The Weirdest Things They Took or Left Behind

The other day we marveled at the cheater who walked out on his chump, but not before helping himself to all of her homemade soup.

BowTie immediately recognized this situation for its Friday Challenge potential — to list the weirdest things that they took or left behind.

I have a friend who’s freaky ex kept insisting on collecting a box of vinyl floor tiles. It wasn’t enough floor tiles to actually tile a floor. They were spare, old vinyl floor tiles, moldering in the basement. What on earth did he have in mind? Crafts projects? He was passionate in the defense of HIS floor tiles. (They matched the house SHE was living in.) Still cracks me up.

My freak, during the settlement discussions via lawyer, kept asking me to return a history book of West Virginia coal mining. I think it was just an excuse to remain central and demanding. Do you have my bakelite fountain pen of 1939? My stainless steel grill brush?

“Is it a gold-plated grill brush?” my lawyer inquired.

(Sigh.) Fuckwits.

So, CN, what gives? Or rather what stays?

TGIF!

 

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Mandie101
Mandie101
4 years ago

A pair of ten lb weights minus the bar. He marched through the house picked them up and marched out.
But the best thing he took was himself.

nomar
nomar
4 years ago
Reply to  Mandie101

Cheater took 10-pound weights? Wow, dead weight hauled off dead weight! #GoodbyeDumbell

betteroff
betteroff
4 years ago
Reply to  Mandie101

Mine took my glasses!!!!!! He sent me a photo of them a few days before he dropped the bomb. WHAT THE HECK?! I got a few new pairs, but it still makes me mad…someone explain why he needed those

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
4 years ago
Reply to  Mandie101

Agreed 1000%

Italiana
Italiana
4 years ago
Reply to  Mandie101

About 200 empty baby’s jars. He left them behind but he put them in the list of stuff he wants deposited with the attorneys; that together with a giant piggy bank (about 1 foot and a half tall and a foot in diameter) full of pennies and, he specifically asked for them, ALL the nails we have in the garage! I said please take them!!

Rebecca
Rebecca
4 years ago
Reply to  Italiana

My ex used empty baby jars for sperm donations worth $50 each!!
That was 1983…..

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
4 years ago
Reply to  Italiana

Italiana, can things get any weirder? You win!

Martha
Martha
4 years ago
Reply to  Mandie101

Truth>>>”the best thing he took was himself.” lol. As I’ve ready many times; the garbage took itself out.

EstellaO
EstellaO
4 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Hahahahah! Nice, Mandie 🙂

Totally Woke
Totally Woke
4 years ago
Reply to  EstellaO

The best thing he took was himself! Love, love, love. I was totally duped by him for almost 20 years and then he showed me his true colors. That great guy that I loved, my husband, best friend, wonderful father to our children was in fact a selfish, liar, manipulator and cheater. With someone 20 years younger no less and now they have a 2 year old. I can’t with this fuckwit. The best thing he left behind and the best part of him – our 2 beautiful and amazing kids. Not sure how he can live without them. What a total loser. My name is very unique and instead he’s with someone name Jessica. I hear this name 100,000 times a day. They are everywhere. Always a trigger. Hopefully once she cheats on him – it will be his trigger too. ????. I’m still shocked at what he did to our family. I’ll never get over how he hurt our kids.

WhoamInow
WhoamInow
4 years ago

My ex left everything but some of his clothes. I suspect his plan was for me to be his free storage pod.

He tried a couple of times to ask for things a year or so after the divorce. After a few responses of “it went to the garbage dump” he stopped!

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
4 years ago
Reply to  WhoamInow

Same here.
He moved out two weeks after I had a total abdominal hysterectomy and hernia repair surgeries the same day.
I was still hurting and could not get around well, but he pitched a fit and was pissed that I was in “bitch mode” and not help him load up his Shiterado.
After his load was on his precious truck, he said, “everything else is garbage” and left.
About five days letter, he came back around for a brief wreckconciliation. Each day he was here, I’d ask, take this “garbage of yours out”, he never did. GTFO-day was within a few weeks and again, I told him to take his “garbage”, he didn’t.
He left behind a bunch of crap. Months later, my son and I went through it and took some of it to the recycling center for a few dollars. Some burned — especially a book I found about “being the best ‘you’ and a success” ????
I had to have a yard sale about a month after he left to pay bills — he wasn’t paying me child support or giving me any money — including lawn mowers that were broken, but he was “going to fix”.
About three weeks after the yard sale, he texted me telling me he was coming by to pickup “his” mowers. I told him that they were sold to pay bills since he wasn’t giving me any money. He responded “nice”
The very first thing he loaded in his Shiterado was the $200 gas grill I bought him a few weeks before D-Day as a pre-birthday and pre-Father’s Day gift. A few weeks after buying it was my birthday – I got nothing but a sentimental card and promise of a gift later. Mother’s Day we were in wreckconciliation and I got nothing as he sported new sunglasses and clothes he bought himself – after he overdrafted our checking account…
I was finally discharged from ch13 bankruptcy due to him being frequently unemployed and I just couldn’t keep up with all the bills. I got a refund of a couple payments and the first thing he asked me was “what are you going to buy me, honey?”
Truthfully, if the check hadn’t come in when it did and he saw it, I had no intention of using a dime of it on him because it was his actions that drove me to file in the first place. Chumpy me couldn’t tell him no so off to Walmart we go…
That was the first thing he loaded.
He asked for one of my cast-iron skillets and I gave him one that mother gave me with exh1, I don’t speak to mom, so I didn’t care. He wanted my silver bullet blender kit and I told him no, so he took the blender. He took spices out of my spice kit.
He took every single tool we had. Not even a basic home tool kit. I had to go buy myself a new set.
Exh2/TEO left behind his cat. For three months I dealt with it but hated him for it because that was always “his” cat. Fourth of July weekend, I put kitty outside in the ventilated water heater room. Exh2 returned DD that Sunday and walked in to my house asking, “where’s kitty?” I told him that I got tired of it being in the house and put it outside. He got out and I just shrugged off his rage. I found him two days later and he came and got it bitching all the while about how his new slut-shack didn’t allow pets. Again, {shrug}.
He did yell out to me, “how could you throw him outside like an abandoned child?”
I did respond to that with “just like you abandoned me and DD?”
Crickets.

Exh1 actually claimed one of our dogs in the divorce decree. I loved her and hated him for that.

Luziana
Luziana
4 years ago

No wonder his own parents think he’s a shitheel!

UnsinkableMollyX
UnsinkableMollyX
4 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

The more I talk to ex-mother-in-law these days, the more she finds out that they swear they didn’t know. They only had TEO to believe at that time and he told them I told him that I wanted nothing to do with them.
Remember that story I told about the wreck he caused on I-10 a couple years ago? He shut down a part of the interstate for a few days to repair the damages. I didn’t believe him and when he tried telling me about it I was total grey rock with him. Turns out he was found at fault and he was fined $80,000 !!! I *think* he argued his case and it was not held up, but again, not my problem.
They will be here in my area in a few weeks and I’m glad for DD. She’ll have grandparents within a short drive so the next time he refuses to have her for extra time, I can say, “no problem. Her grandparents will be happy to have her” or something to that effect.
His parents are done with him and his mooching, leechng ass.
They do not like OWife/Mrs Dumbass.
????????????????

Manna
Manna
4 years ago
Reply to  WhoamInow

Yes! Mine too. Left everything but some clothes… EVERYTHING . So after a whole YEAR I finally had the courage to pack up all his mess, and sent it off to charity…. with the exception of his diplomas (that he earned while I supported him and the family) and two family heirlooms that i gave to him because it was the right thing to do. He tells the kids “your mom stole all of my things from me”….
The only thing he DEMANDED right after the separation was his handgun, and threatened to call the police if. I didn’t give it to him. The only reason I hesitated was because I legit thought he’d hurt himself or someone else (me) it if I gave it to him. So, changed the locks and garage code and gave it to him, gladly. Didnt really like having it and small kids in my home anyway. Turns out the big issue over it was he really wanted to take schmoopie to the shooting range and he wouldn’t look so powerful if he couldn’t get the handgun from mean ole me.
I’m so happy that was all three years ago and no longer my problem. :).

@in.light.of.grief
@in.light.of.grief
4 years ago
Reply to  Manna

Mine wanted his brazilian made machete which I hope he sat on, the paella pan (which I forgot to give to him and therefore still have in my pantry) and his passport (because he was trying to get a job in Colombia without any Spanish speaking ability mind you)

LeAnne Brown
LeAnne Brown
4 years ago
Reply to  Manna

My ex had to come get all of his stuff that had been sitting there for almost 2 years!! He left me & his 3 fathers for his “new supply” The ONLY reason he came to get his stuff is because I SOLD our house!!!
He literally walked out the front door screaming obscenities with Vitamix mixer & a pressure cooker!!! My 3 daughters just sat on the couch shook their heads in disbelief & saw how “selfish & greedy” he really was with their own eyes!!!
I wrapped up our wedding pictures in his military uniforms & put them in a Rubbermaid tote—–hopefully his “new supply” will do all of his “unpacking” & find them!!! Lol
Good riddance!!!

Motherchumper99
Motherchumper99
4 years ago
Reply to  LeAnne Brown

Ha ha Ha ha ha I did the same thing! After two years when he finally asked for something I gave and what little was left: our honeymoon pictures! He was 25 years younger and amazing back then. He isn’t now. I got the best years!

NoKibble4U
NoKibble4U
4 years ago
Reply to  LeAnne Brown

Mine took the panini maker. My attorney cracked up as it was actually listed on our settlement agreement – it was just the run-of-the mill panini maker. I had to have my attorney force him to remove his crap from the house as I had moved out and his stuff looked horrendous and was causing the house to show poorly.

The worse thing he (un-knowingly) took with him was an open bottle of BBQ sauce the whore had purchased to cook in my home while I was away at my father’s to give him space (it was not the kind of sauce he liked either). I opened the lid and placed it with his crap. I hope it was moldy and stinky, like his whore, when he finally got it.

DeeAnna
DeeAnna
4 years ago
Reply to  NoKibble4U

I LOVE IT!!! Too bad a couple of shrimp would’ve smelled up the box too!!! Eeewwwwww

Jennifer Chumpneros Wood
Jennifer Chumpneros Wood
4 years ago
Reply to  NoKibble4U

My wasband also moved his soulmate into our marital home while I was away at my mom’s giving him space for 5 weeks too (after he was busted for a one night stand)! God I thought I was the only one to be disrespected that badly. I still find traces of her in the house almost a year later. Gross. ((Hugs)). My story ends happily though. I reconnected with a love from my 20s who was also chumped and going through a divorce. My life is better now than it ever was with wasband. I wish the same for you! But yeah, finding evidence still sends me into a tizzy!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
4 years ago

That’s awesome Jennifer! I love a gain a life story that has a happy ending!

RockStarWife
RockStarWife
4 years ago

Jennifer, Glad you had a happy ending. I thought that I, too was getting a happy ending to a life story when a I started dating an old friend from undergrad nearly 30 years later who had been chumped by his wife. Turns out that my old (I thought he was my most loyal) friend routinely treated me like garbage before tossing me out when he decided to marry his young work subordinate.

NJSC
NJSC
4 years ago
Reply to  Manna

Mine wanted “his” gun too. This after I wasn’t sure he’d do something to himself. I told him to ask for it at mediation. i promptly called the police and they said it was marital property and I don’t have to give it to him until it’s court ordered. I ended up keeping it as part of the mediation agreement.

Manna
Manna
4 years ago
Reply to  NJSC

Yeah I should have done that too- waited till it was court ordered. I have no idea what I was so afraid of back then. Oh well. I got the power tools.

Chumpy
Chumpy
4 years ago

Mine took a pancake flipper. Insisted on it. Yes it was an extra large one, but pretty sure it was one you could easily purchase at Bed Bath and Beyond or Target. He tried for the slow cooker and I put my foot down ha! Mind you this is after he stole all my ski clothes, my engagement ring, the computer, and god knows what else. What a loser.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

We had three crock pots that he had collected over the years. I was quite relieved when he finally came to collect one.

katiedidn't
katiedidn't
4 years ago

WTF is it with these creeps and slow cookers??? The week I was moving out, a package came to the house, addressed to Asshat, but it was clearly marked on the outside of the box what it was- an Instant Pot. The ONE thing I had asked for as a Christmas or birthday gift for the previous TWO years…

Asshat smirks, “well, I thought you’d be taking the crockpot, and I didn’t want to be without, so I bought myself this!”

Only one of the THREE crockpots in the house was originally mine. The other two, he brought in. Why the actual fuck would I need THREE?

PS- I left all of them and bought my own damned Instant Pot. Nice little investment, I must say!

Stig
Stig
4 years ago
Reply to  katiedidn't

Who are they trying to impress? Maybe Schmoopies are flabergastered and dazzled by married people who use slow-cookers. Or perhaps it’s in the name, Crock-pot.

SelfRespectin2017
SelfRespectin2017
4 years ago
Reply to  katiedidn't

Mine, too. First thing Ex ordered for his new place. Before beds for the kids. So odd!

C U Next Tuesday
C U Next Tuesday
4 years ago
Reply to  katiedidn't

Mine asked for the slow cooker too! Wtf? This is hilarious!

cali24
cali24
4 years ago

MEE TOO how is this a thing?? He left all the nice cooking supplies, the knives, everything, but hauled out that silly slow cooker. I bought another one, a smaller one. So weird!!!

brit
brit
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

Wireless electronic meat thermometer, music CD’s, Aerosmith and a Rolling Stones, the only two CD’s he played.
He actually had a court papers filed making the request from his attorney to mine.
Words insinuating that I’m difficult, as if there’s no other way to to communicate with me. No past history of me being difficult. This is ongoing with any communication with ex.
Twists everything I say or do into something absurd. I can’t believe people believe the things he says..I was more than happy to oblige so he could have his beloved meat thermometer.
I would have liked to add a suggestion as to where he can put his wireless meat thermometer.

Lucy
Lucy
4 years ago
Reply to  brit

LOL!!! Yes, mine too tries to make it appear as though multiple attorneys are required to get me to respond to a simple request or question. Although, he skips the step where he asks me.

brit
brit
4 years ago
Reply to  Lucy

Lucy-same, a simple question, goes through attorneys and the court. Ex has the ability to turn something insignificant into a huge crisis with his word salads and manipulation.
Ex likes to retell and embellish stories for instance, he dropped our son off one day early without telling me why or if he was going to pick him up the following day as planned.
I called his home number (he wasn’t answering his cell) I made two calls and it was about 11:00pm when I made the second call.
We had a court hearing with ex claiming I was harassing him, calling so often he had to take his phone off the hook and risked his job since they could have called him to come in to work. He was forced to keep his home phone off the hook so he could get some sleep. Then had to change his phone number because he was afraid of continued harassment.

RockStarWife
RockStarWife
4 years ago
Reply to  Lucy

I can relate—my ex-husband constantly tries to con me and the Court.

brit
brit
4 years ago
Reply to  RockStarWife

RSW, my ex loves going to court. I can see it in his smug face and body language.
Ex projects an image of being honorable and wholesome.
Always find a way to mention he’s a veteran to gain credibility and con the court not thinking he’s a good guy.

EstellaO
EstellaO
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

Good for you! I would NEVER give up the slow cooker, either. Stand your ground!

Hang Up Mom
Hang Up Mom
4 years ago
Reply to  EstellaO

He’s asking to have back the sunglasses he gave me. He got them for free at a work event.

Chumpy
Chumpy
4 years ago
Reply to  EstellaO

Yup slow cooker and food processor are mine! Lol

Sweetener
Sweetener
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

Heck yeah! I was packing up a few things from the kitchen and reached for the Vitamix (wedding gift) we had only gotten 15 months prior. He said, “You’re taking the KitchenAid – can I take the Vitamix?”I packed it into a box and didn’t even respond.

You must be high if you think you’re taking that expensive ass blender after you tricked me into marrying your con ass. Now excuse me while I go make a smoothie

Byeeeee!

The funny part is, I haven’t used it once since taking it lol. = D

Chumplanta
Chumplanta
4 years ago
Reply to  Sweetener

This girl knows what’s what.

Her Blondeness
Her Blondeness
4 years ago
Reply to  Sweetener

As I said to Cheater #1, you broke the wedding vows, I get the wedding gifts.

Sweetener
Sweetener
4 years ago
Reply to  Her Blondeness

Amen!

Golden
Golden
4 years ago
Reply to  Sweetener

Mine was starting to give me a hard time about giving him equity in our home!!! I told him, “ you got the Skanky Lumberjack, (that’s what she looks like)
I get the house”!!!!

Chumpy
Chumpy
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

What’s even more losery is that he gave the ski clothes to his gf at the time (now wife) and she was cool with it: Really your wearing your boyfriend’s wife’s clothes. Can we say creepy af!!!

Phoenixrising
Phoenixrising
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

Chumpy – I know of an OW who had new lenses put in specs frames that had belonged to her boyfriend’s wife. And then actually wore the woman’s glasses!!

ChumpedPunk
ChumpedPunk
4 years ago
Reply to  Chumpy

Super creepy!! My STBXH loaned his hoeworker one of my hoodies, gave her a bunch of make up from one of the subscription services that I didn’t like (was gonna give to a friend of mine) and my taser before D-Day.
I dont want any of it back. She can keep the hand-me-downs, apparently she couldn’t keep him though.

KarenE
KarenE
4 years ago
Reply to  ChumpedPunk

I hope she tasers him!!!

ChumpedPunk
ChumpedPunk
4 years ago
Reply to  KarenE

What neither of them knew was that the one he took was broken. I only had it in the drawer at home for spare parts. The day she threatened me with it I just laughed. It was over the phone and she still didn’t know it was broken. Hilarious!

EstellaO
EstellaO
4 years ago

X the AO insisted on taking a huge green (my favorite color) fleece blanket that I was using to keep warm at dear son’s fall marching band competition that we were both at. He said he needed it for the next week’s competition (which I wasn’t going to), and I thought (rightly) at the time, “Oh, that’s the last time I’ll see that blanket.” Otherwise, he’s taken almost nothing else–just some of his Sex Addicts Anon books (good riddance to that garbage) and his power kites. All these other things that he supposedly cared about deeply and that supposedly defined him–clothes, shoes, books, bicycles, cameras, family mementos–have been sloughed off and forgotten. I’m living in a house full of dead snake skins, people! But dump day is coming…

🙂

Happy Friday!

UXworld
UXworld
4 years ago
Reply to  EstellaO

What’s a “power kite”?

EstellaO
EstellaO
4 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_kite For kite surfing. But left behind his wetsuit? I don’t get it.

Anyway, what I loved most it that it was a such a Grinch/Whos moment–I’ll take this fleece blanket/who hash and you’ll never be warm at a band comp/have Christmas dinner again.

Ha! You sad, sad Grinch! You’re an idiot! Instead of bringing that blanket, I will wear this awesome wool sweater I knitted myself to the band comps. And then not only will I be warm, but I’ll also be showered with compliments for my capacity to make beautiful things! #cantstopthemighty #Imightbeabitshallowmyself

mrsvain
mrsvain
4 years ago
Reply to  EstellaO

dont take it to the dump

sell it… not sure how much a wet suit is but you can get something out of it

EstellaO
EstellaO
4 years ago
Reply to  mrsvain

Great idea! Maybe we could lobby for a yard sale / swap forum here so we can all gain a life… and a slow cooker, if our X took off with ours.

Forgive me if someone mentioned this below, but isn’t this straight out of “The Jerk”? https://youtu.be/rSWBuZws30g This was one of X the AO’s favorite scenes in that movie…

Velvet Hammer ????????❤️
Velvet Hammer ????????❤️
4 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

Yes, I want to know too.

It sounds like an investment banking term.
A Bernie Madoff investment term.

Rebecca
Rebecca
4 years ago

I know this isn’t snarky but I will NEVER understand how he left his kids.
Perhaps he thought they would just go with the flow like everyone else?
Pretty stupid thing to leave behind and I know he regrets it (not enough to do anything about it though).
I’m really happy he did!!

NotaMeanGirl
NotaMeanGirl
4 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Mine said, “I just didn’t want to be a suburban dad anymore.” Kid was in the middle of college at that point, so it was already all about him, not kid…

At any rate, kid is smart, and perceptive. Graduated years ago, and does not have any truck with my Ex (the bio dad). When the State Dept renewed kid’s passport last time, bio dad’s name was dropped–some kind of karma there! It wasn’t on purpose, but…

renee62
renee62
4 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

I can’t figure out how he can leave the kids either.
It works out better for me but I now understand he’s not that deep. Selfish & entitled can’t bond to anyone not even their kids.

Kc
Kc
4 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Mine were left too. I’m Bewildered. Now he is realizing he is losing them and backtracking but can’t figure out how to see or take care of them as he’s broke, ran away to another country and has to take care of his little young thing.

ClearView
ClearView
4 years ago
Reply to  Kc

Kc, thanks, your two lines could be my two lines. He’s absolutely mystified why his young adult children don’t want to deal with him. Still, he’s taking care of the 23 y/o AP, 28 years younger than him (7 younger than his oldest child) moved them both to the other side of the planet, and plans, because happiness, “to retire early.”

Rebecca
Rebecca
4 years ago
Reply to  ClearView

My lawyer called me after the decree was signed and said “ex’s lawyer called and asked me to ask you if you would help him repair his relationship with his sons”
????
You could have heard my laughter from blocks away!!!

Poconochump
Poconochump
4 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Lol

iwillsurvivethis2018
iwillsurvivethis2018
4 years ago

First thing dumbass packed when we were getting ready to cell the house was chopsticks and anything else he deemed his from the kitchen drawers. He then took the mantel clock we got as a wedding gift from a friend of his (you’d think he’d want nothing having to do with our wedding)a but he said he didn’t want any of the framed pictures of him with our son or his family members – and he told me to just throw out his deceased mom’s old Xmas ornaments/decorations . Priorities!!! I took stuff and just threw it out when I moved cause I wanted a fresh start in my new place- glad I made him have to buy all new furniture just so i could throw out our old stuff and make him spend money on new things!!

Ashley
Ashley
4 years ago

My ex took the cake cutting set from our wedding. My aunt had given it to us at the rehearsal dinner. I still have no idea why.

Beth
Beth
4 years ago
Reply to  Ashley

Well you know how cheaters love cake… 😀 😀

Jasmine
Jasmine
4 years ago
Reply to  Beth

???????????????? best laugh i ve had in a while

Still Reeling
Still Reeling
4 years ago
Reply to  Beth

LOL! You win!

UXworld
UXworld
4 years ago

She went to great lengths to acquire a piano and an antique end table from her mother. Both were left behind when she moved out, and she signed off on waiving all claim to any property left behind in the divorce agreement.

A year and a half later, as she and the Chlorine Special were setting up house, she announced that she was coming over to get the end table. I reminded her of the agreement provision, she maintained that it belonged to her and to have it ready at a specific time.

I told her she was welcome to take it, no further questions asked, on the same day she also removed the piano. She sent back an insult and hasn’t raised the issue since.

renee62
renee62
4 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

Agreements mean nothing to these disordered people.
Just like they treat their wedding vows. They don’t have to abide by any agreements.
“Rules were made to be broken” by them only.
God forbid you treat them the same way!

Mary
Mary
4 years ago

A paring knife. He specifically asked for a paring knife… that is how I know his mother participated in writing the list of things he wanted out of the house (he was not allowed in after a PO order). I dutifully packed everything. He then kept asking for them because he couldn’t find it. He never asked for the family pictures, baby items or heirlooms of his family. No, a paring knife.
Oh and power tools. He never used them, but he wanted them…

Authentic Chump
Authentic Chump
4 years ago

My ex has been gone for almost 4 months. He’s never been very organized or good at “adulting.” The divorce went quickly because he couldn’t afford a lawyer, nor did he even bother reading the divorce decree before signing. He left his social security card, birth certificate, and spare car keys…literally the most important things. I am tired of mothering him, so I I’m not going to track him down to get this to him. Also, part of me wants to see how long it takes him to realize, “I took all of my Magic the Gathering cards but left my important citizenship documents.”

pulmafool
pulmafool
4 years ago

Omg….the douchebag I divorced, a physician who lives to brag about his ivy league credentials. Could not do one adult thing but had a massive collection of Magic cards. Fucki manchild

mrsvain
mrsvain
4 years ago

i wish i had your strength.. .. i packed all that shit in a box and took it to him with all the other boxes…

Now I.C.
Now I.C.
4 years ago

Yeah, he took 5 guitars, 6 guns, and 147 CDs but forgot his birth certificate, SS card, and title to his truck. Such a dumbass. As the only adult in the relationship I foolishly gave him back all the important documents in a fit of hopium.

2 months after the divorce he sent the original truck title back to me with instructions to sign off my interest in it. No warning, no please or thank you, just instructions to “sign here” on a sticky note.

I shredded it.

UXworld
UXworld
4 years ago

Oh, yes — forgot about that. KK left behind her passport and the title to her car. Asked for them when she needed them and each time I replied with a simple “They’re not here.”

Which was true — they were thrown out a few days after she moved out.

manna
manna
4 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

Oh man! My ex asked for his passport- well demanded it…and i was a sucker and gave it to him. I guess I didn’t want drama. But now I wish I had just said, I’m sorry it’s not here.

Hope Springs
Hope Springs
4 years ago
Reply to  manna

Two months after he abandoned us, he was at his garage bands practice in the neighborhood. One of my grown kids was going to stop by so I thought I would be nice (chumpy) and have him take the passport, birth certificate, etc… over with him. Rage….apparently he felt I was kicking him out????.

Attie
Attie
4 years ago
Reply to  manna

Asshole just grabbed a bunch of things in the filing cabinet, which included MY birth certificate. Didnt want pix of his kids oh no. My son gets married next week and in the process of clearing out more of his crap from my basement I found a beautiful leather bound bible with an inscription to him from one of his skanks. I will offer it to him at the wedding and if he yet again says he doesnt want it I will throw it in the trash in front of him (he might just have a coronary). I know some of you will think thats wrong but I have a bible and dont need to keep a shrine to him. Plus its in English so no use over here.

Doingme
Doingme
4 years ago
Reply to  Attie

Attie, ignore him at the wedding. Don’t waste one ounce of breath on him. Donate the Bible.

Attie
Attie
4 years ago
Reply to  Doingme

Doingme, I have a dreadful feeling it will kick off at the wedding because he “wont” hire a car (me suspects he lost his licence again) and is expecting people to run him around while he is here (including to the skank bar) when people have other things to do. My brother and BIL have threatened to deck him if he starts mouthing off his scrawny little mouth. Fingers crossed.

Feelingit
Feelingit
4 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

Fuckwit commanded me to send his birth certificate almost 2 years after his departure. I couldn’t locate it. (All I can figure is it may have fallen into the shredder when I was sorting through things, I just can’t recall.)

Artemis
Artemis
4 years ago

I refused to give him any kitchen things, when we moved out. He refused to cook, so why should he have them was my thought. He came into my new home and stole a set of champagne glasses. According to DS, he had a fridge full of champagne bottles. I imagine it was to celebrate his new found freedom. I demanded them back and forbid him to step foot on my front stoop again. WTF He could walk away from pretty much everything, but couldn’t spend a few dollars on his own glasses?

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
4 years ago

There’s a dusty video cassette rewinder in the shape of a sportscar left on a shelf in the basement.

Be kind, rewind. How nice of him to leave that for me. So handy for the next time I have to quickly prepare a movie for returning to Blockbuster.

HomeBound
HomeBound
4 years ago
Reply to  Hopium4years

Speaking of.

Mine spent $1200 to have his attorney send me several threatening letters about…..

his spare Jeep key

and….

his Blockbuster card.

I had a closet full of his Armani suits, his $10K computer set up with 4 monitors, all of the furnishings, the dog, the house and the car.

But he wanted his Blockbuster card.

I donated all of his suits to the Goodwill, gave the computer to a teenaged boy next door and sold all of the furnishings. I kept the dog, the house and the car.

After he realized that his suits were a teensy bit more expensive than his access to renting porn…he demanded these other items. I asked him why he left them if he wanted them—he said that he figured I never would dare touch his things so he knew they were safe.

I told him that I don’t recall ever seeing any Armani suits or a computer. Could he please provide a video inventory of these items?

I later saw a homeless guy with one of my ex’s suit coats on—we lived in a very small town on an island. So I recognized it right away—and I snapped a pic….passed it around to all of my friends…and eventually it got back to him.

I did get into a little trouble over that—-but so very worth it.

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
4 years ago
Reply to  HomeBound

Hahaha! Love it, HomeBound!

Thanks for putting a big grin on my face today! 🙂

Vicki
Vicki
4 years ago

Mine was rifling through the pantry after he had already moved in with his mistress when he saw that we had an extra cutlery set. After he wanted out of the house, he turned around, walked back in, and asked if he could take the extra cutlery set. Seriously? Your mistress doesn’t have one?! Get the hell out of here. And nope, the cutlery set–even though I didn’t need it–is still sitting in the pantry.

Piano Mom
Piano Mom
4 years ago

My freak left behind an “Usborne” type sex book (Published in the UK) complete with four color reproductions of people wearing costumes, pretend-playing or using various toys, doing it every which way, eating food off of each other, etc.. It was in his nightstand where my 11 or 14 year old sons might have stumbled upon it looking for batteries, scissors, tweasers, shoelaces or whatever. I was going to dump it into one of those text book collection bins with the label in it saying “property of fuckwit, sexaphonist” (he is a professional jazz musician) but I threw it into a box of his other crap and fired off an irritated email letting him know it was not wanted or needed in MY house, but I’m sure HE was going to waste no time finding a use for it it as soon as possible.

Feelingit
Feelingit
4 years ago

The list of weird things taken and left is far too long for this website. I am still clearing out some of the crap and trying to identify some of it. There is a heavy galvanized steel boat tool (reminds me of a torpedo with metal rings around it) which I believe has something to do with the shaft or pulling the props of a specific size so not of general interest. Every time I see it on the work bench, I think of repurposing it and shoving it into one of fuckwit’s bodily openings, spinning it as it goes.

It took me 7 months after he left to finally see the light and change the locks as he would sneak in when I was gone and take shit. None of it (accept some cash) was anything I wanted, but it was high value stuff that was taking away from my piece of the pie. He also left some damage in his wake. He pulled a commercial ice maker out of the wall of the garage during one of his tantrums. I still have to address that.

When it finally came to settlement he had a list of oddball items he wanted from the house- which he ultimately settled for his father’s guns and his parent’s bicycles. The bikes were what surprised me. They were 20 years old and rusting away so I was happy to get them out. He was sooooo angry when he saw them. Accused me of damaging them. Uh no, that is what happens to the metal in our climate where humidity is typically well over 50%. (I may have left them outside once he said he wanted them. He didn’t send someone to get them for 2 months and we did have the rainiest summer in history). My lawyer laughed when we filed for contempt over non payment of tuition and fuckwit’s lawyer had told her that fuckwit wanted to drag the rusty bikes into the courtroom to show the judge. According to my lawyer, fuckwit’s lawyer also saw the ridiculousness of that and laughed at his client’s cluelessness. He has let on to my lawyer he knows that he is a crazy pain in the ass, but he still represents him.

Newlady15
Newlady15
4 years ago

Mine left almost everything behind. It went well with his narrative of the mean wide that took everything. He cane back later and stole my jewellry. He also took our motorized vehicles one at a time( they were in the company name so he got away with it). He took pleasure in sneaking in when I wasn’t home to steal things. He took his slut/mommy/wife/purse to our cottage and our home in Florida to “shop” for what she wanted( shows her character in spades was my opinion).
It meant nothing to him to take my locket with the pictures of my kids in it. Probably pawned it and my other jewelry for cash.

Digbert
Digbert
4 years ago

I’ve not posted in quite a while – been here since 2012 and I think I’ve said this before -and others will have the same thing…. my XH only took the;
Big fuck me ???? TV
The Xbox ( I bought it for him -as a pressie ????)
His collection of ‘Tetley Tea’collectable dinky cars that his dad gave him as he was growing up ( his dad was a milkman) and you got a free dinky car on some promotion ????
Pictures of his mates and his family
The kitchen cups that he bought ( only household item he bought for the house- I, sorry, I meant ‘we bought everything else “
A wedding photo ….. of himself !

Digbert
Digbert
4 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Yes Tracy, clearly so ???????????? another of Walter bloody Mitty’s get rich schemes

Bloomingwithouthim
Bloomingwithouthim
4 years ago

My ex took nothing but an old beach towel and a couple of changes of clothes when he left. I guess he assumed that I’d go grovelling after him. Over the next couple of months I slowly packed his things for him and dropped them at his shop or left them on the porch for him to pick up. I know I was too nice. He took nothing weird. He left his garbage for me to clean up and haul away.

The worst thing he took was the kid’s quad. I didn’t care b/c without him there I couldn’t care for it, but boy did it piss off the kids when dad took their one outdoor pleasure and fixed it up for the mistress’s kid to ride. Kind of firmed up in their minds just how dad felt about them.

mrsvain
mrsvain
4 years ago

same, i packed all his clothes, shoes, and personal things.along with the 3 sets of panties i have found over the years that were not mine and he swears he never seen before (which might be true, i doubt he looked at her panties when he was fucking her on my bed) i even sent his toothbrush (after i cleaned all the toilets with it) and his deodorant. over the next 3 months, i packed all his court papers, birth certificate, ss, and any other important papers. and i took all the boxes to him. .. .. i have no clue what he did with them but i am certain he doesnt have any of those things.

its been 5 years and i am STILL cleaning up after him. i have most of the house purged but still have 2 vehicles and all the crap in the garage to go thru. he took apart every single chain saws we had and left the pieces in a box on the garage shelf. i have no clue how to piece it back together nor would i know what piece went to which of the 3 chainsaws we had. . . he also took 1 tired off the 4 wheeler. to this day i have NO CLUE why he took it off. i have the tire. but i cant find the screws to put it back on. ..

IndependenceSoon
IndependenceSoon
4 years ago

Mine made sure he took his clothes, important colognes, deodorants, etc. He would wait until i fell asleep or not in the house and would take some dishes, an ugly painting, etc. He left pictures of his parents, kids and left a necklace for me to find. This necklace had a womans name on it and was a religious symbol. I found womens phone numbers. A few months after moving, he asked for a painting i had given him and his old empty fish tank. He left his room a mess. He left some boxes in the storage container, cant wait to go through this and junk it. A real POS…

Cheryl
Cheryl
4 years ago

A little turned around on the question because I was the one to move out with the child.
I’d been told for 24 years I’d contributed nothing (I promise, that was a lie from him, I was always poor “contributing” while he had a great life hiking and golfing).
So when I left I thought “I’ll only take what I’ve actually paid for, what I’ve actually contributed in order to set up a new home for Missy, It’ll hardly make a dent, he won’t notice I’m sure”.
Turned out the house was stripped, sofa, dining table, kitchenware, two beds, photo albums, kids toys, kids clothes, electricals, rugs, bedding, shelving units, I left the TVs because he was territorial over them and I didn’t want a fight. I left all the kitchen appliances because I couldn’t move them but they could easily have been on the truck too. I left him a place setting and a cutlery setting, I left him food and drink, I left him the larger sofa and entertainment system and the marital bed (eughhh) and the wardrobes because again I couldn’t move those either. But it looked like he’d been robbed, and I’m not sorry!!! I still had to replace the appliances but it all worked out. When he got home I imaging he went nutty, but if I only took what I contributed and he said I contributed nothing, then nothing was gone or amiss. Not a leg to stand on.

katiedidn't
katiedidn't
4 years ago
Reply to  Cheryl

Missy, I was gaslighted similarly. And yet, when I moved out, I realized that 85% of the furniture and ALL of the artwork in the house was mine, that I either brought in when we moved in together or bought after, and paid for BY ME. I took everything but an old ugly sofa and an ugly bedroom suite his mom had given him before we met. Last time I saw his place, he had the two end tables from the ugly bedroom suite pushed together as a “coffee table” in front of the ugly old sofa. Pobrecito.

If I had had the insight and energy to do it, I would have ripped out the thousand sq feet of wood laminate flooring that I paid for and installed myself, and burned it in the yard. Oh, well.

ItsAllGoodNow
ItsAllGoodNow
4 years ago

She left all 4 dogs behind but HAD to have the 2 person sauna. I made sure I sweated my naked ass off in it a million times before it was picked up. I wouldn’t let her have it until the divorce was final.

unicornomore
unicornomore
4 years ago
Reply to  ItsAllGoodNow

We owned a big hot tub that was a nasty piece of shit. I paid some guy to haul it away for parts.

NenaB
NenaB
4 years ago

I threw out all the smutty underwear sets and shapewear he purchased for me over the years. Actually they were more for him, he’s an autogynophile (look it up) and I hated being dressed like a whore. I threw it out on the morning our trash was collected just in case he found it (along with all his hideous sex toys and dildos, again, more for him than me).

I did keep some stuff I liked, the classier stuff I’d actually wear, to work even (all hidden under my clothes obviously). Girdles and a couple of beautiful silk sets and petticoats basically.

We were bird nesting at this point, week on week off at our home, while he was trying to woo me back (toxically failing, police got involved and everything, alongside his growing meth habit, so the cops made him retreat at least and I got him out (after finding one of his OW on her Instagram wearing the same gear he’d buy for me (it wasn’t mine but he’d buy it for her and me in a 2 for 1 type deal when we were still together, on my credit card.

So for about 3 months after he left I searched my house all over for some of the things I’d kept. It was summer and I needed that damn petticoat for a favourite summer dress. Nah. Nowhere. Gone.

Fast forward 6 months and I make friends with someone else he’d been seeing for the last 6 months of our marriage (we were over as I’d learned about the other one but we hadn’t ended as such, I was just waiting for him to own up and leave, he told her we were well and truly seperated even though we definitely weren’t). She’s clocked his lying cheating ways by now and talked to me for some closure (a nicer 2 for 1 deal, we both got closure, boy did we get closure – trickle truth came out in floods – she’s awesome btw and not a cheater for sure). Anyway so I’m at her place and she asks “is this yours?” And it’s my petticoat! A few weeks later she’s moving house and I then get back my girdle (she never wore it were different sizes)!

The gifting back was more about our own in jokes at his cheek than me wanting my shit back. I was firmly grey rocking by this stage dying to tell him I had some of my gear back.

There’s a whole lot she didn’t get, he told her it was new (it wasn’t) he must have pressed it (nylon even, silk was naturally crushed. So I’m guessing he either kept the other stuff for himself (most likely, it is the stuff he’d wear with his hideous beer gut) or gifted it to other OW (she’s plus size while I’m not so quite unlikely). A whole lot of other stuff got bummed as my new friend had figured something was off with it all. Strange gifts. Yep, that’s my husband (and a story for another thread).

So things came out and grey rock went a bit red for a few weeks there (consequences). And it came up. He was HATING the fact me and his girlfriend #2 of the last 6 months of our marriage we’re talking. Honestly caged animal stuff (him not me, my rock shade was fluidly going between grey and blush by now).

But here’s the kicker. When it came up, in a rage by him and recorded by me, in my driveway, I said I’d seen her last week to get my underwear back ????????‍♀️???? can you believe what he said?

“You threw it out!”

I actually laughed, then said I know I didn’t throw it out, I know what I threw out and I know when I threw it out (trash day, about 30 minutes before collection) and I didn’t throw any of that stuff she gave me back away. Stop gaslighting me you dick. Then I said but anyway, if I had thrown it out, that’s even farking WIERDER than you stealing my underwear and giving it to your new girlfriend. You do realise that was when she started to think something was off right? You do realise how insulted she would be, anyone would be, me especially, being given another woman’s underwear as a gift from your new man right?

He raced off in his car then, not prepared for the underwear reveal at all ????????‍♀️

I know grey rock is good, and no contact even better (nearly there just waiting for our court order to be put in place) but sometimes, just sometimes, biting back at an opportune time feels good. Who TF takes their wife’s underwear and gifts it to women telling them it’s new, when it doesn’t even fit them? Who TF would think taking it out of your trash is more acceptable than taking it from your drawers??? Just no. No no no. And yes it is a deep deep source of shame that she took it from him as well, without asking questions (I’ve calmed her down saying he would have lied anyway, just accept we were chumps at the time and go be mighty).

Yep, my classy autogynophile husband. Can’t say I miss him and ALL the things (there were other things but not as batshit crazy twisted as that for sure) he triangulated and gaslighted me with. It really is good on the other side (where my underwear is my underwear).

DeL
DeL
4 years ago
Reply to  NenaB

My ex is an Autogynpile too!
Would buy me lingerie, clothes and jewelry – funny it wasn’t anything I liked, not my taste (but his apparently).
When he left he took some of my clothes from before I knew him. And my pasta spoon/scoop.
I miss that pasta spoon

Adelante
Adelante
4 years ago
Reply to  NenaB

Ooh! Ooh! Autogynephile! Mine, too! Except all the lingerie he bought was for himself. Didn’t want ever to see me in any, because the comparison made it more difficult to imagine himself as a woman and killed his desire for himself as one. Kept and keeps a huge Samsonite suitcase packed with his lady gear and sex toys. My mom gave the suitcase to him for Christmas one year; he uses it to travel to fantasyland…like Charlie and the Dildo Factory. I sure could never get him to go on an actual vacation with me. Oh. Sorry. Do I sound bitter here?

After I moved out–I left him the house as a consequence for forcing me to do all the upkeep and repairs for 25 years; now it’s his problem–he has tried to use me to clean it out, and still now, 8 months after the divorce was final, keeps asking me to come over and take stuff. If it’s something I think I can use, like tools, I say ok. Last time I was over there I swiped the blue silicone double headed dildo. He’d bought it so I could penetrate him (to allow him to “feel like a woman,” because that’s what defines woman in his mind–something to be penetrated), and then get on the other end of it myself, so we could be lesbians together (because in his offensive schema, lesbian sex, carried out by two women, is mutual penetratration). I took it because the idea of my being in his fantasy even as a memory while he employed it on himself without me (and he did do this, and even sent me a selfie of it) repulsed me. He’s never asked if I have it, but if he does, I’ll just say: nope.

NenaB
NenaB
4 years ago
Reply to  Adelante

This is my story t, except I kept the house, and I never did the DIY because he used it to devalue me if I ever tried after asking him to for years.

I did an interview for a PHD student recently on heterosexual anal sex. Just wow to what came out there. I’d felt raped when he made me use a strap on the screw him (it was ceramic so not nice and I gave up prettt quickly). How twisted is that when WE feel violated when WE are the ones penetrating THEM with a big dick???

I finally got him out of my life after 5 years of trying when I saw a text thread come through on his phone with girl on girl porn gifs in it. First thing he said was “I cheat because you don’t want sex with me” (we were mid sexy time and had sex a couple of times a week at least) then after I laughed he said “ok it’s a guy”. I laughed again. Finally I was free. Those AGPs have big time mummy issues for sure. Or extremely closeted. I feel your pain. No one I know gets this. My unwillingness to forgive is not bitterness but I’m constantly told it is. I’ve moved on but 15 years of being sexually violated and treated as a beard is unforgivable.

Sucker Punched by a Saffa
Sucker Punched by a Saffa
4 years ago
Reply to  Adelante

Man f*cks woman;subject verb object

Cam
Cam
4 years ago

Left his butt plugs, ass beads, anal lube and porn. My Mom dropped it off for him at his gf’s front door and her Mom found the box. He left everything and I,m the one who bagged his clothese and left them on the lawn for pick up.

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
4 years ago

Mr. Sparkles used to retreat to the basement to “workout” to PX90 DVDs… of course, it came to pass that his workout was actually jerking off with people live from Adult Friend Finder. Good times.

When he moved out, he left a lot of crap behind that I moved out to the garage. When he finally collected everything he complained that I kept the PX90 DVDs… I told him I did not.

Last week (5 years now since he left), I had to deal with a flooded basement and found the PX90 DVDs which had apparently fallen behind the workbench. Needless to say, I threw them out.

Martha
Martha
4 years ago

I was the one to move out with the kids, because his daily presence was driving me crazy. Months before I made the decision to leave first; I found him in a large closet, with the door closed. He was rifling through a box of his deceased grandmothers papers. You know. One of the many things his mommy left at our house to store for her. Like two wheelchairs in the basement and other crap. I said to him, “What are you doing in here?!” Cheater said, “Nothing.” Weeks later I figured out he was clearing out boxes of stuff and just leaving the boxes behind, so I wouldn’t realize stuff was missing. He was also taking photo albums out of the house and when I asked where they were, he said, “I’m not telling you.” No doubt at his mommy’s house.

Since I was the one to leave first, I guess he could easily tell a story about me. Years before, his grandmother died. She did not have much (lived in one bedroom, government assisted apartment). Her prized possession was a round, glass table. Everyone knew this was her prized possession. We also all heard her many times tell the story of when one of her friends had to downsize. None of her kids wanted her prized possession — a piano. She watched her kids throw it in the dumpster. Well, when my XH’s grandmother died, no one wanted her prized possession. It was seriously headed to The Goodwill. Guess who saved it? Mean ol’ Martha! Actually kind-hearted Martha! It was not my style, but I incorporated it into our living room. After I refinished the metal base, everyone was so happy to see it when they came over.

Well, I did take it when I moved out. I really didn’t want it, but no one else wanted it just a few years prior. Plus I needed a table. XH was all, “That’s a family heirloom!” I said, “Just a few years ago, it was headed to The Goodwill!” He said, “Well, that’s changed now.” How convenient! I said, “I’m the one who saved it and took care of it all these years and you tell me to my face that I’m a horrible person that never took good care of you or your family!” Silence. I did bring it back the same day and took great pleasure in shoving the metal base into his chest (didn’t hurt him). I’m sure he was shocked that I was able to lift that thing up as it was really heavy. Mighty Martha had superpower strength back then! And now his whore has to live with that ugly table. But she never met his grandmother, so it has no meaning to her. And she seems like the type that has to have beautiful, high-end furniture, clothes, etc. I’m sure she loves it! lol

LeavingToxicTown
LeavingToxicTown
4 years ago

He took some clothes, his passport and his guitars. (I did say that I didn’t know if they’d be in the same condition later.) A month later I packed up the rest of his stuff and put it in the garage. I didn’t want him to come in the house. After putting it in his car he says to me, “What’s wrong? Is everything OK?”. So completely clueless.

Got-a-brain
Got-a-brain
4 years ago

Anything and everything he could carry every time he broke into the house – which apparently is absolutely legal, even 4 years later.

I recently sold the marital home (still not divorced) so now he can’t rob me anymore, but has asked my 20 year old daughters boyfriend to steal from my new house. Nice! ????

FridayGirl@69
FridayGirl@69
4 years ago

Yes, unbelievable but myself I just left everything behind… I only took my clothes, shoes and personal items. He try to fight me in what should I take or not so to save money in lawyer’s I just walked away with myself! The cheaters/abusers are set in their own crazy minds because he insisted me on fighting for me to take stuff. My Lawyer stooped responding his lawyer.

Happiernow
Happiernow
4 years ago

I didn’t notice until years later, but at some point he meticulously went through photo albums and took out all the photos of him… at the Grand Canyon, at the Coliseum, on the cruise ship, etc….I imagine they were then uploaded for his dating profile.

Gonegirl
Gonegirl
4 years ago

My ex when he left took my commercial-grade baking pans. What?? He doesn’t know how to turn on the oven and schmoopie is about as clueless.

The funniest is he took the TV from the bedroom and probably wondered why I told him “sure”. It was so old it had to have one of those converter boxes that converted it to digital. He basically had a useless TV.
I went to our local big box store that day and bought me a new one. The best $150 I spent and that TV is still going 10 years later and my new husband and I are watching it as I type.

thankyouCN
thankyouCN
4 years ago

Mine DIDN’T ask for any type of custody of his children but DID request in writing his acoustic guitar and his Lord of the Rings replica sword.

Rag Doll
Rag Doll
4 years ago

My friend’s ex-husband took the recipe card box. It was his before they married but it wasn’t special otherwise; it was just a plastic 4 x 6 file card box. But he took it and left the cards in a messy pile on the counter.

I got her a fancy customized box (with her name on it) to replace it.

ChumpTight
ChumpTight
4 years ago

I am the one that moved out. I’m waiting to split up everything when the time comes when things are final. I don’t want to risk going over there and having her call the cops. She has already called the cops on her boyfriends XW. Although before the TO was put into place I did take a bunch of stuff that her new extended family would have enjoyed. I’m looking forward to seeing what she’ll keep when the time comes. Oh she wanted the baggo boards I built. She saw them in my parents garage when she dropped the kids off. She lost her shit about them.

TitsAndAssAndAllThat
TitsAndAssAndAllThat
4 years ago

My stbx is a for real MNPD so he does stuff all the time to be manipulative. When I returned home (got temp orders for control of the house) after my escape, he had taken my the silverware he absolutely hated, leaving behind the silverware he and his late wife lovingly purchased and used with their children. He took things that meant something to my family but left behind things like his giant storage tub of love letters he’d kept from a lot of his APs. My lawyer has a long list of things he’s to return but has yet to do so.

But here’s the kicker: when he cleaned out his closet, he left behind a shirt. The shirt he specifically bought for our first date. Left it right there in the middle of the closet, like a hidden dagger. Like it’s supposed to make me want him back. All it did was confirm that he is truly an ugly manipulator who has zero regard for anyone other than himself.

Velvet Hammer ????????❤️
Velvet Hammer ????????❤️
4 years ago

The “weirdest” thing he left behind is our daughter. It is still unbelievable to me that he sat on the front steps, said he “had to follow his heart” (he doesn’t have one), and walked away, moving a half hour north to the next town.

We spent so much time hanging out together as a family that no one thought he could be cheating; when would he have the time? Well, we were all shocked to learn how often he was leaving the business we own, early in the afternoons. Home every night at 5:30….playing with our daughter. Then suddenly he was completely AWOL. I will never be able to imagine how she feels. That’s how I know he is probably drinking and using again (an alcoholic/addict who is claiming he is still clean/sober. I don’t buy it. Lying, cheating, stealing, and leaving your beloved daughter in the dust? No better indicator you are getting loaded).

So far I have not noticed anything missing. He has not asked for anything. Left almost all his clothes until I finally asked him to take them after a year of being gone. He wanted the DeWalt drill and bought me one so I would have one too. I have been giving him things as I have encountered things I can replace.

I still changed the locks…his “generosity” can’t be trusted.

Kim
Kim
4 years ago

When he first moved in with his OW, he took his bed pillow (left the pillow case, tho). Tried to take the big TV (to lend to a ‘friend’ as he tried to convince me he wasn’t moving in with her.)
Later he made an excel spreadsheet of things he wanted and I could keep. He listed things and put our names next to them. He ‘let’ me keep the built-in oven in the kitchen but didn’t bother listing the other appliances. (thanks)
He also managed to sneak out the 2 boxes of family photos – and put in the divorce agreement that we exchange those boxes every 6 months. I took out all of the photos that have me or my side of the family in them, and we still send the rest back and forth for some unknown reason.

The first Thanksgiving after he left, he asked for my mother’s recipe for a pie he liked. To this day, I HATE that I gave it to him. I was still dancing, I guess – trying to take the high road and be civil.

kellyp
kellyp
4 years ago
Reply to  Kim

I would buy a scanner and digitize those pictures and let him keep the box.

Luziana
Luziana
4 years ago

Cold Slab O’Meat fancies himself a Simon Hargraves level fancy window dresser/ holiday decorator moonlighting for the last 13 years as a bank teller.

Lol. But with shitty Walmart EVERYTHING. He wouldn’t know a blown glass ornament if it blew up his ass. Then, he met me. Who has a collection of over 400 ornaments and rotating tree themes.

I suspended all that for him for three years. We put up his sad white plastic tree and cheap dark red plastic glitterballs and I clapped like a seal at his artistry. I did stuff like that continually. My fine arts degree mattered not. We were putting a cardboard abstract print over the marital bed in various Baby Poop tones.

When he left, he left all of it. Baby Keepsakes from his own daughter (my SD, not shared) his Christmas stuff. Emergency car stuff.

I think he thought he was getting more than one GFTO day. NOPE.

FIVE FULL Months later I put up my tree and got one of the shittiest wrongheaded emails ever written about how although I had him blocked on FB his daughter had seen photos of our tree and how could I steal her ornaments. She was CRYING!

This fucker got one of the best and most concise paragraphs I have ever written back. That I had lovingly sorted the ornaments, including the Baby’s First ornaments I had recreated for her over so she would have ones the same as my daughter’s. That this entire situation was his doing and he had never tried to take his own things, that I had bought my own tree and lights at no small expense, and this was the smallest of a long list of damages he and the Sluterus were inflicting on everyone in their ornament. Come get your dumb shit from the shed. Tell me when you’re coming and I’ll unlock it. Don’t try to knock and chat. Not interested.

Then I messaged my stepdaughter and said, ‘Daddy May have told you we took your things. That was never true. They have been packed and ready for him to bring to you, he decided not to take them. Everything you saw on FB is either new or old things I had packed away. We miss you.

He still fucked up and failed to come get his shot, then tell SD I hadn’t put it out for him. She already knew he had to be lying again.

I was so proud because it was the first time since D Fay I rejected the gaslighting narrative and refused to accept blame for his bad choices.

Went straight back to No Contact.

Luziana
Luziana
4 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

He did, of course take a 2k leather couch purchased in full with my salary bonus two years before our marriage and XBox.

Sucker Punched by a Saffa
Sucker Punched by a Saffa
4 years ago
Reply to  Luziana

Of course he took the XBox-toy for boy !

Mag
Mag
4 years ago

Mine wanted “ the” grapefruit spoon.

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
4 years ago
Reply to  Mag

????????????????

Maybell
Maybell
4 years ago

I can’t top any of these stories, but my daughter asked me why Mr. Fantastic had all the art and I had all the pictures of the kids. He did take his xBox though.

spiritwoman
spiritwoman
4 years ago
Reply to  Maybell

Tell her simply because the pictures of the kids are the most valuable and are irreplaceable. 🙂

Thankful
Thankful
4 years ago

in the early days of separation I packed all of his cloths and personal belongings from our bedroom and left them on the front verandah for him to take when he collected the kids. then as the weeks went on I left out the crap that had been taking up space in our living room, like his grand mothers tea set and collection of cow milk jugs. this was a sad reality because it made me realise that even though I was the woman of the home nothing in the home reflected me, all of the trinkets in our home belonged to him. I lived in a gay bachelour pad. Unfortunately our daughter became ill and the trickle of crap collection came to a holt. the day I juggled finding somewhere for our older two kids to stay while our youngest underwent surgery to have a central line put in to begin chemo my ex during a phone conversation demanded entry to the family home to collect his stuff, what was so important that it trumped being available to our older two children during this traumatic time? He wanted his push bike and his matchbox car collection, the box of batted crappy toy cars, I later heard that I had been a bitch about and never let him put on display in our home. the collection of shitty childhood toys that had been wrapped in tissue paper and stored in a box for more than 20 years only seeing the light of day on two occasions to my knowledge, once on the day he brought the box to our home from his parents and on one other random occasion when he showed it to our son who was about 7 at the time was forbidden to play with any of them as his father carefully unwrapped each one showed it to our son and then rewrapped it and placed it back in the box. He left the rest of his crap including his piano, why? because it was free storage and his mothers did not have the space….once he hooked the new beard he was happy to comply with the legal request to come and collect the rest of his belongings…….even though I had packed all his stuff he trawled through the entire house looking for things to take when he came. He took brand new Tupperware I had been saving he even wanted to take the trivial pursuit game I bought myself one year for christmas that he refused to play with me. He took six wine glasses, a wedding gift that we had never used because they were too precious for every day use, but only the red ones because I hid a few of the white wine ones and he assumed they were broken and did not want to take a an incomplete set…….I giggle to myself every time I pour myself a glass of red in his precious white wine glasses.

Seerant
Seerant
4 years ago

Still finding stuff he left. Like the house shoes OW bought him for Christmas. He was in such a hurry to leave-the second time-that he left them under the guest bed. Being the great housekeeper I am, just found them. A year later. I’ll put them in the box with all the junk mail I’m saving for him to pick up. When he picks up his last alimony check. Which I’ll give him when he asks for it. Beg, a**h****, beg. ????

Tempest
Tempest
4 years ago

Hannibal Lecher only wanted me to send enough books to “cover a few shelves of the bookcase,” so left behind his Proust volumes and The Gentleman’s Alphabet Book–a salacious book of pen & ink drawings with bawdy limericks.

Chumped
Chumped
4 years ago

After removing 5 truckloads of stuff he wanted the storage coverbag for his sleeping bag and took my son’s when his was not readily found. And he insisted on half the wine glasses that were in a supermarkt savings action- ‘because his half of the groceries had paid for them as well’. And another time he insisted on half of the wine rack, bottles of wine and the bottles of spirits – open bottles mind you. He walked with a laptop through the house achting all clever about it. Pathetic loser.

Attie
Attie
4 years ago

Oh I sense todays challenge is going to be a doozey. I was sorting out old clothes to give to the Moroccan community when ex asked if he could have them for the skank as she could do with dressing a bit more like me. Hah. But he took all my cookery videos and the instructions for my knitting machine, but not the machine itself. He wanted them so badly that when he abandoned his rented farmhouse without emptying it I found a huge IKEA bag of my videos outside in 10 inches of snow. He also took a beautiful patchwork quilt that I had made – but sadly for him he forgot the pillow cases. Ha, ha.

Mrs Ex- Rat
Mrs Ex- Rat
4 years ago
Reply to  Attie

He spent a lot of years throwing away so much of my stuff ….so anything of sentimental value to me has gone years ago.
But he hasn’t asked for photos of his children or little gifts they gave him or anything sentimental about me ….
Just a bookcase.
I wait to see if he asks for the slow cooker….it seems to be quite the trend…

Thanks everyone, hysterical!!

Mrs Ex- Rat
Mrs Ex- Rat
4 years ago
Reply to  Attie

Instructions for your knitting machine……????

Julia
Julia
4 years ago

My ex fixated on the lawnmower and the weed wacker. Yes he used the word “wacker” over and over not “trimmer”. I had the house and he was living in his transport truck. What do you need with lawn maintenance equipment in a big rig for? I also packed up his belongings and left them on the front porch. I included any lingerie and our sex toys. OW fought to have him they could have the hand me downs.

Attie
Attie
4 years ago
Reply to  Julia

Wow, my ex took the weed wacker too and it never came back. HE DIDNT HAVE A GARDEN IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM. Obviously gave it to a friend who was too cheap to buy one. When he wanted the lawnmower (obviously for same friend), I told him to fuck off. But the “cheapest” thing he did was on moving out day he took the entire packet of toilet rolls (I don’t know – 12 or 6 in a packet) INCLUDING the one on the wall holder. But then he always was (and still remains) the biggest asshole I have had the misfortune to meet.

Survivor
Survivor
4 years ago
Reply to  Attie

Fuckwit x demanded the Garden Weasel. It was fresh in the box, years after purchase.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
4 years ago
Reply to  Julia

All of the hand me downs including him.

Kara
Kara
4 years ago

So…this really sucks…

My abuser ex, the one who gave me ptsd, has my grandmother’s ashes. I don’t know what he did with them, and there is no way to get them back at this point.

I had ordered a moving truck to be picked up at 10 am the day I moved out. He expected everything to be done by noon (yelled at me and his mom when it wasn’t because seriously who the fuck completes a move in two hours…) and he rushed everything out so fast, there were things that were missed.

I started unpacking at my apartment and couldn’t find her urn. (It was a small urn. A few members of the family like my mom, sister, and aunt had small urns with some of her ashes in them.) I panicked and started looking everywhere, tearing apart all the bags and boxes desperately trying to find it. I even got so desperate as to call my ex husband in the faint, faint hope he might have it. Of course he didn’t, because I had taken it with me when I got divorced and moved in with the abuser ex, and I distinctly remember where in his house I kept it. There was only one place it could be.

And of all the shit he sent back to me, he did not send her urn. I remember telling him about it, I remember setting it on a mantle and telling him what it was. He sent back stuffed animals he got me from comic cons, he sent me back a cheap piece of jewelry I got at Target, he sent freaking tupperware containers.

But not my grandmother’s ashes.

Tall One
Tall One
4 years ago
Reply to  Kara

Would it help to spin the story? Like; you have real memories of a wonderful, loving grandmother and the best he can do is steal her ashes?

Its sad to read your post, but all I can think about it is the fact that this asshole is lower than her ashes and the urn they were in…

Kara
Kara
4 years ago
Reply to  Tall One

How I feel about it is complicated. I have searched for it many times since then, hoping I would find it somewhere in a box and somehow I just missed it. But I’ve moved three times since then. Every time I moved, going through all my stuff, slowly it just sank in and I came to accept that’s where she is. With him, and he had chances to send her back, and didn’t. I don’t know if that was one final act of cruelty or what, and I can’t really spend more emotional energy wondering (that’s an answer I’ll never get.)

The guilt I felt over losing that urn in the rush was really bad for a while. I talked to my mom about it and she wasn’t mad at me, she was mad at him. Because she knows how terrible of a person he was and how the entire process was traumatic, she didn’t blame me. Plus he knew damn well what that urn was and if he had the opportunities to send back tupperware he had the opportunity to send back the urn. She said it’s ok that I haven’t reached out to get it back, because she knows how much he terrifies me and she wouldn’t ask me to face him again.

I think of it this way: My grandmother was not a hateful person and I only ever saw her angry once. But I know she would have despised him, and she would rather me be safe and keep him out of my life and far away than try to beg him to have the urn back.

Mitz
Mitz
4 years ago
Reply to  Kara

For sure. Your grandma would much rather see you safe than be exposed to this creep again.

We are spirits in our essence. Not dust, not ash.

AwakeningDreamer
AwakeningDreamer
4 years ago
Reply to  Kara

Hope she haunts him

Now I.C.
Now I.C.
4 years ago

My X Asshat took the love story trilogy of Griffin and Sabine that he had given me as a gift way back in the early 90s. He wanted to give them to his 25YO foreign Schmoopie you see. When confronted he went right down the narc prayer list, first denying it happened at all, then diminishing it, then telling me it was because I never liked them anyway. I am so glad he is gone from my life.

A Narcissist’s Prayer:

That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did,
You deserved it.

pulmafool
pulmafool
4 years ago
Reply to  Now I.C.

My ex has a more concise playlist:
You are crazy and everyone knows it.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
4 years ago

Shortly after ex moved out I was looking through my bedroom trying to find something. I looked in a cupboard that was part of the dresser he had been using. There I discovered a present wrapped in red paper and a booklet of gift certificates designed to spice up the sex life (one free lap dance, etc.). It was sitting next to the empty bag from the box of chocolate I had gotten for the last Valentine’s Day before DDay when, if I understand the timeline correctly, he was between Schmoopies or maybe not quite yet. I always wondered if this was a gift from one of his Schmoopies to him, something that was intended as a gift to one of his Schmoopies, or a gift to me that was never presented because he wasn’t feeling it at the time. I left it there and never mentioned it to him. Eventually the booklet of gift certificates disappeared but the gift is still there still wrapped in red paper. I still don’t know what is in it. Maybe someday curiosity will get the best of me but for now it remains a mystery.

RM
RM
4 years ago

My ex took my passport (?!)

My current husband’s ex is even crazier. She boxed up all his old family photos (of his parents, siblings, nieces, nephews), birthday and Father’s Day cards from his kids, and other sentimental things, and kept them at her house to use as leverage to make him come visit her years after their divorce. She also stole his wedding band, leftover touch up paint that matched the house she had already abandoned, and once made a special trip to his house to get an ashtray she picked up at Goodwill years and years ago. Neither one of them had ever smoked, but she had to have that ashtray.

unicornomore
unicornomore
4 years ago

As you know “You cant take it with you” so my Cheater left everything. Trouble was, we were SUPPOSED to be in wreckonsilliation, so discovering photos and gifts from Susan of Seattle in our house ( that we moved to after the affair was supposedly over) was a problem. Im still getting rid of stuff.

My real contribution to this conversation is the took/didnt take experience of my newhusband. His XW took a Williamsburg style lamp that she later gave away as well as an antique coffee grinder he had bought in Berlin. He was so insulted and annoyed by the coffee grinder that we went to Berlin and shopped for them. Couldnt find the right one so went to Prague, found a flea market and bought 2 that we hand carried back to the States. He also had a new lamp custom made with our last name on the back.

He found such a sense of peace and contentment when the Great Universal Wrong of the Coffee Grinder was resolved. I think its funny I got a trip to Europe out of it and she is sitting in Bumfuckville, USA .
Neener, neener

Fern
Fern
4 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

❤️ this.