Everyone at CN knows what a meat grinder divorce is, particularly after you’ve been chumped. Can you imagine having the guts to build an organization so that others going through it have an easier time?
In our latest Tell Me How You’re Mighty podcast episode, we talk with Christina Pavlina, a cofounder and the executive director of Jane Does Well — a nonprofit that helps women navigate divorce. Christina and Sue Kisiday started the group after their own divorces, and now Jane Does Well is a national outreach organization. Beyond social meet-ups, single mom support groups, yoga, and divorce education workshops, they’re also advocating for legislation and changes to make the family courts more accessible and fair to women. Mighty!
You might remember last spring, I was invited to Boston to speak at one of their fundraisers. I wasn’t familiar with their organization and after I met them I was just agog at what these two women have achieved. I don’t want to spoil the podcast (please subscribe and support!) — but here’s one gem — thanks to their work over ONE MILLION kids in Massachusetts are getting more child support. Holy advocacy Batman!
And they’ve replicated their success — there are now Jane Does Well outlets in 25 states. And the most amazing thing is, all of the services they provide are FREE, thanks to the support of their donors.
I love when the bitter bunnies organize. That’s why I named this episode, “Don’t Get Mad, Build an Organization.” Christina and Sue built a community and they listened to what their members were experiencing, then put boots on the ground to change things. Huzzah!
Check out Jane Does Well! It’s for women (maybe a chump fellow will create a Jim Does Well soon). Look to see if they’ve got a chapter near you or consider starting one.
Speaking of changing things, on Friday, Sarah and I are interviewing blog friend, Dr. George Simon. I’ve often recommended his books here, particularly, In Sheep’s Clothing. Dr. Simon is the OG untangler of fuckupedness. He gave us: “It’s not that they don’t see, they disagree.” He decodes manipulative people and he takes on the therapy industry for not being attuned to character disorder.
Please let me know in the comments if you’ve got questions you’d like us to ask Dr. Simon.
And apologies for the irregular podcast schedule. I’ve been traveling and Sarah has been (and still is) in the middle of a hellish house move. We’re now on a regular schedule and will drop new podcasts on Tuesdays. Patrons, however, get them early and ad-free. We did a bit of rebranding for SEO. The full title is now Infidelity Survival Stories: Tell Me How You’re Mighty. (Nothing changes if you’re subscribing.) Please follow us and if you enjoy the podcasts, review too. Thanks!