I don’t have any hard numbers on this, but judging on the stories shared here, I’d say 9 out of 10 times it’s the chump who files. And that includes people who are abandoned. The cheater just can’t be bothered.
We could untangle the skein on this — the most obvious explanation is cake. The cheater enjoys the Schmoopie buffet, plus an extra helping of you. And no financial consequences!
Resisting divorce is also a great way to keep Schmoopies off balance. Well, I would divorce, but my mean, mean chump won’t let me. They can imagine they’re still at the center of an epic pick me dance battle.
Also I think chumps get stuck filing because divorce is messy and expensive, and that’s your job. Clean up in Aisle 6. “Chaos janitor” as SuperDuperChump so eloquently put it once. Why should Fabulous People have to clean up the damage? The heart wants what the heart wants.
So today, I’m curious about your divorce filing stories. Did they move in with Schmoops and the divorce still came as a shock to them? Any creative delivery methods? Advice for the newbies contemplating this move? (Get there first. Don’t pull your punches.)