I would appreciate your advice.
My husband had gone out to “run an errand.” I received a text that said “Come in. Lucy”
I called the number and was told the name of the business. It’s a massage “spa” a half mile from my house.
My husband came home 45 minutes later. I showed him the text. He denied knowledge. Ten minutes later he said “OK. I did get a massage there, but nothing else happened.”
I said “What else could happen?”
He just looked at me and didn’t answer.
I looked the place up online. The website showed seedy, dimly lit rooms with single beds, divided by curtains.
I looked up reviews for the place. The first was posted by a woman. She said she was “violated” by the woman giving her the massage. She said she filed a police report, stating that the woman made sexual advances toward her.
More research on adultsearch.com revealed details of sexual services provided and the names of the women who worked at the “spa” as well as their physical attributes, and the prices charged for hand jobs, blow jobs and full sex.
The next day, I waited until my husband had just taken his first sip of his morning coffee. I asked causally, how much did Lucy charge you for full sex?
He turned red and choked on his coffee. “What?” he sputtered.
I repeated the question. He said “Are you sure you want to go down this road?”
I asked, “What road? Having you been fucking whores in massage parlors?”
Thus began my nightmare.
We have been married 35 years, together 38 years.
He has admitted to fucking prostitutes in massage parlors for the past six years.
I am certain he has been doing this our entire marriage, but of course he denies it.
I am lining up my ducks to divorce him.
In the meantime, I have a question for you.
The person he has been fucking is the owner of FIVE Asian massage parlors in my area. She is Chinese. I have done some research on her and have discovered her personal cell is out of Flushing, NY. I believe she is not the actual owner of the five “spas” but is the manager. I would like to have her busted, but am concerned about the criminal network she is likely part of. Judging from the camper/trailer, and the clothesline and picnic tables behind the place, I think she is involved in trafficking.
I told my husband about my research and he begged me to let it go. I guess he didn’t mind banging her, but he’s a little concerned about blowing the whistle on the people she works for.
I would love to see him imprisoned for what he has done, but I have no proof, other than his confession. In my state, solicitation will only get you a one year sentence and a fine.
Part of me thinks she has been punished enough — she’s had to put up with his inept fucking for years.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Jesus Cheater’s Chump
If you suspect human trafficking in the U.S., please call the National Human Trafficking Resource Center’s 24/7 hotline at 1-888-373-7888 or your state attorney general’s office. Please leave all the busting to law enforcement professionals.
Be furious with him. The women he’s been fucking, however, are most likely trafficked, or otherwise vulnerable people whose first job choice would not be sucking dicks in grotty strip malls.
Forbes did a story on this, which coincidentally mentions Flushing, N.Y. — Inside The $4.5 Billion Erotic Massage Parlor Industry.
In a typical scenario, a customer pays about $60 for a one-hour massage and then anywhere from an additional $50 for manual release to around $200 for intercourse. The erotic massage economy has become ubiquitous in American culture and touches every socio-economic stratum. In February 2019, Robert Kraft, the billionaire owner of the New England Patriots, was caught in a massage parlor sting in Florida. Along with 24 other men, Kraft was charged for soliciting prostitution. He pleaded not guilty, but issued a public apology. The charges were dropped last fall.
No charges? No surprise. The Almighty Right to Jizz is sacrosanct.
Every article I read on prostitution feels compelled to mention legalization. But here’s a radical thought — why not chuck The Almighty Right to Jizz? Why is sex on demand unquestioned? Imagine a world in which creepy old Jesus cheaters like your husband cannot buy Asian teenagers by the hour.
Imagine a world in which they’d have to woo age-appropriate partners, reciprocate, make conversation, or up their bedroom skills! Or even (shudder) go without.
I know, I know… I’m a crazy dreamer.
(Although here’s an interesting read in Time about a program in Illinois going after Johns. Things go sad sausage pretty quickly with consequences.)
Anyway, JCC, my advice to you is focus on what gets you the best possible divorce settlement. Get your financials together, going back years, and figure out how and where this guy is siphoning off funds to support his “massage” habit. Then go after that money as theft of marital resources. While quasi-legal (talk to your lawyer), I’d also run a credit check on your husband to see if he isn’t hiding money or have other charge cards you’re unaware of.
Financial abuse almost always goes together with infidelity. Make a case that you’re entitled to those stolen funds. Not to HIM, you’re not discussing any of this with him, but with your lawyer. And you can always threaten to depose people like Lucy, should settlement talks stall. Just a suggestion!
And please get a full panel STD check, stat. He’s risked your health, as well as your finances.
You’re dealing with a very entitled man, so expect that he’s not going to react well to divorce. Keep it on the down low, and don’t discuss it with him, or have any more confrontations. Just drop the boom and get out safely.
With any luck, you’ll see his face in a line-up some day, but not before that settlement check clears, okay?