I ran off a list to my cheating fiancé about why I didn’t think he respected women and I included him cheating on me and leading the OW on and this is what he responded with. I shit you not. Now remember this is after I agreed to emotionally support him through his bullshit therapy.
i universally have no respect for women? i dont think theres any value in arguing with you on such faulty logic. if casting me as some kind of demon helps you cope better day to day then do what you have to do. i cannot stop you. i just hope that humanity doesnt define you universally for the mistakes you have made and will make in life, the way you are defining me. have a good night.
Tell me I’m not fucking crazy please. I gave this asshole a list of reasons that were all facts.
You’re not crazy. But you’re trying to win the wrong point. He doesn’t need to cop to not respecting all women — he didn’t respect YOU. Let the OW wage her own battle for self-respect. You’re about to be married, and he cheated on you. That’s either a deal breaker for you, or it is not.
I understand trying to get his thoughts on his shittiness (I am, after all, a chump), but you’re sticking your head in the mindfuck blender. He’s not responding with remorse or compassion. Instead he’s flipping through the manipulation channels of self-pity, rage, and charm. Nothing to work with here, AJ.
Well, the Universal Bullshit Translator can work with it. (It’s made of titanium alloys and the bullshit just slides right off). But I suggest you not devote your life to an endless supply of his self-serving excrement. You don’t need to “emotionally support” him through therapy. He needs to know how to be a decent human being out of the starting gate. He doesn’t have the basic skill set? Then he’s got no business marrying anyone, let alone demanding their hand-holding.
Now to the UBT.
i universally have no respect for women? i dont think theres any value in arguing with you on such faulty logic.
I could mansplain it for you, but your weak, baby girl brain couldn’t understand it.
if casting me as some kind of demon helps you cope better day to day then do what you have to do.
I answer to Beelzebub or Hank.
Pay no attention to my cheating on you, or my manipulations. I’ve been slandered as disrespectful! Next you’ll say I’m uncouth and don’t folder my pocket square just so. I can’t STAND this kind of trash talk!
I’m above such insults, but that’s how you roll — demonizing the man who betrayed you. During your engagement. Setting you up for tragic humiliation.
I fail to understand your hostility.
i cannot stop you.
But I’ll do my damnedest to confuse you first.
No, I cannot stop you from your crazy demonizing notions. Pity me for ever considering marrying such a delusional creature as yourself. The issue is not what I did (cheat and lie) — it’s your reaction to it.
i just hope that humanity doesnt define you universally for the mistakes you have made
(Hyperbole and false equivalency.)
Humanity will judge YOU! And how would you like that? Huh? HUH? You make mistakes too you know! Like that time you forgot the capital of South Dakota is PIERRE. And I was like, DUH, of course they speak French in South Dakota — didn’t you know that? Do you want humanity to judge you for your ignorance?
and will make in life, the way you are defining me.
I will not be defined! I will not have you define me by my actions and call them names like “cheater.” I AM SPLENDID.
You want a name? There it is — Maximillius Von Splendidpants!
have a good night.
(Flips to charm setting.) I can do pleasantries. Can demons do that?
AJ — please dump this condescending, sanctimonious asswipe. He’s showing you who he is — believe him.