I’ve been thinking about the being mighty part of moving on lately, and I think I have a new term for the Chump dictionary: special snowflake chump.
As I write to you, I’m thinking to myself how I could never hate my ex because, 1) he was my first long-term relationship, 2) he went out of his way to boost my self-esteem in a time when it was down. “I owe him so much! I miss him.”
But thanks to you and other people on this forum, I said to myself, “snap out of it bish.” He stole from me, lied on end, and took pleasure in my pain.
I’ve been perpetrating BS on myself because I think I’m a unicorn. That no one could ever understand me but him.
I’m trying to reorient myself to a healthy way of thinking, which includes knowing that I’m unique, I’m different, and I’m special; but, as this forum illustrates, many things are universal.
And, I’m coming to terms with the fact that I should never think that I’m so special that only a cheater could fulfill me.
And so, I humbly submit the term of “Special Snowflake” to the Chump Canon. And I wonder if anyone else has ever felt or feels the same?
I think exceptionalism is pretty universal — ha. But reorienting your brain by coming up with a term to describe a condition is super helpful, in my experience. Because if you can identify it, you can disarm it. The blog is full of CL-isms — pick me dance, Naugahyde remorse, sad sausage channel, etc. In other instances, members of CN have given us words too. Rumblekitty gave us “bitch cookie,” Mr. CL introduced “Reconciliation Industrial Complex,” and ChumpSon gave us “hopium.”
Special snowflake has become a term of derision, but then again, so is the word “chump” — so if you want to claim it as a particular brand of chump spackle and it helps you? Go for it.
Your letter gave me an idea for a Friday Challenge — to come up with a new word that describes the chump/cheater dynamic OR share what CN-isms helped you rewire your brain. Did certain terms here put you off at first? Chump? Unicorn? Have you found yourself applying CN language in other settings? I’m always amazed when I see “pick me dance” somewhere else.
ChumpB, the word nerds of CN thank you.
And yes, no one deserves to be the kind of “special” that is “you’re the kind of special person I abuse.” So glad you’re free.
TGIF everyone! Bring me your words!