In yesterday’s post, BeardBoy was told his wife had to cheat because he was a homebody and didn’t throw enough parties.
I never thought being a responsible father and husband would backfire so incredibly.
Struggling, comes out swinging and reframes that shit.
“I am a “homebody”, work too hard, don’t throw enough parties at the house, and am too narrowly focused on our nuclear family.” I just read this sentence again. Dude, you are the perfect husband and father. You are the type of man that many of us female chumps mistakenly believed we had married. It sucks profoundly for you that you married someone who doesn’t share your values at all, but that is unfortunately what happened. You being your awesome self didn’t “backfire”. Let’s reframe that sentence. How’s this: “I never thought being a responsible father and husband would mean nothing to the person I loved, trusted, and believed shared my values. I didn’t see her for who she really is…” Someday, this truth will be very clear to you. Give it time
Your job today is to reframe.
Whatever stupid shit they told you, whatever suckitude you’ve internalized, exorcise it today.
Blameshift: I’m a difficult person who fails to remember the proper pasta : sauce ratios.
Flip: I’m an awesome person who cooks for the people she loves.
We all have faults. But remember — you didn’t make someone cheat.