So the other day we shared our mortifying, hallucinogenic hopium trips. Many of us (raising my hand) wrote humiliating letters entreating our exes to recommit to the marriage, or we hard sold them on our children or ourselves, or made cringe-worthy promises that we would change if only the cheater would quit cheating. We accepted blame for their abuse, and then said, “Please sir, I’d like another.”
Okay, and the WORST thing about those soul-sloppy entreaties? They were unanswered. The cheater never handed in their therapy homework assignment on YOUR worth. Nope, they just lapped up another bowl of kibbles.
So your assignment today is to flip the script. Whatever you wrote in that letter? UN-write it. If you wrote Five Reasons Why We Should Keep Our Marriage, now it’s Five Reasons Why My Life Is Better Without You. If you begged them to love you? Now you write a letter extolling your self worth. If you wrote 10 Things I’ll Change, now you write 10 Things I Will Never Accept Again in a Relationship.
And when you do this, all the Chump Nation magic mojo will transform your humiliation into mightiness. Forget those old letters, because you have a new script.