Hmmm. I have questions. Is this confiding in those around you and answering honestly when asked? Or are we spamming 776 quasi-acquaintances in your cheater’s social circle?
Look, I get the temptation to Set The Record Straight. And I also understand feelings of revenge. My fantasies tended more toward the gut-him-with-a-fish-knife sort, but it all boils down to “No, YOU choke on some of the humiliation now, motherfucker.”
I think the issue comes down to disclosure (speaking your truth) and vigilante justice (outing the cheater as a fraud). I’m in favor of the first, and I have a lot of warnings and caveats about the latter.
Why outing your ex on social media is a BAD idea.
1.) You can’t shame the shameless. Who are you trying to convince here? Your ex? The wider social circle? These people are impervious to shame. Unfortunately trying to Speak Truth to Stupid tends to produce a kibble high in fuckwits. They love the drama and centrality. And the rubberneckers enjoy the show. Surround yourself with better people. Those who matter care, and those who are cool with your ex, don’t.
2.) This can be used in court against you. Do you have a pending divorce? Minor children? This shit can boomerang. As Mr. CL the lawyer says about lawsuits, “If it feels good, don’t do it.”
3.) Your cheater can do it to you. Want to stick their ugly mug on a cheater site? It’s a scam to get people to pay to take it down. There’s no vetting to do this. No “proof” it happened. Your creep could retaliate. You want to tag Schmoopie in some compromising photo, audiovisual display? Revenge porn is a thing now with jail time. NO. Leave them and their creepy snatch alone.
My opinion on exes and social media is BLOCK.
What’s been your experience?