I was thinking about brave moments recently. The tipping point between fear and fck-this-sht. When you have no idea what the path ahead looks like, but you bushwhack one. It’s totally terrifying, but you do it anyway.
We’re a nation made up of such courageous people.
People often ask me why I keep doing this blog, when I’m many years removed from the nightmare. Isn’t it depressing? Aren’t you sick of the same stories over and over again?
No. It’s the most meaningful work I’ve ever done. I don’t care about cheater Schmoopie shenanigans — I’m here for the comeback stories. You guys inspire me.
And not just the ones of you who are far out from the nightmare too — who have that fuller arc of mightiness to relate — but those who are starting the F-this-shit journey. I’m cheering at the sidelines. Do you know how gratified I am that you’re doing the hard things? Not making the mistakes I once made?
I’m thinking about yesterday’s letter writer (who got married off to a sex predator in Pakistan). She wrote me the most beautiful letter, which I woke up to this morning, thanking us for our replies. How it strengthened her and how deeply she appreciates it.
What a badass she is! Can you imagine going up against those forces? Of a creep that wants you to keep fronting his deviant life, and a family and culture that divorce shame you?
Today’s Friday Challenge is to tell CN about the moment you decided not to take it anymore. What did you fear, and how did you push forward anyway?
The newly chumped are listening and watching. Thanks for setting a good example.
Speaking of listening — the interview Sarah and I did with therapist Andrew G. Marshall for the Tell Me How You’re Mighty podcast is about to drop, and folks, it’s a total shit show. We politely challenged some of his reconciliation advice and he did not like it one bit.
If you can’t wait until Tuesday, you can listen early as a patron on Patreon. I would appreciate the support with this brand new adventure in narrative changing. Also, please review and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. Thanks!