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2020
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August 2020
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July 2020
- Jul 31 Your Best Word Salad, Please
- Jul 30 “Our Marriage Was Already Over”
- Jul 29 UBT: You Will Use This to Illustrate Your Holiness
- Jul 28 When Affair Partners Marry
- Jul 27 One Guy Chump’s Gain a Life Story
- Jul 24 How Are You All Self-Soothing?
- Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, My Wife Is Near Perfect But I See Prostitutes
- Jul 22 UBT: ‘Shortcut to Happiness’
- Jul 21 When Does the Pain Stop?
- Jul 20 UBT: I Was Too Much Into My Own Lies
- Jul 17 What Did You Do With the Photos?
- Jul 16 UBT: Gottman’s ‘Reviving Trust After an Affair’
- Jul 15 The Resentment Rap
- Jul 14 The Fiction of Unconditional Love
- Jul 13 UBT: Jada’s ‘Entanglement’
- Jul 10 The Wrong Pickle and Other Sins
- Jul 9 UBT: “Your Cheating Spouse Is the Victim, NOT You!”
- Jul 8 The Kid Calls the Felon OW ‘Mama’
- Jul 7 The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
- Jul 6 He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him
- Jul 3 A Declaration of Independence for Chumps
- Jul 2 Am I Going to Get Over This?
- Jul 1 How Do You Get Past the Revulsion?
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June 2020
- Jun 30 Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
- Jun 29 UBT: Affair Sex in the Marital Bed Is Wrong?
- Jun 26 Chump Protagonists in TV Dramas?
- Jun 25 Cheater Throws Them Out, OW Moves In
- Jun 24 He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.
- Jun 23 Escape After D-Day — ‘Should I Move?’
- Jun 22 ‘I Trolled the Other Woman’
- Jun 21 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 19 Your Triumph Moments
- Jun 17 The LGBTQ+ Chump Perspective
- Jun 17 How Come No One But Chumps Seems to Get It?
- Jun 16 The Walls in Your House Will Sing
- Jun 15 ‘I’m Afraid of Him’
- Jun 12 The Stupid Things People Say to Chumps
- Jun 11 When Is It Okay to Tell Someone STOP?
- Jun 10 ‘I Have a Hate in My Heart Where Love Used to Be’
- Jun 9 Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner
- Jun 8 ‘Maybe He Was Right About Me?’
- Jun 5 Cheating Excuses and Non Sequiturs — ‘It Didn’t Take That Much Time’
- Jun 4 He’ll Send Support If She’ll Send Naked Pictures
- Jun 3 Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?
- Jun 2 UBT: Let’s Put Aside ‘Our Differences’ for These Special Times in Our Kids’ Lives
- Jun 1 ‘I Let Him Come Over with Pizza’
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May 2020
- May 29 Who Filed for Divorce?
- May 28 ‘My No Contact Stinks’
- May 27 ‘I Just Want My Life Back’
- May 26 ‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
- May 25 Marine Chump: This Is Worse Than Being in Iraq
- May 22 Infidelity, Divorce, Kids — How Did You Navigate It?
- May 21 ‘I Turned the Tables’
- May 20 UBT: Mother’s Day Wishes from the OW?
- May 19 Why Blame the Chump?
- May 18 How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?
- May 15 Tell Me How You’re COVID-Era Mighty
- May 14 UBT: He Blew Up the Marriage to Improve It
- May 13 UBT: ‘My Life Is Rich and Full’…. That’s Why I’m Stalking You
- May 12 When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
- May 11 Mistress Is ‘Archaic’ and ‘Sexist’?
- May 8 I’ll Be Seeing You In All the Old Familiar Places
- May 7 UBT: “You’re the One True Love of My Life”
- May 6 He’s Sad and I Feel Responsible
- May 5 “I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?
- May 4 ‘I Lost My Meh’
- May 1 New Words for the Chump Condition?
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April 2020
- Apr 30 He Says ‘I Better Behave’
- Apr 29 He Told Me He Loved Me
- Apr 28 6 Ways to Respond (or Not) to Character Assassination
- Apr 27 Is It Okay to Give a Cheater a Second Chance?
- Apr 24 What Kept You Stuck with a Cheater?
- Apr 23 Esther Wants to Help You Grieve
- Apr 22 He Left Me. Why Won’t He Agree to a Divorce?
- Apr 21 Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
- Apr 20 UBT: “Will Our Affair Survive the Lockdown?”
- Apr 17 Best No Contact Strategies?
- Apr 16 Coronavirus Hoovering?
- Apr 15 My Sister Is the Marriage Police
- Apr 14 UBT: A Letter from the “Baby”
- Apr 13 ‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’
- Apr 10 Biggest Whopper You Bought?
- Apr 9 Can You Imagine Being Quarantined With Your Ex?
- Apr 8 Lies Are Exhausting
- Apr 7 I Thought That Meh Was a Unicorn
- Apr 6 Is This Intense Hate Normal?
- Apr 3 Cake Speak?
- Apr 2 Sparkles The Magnificent Dry Drunk Unicorn
- Apr 1 Do I Have to Be Friendly With My Ex?
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March 2020
- Mar 31 Is This Cheating?
- Mar 30 I’m Forced To Live with My Cheater Right Now
- Mar 27 When This Crisis Is Over, I’m Gonna…
- Mar 26 When You Work With Your Ex
- Mar 25 I Still Want Her Back
- Mar 24 Is All This Anger Normal?
- Mar 23 ‘I Thought You Were Okay With It’
- Mar 20 Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
- Mar 19 Is This Meh or Did I Just Give Up?
- Mar 18 What Do I Do with the Phantom Pain of Abandonment?
- Mar 17 New Beginning Tuesday
- Mar 16 Did She Cheat Because She’s Bipolar?
- Mar 13 Omens and Portents
- Mar 12 So Why the Hell Isn’t She Happy Now?
- Mar 11 Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken
- Mar 10 Grieving the Affair Partner and Other BS
- Mar 9 How Did You Overcome the Financial Blows AND the Cheating?
- Mar 6 Steal This Idea
- Mar 5 Should I Give Him a Fourth Chance?
- Mar 4 Did You Out Them on Social Media?
- Mar 3 How Do I Support My Friend’s Reconciliation?
- Mar 2 ‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’
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February 2020
- Feb 28 New Age Cheaterisms
- Feb 27 Is He Gay? A Lost Soul? A Sex Addict?
- Feb 26 Should I Write the OW?
- Feb 25 Character Assassination: 6 Ways to React to a False Narrative
- Feb 24 Cheater Doesn’t Understand Why Partner Is Reconciling with Him
- Feb 21 How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
- Feb 20 My Toxic MIL Sends Her “Love”
- Feb 19 Apologize to Your Cheater, Says RIC Quack
- Feb 18 Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?
- Feb 17 ‘Don’t Call It Snooping’
- Feb 14 And the Infidelity Valentine’s Poetry Winners Are…
- Feb 13 Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?
- Feb 12 ‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’
- Feb 11 The ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’ Mindfuck
- Feb 10 The OW Recommends a Self-Help Book
- Feb 7 Jesus Cheaters and Other Holy Horrors
- Feb 6 My Friend Is the Marriage Police
- Feb 5 The Benevolent Other Woman
- Feb 4 He Thinks He’s Done ‘Nothing Wrong’
- Feb 3 The Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
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January 2020
- Jan 31 What Got You Unstuck?
- Jan 30 Is This What Meh Looks Like?
- Jan 29 ‘How Do I Handle the OW?’
- Jan 28 Feeling Too Available
- Jan 27 Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
- Jan 24 Chump and Cheater Torch Songs
- Jan 23 He Says I’m “UnChristian” for Divorcing Him
- Jan 22 Nice versus Kind
- Jan 21 Duped for a Quarter
- Jan 20 ‘He Didn’t Suck’
- Jan 17 How Cheap Is Your Cheater?
- Jan 16 UBT: ‘It’s not all sunshine and rainbows over here’
- Jan 15 ‘I Work with the Other Woman’
- Jan 14 UBT: “Blowing up the Marriage to Improve the Marriage”
- Jan 13 ‘I Fix Hearts. She Broke Mine.’
- Jan 10 What Are You Doing to Combat Loneliness?
- Jan 9 “People Don’t Want to be Called ‘Chump'”
- Jan 8 UBT: ‘Don’t give up on me!’
- Jan 7 Do I Tell Her Family Why We’re Divorced?
- Jan 6 How Do I Get Over Feelings of Unfairness?
- Jan 3 What Are You Throwing on the Virtual Bonfire?
- Jan 2 And the Cheater Freak Winners are….
- Jan 1 Get Over It
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2019
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December 2019
- Dec 31 STDs Don’t Define You
- Dec 30 ‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
- Dec 27 This Is Your Brain on Hopium
- Dec 26 Sex After Divorce?
- Dec 25 Cheater Freak Christmas?
- Dec 24 Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
- Dec 23 ‘My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat’
- Dec 20 Tell Me How You’re Mighty Holiday Edition
- Dec 19 UBT on Guy Who Wants to Keep Both Sex Workers and His Girlfriend
- Dec 18 Holiday Sh*t Sandwiches
- Dec 17 ‘I Can’t Trust That She Sucks’
- Dec 16 UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents
- Dec 13 Divorce Day Plans?
- Dec 12 ‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
- Dec 11 Where’s the Data on Reconciliation?
- Dec 10 Hooker Habit Revealed, Cheater Threatens Suicide
- Dec 9 Pick Me Dancing for Love
- Dec 6 Redefining Intimacy
- Dec 5 UBT: What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
- Dec 4 He Left 3 Kids. How Can He Be Happy?
- Dec 3 Interview with Dr. David Ley, ‘The Myth of Sex Addiction’ author
- Dec 2 ‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’
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November 2019
- Nov 28 Happy Thanksgiving!
- Nov 27 When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex
- Nov 26 ‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’
- Nov 25 ‘None of My Choices Are Acceptable’
- Nov 22 Worst Infidelity Advice Ever?
- Nov 21 When They Cheat in Your Home
- Nov 20 Husband Cheated. Mother Disappointed in ‘Us’
- Nov 19 When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby
- Nov 18 Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers
- Nov 15 Did Your Pet Get You Through Your Break-Up?
- Nov 14 UBT: ‘It’s Not Who I Am’
- Nov 13 His Family Says ‘I Should Be Happy for Him’
- Nov 12 Lies Are Exhausting
- Nov 11 ‘Should I Divorce Him?’
- Nov 8 Help Me Build a Better Support Site
- Nov 7 ‘How Do I Know Friends Won’t Betray Me?’
- Nov 6 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
- Nov 5 Are ‘Emotional Friendships’ with Other Women Cheating?
- Nov 4 Spending Holidays with Your Ex ‘For The Children’
- Nov 1 Secret Names of Cell Phone Mystery
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October 2019
- Oct 31 Why Gaslighting Works
- Oct 30 ‘The Other Woman Is Taunting Me’
- Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
- Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, What’s my ‘role’ in the break-up?
- Oct 27 I Draw Naked People
- Oct 25 Hope versus Hopium
- Oct 24 Dear Chump Lady, She left me for her boss
- Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
- Oct 22 Have a Chat with Schmoopie? Just Don’t.
- Oct 21 The Pollyanna Blameshift
- Oct 18 Can I Get Some Mighty Here?
- Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, But what if I leave him and he changes?
- Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
- Oct 15 When ‘Sex Addiction’ Turns Deadly
- Oct 14 UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
- Oct 11 No Contact Fails — The Blooper Reel
- Oct 10 UBT: My Husband Stopped Cheating on Me After 35 Years
- Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, She won’t move out
- Oct 8 Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
- Oct 7 Man Sues Affair Partner — And Wins
- Oct 4 More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say
- Oct 3 How to Leave a Cheater — Your Care Team
- Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t know why I still want him
- Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me
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September 2019
- Sep 30 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
- Sep 27 No Contact Wins
- Sep 26 Dump ‘Scorned’ Already
- Sep 25 Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
- Sep 24 Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
- Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, I went grey rock, he went nuts
- Sep 20 Real Monkey Love, Bad Monkey Love
- Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to organize their video chat?
- Sep 18 Your Very Best Spackle Please
- Sep 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is divorcing him the right choice?
- Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater or a muse?
- Sep 14 Chump Lady Gets a Check
- Sep 13 Therapy Fails?
- Sep 12 How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?
- Sep 11 Dear Chump Lady, I built my whole life around her
- Sep 10 UBT This Jesus Cheater
- Sep 9 When You’re Married and ‘Fall in Love’ with Someone Else
- Sep 6 You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
- Sep 5 UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
- Sep 4 How to Deflect Gaslighting
- Sep 3 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life
- Sep 2 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
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August 2019
- Aug 30 When Closure Is Eaten by Bears
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner
- Aug 28 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Queries
- Aug 27 No Tag Backs, OW
- Aug 26 Cheating Wife Needs a ‘Safe Space’
- Aug 23 The Kindness of Strangers
- Aug 22 If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It
- Aug 21 Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?
- Aug 20 The Dead-Eyed Stare
- Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, The OW left him and I don’t know how I feel
- Aug 16 Where Are They Now?
- Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do I protect my son’s heart?
- Aug 14 How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
- Aug 13 UBT: “We Are Teachers, Not Demigods”
- Aug 12 You Don’t Need Closure
- Aug 9 Meh Sightings?
- Aug 8 Which Came First, The Dead Marriage or the Affair?
- Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, I feel unworthy
- Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated
- Aug 5 UBT: “I Miss the Kitties”
- Aug 2 Where You Thought They Were, Where They Really Were
- Aug 1 Why Can’t I Say ‘Cheater’?
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July 2019
- Jul 31 UBT the Trust Bank
- Jul 30 Alan Dershowitz Is Human Garbage
- Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart
- Jul 27 Forums Ending Aug. 1
- Jul 26 Courage Fairies
- Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
- Jul 24 Devastating Writing on Making Your Needs Small
- Jul 23 Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move on
- Jul 22 When Men Are Cheated On
- Jul 19 New Age Cheater Goop Speak
- Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, How do I save my friend?
- Jul 17 The Silent Chumps
- Jul 16 The Ones Who Just Leave
- Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to invite my ex to the party?
- Jul 13 New Forums, New Features, News
- Jul 12 Word Salad or Word Wisdom?
- Jul 11 UBT: ‘Dear Therapist’
- Jul 10 Why No Contact Works
- Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, She changed him
- Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL
- Jul 5 Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
- Jul 4 Chump Emancipation Proclamation
- Jul 3 Dear Chump Lady, He said it was ‘just sex’
- Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he’ll cheat on me
- Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, She has abs of steel
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June 2019
- Jun 28 The Weirdest Things They Took or Left Behind
- Jun 27 When Your D-Day Is After the Divorce
- Jun 26 UBT: This Isn’t The Real Me
- Jun 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep the OW away from my kids?
- Jun 24 UBT — He Took the Soup
- Jun 21 Unspouse Your House?
- Jun 20 ‘I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time’
- Jun 19 Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m ‘selfish’ for leaving him
- Jun 18 The Plan B Offer
- Jun 17 ‘Being Frank’ versus Being Chumped
- Jun 16 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 14 Blameshifting Jujitso
- Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, My wife cheated with a woman
- Jun 12 DNA Testing Surprises
- Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m pregnant and pick me dancing
- Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW
- Jun 7 Write Your Own Clickbait
- Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me
- Jun 5 UBT: The OW Wants Me to Save My Marriage
- Jun 4 Surely You Must Have Known
- Jun 3 UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
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May 2019
- May 31 Star-Crossed Schmoopies
- May 30 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
- May 29 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think he’s a narcissist
- May 28 What Do You Tell Yourself?
- May 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a Marine chump
- May 24 Bad Apologies
- May 23 Dear Chump Lady, What’s wrong with me?
- May 22 Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’
- May 21 The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
- May 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why do you use foul language?
- May 17 All Those Times You Didn’t Cheat
- May 16 Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?
- May 15 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their fabulousness
- May 14 Dear Chump Lady, The lies are crazy
- May 13 UBT: ProJared’s Divorce Statement
- May 10 When Mother’s Day Sucks
- May 9 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell the kids about the cheating?
- May 8 Way to Take Down a Cheater
- May 7 Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
- May 6 Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy
- May 3 What’s the Right Thing to Say?
- May 2 Dear Chump Lady, How did he turn into a douche?
- May 1 Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?
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April 2019
- Apr 30 The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
- Apr 29 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like she traded up
- Apr 26 RIC Tag Lines?
- Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Nobody gets being chumped (except chumps)
- Apr 24 UBT: Why Happy People Cheat
- Apr 23 Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
- Apr 22 Why Do You Still Do This? A Peek Behind the Scenes at Chump Central
- Apr 19 Snark and Dance Tunes
- Apr 18 Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?
- Apr 17 UBT: “The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life”
- Apr 16 David Brooks Can Bite Me
- Apr 15 Dear Chump Lady, Is this weird?
- Apr 12 What Are You Taking Back?
- Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a Bunny Boiler
- Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
- Apr 9 Stupid Requests Cheaters Make?
- Apr 8 La teoría unificada del postre
- Apr 8 El humillante zapateo de ‘¡Elígeme a mí!’
- Apr 8 Dear Chump Lady, Do I owe him an explanation?
- Apr 5 Serenade the Universal Bullshit Translator
- Apr 4 UBT: “People sometimes lie or ‘forget’ to keep their promises”
- Apr 3 UBT: When the OW Doesn’t Trust Her Boyfriend
- Apr 2 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
- Apr 1 Dear Chump Lady, He told me not to tell
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March 2019
- Mar 29 Bitter Bunny Dating?
- Mar 28 When You Piss Off the Unicorns
- Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?
- Mar 26 UBT: Eat, Pray, Happy Day?
- Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, Please be mean
- Mar 22 Mightiness Update
- Mar 21 UBT: “I should be nice to you”
- Mar 20 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
- Mar 19 Beware the Timid Forest Creatures
- Mar 18 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is the ‘Girl Next Door’
- Mar 15 Be the UBT
- Mar 14 UBT: “People Grow Apart”
- Mar 13 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
- Mar 12 Forgiving the ‘Sex Addict’
- Mar 11 Dear Chump Lady, I want closure
- Mar 10 Yes, That’s Chump Lady in Español
- Mar 8 Imagine Justice
- Mar 7 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so mad at my ex?
- Mar 6 Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW
- Mar 5 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
- Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get my ex’s voice out of my head
- Mar 1 Your Heart and Your Wallet
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February 2019
- Feb 28 “I Didn’t Mean To” Debunked
- Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street
- Feb 26 Esther Perel Can Bite Me
- Feb 25 Dear Chump Lady, He puts the OW phone to say ‘goodnight’ to our child
- Feb 22 Got a Pep Talk?
- Feb 21 The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
- Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I feel a new man is the answer?
- Feb 19 ‘Is it my fault my ex ran off with our nanny?’
- Feb 18 Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave for an emotional affair?
- Feb 15 When your ‘match’ is a married motivational speaker
- Feb 14 And the Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
- Feb 13 The ‘Bitch Be Crazy’ Red Flag
- Feb 12 Playing the Victim?
- Feb 11 Is Cake Better Than Abandonment?
- Feb 8 What’s Your Patronus?
- Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, I work with the OW and my ex
- Feb 6 Dear Chump Lady, He sees me as the Fixer
- Feb 5 A Masterclass in Boundaries
- Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer
- Feb 1 Infidelity Valentines
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January 2019
- Jan 31 How Do I Fix My Picker?
- Jan 30 Don’t Send It
- Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
- Jan 28 Dear Chump Lady, My husband prefers porn to me
- Jan 25 Glimpses of Meh?
- Jan 24 UBT: “Neither of us are perfect”
- Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
- Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, He’s dating a mom at our kid’s school
- Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
- Jan 20 Get the F*ck Out Now
- Jan 18 Best No Contact Strategies
- Jan 17 Pain Shopping, Anyone?
- Jan 16 Dear Chump Lady, He shoveled my snow, so he cares?
- Jan 15 “Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?”
- Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I’d divorce her, but she wants that
- Jan 11 Got Jesus Cheaters?
- Jan 10 Don’t Date This Person
- Jan 9 Dear Chump Lady, Was I THAT bad?
- Jan 8 “Why do cheaters need to punish the chump?”
- Jan 7 Dear Chump Lady, He says he cheated to protect me
- Jan 4 What’s In. What’s Out
- Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
- Jan 2 UBT: ‘A Letter to My Lover’s Wife’
- Jan 1 Gain a Life
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2018
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December 2018
- Dec 31 ‘He sent me a poem on Christmas’
- Dec 28 Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
- Dec 27 Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
- Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
- Dec 25 UBT: “I wish I could take it back”
- Dec 24 The Promise Land of Meh
- Dec 21 Jingle Meh?
- Dec 20 Dear Chump Lady, Where do I go with this anger?
- Dec 19 Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
- Dec 18 UBT: “There Are No Right Answers”
- Dec 17 Chaos — The Fourth Channel?
- Dec 14 Most Spectacularly Callous Christmas Dump?
- Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted
- Dec 12 UBT: “I Want to Dive Into You”
- Dec 11 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
- Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn
- Dec 7 You Might Be a Chump If..
- Dec 6 Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?
- Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, I have no Seasons Greetings
- Dec 4 ‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’
- Dec 3 The Cheater Who Stole Christmas
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November 2018
- Nov 30 Schadenfreude Snark
- Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, Please kick my ass
- Nov 28 Out of Sight, Out of Mind
- Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why do people assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
- Nov 26 UBT: “I Don’t Mean to Worry You, But…”
- Nov 23 Holiday Hoovering
- Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
- Nov 21 Bye-Bye, Cheater
- Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to stay ‘friends’?
- Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker
- Nov 16 Chump Nation Gives Thanks
- Nov 15 Cool. Bummer. Wow.
- Nov 14 The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory
- Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where do I put his stuff?
- Nov 12 Dear Chump Lady, I drunk dialed
- Nov 9 What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?
- Nov 8 Managing Divorce Expectations
- Nov 7 Your Time on the Marriage Police Force
- Nov 6 Dear Chump Lady, “I still wish I could call him”
- Nov 5 How to Deal with Adult Child After D-Day?
- Nov 2 Your Mightiest Moment?
- Nov 1 The “What If They’re Really The One” Fear
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October 2018
- Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
- Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?
- Oct 29 Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
- Oct 26 The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
- Oct 25 Respond to Mindfuckery with Ridicule
- Oct 24 ‘I Found the OW’s Goodbye Letter in My Safe’
- Oct 23 I Don’t Write for You
- Oct 22 UBT: “You Represent Christmastime”
- Oct 19 Twu Wuv Vows?
- Oct 18 Reject the Plan B Offer
- Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’s stuck on his ‘intentions’
- Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, I have nightmares
- Oct 15 The I-Know-What-I-Did-Was-Wrong-But-I-Did-It-Anyway Mindfuck
- Oct 13 The First Chump Podcast!
- Oct 12 Good Advice, Bad Advice?
- Oct 11 Who’s Hoovering Who?
- Oct 10 UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
- Oct 9 What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
- Oct 8 Dear Chump Lady, He left me to BLOG with the OW?
- Oct 5 Radical Kindness
- Oct 4 UBT: “I Don’t Understand”
- Oct 3 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
- Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, How did I not know?
- Oct 1 When Entitlement Meets Vulnerability
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September 2018
- Sep 28 Worst Gift Ever?
- Sep 27 Owning Your Chumpiness
- Sep 26 Tiffany Glass Windows
- Sep 25 Chump Lady Descends Into Middle Age
- Sep 24 UBT: “I Found Myself and Had an Affair”
- Sep 21 What It Looked Like, What It Was
- Sep 20 Science Vindicates ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’
- Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, Did my being controlling make him gay?
- Sep 18 The Ones Who Just Leave
- Sep 17 Let’s blame the children?
- Sep 14 Stupid Shit Affair Partners Say?
- Sep 13 UBT: ‘I hold no animosity for you’
- Sep 12 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any good memories of him
- Sep 11 Situational Truth
- Sep 10 UBT: ‘Our Marriage Was Already Over’
- Sep 7 Problem? Adulting vs. Escapism
- Sep 6 Character Assassination? Probably.
- Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t give up
- Sep 4 Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?
- Sep 3 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
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August 2018
- Aug 31 So, What Are You Taking Back?
- Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, Can I go NC with my step-daughter?
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump, my brother is a cheater
- Aug 28 UBT: Chump Lady’s ‘attitude’
- Aug 27 The ‘Otherness’ of the OW
- Aug 24 Biggest lie you bought?
- Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, He got a ring tattoo for the OW
- Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, Is pain a choice?
- Aug 21 New Narc Strategy? Be Boring
- Aug 20 UBT: “I’m sorry you feel that way”
- Aug 17 God Rest Her Soul
- Aug 16 “Our children deserved…”
- Aug 15 Why blame the chump?
- Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house
- Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the OW
- Aug 10 How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
- Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, He keeps calling me “Babe”
- Aug 8 “Closure,” Don’t Do It.
- Aug 7 Nice vs. Kind
- Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, Am I normal?
- Aug 3 Ever Run into Your Ex?
- Aug 2 How Do I Fix My Picker?
- Aug 1 Cheater Exceptionalism
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July 2018
- Jul 31 Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford it
- Jul 30 The Case of the Dangling Former Spouse
- Jul 27 What’s Your Post-Infidelity Super Power?
- Jul 26 Be the Support You Wish You Had
- Jul 25 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
- Jul 24 Entitlement Reinforcement
- Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, I shouldn’t have looked…
- Jul 20 The Selfies, OMG the Selfies
- Jul 19 UBT: “I was just going to ride it out”
- Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust
- Jul 17 The Walls in Your House Will Sing
- Jul 16 When You Perform the Pick Me Dance Wrong
- Jul 13 Connecting with Other Chumps?
- Jul 12 “Does divorcing her make me the Bad Guy?”
- Jul 11 Chump Nation Subject of ‘Curious’ Podcast!
- Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
- Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
- Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back
- Jul 6 Tell Me How You Suck
- Jul 5 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
- Jul 4 Happy Independence Day!
- Jul 3 Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and Ghosts
- Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothes
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June 2018
- Jun 29 How to Find a Lawyer and Other Chump Survival Tips
- Jun 28 When You Can’t Leave Because You Still “Love” Them
- Jun 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why must cheaters add insult to injury?
- Jun 26 How to Confront a Cheater
- Jun 25 “What do I tell my crying children?”
- Jun 22 Fear, You Don’t Own Me
- Jun 21 Keeping Secrets
- Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, I feel trapped
- Jun 19 Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!
- Jun 18 UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later
- Jun 17 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 15 Recidivism?
- Jun 14 Shocker. Rudy Giuliani Still a Cheater.
- Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom
- Jun 12 A “Trust That They Suck” Reminder
- Jun 11 The Dead Cheater Dilemma
- Jun 8 Apology Fails
- Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged
- Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, He’s promising to better himself… for her
- Jun 5 Dear Chump Lady, She knew in her heart he was a cheater
- Jun 4 Chump Nation Takes Australia!
- Jun 1 Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?
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May 2018
- May 31 Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
- May 30 UBT: “I just want to help you!”
- May 29 You Don’t Need It THAT Bad
- May 28 Stupid Shit That People Say to Chumps
- May 25 So what else didn’t you know about?
- May 24 Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
- May 23 UXWorld UBTs a Letter from KK
- May 22 Cheaters Never Trade Up — The Lola Doctrine
- May 21 How did you spackle over the incompatibility?
- May 19 Chump Lady Heads to Australia!
- May 18 Where Is Their SHAME?
- May 17 When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
- May 16 Are Cheaters Timid Forest Creatures?
- May 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he copying me?
- May 14 Dear Chump Lady, Do cheaters blameshift?
- May 12 Happy Mother’s Day! Take a Single Mom to Brunch
- May 11 Monica Lewinsky Isn’t Going to the Ball
- May 10 UBT: “You’re the one who still has my heart”
- May 9 “I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response
- May 8 UBT: Thanks to your book, my husband wants to leave me
- May 7 Dear Chump Lady, Why does the OW want to meet me?
- May 4 What You Thought It Was… What It Really Was
- May 3 Dear Josh
- May 2 Dear Chump Lady, He sexted his AUNT
- May 1 Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My Head
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April 2018
- Apr 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’m too old to start over
- Apr 27 Sunshine, Lollipops, Middle Fingers
- Apr 26 When the Pick Me Dance Turns Deadly
- Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?
- Apr 24 I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
- Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all do the same stupid shit?
- Apr 20 Time for Another Mightiness Check In
- Apr 19 Happy Blog Birthday, Chump Nation! Viva la Revolution!
- Apr 18 When Affair Partners Marry
- Apr 17 UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair Partner
- Apr 16 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?
- Apr 13 Time for Another Round of Bitch Cookie!
- Apr 12 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
- Apr 11 The Perils of Flunking No Contact
- Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a narcissist?
- Apr 9 UBT: What Sleeping with Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
- Apr 6 You Picked a Fine Time To Leave Me, Lucille
- Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman — Who does that?!
- Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m REALLY angry. Is this normal?
- Apr 3 UBT: I Will Return with a Fuller Love
- Apr 2 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want him, but she can’t have him
- Apr 1 A Chump in a Land Down Under
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March 2018
- Mar 30 Most Audacious Lie?
- Mar 29 UBT: I Didn’t Know How to Express My Unhappiness
- Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
- Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Better the Cheater I know, right?
- Mar 26 Making the Marriage ‘A Good Place to Be’
- Mar 25 My Gun Story… Or That Time I Found a Loaded Handgun Under My Bed
- Mar 23 Stupid Cheater Life Plans
- Mar 22 Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants $25,000
- Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, He wants to move to New Zealand
- Mar 20 You’d Like Them If You Really Knew Them
- Mar 19 UBT: I cheated because you’re stale
- Mar 16 Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?
- Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, The cheater doesn’t know I’m pregnant
- Mar 14 UBT: Affair Proof Your Marriage
- Mar 13 Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
- Mar 12 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater because of her dad?
- Mar 9 Hopium Translations
- Mar 8 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
- Mar 7 The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
- Mar 6 But He’s a Really Nice Guy
- Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, He keeps returning and crying
- Mar 2 How Is Your Life Better Without a Cheater?
- Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?
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February 2018
- Feb 28 UBTing the Sugar Daddy
- Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, The OW must be really great for my wife to give up everything
- Feb 26 Chump Lady on Orgies
- Feb 25 Chump Lady Tweaks Her Site
- Feb 23 Infidelity… It’s So Much More
- Feb 22 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
- Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, Can’t quite shake the rejection…
- Feb 20 Australia, You Need to Up Your Scandal Game
- Feb 19 The Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Somebody Else
- Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he get to look like a Good Person?
- Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, What’s in the minds of OW?
- Feb 13 And the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
- Feb 13 A Valentine’s Day Reset
- Feb 12 Dead Cheaters and Terrible Discoveries
- Feb 9 Check Your Bills for Boob Jobs and Other Great Advice
- Feb 8 I Love You, But I’m Not In Love With You
- Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, He cheated on me through fertility treatments
- Feb 6 Financial Abuse and Your D-Day
- Feb 5 Poor Nigel
- Feb 2 Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!
- Feb 1 Mayor of Nashville Feels Really Sad About Her Taxpayer-Funded Affair
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January 2018
- Jan 31 Affairs Improve Marriage?
- Jan 30 How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
- Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m not “the one”
- Jan 26 If You Could Go Back in Time…
- Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the unfairness?
- Jan 24 UBT: “I’m Not a Terrible Person”
- Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I pull the trigger on the divorce?
- Jan 22 Don’t Need It THAT Bad
- Jan 21 And The Cheater Freak Winner Is…
- Jan 19 Profiles in Mightiness
- Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront the affair partner?
- Jan 17 Tuesday Is Coming
- Jan 16 UBT: I’m a Real Silly Bunny
- Jan 15 How Can We Challenge Blameshifting Therapists?
- Jan 14 Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
- Jan 12 New Script for Betrayed Political Wives?
- Jan 11 UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married Man
- Jan 10 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered a Switzerland Sister
- Jan 9 Narcissists Be Crazy!
- Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!
- Jan 5 Dreams, Signs, and Cosmic Portents You’re a Chump
- Jan 4 Snooping in the Modern Age
- Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, What are OW thinking?
- Jan 2 Dear Chump Lady, Is this my fault?
- Jan 1 Dear Chump Lady, Why meh? Why not screaming?
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2017
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December 2017
- Dec 29 New Year’s Friday Challenge!
- Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
- Dec 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
- Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
- Dec 25 Dear Chump Lady, WTF Merry X-mas?!
- Dec 22 Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Holiday Edition
- Dec 21 Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?
- Dec 20 UBT: “My dog loves Mark.”
- Dec 19 Esther Perel in the #MeToo Era
- Dec 18 You Could Be Friends!
- Dec 15 Cheater Freak Christmas Countdown!
- Dec 14 UBT: “We tried to stop so many times, but we couldn’t”
- Dec 13 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day
- Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, I miss being a full-time parent
- Dec 11 Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
- Dec 10 Some Holiday Uplift
- Dec 8 What to Say to Sanctimonious Rubberneckers?
- Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, The cheater wants to take family photos
- Dec 6 UBT: “No One Is Perfect”
- Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
- Dec 4 “Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”
- Dec 1 Sorry Not Sorry
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November 2017
- Nov 30 There’s the Door, Matt Lauer
- Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, I need confirmation that he cheated
- Nov 28 No, We Bitter, Hopeless Chumps Will Not Come to Your Dinner Party
- Nov 27 UBT: “An Optimist’s Guide to Divorce”
- Nov 24 Your Stupid Cheater Moments
- Nov 23 UBT: “I just wanted to reach out to help you”
- Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
- Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop feeling sorry for him?
- Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife has some weird requests
- Nov 17 Fix Your Picker Tips
- Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the data on reconciliation?
- Nov 15 The Smugness of Friendly Divorce
- Nov 14 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to the people who knew?
- Nov 13 The Silent Chumps
- Nov 10 Narcissist Mixtapes?
- Nov 9 The Bullshit That Is the ‘Trust Bank’
- Nov 8 Monogamy Is Not the Problem
- Nov 7 UBT: I’m a broken empty person searching for meaning and happiness before I die
- Nov 6 The Futility in Confronting Affair Partners
- Nov 3 Bitch Cookie, Anyone?
- Nov 2 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
- Nov 1 Dear Chump Lady, I left my perfect husband
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October 2017
- Oct 31 What Married Men Tell Other Women
- Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Help! I keep breaking no contact
- Oct 29 Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
- Oct 27 Mr./Ms. Sparkles Is Ready to Date You!
- Oct 26 “Our Marriage Was Already Over”
- Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, What if I leave and he really loves me?
- Oct 24 Weinstein Does Outpatient Quackery
- Oct 23 A Shout Out to All You Stalking Cheaters
- Oct 20 The “Redeemable Cheater” Fallacy
- Oct 19 When They Look Good on Paper
- Oct 18 Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A Primer
- Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t feel mighty. I got left.
- Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with my cheater dad?
- Oct 13 Divorce Hacks
- Oct 12 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he will cheat on me
- Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly nice?
- Oct 10 Want to spot a narcissist? Just ask one.
- Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, She says it was “just kissing”
- Oct 7 Chump Lady Takes Back Paris
- Oct 6 Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice You Got
- Oct 5 Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
- Oct 4 Problem? Adult solution vs. Cheater solution
- Oct 3 Cheater Freak of the Week?
- Oct 2 You might be a chump if…
- Oct 1 A Week of Fridays!
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September 2017
- Sep 29 I Want What She’s Having
- Sep 28 Dear Chump Lady, Help, I slept with my ex!
- Sep 27 Anthony Weiner Gets Sent to the Clink
- Sep 26 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I would’ve pressed charges
- Sep 25 Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
- Sep 22 What Got You Unstuck?
- Sep 21 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to be friendly with my ex?
- Sep 20 Situational Truth
- Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?
- Sep 18 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist thinks I’m responsible for my husband’s cheating
- Sep 15 Rituals for New Lives?
- Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?
- Sep 13 One Off Cheaters versus Serial Cheaters?
- Sep 12 The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
- Sep 11 UBT: Esther Perel’s “Happy People Cheat”
- Sep 8 Who You Thought You Were, Who You Really Are
- Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to do No Contact
- Sep 6 “I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time”
- Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, We divorced… and now she wants to reconcile
- Sep 4 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
- Sep 1 What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was
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August 2017
- Aug 31 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
- Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, Why is the OW calling our house?
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, He proposed… and then he cheated
- Aug 28 UBT: You aren’t alone… you have the kids
- Aug 25 How Did You Thwart Their Greatness?
- Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, She wants me to fight for her?
- Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
- Aug 22 All Hail Joss Whedon the Conquering Douchebag
- Aug 21 Dear Chump Lady, My husband died. Then I discovered his double life.
- Aug 18 New Life Tattoos Anyone?
- Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
- Aug 16 Dear Chump Lady, Do they turn bad or were they always bad?
- Aug 15 Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?
- Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get over being replaced
- Aug 13 Chump Lady’s Book Now on AUDIO!
- Aug 11 The Health Costs of Staying?
- Aug 10 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t stop texting the OW in front of me
- Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”
- Aug 8 Character Assassination? Expect It.
- Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think my cheater is like the other cheaters…
- Aug 4 It’s Taking Up Another’s Place
- Aug 3 Chump Shaming as Competitive Sport
- Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady. My husband cheated. My mother is disappointed in US.
- Aug 1 Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the Other Woman
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July 2017
- Jul 31 UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
- Jul 29 RIP Julie Gomoll
- Jul 28 Cheater Warning Signs?
- Jul 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a cheater and my wife is such a chump
- Jul 26 UBT: Will Telling the Truth Hurt Your Relationship?
- Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, He’s doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad
- Jul 24 Dear Chump Lady, I didn’t just discover cheating — he’s a criminal too
- Jul 21 Your Best No Contact Strategies
- Jul 20 Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
- Jul 19 The Trickle Truth is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
- Jul 18 UBT: You’ll regret it
- Jul 17 Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
- Jul 14 Going No Contact with Stuff
- Jul 13 Miracles Happen on Tuesdays
- Jul 12 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
- Jul 11 An Interview with Jen Waite, Author of “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing”
- Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
- Jul 7 What makes you resilient?
- Jul 6 Dear Chump Lady, Do I stay for the kids?
- Jul 4 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
- Jul 4 A Chump Independence Proclamation
- Jul 3 UBT: “I don’t handle rejection well”
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June 2017
- Jun 30 Merit Badges for Cheaters
- Jun 29 Closure Does Not Exist
- Jun 28 Dear Chump Lady, He brought his girlfriend and I lost my meh
- Jun 27 When Affair Partners Marry
- Jun 26 UBT: Cheaters and “Grace”
- Jun 23 Flip the Script — The Un-Letter
- Jun 22 The Unlikelihood of True Remorse
- Jun 21 This Is Your Brain on Hopium
- Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
- Jun 19 UBT: “I can’t remember”
- Jun 17 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 16 Strange Bedfellows
- Jun 15 UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s Lemonade
- Jun 14 UBT: Let’s just forget and forgive
- Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he hate me?
- Jun 12 Get Mighty, Retrain in a Tech Career
- Jun 9 Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
- Jun 8 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry as hell
- Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, The OW exposed the affair on Facebook
- Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is having an emotional affair with his HS girlfriend
- Jun 5 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the pick-me dance?
- Jun 2 The Sentence That Changed Your Life?
- Jun 1 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
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May 2017
- May 31 The Decline of Tiger Woods
- May 30 Dear Chump Lady, How do I know when I’m done?
- May 29 Dear Chump Lady, I smell a generous settlement…
- May 26 If Cheaters Wrote Children’s Book Titles…
- May 25 Jesus Cheaters
- May 24 Dear Chump Lady, We had a good life. Why did he cheat?
- May 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
- May 22 Huma Finally Leaves
- May 19 Stupid Shit Schmoopies Say
- May 18 The Bitch-Be-Crazy Red Flag
- May 17 UBT: “You’re nobody’s muse.”
- May 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
- May 15 Open Marriage Skepticism
- May 12 Happy Mother’s Day to Single Moms
- May 11 Emotional Vomiting and the Kindness of Strangers
- May 10 Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a problem with self-worth
- May 9 Dear Chump Lady, The court wants me to say she is a “good parent.” I can’t.
- May 8 UBT: Leaving and Cleaving
- May 5 Gift Registries for Cheaters?
- May 4 Might Want to Rethink that “Character” Thing
- May 3 5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
- May 2 Dear Chump Lady, He divorced me because we don’t have “chemistry”
- May 1 You Want to Date a Chump? Here’s Where to Find Them
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April 2017
- Apr 28 Not Your Job Anymore
- Apr 27 Kids and Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
- Apr 26 The Fallacy of “Unmet Needs”
- Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles The Magnificent Personality Changing Dry Drunk Unicorn?
- Apr 24 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I have to pay her when she cheated?
- Apr 23 Abuse Goes with Substance Abuse
- Apr 21 Best Sassy Chump Retorts?
- Apr 20 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t stand a chance dating
- Apr 19 5 Years of Chump Lady? 5 Lessons Learned
- Apr 18 Paltering — Another Kind of Mindfuckery
- Apr 17 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid he’ll turn the kids against me
- Apr 14 Your Nominees for the Mighty Award
- Apr 13 The Ones Who Just Leave
- Apr 12 And the Mighty Award Goes to Dianne Bentley!
- Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, Should I reconcile with a sex addict?
- Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I betrayed the OW
- Apr 7 Your Most Ridiculous RIC Nuggets
- Apr 6 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
- Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, Tell those wives to maintain their dignity
- Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave if he has cancer?
- Apr 3 Why No Contact Works
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March 2017
- Mar 31 Therapy with Cheaters
- Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’ll leave him after I lose 20 lbs
- Mar 29 UBT: “You’re incapable of forgiveness”
- Mar 28 Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move On
- Mar 27 Is Huma Abedin Really Working It Out with Anthony Weiner?
- Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t admit to cheating
- Mar 24 What’s the Dumbest Lie You Ever Fell For?
- Mar 23 Forgiveness Trolls
- Mar 22 Dear Chump Lady, Should I fight for her?
- Mar 21 You Get Over It – A Chump Story
- Mar 20 A Chump Minstrel Show
- Mar 17 New Infidelity Euphemisms
- Mar 16 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
- Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?
- Mar 14 Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
- Mar 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I thinking “If only…”?
- Mar 10 Your Imaginary Chump-Cheater Biopics
- Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, My husband ran off with the nanny and it’s my fault?
- Mar 8 You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
- Mar 7 UBT: “You don’t need the specifics”
- Mar 6 UBT: “This Isn’t the Real Me”
- Mar 3 Tell Me How You’re Mighty!
- Mar 2 UBT: “I was just experimenting”
- Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Help! I regret posting OW on expose-a-homewrecker sites
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February 2017
- Feb 28 Close Encounters with Affair Partners
- Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, Am I responsible for the kids’ relationship with their dad?
- Feb 24 I Am a Rock. I Am an Island.
- Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Did she leave because I’m not good enough?
- Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
- Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, My heart hasn’t caught up to my divorce
- Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, My mother doesn’t support my divorce
- Feb 17 Nice versus Kind
- Feb 16 UBT: There Is No Right or Wrong in the World
- Feb 15 What Lessons Did You Learn From Cheating?
- Feb 14 And the Valentine’s Day Poetry Winners Are…
- Feb 13 UBT: 12 Lessons I Learned From Cheating
- Feb 10 UBT: “My heart is now open and the feelings are felt.”
- Feb 9 Dear Chump Lady, He’s in the closet. How do I tell his wife?
- Feb 8 Unconditional Love
- Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, Do I miss the mindfuck?
- Feb 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
- Feb 5 The Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
- Feb 3 What a Good Friend Looks Like
- Feb 2 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
- Feb 1 Dear Chump Lady, My wife is near perfect, but I see prostitutes
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January 2017
- Jan 31 How Do I Divorce a Narcissist?
- Jan 30 What Did Your Sad Sausage Want Sympathy For?
- Jan 27 Your Best No Contact Strategies
- Jan 26 Sorry Is as Sorry Does
- Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I tell my pregnant SIL her husband is cheating?
- Jan 24 Lies Are Exhausting
- Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Cheater’s mom enables him in his affair
- Jan 20 What’s Your Patronus?
- Jan 19 The Power of Ridicule
- Jan 18 The “I Fail to Understand Your Hostility” Mindfuck
- Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, My husband says the children should not be told of his affair
- Jan 16 When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
- Jan 13 Biggest Empowerment Jolt after D-Day?
- Jan 12 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants an open marriage
- Jan 11 The Cheater Was Going to Stop… Really
- Jan 10 Got Anger?
- Jan 9 The Fallacy of Blissful Ignorance
- Jan 6 Overcoming Awkward Firsts
- Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, He’s just flawed, he’s not bad?
- Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
- Jan 3 UBT: Chump Lady’s Attitude
- Jan 2 Get Over It
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2016
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December 2016
- Dec 30 Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
- Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
- Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
- Dec 27 Stupid Shit Other People Say
- Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, Is PTSD a reason for cheating?
- Dec 23 Tis the Season for New Traditions
- Dec 22 UBT: He blew up the marriage to improve it
- Dec 21 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
- Dec 20 Compartmentalization
- Dec 19 Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
- Dec 16 Moments of Meh
- Dec 15 Quit Waiting for an Apology
- Dec 14 Dear Chump Lady, How do I co-parent with an addict?
- Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, Should my cheater be in the delivery room?
- Dec 12 How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
- Dec 9 Tips for Starting a New Life?
- Dec 8 Cool. Bummer. Wow.
- Dec 7 UBT: A Letter from “the Baby”
- Dec 6 UBT: The OW told me to jump off a bridge
- Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Just divorced and my ex is introducing her affair partner to the kids
- Dec 2 The Annual Christmas Freak Countdown
- Dec 1 Making a Vow to Yourself
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November 2016
- Nov 30 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day…
- Nov 29 UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
- Nov 28 Dear Chump Lady, Don’t confess an affair?
- Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
- Nov 24 Things We Are Grateful For
- Nov 23 Things We Are Not Grateful For
- Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, Husband said OW’s name during sex
- Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, When dating, how do I know if someone is a cheater?
- Nov 18 Co-Parenting With Fuckwits, Your Thoughts…
- Nov 17 The Walls In Your House Will Sing
- Nov 16 UBT: Ask Your Spouse Directly If They’ve Been Cheating
- Nov 15 UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
- Nov 14 Cheating Is a Very “Individual” Thing
- Nov 11 Tell Me Something Good
- Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, I just got HPV, but I’ve been monogamous for 30 years
- Nov 9 Dear America, You’re in an abusive relationship
- Nov 8 UBT: If You Accuse Me of Cheating, I Will Cheat
- Nov 7 Anthony Weiner Does Sex Rehab
- Nov 4 I Don’t Need Your Permission
- Nov 3 Flip the Script, Chumps
- Nov 2 UBT: It Has Nothing To Do With You
- Nov 1 What Did You Lose By Reconciling?
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October 2016
- Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife wants to come back
- Oct 28 The Pep Talk You Would Give Yourself at D-Day
- Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, My ex doesn’t want me to date
- Oct 26 Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
- Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, My “friend” is an OW
- Oct 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do you ask for a divorce?
- Oct 21 Have a Bitch Cookie
- Oct 20 The Stranger
- Oct 19 Dear Chump Lady, He apologized. Now what?
- Oct 18 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
- Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, Please help un-chump my mom
- Oct 14 Ghoulies and Ghosties and Long-Legged Beasties and Things That Cheat in the Night
- Oct 13 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Queries
- Oct 12 The “Children Are Resilient” Argument
- Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught
- Oct 10 Yeah, That’s Not An Apology
- Oct 7 The Day of the Deadbeat
- Oct 6 Tori’s Marriage-Saving Pregnancy
- Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, I need some karma stories STAT!
- Oct 4 Dear Chump Lady, He’s not a bad person, he’s just a sex addict
- Oct 3 Everyone Cheats?
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September 2016
- Sep 30 Hashtags for #Cheaters
- Sep 29 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
- Sep 28 WTF Trivago Guy?
- Sep 27 Dear Chump Lady, How long do you think this affair was going on?
- Sep 26 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
- Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, Apparently I am “spiteful”
- Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
- Sep 21 Your Obligatory Brangelina Post
- Sep 20 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any proof but…
- Sep 19 UBT: How do I find that next married man?
- Sep 16 That Moment of Chump Rebellion
- Sep 15 Dear Chump Lady, My ex sent me a goodbye letter
- Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I second guessing my decision to break up?
- Sep 13 The Condescension of Other Women
- Sep 12 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he suck at remorse?
- Sep 9 Eat, Pray, Gay?
- Sep 8 Dear Chump Lady, Why do people help cheaters cheat?
- Sep 7 Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is For Suckers
- Sep 6 Dear Chump Lady, I neglected him and this is all my fault
- Sep 4 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
- Sep 2 Meh Sightings
- Sep 1 UBT: “Respect my relationship with the OW”
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August 2016
- Aug 31 When Your Cheater Is Also a Sicko
- Aug 30 Huma Frees Herself
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to block him
- Aug 26 Your Most Un-Meh Moment
- Aug 25 Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX just to mess with him?
- Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
- Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters work from the same script?
- Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, I lost the moral high ground when I told people my wife was cheating
- Aug 19 Time Again for a Mightiness Check
- Aug 18 Dear Chump Lady, How can I save my friend?
- Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, What if he changes for the next woman?
- Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t trust women
- Aug 15 Anthony Weiner Gets Catfished
- Aug 12 Snappy “I’d Rather” Cheater Comebacks
- Aug 11 Dear Chump Lady, Are affairs addictions?
- Aug 10 The Pick Me Dance… After Death?
- Aug 9 Living with Your Ex… For The Children?
- Aug 8 Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants to live in my basement
- Aug 5 You Might Be a Cheater If…
- Aug 4 UBT: “We Aren’t All Homewreckers”
- Aug 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why does everyone assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
- Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, Can I please destroy the OW?
- Aug 1 China’s Mistress Dispelling Services
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July 2016
- Jul 29 A Chump Coming Out Party?
- Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, I stay to protect my son from the Other Woman
- Jul 27 Finding a Friend You Can Confide In
- Jul 26 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the devaluing?
- Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m struggling with no contact and kids
- Jul 22 Ashley Madison Wants You to “Find Your Moment”
- Jul 21 Dear Chump Lady, Is Affair Fog real?
- Jul 20 I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
- Jul 19 Dear Chump Lady, I have a Switzerland cousin
- Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater and I want to change
- Jul 17 A Chump Emancipation Proclamation
- Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
- Jul 14 Eat, Pray, Kibble, Divorce
- Jul 13 The Ready Chump Response to “I’ve Changed!”
- Jul 12 Being the Marriage Police
- Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
- Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep myself from rewriting history?
- Jul 7 Dear Chump Lady, When do I tell him I’m dumping him?
- Jul 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over losing the dream?
- Jul 5 Don’t Be Bitter!
- Jul 4 But I Always Come Back to You
- Jul 1 The Museum of Broken Relationships
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June 2016
- Jun 30 A Plea for Civility
- Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, Can I let people know he’s a fraud?
- Jun 28 Affair Enablers
- Jun 27 But I Love Her (Him)
- Jun 24 What Inspirational Quote Helped You Through?
- Jun 23 Dear Chump Lady, She’s pregnant by the Other Man
- Jun 22 Knowing When a Marriage Is Over
- Jun 21 Embrace the Chaos
- Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do I handle the OW?
- Jun 19 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 17 Dating Disaster Stories, Anyone?
- Jun 16 Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
- Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’m too available
- Jun 14 The Blog Odometer Rolled Over 10 Million
- Jun 13 Ask Me Anything Tonight
- Jun 13 UBT: “I will return with a fuller love for you”
- Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
- Jun 9 An Imperfect Beginning
- Jun 8 Do Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem?
- Jun 7 Ask Me Anything!
- Jun 7 Tom Jones Eulogizes His Chump
- Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, When I threaten to leave, he says he’ll change
- Jun 3 New Age Cheaterisms
- Jun 2 A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
- Jun 1 UBT: “Why My Affair Will Turn Into a Healthy Relationship!”
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May 2016
- May 30 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he ignore my questions?
- May 30 Paula Broadwell Wants Us to Stop Saying “Mistress”
- May 27 No Contact Fails — The Outtakes
- May 26 UBT: “You have to set me free within the marriage.”
- May 25 UBT This Jesus Cheater Please
- May 24 UBT: “I lied to you because you can’t accept the truth”
- May 23 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband wants me to sponsor his citizenship
- May 20 Time for a Mightiness Check In!
- May 19 You Need a Lawyer
- May 18 How to Suffer — A Chump Manual
- May 17 Dear Chump Lady, I’m 9 months pregnant and he’s introducing his girlfriend
- May 16 Dear Chump Lady, I was completely duped. How do I ever trust again?
- May 15 A Feast of Mightiness!
- May 13 Cheater or Child? Who Said It Best?
- May 12 Dear Chump Lady, I’m considering just giving up
- May 11 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with cheating ex at my daughter’s graduation?
- May 10 Official Book Day!
- May 9 UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
- May 8 Happy Mothers’ Day!
- May 6 The Fuckwit Pride Parade
- May 5 Dear Chump Lady, My insecurity made him cheat?
- May 4 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is taunting me
- May 3 UBT: “Please Don’t Give Up On Me!”
- May 2 Science Vindicates “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life”
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April 2016
- Apr 29 UBT: “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage”
- Apr 28 Dear Chump Lady, Which came first — the death of the marriage or the affair?
- Apr 27 Let Me Tell You All About Them!
- Apr 26 If You Think I’m THAT Sort of Person…
- Apr 25 UBT: Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
- Apr 22 UBT: “I Made a Terrible Mistake”
- Apr 21 Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me
- Apr 20 Dear Chump Lady, Is he just your average narcissist?
- Apr 19 The Blog Turns 4 Today!
- Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, I chased my cheater through a mall…
- Apr 15 How Pretty Did You “Pick Me” Dance?
- Apr 14 Cream of Mindfuck Soup
- Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, What’s age-appropriate disclosure with kids?
- Apr 12 Cool, Bummer, Wow
- Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, How do I say goodbye?
- Apr 8 Oh the Places You’ll Go!
- Apr 7 UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
- Apr 6 UBT: Fred Armisen: Cheating “Is Just Something That Happens”
- Apr 5 50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
- Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I feel stupid for outing my cheater in an email blast
- Apr 3 New Book! Book Launch Party!
- Apr 1 UBT: “A letter to my husband from his cheating wife”
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March 2016
- Mar 31 When Your Cheater Is Also a Predator
- Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, Anyone else experience Switzerland friends?
- Mar 29 Sweet Spackle Alabama
- Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, My daughter considers ex’s affair partner “family”
- Mar 25 Make Your Own Cheater Memes!
- Mar 24 Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
- Mar 23 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband won’t move out
- Mar 22 UBT: “Cheating is a symptom, not the disease”
- Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, How do you confront a cheater?
- Mar 18 UBT Me, Please
- Mar 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
- Mar 16 Dear Chump Lady, My friend doesn’t listen to your advice
- Mar 15 UBT: You cheated for the excitement!
- Mar 14 Surely You Must’ve Known
- Mar 11 The 3 Douchiest Things You Don’t Miss
- Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
- Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, I’m an ex-Marine chump
- Mar 8 UBT: “I wish I could take it all back”
- Mar 7 Remarry Your Ex?
- Mar 6 How Do You Ask Chump Lady a Question?
- Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, He’s gone. Now how do I get him out of my head?
- Mar 3 UBT: Our Marriage Was Already Over
- Mar 2 Dear Chump Lady, He wants the OW so he can “live a little”
- Mar 1 The Dead-Eyed Stare
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February 2016
- Feb 29 UBT: Jennifer Garner’s Shit Sandwich
- Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, Do OW hate women?
- Feb 25 50 Shades of Moral Ambiguity
- Feb 24 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
- Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Is the cheating my fault?
- Feb 22 UBT: “My husband has stopped cheating on me after 35 years.”
- Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
- Feb 18 UBT: “I Didn’t Mean To”
- Feb 17 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is “The One”?
- Feb 16 And the winner is….!
- Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single available men?
- Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with kids, social media, and inappropriate ex?
- Feb 12 Dear Chump Lady, Do we have to do things “as a family”?
- Feb 11 Social Media Shame for Deadbeats
- Feb 10 Tiffany Glass Windows
- Feb 9 Fourth Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
- Feb 8 Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t want to unfriend the OW
- Feb 5 Time Again for a Mightiness Check
- Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, She ghosted me
- Feb 3 Co-parenting Cake
- Feb 2 Dear Chump Lady, He has a “seasonal disorder”
- Feb 1 The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
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January 2016
- Jan 29 Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
- Jan 28 UBT: “In Defense of Dating a Married Man”
- Jan 27 Should You Warn the Next One?
- Jan 26 Coming From a “Place of Rage” — or Lucidity?
- Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, He’s come out of the “fog” and wants us back
- Jan 22 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Term Queries
- Jan 21 A Public Service Announcement for Remorseless Cheaters
- Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, “I need to forgive the OW” — WTF?
- Jan 19 UBT: “Found Myself and Had an Affair”
- Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, I need to be needed
- Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in “Affair Fog”?
- Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t deal with her mindfuckery
- Jan 13 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t cope with the guilt” of who he is
- Jan 12 UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby
- Jan 11 Dear Chump Lady, Divorce and then date? Is this a good idea?
- Jan 8 Potty-Mouthed Infidelity Speak
- Jan 6 Don’t Date This Person
- Jan 6 And the Winner Is… Cheater Takes OW to Disneyland Instead of Kids
- Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, I let the OW get to me. Help.
- Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Can you please stop me begging for my marriage?
- Jan 1 Chump Resolutions 2016
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December 2015
- Dec 31 Family Therapy with Your Abuser — WTF?
- Dec 30 The Compassion Trap
- Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, How do I fix my picker?
- Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, He apologized to the OW for not leaving me
- Dec 25 Merry Meh-Mas
- Dec 24 Nice Vs. Kind
- Dec 23 We Could Be Friends!
- Dec 22 Situational Truth
- Dec 21 Reconsider? Let’s not
- Dec 18 Cheater Freak Christmas!
- Dec 17 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to date for dull to find decent?
- Dec 16 Dear Chump Lady, She hated my poem
- Dec 15 Single at the Holidays
- Dec 14 The “Anyone Could Cheat” Defense
- Dec 11 Leave a Cheater, Give a Refugee Kid a Christmas
- Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so angry with my ex?
- Dec 9 UBT: Adele’s “Hello”
- Dec 8 The Promise Land of Meh Town
- Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Woman and I feel a lot of guilt
- Dec 4 Chump Revolution? Buy This Book
- Dec 3 Dear Chump Lady, How can we challenge blameshifting therapists?
- Dec 2 UBT: “Other Men” Explain Their Affairs
- Dec 1 Dear Chump Lady, The “Other Woman” wrote me a letter…
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November 2015
- Nov 30 UBT: 7 Reasons Why Cheating Was Your Fault
- Nov 27 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
- Nov 26 Happy Thanksgiving!
- Nov 25 Old crazy? New tradition!
- Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
- Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman told me to read your blog…
- Nov 20 UBT: Mo’Nique’s Give Men a Pass for Cheating
- Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My mom is a serial cheater
- Nov 18 The Myth of the 50-50 Marriage
- Nov 17 UBT: “The Ethicist”
- Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Did he cheat because I confided my fears?
- Nov 16 Thoughts on Nihilism
- Nov 13 Debunking Monogamish
- Nov 12 The Cheater Work Ethic
- Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, “We never had sex anymore…”
- Nov 10 The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
- Nov 9 UBT OW: I Just Want to Reach Out and Help You!
- Nov 6 Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
- Nov 5 Cheater Mad Libs: How I Met My True Love Derrick
- Nov 4 Dear Chump Lady, I have a back-stabbing mother-in-law
- Nov 3 UBT: “I’m Not Trying to Be Dramatic.”
- Nov 2 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
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October 2015
- Oct 30 Deconstructing Frumpiness (and Chumpiness)
- Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
- Oct 28 A New Chump Credo
- Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
- Oct 26 Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is for Suckers
- Oct 23 That Unicorn Ran Off with Your Cash
- Oct 22 Write Your Own Cheater Click Bait
- Oct 21 The Pretzel Logic of the 180
- Oct 20 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts ME Too!”
- Oct 19 The Rock Bottom Remainders
- Oct 16 What Made You Leave a Cheater?
- Oct 15 Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
- Oct 14 UBT: Michelle Duggar’s Marriage Advice
- Oct 13 The “People Pleaser” Excuse
- Oct 12 Divorce? Hey, You’re Doing It All Wrong
- Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, My ex denies that he cheated. Others believe it.
- Oct 8 Where Does “Meh” Go When the OW Moves In Next Door?
- Oct 7 UBT: “How Having an Affair Saved My Life.”
- Oct 6 Dear Chump Lady, How can I help my mom forgive herself for being a chump?
- Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, I want them to know I know
- Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
- Oct 1 Potential Addiction
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September 2015
- Sep 30 UBT: “I’m unable to remain faithful to my perfect husband.”
- Sep 29 UBT: “It happened and it’s not my fault.”
- Sep 28 Leave a Cheater, Gain a Dog?
- Sep 26 And the Arts & Crafts winner is…
- Sep 25 Chump Lady Ages Into Another Birthday
- Sep 24 Early Wingnut Warning Signs
- Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, How do they flip so fast?
- Sep 21 Dear Josh, You’re a Chump
- Sep 20 Naming Abuse
- Sep 18 Arts and Crafts for Cheaters
- Sep 17 UBT: Cheaters didn’t know “what else” to do!
- Sep 16 Give Up on “Closure”
- Sep 15 A Guy Chump’s Tale from the Other Side
- Sep 14 UBT: “You don’t love me the way I need to be loved”
- Sep 11 Dump “Scorned” Already
- Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife wants me to go to therapy with her
- Sep 9 Etiquette for Mistresses?
- Sep 8 Character Assassination? Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down
- Sep 6 Be a Hellraiser, Not a Chump
- Sep 4 UBT: “Sometimes You Need to Betray the Social Order”
- Sep 3 UBT: “I Wasn’t Trying to Manipulate You”
- Sep 2 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
- Sep 1 Where’s Esther?
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August 2015
- Aug 31 UBT: “I Don’t Even Like Him”
- Aug 28 Time again for Jesus Cheaters
- Aug 27 Ashley Madison, You Saucy Minx
- Aug 26 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat.”
- Aug 25 Your Life Version 2.0
- Aug 24 The Good Advice Chumps Won’t Take… Now
- Aug 21 Infidelity Advice for the Newly Chumped?
- Aug 20 AM Genie Out of the Bottle
- Aug 19 The Data Hits the Fan
- Aug 18 Technology and Divorce: What you don’t know can hurt you financially
- Aug 17 Why Is It So Hard to Remember They Suck?
- Aug 16 What is the difference between cheaters and chumps?
- Aug 14 Worst Infidelity Advice?
- Aug 13 Is the Mid-Life Crisis Real?
- Aug 12 When Escape Is Your Best Option
- Aug 11 Welcome to the Dating Jungle
- Aug 10 How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Not Fall in Love with the Bomb
- Aug 8 State Rep Invents Gay Affair to Hide Real Affair
- Aug 7 Your Very Best Spackle, Please
- Aug 6 UBT: “Affairs are about opportunity.”
- Aug 5 What Is It With the Nannies?
- Aug 4 Honor Among Cheaters
- Aug 3 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is trying to pimp me out to strangers
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July 2015
- Jul 31 Time for a Mightiness Check In
- Jul 30 Your “It’s Not Okay” List
- Jul 29 A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
- Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, Divorce is more than I can deal with
- Jul 27 Take Back Your Power
- Jul 24 The Compassion Trap
- Jul 23 The Dead-Eyed Stare
- Jul 22 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do when my kids are with OW?
- Jul 21 The Helpless Other Woman
- Jul 20 Ashley Madison’s Data Held Hostage
- Jul 17 The Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
- Jul 16 Dear Chump Lady, Is this meh or did I just give up?
- Jul 14 Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
- Jul 14 Dear Chump Lady, How do I support my friend’s reconciliation?
- Jul 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater
- Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Why is she sorry NOW?
- Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, What made her so special?
- Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat
- Jul 7 Reconciliation Stories
- Jul 6 UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
- Jul 3 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t evict him from my head
- Jul 2 UBT: “The Most Common Mistakes Made By Betrayed Spouses in Recovering from an Affair”
- Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
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June 2015
- Jun 30 Affair Enablers
- Jun 29 The Narcissist Checklist
- Jun 26 Aspiring to Marriage
- Jun 26 Eat, Pray, Kibble
- Jun 25 You Don’t Need it THAT Bad
- Jun 24 Lyle Mitchell, Chump
- Jun 23 Dear Chump Lady, How do I heal my “kindness flaw”?
- Jun 22 Dear Chump Lady, Make nice with the OW… or else
- Jun 21 Happy Father’s Day!
- Jun 19 UBT: “Should I ask you for a handout?”
- Jun 18 Dear Chump Lady, The OW says she will “destroy” me
- Jun 17 Unconditional What?
- Jun 16 Parents Who Abandon
- Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly being nice?
- Jun 12 UBT: “I’m sorry you don’t love me.”
- Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m wondering if I did the right thing divorcing him?
- Jun 10 Most Pathetic Play for Kibbles?
- Jun 9 Why No Contact Works
- Jun 7 UBT: “My handling of your situation is beyond fault.”
- Jun 6 The Chump and the Psychic
- Jun 5 A Bad Day to Be Bobby Flay
- Jun 4 Dear Chump Lady, How come my boyfriends suck?
- Jun 3 So How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
- Jun 2 Interview with Dr. David Ley, author of “The Myth of Sex Addiction”
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May 2015
- May 31 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says I shouldn’t tell people he cheated
- May 31 Denny, We Hardly Knew You
- May 29 Leave a Cheater, Gain a Cat?
- May 28 UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
- May 27 Adult Friend Finder Is Hacked
- May 26 The Dreaded Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
- May 25 Happy Memorial Day
- May 23 Duggar Family Dysfunction
- May 22 The Full Life Circle of an OW
- May 21 UBT: “Affair Proofing” Your Marriage
- May 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do you get through the middle of leaving?
- May 19 Dear Chump Lady, What is it with cheaters and ennui?
- May 18 Kids and Affair Partners — The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich
- May 17 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
- May 15 What Dreams Did You Crush?
- May 14 Dear Chump Lady, Is It Okay to Fuck with His Head?
- May 13 Tiger Woods Cheated Again, Surprise!
- May 12 Announcing My New Book
- May 11 UBT: “I have the best sex with married men.”
- May 9 Happy Mother’s Day — Take a Single Mom to Lunch
- May 8 If You Don’t Take Her to Brunch, She’ll Have an Affair?
- May 7 UBT: “The explanations were never good enough.”
- May 6 UBT: “You’re not capable of forgiveness.”
- May 5 UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
- May 3 Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice
- May 1 Cheater Compares Herself to Martin Luther King, Jr.
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April 2015
- Apr 30 Craziest Thing They Asked for in the Divorce?
- Apr 29 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t decide”
- Apr 28 UBT: “There Are No Right Answers in the Aftermath of Infidelity”
- Apr 27 It’s “Complicated”
- Apr 26 Troll Compendium
- Apr 24 Bobby Betray
- Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, I just discovered that my mom cheated
- Apr 22 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
- Apr 21 Forgive $38K in Back Child Support?
- Apr 20 You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
- Apr 19 Happy Blog Birthday!
- Apr 17 You Might Be a Chump If…
- Apr 16 Surely You Must’ve Known
- Apr 15 Why Sleeping With Dean McDermott Is a Very Bad Idea
- Apr 14 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to host the OW’s kid?
- Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad. WTF?
- Apr 11 Seriously, Shayanna, Really?
- Apr 10 What’s Your Patronus?
- Apr 9 In Defense of Anger
- Apr 8 Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants us to be “One Big Happy Family”
- Apr 7 Nice vs. Kind
- Apr 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I help my friend move on?
- Apr 3 Financial Infidelity
- Apr 2 I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
- Apr 1 My Cheater, My House
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March 2015
- Mar 31 HGTV’s Hilary Farr, Queen of the Boundaries
- Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?
- Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, How do I manage weekly contact?
- Mar 26 The UBT Takes on Aimee
- Mar 25 Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
- Mar 24 The OW Were Not Amused
- Mar 23 “Slut Shaming” the Other Woman
- Mar 21 Red Flags You Were With a Cheater?
- Mar 20 Monica Lewinsky, The Poorest of Sausages
- Mar 19 Affairs Save Marriages
- Mar 18 Australian Ad Board Finds Ashley Madison Ad Discriminatory to Women
- Mar 16 When Affair Partners Marry
- Mar 15 Why Did You Leave?
- Mar 13 Why Did You Stay?
- Mar 12 Dear Beyonce
- Mar 11 Is “Sex Addiction” Real?
- Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, My teenagers blame me
- Mar 9 Pain Shopping?
- Mar 6 Cheaters Who’ve Got Game
- Mar 5 Toxic Shame — Or Just Being a Jerk?
- Mar 4 Enough with Divorce Shame
- Mar 3 Dissolving the Ego
- Mar 2 Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word
- Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, How can I stay the course?
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February 2015
- Feb 28 Some Good News in a Wicked World
- Feb 27 UBT My Husband’s Craigslist Ad
- Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, The Zoloft Isn’t Helping
- Feb 25 How To Leave Someone, How to Be Left
- Feb 24 Please Don’t Take Their Word for It
- Feb 23 The UBT Takes On Mother-In-Laws
- Feb 20 80 Rosebushes and Other Chump Manias
- Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
- Feb 18 UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
- Feb 17 Being the Marriage Police
- Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, How could he turn into a completely different person?
- Feb 14 And the Winners of the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest Are…
- Feb 13 Help Annabel Go to School
- Feb 12 UBT: Maybe Our Problem Is We Work Too Well Together
- Feb 11 Stupid Shit Cake Eaters Say
- Feb 10 Dear Chump Lady, Do I just like drama?
- Feb 9 Don’t Need It That Bad
- Feb 8 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I didn’t care
- Feb 6 Tiffany Glass Windows
- Feb 5 Cheater Goggles
- Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, How do I break through to her?
- Feb 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all work from the same script?
- Feb 1 The Third Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest!
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January 2015
- Jan 30 The “Plan B” Offer
- Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m due to give birth and found him sexting…
- Jan 28 Don’t Ask Amy
- Jan 27 What Did You Do That You’ve Never Done Before?
- Jan 26 Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
- Jan 23 What Would You Tell Yourself at D-Day?
- Jan 22 Don’t Judge Me
- Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants a polyamorist marriage
- Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, I found my cheating dad’s homemade porn
- Jan 19 Dear Chump Lady, My ex is trying to bully me into 50/50 custody
- Jan 17 Sparkly Shoes and Orphan Update
- Jan 16 Chumpfetti, or How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
- Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, What do I make of this “goodbye letter” from my ex?
- Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, “I couldn’t forgive a mistake.”
- Jan 13 Chump Lady Talks to Her Trolls Today
- Jan 12 Can Affair Relationships Last? Are You Super, Duper Special?
- Jan 10 Twelve Days of Cheater Freakiness
- Jan 9 “Eat Your Pudding” and Other Sexy Affair Utterances
- Jan 8 You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
- Jan 7 How Not to Be a Cheater?
- Jan 6 Leveling the Financial Playing Field on Your Way Out the Door
- Jan 5 More Mightiness!
- Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, My wife is a serial cheater.
- Jan 2 Dear Chump Lady, Where do you find the strength?
- Jan 1 Roto-Rooter and the Dawn of a New Year
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December 2014
- Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, How do I leave without him getting violent?
- Dec 30 Dear Chump Lady, 2×4 me. I slept with my ex.
- Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why should I agree to divorce him?
- Dec 27 Chump Encouragement from the Other Side
- Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, Still kind of stuck…
- Dec 25 Merry Christmas!
- Dec 24 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
- Dec 23 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like… Infidelity
- Dec 21 Searching for Meaning in Ambiguity
- Dec 21 Operation Sparkly Shoes
- Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, What did you do on the anniversary of your D-Day?
- Dec 18 Don’t Let Them Steal Another Day
- Dec 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a statute of limitations on this chump thing?
- Dec 16 How Pretty Did You Dance?
- Dec 15 Being Anti-Cheating Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Sex Positive
- Dec 14 Dear Chump Lady, Lack of melatonin made him cheat
- Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my chumpy friend to wise up?
- Dec 11 Double-Decker Holiday Shit Sandwiches
- Dec 10 When Cheaters Do Therapy… Some Precautions
- Dec 9 Man Busts Cheating Woman at Detroit Lions Game
- Dec 8 Cheater Freak Christmas Contest!
- Dec 6 Dear Chump Lady, He’s moved on. I haven’t.
- Dec 5 Come Back to Us, Dean!
- Dec 5 At Last! New Serverdom!
- Dec 4 Dear Chump Lady, Seeing prostitutes makes for good parenting? WTF?
- Dec 3 Jesus Cheaters
- Dec 2 Don’t Date This Person
- Dec 1 Dear Chump Lady, I put her through med school. She put me through hell.
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November 2014
- Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, “31 and can’t start my life over”
- Nov 28 Dear Chump Lady, I just need to hear her say she’s sorry
- Nov 27 Happy Thanksgiving!
- Nov 26 The New I Do WTFever Makes Me Happy
- Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, The cheaters live next door…
- Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, My daughter wants to show me pictures of the OW
- Nov 24 Chump Lady Video!
- Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, Am I looking at this the wrong way?
- Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, My dad is a narcissist
- Nov 20 Designated Server Doom!
- Nov 20 Site Down, Check Twitter for Updates
- Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My sister blames me for my husband’s affair
- Nov 18 Best Chump Retorts?
- Nov 16 Esther Perel Should STFU
- Nov 15 And the Cake Winners Are…
- Nov 14 Sugar Babies Saving Marriages?
- Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to spend the holidays with my cheating ex
- Nov 12 Talk Cake to Me
- Nov 11 But I Always Come Back to You
- Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of spontaneous “confessions”?
- Nov 9 Buy an Orphan a Book or Some Sparkly Shoes
- Nov 8 Dear Chump Lady, My wife had an affair with her therapist
- Nov 7 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
- Nov 6 Life Post-Cheater — What Did You Change?
- Nov 5 The Cure for Cheating — Plastic Surgery? WTF?
- Nov 4 Blame a Chump, Save a Unicorn
- Nov 3 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
- Nov 2 Christie Brinkley vindicated?
- Nov 2 And the winner is….!
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October 2014
- Oct 31 Cheater Halloween Contest!
- Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Santa isn’t visiting his crappy apartment
- Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind?
- Oct 28 What Would You Do If You Got This Letter?
- Oct 27 Still Tweaking the Site, Bear with Me
- Oct 26 Dear Chump Lady, He fooled me, he fooled my daughter
- Oct 25 Dean McDermott “I’m Not the First Person to Ever Cheat”
- Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to remain friends?
- Oct 22 Bear With the Site Wigginess
- Oct 22 Eat, Pray, Forgive? WTF?
- Oct 21 Trickle Truth, It’s Neither Trickle Nor Truth
- Oct 19 Dear Chump Lady, My dad is cheating on his girlfriend
- Oct 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m working with the OW
- Oct 17 There’s Going to Be Some Changes Around Here…
- Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
- Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, Is “True Tori” a Good Thing?
- Oct 14 Dear Chump Lady, I cheated on my husband
- Oct 13 Worst Infidelity Advice Ever
- Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
- Oct 10 Season 2 of True Tori… Why?
- Oct 9 Are There Circumstances When an Affair Is Not Immoral?
- Oct 7 How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
- Oct 6 Don’t Send It. Three Reasons Why.
- Oct 6 Spackle & Spackle Associates
- Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, Am I selfish for wanting a divorce?
- Oct 3 The Benevolent OW
- Oct 2 Chump Kids
- Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, How badly will this screw up my kids?
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September 2014
- Sep 29 The Ones Who Just Leave
- Sep 28 Dear Chump Lady, He started cheating the first month we dated
- Sep 26 Debunking “Monogamish”
- Sep 25 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
- Sep 24 Dear Chump Lady, The OW calls me for advice!
- Sep 23 There’s No Excuse for Cheating… But Here Are 7 Reasons Why It’s Your Fault
- Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I was strong like you guys
- Sep 20 Even Honey Boo Boo’s Mom Can Leave a Cheater
- Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, I was okay… until he got a new boyfriend
- Sep 18 So What Do You Call Them?
- Sep 17 Dear Chump Lady, The OW signs my child support checks
- Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, She’s having an affair with her boss
- Sep 15 Dreadful Cheater Holidays
- Sep 13 Poor Mark Sanford
- Sep 12 Don’t Need It That Bad
- Sep 11 Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
- Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, How did you experience the stages of grief?
- Sep 9 Dear Chump Lady, Am I “bitter” if I tell people she cheated?
- Sep 9 Chump Lady Is Back… and Morphing
- Sep 8 Gah! Glitches! Damn you Word Press!
- Sep 8 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
- Sep 6 Dear Chump Lady, I’m trying to divorce in India. What should I do?
- Sep 5 Chump Lady Gets a Letter
- Sep 4 Dear Chump Lady, Who gets the friends?
- Sep 3 50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
- Sep 1 The Mindfuck Channel Only Has Three Stations
- Sep 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
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August 2014
- Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, My fiancé is friends with a nest of cheaters
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, Got close to meh, and then… boom.
- Aug 28 Dear Chump Lady, I’m meeting his bitch-ass lawyer
- Aug 27 Create Some Fake Credentials for Chump Lady!
- Aug 26 Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
- Aug 25 It’s not an affair! It’s an act of “exuberant defiance.”
- Aug 23 Mistress Greeting Cards… Really.
- Aug 22 They’re Not “Wayward”
- Aug 21 Confessions of a Better Sort of Cheater
- Aug 20 Dear Chump Lady, Did you take the drugs? Did they help?
- Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, Is a “morality clause” insane?
- Aug 18 This Monogamist’s Take on Orgies
- Aug 16 Cheater Word Salad
- Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, She wants to apologize for cheating on me
- Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
- Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is sex addiction a myth?
- Aug 11 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
- Aug 10 A Public Service Announcement for Chumps?
- Aug 8 A Serial Cheater’s Relationship “Advice”
- Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, What can I do about her smear campaign?
- Aug 6 Chump Lady Answers Her Search Term Questions
- Aug 5 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?
- Aug 4 Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
- Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, I want the satisfaction of a confrontation
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July 2014
- Jul 31 Time for More MIGHTINESS
- Jul 30 Why Did Daddy Leave Us? Because Daddy Is an Asshole
- Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why did he come back if only to hurt me?
- Jul 28 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
- Jul 27 Forgiveness Troll Says Take a Survey
- Jul 25 An Imperfect Beginning?
- Jul 25 Hello from BlogHer
- Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, The hope still gets me
- Jul 22 BlogHer, Trolls, and Other News
- Jul 22 And the Bitch Cookie Goes to…!
- Jul 21 Better the Devil You Know?
- Jul 19 Dear Chump Lady, He never told his adult kids their mom cheated
- Jul 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’d have never met her — if I’d only been better?
- Jul 16 Beware Jesus Cheaters… There’s a New Blog in Town
- Jul 15 Making Character Cool?
- Jul 14 When Your Cheater Is a Sicko
- Jul 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there any way back from an emotional affair?
- Jul 11 The Kindle Version of the CL Survival Guide to Infidelity is Available
- Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, Am I divorcing too soon?
- Jul 11 Dr. George Simon Interviews Chump Lady
- Jul 10 If You Thought I Was That Sort of Person, You Shouldn’t Be With Me
- Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, My husband was using prostitutes
- Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, My cheater wants to live in my basement
- Jul 6 The Pretzel Logic of the 180
- Jul 5 Trapped in a Cabin with Tori
- Jul 4 Happy Independence Day! Let Reason Be Your Oracle
- Jul 2 What Gift Do You Give a Cheater?
- Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, I have to paternity check my kids
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June 2014
- Jun 29 Reconciliation — What did you try? What did you buy?
- Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m dating a ‘cheater apologist’
- Jun 28 Chump Nation Number One!
- Jun 27 The Chump Cloak of Invisibility
- Jun 27 Ta-DA! It’s for sale!
- Jun 26 Dear Chump Lady, What kind of person DOES this?
- Jun 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
- Jun 24 The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
- Jun 23 My Cheater Is an Eagle Scout
- Jun 22 Dear Chump Lady, He wants an open marriage
- Jun 20 Yes I Am a Chump
- Jun 18 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband and my father are both cheaters
- Jun 17 Real Love. The Antidote to Douchieness.
- Jun 17 Woe! “Marriage is a bed sheet that can never be straightened.”
- Jun 16 The “School of Life” Can Bite Me. Part 1
- Jun 15 Who Did You Become While Married to a Cheater?
- Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Abandoned while pregnant, should he pay support?
- Jun 12 Joseph’s Letter? Return to Sender
- Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, Reconciling from his emotional affair is not working
- Jun 10 Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
- Jun 9 Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
- Jun 8 Dear Chump Lady, I suspect an affair
- Jun 6 The Exceedingly Un-special Tori Spelling
- Jun 5 Men Cheat Because Women ‘Feminize’ Them… Says Idiot
- Jun 4 Did the Tree of Karma Fall on Your Cheater?
- Jun 3 Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t want me, so why hold up the divorce?
- Jun 2 Why Do We Over Share?
- Jun 1 I’m on to you!
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May 2014
- May 31 Over Sharing and Chumpdom
- May 30 When Tattooing His Penis Just Isn’t Enough
- May 29 Owning Your Chumpiness
- May 28 Dear Chump Lady, Should I trust him again?
- May 27 Anyone want to be on a HuffPo video panel?
- May 26 Cheaters, You’re Not Entitled to Reconciliation
- May 25 A Different Kind of Memorial Day
- May 24 Potty Mouth Day
- May 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
- May 22 When Splendid People Cheat
- May 21 “How Affairs Make My Marriage Stronger”
- May 20 Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
- May 18 How Do You Trust Again?
- May 17 I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away
- May 16 How Did You Find Out?
- May 15 When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
- May 14 Why Women Cheat?
- May 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t she give up?
- May 12 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I stuck?
- May 11 Happy Mother’s Day!
- May 10 Dear Chump Lady, What’s your take on religious OW?
- May 9 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
- May 9 And the Golden Sleeping Bag Goes to…
- May 8 Imitation is the highest form of flattery…
- May 8 And the Cheater Affliction Award Goes to…
- May 7 Shame! It’s Like an Icepick through Your Head!
- May 6 All the Good Ones Are Gone
- May 4 Dear Chump Lady, How do you get out of limbo?
- May 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I think my marriage still has a shot… when it doesn’t?
- May 2 What Are You Taking Back?
- May 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles the Magnificent Personality-Changing Dry-Drunk Unicorn?
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April 2014
- Apr 30 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to tolerate the OM around my kids?
- Apr 29 Nice vs. Kind
- Apr 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is it wrong to have feelings for my friend’s wife?
- Apr 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is every cheater mentally ill?
- Apr 24 Dear Chump Lady, Sympathy for the OW?
- Apr 23 Lillias White Will Cure What Ails You
- Apr 23 Cyberstalking, Bullies, and Censorship
- Apr 22 Dear Chump Lady, My kids have never met the OW
- Apr 20 When Unicorns Meet Ashley Madison…
- Apr 19 Bitter Bunnies for Easter…
- Apr 18 The Forgiveness Trolls
- Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I’d filed
- Apr 17 Translating Other Woman-ese
- Apr 16 So Sad When Cheater Loves Goes Bad
- Apr 15 Stupidest Blameshifting You Got?
- Apr 14 Why You Can’t “Nice” People Out of Affairs
- Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is cyberstalking me
- Apr 12 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a cheater?
- Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t know the OW ratted him out
- Apr 10 Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
- Apr 9 Whore My Blog Around Please
- Apr 9 “You Create Your Own Pain.” Yeah, right…
- Apr 8 Jesus Cheaters in the News
- Apr 7 Translating Cheater-ese
- Apr 6 Chump-to-Chump Get Togethers, Anyone?
- Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I need to hear her say she was wrong
- Apr 3 Dear Chump Lady, So what does a good relationship look like?
- Apr 2 ‘Chump Son’ Passes Away
- Apr 2 Good Shrink, Bad Shrink
- Apr 1 Sing Like a Bird?
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March 2014
- Mar 31 Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the OW
- Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, I have cancer. But the OW “suffers.”
- Mar 29 How Did You Get Unstuck?
- Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, Do I get revenge through the media?
- Mar 27 Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
- Mar 26 Dear Chump Lady, Son wants me to be friends with my ex
- Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, I still want to call him
- Mar 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep them from picking me?
- Mar 23 Dear Chump Lady, He says my insecurity made him cheat
- Mar 22 Prayers Needed for Chump Son
- Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe I was a bad wife?
- Mar 20 Cheap Shit Cheaters Do
- Mar 19 “But He’s Really A Nice Guy”
- Mar 18 Cosmic Signs You’re a Chump
- Mar 17 Dear Chump Lady, I feel guilty for divorcing her
- Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my boyfriend was a cheater after he died
- Mar 14 Some Language on Language
- Mar 13 Visiting Unicorns
- Mar 12 Dear Chump Lady, I think my story is unique…
- Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, Unicorns are real
- Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats
- Mar 7 You Might Be a Chump If…
- Mar 6 The Hail Mary Play for Kibbles
- Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, He left to go “find himself”
- Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m pregnant
- Mar 3 Please Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
- Mar 2 Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
- Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I reach out to his ex-wife?
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February 2014
- Feb 28 The Condescension of Other Women
- Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
- Feb 26 Talent and Fuckupedness
- Feb 25 Love Without Respect
- Feb 24 Dear Chump Lady, I just can’t seem to pull the plug
- Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, Can I pull a prank on the OW for revenge?
- Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just sexting
- Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get to “meh” in a world full of cheaters?
- Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, The kids are starting to ask questions
- Feb 18 Infidelity Science
- Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex wants to take a family vacation together
- Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my friend to stop being a chump?
- Feb 14 And the winner of the Valentine’s Day Contest is….
- Feb 13 Dear Chump Lady, Am I the Only One?
- Feb 12 Dear Chump Lady, Can I destroy the OW, please?
- Feb 11 Dear Chump Lady, He butt dialed me from the OW’s
- Feb 9 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
- Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, Now that I’m done, he’s “ill”
- Feb 6 My ex is a fuck up. I don’t want my kids to be fuck ups too.
- Feb 5 Dear Chump Lady, Is pornography infidelity?
- Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is really “the one” and I’m not
- Feb 3 Making the Marriage a “Good Place to Be” and Other Reconciliation Nonsense
- Feb 2 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry
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January 2014
- Jan 31 The Second Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
- Jan 30 Dear Chump Lady, Please explain the paralysis
- Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, My ex gave me an STD
- Jan 28 A New Interview with Dr. George Simon
- Jan 28 Narcissist Dads
- Jan 27 Narkles
- Jan 26 Dear Chump Lady, What did I do to make her leave me?
- Jan 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I survive day to day?
- Jan 24 Chump Lady’s Conspiracy Theory on Divorce Shame
- Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, I’m confused, well sorta
- Jan 22 A Word about Reconciliation
- Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, I’m just the dog sitter
- Jan 21 The Affliction of Being Single
- Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, I’m not a lesbian
- Jan 19 Why I Can’t Care About Philandering French Presidents
- Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, My son keeps confronting his cheating father
- Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’s threatening me with defamation of character
- Jan 16 FaceBook Is Not Helping You Move On
- Jan 14 Tell Me How You’re Mighty
- Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump in the making
- Jan 13 Escape Tips
- Jan 12 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
- Jan 10 Going No Contact. And Staying No Contact.
- Jan 9 Dear Chump Lady, She’s a cake eater. And gay.
- Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, Is the OW a Dominatrix?
- Jan 7 When Cheaters Give Infidelity Advice
- Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, I made a fool out of myself
- Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, He says the cheating had ‘nothing to do with me’
- Jan 1 Get Over It
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December 2013
- Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a decent man with a series of unfortunate events?
- Dec 30 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with the folks who believe the disordered person?
- Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to be a bitter misogynist, but…
- Dec 26 How to Quit Things
- Dec 21 On the First Day of Christmas My Cheater Freak Gave to Me…
- Dec 20 Dear Chump Lady, He has a problem with women… but he’s working on it
- Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do with the presents?
- Dec 18 I Demand an Apology
- Dec 17 Reconsider Me? No, Please Don’t
- Dec 16 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
- Dec 15 Dear Chump Lady, I’m so mad at myself
- Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a middle path?
- Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
- Dec 11 Freak of the Week
- Dec 10 Naming It
- Dec 9 Dear Chump Lady, It’s my D-Day Anniversary
- Dec 9 Dear Chump Lady, Am I a chump for believing they were “just friends”?
- Dec 7 When Good People Have Affairs — a Smackdown
- Dec 6 Don’t Hate. It’s Bad Strategy.
- Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Sex after divorce?
- Dec 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m not finding peace
- Dec 3 A ‘Trust That They Suck’ Refresher Course
- Dec 2 Dear Chump Lady, Explain “poofing”
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November 2013
- Nov 30 Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
- Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront him about his emotional affair?
- Nov 28 Happy Thanksgiving!
- Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
- Nov 26 Dear Chump Lady, Bye Bye Cheater
- Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW. Do I give his wife the details?
- Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the Other Woman?
- Nov 22 A Better Class of Cheater?
- Nov 21 Grieving the Affair Partner… And Other Indignities
- Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like a sell out
- Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, She knew cheating was a deal breaker…
- Nov 18 What NOT to Say to a Friend Who’s Been Cheated on
- Nov 17 Dear Chump Lady, Gifts for my cheating ex from the kids?
- Nov 15 I Love You But I’m Not In Love with You
- Nov 14 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters feel the need to punish?
- Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a deeper reason behind cheating?
- Nov 12 The Holiday Season and Chumpdom
- Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, Hysterical bonding… WTF?!
- Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, When does it get better?
- Nov 8 Cheater Stories
- Nov 7 Enough with the Divorce Shame
- Nov 6 The “Upside” of Infidelity
- Nov 5 Dear Chump Lady, I never exposed his affair
- Nov 3 Dear Chump Lady, I know exactly what to do. I can’t seem to do it.
- Nov 2 Lost Unicorn
- Nov 2 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his wife I was cheating with her husband?
- Nov 1 She’s a Home Wrecker
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October 2013
- Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone get it?
- Oct 30 Why? Why? Why? Closure!
- Oct 29 What Is This ‘Meh’ You Speak of?
- Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him another chance?
- Oct 26 Chump Dating Questionnaire
- Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in romantic love?
- Oct 24 Spiffy new site improvements…
- Oct 24 This Is What You Missed, You Idiot
- Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, Is it possible to be too meh?
- Oct 22 Dear Chump Lady, Did I do a bad thing?
- Oct 21 Situational Truth
- Oct 19 A Million Hits!
- Oct 18 In Praise of Good Men
- Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, How can I trust my cheater again?
- Oct 15 7 Reasons I Don’t Accept Rielle Hunter’s Apology
- Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say?
- Oct 14 A Polyamorist Speaks Out
- Oct 14 Five Life Lessons from New Orleans
- Oct 10 Rock Throwers vs.Tiffany Glass Windows
- Oct 10 Dear Chump Lady, Did you have a defining moment?
- Oct 9 Monogamy Is Not the Problem
- Oct 7 It Takes Three?
- Oct 7 Standing on Lies
- Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for a new chump?
- Oct 3 Dear Chump Lady, Can “meh” exist for a unicorn?
- Oct 3 Dear Chump Lady, Am I guilty of splitting too?
- Oct 2 Love, the All-Purpose Spackle
- Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, I’m ready to date. Now what?
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September 2013
- Sep 29 How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
- Sep 27 Dear Chump Lady, My friend is an OW
- Sep 27 And the winner of the Meh mug is…
- Sep 26 Dear Chump Lady, Why does it feel like he’s better than me?
- Sep 25 A Message of Hope from a Fellow Chump
- Sep 24 Cheating Is a Lot Like Obesity? WTF?
- Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t leave the cake eater
- Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, OW gives my kid ‘Grand Theft Auto’
- Sep 20 Best Curses Contest
- Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, What do you tell a 2-year old?
- Sep 18 Dear Chump Lady, But He’s Such a Nice Guy!
- Sep 17 Divorce Party, What Do You Think?
- Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, Should I tell his wife?
- Sep 13 What’s the Stupidest Lie You Bought?
- Sep 12 Early Wing Nut Warning Signs
- Sep 11 Dear Chump Lady, No one seems to know we’ve broken up
- Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, Should I push for full custody?
- Sep 9 How to Escape a Narcissist
- Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, Should I hold out for more money?
- Sep 6 And the winner of the Meh mug is….
- Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, When can I tell my in-laws the truth?
- Sep 3 So What Have You Done for YOU Lately?
- Sep 1 Your Best Resentments
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August 2013
- Aug 31 Dear Chump Lady, May I sext?
- Aug 30 Technology and Cheating
- Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just a “game”
- Aug 28 Oops, I Slept With Your Boyfriend
- Aug 27 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself with the OW?
- Aug 26 Dear Chump Lady, How can I keep the homewrecker away from my kids?
- Aug 25 The ‘Anti-Cheating Ring’
- Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, Can you cheat a cheater?
- Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, Can I date yet?
- Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband is on Match.com
- Aug 21 We Both Love You
- Aug 20 Hurt People Hurt People and Other Bullshit
- Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t meet him halfway…. literally
- Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, The AP wants my friends
- Aug 16 The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
- Aug 16 Chump Lady Has Computer Woes
- Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, I Live in Limbo
- Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, He wants to be FRIENDS?
- Aug 12 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is Chinese
- Aug 11 Don’t Be a Chump, Be a Hell Raiser
- Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, Are they all this way?
- Aug 7 Narcissists Be Crazy!
- Aug 7 A comment on the comments
- Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him time to change?
- Aug 5 Cheaters and Misogyny/Misandry
- Aug 4 Remedial Chumpdom
- Aug 3 A Chump’s Cautionary Tale
- Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife is a SAHM
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July 2013
- Jul 31 An Inspiring Chump Letter
- Jul 30 Weiner Word Salad
- Jul 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’m second guessing myself
- Jul 29 The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fucktard
- Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, I want to rescue my friend
- Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, A home security system? WTF?
- Jul 26 Dear Chump Lady, I’m trapped financially
- Jul 26 Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!
- Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
- Jul 23 A Letter to Huma
- Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, Should we call cheaters out?
- Jul 22 On second thought
- Jul 21 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to my cheater?
- Jul 19 Reconciliation and Entitlement
- Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the other woman
- Jul 17 Dear Chump Lady, My wife won’t go to counseling
- Jul 16 Dear Chump Lady, Parental alienation and teenagers?
- Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Help me get my bad ass back
- Jul 14 Dear Chump Lady, Got any happy stories?
- Jul 12 Real Remorse? Or Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse?
- Jul 11 Musings on Giving a Shit
- Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
- Jul 9 Chump Lady Asks a Favor
- Jul 7 Dear Chump Lady, He coulda been a contender
- Jul 7 A Master Mindfucker
- Jul 5 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with a man-child?
- Jul 4 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell what she’s done?
- Jul 3 Close Encounters of the Affair Partner Kind
- Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, My mom is friends with my cheating ex
- Jul 1 You Are Not the Boss of Me
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June 2013
- Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t move out
- Jun 28 The Doctor Is a Quack!
- Jun 27 Dear Chump Lady, The OW means nothing to him. The OW means everything to him.
- Jun 26 Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX?
- Jun 25 Don’t Be Bitter
- Jun 24 Got a Revenge Story?
- Jun 23 Your Beautiful, Beautiful Brokenness
- Jun 20 Warning Signals
- Jun 19 The Fear That They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
- Jun 18 Kissing Your Abuser
- Jun 18 Three Marriages, One Name Change
- Jun 17 Dear Chump Lady, Please decode the cake
- Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, Happy Father’s Day. Or else.
- Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s my Meh?
- Jun 11 Write a Dating Profile for Your Ex
- Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, She cheated 49 days into our marriage. WTF?
- Jun 9 Psychotic Individualism and the Amish
- Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my mom to leave my cheater dad?
- Jun 6 The Flip Side of Resilience
- Jun 4 ‘Kids Are Resilient!’ and Other Things Cheaters Should Never Say
- Jun 3 Dear Chump Lady, Is No Contact the Only Way?
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May 2013
- May 31 How to Go No Contact
- May 30 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
- May 28 Kick Fear in the Ass and Laugh at Its Haircut
- May 24 What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
- May 22 The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
- May 21 Stupid Shit Pat Robertson Says
- May 20 Dear Chump Lady, The dreaded unicorns are trying to pull me back
- May 17 Are All Cheaters Created Equal?
- May 15 How To Leave a Scary Person
- May 14 A Public Service Announcement for Chumps
- May 13 Dear Chump Lady, How do I know what kind of person he is?
- May 13 Asshole Songs!
- May 10 This Mother’s Day? Take a Single Mom to Brunch
- May 9 Dear Chump Lady, Now she forgets?
- May 8 Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
- May 7 Escaping Monsters
- May 7 Types of Affair Partners
- May 5 New TV Series “Mistresses”
- May 4 Stupid Shit the Affair Partner Says
- May 3 Dear Chump Lady, He was my *best friend* — Now what?
- May 2 When Cheaters Forgive Themselves
- May 1 Stay Married to a Cheater… by Law
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April 2013
- Apr 30 Brushes with Sociopaths
- Apr 29 More Inspiration Monday
- Apr 28 Some Inspiration!
- Apr 26 Sex Addiction Is a “Blessing”
- Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, *Now* he wants to be an involved parent? WTF?
- Apr 24 Showcase a Narcissist! Mark Sanford
- Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, Are there cheaters who left no clues?
- Apr 22 Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
- Apr 21 Dear Chump Lady, Are all chumps created equal?
- Apr 19 Happy Anniversary ChumpLady.com!
- Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell my 3-year old?
- Apr 17 A Good Day for Love
- Apr 17 Stupid Shit Other People Say
- Apr 16 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit it?
- Apr 15 We Out Number You
- Apr 15 Being Thankful for Your Cheater
- Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, How do open up again emotionally?
- Apr 12 Rethinking Infidelity
- Apr 11 Chump Bait
- Apr 10 Sure Doesn’t Look Like Love…
- Apr 9 Dear Chump Lady, Is “Meh” forgiveness?
- Apr 7 The Compassion Trap
- Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, Complicated love rhombus…
- Apr 3 Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
- Apr 1 Cheating on the Pregnant, and Other Acts of Abandonment
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March 2013
- Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
- Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, What if they never really had sex?
- Mar 28 Get a Life
- Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is the sexless marriage a myth?
- Mar 26 Carolyn Hax Gives Dreadful Infidelity Advice… Again
- Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
- Mar 23 Grieving the Affair Partner, Don’t Make Any Decisions! and Other Nonsense
- Mar 22 Introducing — Chump Chat!
- Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, Does he really love the OW?
- Mar 20 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do about the RAGE?
- Mar 19 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an asshole for wanting to leave?
- Mar 18 Kids and the Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
- Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, How come I don’t feel like a success story?
- Mar 12 When Narcissists Get Chumped
- Mar 12 Ugly Artifact Discovered in Innocent Shed
- Mar 11 The Last Good Deed of Ed Murphy
- Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, Explain this guy…
- Mar 7 Living with Uncertainty
- Mar 6 Dear Chump Lady, How long must I be paranoid?
- Mar 6 Chump Lady Gets Hip to Social Media
- Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, Is She Just a Fuck Up?
- Mar 4 Don’t Reason with a Narcissist
- Mar 3 Boundaries. Does anyone have them?
- Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Not everyone who reconciles is pathetic
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February 2013
- Feb 28 Infidelity *Is* Abuse
- Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, My cheater promises to live like a “dog in a cage”
- Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, What about the one-time cheater?
- Feb 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry at the people who knew
- Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Any perspective for the other person?
- Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get past approval seeking?
- Feb 21 Stupid Cheater Moments
- Feb 20 Republican Senator Kept Son Secret for 35 Years… WTF Cheaters…
- Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, Please catalog icky cheater lyrics
- Feb 19 More craptacular advice, Part 2
- Feb 18 The very bad, no good infidelity advice you should reject… spit on… then set alight… and stomp on
- Feb 17 Dear Chump Lady, I am jealous!
- Feb 15 Homewrecker and Proud?
- Feb 14 And the winners are….
- Feb 14 Happy Valentine’s Day!
- Feb 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why be friends with cheaters?
- Feb 12 The Futility of ‘Affair-Proofing’
- Feb 11 Need some tunes to get you through?
- Feb 10 Dear Chump Lady, He’s been two-timing me… and her
- Feb 8 Bill + Shelley
- Feb 7 Infidelity Valentine’s Contest
- Feb 7 If You’re Really Sorry, Cheaters? Let Me Help You
- Feb 6 One Hell of a Work Ethic
- Feb 5 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid to tell him I want a divorce
- Feb 4 Part Four, Not Everything Is Pathological
- Feb 3 Don’t Throw Stones at Tiffany Glass Windows
- Feb 1 Dear Chump Lady, Arrrgh! No Contact!
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January 2013
- Jan 31 Part Three, Your Mother Was Right
- Jan 30 Part Two, When They Look Good on Paper
- Jan 29 Don’t Get Chumped Again, Part One
- Jan 28 A Reminder About the Chump Lady Manifesto
- Jan 26 Nugget O’ Insight
- Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell the kids?
- Jan 24 Got Anger?
- Jan 22 The Canard That Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem
- Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with the OW?
- Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for the spineless?
- Jan 19 Lance, A Cheater’s Cheater
- Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
- Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, Imagine this…
- Jan 16 Owning Your Chumpiness
- Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do you define cheating?
- Jan 13 Healing from Infidelity as Competitive Sport
- Jan 13 Dear Chump Lady, Should I go after child support?
- Jan 11 Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants to “be me”
- Jan 10 A New Monogamy?
- Jan 10 Shameless merchandising comes to Chump Lady
- Jan 9 A letter from a child of a cheater — Don’t stay together
- Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, What’s inside the mind of the OW?
- Jan 7 Financial Infidelity
- Jan 6 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters cry? And why do we fall for it?
- Jan 4 The Forgiveness Imperative
- Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cake eater?
- Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, How long do I wait this out?
- Jan 2 On Saying “Fuck”
- Jan 1 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his parents he is a cheater?
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2012
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December 2012
- Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
- Dec 29 You Could Be Friends!
- Dec 27 Dear Chump Lady, What part of her withering assessment of me should I own?
- Dec 26 When the Holidays Suck
- Dec 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does it stop hurting?
- Dec 22 Dear Chump Lady, More on how I got chumped as an OW…
- Dec 20 Was Gonna Come Around… Really
- Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, How could I have avoided being the OW?
- Dec 18 Trust That They Suck
- Dec 16 A moment out from our regularly scheduled programming…
- Dec 16 Near Beginnings
- Dec 14 The “B” Word
- Dec 13 When the Cheater Has a Personal Epiphany
- Dec 12 Do It for the Children
- Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, I’m sending myself an apology
- Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, What else can I do?
- Dec 6 A Spectrum of Chumps
- Dec 4 And Then the Cage Comes Down!
- Dec 2 The Psychopath Test
- Dec 1 Very Evolved People Who Stay Friends
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November 2012
- Nov 30 “Chump Chat” anyone?
- Nov 29 My Useless Masters Degree in African History Explains Infidelity
- Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, Revenge is a bad idea, right?
- Nov 26 Chump Lady FAQ
- Nov 23 Cheating and High Fructose Corn Syrup
- Nov 22 Things I’m Thankful for After Infidelity
- Nov 19 Deconstructing Frumpiness
- Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Please decode this
- Nov 15 A Public Service Announcement to Remorseless Cheaters
- Nov 13 Thank You Hater!
- Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still having sex with my STBX. What gives?
- Nov 10 Batshit Crazy OW Brings Down CIA Director
- Nov 9 Cheating in the Age of Technology
- Nov 7 Trust in the Good Times
- Nov 6 I Am Not a “Hippy Chick”
- Nov 5 Unpredictable Love
- Nov 3 Bridges of Bullshit
- Nov 2 The Power of Spackle
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October 2012
- Oct 31 Situational Truths
- Oct 30 Surely You Must Have Known
- Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is following your heart ever justified?
- Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, I still love the stupid fuck. Help.
- Oct 26 But what if the BS truly sucks?
- Oct 23 Chump Lady Blog Is on Huffington Post Today
- Oct 19 “We Grew Apart”
- Oct 18 Sux in the City
- Oct 18 A Dinesh of a Mess
- Oct 17 Hello from Minnesota
- Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, To Tell or Not to Tell
- Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, My boyfriend had an EA
- Oct 14 Chump Lady on HuffPo Again Talking About Jealousy
- Oct 12 They’re Not “Wayward”
- Oct 10 Marriage Counseling Quackery
- Oct 9 A Reluctant Cheerleader for Divorce
- Oct 3 Arnold Being Arnold
- Oct 2 Who’s Your Friend?
- Oct 1 Chump Lady Appears on Huffington Post Live
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September 2012
- Sep 28 “I, Cake Eater”
- Sep 26 Cheater Word Salad
- Sep 25 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
- Sep 24 Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
- Sep 23 Soft Vengeance
- Sep 21 How to Get Revenge on a Cheater
- Sep 20 Dear Chump Lady, What do you think about revenge affairs?
- Sep 18 Tinker, Tailor, Soldier… Oh just forget it
- Sep 17 “The Walls in Your House Sing Again”
- Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, What if my cheating wife comes back?
- Sep 13 Hate On Me, Hater
- Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I set boundaries with my kids about my ex?
- Sep 8 More Good Cheating Songs
- Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, Should I waste any more time in limbo?
- Sep 4 It’s All Very Complicated… You Wouldn’t Understand
- Sep 2 Dear Chump Lady, Is Sex Addiction a Myth?
- Sep 1 Sorry Is As Sorry Does
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August 2012
- Aug 31 “Not the Only Fool In Town”
- Aug 30 “It Wasn’t About You”
- Aug 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Man…
- Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, How Do I Move On?
- Aug 20 Dear Chump Lady, Can I Keep the OW Away from My Kids?
- Aug 8 How to Get Over a Broken Heart… Go to New Orleans
- Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, But I Took a VOW…
- Aug 1 Dear Abby Kicks Infidelity Ass
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July 2012
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June 2012
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May 2012
- May 31 An open letter to Dan Savage
- May 30 Dear Chump Lady, He’s worried about his girlfriend, WTF?
- May 30 How to Leave a Cheater
- May 28 Dear Chump Lady, She says she’s sorry…
- May 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
- May 22 I just discovered I was cheated on. Now what?
- May 22 What NOT to do
- May 3 A Spectrum of Cheaters
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April 2012
- Apr 28 Ego Kibbles
- Apr 23 The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
- Apr 19 The Unified Theory of Cake
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Thank you thank you thank you!!! I’ve just thrown my porn addict serial cheater husband out after finding pictures, texts, and literally thousands of screenshots of porn sites, some of which made my skin crawl. He’s doing the poor me, I’m an addict, I’m depressed and I need help dance. He’s also unemployed, has no car and was just diagnosed with kidney cancer.
He cheated 3 months after we got married, and at least 3 more times that I know of including while my father was in the ICU fighting for his life.
This site has become my sanity break. When I feel myself slipping into stupidity and starting to analyze his fucked upped Ness (did I mention I’m a psych nurse?), I come here, slap myself in the face with some reality, and refocus on taking care of myself and my autistic son.
Thank you Chump Lady
Hi all. Just doing a short essay for taught component of my Masters in Geography on LGBTIQ participants on Chump Lady. Can anyone help me quickly locate any letters from individuals whose sexual orientation is other than hetero? I have cited “Christopher’s” May 2016 letter, thank you so much Christopher – I hope you are doing well, but would love to hear from any lesbian or other sexual identities anyone can recall? Southern Shine has been suggested, anyone recall when, or can point me to her letter/comments? Many, many thanks in advance!