Narcissist Mixtapes?

I bet you think this song is about you… don’t you? Don’t you?

Oh narc-y pathos. As you will recall on Tuesday, Dumped Chump sent us this gem by her cheating ex:

You will never understand and I can’t explain. Please listen to the song nothingman by Pearl Jam.

Given the amount of snark this nugget engendered, fuckwit playlists had to be a Friday contest. What’s your cheater’s soundtrack of dysfunction?

You can go many ways with this. Flip the script — instead of a cheater commanding you listen to their mixtape, you create one for them. OR you could imagine what sort of songs your narcissist would be if your narc were a song. You will never understand and I can’t explain. Oh actually I do. Let me cue up, “Fuck U” (Cee Lo Green).

Or do your own DJ patter! (Casey Kasem voice) “Here’s a long-distant dedication to a special serial cheater living in his mother’s basement…”

TGIF!

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SChump
SChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Cheater soundtrack:

Follow Me by Uncle Kracker
Half Of My Heart by John Mayer

I’ll add more as I remember them

Chickynot
Chickynot
6 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Here’s one for the cheater with a “sadz”. Ignorance by Paramore:

“This is the best thing that could have happened,
Any longer and I wouldn’t have made it
It’s not a war, no, it’s not a rapture
I’m just a person, but you can’t take it
The same tricks that, that once fooled me
They won’t get you anywhere
I’m not the same kid from your memory
Well, now I can fend for myself
Don’t wanna hear your sad songs
I don’t wanna feel your pain
When you swear it’s all my fault
Cause you know we’re not the same
(Hey)
We’re not the same
(Hey)
Oh, we’re not the same
Yeah, we used to stick together,
We wrote our names in blood,
But I guess you can’t accept that the change is good
It’s good, it’s good
Well, you treat me just like another stranger
Well, it’s nice to meet you, sir
I guess I’ll go,
I best be on my way out
You treat me just like another stranger
Well, it’s nice to meet you, sir
I guess I’ll go,
I best be on my way out
Ignorance is your new best friend,
Ignorance is your new best friend.
Ignorance is your new best friend,
Ignorance is your new best friend.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OH9A6tn_P6g

RollerSkater
RollerSkater
6 years ago

Oh! Lily Allen ftw!
https://youtu.be/o8VZX4sHn-4

Chump Champ
Chump Champ
6 years ago
Reply to  RollerSkater

Great choice!! One of my all time favorite albums, It’s Not Me, It’s you. Always makes me smile and then feel better. I also like:
https://youtu.be/fUYaosyR4bE

newdaydawning
newdaydawning
6 years ago

She hates me. Puddle of mudd. I change the she to he cuz he obviously hated me.

LadyStrange13
LadyStrange13
6 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

LOVE Puddle of Mudd!

RollerSkater
RollerSkater
6 years ago
uccello libero
uccello libero
6 years ago
Reply to  RollerSkater

Thank you for introducing me to Lily Allen. “It’s not Fair” gave me a good laugh!

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago
Reply to  RollerSkater

Great song! Never heard it before…

TiredChump
TiredChump
6 years ago
Reply to  RollerSkater

Love love love this one. Made me SMILE

newdaydawning
newdaydawning
6 years ago

Jesus loves you but I don’t. ( for all the Jesus cheaters)

got-a-brain
got-a-brain
6 years ago
Reply to  newdaydawning

Haha! I’ll have to give that one a listen

RollerSkater
RollerSkater
6 years ago

Last one I’ll do- Alanis is the queen of break up and cheater songs so here:
https://youtu.be/LuzCwXB4AJQ

RollerSkater
RollerSkater
6 years ago

Um…also…You’re so vain. You probably think this song is about you…

WisedUp
WisedUp
6 years ago

Lyle Lovett: “God will, but I won’t.. and that’s the difference between God and me.” [forgive you]

Luziana
Luziana
6 years ago

Liar by the Rollins Band
By the Grace of God by Katy Perry
People Ain’t No Good by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds
I’m Better by Missy Elliot
I’m Not Sorry by Beyoncé
Rise Above by Black Flag
Burn by Andra Day (Hamilton mixtape over the original case recording, it’s not as pitiful)

More will come to me, I’m sure!

EMC
EMC
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

Heck yeah, loves me some Rollins!

RollerSkater
RollerSkater
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

Oh yes!!!!
I’m on this wavelength!

Luziana
Luziana
6 years ago
Reply to  RollerSkater

I also like Praying by Kesha. A bit overplayed but still amazing!

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

I really like this song too!!!!

Luziana
Luziana
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

https://youtu.be/DJvbkc4S6WE
You Never Loved Me by Aimee Mann

HeChump
HeChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

This album came out right when everything was blowing up for me. It’s been in heavy rotation. (And also, she’s just great.)

Luziana
Luziana
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

https://youtu.be/ottbklr40Rk

Every Chump should see this.

I am the Chump.
I am the Chump.
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

I am obsessed with the original soundtrack and didn’t think anything would be better, but wow. Just wow.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

YES!! That one resonates.

Nikki Lynn
Nikki Lynn
6 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

She kills it, doesn’t she?!

Pret
Pret
6 years ago

This is where I am in this process now. ..realization that he was a lousy husband and an even more lousy father. So he would say this song describes the way I feel about him. Gotye- Somebody that I used to know.

Zell
Zell
6 years ago
Reply to  Pret

Good choice for my cheater wife as well. Although pulls up emotions I’m currently trying to stay away from. Need anger to push me through divorce filing and process.

flowergirl
flowergirl
6 years ago

Photosynthesis Frank Turner. Kaa joined a band just before DDay and he was “learning ” this song . little did I know he was living the chorus that he sang incessantly in the weeks before he left.

srfrgrl
srfrgrl
6 years ago

Rootless Tree by Damien Rice

https://youtu.be/25cO4K4kHpE

NewBeginnings
NewBeginnings
6 years ago
Reply to  srfrgrl

WOW – this song really resonates. Thanks

oneonefourone
oneonefourone
6 years ago
Reply to  srfrgrl

I was going to say this one, too. I also think the cheater would identify with the Smiths: Please Please Let Me Get What I Want.

His ho-worker posted Welcome to the Black Parade by My Chemical Romance, on Facebook, in the intervening week where she had been caught and turfed out by her partner, but my X had yet to leave me, with this pulled out in the post:

Because the world will never take my heart
Go and try, you’ll never break me
We want it all, we wanna play this part
I won’t explain or say I’m sorry
I’m unashamed, I’m gonna show my scars
Give a cheer for all the broken
Listen here, because it’s who we are

So much to love in that passage. It’s who they are and they’re not sorry indeed. She was also a fan of Diamonds and Rust by Joan Baez, which resonated so much with X that he turned around and shared it with me, too, saying it was a song he always loved. And, finally, judging by our Amazon Music history, they were both huge fans of Little Talks by Monsters and Men.

As for me, it’s Feeling Good by Nina Simone that’s my new anthem. “Sleep in peace when day is done, that’s what I mean, it’s new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life, for me.”

Chumpiness
Chumpiness
6 years ago
Reply to  oneonefourone

Love New Day! Check out the version by Muse. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CmwRQqJsegw. Warning: video is odd, may want to listen without watching or track down on Spotify!

srfrgrl
srfrgrl
6 years ago

Or…the narc anthem
If You Could Read My Mind by Gordon Lightfoot

TKO
TKO
6 years ago
Reply to  srfrgrl

Yes, Gordon Lightfoot comes off as a perfect smarmy narc.

But searching for those lyrics I was typing in “lyrics if you..” and up popped Jimmy Buffett’s “If You Like Pina Colatas”. Read those lyrics. THAT is a cheater’s anthem. Turns out, both partners are cheaters and by cheating they rediscover each other! Hooray! The funny thing to me is…the story it tells is exactly as cheesy-stupid as all narcs are in their self important little dramas, and like them, it had absolutely no awareness of this fact.

LotusDancer
LotusDancer
6 years ago
Reply to  TKO

I don’t know any words to that song except ” of you like pina coladas” and I do. I do like them. So I’m going to not listen closely 🙂 hahaha

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago

I’m a woman of simple tastes… Phuck You Symphony, by Millie Jackson

TiredChump
TiredChump
6 years ago

Songs cheaters could have written–

Oops I did it again – Britney Spears
Sorry seems to be the hardest word – Elton John

TiredChump
TiredChump
6 years ago

And when the cheater tries:

Baby come back – by Player

The chump shoul always respond:

It’s too late to apologize – Timbeland/one republic

brit
brit
6 years ago
Reply to  TiredChump

The pick me dance..,

https://youtu.be/3EoI-6lQFIE

Divorce Minister
Divorce Minister
6 years ago

Cry, Cry, Cry by Johnny Cash.

YdontUStay
YdontUStay
6 years ago

That’s what I’m talking about. Love his music. Too bad it’s now tainted (for me, at least) because he was a cheater.

DebbieChump
DebbieChump
6 years ago

“Pray For You”

I haven’t been to church since I don’t remember when
Things were goin’ great ’til they fell apart again
So I listened to the preacher as he told me what to do
He said you can’t go hatin’ others who have done wrong to you
Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn
Let the good Lord do His job and you just pray for them

I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill
I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I’d like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray you’re flyin’ high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Just know wherever you are honey, I pray for you

I’m really glad I found my way to church
‘Cause I’m already feelin’ better and I thank God for the words
Yeah I’m goin’ take the high road
And do what the preacher told me to do
You keep messin’ up and I’ll keep prayin’ for you

I pray your tire blows out at 110
I pray you pass out drunk with your best friend and wake up with his and her tattoos

I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill
I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I’d like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray you’re flyin’ high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Just know wherever you are, near or far, in your house or in your car,
wherever you are honey, I pray for you.
I pray for you

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  DebbieChump

One of my faves!!!

brit
brit
6 years ago
Reply to  DebbieChump

Good choice, I was just about to post this DebbieChump. Here’s the link if anyone would like to listen to the song.

https://youtu.be/AFJu8DCH_b0

DebbieChump
DebbieChump
6 years ago
Reply to  brit

I also pray for death, herpes, and many many other afflictions to befall him brit – not that Im bitter or twisted lol.
I also thought of this one

New Rules
Dua Lipa

One, one, one

Talkin’ in my sleep at night
Makin’ myself crazy
(Out of my mind, out of my mind)
Wrote it down and read it out
Hopin’ it would save me
(Too many times, too many times)
Oh, he makes me feel like nobody else
Nobody else
But my love, he doesn’t love me
So I tell myself, I tell myself

One, don’t pick up the phone
You know he’s only calling ’cause he’s drunk and alone
Two, don’t let him in
You have to kick him out again
Three, don’t be his friend
You know you’re gonna wake up in his bed in the morning
And if you’re under him
You ain’t getting over him

I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve gotta tell them to myself
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve gotta tell them to myself

I keep pushin’ forwards
But he keeps pullin’ me backwards
(Nowhere to turn, no way)
(Nowhere to turn, no)
Now I’m standing back from it
I finally see the pattern
(I never learn, I never learn)
But my love, he doesn’t loves me
So I tell myself, I tell myself
I do, I do, I do

One, don’t pick up the phone
You know he’s only calling ’cause he’s drunk and alone
Two, don’t let him in
You have to kick him out again
Three, don’t be his friend
You know you’re gonna wake up in his bed in the morning
And if you’re under him
You ain’t getting over him

I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve gotta tell them to myself
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve gotta tell them to myself

Practice makes perfect
I’m still tryna’ learn it by heart
Eat, sleep, and breathe it
Rehearse and repeat it ’cause I (I, I, I)

One, don’t pick up the phone
You know he’s only calling ’cause he’s drunk and alone
Two, don’t let him in
You have to kick him out again
Three, don’t be his friend
You know you’re gonna wake up in his bed in the morning
And if you’re under him
You ain’t getting over him

I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em
I’ve gotta tell them to myself
I’ve got new rules, I count ’em (baby you know I count ’em)
I’ve gotta tell them to myself
Don’t let him in, don’t let him in
Don’t be his friend, don’t be his friend
Don’t let him in, don’t let him in
Don’t be his friend, don’t be his friend
You ain’t getting over him

Chumptitude
Chumptitude
6 years ago

Awesome challenge :)…

That don’t impress me much – Shania Twain
Walk Away – Kelly Clarkson
Hit the road Jack – Ray Charles

YouCantHandleTheChump
YouCantHandleTheChump
6 years ago

If You Hadn’t, But You Did
Kristen Chenowith

This is a funny song of revenge on your cheater and remembering all the lies they told! The lyrics are awesome!

Was my anthem the first time I was chumped!

https://youtu.be/OFnreeWgjQI

hollowbunny
hollowbunny
6 years ago

My playlist for chumps: Figures by Jessie Reyes. So good. And of course Bloody Motherfucking Asshole by Martha Wainright. I highly recommend looking these two up – they’re like Rocky’s Theme or Eye of the Tiger for chumps to pump up.

UXworld
UXworld
6 years ago

Sorry if I’m a downer in what should be a fun and creative exercise, but CL DID ask “what is the soundtrack of your cheater’s dysfunction?”and the way KK integrated music into the mindfucking discard is a trigger, so . . .

Shortly after initiating the 112 Days of Hell, she sent me a link to Jason Isbell’s “Flagship” and repeatedly referred to it when I called her on her destructive behavior, engaged in pick me dancing, patiently understood as she was “figuring things out,” the whole nine yards.

So the soundtrack of KK’s dysfunction begins and ends with this song, which includes the following exquisite mindfuck:

“Baby let’s not ever get that way
I’ll drive you to the ocean every day
We’ll stay up in the presidential suite
And call ourselves the flagship of the fleet

You gotta try and keep yourself naive
In spite of all the evidence believed
And volunteer to lose touch with the world
And focus on one solitary girl

Baby let’s not live to see it fade
I’ll cancel all the plans I’ve ever made
I’ll drive and you can ride in the back seat
And we’ll call ourselves the flagship of the fleet”

nejla
nejla
6 years ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INDGcbxOmqY&sns=em

“Vesti la Giubba”
Gets across chump pain quite well I think
Too bad it is being sung by a notorious cheater but he does it well.

TheBestMe
TheBestMe
6 years ago

Johnny Cash – Gods gonna cut you down.

You can run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Sooner or later God’ll cut you down
Sooner of later, God’ll cut you down

[Chorus 2]
Go tell that long tongue liar
Go and tell that midnight rider
Tell the rambler, the gambler, the back biter
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down

[Verse 1]
Well my goodness gracious let me tell you the news
My head’s been wet with the midnight dew
I’ve been down on bended knee talkin’ to the man from Galilee
He spoke to me in the voice so sweet
I thought I heard the shuffle of the angel’s feet
He called my name and my heart stood still
When he said “John go do My will!”

[Chorus 2]
Go tell that long tongue liar
Go and tell that midnight rider
Tell the rambler, the gambler, the back biter
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down

[Chorus 1]
You can run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Sooner or later God’ll cut you down
Sooner of later, God’ll cut you down

[Verse 2]
Well you may throw your rock and hide your hand
Workin’ in the dark against your fellow man
But as sure as God made black and white
What’s done in the dark will be brought to the light

[Chorus 1]
You can run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Run on for a long time
Sooner or later God’ll cut you down
Sooner of later, God’ll cut you down

[Chorus 2]
Go tell that long tongue liar
Go and tell that midnight rider
Tell the rambler, the gambler, the back biter
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down
Tell them that God’s going to cut ’em down

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  TheBestMe

Excellent choice!!! Perfect!

got-a-brain
got-a-brain
6 years ago

Friday fact: Asshat posted the song “You can’t always get what you want” by The Rolling Stones to his FB timeline after returning from his fuckfest weekend with Barbie the stripper. Intuition was on high alert, and when questioned, he of course (as always) used work as his excuse. He said he posted it because he lost a big account bid.

Okay onto the Friday challenge. I actually have my own cheater playlist. I won’t post them all, it’s a long list. You have to listen to the first one though, it cracks me up!

https://youtu.be/zu9QM1LQR2g

Fighter – Christina Aguilera
Found out about you – Gin blossoms
Go away – Katie B
I belong to me – Jessica Simpson
Irreplaceable – Beyoncé
Last drag – Tracy lords
Leave (get out) – Jo Jo
Say hello to goodbye – Shantell
Sin for a sin – Miranda Lambert
Too little too late – jo jo
Mr. know it all – Kelly Clarkson

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  got-a-brain

Hahahahhahaaaa, first song was actually exh2’s ringtone!!!

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago
Reply to  got-a-brain

That first song definitely is a winner! LOVE it!

Rae44
Rae44
6 years ago

One for us chumps – on even the darkest days 4 months post dday this song always picks me up. In fact its my friday song so today is the best day to share it with you!

https://youtu.be/AEB6ibtdPZc

BetterDays
BetterDays
6 years ago

For the chumps … I’ve had this one on repeat for awhile now. 🙂

Demi Lovato “Sorry Not Sorry”

Baby, fineness is the way to kill
Tell me how it feel, bet it’s such a bitter pill
And yeah, I know you thought you had bigger, better things
Bet right now this stings (wait a minute)
‘Cause the grass is greener under me
Bright as technicolor, I can tell that you can see
And yeah, I know how bad it must hurt to see me like this
But it gets worse (wait a minute)

Now payback is a bad bitch
And baby, I’m the baddest
You fuckin’ with a savage
Can’t have this, can’t have this (ah)
And it’d be nice of me to take it easy on ya, but nah

Baby, I’m sorry (I’m not sorry)
Baby, I’m sorry (I’m not sorry)
Being so bad got me feelin’ so good
Showing you up like I knew that I would
Baby, I’m sorry (I’m not sorry)
Baby, I’m sorry (I’m not sorry)
Feeling inspired ’cause the tables have turned
Yeah, I’m on fire and I know that it burns

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MsvER1dpjM

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  BetterDays

Excellent! It’s now on my “Songs in the Key of MEH” playlist

Stephanie
Stephanie
6 years ago
Reply to  BetterDays

Love this. It’ll be on my “Fuck You, Loser” playlist.

Blindside
Blindside
6 years ago

When I listen to “You Got Lucky” by Tom Petty or “I Don’t Care Anymore” by Phil Collins, it always has new meaning for me, even though I loved these songs well before I even met my ex.

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  Blindside

LOVE these 2!!!

Glinda
Glinda
6 years ago

I know I posted this song in the other section, but I LOVE this song!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJkj3DgW8Y0

Chickynot
Chickynot
6 years ago
Reply to  Glinda

Glinda, this one ROCKS!! I just added it to my divorce playlist!

brit
brit
6 years ago

Kid Rock, “You never quite met a mother fucker like me.” Youtube video
https://youtu.be/voaGM4CMQ9c

FMT
FMT
6 years ago

Here’s an oldie-but-goodie, from Don McLean’s American Pie album. My shithead ex’s anthem since GTFO-day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XG6SCDUiFZs

“Everybody Loves Me, Baby”

Fortune has me well in hand, armies wait at my command
My gold lies in a foreign land buried deep beneath the sand
The angels guide my ev’ry tread, my enemies are sick or dead
But all the victories I’ve led haven’t brought you to my bed

You see, everybody loves me, baby, what’s the matter with you?
Won’t ya tell me what did I do to offend you?

Now the purest race I’ve bred for thee to live in my democracy
And the highest human pedigree awaits the first-born boy baby
And my face on ev’ry coin engraved, the anarchists are all enslaved
My own flag is forever waved by the grateful people I have saved

You see, everybody loves me, baby, what’s the matter with you?
Won’t ya tell me what did I do to offend you?

Now, no land is beyond my claim when the land is seized in the people’s name
By evil men who rob and maim, if war is hell, I’m not to blame!
Why, you can’t blame me, I’m Heaven’s child, I’m the second son of Mary mild
And I’m twice removed from Oscar Wilde, but he didn’t mind, why, he just smiled

Yes, and the ocean parts when I walk through, and the clouds dissolve and the sky turns blue
I’m held in very great value by everyone I meet but you
’cause I’ve used my talents as I could, I’ve done some bad, I’ve done some good
I did a whole lot better than they thought I would so, c’mon and treat me like you should!

Because everybody loves me, baby, what’s the matter with you?
Tell me what did I do to offend you? (whoo, yeah!)

Everybody loves me, baby, what’s the matter with you?
Tell me what did I do to offend you?

Yeah, everybody loves me, baby, what’s the matter with you?
Tell me what did I do to offend you?

BetterDays
BetterDays
6 years ago

And of course … the cheater theme song: Meghan Trainor “Lips Are Movin'”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDc_5zpBj7s

brit
brit
6 years ago

X is a pilot, self explanatory.

https://youtu.be/Sc74Fo5ORck

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago

The SNL cold open Broken Hallelujah after the election a year ago made me think of ex. That was just after he moved out, I was very sad and mad, but not yet ready to think of him as just a cold hearted selfish jerk despite the evidence:

I can’t seem to get the link to work, but it is easy to find on U-tube. It was these lines in particular that expressed how I was feeling at the time:

I did my best, it wasn’t much
I couldn’t feel, so I tried to touch
I’ve told the truth, I didn’t come to fool ya
And even though it all went wrong
I’ll stand before the Lord of Song
With nothing on my tongue but Hallelujah

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago

Oh yes, these lines too:

And love is not a victory march

It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah

LadyStrange13
LadyStrange13
6 years ago

Theory of a Deadman:

Truth Is

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  LadyStrange13

LOVE TOADM!!!
Many songs by them, “By the Way” … “Nothing Could Come Between Us”…

WTFhappened
WTFhappened
6 years ago

Fiona Apple song about gaslighing

https://youtu.be/Sc74Fo5ORck

Chickynot
Chickynot
6 years ago
Reply to  WTFhappened

Here’s Fiona Apple, dishing it to all those hoovering narcs, with Sleep to Dream:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9Wnh0V4HMM

“Don’t you plead me your case
Don’t bother to explain
Don’t even show me your face
‘Cause it’s a crying shame
Just go back to the rock
From under which you came
Take the sorrow you gave
And all the stakes you claim
And don’t forget the blame!”

“I got my feet
On the ground
And I don’t go
To sleep to dream
You got your head
In the clouds and
You’re not at all
What you seem
This mind, this body
And this voice cannot be
Stifled by your deviant ways
So don’t forget
What I told you
Don’t come around
I got my own hell to raise!”

Chickynot
Chickynot
6 years ago
Reply to  WTFhappened

Fiona Apple is the best!

WTFhappened
WTFhappened
6 years ago
Reply to  WTFhappened

Sorry here it is, was looking at Brits link and copied.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWt44totguY

LadyStrange13
LadyStrange13
6 years ago

My favorites I like to sign to to an asswipe:

Theory of a Deadman: So Happy (I finally realized what a shithead I married)
Ratt: Heads I Win, Tails You Lose (Dumbass)
Scandal: Goodbye to you (MoFo)
Eagles: Already Gone (FINALLY!)

and finally:
Vains of Jenna: Fuck You (I think the name says it all)

left him at the airport
left him at the airport
6 years ago

In the months leading up to my departure (when I left him at he airport), and while I was trying my best to fly below the radar to go undetected, I listened to these 3 songs constantly –

Blow Me One Last Kiss (Pink)

Rolling in the Deep (Adele)

Ugly Heart (G.R.L.)

The Adele lyrics were very fitting to my story, especially the part that goes –

“Baby, I have no story to be told
But I’ve heard one on you
Now I’m gonna make your head burn
Think of me in the depths of your despair
Make a home down there
As mine sure won’t be shared”

He had no idea that I knew about his secret life. I couldn’t wait to drop the bomb on him months later, once I had left him at the airport and was back safe in my home country with the kids, all lawyered up and ready to kick his ass. I sure made his head spin and burn. When I dropped the bomb that I wasn’t coming back to him, and that I knew about his secret life and was leaving his sorry ass, boy did his head BURN! BURN!!!! Not long after that, he made it to the depths of despair – he went bankrupt. Then he started crawling to me, asking if I could sponsor him for a working visa in my country (can you believe this shit?!) so he could “work there and see the kids more” (which is utter bullshit, because he doesn’t care about the kids). No way, asshole! Make your home and bed where you lay in it! I’m not sharing my home down here! You can stay over there where you are and suffer in your jocks alone! Toodles ????????

left him at the airport
left him at the airport
6 years ago

Oh, and I forgot these two Justin Timberlake songs! –

What Goes Around

Cry Me a River

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago

Yep. Good ones!!!

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago

OH!! Rolling in the Deep is GREAT!! Love that one, too!!

Feelingit
Feelingit
6 years ago

Don’t know if this fits today but these lyrics are my mantra and they empower me!

Mended by Matthew West

How many times can one heart break?
It was never supposed to be this way
Look in the mirror, but you find someone
You never thought you’d be

Oh, but I can still recognize
The one I love in your tear stained eyes
I know you might not see it now
So lift your eyes to me

When you see broken beyond repair
I see healing beyond belief
When you see too far gone
I see one step away from home
You see nothing but damaged goods
I see something good in the making
I’m not finished yet
When you see wounded, I see mended

You see your worst mistake
But I see the price I paid
There’s nothing you could ever do
To lose what grace has won

So hold on, it’s not the end
This is where love’s work begins
I’m making all things new
And I will make a miracle of you

I see my child, My beloved
The new creation you’re becoming
You see the scars from when you fell
But I see the stories they will tell
You see worthless, but I see priceless
You see pain, but I see a purpose
You see unworthy, undeserving
But I see you through eyes of mercy

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago
Reply to  Feelingit

Love this song! It makes me cry to think of being loved so completely.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago

for Hannibal Lecher:

Jar of Hearts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8v_4O44sfjM

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Love this one. it’s on my “Songs in the Key of MEH” playlist

DebbieChump
DebbieChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Tempest – my daughter sings this one about her dad – or GARTH as she now calls him

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago

For the few months after D-day:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLlLtSG7xe4

srfrgrl
srfrgrl
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Brawhahaha! Perfect!

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
6 years ago

Beyoncé’s Me, Myself and I

Me myself and iI is all I’ve got in the end
And I made a vow that from now I’m gonna be my own best friend

I Will never disappoint myself

After all the rain you’ll see the sun come out again

I’ve cried a thousand times but I’ve vowed to make it through

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago

I found out that my STBX had recently purchased “Worst in Me” by Julia Michaels from iTunes. Here’s a snippet of the lyrics:

“But maybe it’s the worst in me; That’s bringing out the worst in you
I know we can fix these kinks; But the worst in me doesn’t want to work on things
But the best of me wants to love you; But the worst in me doesn’t want to…”

Oh boy! I can’t even comment on that…

And the songs I like to imagine “dedicating” to him are: “I Saw the Sign” by Ace of Base, and my favorite: “Somebody That I Used To Know” by Gotye.

Stephanie
Stephanie
6 years ago

The Coward had a playlist in iTunes that he repeated. He literally made a mix CD of it and gave it to our youngest son a few months after he walked out on him. I wanted to throw up, mostly at the meaning of the songs. I don’t remember all of them, but they included “Sister Golden Hair” because The Coward is obsessed with blonde hair, and the Rescue Twat has beautiful golden locks. It had “Take It Easy” and pretty sure it had “Ventura Highway,” and various other sounds of the 70’s, or other songs about being free and hitting the highway, that made me want to vomit.

I don’t badmouth the ex, but when youngest tried to play that shit around me, I politely told him that his father took a lot of meaning from these songs as justification for bailing and that I’d rather not listen to it. I said it once, calmly, and it was enough.

I was appalled that The Coward would hand this shit off to the kid. Was he trying to convey that walking out on your wife and kids is a spiritually beautiful mandate of some sort, expressed on this CD? Was he trying to send me a musical Fuck You Again hoping I’d hear the songs, or, did he want me to take pity on him because he’s just a misunderstood highway man who loves a golden haired sister?

Ugh.

My playlist had a whole lot of Fuck Off, You Tool, type music from Pink, Beyonce, JT. My latest fave is Big Sean’s I Don’t Fuck With You. It’s from the guy’s perspective (there you go, brother chumps) but the meaning is the same. Or it can be sung to the whorey OWs, if you like. It’s versatile.

HeChump
HeChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Stephanie

Stephanie, thanks for the phrase, “a spiritually beautiful mandate,” which I’m stealing, and for Big Sean, which I am playing at an ear-splitting volume. It is so not “Sister Golden Hair.”

Stephanie
Stephanie
6 years ago
Reply to  HeChump

Hah! Glad you like it. Check out Justin Timberlake What Goes Around

Stephanie
Stephanie
6 years ago
Reply to  Stephanie

Oh, and his Cry Me A River

Stephanie
Stephanie
6 years ago
Reply to  Stephanie

Oh, and Jay-Z 99 Problems. You’ll like that one.

Laughing Gator
Laughing Gator
6 years ago

THE DDAY Song:

Thunder Rolls by Garth Brooks:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdsJI8Wc2D4

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
6 years ago
Reply to  Laughing Gator

Awesome! Love this song!

and she was
and she was
6 years ago

Music was hugely triggering for me after DDay. I stopped listening to almost everything. We had a karaoke machine and used to sing for hours when my sons were little before DDay. I didn’t know till later how much of that shit was autobiographical or manipulative for him…
We used to duo on Hank Williams cheating songs – that must have been a laugh for him.

So a bit of cheater’s repertoire-
Hank Williams “you win again”
“Sex and candy”
“Stand by your man” (I kid you not)
Hives “hate say I told you so”
And his all time anthem- “basket case” by Green Day
After DDay and much wreckonciliation I found a video on his phone of him singing a song he wrote about all his transgressions and the chorus was something like “I’m a good guy, I’m a good guy, and if you can’t see That you’re not the girl for me.” Ugh. I watched that exactly once.

My play list is short – some angst some F-you. I still don’t listen much anymore.

Cee lo green F You—yes CL I love this one
God does but I don’t- Lyle Lovett
Ain’t nobody home- Bonnie Raitt
Love interruption- jack white
You fucked me right up- Sean Hayes
I guess I showed her – Robert cray
Who is he and what is he to you – bill withers

EMC
EMC
6 years ago
Reply to  and she was

Yeah, loves me some Sean Hayes…good stuff!

and she was
and she was
6 years ago

I’m looking forward to listening to the stuff you all have posted!

BowTie
BowTie
6 years ago

Before DDay but after she told me she was leaving (but not why) three songs were played frequently and loudly by Mme YogaPants

“My Church” by Maren Morris
“Walk of Shame” by Meghan Trainor
and
“I’m going to love you (like I’m going to lose you)” also by Meghan Trainor – which I used to listen to from around when things started feeling odd almost exactly 2 years ago now.

These are now all “triggers” for me. It actually hurt a bit to look them up. Whenever they come on the radio I have to turn it off.

I don’t know what her world is like these days but from about the time the affair started until she left she always had to have loud music playing especially when she was alone in her car or walking.

Those first two songs and the glee with which she listened to them are a large part of why I know that I could never let her back. I remember writing to her in the letter I gave her begging her to reconsider where I said “you’ve become the person that you used to despise”.

Perhaps off-topic or perhaps another discussion but I wonder how many other cheaters used to publicly disavow cheating. Mme’s father and siblings and their offspring pretty much all were cheaters. Days before her affair went physical (I believe) I remember her loudly proclaiming at a party how faithful she was to me. “The lady doth protest too much, methinks”. I recall when her and her serial cheating sister suddenly became “besties” and my daughter blurted out in a phone call with me “but Mom hates Aunt (name redacted)”.

AussieChump
AussieChump
6 years ago
Reply to  BowTie

Bow Tie, Cheater was absolutely livid whenever he heard about someone who cheated or if it came up in a movie. Livid! A friend that he grew up with from birth told him of her affair, saying ‘It just happened. I don’t know how. It just did.’ Cheater’s sister also cheated on her partner. This made him so mad for so long, but I wonder if it actually normalised the behaviour. Two of the closest people in his life had affairs and were ‘good people’ in his mind. Desensitisation? Or do they just suck? We know the answer, don’t we…

BowTie
BowTie
6 years ago
Reply to  AussieChump

I do believe that Mme’s sister played a part in what happened. The love-bombing that Mme got from her was intense and kept ramping up until Mme moved out (at least). Her brother (who was a “reformed” and rather nervous cheater – story for another time) also encouraged her saying that it was perfectly normal and that he knew of lots of affairs that ended up as happy marriages.

I think in some ways what she got from her family and a number of friends could perhaps be called “confirmation bias”. They were all safe inside their secure marriages including the cheaters cheering her on. I think that no matter what action we chose to take we can find “someone” who will tell us that it was a good idea. I think that more than desensitization was a factor in her case.

I originally blamed the people around her for her actions but she said it herself once when she was really down about a month before she moved out when she said “it’s all on me”.

For a bit of karma – the sister had a significant heart attack a month or so later which she did survive.

Beth
Beth
6 years ago
Reply to  BowTie

“I wonder how many other cheaters used to publicly disavow cheating.” Mine did. All. The. Damn. Time. We had lots of discussions over the years about how inconceivable it was that someone would give up the years of memories, the inside jokes, the milestones that no one else could share, for a side piece of ass. Every public cheater (John Edwards comes to mind) scandal came with resounding condemnation from my ex. Uh huh… Yep, flaming hypocrite.

brit
brit
6 years ago
Reply to  Beth

My cheater would tell me stories in disgust of his crew members who were cheating. We had similar conversations regarding famous cheaters in the news. Unable to understand how they could betray their wives, disrupt their families, throw away a lifetime of memories at this time in their lives, for a younger woman. Mel Gibson is one who comes to mind for me. We also had our private jokes.., laughed, he would never do such a thing. Being a man of integrity.
Another hypocrite.

pregnant chump
pregnant chump
6 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Cheaters step dad cheated (emotional affair but not physical I don’t think) on his mum about a year before ex did it to me. He then didn’t talk to him for a period of about 7 months until his mum asked him to forgive him. The worst part about it was I listened to his Mum crying on the phone and tried to be there for her as best I could. They don’t live close so I didn’t see her during this time. When she found out ex was leaving me she was a complete bitch and told me he was unhappy and simply didn’t give a shit about me and how I felt. I won’t ever talk to that women ever again, ex is just like her and it makes me feel so stupid to not have seen it before.

peacekeeper
peacekeeper
6 years ago
Reply to  pregnant chump

Pregnant Chump
I am so sorry that you were treated in this way.
But, YOU are NOT stupid.
You are not like these people who have cheated, and who have been so unkind and uncaring to loved ones.
You are a very caring, insightful, strong lady!

((((Manyhugstoyou))))

pregnant chump
pregnant chump
6 years ago
Reply to  peacekeeper

Thank you peacekeeper, you are always so kind in all your posts to me. Thank you you have helped me so much. You have a beautiful heart and although it’s awful that you are hear, CN wouldn’t he the same without you.

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago
Reply to  pregnant chump

That’s horrible!!! You’d think she’d be sympathetic to your cause because…obvious! She’d just gone through it.

And you’re definitely not stupid. But it’s definitely an eye opener to see just how evil some people can be.

pregnant chump
pregnant chump
6 years ago
Reply to  GoWithYourGut

I have a feeling that their relationship may have started as an affair. I know she walked out on her children (my ex and is sister) and left them with their father for a year or so. There has been a lot of messed up stuff in his family, I hoped he was going to be different as he told me he would be. He is exactly like them, fortunately for my children I’m not like my family, so hopefully that will be enough to stop the cycle of abuse and divorce.

DavidB
DavidB
6 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Oh she always spoke of cheaters like they weee subhuman! Well she was correct! What I found out is she still refuses to label herself the same as them! They can twist anything!

Chumpedsohard
Chumpedsohard
6 years ago

Song of STBXW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UxxajLWwzqY

And with a genre shift and lyric changes… the state of meh I hope to achieve:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0D28i_Y40eo

Funny how a few words can change the perspective.

GoWithYourGut
GoWithYourGut
6 years ago

Used to watch So You Think You Can Dance and saw this one, which I just fell in love with…the dance, as well as the song. Little did I know how poignant this song would become. Here’s a link to the video showing the dance. The song is The Garden by Mirah.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9R3bLE1CiFs