Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My Head

Dear Chump Lady,

In my quest to do something normal after he goes to bed drunk and angry (because it’s my fault I found out about his affairs and yet will still make him dinner) and calm myself (just until I can get him OUT… I have a plan in motion), I watch a little late night TV. Just about an hour’s worth. It just feels normal and somewhat liberating to actually be able to use the remote control for something I’d like to see.

I go for comedy or re-runs of shows I’ve not been able to watch until now. (Did I mention he’s controlling?) I will do an occasional movie if he got blotto early enough. But I’ve done myself in more than once by watching something that put me in a total funk and thinking, “I can repair this marriage! I can save him! I can save us! I must! Look how happy that couple ended up!”

OMG. How did I get in that place? I cannot save someone who does not want to be saved. My simple aim of forgetting about the hell of present day just gets worse by a bad escape choice.

May I suggest to Chump Nation that we help each other out and suggest movies and TV shows one should NOT watch while from D-Day until free from the scumwad.

And suggest movies and TV shows which would be helpful during this time to help steel one’s courage.

I can start with what NOT to watch:
The Notebook
ANYTHING on the Hallmark Channel

What TO watch:
Two and a Half Men (lead character is total scum and very off-putting!)
The End of the Affair (she dies because she goes back to her lover)

Thanks for your writings… they do give me courage to know I’m not alone and I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this…

TitsAndAssAndAllThat

Dear TitsAndAssAndAllThat,

Yes you CAN DO IT. I’ll ask CN for their escapism suggestions only if you promise to actually ESCAPE this fuckwit! And never get in a car when he’s driving. And stop making his dinners. Okay, I have a lot of conditions, but he’s a cheating drunk. This shit needs to end immediately.

Now, about the Hallmark Channel. I’ve only ever flipped past it, but my mother watches it. (Volume set at 11… because why wear the hearing aids your daughter insisted you get? There should be a Hallmark movie about that. “Mom Learns to Hear — A Christmas Miracle!”) So forgive me if I’m tetchy about the Hallmark Channel. I associate it with screaming blonde women in cable knit sweaters, standing in perfect kitchens the size of airplane hangers, baking cookies for guys named Brett.

Brett has a winsome, half-lame Labrador named “Bob Dole.” And he works as an architect in an mixed-use development kombucha bar/yoga studio/dry cleaner.  But Brett has Issues that keep him from fully realizing his Relationship Potential with cookie lady. He cannot properly knot a tie. Oh sure, he looks dashing in an open collar shirt, with flashes of perfectly groomed chest hair. But he freezes when confronted with a half-Windsor. This affliction has kept him from ever committing fully to a woman, lest she demand some sort of dress-up event. Will Cookie Lady understand?

Fast forward to the Tragic Orphan Leadership Summit where Brett has been asked to present the Tragic Orphan Leadership Prize. In a dramatic moment, Bob Dole steals his clip-on tie! And Cookie Lady is WATCHING! Will she love him for HIM? A goon who cannot knot silk?

A shirtless Brett stands in airplane hanger kitchen, while Cookie Lady plies him with snickerdoodles. A gentle snow falls in the background. Bob Dole winks.

****

It’s a mindfuck. Brett never has REAL problems, like a 20-year old lovechild he had with his mistress, who wants to borrow his truck. But his wife needs the truck, and she’s unaware of the lovechild.

We’re lead to believe that whatever Brett’s handicaps, everything can be solved with loving understanding and a square jawline. Cookie Lady will OVERCOME. She can WORK with IT. Just like that time she had to substitute baking powder with baking soda in that recipe. Like that, only it was crab lice.

Anyway Cookie Lady can FIX IT. And Brett is FIXABLE. And so, so very grateful. And shirtless.

Yeah, don’t watch that crap.

Any TV escapism suggestions, CN?

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mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
5 years ago

Before D-Day i used to enjoy watching ‘Cheaters’…ok ok, i’m partial to a bit of trashy TV every now and then.

Funnily enough Yo Yo Knickers used to turn her nose up at the show.

Now i guess i know why.

dandoopy
dandoopy
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Classic Chumplady, classic!

Love You????

Waffles
Waffles
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Agree with Cheaters. JAMF used to love it, until it became completely relevant and I knew. After that, he despised it.

Spoonriver
Spoonriver
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Third Rock from the Sun…very funny

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Hahahaha, yes!!! I loved watching Cheaters, exh2 didn’t, he said it was “made up”… After D-Day I realized that you really can’t make this shit up

Daniel
Daniel
5 years ago

It actually is made up, at least most of it is. My exes cousin was on an episode as the victim and it was all totally staged and scripted.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
5 years ago
Reply to  Daniel

Awwww man!!! Their reactions seem so real though!

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
5 years ago

That’s what mine said… It was made up. LOL Not quite…

Lexiechump
Lexiechump
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Marcella
Shes a cop
Kills the mistress
Fucks up his life
Yay
Any british crime show shetland, peaky blinders

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
5 years ago
Reply to  Lexiechump

I second the PeakyBlinders. 🙂 Definitely has some interesting plot twists. That show is how I got my name on this amazing site. And of course, it describes my incredible ability to not want to see/admit to what was happening in my own life.
Also, the Punisher (Marvel show) and Lucifer are interesting shows.

I do not recommend Nurse Jackie. Lots of triggers there…

Triumphafterterror
Triumphafterterror
5 years ago
Reply to  Peakyblinders

I got sucked into Nurse Jackie because I really like Edie Falco, but it was difficult to watch because she was so self destructive. It also made chemical dependency and drug abuse seem like a good idea . . . numb the terrible pain.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
5 years ago

I got sucked in momentarily, but then I had to shut it off for the very reasons you mentioned, Triumphafterterror.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
5 years ago
Reply to  Peakyblinders

I recommend Revenge Body with Kloe Kardashian. Get past the fact that it’s a Kardashian and skip to the MIGHTY in every episode. Sometimes we have to get mad to become better versions of ourselves.

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
5 years ago
Reply to  Lexiechump

Dr Foster is good too, a bit triggering for some maybe, but excellent portrayal of a manipulative character

Ivy_Tech
Ivy_Tech
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

Dr Foster season 1 was great. Gemma got her sweet revenge. 2nd season was just totally insane and I don’t reccomend it. I think the show writers went nuts and never finished it.

Aowlee
Aowlee
5 years ago
Reply to  Ivy_Tech

Agreed! Season 2 was too over the top.

Valerie
Valerie
5 years ago
Reply to  Ivy_Tech

Totally agreed. Loved Season 1, Season 2 was outrageously poor.

Wormfree2017
Wormfree2017
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

The Worm used to watch cheaters……what a weirdo. He was probably looking for ideas….
You can always watch the Shining.
It has a happy ending….

Triumphafterterror
Triumphafterterror
5 years ago
Reply to  Wormfree2017

We used to watch Mad Men religiously . . . now I think douche wanted to emulate Don Draper and was taking notes the entire time. Now if I hear the intro music to that show makes me want to vomit.

Sassy Sash
Sassy Sash
5 years ago

OMG. Mine also thought Don Draper was the best / genius and kept saying how he thought his wife was annoying. I was thinking well shes only being “annoying” cos shes suspecting infidelity but is just putting up with his shitty behaviour instead of confronting him.

He also kept emphasizing how great an actor Don Draper was because everyone’s meant to hate him in the show due to his douchery but everyone loves him.

When the piece of shit decided to up and leave, because I wasnt giving him the psycho reaction he envisioned in his head, he he had the audacity to change his Facebook cover picture to a quote from the “genius” Don Draper and started smoking to be just like him. He never smoked before. Quote from Don Draper:

“Happiness is the moment before you need more happiness”

Of course you had all these idiots that he interacts with liking and agreeing with that shit. Just as pathetic and fake and hollow as he is. This website culls that BS down perfectly:

http://www.kevinhabits.com/happiness-that-moment-before-you-need-more-happiness/

Once again just chasing the high of bullshittery. Guess what asshole… I wasn’t overly “happy” to be with your lazy ass entitled shit either but i accepted it. Though I was the one always on overdrive taking on all the responsibilities so he could go to gym n play xbox all night and weekend and not be annoyed by the dog he begged me to get and significantly outearned him which resulted in him having everything he wanted… i was content because I thought that made you HAPPY but no… apparently that made him realise he needs “more happiness”. My happiness wasn’t even a blip on his radar. No offers to help out around the house HE lived in. No cooking. Whinged if I asked him to take our pet to the vet as he was scheduled to start work later than me. Whinged if I ran late from work lest he miss 1 out of his 5 gym sessions a week. If I helped my friends out or did something nice for them “ugh I feel like you always put them first before me”.

Good luck to that fugly hoe. She’s an immigrant probably wanting an in to the country… jobless… brainless… no car… highly dependent… oh but her magical vagina and the fact that she smoke n drinks (because I didnt) will keep him fulfilled forever ???? he wont be chasing “happiness” ever again… yeh right… NEXT!!!

Leavealyingloser
Leavealyingloser
5 years ago
Reply to  Sassy Sash

Sassy sash you rock!

MovingOn
MovingOn
5 years ago

Same– I think my ex saw himself as Don Draper. We watched the first three seasons together, and then I discovered his cheating at the beginning of the fourth season, so that was the end of that show for me because it featured so much cheating.

Cliffs_of_Insanity
Cliffs_of_Insanity
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

(Warning: contains spoiler)

That scene in Sideways where Sandra Oh beats the shite out of Thomas Hayden Church when she finds out he’s engaged. Props for the creative use of a motorcycle helmet in a very cathartic scene. But he marries his fiancée in the end – who of course has no idea what has happened because of his enabling friend and their cover-up scheme. So maybe don’t watch the whole movie… :/

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
5 years ago

Your username rules!!

unicornomore
unicornomore
5 years ago

I watched that one very shortly after DDay and there were 2 cheating lines in that movie…the Paul Giamotti character pines after his XW and when he chases her down at the wedding, she said “why all this now, you told me I made you feel ‘less than’ and that is why you had the affairs”..it was so fast, it could have been missed. So all along, his sad sausage schtick was dysfunctional narc got called on his shit.

No matter though, back then, I was in so much pain everything hurt.

hopefloats80
hopefloats80
5 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

I have been rewatching the Sopranos. Even though big boss is always having affairs, I didn’t get triggered until Wife finds out from mistress calling. Her gut wrenching screams and crying reminded me of my own Dday. I thought that’s exactly how I looked, thankfully I smiled because I’m so much better off and stronger.

SheChump
SheChump
5 years ago
Reply to  hopefloats80
Duped
Duped
5 years ago
Reply to  SheChump

Wow!

nomar
nomar
5 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

I second “Cheaters.” Because I watched it and thought, “That’s fucked up.” And also, “That’s my life.” And putting 2 and 2 together, I knew I was doing the right thing to divorce a cheater.

Betrayed and Confussed
Betrayed and Confussed
5 years ago
Reply to  nomar

After D-Day I saw Cheaters and had the Dvr record every episode so she’d see every time she put on a show for the kids, lol. Ain’t I a stinker. I find that pop culture often uses cheating as a quick way to tell the audience “this is a bad person” just like they use the death of a child as a way to say “they have suffered a profound loss” after having kids and being cheated on I find both offensive. Showtime should be ashamed of its show The Affair. Yeah the guy’s life is a mess but it’s still the older man younger girl fantasy and she’s not bad because, oh shit, her kid died, she’s suffered a profound loss, lol

Living a nightmare live
Living a nightmare live
5 years ago

The Other Woman is a great movie!

Anna
Anna
5 years ago

Crazy Ex Girlfriend for seeing a disordered view of relationships combined with some mental illness. Tackles tough real issues, and is very funny. And I don’t really love escapism tv- today there are so many good tv shows with real depth and story lines, so go for something like that instead of Hallmark channel or Real Housewives. And I agree with CL- get out of the mindfuck!!

roxie
roxie
5 years ago
Reply to  Anna

Absolutely! Crazy Ex-Girlfriend really digs in deep to some pretty serious stuff, while having funny moments and engaging songs.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
5 years ago

Better Things

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
5 years ago

TO WATCH:

Elizabeth – with Cate Blanchett

Seriously… watch that TODAY.

NOT TO WATCH:

The Way We Were

Have a great day Chump Nation!

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago

I didn’t realize there were two of them.

Yes! They are good!

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  Sunflower36

Elizabeth, that is I&II

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
5 years ago

The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel

roxie
roxie
5 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

Yep!

twiceachump
twiceachump
5 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

I watched this at the suggestion of CN. It started a little slow and I thought about throwing in the towel. I’m SOOOO GLAD I didn’t. I love this show!

NoMoreNarcs
NoMoreNarcs
5 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

Don’t watch season 2

12YearsWasted
12YearsWasted
5 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

This was going to be my suggestion! It does feature cheating but the way it’s dealt with is totally mighty! Loved it.

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

That’s good too!

Middlefingersup
Middlefingersup
5 years ago

I’m really into killing eve in bbc right now. The assassain is a sociopath, but she is a delightful one. The lack of fs she gives is refreshing.

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
5 years ago

I saw the commercials for that, I wanted to DVR it, thanks for the reminder!

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago

I haven’t had cable since 2004, so Netflix and Amazon Prime it is. I spend pretty much any time to view TV with 2 kids who like Disney and Scooby-Doo.

I watch Hoarders and am thankful I’ve managed to NOT drag everything with potential into my home. There’s something cathartic about watching people learning to toss that shit away. And it makes me want to clean.

Sister wives… because it’s a train wreck.

Vikings.

Orange Is The New Black

Comedies of any stripe.

Anything Downton Abby-ish

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  Sunflower36

Oh, I really love Band Of Brothers too.

Triumphafterterror
Triumphafterterror
5 years ago

I absolutely hate the Hallmark Channel, especially during the holidays. The fascination with that drivel is so confusing to me. Fb is Alight with women so excited for all of the movies coming up during the Christmas season!!!! Get your wine ready and have a girls night binge watching absurdity!! Are we really that pathetic of a society that the Hallmark Channel is a something to get excited about? I can’t even see a post without rolling my eyes. The whole thing is just weird.
Yes, watch movies about ass kicking. Or pick one for some eye candy. Will & Grace is hilarious. Catch up on shows you missed on Netflix. My personal faves are cop dramas. I’m not a fan of the romance stuff. ????

Peachy Again Soon
Peachy Again Soon
5 years ago

EX loved the Hallmark channel and we watched all the Christmas movies together
– until he decided to move out in November 2014. I can’t stand the channel anymore and leave the room when my mom starts watching it during the holidays. Such unbelievable tripe! I love police dramas – very happily watching NYPD Blue on Hulu right now. After X left and before I moved 2500 miles away I watched a lot of Food Channel and Law & Order. They kept me sane.

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
5 years ago

I loved NYPDBlue! I cried like a baby when Bobby died.still mad at them for killing him off.

StigOfTheChump
StigOfTheChump
5 years ago

Mother may I sleep with danger? It’s supposed to be the worst, so that might be entertaining.

Ispyacheater
Ispyacheater
5 years ago
Reply to  StigOfTheChump

StigofTheChump:

Mother May I sleep with Danger, is horrible!! I love the Lifetime channel because many of the shows are horrible and make me laugh.
Most shows follow the formula of: happy family, someone cheats, dies, gets sick, someone goes nuts and then happy ending.

StigOfTheChump
StigOfTheChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Ispyacheater

Plus, Tori! I must watch it sometime.

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
5 years ago

I have no use for the Hallmark channel nor Lifetime Movie channel
I loved the mighty movie of the weeks on the major networks

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago

I can’t take The Halmark Channel seriously.

Or Lifetime. Is that still a channel?

SlinkyRacoon
SlinkyRacoon
5 years ago

I really enjoyed “Insecure” on HBO recently.

K
K
5 years ago
Reply to  SlinkyRacoon

I second “Insecure”!! And I liked how it dealt with infidelity in it as well…there were real-world consequences. He didn’t take her back. It killed the relationship beyond repair. And even how the consensual nonmonogamous relationship affects Molly…v realistic.

SlinkyRacoon
SlinkyRacoon
5 years ago
Reply to  K

Yes! I thought it was really good at depicting how devastating cheating can be on a relationship and how there’s no turning back at some points.

Also, I like how they depicted Lawrence as being unable to commit now, and that girl he was seeing called him right out on it at the BBQ. I felt that!

Cakeless in Kalamazoo
Cakeless in Kalamazoo
5 years ago

I highly recommend Doctor Foster. While I do have some complaints with the second season, it does a really good job of capturing Darius aspects of the affair and what it does to one’s life.

kmanning
kmanning
5 years ago

Agree with you @CakelessinKalamazoo, loved the first season of Doctor Foster. The gaslighting, the image management and how it really captures how you think you’re living your life…and that illusion is shattered in an instant.

Season 2, I was just yelling at the screen. “No, no, why are you doing that?” But Season 2 absolutely drove home that your kids will be damaged by your bad behavior during the divorce.

renee62
renee62
5 years ago
Reply to  kmanning

I recommend Dr Foster too! I have a friend who is not a chump & she watched it too. It’s interesting to hear a non-Chump’s thoughts about the show. I’m biased I guess & I root for the chump all the time. She pointed out where the chump did wrong too.
But Dr Foster captured so many aspects of what we chumps go through that others who haven’t been there will never understand no matter how much they love us.

sweetChumpgirl
sweetChumpgirl
5 years ago

I suppose I’m kinda geeky to love Antique Roadshow. Mostly because people find treasures within and honestly are amazed the value of these items they had hidden in their attics.

unicornomore
unicornomore
5 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

I like “American Pickers”..fun to watch them look for treasures

Poppyfool
Poppyfool
5 years ago

I watched “An Affair”- a series rather than a movie. It really hit home how they just don’t care about the consequences on the wife and kids. It is all about them. Karma hits big time towards the end.

Cardigirl
Cardigirl
5 years ago
Reply to  Poppyfool

The Affair, on Showtime? I thought they did a really good job, in the first two seasons, of showing the fallout of an affair. And Maura Tierney was fantastic as the betrayed wife.

There is a bit of the cheating apologist philosophy driving that show, but it did resonate with me, especially Maura’s character’s responses.

Loving life
Loving life
5 years ago

An oldie but a goodie – The First Wives Club. Mighty!

Traffic_Spiral
Traffic_Spiral
5 years ago
Reply to  Loving life

Yup. If you wanna get weird and dark, then watch the miniseries The Life and Loves of a She Devil (you can find it on YouTube) it’s about a kind and plain-looking woman whose husband leaves her for a prettier, shallower woman, and so she goes about totally destroying both of them, and then getting extensive and painful plastic surgery to look like the other woman. It’s a good one for both “you can beat them at their own game,” as well as “not moving on and wallowing in your anger just leads to more suffering.”

For non-divorce TV stuff, Great British Bake Off (just cheeky British puns and baked goods), Timeless (silly time-traveling action fun) and Brooklyn Nine-Nine (one of the best comedies out there).

DrFormerChump
DrFormerChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Traffic_Spiral

Love, love, love the Great British Baking Show where the meanest thing anyone says is “I believe it’s a tad overbaked.”

A Survivor
A Survivor
5 years ago

“First Wives Club “was better than “The Other Woman”. It was still great to watch the asshole get what they deserve. That doesn’t always happen, until chumplady. Keep pushing chump nation. The reconciliation industrial complex is cracking.

lost wishes
lost wishes
5 years ago

I used to watch HGTV and the Food Network, but not anymore. I like comedies now and my favorite is Schitt’s Creek on Netflix. The episodes are 30 minutes which is good for me since I still have problems with focusing my attention for longer periods since my divorce almost a year ago.

oldcrone
oldcrone
5 years ago
Reply to  lost wishes

The Food Network was actually a trigger for me, specifically Diners, Drive-ins and Dives. He told me that he took his AP to many of the restaurants in our state that were featured on the show. He never took me anywhere, not even the grocery store. He took her to the grocery store every week after they would go out to eat. I always wondered why grocery shopping took six hours and he would never answer his phone while he was out. He told me he didn’t hear his phone when I called. I remember thinking it was weird, as he was able to hear his phone when anyone else called.

Patsy
Patsy
5 years ago
Reply to  oldcrone

OldCrone, this is a classic narcissist tactic.

They know what you want, and DELIGHT in not giving it to you, because you are Not The Boss of Them.

People will say, he never went on vacation – but he took OW to the place I always wanted to go to. It isn’t about you, its them.

I always wanted to go to the Japanese restaurant Nobu. He never took me for morning coffee, let alone Nobu. I made it a condition of reconciliation, that we would go to Nobu. Didn’t happen.

Ho hum, I will go to Nobu myself. You do to DDD places with a friend, yourself.

oldcrone
oldcrone
5 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Thank you, Patsy. Your “you are Not The Boss” really rings true, although he used to call me “Warden”. Like he was in prison. Well if our marriage was a prison, then security was lax as he was able to “escape” whenever he wanted. As I read this site and others, I realize that the man has narcissistic tendencies and has been like this for the whole 44 years we have been together.
I really don’t want to go to the places they went together; he tried taking me to a place they went to all the time and it didn’t go well. The staff were clearly confused when he nervously introduced me as his wife. I will never go back there. No loss, it wasn’t so great. Actually it was terrible, but their taste was terrible as evidenced by their being together.
Neither of them are good people (entitled, angry, cheaters, liars, users, lazy, substance abusers) and she is the tackiest person. A couple years ago, Schmoopie went to his mother’s funeral wearing a short, tight purple dress (she’s almost 50 and about 150 pounds overweight), with matching purple high heels and PURPLE lipstick. Gross. Who goes to a funeral univited, looking like a cheap whore? She got a lot of attention at the funeral (raised eyebrows), so I guess the outfit worked for her. This was about the time (I found out later) that they were on the outs. They had a really rocky relationship even though they were together for 10 years. Guess she was trying to seduce him back by looking so beautiful????. She was a clueless, classless asshole, but so is he.

Lucky
Lucky
5 years ago
Reply to  lost wishes

Yes – Schitt’s Creek!!!

Also Sherlock. Broadchurch. And my guilty pleasure was going back and watching all the seasons of Depreate House Wives ( not immediately after BD of course)!

NeverGonnaChange
NeverGonnaChange
5 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

Can’t watch Broadchurch, as the woman who cheated with the husband of the dead boy looks EXACTLY like one of the ho’s my (now ex) husband cheated with me on this past Fall.

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
5 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

OMG, Broadchurch!!!
Love that show!!!

logo
logo
5 years ago

If you like those check out Vera. Brenda Blythen is sooo good. I just noticed it on Hulu after watching it on PBS.

12YearsWasted
12YearsWasted
5 years ago
Reply to  lost wishes

That’s a good one! I love Schitt’s Creek!

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  lost wishes

That’s a grief thing, as well as forgetfulness. I feel like I am FINALLY regaining my memory and it’s been a year and 8 months since he dropped the bomb.

Rebecca
Rebecca
5 years ago

For female chumps of a certain age, watch Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin in ‘Grace & Frankie’!

It’s something I can laugh at and find inspiring. Even though my body has not aged like Jane Fonda’s I can relate to dating way past the point where I ever imagined that I would.

Other Kat
Other Kat
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

I love the show, too, but what sticks in my craw is how the two husbands come clean about their affair. For those of us chumps whose cheaters are in the closet, this is about as close to a unicorn as you can come–it rarely, if ever, happens, mostly because what keeps closeted cheaters in the closet is their narcissistic drive to maintain image management at all costs. I would have given anything if my X had been willing to come clean and move on like two adults but no, like 99.9% of cheaters, he denies his behavior, blames me, and continues to act as though nothing has changed at all.

Jo
Jo
5 years ago
Reply to  Other Kat

Amen!! Gay-in-denial narcs like ours would never do a big reveal like the husbands in Grace and Frankie did. To this day, mine still denies any infidelity, despite being caught cohabiting in a fault state with a gay couple during our mediation… fortunately, judge saw right through him. They love their closet more than anyone or anything,

lovedandlost
lovedandlost
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Love Grace & Frankie! I am of the gray divorce crowd also so can relate. I also enjoy Elementary. I envy the total lack of romanticism in Holmes’ and Watson’s characters.

MovingOn
MovingOn
5 years ago
Reply to  lovedandlost

Elementary is awesome. I think the new season started last night!

Sucker Punched by a Saffa
Sucker Punched by a Saffa
5 years ago
Reply to  MovingOn

Yes it did ! The writing is superb especially for the character Sherclock. I have to pay very close attention to follow his brilliant mind.

Jo
Jo
5 years ago
Reply to  lovedandlost

I am of the secretly GAY divorce myself, and so I see myself in both Grace and Frankie. Lol

Jumper
Jumper
5 years ago
Reply to  Jo

Me too Jo, there are quite a few of us here. I love Grace and Frankie too, but it was a little to close to home the first year I tried to watch it.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

I LOVE Grace & Frankie!

TorontoChump
TorontoChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Jane Fonda’s body has not aged like Jane Fonda’s! The amount of cosmetic surgery and disordered eating required to keep her looking like a taut mNnequin are alarming!

Mehtamorphosis
Mehtamorphosis
5 years ago
Reply to  TorontoChump

True, but in Jane’s defense she exercises like a demon. I think she gets most of her calories from martinis.

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2015/may/21/jane-fonda-youth-plastic-surgery-sex-cannes

Mehtamorphosis
Mehtamorphosis
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Two thumbs up for Grace & Frankie! Jane Fonda is the bee’s knees as Grace, and Lily Tomlin is just a hoot as Frankie. Martin Sheen and Sam Waterston are hilarious too as the husbands, Robert and Sol, who turn out to have been lovers for decades and leave their wives to get married. The guys are a little campy and over the top in their acting, but in a good way. The four adult children are also great — I especially like June Diane Raphael as Brianna, who is very snarky and badass (reminds me of my daughter, actually). The show overall is very funny, and yet there are poignant turns in the storyline as well, with lots of currency in its issues. Loved the moment when we see Sol knitting pussy hats!

The show does address cheating, but it wasn’t at all triggering to me and I watched the first season right after I left my ex when lots of shows did trigger me. Bawled my eyes out all night after the scene in The Crown when Princess Anne gets schmoopified by Peter Townsend.

ozziechump
ozziechump
5 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

I really enjoy Grace & Frankie! Nice to know we might date way past ‘our use by date’ almost at the point I could think about it! Still not sure however. I am burned forever!

12YearsWasted
12YearsWasted
5 years ago

My go-to are The Office and Parks and Recreation. But I recently started watching Bob’s Burgers (which is an adult cartoon and it’s hilarious) and Last Man on Earth. Also another comedy is The Goldbergs.

jenny
jenny
5 years ago
Reply to  12YearsWasted

Bob’s Burgers is my favorite! I also recommend Rick and Morty for any adult cartoon fans. My favorite Rick quote…Weddings are basically funerals with cake 🙂

peacekeeper
peacekeeper
5 years ago
Reply to  jenny

Jenny,
“Weddings are basically funerals with cake”
That strikes me funny!
I did have the traditional wedding cake,
Seems the traditional cheater too!

I don’t watch much TV, ok, I love to watch some hockey games.
About 9 months ago after my eldest daughter lost her husband very tragically, suddenly, I spent a lot of time with her. For some reason or other we ended up rolling a few episodes of Grace and Frankie. We laughed, we cried. We spent time together, sometimes not saying anything at all.

To me the Hallmark Channel Movies =Adult FairyTales.

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  12YearsWasted

Bobs Burgers is hysterical… and Archer is also good.

StigOfTheChump
StigOfTheChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Sunflower36

Ooh, Archer, very sharp, and short episodes, which helped as I couldn’t concentrate on much. Parks and Rec is amaazing, and not too heavy. Suburgatory was funny, light and charming, with awesome characters and acting. If you want something to get your teeth into, oldie but goodie – Deadwood (R rated language for those that might be sensative to that). I went through a binge of Arnold Schwartznegger movies, Die Hards, Lethal Weapons, just straightforward 80s action flicks, with not too much thinking, and it helped. Designated Survivor – I want to make a drinking game where you drink everytime he says “Sonovabitch” or does something Extremely Kind. It’s really Jack Bauer’s twin Kevin who went into town planning but opens the can of whipass when people are mean to one another.

UXworld
UXworld
5 years ago

First on the docket should be Doctor Foster. Triggers galore, and in keeping with the need for imperfect relatable heroes she makes some bad choices herself, but it’s awesome. (As is Mrs Maisel.)

Confused123
Confused123
5 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

Love love love Dr. Foster. Season 1 is best for Chump to watch and Season 2 for the OW.

QueenMother
QueenMother
5 years ago

I like to listen to the daily news shows and watch clips from night night comedy. Rich material! Like a 19th century novel, full of louts who get their comeuppance, just sayin. Every single day we saw karma unfold for assholes, so yah, reality wins — lovin it!!!

AussieChump
AussieChump
5 years ago

I can’t believe The Notebook used to be my favourite movie! I am disgusted in myself.

Cheater watched TV constantly so, when he left, I turned the TV off and enjoyed the serenity. I read a lot now (mostly Chump Nation forums!) ????????

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
5 years ago
Reply to  AussieChump

We did the same thing chez moi: no TV atall! Eased back in to fin thing and remote CONTROL that *I* control! Whoo! Until DD16 gets to it…mostly youtube videos &or music!

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
5 years ago
Reply to  AussieChump

Aussie, that was my reaction: to never watch TV again because of sparkledick’s irritating habit of spending entire weekends on the couch and telling me to shut up when I tried to talk about something.

Plus in my country cable TV is 30% adds, which of course idiot consumers are paying for. I prefer to use my $ being a patreon for Chump Lady and use Netflix and Amazon.

cashmere
cashmere
5 years ago

Things never to watch: Fireproof. Yeah, nobody is going to do “The Love Dare” to great effect. The cheater won’t smash the computer to avoid porn, and leave you flowers where it used to be. Concerned friends won’t step in with deep spiritual support. In-laws won’t pray unceasingly for the marriage to be restored. There will be no transformations or vow renewals in bucolic settings before rustic wooden crosses.

Nope.

What cheater and AP apparently routinely watched together: those reenactment shows where the betrayed wife gets offed by either the spouse or the new love. Yup. Nice, right?

StigOfTheChump
StigOfTheChump
5 years ago
Reply to  cashmere

ID channel? They’re all class.

unicornomore
unicornomore
5 years ago
Reply to  cashmere

There was a time when I help so much hope in thinks like “Fireproof”… I think people who make shows like that mean well but simply have no idea how disordered people really are.

Yea, so anyone tempted to watch that show should instead quickly punch themselves in the face – it will feel the same and take less time.

Peachy Again Soon
Peachy Again Soon
5 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

My sister lovingly gave me a DVD of “Fireproof”. I’ve never watched it. After reading this I don’t think I’ll bother now, either.

AussieChump
AussieChump
5 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

????

QueenMother
QueenMother
5 years ago
Reply to  cashmere

You’re so right Cashmere!!!

You have listed everything and everyone I turned to for help!! Did you also mention religious community? Where adultery is forbidden?? Prostitution is out?? Window-peeping taboo??? How about he preyed on YOUR daughter, asshole!!! (Instead of prayed WITH).

James Bond mused, “I guess God just doesn’t want us back together. . . .” I guess not if you can’t straighten up and fly right.

AussieChump
AussieChump
5 years ago
Reply to  cashmere

That’s creepy, Cashmere.

And yes, totally agree about Fireproof. STBX and I did The Love Dare a few years back. Kind of. Not really. Ok, it was just ME that did The Love Dare. Surprise!!

Current Chump
Current Chump
5 years ago
Reply to  AussieChump

Same here-
“And yes, totally agree about Fireproof. Deceased cheater and I did The Love Dare a few years back. Kind of. Not really. Ok, it was just ME that did The Love Dare. Surprise!!”

Facepalm

nomar
nomar
5 years ago

“Andy Griffith,” Because it’s good-hearted and gentle and content with itself despite the fact that NONE of the characters has an intact family except for Otis the town drunk. The original “It Tales a Villiage.”

SLK
SLK
5 years ago
Reply to  nomar

I second that.

Can you imagine a character cheating in Mayberry? Never happen. Or if it did happen they would be drove out of town and shunned by every town member.

Adding:

Little House in the Prarie
The Walton’s ( but it can be too melancholy)
Fraiser

Sayonarasadsausage
Sayonarasadsausage
5 years ago
Reply to  SLK

Golden Girls

Jo
Jo
5 years ago

Golden Girls is everything! I want to be Sophia Petrillo.

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
5 years ago
Reply to  Jo

Yes!!!!! Dorothy is me 24-7

Kettle
Kettle
5 years ago

Dolores Claiborne.

“Husbands die all the time, Dolores. Why, one is probably dying right now while you’re sitting here, weeping! They die, and leave their wives their money.”

Chumpzilla
Chumpzilla
5 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

“Sometimes you have to be a high-riding bitch. Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman has to hang onto.”

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
5 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

I have used that quote many times since D-day.

Sucker Punched by a Saffa
Sucker Punched by a Saffa
5 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

“Run Dolores run ! Lead that drunk, child molesting p.o.s. on a merry chase to that giant hole in the ground !”

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  Kettle

Sometimes an accident can be a woman’s best friend.

NoMoreNarcs
NoMoreNarcs
5 years ago

It’s actually a relief to be done with the tyranny of watching tv. There were so many shows we ‘had’ to watch every week, it felt like a part-time job. Even if the shows were good…

Time has been filled with rediscovering lost pursuits, and life’s tedium is filled with podcasts.

Podcasts for Chumps – now there’s an idea for another column

Alexandra
Alexandra
5 years ago
Reply to  NoMoreNarcs

I can relate to this. When we separated all of a sudden the TV was OFF. The only time anyone in the house watched TV was my daughter on the weekend.

It was very freeing.

Chickynot
Chickynot
5 years ago
Reply to  Alexandra

I’m with you, Alexandra!

The wonderful peace and quiet of not having to put up with having the TV constantly on, if not the radio, or both (X would complain if we ever even ate dinner without “music” — but of course it had to be of his choosing) is so freeing. I think some narcs just require constant background noise/stimulation because when they’re alone with their own thoughts, there’s truly “nobody home” = boredom. Mine would always purposely turn every light in the house on, who knows why. He couldn’t stand to be alone, ever. (Maybe even he doesn’t like toxic company?)

MightyE
MightyE
5 years ago
Reply to  NoMoreNarcs

Oh boy do I have podcast suggestions.

But to avoid going too off-topic, if you’re a podcast fan and not listening to Beautiful Anonymous yet, go subscribe right now.

NoMoreNarcs
NoMoreNarcs
5 years ago
Reply to  MightyE

done!

MightyE
MightyE
5 years ago

Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt is pretty great.

Young woman gets freed from a doomsday cult in the Midwest, decides to build a new life in New York, and somehow its one of the funniest comedies ever made. Finding the funny in tragedy is a great survival skill.

Don’t watch House of Cards. Too much casual adultery, and it turns out Kevin Spacey is a creepful nightmare shit in real life too.

Sunflower36
Sunflower36
5 years ago
Reply to  MightyE

The difference with House Of Cards is that Claire knows he’s strategically boinking everything that moves, and it works for her.

kmanning
kmanning
5 years ago

Watch the Great British Baking show! It is charming, contestants, judges, and hosts. It is definitely a feel-good!

kb
kb
5 years ago
Reply to  kmanning

I second this! It’s a great show! It’s The Great British Bake-Off in in the UK, but due to trademarke issues with Pillsbury, it couldn’t run with that title in the US. One of the features of the show is the way that the contestants encourage and help each other.

Love Your Garden is pretty heartwarming. For newer, rawer Chumps, I’d recommend any of the British cooking or gardening shows.

What Not to Watch When You’re a New Chump

I’ve enjoyed the Mysteries of Laura, but I don’t think it’s great for Chumps who are right at the Dday stage. The main character divorces her serial cheating husband, but the series is based on a kind of wreckonciliation theme. The CheaterX decides he wants a chance to prove that he’s a good guy after all, so he tranfers to her precinct (they’re both cops). I keep wanting to tell the main character that no matter how nice he is, he’s not done the work. You just don’t change from a serial-cheater to a faithful spouse overnight. That there’s a unicorn siting

sadsongbird
sadsongbird
5 years ago

The Santa Clarita Diet is a weirdly funny series, and a great escape. I also really like the Marvel series on Netflix. Jessica Jones, in particular, is badass and fun to watch.

Traffic_Spiral
Traffic_Spiral
5 years ago
Reply to  sadsongbird

SCD is hilarious, but if you’re going through a cheating spouse, it might hurt to see a husband as devoted as Joel Hammond. He’s totally there for her throughout his wife’s undead and cannibalism issues because hey, no marriage is perfect, and your POS spouse can’t even keep their pants on?

Cheryl
Cheryl
5 years ago

I don’t watch First Dates now because I can spot the total tools from 50 paces. It becomes like a superpower and spoils mindless tv watching.

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
5 years ago

In the immediate aftermath of moving out and getting a divorce, I was obsessed with justice type shows. Law and Order, Criminal Minds (can’t watch that one right before bed though). Any type of half hour comedy provided entertainment too.

violet
violet
5 years ago

GLOW(on Netflix) is great, especially after one of the main characters discovers her friend has cheated with the character’s husband and goes for an old-fashioned ass whooping. She also sees straight through cheating husband. I love the way the women are there for each other and don’t let any man come between them. The ending of Season 1 has a typical wresting twist. I love it even though I am not a wrestling fan; it spoofs the entire industry.

Got-a-brain
Got-a-brain
5 years ago

One of my all time favorites (I’m going to show my age here) The Color Purple

G.I Jane
Thelma and Louise
Erin Brockovich (spelling?)

There was a time that I could not watch anything involving affairs, I would have a gut level reaction to them. I don’t recommend this movie to anyone who hasn’t reached MEH in relation to the affair partner… and for gods sake, don’t become their best friend! This movie does make me laugh though.

The Other Woman

CheatersKilljoy
CheatersKilljoy
5 years ago
Reply to  Got-a-brain

Not to be confused with Natalie Portman’s the other woman tho! That one hurts!

CheatersKilljoy
CheatersKilljoy
5 years ago

Omg, I just saw they changed the name of it! It’s now called Love and Other impossible Pursuits: the other woman. Lol

SLK
SLK
5 years ago

Watch:

DVD Sets:
Lost, Six Feet Under, Scrubs, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Wire,
Orange is the New Black, Justified, As Time Goes By, Keeping Up Appearances.

If you feel dark and gritty: Oz.

When feeling a bit stronger: The Sopranos.

Start at Season One, Episode One. See how a remorseless cheater thinks and acts. Watch the best acting and writing in the last 100 years on television. The one box set I would take on a desert island if that’s all I could have. Aside from survival tools.

And watch Sex and the City. On this site, some people have believed it is a cheater apologist show. As someone who has watched it so many times I know the dialogue by heart, it is absolutely not. When Carrie cheated, Charlotte was going to end friendship over her lack of character. Aiden left Carrie and she was left alone and miserable after she confessed cheating. What she also thought was a love letter was a letter from a law firm demanding that she paid back for her apartment Aiden bought. When Samantha was caught groping a married man she was banned from all social functions by a blue blood mafia type. Consequences.

Likewise, when Steve cheated on Maranda, she moved out immediately. They did have a reconciliation but you have to remember this is HBO.

They do not breeze over or make jokes about cheating as some shows like Everybody loves Raymond (so depressing – women as nags- men as long suffering buffoons- how original!)

SATC is complete mind candy. Like crack TV. It is perfect for allowing yourself to escape. The episodes are only 30 minutes long and they are very clever and funny writing. It is very good for helping with intrusive thoughts. You’re in another world, a fantasy for about 30 minutes and it’s usually pretty good company.

The absurdity of someone who writes one weekly column living in an apartment the size of Carrie and wearing $1200 shoes is stupid. But it is just escapism.

The themes that run in our lives that are so similar is shocking. The last time I was at my mothers, I said we can watch anything but the Hallmark Channel.

A great show to feel completely in control of your life and like you have your shit together is Hoarders. Those poor people. And a great metaphor for living with a cheater .

But do not watch it while you are trying to eat.

Jessie Desolay
Jessie Desolay
5 years ago
Reply to  SLK

I second Justified–you can binge watch it on Amazon and Walton Goggins’ talent is something to behold. I’d never even heard of him before I watch Justified and now I’m his biggest fan. It’s pretty true to Elmore Leonard and it’s the first violent show I’ve ever liked. A friend of mine said it’s not that violent by modern standards, but I thought it was pretty violent, but worth it.

Sucker Punched by a Saffa
Sucker Punched by a Saffa
5 years ago
Reply to  SLK

“A blue blood Mafia type” LOL !

Those Upper East Side/Wall Street/Hamptons/Greenwich wives are downright scary !

twiceachump
twiceachump
5 years ago

I have a morbid obsession with Forensic Files and got DD16 hooked on it too. She wants to fast forward through any that have a wife with mystery symptoms mimicking the flu (chronically sick, bed ridden/wheel chair) but no one can figure out what’s wrong with her. It’s another poisoning, usually arsenic, trying to off the spouse so the cheater can ride off into the twu wuv sunset with their schmoopie. Some have already sent out wedding invitations before the spouse is dead. Is this a downer? Maybe so. Or you can be grateful you got out of the shit show alive no matter how financially screwed over you may have been. No one can believe this has happened! They were the perfect couple! Or there’s a staged break in and shockingly the spouse was killed and the cheater survived. What? Schmoopie moved in the next day and at the funeral? That’s just a coincidence.

I suggest avoiding any movies where the female is ‘rescued’ by the white knight that just needs to be tweeked a little but he’s otherwise perfect!

Jessie Desolay
Jessie Desolay
5 years ago
Reply to  twiceachump

Regarding poison: statistically, more women kill by poison than men. But I think there’s a real similarity between poisoners and cheaters. In the May 2005 National Geographic, Alphonse Poklis, a professor of toxicology and pathology (and other things) at VCU, is quoted as saying, “Poison is the weapon of controlling, sneaky people with no conscience, no sorrow, no remorse. They are scary, manipulative; if you weren’t convinced by the evidence, you wouldn’t believe they could do such a thing….[Poisoning is] not in the American character. If you are going to kill someone and you are a true American, you shoot them. A real man doesn’t sneak around.”
In the same article, Marcella Fierro (who inspired the character of Kay Scarpetta in Patricia Cornwall’s novels) says, “I see the poisoner as a smooth psychopath who would lie to Christ on the Cross, and you would believe him. I only know of two who pled guilty.”
Interestingly, the City Confidential episode about Anjette Lyles is playing in the next room as I type this. She poisoned her family members and pretended to tend to them lovingly as she watched them die a terrible death. I believe some of the cheaters described here on CL are capable of this.

Valerie
Valerie
5 years ago
Reply to  twiceachump

“Crash Course” is a Forensic Files show depicting just that in our rural MN town. OW waited for him, he’s out of jail, they got married and it just sucks.

JustWondering
JustWondering
5 years ago
Reply to  twiceachump

Yes! I was going to suggest Forensic Files. It is alarming how many husbands kill their wives. So if you need extra motivation to get out…it’s the show for you.

brit
brit
5 years ago
Reply to  JustWondering

Forensic Files, it is alarming how many husbands kill their wives.
These episodes of Forensic files are the husbands who get caught, I can’t help but wonder how many have gotten away with it.

twiceachump, it’s always interesting that they were the perfect couple, no one can believe it, he was a great guy. Schmoopie moved in the following week, are seen together shopping for engagement rings. Oh, but he was lonely.., she was helping him grieve.., or helped care for his children.

I especially enjoy seeing the husband in the courtroom, tears streaming down his face.

Her Blondeness
Her Blondeness
5 years ago
Reply to  JustWondering

Forensic Files: Cheater #2’s fav show. Scary. If I quit posting suddenly, have them exhume my body and redo the autopsy. ; )

Diana
Diana
5 years ago

Just watched all episodes of Sex and the City LOVE…

SLK
SLK
5 years ago
Reply to  Diana

Yes!!!
See my comments above. That is a show about female friendship. Nothing else.

Kimhopes
Kimhopes
5 years ago

WATCH
Orphan Black is an awesome series.
A Place to Call Home is an Australian series that tackles really complex topics extremely well.
Man Up, a wonderful movie with Simon Pegg and Lake Bell.

Yesshesucks
Yesshesucks
5 years ago

Sitcom re-runs (King of Queens, Golden Girls), re-runs of Whose Line is it Anyway, and the Arrowverse (superheroes are the best escapism!).

I’ve definetly been using TV as escapism at night, during the day too when I can’t make it to work … I’m just starting out on the road to meh. My wife of almost 14 years moves out Friday (’cause I asked her to finally after we both went back and fourth for a couple of months post D-Day). 4 kids … I’m not okay, but hope to be someday.

UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
UnsinkableMollyXinAlabama
5 years ago
Reply to  Yesshesucks

Welcome aboard, matey @YesSheSucks …the club no one wants to join, but ends up being a lifeline.

Marvel/superhero shows are great escapism.

PrisonChump
PrisonChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Yesshesucks

It’s so hard. I too had days where I just couldn’t bring myself to go to work. But everyday gets a little better. I promise. Hang in there!

LongTimeChump
LongTimeChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Yesshesucks

Yesshesucks, Welcome to the club nobody wants to join. You are migty for telling her to fuck off. Your road started last Friday. Tuesday Meh is on the horizon. Glad you found CL so quickly, she and CN are life saviors. Keep checking in, this is the mightiest and most supportive nation in the world and we’ve got your back!

AussieChump
AussieChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Yesshesucks

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The road to Meh will be much better when she moves out. She sucks.

susan Devlin
susan Devlin
5 years ago

Most uk soaps operas, always affairs, Emmerdale lady had affair, because she was bereaved. Cornation street repeated from 30 years ago on itv 3, boyfriend expects her to pay all bills, and cheats, (later tries to kill her). Dr foster suspects her husband of cheating, they divorced. He married cheater, season 2, apparently she wants him back. Dr foster was is and still is big in uk.

Soldiering On
Soldiering On
5 years ago
Reply to  susan Devlin

“Last Tango in Halifax” absolutely breathtaking in some of it’s plot lines! Very cool and funny and sad; you never know what’s going to happen!

Paintwidow
Paintwidow
5 years ago

I watched “The Other Woman” with Leslie Mann on a continuous loop after my last D day and the ultimate discard.
It actually premiered on Starz or HBO like the weekend after he left, I set my DVR to tape. That recoding is still there today.
It was one of he few things that made me laugh. I would go to bed at night and that movie would lull me to sleep.
Hilarious……

Chumpy Chumpy Chump Chump (uk edition)
Chumpy Chumpy Chump Chump (uk edition)
5 years ago

The series ‘Suits’ on Netflix is great. The lead character Harvey Specter refuses to indulge in adultery or cheating of any description. Not only is he easy on the eye and successful but he becomes a hell of a lot sexier when he says cheaters are not his sort of people. His mother cheated on his father and he saw the humiliation and devastation of his father first hand. He went mad at his secretary for kissing him when he was dating someone else… says it drew him into being a cheat.

I rarely watch TV except one UK soap opera called Emmerdale – which is 25 mins chewing gum for my eyes on weekday evenings. I was hooked on Suits 🙂

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
5 years ago

Since living alone, I barely watch TV. Mainly sports or the news. Skankboy and his mother when she would visit for 3 1/2 looooong months would have the TV on 24/7. Now days will go by without a radio or TV blasting. Ahhhhhh, peace at last!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
5 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

I remember skankboy and his mother would watch “Cheaters” together. How funny, both cheaters themselves! Probably gathering ideas.

Kfindingmyway
Kfindingmyway
5 years ago

Longmire on Netflix. 63 episodes. Smalltown sheriff wraps up big problems in every episode. Lots of dark issues, but so satisfying to see cases solved.

PianoMom
PianoMom
5 years ago
Reply to  Kfindingmyway

Yes, I enjoyed this one! Also, NCIS, CSI, Crossing Jordan….all cop/crime shows. Blue Bloods. Started watching Jennifer Lopez’s show (Blue Something, also cops) but it left me feeling like a I needed a shower. The same for “How To Get Away With Murder.” Blech.

Lady B
Lady B
5 years ago

Original Will & Grace got me through some tuff shit last year, double eps 7.30pm, had me in stitches.

Eilonwy
Eilonwy
5 years ago

Jessica Jones (available on Netflix). Yes, she is messed up in a dozen ways, but she’s a survivor! Season 1 features the worst of gaslighting, mind-controlling villains–pretty much the super villan of narcissism. (I am still only half way through Season 2, but she’s shredding the competition and facing down the nasty rumors people tell about her so far!).

If asked, people would probably guess that my secret alter-ego is someone like Martha Stewart or Terri Gross. But in my head I rock a black leather jacket, drink my bourbon straight from the bottle, and can fling jackasses across the room without breaking a sweat just like Jessica Jones!

Leavealyingloser
Leavealyingloser
5 years ago

Whatever you do don’t watch the notebook!!! Watch les diaboliques. That is a glimpse of the deviousness you are dealing with. I’m sure all the freaks watch it and take notes. But there is always some nosey detective wandering around…freaks beware!!!

Ms. Movin’ On
Ms. Movin’ On
5 years ago

For female champ mightiness , I like
Enough-Jennifer Lopez
Sleeping With the Enemy- Julia Roberts

Laughing Gator
Laughing Gator
5 years ago

To be honest, what you watch depends on where you are in “the process”.

During Dday & divorce, I watched justice shows where the wrong doers faced consequences and justice — it made me feel better even though I got hosed in court.

AFTER the divorce is final and you are “fixing your picker” then the depression sets in. This is the time where the Hallmark Channel movies and the like are great for cheering you up. It is mindless fluff but it reinforces in your mind that romance is possible again and you can be happy again as well.

PrisonChump
PrisonChump
5 years ago

Titsandallthat, please get that man out of your house. For your own well being. And stop mothering him! Don’t cook for him or do his laundry! You will feel a huge weight lifted once he is gone. Get a lawyer or get the authorities involved if he refuses to leave. Heaven forbid he becomes violent, alcohol brings out the worst in people. Keep yourself safe! You are mighty! You can do this!

Mehtamorphosis
Mehtamorphosis
5 years ago

An old favorite cult classic I’ve watched over and over is Firefly, a futuristic sci-fi series written and directed by Joss Whedon and starring Nathan Fillion as Mal Reynolds, a sort of cowboy Han Solo figure. The writing and acting are sharp.

And there is no cheating, just some honest smuggling and the like.

It’s available on dvd or Hulu, not Netflix.

TorontoChump
TorontoChump
5 years ago
Reply to  Mehtamorphosis

True, it the sexy, desirable woman on that is a courtesan (high priced hooker). I find that depressing.

Mehtamorphosis
Mehtamorphosis
5 years ago
Reply to  TorontoChump

I can see finding the role of the courtesan on Firefly depressing just cuz, although I just find it intriguing how the show depicts the “oldest profession” in this world, where we also have a warrior woman (Zoe), a genius mechanic (Kaylee), and a psychic wundergirl (River). The character Inara is a Registered Companion in a respected Guild and brings a level of prestige to the ship, although Mal mocks her, calling her “the ambassador.” She take umbrage whenever he calls her whore or belittles her work. Which he does a lot. But she has boundaries and ethics that she holds firm.

thoughtsoffluency
thoughtsoffluency
5 years ago
Reply to  Mehtamorphosis

Yep. I watch this series over and over. Hello fellow firefly fans!
I appreciated that Companions have absolute choice in selecting/ screening whom they want to be with – that’s pretty distinguishing, maybe empowering. I can’t imagine Inara going off with a married man. And I like that the horrid/ dodgy clients get totally blacklisted, never allowed to contract with Companions ever again – my justice-seeking streak wants this to happen with all cheaters (Episode 4 – Shindig)
And Episode 9 – Ariel… near the end, when Mal confronts Jayne about his betrayal of the crew/ him… when Mal says, “the next time you stab me in the back, have the guts to do it to my face”… gold. I wonder if I’ll ever get so into Mehville that I will say that to the gutless Switzerlandy “friends” who have so wonderfully justified/ minimised cheater’s behaviour.

Still I Rise
Still I Rise
5 years ago

The movie She-Devil starring Roseanne Barr puts a hysterical spin on the “best revenge is success” mantra. Check it out, but try not to be too inspired by how cheater and OW get a massive taste of well-deserved “karma”.

Fool Me Once
Fool Me Once
5 years ago
Reply to  Still I Rise

Yes!! This is the one I think of most often!

Feelingit
Feelingit
5 years ago

I binged watched “the Orville” with my sons and thought it was hillarious. IWhen the captain is chumped,, he goes no contact and dumps her sorry ass then when they are forced to be together, he does his best gray rock. It was all good until infidelity is shown to be out of her control but he still doesn’t jump back in.

To all you great chumps inquiring on updates, a big thank you and I certainly want to hear your updates!!!

Monday has passed, still no offer! Ugh!