On Tuesdays we occasionally feature great Tuesday (The Day The Pain Stops) stories. “Nancy” posted this on a private page and it was too good not to share. Happy Tuesday, CN! — Tracy
Karma really is the best.
The girl my ex-husband cheated with was also married. She was carrying on with my then-husband for the attention, but keeping it from her husband because she didn’t want to give up what he had to offer. (He had a lot more to offer across the board than mine did).
But I eventually found out who she was, tracked her husband down, and told him everything. We became friendly, talked quite a bit, and he ended up divorcing her and I ended up divorcing my husband.
She and my ex-husband moved in together and are renting someone else’s house. And at first it made me furious and upset to even think about her being anywhere near my kids when they went to visit their father, like, I hated her guts.
But honestly, I don’t anymore.
Her husband was better looking than mine. He was in better physical shape than mine. He made way more money than mine. He was a better dad to their kids than mine was to ours. He provided her with a big beautiful house. She never had to work. And now he’s divorced her and he’s in a relationship with a smart beautiful girl who has a great job and they just got engaged, he sold his house, and he’s moving in with his fiancé in June. The kids are going with him.
[Schmoopie] has lost him and everything he came with to the point of no return. He’s genuinely a nice guy. I’m happy for him. He told me a few days ago, when he sent me a pic of the engagement ring he bought, that he’s so glad I messaged him to tell him what was going on and that he’s so much happier now.
What does she have now? She has my ex who is lazy, unmotivated, a packrat slob, dresses like he thinks he’s 20 (he’s late 40s), hasn’t had a job in I don’t know how long, who is using her alimony to pay me child support, and to pay rent etc., doesn’t have a car and drives hers around, comes with quite a few annoying or gross habits, and had to start Viagra, as I discovered just before he moved out just over two years ago.
He’s a loser.
And as for me, I own the home that he had to leave, I didn’t have to give up living with my kids, and I’ve been in a relationship with a really cute guy for just about 10 months now, who also owns a home, is a great dad to his kids, is hardworking and responsible and fun to be with, etc. I am so much happier with him than I was for many years with my ex.
It doesn’t even bother me to hear her name anymore — any comments from my youngest about her will just get an “Oh yeah?” Or a “That’s nice,” while inside I’m just mildly amused now knowing she leveled way down with my ex, while her ex and I both leveled way up with our current partners and living situations.
Sometimes when something feels like it’s the end of the world — it really is a blessing in disguise.