Following up from Monday’s “Ignorance Is Bliss” post, I’d like to throw a bucket of cold water on another cheating fallacy — that it’s okay to keep the cheater’s secrets because he/she was going to end the affair on their own and Never Cheat Again.
Let’s take that at face value. The chump is in the dark about the affair and the cheater is ending things with Schmoopie. Cheater is going to take this to the grave and Never Cheat Again.
Would we buy this “logic” if it were anything other than cheating?
Okay. I know someone who needs a payday loan and so they “borrowed” $10,000 from your pension fund. They haven’t paid the money back yet, but they will! And you’ll never be the wiser! Well, you might lose some interest, and have some tax penalties, but the borrower will take care of that. And they promise never to pilfer from your pension fund ever again.
Would you want to know? Do you trust this person to pay back the $10 grand? Let’s say they paid back the $10 grand after you found out and they promise never to do such a thing again. Are you okay letting this person be in charge of your investments still? What if the market turns and they’re strapped for cash again? It’s a big world with lots of banks. Do you really want to keep your money with this institution when there are other institutions who haven’t stolen from you?
How would you feel if someone told you, upon learning of this theft, that HEY, the borrower is SORRY and it’s really on you to forgive? You know what would be great — you should invest MORE money. Just to demonstrate your trust in them going forward!
You guys know where this is going…. Why don’t you ask yourself what you did to make your money so attractive to the embezzler?
When you’ve been chumped, there’s so much more at stake than money. It’s not okay to rob your wallet. Why not your heart?