary. When I first dated mine he slept on a king mattress on the floor in a small apartment. He is back to a mattress on the floor and proud of it.

EyesOpenNow
EyesOpenNow
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Roaring, that video made me laugh out loud! Thanks for sharing! And I’m sorry your cheater was such an awful human being, and so proud of your strong daughter! I hope you are feeling better soon. (((Jedi hugs to you!)))

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Roaring & Sweetz: I am horrified on both your behalves. Some of these cheaters are monsters who do not deserve to continue breathing.

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

The X was also a Porn addict. Spent into the wee hours in the morning spanking his monkey while I went to bed alone the entire 10yrs marriage. It is just as well…he only wanted blow jobs and anal sex…

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

We are Sister Wives – or married to the same jerk.

I’ve felt humiliated in my circle of friends because the situation is so sordid. They don’t judge, but I am ashamed.

To realize this is going on across the nation is both sad and helpful for me. I am so grateful for Chump Lady and the people on this site.

I just pain shopped and looked at a picture of his smiling face holding up his mug of beer with his fat arm around a 22-year-old cutie pie at the bar where he hangs out every night. I hate that I’m sick and alone (even though I have so so many blessings and advantages) and he’s having the life he wants.

I wanted to have the life I want to. And I know I still can and I’m working on it but I’ve had a flair up of an illness I’ve been dealing with for two months and it hurts and the meds are making me an emotional wreck and everything feels so unfair blah blah blah.

This is a great thread today, though. I’ve watched all the videos and songs that people have shared. It really really helps.

Here’s my offering. It’s ridiculous and I love it: Guy on a Buffalo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJ4T9CQA0UM

Sweetz
Sweetz
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

OMG…the X tried to get sex from his 17yr old daughter (was caught in the act)…and HIS dad was having sex with his younger sister for years…and the X’s first wife was sexually molested by HER father. So the X went for vulnerable/clueless women who project their own goodness onto him. Predator.

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Someday I would like to be the kind of person who would like to be able to see how terrible and fucked-up these losers lives are.

I struggle with wondering what my karma is that I’ve been so blind and put my daughter in harm’s way (fortunately she is a bad ass and recently revealed that he tried to put his hand in her underpants when she was nine but she told him loudly and clearly to GET YOUR HANDS OUT OF THERE and neither one ever breathed a word of it to me. x because he. is. the. devil. Beloved daughter because I was newly married and she wanted me to be happy – and as it turned out, something had happened to her at her dad’s even earlier and she’d followed her gut. She tells me now she just thought that’s what you’re supposed to do. BAD ASS. And she’s 5′ 6″ and 105 lbs. – tiny her whole life! I’ve always thought the best thing about her bio-dad is that she’s never had my side of the family’s thighs! ha.)

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

And he, too, when we started dating, owned a three bedroom house. He slept in a guest room on a twin-sized futon mattress on the floor (no frame).

Very little furniture. Just an enormous desktop monitor (20 years ago size) and a chair. I didn’t have a clue (yet – cue ‘Jaws’ theme music) about internet porn so assumed he was a minimalist.

Nope. Just cheap and stupid.

He got our three bedroom house in the divorce. Sleeps on our queen sized bed but no sheets. TV room has our giant flat screen and an easy chair.

FLASHBACK! He showed me who he was in 1996. I was blind. Now I see clearly.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Sweetz

Hahahahahahaha….a shower in a garbage can…poetic justice! To be a fly on the wall!

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
7 years ago

Two years out from the final D-day when Mr. Sparkles discarded me and our family. One year out from when I filed for divorce. Completed mediation yesterday. I got everything I wanted (and had originally filed for). Divorce should be final by year end.

The key to success… DOCUMENTATION. I invested countless hours in it and it paid off. It is the only thing a court cares about in the end.

To the new chumps, stay strong. Brush your teeth today. Take a walk. Be gentle with yourself. You’ll get here too. It just takes time.

To CL and CN… I would not have made it without you. Thank you for showing up.

Rock on Chump Nation.

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago

Good for you and a lesson for chumps, even those attempting reconciliation. Document!

MT
MT
7 years ago

I wrote what I think may just be one of the most empowering break-up songs of all time. It felt great to write it!!! I’ll have to figure out how to share it with CN, if that’s okay with Tracy. I really appreciate all of you here. It feels good to be home with sane people.

MT

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  MT

For some reason your link didn’t work for me, and in case someone else has the same issues, Google helped me find you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XO2JRns1S1M

And you have a wonderful voice. And the song is great, so fitting for all of us here.

oaktree
oaktree
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Thanks, CDL, that one worked for me. Great song, MT! Congrats, and thanks for the inspiring melody!

MT
MT
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Thanks. I’m so glad I got up the nerve to share. Tracy, seriously, your site is life-changing. So grateful. I have one I wrote after the first D-day. Had a beautiful toddler at home. A career that was growing. A loving nice husband. So I thought, until the worst D-Day. Then at my immediate dr visit, learned I was pregnant. My fairytale was totally shattered. So, thoughts of despair and anger led me to Cinderella and this original of mine.

CINDY’S LAMENT
“Never Marry a Man After Just One Dance”
https://myspace.com/merrymuses/music/song/cindy-s-lament-10773079-10574263

Mary
Mary
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

https://www.youtube.com/edit?video_id=XO2JRns1S1M

I’ll Get Over You
(Music and lyrics by a strong single woman for every chump who needs a little strength)

I’ll sever the ties that bind us.
I’ll cut you out of my mind!
I’ll purge ever-y-thing that you’ve ever touched,
Torch all these pictures and burn all your stuff!

And I’ll get over you.
I’ll get over you.
I will get over you!!!
You’ve made it so easy to do.

I’ll close the accounts
and I’ll cut up the cards.
I’ll change my name and thank my lucky stars,
That I learned the truth
While I still had my youth.

And I’ll get over you.
I’ll get over you.
I will get over you!!
You made it so easy to do.

At the end of the day,
You will be a faint memory,
In piles of dirt on the floor.
I won’t shed tear, I’ll just smile as I hum,
And sweep all your dust out the door.
Gonna sweep all your dust out the door.

And I’ll get over you.
I’ll get over you.
I will get over you!!!
You’ve made it so easy to do.

Mark my words and write down this date!
I’ll forget all about you, as you evaporate.
Let my final words to you be…

Fuck You, Asshole. I’m FREE!

MT
MT
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

You folks are so great! Thank you for listening. I’m glad you liked it. It has helped me heal. When I’ve had to be around him for kid purposes, I hum it under my breath and sing it in my head. I breathe it into the wind with accusation and it steels me. It me reminds me not to EVER be duped again.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  MT

Mighty!

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Just great! Thank you so much for sharing!

Pondscumbgone
Pondscumbgone
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Standing ovation!!!!!!!

EyesOpenNow
EyesOpenNow
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Great song! Very empowering! Thanks for sharing.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Thanks for sharing, Mary. I love it! 🙂

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Love it Mary.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Mary

Amazing.

Mary
Mary
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Thank you!!! Made me super nervous to record and publish something like this for everyone. But feel super empowered.

nomar
nomar
7 years ago

Mike Yung singing in the subways beneath New York City. Beauty where you’d least expect it, grace and seeetness amid the noise and grime.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-lb6Vuf8Wao

oaktree
oaktree
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

Wow, that was great.

NWBiblio
NWBiblio
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

I love this. Street performers — sharing their talent, so beautiful.

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago

The new development going on next door had a silver lining: my property is now “edge habitat,” and the deer spent most of the fall in my yard instead of just passing through. It’s been quite a show, with nursing babies and fights between the big boys–including one giant 8-point buck. And the wren is back and singing on my back deck.

LovedaJackass
LovedaJackass
7 years ago
Reply to  LovedaJackass

And one of my former students sent me flowers to thank me for believing in him. That was amazing.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  LovedaJackass

That’s awesome, LAJ. And for every student who sends you flowers, there are hundreds who are also grateful to you but quiet about it.

KittyClancy
KittyClancy
7 years ago

May I play for you all on my ukulele? A dose of Vitamin U to cheer you. Sing more, sigh less!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  KittyClancy

If Mary can post her song, I’m sure you can post Ukulele videos 🙂

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

As I walked home from work I noticed flowers still in bloom. They survived the frost and made me smile.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Well, you walking home made me smile. I like doing the same when I can. Life is good Doingme.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Faith in beauty. Life is good.

Eilonwy
Eilonwy
7 years ago

I spent an hour reading a novel and drinking coffee this morning with no drama. My younger child invited a friend to spend the night tonight. This will also occur without drama. There is no longer a raging whirlpool of selfishness swirling at the center of the household preventing the rest of us from making plans or enjoying small pleasures that don’t revolve around him. The opportunity to simply live an ordinary existence without conflict is a joy.

MT
MT
7 years ago
Reply to  Eilonwy

Amen. Hallelujah. You deserve it!!! I’m

JoleneM
JoleneM
7 years ago
Reply to  Eilonwy

I agree, life without that constant underlying tension feels good. I can actually enjoy all those little things in life.

FreeWoman
FreeWoman
7 years ago
Reply to  Eilonwy

Yes, that’s it, isn’t it? When the drama is gone, a lovely life emerges!

Lyn
Lyn
7 years ago

My warm, fuzzy Australian Shepherd sleeps on my lap in the evenings while I sit in my recliner. She’s so cuddly. Don’t know what I’d do without her.

Finally Free
Finally Free
7 years ago
Reply to  Lyn

I have an Aussie as well and he loves to lie on my lap when I sit in my recliner. He is total unconditional love. Having him in my life and my two wonderful sons and daughter-in-law have filled my life in ways I never expected. It has been 5 years for me and almost 1 year since my divorce and I would never have predicted that I would be this happy and contented. I think anyone going through a separation and divorce needs to know that it may take time, but all will be well.

Mamaooch
Mamaooch
7 years ago

My first grandchild was born 3 weeks ago today. My son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter are here for their first overnight visit. Best thing that has happened in our family since the divorce. Much love today.❤️

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Mamaooch

Congratulations! She’ll never know the Ugly! Only that Grandma loves her so much.

I wonder what she’ll call you? SO MUCH LOVE ahead!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Congratulations! The most amazing joy in my life is my granddaughter.
You are blessed.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Mamaooch

Congratulations on your new grandchild!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Mamaooch

Enjoy your new bundle of joy, Mamaooch!!!

Chumpfor21
Chumpfor21
7 years ago

On the topic of puppies: My old dog who has a medical condition which is expensive to treat (and who was readily abandoned by the jerk I was married to because the cheating/child abandoning excuse for a female didn’t like him …) learned to play with my son’s three month old black lab. What’s great about that, you might ask? Thunder paws previous to this, HATED puppies. Now he chases her and they tug a toy back and forth and they both are covered in slobber afterwards. But it makes me happy to see him play and enjoy himself.

Never too old to have fun or try something new! Thunder paws has taught me so much – how to love no matter what, how to smell and breathe, how to truly enjoy a cookie, how to defend what’s yours (he has issues with the foxes that steal birdseed on the porch, and deer – deer must be chased. They are not allowed anywhere near the house), how to be glad to be home or to go for a walk, and how to snuggle on the couch. He’s messy, very clumsy, really big, and inconvenient. But he is sweet and he makes me laugh and be grateful for life (when I thought I didn’t wanted to live). He has my undying devotion for being my dog and for getting me through the last three years. I know it will be hard when the treatments don’t work anymore and I’ll have to say goodbye to this wonderful creature. The grief is the price to pay for love but he’s worth it all.

Toni
Toni
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpfor21

My 2 cats have spooned with me when I’ve been down, one on each side. So comforting to feel them sleeping beside me in the middle of the night. The crazy thing is by the time I finally got him out (Thank you CN!) they had turned on him and each other. They are sisters and sadly don’t get along but will work in unison to show me I’m loved.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpfor21

I adore my children and my daughter has a grown up has become a best friend. I love her to the moon and back.

But canines and cats for the cat folks i love cats by the way but sadly my dogs do not are truly womans best friends. My older boy got me through the last three and a half years of unentangling better than anyone and he was asswipes dog. He left this poor baby behind twice and now this beautiful animal is a true mamas boy. Whore juice and her family have 6 dogs better than his dog. Asshole. But taking off soon and find my pups a big yard and a new home!!!

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago

Want to thank our Veterans today. My father flew in WWII with the US Arny Air Corp (later the Air Force) and made a career out of it. He was a cheater and a barc, but I can be proud he served.

My oldest son has been in the US Navy for 4 years. So very proud of him and the caring, compassionate young man he is. He has trained to be a domestic violence advocate and suicide prevention advocate for his ship. He has a strong moral code that is awesome to witness. He truly embodies a life of service to others.

He paints and sends me pictures of the dolphins following the ship. I miss him everyday, but know that he is grounded and mature and is making a great life for himself.

Kiwi- his ship is headed your way!

kiwichump
kiwichump
7 years ago

Glad to hear it, SSha! Whereabouts exactly? US ships didn’t come for many years because our no nukes stand.

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago
Reply to  kiwichump

I’m not sure where they are porting when they come visit for your Navy’s anniversary celebration. And it’s been 33 years since one of our destroyers has been to New Zealand. All I know is that he is super excited to visit your country. He’s really hoping to get a chance to explore.

kiwichump
kiwichump
7 years ago

Hope he gets to enjoy a bit of our summer down here. Christmas in summer is quite an experience for people from the northern hemisphere. Jandals and pavlova!

kiwichump
kiwichump
7 years ago
Reply to  kiwichump

Sorry, didn’t realise it’s actually next week in Auckland!! Haven’t been watching the news lately with lambing and tailing…

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago
Reply to  kiwichump

Wow, then you must be exhausted at the end of each day. But with it being something you love…it’s a good exhausted. Isn’t it amazing the difference you feel when you it’s something you love versus doing something to the entitled ones specifications?

I can’t wait to hear my son’s stories of visiting New Zealand. And I’d love to know what jandals and Pavola’s are

kiwichump
kiwichump
7 years ago

Jandals are flip flops, a pavlova is a meringue cake topped with whipped cream and slices of kiwifruit or other fruit, I won’t get into an argument about toppings here… Traditional Xmas fare. Invented by Kiwis, don’t believe the Aussie propaganda!!
Also don’t worry about your son in Auckland, it will be business as usual up there, no earthquake risk.

FreeWoman
FreeWoman
7 years ago

Your son sounds like a really fantastic man! Bless him for helping others, and for serving.

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago

Wow! Special.

What an awesome son! I’m always impressed when people have the ability to help others despite whatever is happening with them.

I work with an amazing woman like that, Marcy, who is definitely one of the Tzadikim Nistarim (in Jewish mysticism there is an idea that as long as there are 36 righteous individuals alive at the same time, our world is going to be fine).

I don’t know how they do it but I am grateful they walk amongst us.

I love our children so much.

chump-tastic
chump-tastic
7 years ago

Toddler is FULLY potty-trained (and I mean night-trained too, she was day-trained like a bazillion months ago), for one week as of today! Single moms everywhere rejoice!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  chump-tastic

OMG! That’s so awesome! I don’t miss those days! 😛

Heather
Heather
7 years ago
Reply to  chump-tastic

High five! (I’m close with mine. So close – a full week of dry nights. Not quite ready to risk it, but soon.) Rock on mama!