We know the scenarios, the crying, the hopium. We know about the fury and the sorrow. Looking back, most of us can see what we would have done differently after D-day or abandonment, but we haven’t gotten to see what the Mightiest Chumps did or how they handled it.
Can you please ask for stories from the Chumps who were able to throw their FWs out the door and not look back? Perhaps stories from those who stood up and straight and said, “You done messed up, Billy Ray, now you can try your crazy-making on my attorney. Bye!”
Speaking as a Chump, I wish someone had told me on D-day that the very best thing I could do was not to second guess my instincts or back down in fear of the not-so-bright future …and just tell FW it was all done because of his choices.
So please…? What extraordinary pro-active steps did some of the Mightiest Chumps take, and how did they handle it?
ALL Chumps are mighty in the end. Just surviving the whole ordeal qualifies us for a Medal of Honor.
Well, I didn’t. Which is why this blog is named Chump Lady and not Sensible Lady. Everyone’s trajectory is different. However, in my experience running this place, the overwhelming regret is that folks didn’t end it sooner. Even those that didn’t get the choice — they were abandoned — look back in relief later, once the full horror of the double life is revealed.
But some never chase the unicorn. It’s game over.
So, your letter is today’s Friday Challenge. CN — did any of you lawyer up right away? Take pro-active gain-a-life steps? Throw the bum out immediately?