Telling people you’ve been chumped is no easy thing. But to be public about it and help others through the meat grinder is another level of exposure and vulnerability all together.
David Derksen, aka Divorce Minister, has been challenging the evangelical community about its divorce shame and victim blaming by creating the award-winning blog divorceminister.com and the follow-up book Cheated On: The Divorce Minister Guide for Surviving Infidelity and Keeping Your Faith. He’s a Yale Divinity School graduate and works for U.S. Department of Justice as a Federal Bureau of Prisons Chaplain. He is very happily remarried to Aubree, aka Ms. Fiestypants, and a father to “Munchkin.”
At Chumpalooza, David’s going to talk about the spiritual harm of being cheated on. What it means to lose your community and have your faith identity shattered. How do you rebuild when the people you thought were safe side with your abuser?
If you’ve spent any time on this blog, you know Paul Doncaster, aka UXWorld, our resident song parodist. But did you know he’s also a seasoned Moth Radio storyteller? Here’s some badass mighty — the guy got on a live sound stage and told his D-Day story — while his ex and her affair partner were in the audience.
At Chumpalooza, Paul will be hosting the Tell Me How You’re Mighty storytelling evening on Saturday, Nov. 4, — a showcase of five- to seven-minute stories of mightiness, told by the chumps that lived them, in front of the best audience one could hope for.
Need help finding the guts to get up and talk about it? Paul will be your coach. He’ll work with all volunteer tellers to craft their stories, find the best ways to deliver them, and be inspiring.
Our personal stories give us perspective, clarity, and hope. They help us solidify our reality and see the absurdity. They create connections that help us heal ourselves and each other.
Hey, Tracy. How can I get in on all this mightiness?
Get tickets for Chumpalooza here. You don’t want to miss all these badasses in one room. I’ll be making more announcements on speakers and events soon.
But Tracy, I live in Burkina Faso and I cannot make it to Chumpalooza.
Work on that. But meanwhile, you’ll be happy to know that Paul is going to be a guest this month on our Tell Me How You’re Mighty podcast.
You have a podcast?
YES. With Sarah Gorrell. The third episode drops tomorrow. You can find Tell Me How You’re Mighty on Spotify and Google podcasts. (And more streaming services soon. Apparently you have to bank a few before iTunes picks you up.)
Sarah and I are going to be discussing with Paul the cringe factor of being Out There with our chump stories. How it’s received, the dumb things people say, and why it’s important to have positive representation as a chump.
Our interview with Paul will come out later this month (on a Tuesday, naturally). Tomorrow’s episode is on D-Days (you can hear Sarah’s tragic “flip-flop” story). And on July 11 we have what turned out to be a rather disagreeable interview with British therapist Andrew G. Marshall.
I can’t wait until July 11 to hear the “affair proof your marriage” controversy.
Well then, you’re in luck. If you support the blog (for as little as $3 a month!) on Patreon you get the podcast days before anyone else.
Well CN, that’s a lot of self-promotion before breakfast. To you all in the U.S., hope you’re enjoying the long holiday weekend. Any stories you’d like to share about telling people you were chumped? Any stupid shit people said to you? Tell me in the comments — or if you want to be on the podcast, leave us a voicemail.