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As scandals go, you’ve got to hand it to Olympic hypocrite Jerry Falwell Jr. We’ve got cuckolding kink, blackmail, shady Miami real estate deals, and throwing your wife under the bus for her “affair” with a pool boy.

Calling all unicorns! Can the Reconciliation Industrial Complex save this?

Why of course. Falwell assured the Washington Examiner, “…with His help and with those in the community who we love and who appreciate the impact of forgiveness, we will get through this.”

It’s gonna make his marriage stronger. You know, the way national exposure and imminent unemployment do. #thoughtsandprayers

For anyone just tuning in, Jerry Falwell Jr. is the son of Moral Majority and Liberty University founder Jerry Falwell Sr. When Senior died, Junior took over, the way one does in a tax-exempt oligarchic dynasty.

Senior was the charming man who told the world LGBTQ people and feminists were responsible for the September 11 attacks: “I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People for the American Way—all of them who have tried to secularize America—I point the finger in their face and say, ‘You helped this happen.’”

So all you non-binary, critical thinking pagans — don’t apply to Liberty. Students there must adhere to an honor code: “Sexual relations outside of a biblically ordained marriage between a natural-born man and a natural-born woman are not permissible at Liberty University.”

Which reminds me of a joke we used to tell about Calvinists…

“At (Liberty University), you can’t have sex standing up…. You might be caught dancing.”

So, imagine the shock it was to the tender minds of Liberty to discover that their princeling, Falwell Jr. had been having a years-long three-way with pool boy Giancarlo Granda. The arrangement was apparently voluntary, but then Becki and Jerry Jr. thought the fellow (um) performs so well, they would gift him with a Miami youth hostel. Because nothing says “I can manage real estate” like a 9-month gig cleaning pool filters.

As this has come to light, Falwell wasted no time throwing his wife under the bus, and casting Granda as some sort of blackmailer who would besmirch the good name of the Falwells.

Issuing a statement to the Washington Examiner Jerry Jr. shares his sad sausage tale.

“While we tried to distance ourselves from him over time, he unfortunately became increasingly angry and aggressive. Eventually, he began threatening to publicly reveal this secret relationship with Becki and to deliberately embarrass my wife, family, and Liberty University unless we agreed to pay him substantial monies.”

That’s interesting. Because in 2012, you claimed you were impressed with Granda and wanted to help him start in business. Anyway, Granda has been sharing some naughty pix with Reuters. But perhaps, in your words, Jerry, with God’s help and the impact of forgiveness, you can work through these legal squabbles. I mean, Granda’s a young dude who’s been hammering your wife while you enjoyed watching, but he’s NOT a pagan.

After Falwell found out about the affair, he said in the statement, he lost 80 pounds and suffered mental stress..

Really Jerry? You look kinda paunchy here with your pants unzipped.

“Becki and I forgave each other, because while her indiscretion may have been more obvious and apparent, I realized that there were important smaller things I needed to do better too,” he said.

Thank you for taking this opportunity to showcase the vile Shared Responsibility RIC bullshit. Dude, she didn’t cheat — you both CONSENTED. And you watched. And you enjoyed. That’s swinging, not cheating. (Geez, now I have to add Jesus Swingers to my WordPress tags.)

Anyway, nice of you to try and DARVO your way out of this. You’re not a chump. You’re a hypocrite.

From this ACLU-member, feminazi, recovering Methodist — a Bible verse:

“Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God?” Romans 2:3

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  • That was perfect beyond perfect. You somehow weeded through the ridiculous articles I’ve been reading and cut to the truth. Thank you

    • “black water” if he hadn’t mentioned it, most would have thought it soda. But now, we all know that was a Rum and coke…..which most of us realized the mistake of drinking back in college.

      • There’s another photo of him and his wife on a yacht, with him again holding a glass of that ‘black water’ and his wife in a (gasp!) bikini. Geeeeez, what a bunch of hypocrites! smdh

        • That isnt his wife, it is her assistant. I wonder if they will be able to pay her now that they lost $990,000 of income each year and the option to endlessly eat from the trough that Liberty University was for them. Golly, the assistant is pregnant and might lose her health insurance and might have to depend on the social safety net of medicaid for pregnant women, the same sort of program the elites keep trying to end.

    • The folks who make the biggest noise about their Christian “moral values” – as though Christians have a monopoly on morality, ethics, or human decency – are almost inevitably the ones who get caught with their hands in the cookie jar of sordid degeneracy.

  • 😂😂. Get em’ CL! Nothing like hypocritical Jesus Cheaters getting their karma to get your day going. 😂😂

  • People hide behind religion.
    Religion is a comfort to many people.
    Personally I think its a load of crap, just my view.
    If people treated each other with dignity and respect the world would be a better place.
    I know someone who has religious artefacts outside home, her partner cheated on her, sexually abused women, he actually thinks he’s funny, she claims to be catholic, she expected a woman he abused to apologise to her, that was me, he was talking about my body parts and I complained.
    Another family, ex husband said he was going to rape daughter in law, they still have him in the house, daughter in law moved out. They claim to be religious.
    Ex has rosary beads, God might forgive him I don’t have too,
    Personally I with like to have a word with God, wouldn’t you.

    • Fire away. You can have a word with Him any time.

      I’m Catholic, and I don’t act like that. I have met Catholic cheaters and give them the Chump Nation blast. It’s not religion, it’s shitty character.

      Cheating is an equal opportunity employer. But yes, there’s something extra horrible about Jesus Cheaters.

    • There was a great line from the Frank Miller 1980’s Batman graphic novel series, “The Dark Knight Returns,” which I always think of when encountering hypocritical religious types or just hypocrites in general (I do think it’s very hard to be religious and not be hypocritical, as opposed to being spiritual). It’s said by a recurring minor character in the series.

      I think the character is supposed to be answering a news reporter’s question in a “man on the street” type interview. I don’t believe you see the question asked, but the man’s response is something like, “What? Yes, I am a Christian. But I have the decency to keep it in church.”

      Whenever these types of things crop around people purporting to be religious (just replace Christian w/whatever faith is being tested/questioned), I think of this. Always makes me laugh. Hope it makes CN laugh, too.

    • “There is no evidence that Cohen’s efforts to suppress the photos were a quid pro quo for Falwell’s vital political backing. ” Of course not. He just backs Trump because they have so much in common.

  • Dude is already trying to withdraw his resignation from the school (“King’s X!”). These narc cheaters truly believe consequences are only for the little people (aka chumps). Amazing that one person can so degrade so many worthy institutions at one go (marriage, religion, education—even pants and swimming pools).

      • What utter HORSESHIT.

        I’m Catholic and my faith means a lot to me. (Sidenote, when I told my priest my youngest was gay he told me my job as a mother was to “make sure your children know they are loved and not alone.” He also said it was fine to file for divorce from the DOCTOR, because I “have the right to protect” myself. There are plenty of us who are not homophobic nuts).

        ANYHOW, I just cannot stand what this POS is doing & saying. WHO ARE HIS PR PEOPLE?

        They suck. Even when I was spackling like the hopium addicted maniac I was, I’d have seen thru this word salad.

        Ugh…just UGH

      • When my ex started with the delusional jealousy I did a little research into it. Several of the sources commented seperating delusion and religion is tricky. Everyone should know by now The Great Flying Spaghetti Monster rules the universe.

        • Nothing is sacred, not even things that aren’t sacred. “Flying Spaghetti Monster” is a buzz term from pop scientist and author Richard Dawkins, icon of the organized atheists who were hit by a massive rape and sexual harassment scandal about five years ago that went to the top. Add to that some really violent racism (Sam Harris’s promotion of racial profiling torture, Dawkins’ ugly remarks about Muslim women). Oh and the group’s not-so-stealth marketing of sketchy biotech and the war industry.

          Sigh. What’s a good agnostic to do? Being “good without God” seems to be as hard as being good with a god. Humans. Human institutions. Flawed and effed up, greedy, hypocritical and guilty and no collective transcendence anywhere you look.

  • What does the Bible say about hypocrites?

    Matthew 23:27
    “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people’s bones and all uncleanness”

    Lots more! 😂

    When I read stuff like this, it’s clear these ‘Christians’ have no real belief in their creed. It’s all about making money.

    Ewww! That pic made me want to take a long hot shower. 🔥🚿🤢

    And I don’t want to be rude, about your President, but this kind of crap pretty much defines people who support the arch creep Trump. (sorry for being political).

    • You’re 100% right about Trump, and his faux-religious backers.

      You and CL are making me think of the musical “Godspell” today!
      Your Matthew passage is the source for the song “Alas for You.”
      CL’s Romans passage is very reminiscent of the song “Turn Back, O Man.”

      My favorite song from the musical, though, is “Save the People.” Just a simple cri de coeur: if there is a God, let it be one whose mightiness can bring justice. There isn’t much of a plot to “Godspell,” but the music is fantastic.

      • I love Godspell too. Performed music from it and can still sing “prepare ye “ word for word. I am a Christian but know that sometimes the best Christians are not found in a church and sometimes the worst ones lead the churches.

    • Chumpnomore6:

      “And I don’t want to be rude, about your President, but this kind of crap pretty much defines people who support the arch creep Trump. (sorry for being political).”

      I’m not a political minded person myself but I have 2 bones to pick with you about your statement.
      To start, saying “sorry for being political” immediately after being political is about as sincere as “sorry about cheating on you” immediately after fucking strange.

      My other issue with your comment is the one that really pisses me off. I have beloved family and friends who sit on either side of the aisle. You personally insulted the hell out of some people that I really care about and it blows my mind that a fellow chump would be so ignorant of the effect of her poorly chosen words.
      Sorry, not sorry.

      • If anything, chumpnomore needn’t have apologized at all for getting political. If we chumps are going to fix our pickers (in all areas of our lives, and not just romantic), we need to be able to recognize disordered people around us. Donald J. Trump is as disordered as they come. His own niece Mary Trump, who has a PhD in clinical psychology and is well-aware of the Trump FOO issues, has said in her new book that DJT suffers from some toxic brew of the following: NPD, possibly antisocial personality disorder, dependent personality disorder, and sleep disorders related to his addiction to caffeine. Mary Trump points out all the evidence that DJT’s father Fred Trump was a sociopath; between him and DJT’s chronically ill mother who was effectively an invalid from the time he was 3 years old, that explains very well DJT’s various disorders. (He grew up without any real parental attachment, and saw his older brother get thrown under the bus for having actual empathy.)

        Last week, 70+ *Republican* former national security advisors signed an open letter saying that DJT is unfit for office.

        So if anything, I would employ the following CL concepts: anyone who would willfully ignore DJT-level disorder is toking on hopium (if they’ve suffered consequences from it, which many of us have). People trying to do the bothsideism thing are like Switzerland friends. DJT’s avid supporters are flying monkeys. If we’ve all been chumped in a way by DJT, it’s time to leave a cheater/liar/abuser, and gain a life. I wish more Americans were willing to speak truth to power.

        • Can we at least point out that Trump cheated on, lied to and betrayed all three wives multiple times? Shouldn’t Chump Nation condemn him solely for that, if not for his betrayal of the country/human decency/rule of law/competence and his cruelty to small children?

      • I’m a Trump supporter. Do I think he needs to shut the hell up and not Tweet… yes, but I am not sorry about the job he’s doing.

        I’m not offered a better choice… and that’s not my fault.

        Your comment is rude, designed to be rude, and you aren’t sorry.

      • It’s not political to mention a man who is know for cheating on his wives on a blog about people who cheat on their spouses.

      • Agreed, Now-I-Know-What-Hell-Looks-Like. I don’t much hang around here, anymore, and this is the reason why. I’m Canadian, don’t have a horse in the American race, but even to me, gosh!, these disdainful political comments are tiresome and alienating. I was under the impression that this is a site for Chumps of every background, colour, political stripe, gender, nationality, creed, orientation. And yet a few smug, self-righteous people of one particular political bent seem more interested in spewing their vitriol than in discussing the issue at hand: cheaters. Thank you for speaking up; others of us simply chose to fade away.

    • Really, the fact that we are still grouping people by political affiliations, proves how biased and grossly inappropriate it is to judge anyone based on their views. Aren’t the previous comments enough, throughout this whole blog, enough that people suck and it’s who THEY are? Not because they are gay, Democrat, Republican, black, white…. etc. As a faithful follower of Chump Lady would it be fair for me to say that since you feel this way, all her followers do? This makes me sad. PS I’m a huge Chump and a Republican, but I guess I’m no better than a Jesus Chrater.

      • In my humble opinion, people can have whatever political or religious affiliation they want, and can legitimately disagree on certain issues. But it’s always valid to call out hypocrisy, disorder, and harm, on whatever side of the aisle. It’s never okay to hurt others, and hide behind some affiliation instead of taking responsibility. It’s never okay to falsely conflate real harms (e.g. separating families at the border) with “hurt feelings” sorts of harms, like “you’re making me feel bad about supporting a candidate who wants to separate families at the border.” That’s sad sausage behavior.

        Donald J. Trump is as disordered as they come. His disorder has been on open display for a number of years. A whole lot of Republicans think so too – this truth doesn’t mean that anyone needs to change political stripes altogether. I would just kindly suggest to any chumps trying to fix their pickers, that maybe they could refrain from supporting the disordered person on the presidential ticket this time, who has already shown what he’s capable of.

        • And we can agree to disagree. There is way too much for me to say to your reply, and it this is not the forum for it. I believe, that we are here for support and not judgment on who we vote for, it does not make us who we are. ✌🏿

          • Oh dear, I didn’t mean to start a shit storm, I should have stuck to the Bible quote, and the comment about the pic.

            Thanks, Lez chump for sticking up for me. x I agree with everything you said.

            Just Wow, you’re right about the purpose of this forum, I’m a UK chump, and freely admit I don’t understand A merican politics.

            • And yes chumpnomore6, I second that on this shouldn’t be the forum for politics. I’m sorry for your story, what happened in your life and it definitely changes us. For that alone, I don’t care what political party you are affiliated with, anywhere in the world. We are grouped by a common thread, gross abuse by our spouses, loved ones, family members etc… we should be supportive of each other for those reasons. My political affiliations do not make me a bad, confused or horrible person. Those assumptions just hurt people’s feelings more.

          • Just Wow:
            Re: support in this forum: I just want to say that we at CN often give each other 2x4s, that is to say kindly-meant but perhaps harsh-sounding reminders of various CL concepts – esp. when chumps seem confused about how to move forward (which we often are, having suffered emotional abuse). That is, indeed, a form of support when we see people unable to discern abuse and disorder in their lives. Accepting disorder doesn’t feel supportive, to me. But I’m happy to leave it at that.

      • I’d ask everyone to refrain from politics here. My Job job (not CL) is non-partisan and I’m not allowed to get into politics here as a matter of my continued employment. My actual political views (if anyone cares, and I assume they do not) are expressed on Twitter sometimes. We live in strange times. Not discussing it feels like chewing a leather strap some days. I’ll just say, my two ex husbands voted the way I do and they suck.

        • I hear you, CL. I understand why you can’t get “political,” yourself – but we at CN often give one another 2x4s, and discuss how to apply CL concepts in real situations, esp, when the stakes are high (as in this election). But, I hear you saying this isn’t the forum for it. It’s too bad: I think you could do a lot of good in this arena (though clearly, many of us chumps like our hopium more than the truth).

          • Well, if the day ever comes when I’m a full-time CL, I would. Look in the archives, for 2016, I wrote how America is in an abusive relationship. (This was pre-current job.)

        • Thank you Chump Lady, I come here for support, relief when I need to vent and also providing support when needed. People definitely don’t need an extra helping of shaming when reading comments, looking for advice and/or helping fellow chumps. (It’s relatively clear that those who feel politically motivated should begin their own blog and not feel the need to disrespect fellow chumps by disparaging their character with assumptions). You provide an amazing service and for that I am immensely grateful. That’s my truth!

          • I respectfully disagree – mentioning Trump on this blog in context is valid. I mean, we know (with proof) he’s cheated on his wives, and attempted to pay OW’s off to keep them quiet.

            We are here to talk about cheaters right? Why would one be off limits?

            • I used to lampoon politicians on BOTH sides of the aisle — Anthony Weiner and Rudy Giuliani, to name a couple. I had to STOP making politicians the subject of blog posts when I took the job.

    • Well, I cannot unsee THAT. What is it with these hypocritical Jesus cheaters, who always want to point to the sins of others, but who refuse to acknowledge their own (worse) sins?

      I was married a very long time and, while I will not vouch for what X actually did during our marriage, until he met the three time married church lady, he never showed any signs of the he was engaging in infidelity, and he was a fairly obvious person. That woman destroyed a family (certainly with help from X), all the while proclaiming that she “wasn’t perfect, just forgiven.” She refused to acknowledge she had done anything wrong and instead, painted herself as the victim, of what I never figured out.

      The evangelical church where she was an “interceder”- which is a whacky as it sounds – did not bat an eye when her various extra-marital activities were publicly exposed. I want to hope that this result would be different now, but I am honestly not sure. After all, look at all the criminal and unethical conduct that some people seem willing to tolerate from our Dear Leader.

      It’s not just his conduct; it is the hypocritical way he judges others so harshly, all the while pretending like he is somehow the victim when his bad behavior comes to light. Politics aside, I absolutely cannot tolerate the way we are supposed to overlook conduct that would land anyone else in divorce court…or jail!

      It seem to be a disease among some people. “Do as I say, not as I do” is their mantra. This kind of logic doesn’t work when parents expect their children to act differently than the which they see from their parents. It should also not work when the individuals who are supposed to be upholding our laws blatantly violate those laws merely because they are in positions of power.

      At my age, I refuse to give such hypocrites a pass. Fall Well has bullied his students and faculty for years, running roughshod over their rights to benefit his own personal and political desires. He has politicized religion to the point that if you are not a Republican, you will find a quite hostile environment at Liberty U. He is yet another power hungry, narcissistic autocrat, who deserves everything that is coming his way. But the bodies are sure beginning to pile up…

      Which is why I keep this saying tucked into my favorite book. “Let the wicked slay themselves.”[with a little help from the pool boy]-Bob Marley

      • “It seem to be a disease among some people. “Do as I say, not as I do” is their mantra. This kind of logic doesn’t work when parents expect their children to act differently than the which they see from their parents.”

        Ex still doesn’t get this. He doesn’t understand how he seems to have lost the moral high ground when trying to perfect his children. “why won’t they listen to, respect me?” Of course he has figure out that it’s all my fault.

    • Huh. I wonder if either of them are his daughter or her friends. Shades of Jack Schaap.

      Who I see tried to get released early from prison.

  • I always thought it was pretty funny that any deity needs money and it had to be mine. So this amuses me greatly.

    I keep my hand on my wallet whenever someone starts talking about their religion or when walking by a known house of worship.

    • Goerge Carlan has a good take on God and money. “Why does an omniscient being so bad with money and always needing it”

  • “… I realized that there were important smaller things I needed to do better too,” he said.“ Well, based on the unzipped pants pic, we all know what “smaller thing” is most important to Jr. 😂😂😂😂😂 Here’s a small tip for you, Jerry: if you really want to do better keep your small thing in your pants, keep your pants zipped, and keep your lying, hypocritical mouth zipped too.

  • I’ll say this for these particularly *special* fuckwits… go big or go home, bless their hearts.

    I’m praying for a tell-all Lifetime movie from the wife, once they scrape her off the pavement from the Jerry Jr. bus that just ran over her.

    • From what I can tell, the wife is an equal partner and they are both very much alike – two fuckwits in a pod. It’s the damage control plan they’ve chosen and it wouldn’t surprise me one bit that they both concocted it with the help of whatever advisors.

      Nobody here is a victim of anything or run over by anything. That’s just the dog and pony show for the unwashed masses.

  • Nothing about this is suprising. There have always been religious sects that view women with suspicion and in need of control and supervision, as they can be tainted temptresses. Of course he threw her under the bus. He absolutely did nothing wrong . . .

    The whole “forgiveness” thing? Fuck these duplicious assholes.

    • Blaming the woman goes back to Adam and Eve and is just what the followers of the Falwell Christianity would think even if Jerry Jr. didn’t say it.

      • Of course you will note that Eve then turned around and blamed the snake. That story pretty much sums up human nature right there. No wonder God got pissed. Maybe if they had just fessed up we’d still be in the Garden of Eden.

  • What the f*ck is it with these people?

    My late father-in-law was very religious; it didn’t stop him from cheating and impregnating a co-worker in the 60s. He coerced his wife (my MIL) into adopting the child and refused to ever discuss (or apologise for) what he had done. His daughter (my now ex-wife) only found out the truth about her parenthood when she was 20 or so.

    Unfortunately my ex-wife idolised her father and was religious too; rather than believing that cheating, lying about it and manipulating your family was wrong – and she will have seen the impact that it had on her adoptive mother – she did the same to me and our kids. Her apple fell close to her father’s tree so to say.

    She cheated (just like her dad), she got caught out (by our kids seeing the iPad her phone was synched to), she lied about it (just like her dad) and she refused to discuss it or apologise for it (just like her dad). And by goodness did she try and throw me (and our kids) under the bus to try and save her reputation and to feather her nest with her AP when it all came out.

    5+ years out from D-Day and 3+ years from the finalisation of our divorce and her hypocrisy still rankles. She will tell anyone and everyone that I screwed her over in Court; she can’t see that she did that to herself when she had her AP accompany her to our divorce hearing.

    Idiot.

    • I swear that sometimes, I wonder if behavior of her sort is genetic. The biological daughter of a cheater and his OW……

      I guess it’s not a stretch. A lot of mental illnesses have a genetic component.

  • I had seen Falwell on stage at liberty on a podcast. He kept referring to his wife as a sort of boss or warden. Something didn’t sit well with me. Now I recall an old friend who always referenced his wife as ”the warden”. He turned out to be a cheating alcoholic in giant proportions.
    That kind of casual joking of your spouse being an authority figure is a considerable admission of guilt. At least for men, that is, but probably women as well.

  • For years the Falwells & Liberty University persecuted the LGBTQ community for “immortality”. Now Falwell Jr is caught up in a sex scandal & lies about resigning from Liberty Univ. I think they owe their followers -whom they swindle with their “holier than thou” agenda – a refund! Hypocrisy is commonplace these days.

    • And the Youth Hostel that Falwell helped obtain for Granda was used for LGBT housing. Again the hypocrisy is at level 12.

  • The hypocrisy is stunning, though it seems to be a common thread of cheaters regardless of their religion, profession, volunteer work, whatever. The CL blog on feminism the other day kinda triggered me, because the OW in my case is a self-proclaimed screaming feminist who believes every woman has a right to determine what goes on in her body – except for the wives of her affair partner(s). And a SCIENTIST, as she is quick to tell anybody willing to listen, who insists on using her “Dr.” before her name. “Respect me! The INTEGRITY of my data is sacrosanct!!” Yeah, right. Given her willingness to screw around with my husband (and who knows who else) while cheating on her husband, I’m certain her data has NO bias and isn’t remotely prone to her manipulations.

    What really ticks me off re the Falwells is that I would bet that the students/supporters of Liberty U will be shoveling piles of money to the RIC to “help” them. From what I have heard/read, which isn’t really much, those two deserve each other. I hope Liberty U. kicks their asses out.

    • IvyLeague–

      Geez, the feminist homewrecker club keeps gaining members these days. I’m staring to miss the days when garden variety slags would frantically eschew the label. Knit them all some Pinkpussy hats to make them identifiable again.

      Oh, and send that “scientist” all our collective pap smear samples and ask if she can be the first to discover the test to determine which of us got HPV from being screwed over without consent *before* cells start to mutate and then which HPV strains are “feminist” and which are the “Jesus cheater” variety.

      I’ll bet it’s a tie which is more carcinogenic.

  • I’ve been give to understand by folk in the know about Dominance with a Big D that the whole “hubby watches while wife does the dirty with handsome young dude” is a dominance play by the Hubs. As in Patriarchal, Patriarchal religion, Big Man on Campus. It’s a way of exerting control over the wife (you must screw this guy!”). So the whole -blame it on the wife- maneuver is double extra gross. Other icky guys who made this their specialty: Paul Manafort, who forced his (literally) brain-damaged wife to have sex with men, at the threat of violence; The politician from Illinois who lost his Senate seat to a certain Mr Obama, many years ago–he was married to 7 of 9 (real name Jeri Ryan)–and tried to get her into this, um, arena, but she resisted and divorced him instead. It came out in the divorce proceedings. All of these guys super :I love the Family, Apple Pie, and Grandma types. Oh, and if you Gay marry you will go to Hell” . Yeah, nothing says fidelity to your marriage like forcing your wife into bed with another man so you can watch. Ugh. Creepy.

    • Yes that occurred to me too. Was his wife coerced into this setup? We don’t know, but Falwell’s little world is not big on empowering women.

  • Falwell also made the same kind of real estate arrangement with his young male personal trainer that he did with the pool boy. And Michael Cohen is on record to Tom Arnold as saying he was trying to buy and bury photos of the Falwells just before Falwell’s surprise endorsement of Trump back when Ted Cruz looked like the one likely to get it. Draw your own conclusions.

    Looking at photos of the Falwells with Republican luminaries, reading their pious words, watching the interview of Becki Falwell by Lara Trump on Trump’s video channel, all I could think about was what the Falwells were hiding. Despicable hypocrites.

  • Beyond gross and about as hypocritical as it can get coming from a religious upper echelon. Chump Lady picked the perfect Bible verse for a spot on closing!

  • Spot on, CL!

    What is wrong with these people??!!! I don’t really have a problem with consensual kinky sex; I do, however, have a problem with hypocrits and with throwing your own wife under the bus. That’s a twofer. Jesus!

    Can’t wait for more shoes to drop, although I could be spared any more compromising pics of JF jr. Ugh. Picturing him doing the deed destroys my appetite.

    I do feel bad for the kids at Liberty who are true believers and for the Falwell kids. I can’t even imagine how they are handling these revelations.🤮

  • I haven’t followed the story one little bit. I have way too much on my plate to concern myself with where yet another sudo – celebrity Hypocritical Jesus cheater puts his cock. 🙄

  • (music by Santana, lyrics by Jerry Falwell Jr.)

    Man, he’s a hot one
    And he’s so youthful, he could be our son
    Well, we got together and agreed he’d be the one
    As he cleaned our pool
    Our little panda, our sexy Giancarlo Granda
    He’s the reason we’re quitting
    Our religious school

    But if you said:
    “How ’bout that godly life?”
    I’d say: “Who cares? Please bang my wife!”
    I will sit right here, and watch the bums and tits”
    Cuz we’re hypocrites
    And it really don’t matter what people say
    I know Jesus will forgive us as long as we pray
    The only thing that matters is that students pay, yeah
    Give me your bucks, take my word, and just forget about it

  • My God sent a brown skinned, social justice loving teacher to remind us His number one command, and the basis for all His requests is that we love EVERYONE as much as we love ourselves. He wasn’t sent to found a church, or develop a religion, and He certainly didn’t ask for any money. (Although he did tell those that had more than enough to cover their current needs to give all the rest to people that didn’t. And while I believe in God, I also believe everyone has the right to their own beliefs. ). Atheist, agnostic or believer- hurting, cheating and lying to and about other people is wrong. Anyone who says otherwise is a crap human being.

  • I burst out laughing when I saw the news piece yesterday. A hypocritical “Christian” cuckold getting his freak on.
    A bumper sticker from Jerry Sr.’s era stated “The Moral Majority is neither“. Indeed. Jesus Cheater.

    • My favotie bumper sticker from a few years back shows Jesus on the telephone (the old fashioned kind with the curly cord) with the message: “Jesus called. He wants his religion back.”

  • Tracy, thank you for tuning us foreigners in on this spoiled brat, falwell. I had a blast reading CL today!
    So it’s all Becki’s fault, eh?

    Vanity… Satan´s favorite sin…..

    Remember thy last end, and thou shalt never sin.

    But, sadly, as long as these idiots keep saying what uneducated people want to hear, they will keep filling up their churches, getting elected and so on.

  • Brilliant analysis again Chump Lady!!!! Your swift, descriptive, clear and comprehensive summary of the hypocrite is like a knife cutting through soft butter. Brilliant! Remember the old joke about hypocritical church people! The punch line was “ she caught him by the organ!” Thank you Chump Lady for giving many of we Chumps a few giggles during our tearful days as we move toward meh. Thank you for letting sanity shine!!

  • Things can still surprise me, even having been chomped. So I’m reading an online Slate advice column and it’s all about a swinging couple and the writer is the cuckold and they found a fabulous bull and it’s all videotaped and everybody’s happy and the kids love the bull and with the pandemic the wife suggests he move in to save money. Oh and he can help babysit! And the bill’s wife is tots cool with it all. And they live in a conservative town and it’s ALL secret. But poor cuckold, who forced his wife initially to try this, is jealous because wife might like the bull just a little too much. And even the columnists were Icked over the whole thing. And they’ve heard it all. They really are all cheating. Whether they want to believe it or not. In a way, I’m glad I can still be horrified at how depraved married people can tear the sanctity of the marriage.

    • I really loved the post in which the husband talked his wife into swinging. She got an older and less attractive guy but she really enjoyed herself. So much, that he now wants to divorce her. What for exactly? Because she enjoyed herself so much? It reminded me of my anthropology professor who claimed that some people need all kind of err ..
      incentives, strange practices etc. because they can’t fudge and enjoy simple things. I’ve been around the block enough time to confirm this observation.

    • All these sex scandals reminds me of watching Nicolas Cage drink himself to death in the movie “Leaving Los Vegas” – made a person never want to drink again! Likewise, all these sex scandals involving pastors and priests and Boy Scout Leaders and teachers and doctors and athletes etc- all the S&M and secrets and extortion money and STD’s and tears at Christmas when your ancestry.com duct results match the mailman’s DNA not daddy’s, etc just makes a person become celebrity!!! What happened to Sunday mornings in bed with the Sunday paper, wearing your husbands white tee shirt, coffee and mimosas and tasseled hair and beads of sweat from wonderful lovemaking. Stop fking and start making love. So, Cheaters, Stay faithful or STAY SINGLE and bang anyone you want any which way you want – but stop ruining the lives of we Chumps who trusted the Cheater. I gave 28 years of my life to a doctor cheater – he’s up to 30 whores he can remember now and considers that progress in SA as he recalls his sexual history. Gosh….there must be a Hallmark card for such an SA milestone. I gave my Asshat Cheater all my trust – trust is like a long rope, they either weave a beautiful basket or hang themselves. Soon…..my Beverly Hills big time whore master is going to meet his karmic due. No more hiding behind their white coats as Jerry F hid behind the church.

      • I was married to a doctor who pulled the “sex addict” excuse when caught fucking cheap prostitutes in our bed. I got away from those abusive C$ATS and the sad sausage narrative. With Sandra Brown I saw him for the Cluster B he truly is. Please get off the SA merry go round and seek help to heal from this pathological.

        • Geode, thank you for reaching out. I am getting away. I’m 1500 miles away from him with No Contact – Dday was just May 6, 2020. I’m still in that frozen state of disbelief – I don’t cry anymore – just kind of in a state of shock that for 28 years he was living a fraudulent life – stole my time from me. I still have to be checked for STD’s. I’m a lawyer, I have a masters in clinical psych, I modeled – I was loyal to him – I didn’t spend money/ I made money and put everything in a joint account – if I had a daughter I don’t know what advice I could give her to not have the same thing happen. He was the master of deception – I’ve told only two close friends and one is adamant that “I had to have known…” but I didn’t – I never suspected anything – and it’s not because I’m dumb – I just truly am not a mother/guardian kind of wife. If a guy says he going to see a patient – I believed him. Simple. I know I could go to the papers – the LA Times loved the Carmen Puliavita story – the USC Chairman that was found with a crack pipe and hooker. My Asshat just had 30 whores – but the idiot posted his reviews on line on The Erotic Review under his ‘hobbyist’ name – I have them all printed out – it’s horrible. He gave his real name to the last whore – she extorted him for thousands and the idiot paid her – I knew nothing – he got a restraining order against her. I want so desperately to let the LA Times know…but I need all my ducks in a row first. The houses are in my name, etc. but there’s still so much co-mingled after 28 years together. Heartache is one thing – dealing with the financial issues is another – and it’s my experience that divorce attorneys charge way, way too much – I’m going to do my own divorce. How long were you married to your cheater doctor? I agree that SA is bullwacky – just another addiction.

          • Hi Jo. I’m so glad you’re far away and no contact. Please keep taking care of yourself. My marriage wasn’t the first for either of us and only lasted 3 years. We didn’t amass a lot of marital property and left with what we brought so my heart goes out to you dealing with 28 years worth. Be gentle with yourself. Think about filing to start the clock so your husband can’t hide assets. When you can, pick up Bill Eddy’s books Splitting and The Five Kind of People Who Can Ruin Your Life. If you need to hire an attorney to prevent further mindfucking, make sure they have experience with high conflict disordered spouses. Your husband may never have acted high conflict in your marriage but his “mask has slipped.” You’ve seen the real him and done the “discard”. These terms will become familiar as you turn away from addiction to psychopathology as your husband’s problem. Please get into therapy to help you recover from the trauma and deal with the divorce – not necessarily the same therapist. I did in person trauma recovery therapy locally and then telephone therapy with Sandra Browns group (“Women who love Psychopaths”). Looking back I realize that kept me alive (yes the pain was so bad I wasn’t sure I wanted to live) and functioning (I had to navigate divorce, get a new job, parent my kids). Meanwhile ex hired a fellow SA lawyer who never hesitated to lie in court, gaslight the judge or create drama. But my therapist had warned me. She told me EXACTLY how he would behave. She told me strategies to protect myself from further harm. And she told me when my attempts would be futile.
            Going to the papers likely won’t help. Not now. He can’t be shamed because he doesn’t feel shame. But he and his lawyer or other flying monkey pals can twist whatever you do to look bad on you. You know you have the truth but they will not be above lying to retaliate.. And the average person won’t be able to sort out the difference. Exact your revenge after the divorce is final AND assets turned over. Or exact your revenge by hiring a kickass lawyer, never speaking to him again and gaining the life CL writes about. You’re not alone. Hugs.

            • Thank you Geode. Thank you for your thoughtful and incredibly accurate reply. It’s amazing how skilled he is at lying, it’s truly incomprehensible how easily he can confabulate stories and fantasies that fit his crazy world. And thank goodness there are people out there like you who understand this. He is beloved in the community – no one would believe me – if it weren’t for his online reviews and the restraining order and all the emails and texts his last whore sent me I would have no proof. I just found out yet more horror – more prostitutes. If I had not stumbled upon LACGAL and read the very similar stories of other women, I honestly don’t know where I would be right now. Sometimes it still all seems like a bad dream, and what an empty feeling to want to call the one person you trusted the most to tell him about all the crazy that’s happening, but I can’t because that person is the person who is causing the pain. I don’t even know where to begin to find a good divorce lawyer. Beverly Hills is filled with over priced blood suckers – the female lawyers tend to side with the husbands and I’m out of state. I don’t want to see a therapist because I’m worried about spending money – one session could be groceries. Everyday I drift farther from him which feels good – a slow drifting away. Just not sure where I’m going. Thank you for the cyber hug. Sending one to you too.

              • Jo you will get through this. Your light is still flickering deep inside. You’re beat down by so many years of lying and gaslighting, you just learned the truth from a whore and the SA mindfuck. But look how far you’ve come in 3 months! Our stories are similar. Ex was well known in his town, our backyard wedding was the hot ticket. I got an anonymous text revealing his behavior. A prostitute stole his car. Ex was under disciplinary at work. I started uncovering all the lies. I share this so you don’t feel alone. In therapy I learned that what we’ve experienced isn’t unique. It’s rather textbook – 10% of people and dangerously disordered, the ones void of empathy. We became their victims. Take it as gently as you need and please protect yourself.

  • I am sensing a lot of judgment here.

    Let he who hath raw dogged a porn star and had five children with three women cast the first stone.

    Come on Donald, where are you?

  • What really amazes me about stuff like this is their inability to just own up to their own kink.

    Like, if everyone in this situation could just be HONEST about it, it would not be that big of a deal. The “cuckolding” kink isn’t anything I’ve never heard of before and if all the parties involved are consenting to it, into it, and enjoying it, nobody should care. Much less make it public business.

    But this is holier-than-thou, fake-pious, uses-religion-as-an-excuse-to-be-an-asshole-to-anyone-he-doesn’t-like Fallwell Jr. So that makes this 31 Flavors of Fucked Up.

    You don’t get to put on a public face of religious piety and holiness and dictate rules of sex to everyone around you while basically having a three way with your wife and the pool boy. Then throw both of them under the bus when your false piety comes crashing down around you in a pile of hypocrisy. That’s not how it works.

    Setting aside how that picture of his stomach hanging out made me throw up in my mouth, WHY was he posting a picture with his pants not zipped???? Like…WHAT?? His underwear is visible under his hairy gut with an unzipped fly that looks like it struggles to make ends meet every day and he’s like “Pay no attention to the glass in my hand!”

    ANYWAY, I could ALMOST forgive this shitstorm if he would just be like “Yeah, okay, I admit it. My wife and I are into this. Pool boy is into it, I like to watch, we meet on Thursdays. Maybe I’m not as sexually and religiously perfect as I’ve let on before and that’s on me.” But the fact he got called out and threw his wife under the bus and she’s just…GOING WITH IT is…this is more than a skein, this is a veritable hornet’s nest of fuckupedness.

    • It’s the money, honey and the power. Dude’s career is predicated on being the dude in charge of an institution founded on principles that are the exact opposite of everything he’s doing, where he tells everyone that all the stuff he’s doing is wrong and ungodly and they don’t belong there if they’re going to do stuff like that. So he needs to make it look like the devil possessed his trousers and he has sinned but he is mightily sorry and the Lord will lift him up with Grace and Mercy because he’s paying good lip service and damn it if it wasn’t the little missus’s fault. No one in this story except maybe the pool boy is gonna be telling everyone that this used to be the highlight of their week. Because craven sensuality is bad, m’kay?

  • I have degrees from Brigham Young University and Trinity Evangelical Divinity School (long story). I didn’t say any swear words from age 12 to age 32. For real. 8-9 hours of induced, Pitocin-fueled, unmedicated labor with my son, 9.5-lb posterior baby delivery. No swearing.

    I found out my Mormon husband was cheating on me and I cussed him out like a sailor. He told me to “watch [my] language!”

    Yes, that’s right, he was more upset that I was saying “fuck” than he was that he’d fucked this woman.

    His sidechick married a pastor and tried to go in to ministry, having never so much as hinted that she was sorry for the affair. I contacted her new husband’s church and told them her history. Less than a year later, they weren’t employed there anymore.

    Religious hypocrisy really is something.

    • A lot of people are image conscious.

      My ex was as phony as they came…..used politically correct words, wouldn’t curse, went to church….the big family man.

      But when I found out about his whore ex gf he’d kept on the side for our entire 13 year relationship i called her a trashy whore. He response was that I was being ugly and why did I have to be so hateful?

      The fact that he kept his whore around wasn’t the issue. The issue was that I wouldn’t plaster a phony smile on my face and pretend things were great and that I was “hateful”.

      And for all his political correctioness he’s actually quite racist. His whore is Filipino and he’s never told anyone about her because he couldn’t actually be seen with an Asian…..even when he was actually dating her before he met me.

      I mean, what would his family, friends and church think?

      • They really do love their image management and hate the truth.

        They also really love, “It’s not what I did, it’s your reaction to it.”

    • Rarity–

      There really is nothing more delicious than hearing someone who rarely or never swears let loose a blue streak when it’s warranted. Those of us who grew up with casual cursing can’t pull off the same effect. Sad because the words lose power when you need them most. I tell my kids this.

      I was trying to figure out how cheater in my situation (an agnostic btw but with a culty mom) managed to find such a clot of Jesus cheaters– an adulterous Mormon and two adulterous evangelicals– in a blue state. He was pretty much game for anything with a pulse once he hit bottom and curiously this was who was “game” back.

      The married Mormon and one of the evangelicals bailed and didn’t go through with it before cheater figured out that trashing his marriage is de rigueur foreplay in icky affair land. He finally got it right with elephant girl– who called me she-devil as she raped my kids’ college funds to pay for booze, schemed and plotted while exposing me to God knows what cooties.

      How does that work? Is it the prohibition that makes sex only sexy if it’s nasty?

  • Anyone else getting a whiff of coverup by Jerry? Maybe swinging both ways? Seems like he is overcompensating in all of this. It may not have been Becki he was watching. Plus it gets him off the hook from having to perform in the bedroom.

    I don’t have proof, and not trying to start rumors. Just picking up on something off – my ex is probably gay so maybe I see it everywhere now…

  • OK, I’m off on a tangent, but when I saw the picture of Jerry Junior the thing that triggered me was his underwear! Years after D-day I read an article on how to know if your spouse might be cheating and it mentioned them buying new underwear. So my XH wore tidy-whitey briefs for 25+ years until suddenly he bought all new dark multicolored underwear. I guess the APs got the new look. Colored underwear hides a lot.

  • Sadly, all this evangelical mischief is pretty long-running.

    See “Elmer Gantry”, or read the book.

    I agree about the hypocrisy; that has always irritated me.

    • There are so many of them among famous evangelists that it’s almost to be expected: Aimee Semple McPherson; Jimmy Swaggart; Jim Bakker.

  • My hooker/craigslist addicted “super committed baptist christian god worshipper” ex went to Liberty.

    Pfft.

  • Much as we LOVE you CL, sometimes, across the pond, your blogs make absolutely no sense at all, it’s a foreign language! 😂

  • I’m going to send a copy of “ Leave A Cheater Gain A Life “ to Falwell’s wife- although I suspect she either started with the pool guy first or Jerry started with the pool guy and they just needed her to run the camera. Either way LACGAL should be added to the university’s library! Stay faithful or please stay single Cheaters- and stop stealing life years from we Chumps with your Cheating pig face masks!! My Asshat Doctor Cheater was so good at deception – 28 years married – he can count 30 prostitutes…..I never had a clue- never, and I’m not stupid, I’m trusting. When he said he got beeped by a patient and left for an hour or so I never questioned it. I’m not his mother and he wasn’t a teenager.

  • Preaching to the students about chastity and sex only after marriage. While they were doing all this.

    It boggles the mind how disgusting and deceptive these Jesus cheaters are behind closed doors. They make me want to puke.

    Doing all this shit then sitting in church every Sunday. How can they stand themselves ?

  • Because they have *god* on their side, which makes them better tham everyone else. Some religious people truly believe that.

  • Becky, ditch that asshole husband who’d throw you under the bus because women always lead men into temptation, and run away with the pagans. What a trecherous dick that he would expect her to take the blame when it was probably all his idea.

  • Yup. Kamala sucked Da Mayor “Slick Willie” Brown’s Willy to launch her political career. Blowjob Bill Clinton gave him that nickname. What a shame. Willie’s current sidepiece is some Russian “socialite” named Sonia. Been married to his wife since the late ‘50s and I guess he’ll return home to die.
    Kamala considers Willie to be an albatross around her neck. Quick whingeing sweetie ! You used each other. These disordered freaks come from all parties. Don’t get me started on French politicians…

  • Falwell says he is “free at last.”

    I guess he means now that he doesn’t have to be president. Still, I advise him to give wife and pool boy the boot. “Git out!!” as they say in Oregon.

  • – Falwell saying ‘he is free at last’ is probably the most honest thing he’s ever said in his entire life (aside from shouting sexual exclamations of glee by the pool). Men like Falwell can only hold up their mask for so long – it gets heavy for these fraudulent pig faces to keep one hand on their mask while the other is on their fly/zipper. As they get older it becomes harder to hold their fake persona together for a variety of reasons; some begin to resent having to hide; others don’t give a fk anymore; others get arrested; and someone like this carrying the University’s reputation on his back will ultimately crumble under the pressure. Apples don’t fall far from the tree and I suspect Daddee wasn’t much different. Oh how they hide behind their churches and white coats (doctors). There’s no shortage of frauds. There’s a lot of heartache that keeps we Chumps up at night…..but a shortage of Asshats isn’t one of them.

  • “Dude, she didn’t cheat — you both CONSENTED. And you watched. And you enjoyed. That’s swinging, not cheating. ”

    Yea, there is an ocean of difference between being a trusting Chump and coercing your wife to cheat and watch. Like others said above, I dont care what other peope do but if they place themselves in positions of judging other peoples sex lives then they had better keep their shit in a bucket.

    I wonder how many young women have been thrown out of Liberty and prevented from graduation because they became pregnant?

  • My STBX Jesus Cheater just emailed our kids (ages 15 and 17). He told them, “God could have prevented the struggles that we are facing.” SERIOUSLY! But that is how these people think. For instance, “God could have prevented my wife from having the hots for the pool boy and me thinking it’s grand to watch.”

    Talk about spiritual abuse. This is the man that was supposed to be modeling a Father in heaven to our kids. Instead, Mr. Missionary is bonking a village girl. Excellent witness!

  • My ex was a closeted swinger who advertised for hookups with hundreds of people online

    ” I shagged a married woman last night while her husband watched”.

    ” WHAT????”

    “Please don’t tell anyone & don’t forget my privacy”

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