I was thinking the other day that I should start a testimonials page for Chump Nation. I get the sweetest letters, like this one from Heather:
Thank you for your work. I don’t come to the site often anymore, but I am so grateful that it is here when I want it — more grateful still that it was here when I was fighting for my life. My first anniversary of divorce is next week. A year before that I knew I would need a divorce, but I didn’t know when or how I could move such a mountain. A year before that, I was floundering in a shit marriage and I didn’t know why. Is it not amazing how full and strong and wonderful you can become when you’re not being slowly eaten alive? If I am so whole and so well now, when I haven’t even been fully free for a year … well just imagine next year. I can imagine next year, in large part because of the truth I soaked up on this site. Thank you.
YES. It is AMAZING how strong and WONDERFUL you all are. This is the stuff character is made of — who you are after the sucker punch. How you rebuild. How you still have joy.
On that note, BowTie thinks the benefits of leaving a cheater should be this Friday’s challenge. He wrote:
This morning as I lazed in bed I was thinking about all of the things in my life that are better since Mme YogaPants went off chasing after her destiny — and his wallet. As a middle-aged guy one of the bigger things was the improvement in my health. Not only did I lose over 200lbs (170 lbs of Mme – 45 lbs from me) but there were other things.
– My sleep apnea went from double digits to less than 1 most days
– I’m on half as many blood pressure meds
– I rarely suffer from angina pains
– The dark baggy circles under my eyes are gone
– I’m eating healthier and exercising regularly
There are a bunch of practical day-to-day things that are also better now but I thought I’d just focus on the health benefits for me.
Yes, there are a bunch of negatives related to her infidelity and having the world I knew crash around me and dealing with the fallout of a divorce after more than half our lives spent together, but for a Friday, thinking about the positives is a good thing.
I’m sure that other Chumps have experienced unexpected benefits from a cheater-free life as well.
So what do you say, CN? What’s filling the place in your life where lies, drama, and burner phones used to live? What’s gotten better?