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2023
June 2023
Jun 5
She’s Having an Affair with Her ‘Work Husband’
Jun 2
The Royal ‘We’ Takes Credit
Jun 1
He Doesn’t Feel Sorry, He Just Feels ‘Bad’
May 2023
May 31
UBT: Tell Me How to Reconcile
May 30
UBT: ‘You Aren’t Discarded’
May 29
His Wife Didn’t Understand Him
May 26
Before D-Day, After D-Day
May 25
Ashley Madison Study Finds Cheaters Feel Happy
May 24
He Butt-Dialed Me from the OW’s
May 23
How Cheating Affects the Kids
May 22
UBT: My Spectacular Betrayal
May 19
Got Triggers?
May 18
Carl Lentz Cops to Being ‘Inappropriate’
May 17
UBT: The Most Common Mistakes Made by Betrayed Spouses in Recovering from an Affair
May 16
Friends with Your Ex Triumphalism
May 15
Tim Elliott, Chumped But Not Down
May 14
Chumpalooza Is On!
May 12
Holy False Equivalence, Bat Man
May 11
Untangling the Skein
May 10
UBT: I Don’t Remember Meeting Sex Workers
May 9
Elizabeth Holmes’ Latest Sucker
May 8
How Do I Survive Mother’s Day?
May 5
Mighty People You Didn’t Know Were Chumped
May 4
Women Regrets Divorcing Her Cheating Husband After Watching New Fatal Attraction
May 3
UBT: I Would Never Hurt You
May 2
Trust That They Suck
May 1
I Want the Flowers
April 2023
Apr 28
Cheater vs. Animal Karma Stories
Apr 27
I Have Cancer, But the OW ‘Suffers’
Apr 26
Doug Weiss and Joni Lamb’s Godly Engagment
Apr 25
UBT: Tim’s Review
Apr 24
UBT: ‘I’m Flabbergasted by the Narrative You Created’
Apr 21
How Did You Explain Your Split?
Apr 20
UBT: Humans of New York, Douchey Cheater
Apr 19
Chump Lady Turns 11!
Apr 18
Therapist Says Not to Tell People He Cheated
Apr 17
I Looked at My Boyfriend’s Tinder
Apr 14
What Were the Red Flags You Overlooked?
Apr 13
How to Get Over the Cruelness?
Apr 12
The Infidelity Fallacy of ‘Unmet Needs’
Apr 11
‘I’m Grieving the Lost Years’
Apr 10
UBT: ‘The Program Has Made Me a Safer Person’
Apr 7
The 3 Worst Things You Don’t Miss
Apr 6
Queen Camilla Dropped the ‘Consort’
Apr 5
UBT: ‘I Am Recovering From Fear’
Apr 4
The OW Left Him and I Don’t Know How I Feel
Apr 3
I Want to Out Him as a Cross-Dressing Cheater
March 2023
Mar 31
Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Boston Edition
Mar 30
Why Do People Help Cheaters Cheat?
Mar 29
‘I’m Considering Just Giving Up’
Mar 28
Shakira’s Ex Plans to ‘Keep Doing What I Want’
Mar 27
UBT: ‘I Do Not See Him As a Cheater’
Mar 24
Schmoopie Karma Stories?
Mar 23
The OW Is 6-Months Pregnant
Mar 22
Cheating Dentist Poisons Wife
Mar 21
She’s Sorry Now That She Cheated
Mar 20
UBT: ‘I Had a Moment of Weakness As a Fragile, Broken Human’
Mar 17
Every Bit of Lousy Reconciliation Advice
Mar 16
Don’t Stay For the Children
Mar 15
Why Isn’t She HAPPY Now?
Mar 14
Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?
Mar 13
5 Ways to Decode a Non-Apology Apology
Mar 10
What You Thought It Was vs. What It Really Was
Mar 9
I’m Angry At Myself For Not Leaving Sooner
Mar 8
Do You Believe in ‘Affair Fog’?
Mar 7
Alex Murdaugh, King of the Double Life
Mar 6
Why Won’t She Admit She’s Cheating on Me?
Mar 3
Real Monkey Love vs. Barbed Wire Monkeys
Mar 2
The Cheater Was My Best Friend And I Dumped Her
Mar 1
UBT: Affairs Can Be Self-Care
February 2023
Feb 28
Carolyn Hax’s ‘Bitter Woman’ Pile On
Feb 27
‘What I Did to HIM?’ DARVO
Feb 24
A Unicorn Ate My Facebook Page
Feb 23
What Do I Say to the People Who Knew?
Feb 22
UBT: Cheater Wants to Get Back Together With Ex-Wife After 20 Years
Feb 21
Sex Addict Therapist Douglass Weiss Gets Divorced
Feb 20
An Inconvenient Time for a D-Day
Feb 17
How Is Your Pet Better Than Your Ex?
Feb 16
When You Need Cheater Twu Luv to Fail
Feb 15
Chumps and Beards and an OurPath Podcast
Feb 14
UBT: The Heart Wants John Tory in Office
Feb 13
DNA Test Reveals Cheating Ex Had More Kids
Feb 10
Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry
Feb 9
We Had a Good Life — Why Did He Cheat?
Feb 8
‘He’s Moved On. I Haven’t.’
Feb 7
Do It Yourself Divorce — Good Idea or Not?
Feb 6
UBT: ‘Schoompie Wants the Scoop-y’ on Chump’s Dead Husband
Feb 3
How Many People Knew and Didn’t Tell You?
Feb 2
Looking Back and Marveling at the Spackle
Feb 1
The OW Calls Me for Advice
January 2023
Jan 31
Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes Get Canned for Workplace Affair
Jan 30
Parasitic Boyfriend Won’t Leave
Jan 27
What Did You Learn from Being Chumped?
Jan 26
He’s Checked Out for OnlyFans
Jan 25
I Feel Stronger Breaking Up This Time
Jan 24
Is Every Cheater Mentally Ill?
Jan 23
UBT: ‘I Like Me. A Lot.’
Jan 22
UK Chump Meetup?
Jan 20
Stupid Cheater Lame Excuses
Jan 19
Child Support Enforcement Can Bite Me
Jan 18
Why Is My Ex Stonewalling Me?
Jan 17
UBT: ‘I’m in a Good Place Now’
Jan 16
Shakira’s Epic Takedown of Her Ex
Jan 13
Singing Walls and Dementia
Jan 12
Don’t Tell Me to Leave Him
Jan 11
Debunking Dan Savage
Jan 10
UBT: The OW Sends a Self-Help Book
Jan 9
Shakira v. Schmoopie: The Timeline
Jan 6
‘The Ballad of Chump Nation’
Jan 5
The ‘Side Chik’ — Krystal Hamburger’s Moronic Ad Campaign
Jan 4
Divorce Is ‘More Than I Can Deal With’
Jan 3
The Other Woman Is a Therapist
Jan 2
Be Free, Unfold the Swans
2022
December 2022
Dec 30
Where Are You Now?
Dec 29
UBT: You Encouraged My Wife to Leave Me
Dec 28
She Left Me for a Downgrade. Was I THAT Bad?
Dec 27
The OW Calls Herself a Feminist
Dec 26
UBT: The OW Who Just Wants to Help
Dec 23
A Golden Retriever, Pine Cone Elf, Merry Christmas Miscellany
Dec 22
How Can I Help Son Reconcile with His Cheater Dad?
Dec 21
How Do You Ask for a Divorce?
Dec 20
Ex-Wife’s Affair Timeline Doesn’t Add Up
Dec 19
I Regret Unfriending My Cheating Ex
Dec 16
What Did You Reclaim? How Did You Reclaim It?
Dec 15
UBT: I Am The Other Woman
Dec 14
Toxic MIL Pushes Mediation ‘For The Children’
Dec 13
UBT: How Do I Handle the Death of My Secret Lover?
Dec 12
She Said If I Was French I’d Accept the Cheating
Dec 9
What Dreams of Happiness Did You Crush?
Dec 8
Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
Dec 7
Womp, Womp Consequences for T.J. Holmes and Amy Robach
Dec 6
Helen Skelton Living Her Best Life After Being Chumped
Dec 5
Strategies to Protect Against Mentally Unstable OW?
Dec 2
The Crazy Synchronicity of Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes
Dec 1
UBT: Bad Cheater Poetry
November 2022
Nov 30
Advice on Confronting Dead Cheater’s Schoompie?
Nov 29
UBT: A Million Dollars to Reconcile
Nov 28
Should I Sleep With My Ex?
Nov 25
Cheating Songs That Drive You Nuts?
Nov 24
How to Survive Solo Holidays
Nov 23
UBT: I Am a Broken Empty Person Searching for Meaning Before I Die
Nov 22
Took Him Back, Now He’s Cheating with His Boss
Nov 21
7 Ways Elon Musk Is Your Average Dime Store Narcissist
Nov 18
Stupid Things Cheaters Say After D-Day?
Nov 17
I Told Her He Cheated and She Married Him Anyway
Nov 16
UBT: I Always Felt Trapped
Nov 15
Trying to Divorce When the Cheater Won’t Move Out
Nov 14
I Don’t Want to Spend Holidays with My Ex
Nov 11
A Veteran’s Day Salute to Military Chumps and Spouses
Nov 10
Debunking Why Happy People Cheat
Nov 9
Woman Gets $7 Million in Infidelity Post-Nup Clause
Nov 8
Why Is He Copying Me?
Nov 7
Do Cheaters Disguise Themselves As Addicts?
Nov 4
How Did You Deal with the Anger of Being Chumped?
Nov 3
Alain de Botton Can Bite Me
Nov 2
UBT: Why HER?
Nov 1
Esther Perel Can Bite Me
October 2022
Oct 31
Heart Broken: Take a Beta Blocker?
Oct 28
What Did You Unknowingly Do for the OW/OM?
Oct 27
Everyone Tells Me He’s Not a Bad Person
Oct 26
Stupid Things People Say to Chumps
Oct 25
My Family Wants Me to Support My Cheating Brother
Oct 24
When Schmoopie Is a Public Figure
Oct 21
What Schmoopie Thought They Were Getting vs. What They Got
Oct 20
My Friend Thinks I Should Be Nicer to the Other Woman
Oct 19
How Do I Know When I’m Done?
Oct 18
Olivia Wilde’s Cheating Timeline Busted?
Oct 17
I Thought We Were Monogamous. She Thought We Were Polyamorous.
Oct 14
Did You Spackle?
Oct 13
Do You Think ‘Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater’?
Oct 12
Caught Him Cheating via the Doggy Cam
Oct 11
UBT: Should I feel guilty about 25 years of cheating?
Oct 10
Should I Reach Out to the OW?
Oct 7
Your Chump Friendships
Oct 6
UBT: ‘It Has Nothing to Do with You’
Oct 5
The Rise and Fall of Wife Guys
Oct 4
Need a Response to ‘His Cheating Had Nothing to Do with the Kids’
Oct 3
He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily
September 2022
Sep 30
Worst Gift Ever?
Sep 29
UBT: Other Woman Doesn’t Want the “Mistress” Label
Sep 28
UBT: The Children Made Me Cheat
Sep 27
Why Does My Cheating-Ex Show Off Around Me?
Sep 26
A Puppy and a Middle-Aged Birthday
Sep 23
And the Saddest Sausage Goes to…
Sep 22
It’s Different. He’s Been to Therapy.
Sep 21
Adam Levine Suggests Naming His Child After His Mistress
Sep 20
UBT: Dr. Keith Ablow “Infidelity Is a Lousy Reason to End a Marriage”
Sep 19
Long Distance Relationships and Double Lives
Sep 16
How Did You Mentally Survive Infidelity?
Sep 15
How Do I Get My Cheating Wife to Reconcile with Me?
Sep 14
UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
Sep 13
When the Cheater Is in the Family
Sep 12
Camilla Queen Consort
Sep 9
Chump Epiphanies?
Sep 8
UBT: ‘I Had an Affair And Now My Kids Won’t Forgive Me’
Sep 7
He Claims He Just Sexts and Never Meets
Sep 6
He Cheated Me and His Employer
Sep 5
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Sep 2
Stress of Staying in a Toxic Relationship
Sep 1
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Bradley Cooper
August 2022
Aug 31
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Aug 30
UBT: ‘I Will Return With a Fuller Love’
Aug 29
How Do I Help My Chumped Son?
Aug 26
Cringey Cheater Profundities
Aug 25
Why Is the Cheater Living His Best Life And I Am Not?
Aug 24
UBT: Sad Sausage Poetry
Aug 23
Chumped with a Cheating Friend
Aug 22
Woman Outs Cheater in Aussie Newspaper
Aug 19
Any Regrets Leaving a Cheater?
Aug 18
UBT: ‘I in no way want be looked at as a home wrecker’
Aug 17
She Won’t Leave Her Cheater
Aug 16
Only Fools Break Tiffany Glass Windows
Aug 15
Michelle Branch Arrested for Slapping Cheating Husband
Aug 12
What’s Your Ex’s Name on Your Cell Phone?
Aug 11
Schmoopie Dumped Him, He Blames the Kids
Aug 10
Olivia Newton John’s Unwavering Positivity
Aug 9
UBT: ‘Give Me Some Clarity’
Aug 8
How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Aug 5
Tell Me About Your Boundaries
Aug 4
The ‘I’m Sorry, We Good?’ Play
Aug 3
How Do They Flip So Fast?
Aug 2
Five Months Pregnant and He Announces He’s Getting His ‘Needs’ Met Elsewhere
Aug 1
Uber Driver Busts Jesus Cheater Legislators?
July 2022
Jul 29
How Much Did You Spend on Reconciliation?
Jul 28
I Need to Know the OW’s Identity
Jul 27
The Elon Musk Super Douche Affair
Jul 26
What If He Changes for the OW?
Jul 25
Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat
Jul 22
You Might Be a Cheater If…
Jul 21
Jennifer Lopez Marries New and Improved Ben Affleck
Jul 20
UBT: Don’t Give Up on Me
Jul 19
UBT: I Am Not In Control
Jul 18
UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
Jul 15
Ever Run Into an Affair Partner?
Jul 14
He Runs Me Down to Our Daughter
Jul 13
‘My Husband Wants to Date’
Jul 12
UBT: Destroying Marriages to Improve Them
Jul 11
UBT: ‘Please Send Me the Money’
Jul 8
Cheating Father Gets Unvarnished Obituary
Jul 7
‘She Refuses to Understand We Are Over’
Jul 6
Husband Uses Massage Parlors
Jul 5
Ex Insists Their Son Call OW ‘Mummy’
Jul 4
A Chump Declaration of Independence
Jul 1
Defending Incomprehensible Life Choices
June 2022
Jun 30
Shkreli Smythe Schmoopie Karma
Jun 29
‘Why Do I Miss Him?’
Jun 28
‘I Hate No Contact’
Jun 27
Babies Are Great!
Jun 24
‘Why Won’t She Get Over It?’
Jun 23
UBT: When Your Affair Partner Ghosts You
Jun 22
Beware of OW Bearing Gifts?
Jun 21
Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back
Jun 20
The Phone Records Are Shady, Is He Cheating?
Jun 19
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 17
Therapy Homework Fails
Jun 16
UBT: ‘He Hurt You, Not Me’
Jun 15
Confronting a Divorce-Phobic Cheater
Jun 14
Pick Me Dance Fail
Jun 13
Am I a Bad Friend for Not Supporting Friend’s Affair?
Jun 10
Where Do You Get Your Mighty?
Jun 9
Do I Unfriend My Ex’s Family on Social Media?
Jun 8
Shakira Got Chumped
Jun 7
Can I Leave for an Emotional Affair?
Jun 6
I’m a Civil Co-Parent. Isn’t That Enough?
Jun 3
Translate Some BS
Jun 2
Untangling Depp vs. Heard
Jun 1
Why Does Everyone Assume Cheating Is the Chump’s Fault?
May 2022
May 31
He Says He’s a Sex Addict. Should I Keep Dating Him?
May 30
UBT: When Your ‘Match’ Is a Married, Motivational Speaker
May 27
What Did They Still Expect After They Cheated?
May 26
A Busy Week for Jesus Cheaters
May 25
Her Cheating Husband Spies on Her
May 24
Gain a Life Tuesday: Karma and Trading Up
May 23
She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’
May 20
Tell Me How You’re Mighty
May 19
Hulu’s Candy: Twu Wuv and Axe Murder
May 18
Is She Cheating Because She’s Bipolar?
May 17
How to Tolerate Ex in Close Proximity
May 16
The Long Arc of Sane Parenting
May 13
What Did You Want to Send But Didn’t?
May 12
My Ex Wants to Live in My Basement
May 11
UBT: ‘They are all deep connections with different colors’
May 10
Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?
May 9
Would You Tell a Dying Woman She’s a Chump?
May 8
Happy Mother’s Day!
May 6
Euphemisms for Cheating?
May 5
Bill Gates Has a Sadz About His Divorce
May 4
Are You Sure It’s Not My Fault?
May 3
When Soul Mates Go Splat
May 2
The OW Left Him and I Don’t Know How I Feel
April 2022
Apr 29
Stupidest Lie You Bought?
Apr 28
UBT: ‘Sorry I Was So Lame’
Apr 27
My Friend Won’t Listen to Your Advice
Apr 26
The Other Woman Died
Apr 25
What If I’m Never Meh?
Apr 22
4 Reasons Why Gaslighting Works
Apr 21
She Was Going to ‘Make It Up to Me’
Apr 20
How Do I Face OW at Daughter’s Graduation?
Apr 19
Chump Lady Turns 10!
Apr 18
UBT: “Just Let Me Try”
Apr 15
Dating Profiles You Would Never Post
Apr 14
I’m the Other Woman and I’m Terrified He’ll Cheat on Me
Apr 13
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
Apr 12
‘I Think My Boyfriend Is on Dating Sites’
Apr 11
How Do I Explain My Divorce?
Apr 8
Will, Jada…. Esther?
Apr 7
He Cheated on Me with Prostitutes
Apr 6
‘She Must’ve Made the Right Decision to Cheat’
Apr 5
Getting Through ‘The Slog’
Apr 4
He Denies He Cheated… And Our Friends Believe Him
Apr 3
CL Recommends: Candi Staton
Apr 1
Did the Affair Partner Tell You?
March 2022
Mar 31
‘I Believe the Other Woman Is Psycho’
Mar 30
Decoding ‘I Haven’t Been Happy For a Long Time’
Mar 29
Tuesday Tales from the Other Side
Mar 28
‘Love Will Make You Do Crazy Things’
Mar 25
Closure and Other Myths
Mar 24
She Admitted to Cheating, Then We Had Great Sex… WTF?
Mar 23
UBT: ‘You Should’ve Been a Better Husband’
Mar 22
What If I Leave and He Really Loves Me?
Mar 21
UBT: ‘It Has Not Broken Me’
Mar 20
The New Site Is Here!
Mar 18
Bitch Boots and Other Talismans
Mar 17
UBT: ‘You Made Me Leave You’
Mar 16
Should I Tell the Other Chump?
Mar 15
Her Husband Wants an Open Marriage
Mar 14
The Affair Partner Is Daughter’s Coach
Mar 11
Shark Eyes and Dead Stares
Mar 10
‘Broken’ Cheater Cheats Again
Mar 9
Why Can’t He Be Happy for Me?
Mar 8
When the OW’s Kid Insults You
Mar 7
4 Ways Melinda Gates Keeps Her Divorce Classy
Mar 4
The Moment You Knew You Were Mighty?
Mar 3
Left a Cheater, Gained a Few Nightmares
Mar 2
Ex Thinks They Must Have a ‘Relationship’ for Their Daughter
Mar 1
The OW Signs My Support Checks
February 2022
Feb 28
Clapping Back at Switzerland Friends
Feb 25
Is Anyone ‘Grateful’ for the OW/OM?
Feb 24
How Not to Be a Chump When Dating
Feb 23
COVID Roommate Becomes Other Woman
Feb 22
How Do You Get Out of Limbo?
Feb 21
D-Day and The Silent Treatment
Feb 18
Did You File First?
Feb 17
The Kids Are Killing My Meh
Feb 16
5 Things You Need When Leaving a Cheater
Feb 15
And the Winner of the Infidelity Valentine’s Contest Is…
Feb 15
UBT: ‘I’m Trying Right Now’
Feb 14
The Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
Feb 11
I Can’t Believe I Just Said That
Feb 10
How to Divorce a Financially Abusive Cheater
Feb 9
UBT: ‘You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat’
Feb 8
Camilla Queen Consort
Feb 7
Joe Millionaire: The Pick-Me Dance for Fun and Profit
Feb 4
Gaslighting: What They Said, What It Actually Was
Feb 3
Jeff Zucker’s Hasty Retreat
Feb 2
Angry Feelings Still That She ‘Got Away with It’
Feb 1
Jealousy and the Leggy, Blonde Other Woman
January 2022
Jan 31
4 Reasons Affair Fog Is Not a Thing
Jan 28
Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Pandemic Edition When-TF-Ever This Ends
Jan 27
Woman Donates Kidney to Cheating Boyfriend
Jan 26
I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
Jan 25
A Leave-a-Cheater Tuesday Story
Jan 24
And Just Like That: Pick-Me-Dance Triumph
Jan 21
Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says
Jan 20
How to Deal with Taunting
Jan 19
Joss Whedon’s Non-Apology
Jan 18
UBT: Brent Sadler’s Douche Solidarity
Jan 17
Is She Really Just a Close Friend?
Jan 14
Most Creative Concealment Excuses
Jan 13
UBT: ‘My Ex Owes Me Money’
Jan 12
UBT: ‘Respect My Relationship with the OW’
Jan 11
Help Me Not Be a Bitch
Jan 10
‘I Didn’t See Any Red Flags’
Jan 9
And the Winner of the Xmas Cheater Freak Contest Is…
Jan 7
Attempted Hoovering Fails
Jan 6
He Was Not As Advertised
Jan 5
UBT: “My Handling of Your Situation Is Beyond Fault”
Jan 4
How to Line Up Ducks When You Can’t Afford a Duck
Jan 3
Schadenfreude and the FW Whisperer
2021
December 2021
Dec 31
Better Days Ahead 2022 Edition
Dec 30
DaVinci Code Guy’s ‘Secret Life’?
Dec 29
Chumped, Friendless, and Stuck
Dec 28
Busted by Doorbell Cam
Dec 27
I Love My ‘Wonderful’ Addicted Cheating Wife
Dec 24
When Your Kids Want You to ‘Get Over It’
Dec 23
He’s Cheating and Now ‘Needs My Help’
Dec 22
He Apologized. Now What?
Dec 21
UBT: ‘I May Be His Mistress, But I’m Not a Homewrecker’
Dec 20
How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty?
Dec 17
Cheater Freak Christmas Contest
Dec 16
Being Compared with an Affair Partner
Dec 15
Ben Affleck Has a Sadz
Dec 14
‘I Left Him on the Side of the Road’
Dec 13
UBT: Will the Sex Get Boring?
Dec 10
Holiday D-Days Anyone?
Dec 9
Left Her with 4-Month Child So He Could Be ‘Happier’
Dec 8
Living Together Until Cheating Wife’s Affair Partner Is Free
Dec 7
Single at the Holidays?
Dec 6
‘My Sister Is Cheating on My Brother-in-Law’
Dec 3
How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
Dec 2
‘My Husband Got Engaged’
Dec 1
Can I Break Grey Rock Just This Once, Please?
November 2021
Nov 29
UBT: ‘Emotions at Many Times’
Nov 26
Holiday Traditions You No Longer Must Endure?
Nov 25
Happy Thanksgiving! Gratitude and Jello Salad
Nov 24
When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex
Nov 23
UBT: Narcissist Cheater Life Coach
Nov 22
How to Help a Chumped Parent?
Nov 19
Best Sad Sausage Performances
Nov 18
Lone Star Jesus Cheaters
Nov 17
Accept the Love Bombing Gifts?
Nov 16
Sex with the Ex WTF?
Nov 15
Her Husband Wishes She Were More Porn-like
Nov 12
Signposts to Meh?
Nov 11
He Says ‘It’s Not What It Looks Like’
Nov 10
Dumped with ‘You Deserve Better’
Nov 9
Cheating Ex Wants a Character Reference
Nov 8
A False Confession?
Nov 5
Telling People… How, When, Regrets?
Nov 4
Alice Evans Will Not Go Quietly
Nov 3
UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
Nov 2
Should I Tell Grandma She Was a Chump?
Nov 1
‘Hero’ Cheater Is a Deadbeat
October 2021
Oct 29
Undervaluing Your Accomplishments
Oct 28
Is Breaking Up 4 Years After D-Day ‘Overreacting’?
Oct 27
UBT: ‘Accept My Truth’
Oct 26
UBT: The Sugar Daddy
Oct 25
Is Sexting Cheating?
Oct 22
Worst of the Flying Monkeys?
Oct 21
He’s Back After ‘Ending It’ with OW
Oct 20
What If He Changes for the Next One?
Oct 19
No Family and Feeling Alone
Oct 18
I Still Have Joy
Oct 15
Your Friday Challenge Is…
Oct 14
He Left to Join the Circus
Oct 13
UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating
Oct 12
Friends Disapprove of Her Divorce
Oct 11
Hopium and the ‘Power of Maybe’
Oct 8
Cell Phone Names for FWs
Oct 7
I Unfriended Him
Oct 6
‘I Want Him to Stay with the Other Woman’
Oct 5
New Boyfriend Says She’s ‘Playing the Victim’
Oct 4
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Oct 1
‘Weaponized Incompetence’
September 2021
Sep 30
‘I Still Have Nightmares About Her’
Sep 29
She Wants Me to ‘Fight For Her’
Sep 28
‘I’ve Never Broken Up with Anyone’
Sep 27
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Sep 24
Infidelity Is Abuse: Discuss
Sep 23
UBT: Brene Brown with Esther Perel
Sep 22
The Other Man Wants to Come to Mom’s Funeral
Sep 21
The Crying of Gabby Petito
Sep 20
UBT: ‘I Am Feeling Sad About This’
Sep 17
D-Day Anniversary Benchmarks?
Sep 16
UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce
Sep 15
Love Is Not a Weakness, It’s a Gift
Sep 14
Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’
Sep 13
How the Hell Can I Live with Him Until I Can Get Him Out?
Sep 10
Got Jesus Cheaters?
Sep 9
More Snappy Answers to Chumpy Questions
Sep 8
Is This Hoovering?
Sep 7
Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing
Sep 6
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Sep 3
Tell Me How You’re Mighty Pandemic Edition 3.0
Sep 2
Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’
Sep 1
Need CN’s Powerful Words of Support
August 2021
Aug 31
UBT: I Know My Truth
Aug 30
Bitch Cookie: ‘He Doesn’t Blame Me’
Aug 27
‘Bagged Salad’ and Other Excuses
Aug 26
UBT: My Husband’s Craigslist Ad
Aug 25
The ‘Dual Accountability’ Therapy Fallacy
Aug 24
I Just Want Her to Be Truthful
Aug 23
Was Anything Real?
Aug 20
Rituals for New Lives?
Aug 19
How to Be Mighty at a Wedding
Aug 18
UBT: ‘I Wish You Were Still Nice’
Aug 17
Do I Have to Forgive Him?
Aug 16
UBT: The Mayo Clinic
Aug 13
Rewrite Your Story?
Aug 12
His Double Life Was Revealed After Death
Aug 11
UBT: ‘Monogamy Is a Gift’
Aug 10
He Doesn’t Know If He’ll Come Home
Aug 9
Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?
Aug 6
Support in Unexpected Places?
Aug 5
The Other Woman Was a ‘Best Friend’
Aug 4
UBT: Leaving and Cleaving
Aug 3
Is This an Emotional Affair?
Aug 2
UBT: “Thank You for Always Being There”
July 2021
Jul 30
Your Best Detective Skills?
Jul 29
How Do I Set Boundaries with My Kids About My Ex?
Jul 28
He Took the OW on Vacation
Jul 27
Financial Freedom from a FW
Jul 26
Is ‘Bum-Bum’ a Friend?
Jul 23
Rocking the No Contact
Jul 22
Idolized, Devalued and Dumped
Jul 21
UBT: “I Made a Mistake”
Jul 20
What Meh Feels Like
Jul 19
Rubberneckers and the Remarriage of an Ex
Jul 16
Leave a Cheater, Adopt a Dog
Jul 15
Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?
Jul 14
I’m REALLY Angry. Is This Normal?
Jul 13
Where Are All the Single, Available Men?
Jul 12
Caught Him on the DoggyCam
Jul 9
I Need You Like A….?
Jul 8
UBT: “I Needed You So Much”
Jul 7
Debunking “Affairs Are About Opportunity”
Jul 6
3 Chumped Women Expose Army Lt. Col. with Double Life
Jul 5
A Chump Declaration of Independence
Jul 2
Most Psycho Reaction to Being Busted?
Jul 1
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to the OW?
June 2021
Jun 30
He Doesn’t Hoover, He Rages
Jun 29
My Ex Gave Me an STD
Jun 28
Matt Hancock, Busted
Jun 24
Reframe It
Jun 24
Ben Zobrist, Chumped But Not Down
Jun 23
6 Thoughts on Character Assassination
Jun 22
Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?
Jun 21
UBT: The Couple Bubble
Jun 20
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 18
Leave a Cheater, Change Your Surroundings
Jun 17
Kick Me Out of My Funk
Jun 16
Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?
Jun 15
Snappy Answers to Chumpy Questions
Jun 14
Jeffrey Toobin’s Non-Apology Apology
Jun 11
Were You Love Bombed?
Jun 10
Chump Lady Defends Her Potty Mouth
Jun 9
Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust
Jun 8
What Makes the New Guy Better?
Jun 7
Years Later and No ‘Meh’
Jun 4
Acts of Chump Rebellion
Jun 3
How Do I Get Over My Envy?
Jun 2
Should I Send a Father’s Day Card?
Jun 1
UBT: We Are All Complex
May 2021
May 31
Cheating on a Marine? Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
May 28
How Do You Confront a Cheater?
May 27
Therapist Says Not to Tell Anyone Her Husband Cheated
May 26
I Don’t Miss Him — Is There Something Wrong with Me?
May 25
The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?
May 24
He’s Sorry He Got Caught
May 21
Stupid Stuff Cake Eaters Say
May 20
My Best Friend Is an Affair Person
May 19
UBT: I Will Return With a Fuller Love
May 18
The Bill and Melinda Gates Divorce
May 17
UBT: Our Relationship Is Over, I Suppose
May 14
Be Your Own UBT
May 13
How Do I Ward Off Emotional Vampires?
May 12
I Keep Getting Messages He’s Having an Affair
May 11
I Don’t Feel Mighty. I Got Left.
May 10
Meeting the OW for the First Time
May 7
What Did You Think You Couldn’t Do That You CAN Do?
May 6
Enough with Divorce Shame
May 5
Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?
May 4
He Butt-Dialed Her from the OW’s
May 3
It Took Balls to Cheat on Him?
April 2021
Apr 30
No Contact Fails — The Blooper Reel
Apr 29
Why Does He Hate Me?
Apr 28
Her Menopause Made Him Cheat?
Apr 27
UBT Me, Please
Apr 26
UBT: Inform Me About Your Girlfriend
Apr 25
Je viens de découvrir que j’ai été trompée. Je fais quoi maintenant?
Apr 25
Ce qu’il ne faut pas faire
Apr 25
¿Es este un remordimiento real? ¿O un remordimiento de imitación de cuerina legitima?
Apr 25
La reconciliación y las concesiones
Apr 25
La riconciliazione con una Timida Creatura del Bosco
Apr 25
La teoria unificata della Botte Piena
Apr 25
Croccantini per l’Ego
Apr 25
L’umiliante danza dello “Scegli Me” !
Apr 25
Espectro de Personas Infieles
Apr 23
Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Pandemic Edition Whatever Day This Is
Apr 22
Are These Red Flags?
Apr 21
He’s Having a Baby with the OW
Apr 20
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Harley
Apr 19
Seconding Guessing Yourself About Leaving
Apr 16
How Are You Changing the Narrative?
Apr 15
I Want My Cheating Wife to Read Your Book
Apr 14
UBT: Gina Frangello, Blow Your House Down
Apr 13
UBT: Monogamy Is a Gift
Apr 12
He’s ‘Saving’ the Other Woman
Apr 9
Is He Winning?
Apr 8
20/20 Signs They Were Cheating
Apr 7
UBT: ‘Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too’
Apr 6
Is Limerence a Thing?
Apr 5
It Was a ‘One-Off’ — Let It Go?
Apr 3
Chump Lady Audio Arrives
Apr 2
Infidelity Euphemisms
Apr 1
Boris Johnson’s Lady Friend(s)
March 2021
Mar 31
Debunking Marriage Builders, Inc.
Mar 30
Derrick Jaxn, The Latest Unicorn
Mar 29
He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’
Mar 26
Ever Run Into Your Ex?
Mar 25
Getting a Friendly ‘Weird Vibe’ from Ex-Wife
Mar 24
‘I Thought You Knew’
Mar 23
A ‘Fix Your Picker’ Refresher
Mar 22
Allen vs. Farrow
Mar 19
You Might Be a Chump If…
Mar 18
UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married Man
Mar 17
Jealousy and ‘Just Friends’
Mar 16
Ex Wants Chump to Go to Therapy with Her
Mar 15
Chumped by Two Chumps
Mar 14
Site Still to Come
Mar 12
No Contact, Gray Rock, and Other Kinds of Mighty
Mar 11
‘I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time’
Mar 10
Why Are They So Petty?
Mar 9
Mighty MacKenzie
Mar 8
UBT: “Please Give Me Another Chance”
Mar 6
It’s Coming… A New and Improved Chump Lady Site
Mar 6
Croquettes ego-boost
Mar 6
Acabo de descubrir que me han puesto los cachos. ¿Y ahora qué?
Mar 5
Lo que NO debes hacer
Mar 5
Have a Bitch Cookie
Mar 4
Cool, Bummer, Wow
Mar 4
UBT: This Isn’t the Real Me
Mar 3
Dump ‘Scorned’ Already
Mar 2
UBT: A Letter from ‘The Baby’
Mar 1
Standing on Lies
February 2021
Feb 27
New Spanish Translation Posts of CL Have Arrived
Feb 27
Supéralo
Feb 27
Las paredes de tu casa cantan otra vez
Feb 27
Como dejar a un traicionero
Feb 27
Galletillas de Ego
Feb 26
Chumped But Not Down, What You Did Right
Feb 25
5 Things NOT to Do When You Discover Cheating
Feb 24
Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?
Feb 23
Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?
Feb 22
Reconciliation with the Timid Forest Creature
Feb 19
What Are You Throwing on the Virtual Bonfire?
Feb 18
‘I Can’t Face Being a Single Mum’
Feb 17
When the Other Man Is Your Brother
Feb 16
We Reconciled… He Cheated Again
Feb 15
Don’t Send It, Three Reasons Why
Feb 14
And the Infidelity Valentine Poetry Contest Winners Are….
Feb 12
Some Changes to the Blog — All Good!
Feb 11
Am I Selfish for Leaving Him?
Feb 10
It’s Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!
Feb 9
UBT: Opening the Marriage to Save the Marriage?
Feb 8
Does Social Media Encourage Cheating?
Feb 5
Gain a Life, Gain Better Health?
Feb 4
Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’
Feb 3
Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?
Feb 2
Jealous of the Other Woman
Feb 1
UBT: The ‘Shame’ of Being Tiger Woods’ Mistress
January 2021
Jan 29
Jason Collier, Serial Douche
Jan 28
Help Her Be Friendly to Me
Jan 27
Struggling with No Contact
Jan 26
My Mom Sided with the Cheater
Jan 25
UBT: “I Made a List”
Jan 22
What Does Freedom Feels Like?
Jan 21
UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
Jan 20
UBT: I Can’t Remember
Jan 19
How Come I’m Not Over It Yet?
Jan 18
Is Pain a Choice?
Jan 15
Cheating Husband “Is a Predator”
Jan 14
The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
Jan 13
Sexy Affair Utterances?
Jan 12
UBT: I Only Date Married Men
Jan 11
He Walked Out for OW But Doesn’t Want a Divorce
Jan 8
Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?
Jan 7
Is He Just Your Average Narcissist?
Jan 6
But He’s Such a Nice Guy!
Jan 5
Does Mental Illness Make Him Less of a Cheater?
Jan 4
UBT: The Apology That Never Came
Jan 1
Gain a Life Version 2021
2020
December 2020
Dec 31
Should I Send Her the Tape?
Dec 30
Why Is He So Mad at Me?
Dec 29
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
Dec 28
The Dying OW’s Confession
Dec 25
Merry Christmas!
Dec 24
UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
Dec 23
Smythe and Shkreli, Star-Crossed Schmoopies
Dec 22
‘How Come All My Boyfriends Suck?’
Dec 21
When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend
Dec 18
It’s Beginning to Look a Lot like D-Day
Dec 17
UBT: Affair Proofing Your Marriage
Dec 16
Fractured Hallmark Holiday Specials
Dec 15
How Do I Make It Through the Holidays?
Dec 14
‘Replaced’ and Still Feels Empty
Dec 11
On the First Day of Christmas My Cheater Gave to Me…
Dec 10
Lawyer Thinks She Has an Anger Issue
Dec 9
She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us
Dec 8
Debunking ‘Affair Fog’
Dec 7
What Advice Would You Give a Serial Cheater?
Dec 4
Your Long, Strange Hopium Trips
Dec 3
What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?
Dec 2
A Gain a Life Update… and Some Schmoopie Karma
Dec 1
UBT: How Do I Get My Gay Cheating Husband to Reconcile?
November 2020
Nov 30
‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’
Nov 27
Old Crazy? New Tradition!
Nov 26
Chump Lady Gratitude Turkey Day Recipe Swap
Nov 25
‘I Feel Trapped’
Nov 24
Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas
Nov 23
Controlling the Narrative
Nov 20
Your Snooping Sins
Nov 19
The Crown, The Cake
Nov 18
He Wants to ‘Explore His Feelings’ with Her Friend
Nov 17
What Made Her Special?
Nov 16
UBT: The Huggy Ex and the OW
Nov 13
Tell Me How You’re Mighty, COVID Edition 2.0
Nov 12
UBT: “True Love Is Never a Scandal”
Nov 11
UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby
Nov 10
UBT: “I Would Like to Have a Final Conversation”
Nov 9
UBT: “I Forgive You”
Nov 6
When They Won’t Leave
Nov 5
When Your Kids Believe the Lies
Nov 4
What Is the First Step?
Nov 3
I’m the OW and I’m Terrified He’ll Cheat on Me
Nov 2
When the Other Woman Was a Frienemy
October 2020
Oct 30
The Apology That Wasn’t
Oct 29
Why Does He Ignore My Co-Parenting Questions?
Oct 28
UBT: “You Might Appreciate Knowing Some of This”
Oct 27
Are There Cheaters Who Left No Clues?
Oct 26
STBX Wants to Come Over for the Holidays
Oct 23
Dumbest Insult Your Ex Tried?
Oct 22
Where’s My Justice?
Oct 21
Don’t Wait on That Apology
Oct 20
Jeffrey Toobin’s Troublesome Dick
Oct 19
My New Husband Is a ‘Sex Addict’
Oct 16
5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
Oct 15
He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.
Oct 14
‘He Brought His Girlfriend And I Lost My Meh’
Oct 13
Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?
Oct 12
Is Monogamy Abuse?
Oct 9
Red Flags You Overlooked?
Oct 8
The ‘If You Aren’t Nicer’ Threat
Oct 7
‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’
Oct 6
The Family Next Door
Oct 5
Wife Wants to ‘Renegotiate’ the Relationship
Oct 2
Any Karma Stories?
Oct 1
When It’s More Affairs Than You First Knew
September 2020
Sep 30
Cheater Word Salad Attacks
Sep 29
Nearly Engaged…Then Busted
Sep 28
‘He Had a Complete Change of Heart’
Sep 25
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Sep 24
UBT: ‘Mark Is Fine’
Sep 23
Esther Perel’s Myth of the Good Cheater
Sep 22
‘My Sister Blames Me for My Husband’s Affair’
Sep 21
It’s the End of the World or the Beginning. I Can’t Tell.
Sep 18
Sad Sausage Tales?
Sep 17
When Will I Feel Indifferent?
Sep 16
He’s Sketchy, But Is He Cheating?
Sep 15
‘I Can’t Talk to My Kids About Their Father’
Sep 14
UBT: ‘He Played Me Too’
Sep 11
Confrontation Flops?
Sep 10
How Do You Leave a Cheater?
Sep 9
UBT: ‘If You Need Me, I’ll Be There’
Sep 8
In-House Separation, She Won’t Move Out
Sep 7
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Sep 4
Close Encounters of the Fake Tears Kind
Sep 3
‘How Could He Walk Away from His Wife and Kids?’
Sep 2
Woman Has D-Day After Reading Ex’s Wedding Announcement
Sep 1
Tiffany Glass Windows
August 2020
Aug 31
Is This Jealousy?
Aug 28
Be Your Own UBT
Aug 27
UBT: Cheating on My Husband Made Me a Better Mother
Aug 26
The ‘People Pleaser’ Excuse
Aug 25
Jerry Falwell Jr., Jesus Swinger?
Aug 24
Chump Won’t Stop Doing Her Ex Favors
Aug 21
Most Ridiculous Excuse After Being Busted?
Aug 20
UBT: ‘My Dad Sucks’
Aug 19
Chumped and Questioning Feminism
Aug 18
Discovered CN by Googling ‘I Hate Esther Perel’
Aug 17
My Ex-Wife Wants Me to Go to Therapy with Her
Aug 14
Fix Your Picker Tips
Aug 13
A Decade of Chump Love
Aug 12
Can I Leave a Suicidal Cheater?
Aug 11
Is an ‘Emotional Affair’ Reason Enough to Leave?
Aug 10
A Chump Off the Old Block
Aug 7
Breaking No Contact: How’d That Go?
Aug 6
The Pretzel Logic of the 180
Aug 5
Dead Bedroom? Cheater
Aug 4
No One Is Entitled to Reconciliation
Aug 3
Is Reporting Him Revenge?
July 2020
Jul 31
Your Best Word Salad, Please
Jul 30
“Our Marriage Was Already Over”
Jul 29
UBT: You Will Use This to Illustrate Your Holiness
Jul 28
When Affair Partners Marry
Jul 27
One Guy Chump’s Gain a Life Story
Jul 24
How Are You All Self-Soothing?
Jul 23
Dear Chump Lady, My Wife Is Near Perfect But I See Prostitutes
Jul 22
UBT: ‘Shortcut to Happiness’
Jul 21
When Does the Pain Stop?
Jul 20
UBT: I Was Too Much Into My Own Lies
Jul 17
What Did You Do With the Photos?
Jul 16
UBT: Gottman’s ‘Reviving Trust After an Affair’
Jul 15
The Resentment Rap
Jul 14
The Fiction of Unconditional Love
Jul 13
UBT: Jada’s ‘Entanglement’
Jul 10
The Wrong Pickle and Other Sins
Jul 9
UBT: “Your Cheating Spouse Is the Victim, NOT You!”
Jul 8
The Kid Calls the Felon OW ‘Mama’
Jul 7
The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
Jul 6
He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him
Jul 3
A Declaration of Independence for Chumps
Jul 2
Am I Going to Get Over This?
Jul 1
How Do You Get Past the Revulsion?
June 2020
Jun 30
Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
Jun 29
UBT: Affair Sex in the Marital Bed Is Wrong?
Jun 26
Chump Protagonists in TV Dramas?
Jun 25
Cheater Throws Them Out, OW Moves In
Jun 24
He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.
Jun 23
Escape After D-Day — ‘Should I Move?’
Jun 22
‘I Trolled the Other Woman’
Jun 21
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 19
Your Triumph Moments
Jun 17
The LGBTQ+ Chump Perspective
Jun 17
How Come No One But Chumps Seems to Get It?
Jun 16
The Walls in Your House Will Sing
Jun 15
‘I’m Afraid of Him’
Jun 12
The Stupid Things People Say to Chumps
Jun 11
When Is It Okay to Tell Someone STOP?
Jun 10
‘I Have a Hate in My Heart Where Love Used to Be’
Jun 9
Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner
Jun 8
‘Maybe He Was Right About Me?’
Jun 5
Cheating Excuses and Non Sequiturs — ‘It Didn’t Take That Much Time’
Jun 4
He’ll Send Support If She’ll Send Naked Pictures
Jun 3
Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?
Jun 2
UBT: Let’s Put Aside ‘Our Differences’ for These Special Times in Our Kids’ Lives
Jun 1
‘I Let Him Come Over with Pizza’
May 2020
May 29
Who Filed for Divorce?
May 28
‘My No Contact Stinks’
May 27
‘I Just Want My Life Back’
May 26
‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
May 25
Marine Chump: This Is Worse Than Being in Iraq
May 22
Infidelity, Divorce, Kids — How Did You Navigate It?
May 21
‘I Turned the Tables’
May 20
UBT: Mother’s Day Wishes from the OW?
May 19
Why Blame the Chump?
May 18
How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?
May 15
Tell Me How You’re COVID-Era Mighty
May 14
UBT: He Blew Up the Marriage to Improve It
May 13
UBT: ‘My Life Is Rich and Full’…. That’s Why I’m Stalking You
May 12
When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
May 11
Mistress Is ‘Archaic’ and ‘Sexist’?
May 8
I’ll Be Seeing You In All the Old Familiar Places
May 7
UBT: “You’re the One True Love of My Life”
May 6
He’s Sad and I Feel Responsible
May 5
“I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?
May 4
‘I Lost My Meh’
May 1
New Words for the Chump Condition?
April 2020
Apr 30
He Says ‘I Better Behave’
Apr 29
He Told Me He Loved Me
Apr 28
6 Ways to Respond (or Not) to Character Assassination
Apr 27
Is It Okay to Give a Cheater a Second Chance?
Apr 24
What Kept You Stuck with a Cheater?
Apr 23
Esther Wants to Help You Grieve
Apr 22
He Left Me. Why Won’t He Agree to a Divorce?
Apr 21
Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
Apr 20
UBT: “Will Our Affair Survive the Lockdown?”
Apr 17
Best No Contact Strategies?
Apr 16
Coronavirus Hoovering?
Apr 15
My Sister Is the Marriage Police
Apr 14
UBT: A Letter from the “Baby”
Apr 13
‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’
Apr 10
Biggest Whopper You Bought?
Apr 9
Can You Imagine Being Quarantined With Your Ex?
Apr 8
Lies Are Exhausting
Apr 7
I Thought That Meh Was a Unicorn
Apr 6
Is This Intense Hate Normal?
Apr 3
Cake Speak?
Apr 2
Sparkles The Magnificent Dry Drunk Unicorn
Apr 1
Do I Have to Be Friendly With My Ex?
March 2020
Mar 31
Is This Cheating?
Mar 30
I’m Forced To Live with My Cheater Right Now
Mar 27
When This Crisis Is Over, I’m Gonna…
Mar 26
When You Work With Your Ex
Mar 25
I Still Want Her Back
Mar 24
Is All This Anger Normal?
Mar 23
‘I Thought You Were Okay With It’
Mar 20
Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
Mar 19
Is This Meh or Did I Just Give Up?
Mar 18
What Do I Do with the Phantom Pain of Abandonment?
Mar 17
New Beginning Tuesday
Mar 16
Did She Cheat Because She’s Bipolar?
Mar 13
Omens and Portents
Mar 12
So Why the Hell Isn’t She Happy Now?
Mar 11
Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken
Mar 10
Grieving the Affair Partner and Other BS
Mar 9
How Did You Overcome the Financial Blows AND the Cheating?
Mar 6
Steal This Idea
Mar 5
Should I Give Him a Fourth Chance?
Mar 4
Did You Out Them on Social Media?
Mar 3
How Do I Support My Friend’s Reconciliation?
Mar 2
‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’
February 2020
Feb 28
New Age Cheaterisms
Feb 27
Is He Gay? A Lost Soul? A Sex Addict?
Feb 26
Should I Write the OW?
Feb 25
Character Assassination: 6 Ways to React to a False Narrative
Feb 24
Cheater Doesn’t Understand Why Partner Is Reconciling with Him
Feb 21
How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
Feb 20
My Toxic MIL Sends Her “Love”
Feb 19
Apologize to Your Cheater, Says RIC Quack
Feb 18
Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?
Feb 17
‘Don’t Call It Snooping’
Feb 14
And the Infidelity Valentine’s Poetry Winners Are…
Feb 13
Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?
Feb 12
‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’
Feb 11
The ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’ Mindfuck
Feb 10
The OW Recommends a Self-Help Book
Feb 7
Jesus Cheaters and Other Holy Horrors
Feb 6
My Friend Is the Marriage Police
Feb 5
The Benevolent Other Woman
Feb 4
He Thinks He’s Done ‘Nothing Wrong’
Feb 3
The Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
January 2020
Jan 31
What Got You Unstuck?
Jan 30
Is This What Meh Looks Like?
Jan 29
‘How Do I Handle the OW?’
Jan 28
Feeling Too Available
Jan 27
Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
Jan 24
Chump and Cheater Torch Songs
Jan 23
He Says I’m “UnChristian” for Divorcing Him
Jan 22
Nice versus Kind
Jan 21
Duped for a Quarter
Jan 20
‘He Didn’t Suck’
Jan 17
How Cheap Is Your Cheater?
Jan 16
UBT: ‘It’s not all sunshine and rainbows over here’
Jan 15
‘I Work with the Other Woman’
Jan 14
UBT: “Blowing up the Marriage to Improve the Marriage”
Jan 13
‘I Fix Hearts. She Broke Mine.’
Jan 10
What Are You Doing to Combat Loneliness?
Jan 9
“People Don’t Want to be Called ‘Chump'”
Jan 8
UBT: ‘Don’t give up on me!’
Jan 7
Do I Tell Her Family Why We’re Divorced?
Jan 6
How Do I Get Over Feelings of Unfairness?
Jan 3
What Are You Throwing on the Virtual Bonfire?
Jan 2
And the Cheater Freak Winners are….
Jan 1
Get Over It
2019
December 2019
Dec 31
STDs Don’t Define You
Dec 30
‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
Dec 27
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Dec 26
Sex After Divorce?
Dec 25
Cheater Freak Christmas?
Dec 24
Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
Dec 23
‘My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat’
Dec 20
Tell Me How You’re Mighty Holiday Edition
Dec 19
UBT on Guy Who Wants to Keep Both Sex Workers and His Girlfriend
Dec 18
Holiday Sh*t Sandwiches
Dec 17
‘I Can’t Trust That She Sucks’
Dec 16
UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents
Dec 13
Divorce Day Plans?
Dec 12
‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
Dec 11
Where’s the Data on Reconciliation?
Dec 10
Hooker Habit Revealed, Cheater Threatens Suicide
Dec 9
Pick Me Dancing for Love
Dec 6
Redefining Intimacy
Dec 5
UBT: What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
Dec 4
He Left 3 Kids. How Can He Be Happy?
Dec 3
Interview with Dr. David Ley, ‘The Myth of Sex Addiction’ author
Dec 2
‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’
November 2019
Nov 28
Happy Thanksgiving!
Nov 27
When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex
Nov 26
‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’
Nov 25
‘None of My Choices Are Acceptable’
Nov 22
Worst Infidelity Advice Ever?
Nov 21
When They Cheat in Your Home
Nov 20
Husband Cheated. Mother Disappointed in ‘Us’
Nov 19
When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby
Nov 18
Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers
Nov 15
Did Your Pet Get You Through Your Break-Up?
Nov 14
UBT: ‘It’s Not Who I Am’
Nov 13
His Family Says ‘I Should Be Happy for Him’
Nov 12
Lies Are Exhausting
Nov 11
‘Should I Divorce Him?’
Nov 8
Help Me Build a Better Support Site
Nov 7
‘How Do I Know Friends Won’t Betray Me?’
Nov 6
How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
Nov 5
Are ‘Emotional Friendships’ with Other Women Cheating?
Nov 4
Spending Holidays with Your Ex ‘For The Children’
Nov 1
Secret Names of Cell Phone Mystery
October 2019
Oct 31
Why Gaslighting Works
Oct 30
‘The Other Woman Is Taunting Me’
Oct 29
Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
Oct 28
Dear Chump Lady, What’s my ‘role’ in the break-up?
Oct 27
I Draw Naked People
Oct 25
Hope versus Hopium
Oct 24
Dear Chump Lady, She left me for her boss
Oct 23
Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
Oct 22
Have a Chat with Schmoopie? Just Don’t.
Oct 21
The Pollyanna Blameshift
Oct 18
Can I Get Some Mighty Here?
Oct 17
Dear Chump Lady, But what if I leave him and he changes?
Oct 16
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
Oct 15
When ‘Sex Addiction’ Turns Deadly
Oct 14
UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
Oct 11
No Contact Fails — The Blooper Reel
Oct 10
UBT: My Husband Stopped Cheating on Me After 35 Years
Oct 9
Dear Chump Lady, She won’t move out
Oct 8
Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
Oct 7
Man Sues Affair Partner — And Wins
Oct 4
More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say
Oct 3
How to Leave a Cheater — Your Care Team
Oct 2
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t know why I still want him
Oct 1
Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me
September 2019
Sep 30
Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
Sep 27
No Contact Wins
Sep 26
Dump ‘Scorned’ Already
Sep 25
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Sep 24
Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
Sep 23
Dear Chump Lady, I went grey rock, he went nuts
Sep 20
Real Monkey Love, Bad Monkey Love
Sep 19
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to organize their video chat?
Sep 18
Your Very Best Spackle Please
Sep 17
Dear Chump Lady, Is divorcing him the right choice?
Sep 16
Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater or a muse?
Sep 14
Chump Lady Gets a Check
Sep 13
Therapy Fails?
Sep 12
How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?
Sep 11
Dear Chump Lady, I built my whole life around her
Sep 10
UBT This Jesus Cheater
Sep 9
When You’re Married and ‘Fall in Love’ with Someone Else
Sep 6
You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
Sep 5
UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
Sep 4
How to Deflect Gaslighting
Sep 3
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life
Sep 2
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
August 2019
Aug 30
When Closure Is Eaten by Bears
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner
Aug 28
Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Queries
Aug 27
No Tag Backs, OW
Aug 26
Cheating Wife Needs a ‘Safe Space’
Aug 23
The Kindness of Strangers
Aug 22
If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It
Aug 21
Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?
Aug 20
The Dead-Eyed Stare
Aug 19
Dear Chump Lady, The OW left him and I don’t know how I feel
Aug 16
Where Are They Now?
Aug 15
Dear Chump Lady, How do I protect my son’s heart?
Aug 14
How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
Aug 13
UBT: “We Are Teachers, Not Demigods”
Aug 12
You Don’t Need Closure
Aug 9
Meh Sightings?
Aug 8
Which Came First, The Dead Marriage or the Affair?
Aug 7
Dear Chump Lady, I feel unworthy
Aug 6
Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated
Aug 5
UBT: “I Miss the Kitties”
Aug 2
Where You Thought They Were, Where They Really Were
Aug 1
Why Can’t I Say ‘Cheater’?
July 2019
Jul 31
UBT the Trust Bank
Jul 30
Alan Dershowitz Is Human Garbage
Jul 29
Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart
Jul 27
Forums Ending Aug. 1
Jul 26
Courage Fairies
Jul 25
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
Jul 24
Devastating Writing on Making Your Needs Small
Jul 23
Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move on
Jul 22
When Men Are Cheated On
Jul 19
New Age Cheater Goop Speak
Jul 18
Dear Chump Lady, How do I save my friend?
Jul 17
The Silent Chumps
Jul 16
The Ones Who Just Leave
Jul 15
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to invite my ex to the party?
Jul 13
New Forums, New Features, News
Jul 12
Word Salad or Word Wisdom?
Jul 11
UBT: ‘Dear Therapist’
Jul 10
Why No Contact Works
Jul 9
Dear Chump Lady, She changed him
Jul 8
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL
Jul 5
Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
Jul 4
Chump Emancipation Proclamation
Jul 3
Dear Chump Lady, He said it was ‘just sex’
Jul 2
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he’ll cheat on me
Jul 1
Dear Chump Lady, She has abs of steel
June 2019
Jun 28
The Weirdest Things They Took or Left Behind
Jun 27
When Your D-Day Is After the Divorce
Jun 26
UBT: This Isn’t The Real Me
Jun 25
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep the OW away from my kids?
Jun 24
UBT — He Took the Soup
Jun 21
Unspouse Your House?
Jun 20
‘I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time’
Jun 19
Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m ‘selfish’ for leaving him
Jun 18
The Plan B Offer
Jun 17
‘Being Frank’ versus Being Chumped
Jun 16
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 14
Blameshifting Jujitso
Jun 13
Dear Chump Lady, My wife cheated with a woman
Jun 12
DNA Testing Surprises
Jun 11
Dear Chump Lady, I’m pregnant and pick me dancing
Jun 10
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW
Jun 7
Write Your Own Clickbait
Jun 6
Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me
Jun 5
UBT: The OW Wants Me to Save My Marriage
Jun 4
Surely You Must Have Known
Jun 3
UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
May 2019
May 31
Star-Crossed Schmoopies
May 30
UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
May 29
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think he’s a narcissist
May 28
What Do You Tell Yourself?
May 27
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a Marine chump
May 24
Bad Apologies
May 23
Dear Chump Lady, What’s wrong with me?
May 22
Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’
May 21
The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
May 20
Dear Chump Lady, Why do you use foul language?
May 17
All Those Times You Didn’t Cheat
May 16
Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?
May 15
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their fabulousness
May 14
Dear Chump Lady, The lies are crazy
May 13
UBT: ProJared’s Divorce Statement
May 10
When Mother’s Day Sucks
May 9
Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell the kids about the cheating?
May 8
Way to Take Down a Cheater
May 7
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
May 6
Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy
May 3
What’s the Right Thing to Say?
May 2
Dear Chump Lady, How did he turn into a douche?
May 1
Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?
April 2019
Apr 30
The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
Apr 29
Dear Chump Lady, I feel like she traded up
Apr 26
RIC Tag Lines?
Apr 25
Dear Chump Lady, Nobody gets being chumped (except chumps)
Apr 24
Debunking Why Happy People Cheat
Apr 23
Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
Apr 22
Why Do You Still Do This? A Peek Behind the Scenes at Chump Central
Apr 19
Snark and Dance Tunes
Apr 18
Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?
Apr 17
UBT: “The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life”
Apr 16
David Brooks Can Bite Me
Apr 15
Dear Chump Lady, Is this weird?
Apr 12
What Are You Taking Back?
Apr 11
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a Bunny Boiler
Apr 10
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
Apr 9
Stupid Requests Cheaters Make?
Apr 8
Dear Chump Lady, Do I owe him an explanation?
Apr 5
Serenade the Universal Bullshit Translator
Apr 4
UBT: “People sometimes lie or ‘forget’ to keep their promises”
Apr 3
UBT: When the OW Doesn’t Trust Her Boyfriend
Apr 2
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
Apr 1
Dear Chump Lady, He told me not to tell
March 2019
Mar 29
Bitter Bunny Dating?
Mar 28
When You Piss Off the Unicorns
Mar 27
Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?
Mar 26
UBT: Eat, Pray, Happy Day?
Mar 25
Dear Chump Lady, Please be mean
Mar 22
Mightiness Update
Mar 21
UBT: “I should be nice to you”
Mar 20
Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
Mar 19
Beware the Timid Forest Creatures
Mar 18
Dear Chump Lady, The OW is the ‘Girl Next Door’
Mar 15
Be the UBT
Mar 14
UBT: “People Grow Apart”
Mar 13
Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
Mar 12
Forgiving the ‘Sex Addict’
Mar 11
Dear Chump Lady, I want closure
Mar 10
Yes, That’s Chump Lady in Español
Mar 8
Imagine Justice
Mar 7
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so mad at my ex?
Mar 6
Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW
Mar 5
UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
Mar 4
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get my ex’s voice out of my head
Mar 1
Your Heart and Your Wallet
February 2019
Feb 28
“I Didn’t Mean To” Debunked
Feb 27
Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street
Feb 26
Esther Perel Can Bite Me
Feb 25
Dear Chump Lady, He puts the OW phone to say ‘goodnight’ to our child
Feb 22
Got a Pep Talk?
Feb 21
The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
Feb 20
Dear Chump Lady, Why do I feel a new man is the answer?
Feb 19
‘Is it my fault my ex ran off with our nanny?’
Feb 18
Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave for an emotional affair?
Feb 15
When your ‘match’ is a married motivational speaker
Feb 14
And the Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
Feb 13
The ‘Bitch Be Crazy’ Red Flag
Feb 12
Playing the Victim?
Feb 11
Is Cake Better Than Abandonment?
Feb 8
What’s Your Patronus?
Feb 7
Dear Chump Lady, I work with the OW and my ex
Feb 6
Dear Chump Lady, He sees me as the Fixer
Feb 5
A Masterclass in Boundaries
Feb 4
Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer
Feb 1
Infidelity Valentines
January 2019
Jan 31
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Jan 30
Don’t Send It
Jan 29
Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
Jan 28
Dear Chump Lady, My husband prefers porn to me
Jan 25
Glimpses of Meh?
Jan 24
UBT: “Neither of us are perfect”
Jan 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
Jan 22
Dear Chump Lady, He’s dating a mom at our kid’s school
Jan 21
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Jan 20
Get the F*ck Out Now
Jan 18
Best No Contact Strategies
Jan 17
Pain Shopping, Anyone?
Jan 16
Dear Chump Lady, He shoveled my snow, so he cares?
Jan 15
“Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?”
Jan 14
Dear Chump Lady, I’d divorce her, but she wants that
Jan 11
Got Jesus Cheaters?
Jan 10
Don’t Date This Person
Jan 9
Dear Chump Lady, Was I THAT bad?
Jan 8
“Why do cheaters need to punish the chump?”
Jan 7
Dear Chump Lady, He says he cheated to protect me
Jan 4
What’s In. What’s Out
Jan 3
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
Jan 2
UBT: ‘A Letter to My Lover’s Wife’
Jan 1
Gain a Life
2018
December 2018
Dec 31
‘He sent me a poem on Christmas’
Dec 28
Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
Dec 27
Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
Dec 26
Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
Dec 25
UBT: “I wish I could take it back”
Dec 24
The Promise Land of Meh
Dec 21
Jingle Meh?
Dec 20
Dear Chump Lady, Where do I go with this anger?
Dec 19
Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Dec 18
UBT: “There Are No Right Answers”
Dec 17
Chaos — The Fourth Channel?
Dec 14
Most Spectacularly Callous Christmas Dump?
Dec 13
Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted
Dec 12
UBT: “I Want to Dive Into You”
Dec 11
Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
Dec 10
Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn
Dec 7
You Might Be a Chump If..
Dec 6
Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?
Dec 5
Dear Chump Lady, I have no Seasons Greetings
Dec 4
‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’
Dec 3
The Cheater Who Stole Christmas
November 2018
Nov 30
Schadenfreude Snark
Nov 29
Dear Chump Lady, Please kick my ass
Nov 28
Out of Sight, Out of Mind
Nov 27
Dear Chump Lady, Why do people assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
Nov 26
UBT: “I Don’t Mean to Worry You, But…”
Nov 23
Holiday Hoovering
Nov 22
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Nov 21
Bye-Bye, Cheater
Nov 20
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to stay ‘friends’?
Nov 19
Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker
Nov 16
Chump Nation Gives Thanks
Nov 15
Cool. Bummer. Wow.
Nov 14
The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory
Nov 13
Dear Chump Lady, Where do I put his stuff?
Nov 12
Dear Chump Lady, I drunk dialed
Nov 9
What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?
Nov 8
Managing Divorce Expectations
Nov 7
Your Time on the Marriage Police Force
Nov 6
Dear Chump Lady, “I still wish I could call him”
Nov 5
How to Deal with Adult Child After D-Day?
Nov 2
Your Mightiest Moment?
Nov 1
The “What If They’re Really The One” Fear
October 2018
Oct 31
Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
Oct 30
Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?
Oct 29
Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
Oct 26
The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
Oct 25
Respond to Mindfuckery with Ridicule
Oct 24
‘I Found the OW’s Goodbye Letter in My Safe’
Oct 23
I Don’t Write for You
Oct 22
UBT: “You Represent Christmastime”
Oct 19
Twu Wuv Vows?
Oct 18
Reject the Plan B Offer
Oct 17
Dear Chump Lady, He’s stuck on his ‘intentions’
Oct 16
Dear Chump Lady, I have nightmares
Oct 15
The I-Know-What-I-Did-Was-Wrong-But-I-Did-It-Anyway Mindfuck
Oct 13
The First Chump Podcast!
Oct 12
Good Advice, Bad Advice?
Oct 11
Who’s Hoovering Who?
Oct 10
UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
Oct 9
What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
Oct 8
Dear Chump Lady, He left me to BLOG with the OW?
Oct 5
Radical Kindness
Oct 4
UBT: “I Don’t Understand”
Oct 3
UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
Oct 2
Dear Chump Lady, How did I not know?
Oct 1
When Entitlement Meets Vulnerability
September 2018
Sep 28
Worst Gift Ever?
Sep 27
Owning Your Chumpiness
Sep 26
Tiffany Glass Windows
Sep 25
Chump Lady Descends Into Middle Age
Sep 24
UBT: “I Found Myself and Had an Affair”
Sep 21
What It Looked Like, What It Was
Sep 20
Science Vindicates ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’
Sep 19
Dear Chump Lady, Did my being controlling make him gay?
Sep 18
The Ones Who Just Leave
Sep 17
Let’s blame the children?
Sep 14
Stupid Shit Affair Partners Say?
Sep 13
UBT: ‘I hold no animosity for you’
Sep 12
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any good memories of him
Sep 11
Situational Truth
Sep 10
UBT: ‘Our Marriage Was Already Over’
Sep 7
Problem? Adulting vs. Escapism
Sep 6
Character Assassination? Probably.
Sep 5
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t give up
Sep 4
Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?
Sep 3
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
August 2018
Aug 31
So, What Are You Taking Back?
Aug 30
Dear Chump Lady, Can I go NC with my step-daughter?
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump, my brother is a cheater
Aug 28
UBT: Chump Lady’s ‘attitude’
Aug 27
The ‘Otherness’ of the OW
Aug 24
Biggest lie you bought?
Aug 23
Dear Chump Lady, He got a ring tattoo for the OW
Aug 22
Dear Chump Lady, Is pain a choice?
Aug 21
New Narc Strategy? Be Boring
Aug 20
UBT: “I’m sorry you feel that way”
Aug 17
God Rest Her Soul
Aug 16
“Our children deserved…”
Aug 15
Why blame the chump?
Aug 14
Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house
Aug 13
Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the OW
Aug 10
How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
Aug 9
Dear Chump Lady, He keeps calling me “Babe”
Aug 8
“Closure,” Don’t Do It.
Aug 7
Nice vs. Kind
Aug 6
Dear Chump Lady, Am I normal?
Aug 3
Ever Run into Your Ex?
Aug 2
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Aug 1
Cheater Exceptionalism
July 2018
Jul 31
Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford it
Jul 30
The Case of the Dangling Former Spouse
Jul 27
What’s Your Post-Infidelity Super Power?
Jul 26
Be the Support You Wish You Had
Jul 25
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
Jul 24
Entitlement Reinforcement
Jul 23
Dear Chump Lady, I shouldn’t have looked…
Jul 20
The Selfies, OMG the Selfies
Jul 19
UBT: “I was just going to ride it out”
Jul 18
Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust
Jul 17
The Walls in Your House Will Sing
Jul 16
When You Perform the Pick Me Dance Wrong
Jul 13
Connecting with Other Chumps?
Jul 12
“Does divorcing her make me the Bad Guy?”
Jul 11
Chump Nation Subject of ‘Curious’ Podcast!
Jul 11
Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
Jul 10
Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
Jul 9
Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back
Jul 6
Tell Me How You Suck
Jul 5
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
Jul 4
Happy Independence Day!
Jul 3
Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and Ghosts
Jul 2
Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothes
June 2018
Jun 29
How to Find a Lawyer and Other Chump Survival Tips
Jun 28
When You Can’t Leave Because You Still “Love” Them
Jun 27
Dear Chump Lady, Why must cheaters add insult to injury?
Jun 26
How to Confront a Cheater
Jun 25
“What do I tell my crying children?”
Jun 22
Fear, You Don’t Own Me
Jun 21
Keeping Secrets
Jun 20
Dear Chump Lady, I feel trapped
Jun 19
Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!
Jun 18
UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later
Jun 17
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 15
Recidivism?
Jun 14
Shocker. Rudy Giuliani Still a Cheater.
Jun 13
Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom
Jun 12
A “Trust That They Suck” Reminder
Jun 11
The Dead Cheater Dilemma
Jun 8
Apology Fails
Jun 7
Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged
Jun 6
Dear Chump Lady, He’s promising to better himself… for her
Jun 5
Dear Chump Lady, She knew in her heart he was a cheater
Jun 4
Chump Nation Takes Australia!
Jun 1
Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?
May 2018
May 31
Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
May 30
UBT: “I just want to help you!”
May 29
You Don’t Need It THAT Bad
May 28
Stupid Shit That People Say to Chumps
May 25
So what else didn’t you know about?
May 24
Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
May 23
UXWorld UBTs a Letter from KK
May 22
Cheaters Never Trade Up — The Lola Doctrine
May 21
How did you spackle over the incompatibility?
May 19
Chump Lady Heads to Australia!
May 18
Where Is Their SHAME?
May 17
When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
May 16
Are Cheaters Timid Forest Creatures?
May 15
Dear Chump Lady, Why is he copying me?
May 14
Dear Chump Lady, Do cheaters blameshift?
May 12
Happy Mother’s Day! Take a Single Mom to Brunch
May 11
Monica Lewinsky Isn’t Going to the Ball
May 10
UBT: “You’re the one who still has my heart”
May 9
“I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response
May 8
UBT: Thanks to your book, my husband wants to leave me
May 7
Dear Chump Lady, Why does the OW want to meet me?
May 4
What You Thought It Was… What It Really Was
May 3
Dear Josh
May 2
Dear Chump Lady, He sexted his AUNT
May 1
Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My Head
April 2018
Apr 30
Dear Chump Lady, I’m too old to start over
Apr 27
Sunshine, Lollipops, Middle Fingers
Apr 26
When the Pick Me Dance Turns Deadly
Apr 25
Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?
Apr 24
I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
Apr 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all do the same stupid shit?
Apr 20
Time for Another Mightiness Check In
Apr 19
Happy Blog Birthday, Chump Nation! Viva la Revolution!
Apr 18
When Affair Partners Marry
Apr 17
UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair Partner
Apr 16
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?
Apr 13
Time for Another Round of Bitch Cookie!
Apr 12
Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
Apr 11
The Perils of Flunking No Contact
Apr 10
Dear Chump Lady, Is he a narcissist?
Apr 9
UBT: What Sleeping with Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
Apr 6
You Picked a Fine Time To Leave Me, Lucille
Apr 5
Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman — Who does that?!
Apr 4
Dear Chump Lady, I’m REALLY angry. Is this normal?
Apr 3
UBT: I Will Return with a Fuller Love
Apr 2
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want him, but she can’t have him
Apr 1
A Chump in a Land Down Under
March 2018
Mar 30
Most Audacious Lie?
Mar 29
UBT: I Didn’t Know How to Express My Unhappiness
Mar 28
Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
Mar 27
Dear Chump Lady, Better the Cheater I know, right?
Mar 26
Making the Marriage ‘A Good Place to Be’
Mar 25
My Gun Story… Or That Time I Found a Loaded Handgun Under My Bed
Mar 23
Stupid Cheater Life Plans
Mar 22
Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants $25,000
Mar 21
Dear Chump Lady, He wants to move to New Zealand
Mar 20
You’d Like Them If You Really Knew Them
Mar 19
UBT: I cheated because you’re stale
Mar 16
Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?
Mar 15
Dear Chump Lady, The cheater doesn’t know I’m pregnant
Mar 14
UBT: Affair Proof Your Marriage
Mar 13
Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
Mar 12
Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater because of her dad?
Mar 9
Hopium Translations
Mar 8
Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
Mar 7
The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
Mar 6
But He’s a Really Nice Guy
Mar 5
Dear Chump Lady, He keeps returning and crying
Mar 2
How Is Your Life Better Without a Cheater?
Mar 1
Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?
February 2018
Feb 28
UBTing the Sugar Daddy
Feb 27
Dear Chump Lady, The OW must be really great for my wife to give up everything
Feb 26
Chump Lady on Orgies
Feb 25
Chump Lady Tweaks Her Site
Feb 23
Infidelity… It’s So Much More
Feb 22
How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
Feb 21
Dear Chump Lady, Can’t quite shake the rejection…
Feb 20
Australia, You Need to Up Your Scandal Game
Feb 19
The Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Somebody Else
Feb 16
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he get to look like a Good Person?
Feb 15
Dear Chump Lady, What’s in the minds of OW?
Feb 13
And the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
Feb 13
A Valentine’s Day Reset
Feb 12
Dead Cheaters and Terrible Discoveries
Feb 9
Check Your Bills for Boob Jobs and Other Great Advice
Feb 8
I Love You, But I’m Not In Love With You
Feb 7
Dear Chump Lady, He cheated on me through fertility treatments
Feb 6
Financial Abuse and Your D-Day
Feb 5
Poor Nigel
Feb 2
Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!
Feb 1
Mayor of Nashville Feels Really Sad About Her Taxpayer-Funded Affair
January 2018
Jan 31
Affairs Improve Marriage?
Jan 30
How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Jan 29
Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m not “the one”
Jan 26
If You Could Go Back in Time…
Jan 25
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the unfairness?
Jan 24
UBT: “I’m Not a Terrible Person”
Jan 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I pull the trigger on the divorce?
Jan 22
Don’t Need It THAT Bad
Jan 21
And The Cheater Freak Winner Is…
Jan 19
Profiles in Mightiness
Jan 18
Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront the affair partner?
Jan 17
Tuesday Is Coming
Jan 16
UBT: I’m a Real Silly Bunny
Jan 15
How Can We Challenge Blameshifting Therapists?
Jan 14
Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
Jan 12
New Script for Betrayed Political Wives?
Jan 11
UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married Man
Jan 10
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered a Switzerland Sister
Jan 9
Narcissists Be Crazy!
Jan 8
Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!
Jan 5
Dreams, Signs, and Cosmic Portents You’re a Chump
Jan 4
Snooping in the Modern Age
Jan 3
Dear Chump Lady, What are OW thinking?
Jan 2
Dear Chump Lady, Is this my fault?
Jan 1
Dear Chump Lady, Why meh? Why not screaming?
2017
December 2017
Dec 29
New Year’s Friday Challenge!
Dec 28
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
Dec 27
Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
Dec 26
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
Dec 25
Dear Chump Lady, WTF Merry X-mas?!
Dec 22
Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Holiday Edition
Dec 21
Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?
Dec 20
UBT: “My dog loves Mark.”
Dec 19
Esther Perel in the #MeToo Era
Dec 18
You Could Be Friends!
Dec 15
Cheater Freak Christmas Countdown!
Dec 14
UBT: “We tried to stop so many times, but we couldn’t”
Dec 13
It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day
Dec 12
Dear Chump Lady, I miss being a full-time parent
Dec 11
Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
Dec 10
Some Holiday Uplift
Dec 8
What to Say to Sanctimonious Rubberneckers?
Dec 7
Dear Chump Lady, The cheater wants to take family photos
Dec 6
UBT: “No One Is Perfect”
Dec 5
Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
Dec 4
“Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”
Dec 1
Sorry Not Sorry
November 2017
Nov 30
There’s the Door, Matt Lauer
Nov 29
Dear Chump Lady, I need confirmation that he cheated
Nov 28
No, We Bitter, Hopeless Chumps Will Not Come to Your Dinner Party
Nov 27
UBT: “An Optimist’s Guide to Divorce”
Nov 24
Your Stupid Cheater Moments
Nov 23
UBT: “I just wanted to reach out to help you”
Nov 22
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Nov 21
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop feeling sorry for him?
Nov 20
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife has some weird requests
Nov 17
Fix Your Picker Tips
Nov 16
Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the data on reconciliation?
Nov 15
The Smugness of Friendly Divorce
Nov 14
Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to the people who knew?
Nov 13
The Silent Chumps
Nov 10
Narcissist Mixtapes?
Nov 9
The Bullshit That Is the ‘Trust Bank’
Nov 8
Monogamy Is Not the Problem
Nov 7
UBT: I’m a broken empty person searching for meaning and happiness before I die
Nov 6
The Futility in Confronting Affair Partners
Nov 3
Bitch Cookie, Anyone?
Nov 2
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
Nov 1
Dear Chump Lady, I left my perfect husband
October 2017
Oct 31
What Married Men Tell Other Women
Oct 30
Dear Chump Lady, Help! I keep breaking no contact
Oct 29
Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
Oct 27
Mr./Ms. Sparkles Is Ready to Date You!
Oct 26
“Our Marriage Was Already Over”
Oct 25
Dear Chump Lady, What if I leave and he really loves me?
Oct 24
Weinstein Does Outpatient Quackery
Oct 23
A Shout Out to All You Stalking Cheaters
Oct 20
The “Redeemable Cheater” Fallacy
Oct 19
When They Look Good on Paper
Oct 18
Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A Primer
Oct 17
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t feel mighty. I got left.
Oct 16
Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with my cheater dad?
Oct 13
Divorce Hacks
Oct 12
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he will cheat on me
Oct 11
Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly nice?
Oct 10
Want to spot a narcissist? Just ask one.
Oct 9
Dear Chump Lady, She says it was “just kissing”
Oct 7
Chump Lady Takes Back Paris
Oct 6
Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice You Got
Oct 5
Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
Oct 4
Problem? Adult solution vs. Cheater solution
Oct 3
Cheater Freak of the Week?
Oct 2
You might be a chump if…
Oct 1
A Week of Fridays!
September 2017
Sep 29
I Want What She’s Having
Sep 28
Dear Chump Lady, Help, I slept with my ex!
Sep 27
Anthony Weiner Gets Sent to the Clink
Sep 26
Dear Chump Lady, I wish I would’ve pressed charges
Sep 25
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Sep 22
What Got You Unstuck?
Sep 21
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to be friendly with my ex?
Sep 20
Situational Truth
Sep 19
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?
Sep 18
Dear Chump Lady, My therapist thinks I’m responsible for my husband’s cheating
Sep 15
Rituals for New Lives?
Sep 14
Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?
Sep 13
One Off Cheaters versus Serial Cheaters?
Sep 12
The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
Sep 11
UBT: Esther Perel’s “Happy People Cheat”
Sep 8
Who You Thought You Were, Who You Really Are
Sep 7
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to do No Contact
Sep 6
“I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time”
Sep 5
Dear Chump Lady, We divorced… and now she wants to reconcile
Sep 4
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Sep 1
What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was
August 2017
Aug 31
Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
Aug 30
Dear Chump Lady, Why is the OW calling our house?
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, He proposed… and then he cheated
Aug 28
UBT: You aren’t alone… you have the kids
Aug 25
How Did You Thwart Their Greatness?
Aug 24
Dear Chump Lady, She wants me to fight for her?
Aug 23
Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
Aug 22
All Hail Joss Whedon the Conquering Douchebag
Aug 21
Dear Chump Lady, My husband died. Then I discovered his double life.
Aug 18
New Life Tattoos Anyone?
Aug 17
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Aug 16
Dear Chump Lady, Do they turn bad or were they always bad?
Aug 15
Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?
Aug 14
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get over being replaced
Aug 13
Chump Lady’s Book Now on AUDIO!
Aug 11
The Health Costs of Staying?
Aug 10
Dear Chump Lady, He won’t stop texting the OW in front of me
Aug 9
Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”
Aug 8
Character Assassination? Expect It.
Aug 7
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think my cheater is like the other cheaters…
Aug 4
It’s Taking Up Another’s Place
Aug 3
Chump Shaming as Competitive Sport
Aug 2
Dear Chump Lady. My husband cheated. My mother is disappointed in US.
Aug 1
Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the Other Woman
July 2017
Jul 31
UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
Jul 29
RIP Julie Gomoll
Jul 28
Cheater Warning Signs?
Jul 27
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a cheater and my wife is such a chump
Jul 26
UBT: Will Telling the Truth Hurt Your Relationship?
Jul 25
Dear Chump Lady, He’s doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad
Jul 24
Dear Chump Lady, I didn’t just discover cheating — he’s a criminal too
Jul 21
Your Best No Contact Strategies
Jul 20
Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
Jul 19
The Trickle Truth is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Jul 18
UBT: You’ll regret it
Jul 17
Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
Jul 14
Going No Contact with Stuff
Jul 13
Miracles Happen on Tuesdays
Jul 12
UBT: Joseph’s Letter
Jul 11
An Interview with Jen Waite, Author of “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing”
Jul 10
Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
Jul 7
What makes you resilient?
Jul 6
Dear Chump Lady, Do I stay for the kids?
Jul 4
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
Jul 4
A Chump Independence Proclamation
Jul 3
UBT: “I don’t handle rejection well”
June 2017
Jun 30
Merit Badges for Cheaters
Jun 29
Closure Does Not Exist
Jun 28
Dear Chump Lady, He brought his girlfriend and I lost my meh
Jun 27
When Affair Partners Marry
Jun 26
UBT: Cheaters and “Grace”
Jun 23
Flip the Script — The Un-Letter
Jun 22
The Unlikelihood of True Remorse
Jun 21
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Jun 20
Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
Jun 19
UBT: “I can’t remember”
Jun 17
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 16
Strange Bedfellows
Jun 15
UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s Lemonade
Jun 14
UBT: Let’s just forget and forgive
Jun 13
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he hate me?
Jun 12
Get Mighty, Retrain in a Tech Career
Jun 9
Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
Jun 8
Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry as hell
Jun 7
Dear Chump Lady, The OW exposed the affair on Facebook
Jun 6
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is having an emotional affair with his HS girlfriend
Jun 5
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the pick-me dance?
Jun 2
The Sentence That Changed Your Life?
Jun 1
Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
May 2017
May 31
The Decline of Tiger Woods
May 30
Dear Chump Lady, How do I know when I’m done?
May 29
Dear Chump Lady, I smell a generous settlement…
May 26
If Cheaters Wrote Children’s Book Titles…
May 25
Jesus Cheaters
May 24
Dear Chump Lady, We had a good life. Why did he cheat?
May 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
May 22
Huma Finally Leaves
May 19
Stupid Shit Schmoopies Say
May 18
The Bitch-Be-Crazy Red Flag
May 17
UBT: “You’re nobody’s muse.”
May 16
Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
May 15
Open Marriage Skepticism
May 12
Happy Mother’s Day to Single Moms
May 11
Emotional Vomiting and the Kindness of Strangers
May 10
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a problem with self-worth
May 9
Dear Chump Lady, The court wants me to say she is a “good parent.” I can’t.
May 8
UBT: Leaving and Cleaving
May 5
Gift Registries for Cheaters?
May 4
Might Want to Rethink that “Character” Thing
May 3
5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
May 2
Dear Chump Lady, He divorced me because we don’t have “chemistry”
May 1
You Want to Date a Chump? Here’s Where to Find Them
April 2017
Apr 28
Not Your Job Anymore
Apr 27
Kids and Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
Apr 26
The Fallacy of “Unmet Needs”
Apr 25
Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles The Magnificent Personality Changing Dry Drunk Unicorn?
Apr 24
Dear Chump Lady, Why do I have to pay her when she cheated?
Apr 23
Abuse Goes with Substance Abuse
Apr 21
Best Sassy Chump Retorts?
Apr 20
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t stand a chance dating
Apr 19
5 Years of Chump Lady? 5 Lessons Learned
Apr 18
Paltering — Another Kind of Mindfuckery
Apr 17
Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid he’ll turn the kids against me
Apr 14
Your Nominees for the Mighty Award
Apr 13
The Ones Who Just Leave
Apr 12
And the Mighty Award Goes to Dianne Bentley!
Apr 11
Dear Chump Lady, Should I reconcile with a sex addict?
Apr 10
Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I betrayed the OW
Apr 7
Your Most Ridiculous RIC Nuggets
Apr 6
Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
Apr 5
Dear Chump Lady, Tell those wives to maintain their dignity
Apr 4
Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave if he has cancer?
Apr 3
Why No Contact Works
March 2017
Mar 31
Therapy with Cheaters
Mar 30
Dear Chump Lady, I’ll leave him after I lose 20 lbs
Mar 29
UBT: “You’re incapable of forgiveness”
Mar 28
Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move On
Mar 27
Is Huma Abedin Really Working It Out with Anthony Weiner?
Mar 27
Dear Chump Lady, He won’t admit to cheating
Mar 24
What’s the Dumbest Lie You Ever Fell For?
Mar 23
Forgiveness Trolls
Mar 22
Dear Chump Lady, Should I fight for her?
Mar 21
You Get Over It – A Chump Story
Mar 20
A Chump Minstrel Show
Mar 17
New Infidelity Euphemisms
Mar 16
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
Mar 15
Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?
Mar 14
Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
Mar 13
Dear Chump Lady, Why am I thinking “If only…”?
Mar 10
Your Imaginary Chump-Cheater Biopics
Mar 9
Dear Chump Lady, My husband ran off with the nanny and it’s my fault?
Mar 8
You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
Mar 7
UBT: “You don’t need the specifics”
Mar 6
UBT: “This Isn’t the Real Me”
Mar 3
Tell Me How You’re Mighty!
Mar 2
UBT: “I was just experimenting”
Mar 1
Dear Chump Lady, Help! I regret posting OW on expose-a-homewrecker sites
February 2017
Feb 28
Close Encounters with Affair Partners
Feb 27
Dear Chump Lady, Am I responsible for the kids’ relationship with their dad?
Feb 24
I Am a Rock. I Am an Island.
Feb 23
Dear Chump Lady, Did she leave because I’m not good enough?
Feb 22
Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
Feb 21
Dear Chump Lady, My heart hasn’t caught up to my divorce
Feb 20
Dear Chump Lady, My mother doesn’t support my divorce
Feb 17
Nice versus Kind
Feb 16
UBT: There Is No Right or Wrong in the World
Feb 15
What Lessons Did You Learn From Cheating?
Feb 14
And the Valentine’s Day Poetry Winners Are…
Feb 13
UBT: 12 Lessons I Learned From Cheating
Feb 10
UBT: “My heart is now open and the feelings are felt.”
Feb 9
Dear Chump Lady, He’s in the closet. How do I tell his wife?
Feb 8
Unconditional Love
Feb 7
Dear Chump Lady, Do I miss the mindfuck?
Feb 6
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
Feb 5
The Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
Feb 3
What a Good Friend Looks Like
Feb 2
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
Feb 1
Dear Chump Lady, My wife is near perfect, but I see prostitutes
January 2017
Jan 31
How Do I Divorce a Narcissist?
Jan 30
What Did Your Sad Sausage Want Sympathy For?
Jan 27
Your Best No Contact Strategies
Jan 26
Sorry Is as Sorry Does
Jan 25
Dear Chump Lady, How do I tell my pregnant SIL her husband is cheating?
Jan 24
Lies Are Exhausting
Jan 23
Dear Chump Lady, Cheater’s mom enables him in his affair
Jan 20
What’s Your Patronus?
Jan 19
The Power of Ridicule
Jan 18
The “I Fail to Understand Your Hostility” Mindfuck
Jan 17
Dear Chump Lady, My husband says the children should not be told of his affair
Jan 16
When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
Jan 13
Biggest Empowerment Jolt after D-Day?
Jan 12
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants an open marriage
Jan 11
The Cheater Was Going to Stop… Really
Jan 10
Got Anger?
Jan 9
The Fallacy of Blissful Ignorance
Jan 6
Overcoming Awkward Firsts
Jan 5
Dear Chump Lady, He’s just flawed, he’s not bad?
Jan 4
Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
Jan 3
UBT: Chump Lady’s Attitude
Jan 2
Get Over It
2016
December 2016
Dec 30
Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
Dec 29
Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
Dec 28
Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
Dec 27
Stupid Shit Other People Say
Dec 26
Dear Chump Lady, Is PTSD a reason for cheating?
Dec 23
Tis the Season for New Traditions
Dec 22
UBT: He blew up the marriage to improve it
Dec 21
Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
Dec 20
Compartmentalization
Dec 19
Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
Dec 16
Moments of Meh
Dec 15
Quit Waiting for an Apology
Dec 14
Dear Chump Lady, How do I co-parent with an addict?
Dec 13
Dear Chump Lady, Should my cheater be in the delivery room?
Dec 12
How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
Dec 9
Tips for Starting a New Life?
Dec 8
Cool. Bummer. Wow.
Dec 7
UBT: A Letter from “the Baby”
Dec 6
UBT: The OW told me to jump off a bridge
Dec 5
Dear Chump Lady, Just divorced and my ex is introducing her affair partner to the kids
Dec 2
The Annual Christmas Freak Countdown
Dec 1
Making a Vow to Yourself
November 2016
Nov 30
It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day…
Nov 29
UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
Nov 28
Dear Chump Lady, Don’t confess an affair?
Nov 25
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Nov 24
Things We Are Grateful For
Nov 23
Things We Are Not Grateful For
Nov 22
Dear Chump Lady, Husband said OW’s name during sex
Nov 21
Dear Chump Lady, When dating, how do I know if someone is a cheater?
Nov 18
Co-Parenting With Fuckwits, Your Thoughts…
Nov 17
The Walls In Your House Will Sing
Nov 16
UBT: Ask Your Spouse Directly If They’ve Been Cheating
Nov 15
UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
Nov 14
Cheating Is a Very “Individual” Thing
Nov 11
Tell Me Something Good
Nov 10
Dear Chump Lady, I just got HPV, but I’ve been monogamous for 30 years
Nov 9
Dear America, You’re in an abusive relationship
Nov 8
UBT: If You Accuse Me of Cheating, I Will Cheat
Nov 7
Anthony Weiner Does Sex Rehab
Nov 4
I Don’t Need Your Permission
Nov 3
Flip the Script, Chumps
Nov 2
UBT: It Has Nothing To Do With You
Nov 1
What Did You Lose By Reconciling?
October 2016
Oct 31
Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife wants to come back
Oct 28
The Pep Talk You Would Give Yourself at D-Day
Oct 27
Dear Chump Lady, My ex doesn’t want me to date
Oct 26
Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
Oct 25
Dear Chump Lady, My “friend” is an OW
Oct 24
Dear Chump Lady, How do you ask for a divorce?
Oct 21
Have a Bitch Cookie
Oct 20
The Stranger
Oct 19
Dear Chump Lady, He apologized. Now what?
Oct 18
UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
Oct 17
Dear Chump Lady, Please help un-chump my mom
Oct 14
Ghoulies and Ghosties and Long-Legged Beasties and Things That Cheat in the Night
Oct 13
Chump Lady Answers Her Google Queries
Oct 12
The “Children Are Resilient” Argument
Oct 11
Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught
Oct 10
Yeah, That’s Not An Apology
Oct 7
The Day of the Deadbeat
Oct 6
Tori’s Marriage-Saving Pregnancy
Oct 5
Dear Chump Lady, I need some karma stories STAT!
Oct 4
Dear Chump Lady, He’s not a bad person, he’s just a sex addict
Oct 3
Everyone Cheats?
September 2016
Sep 30
Hashtags for #Cheaters
Sep 29
UBT: Joseph’s Letter
Sep 28
WTF Trivago Guy?
Sep 27
Dear Chump Lady, How long do you think this affair was going on?
Sep 26
Happy Birthday Chump Lady
Sep 23
Dear Chump Lady, Apparently I am “spiteful”
Sep 22
Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
Sep 21
Your Obligatory Brangelina Post
Sep 20
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any proof but…
Sep 19
UBT: How do I find that next married man?
Sep 16
That Moment of Chump Rebellion
Sep 15
Dear Chump Lady, My ex sent me a goodbye letter
Sep 14
Dear Chump Lady, Why am I second guessing my decision to break up?
Sep 13
The Condescension of Other Women
Sep 12
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he suck at remorse?
Sep 9
Eat, Pray, Gay?
Sep 8
Dear Chump Lady, Why do people help cheaters cheat?
Sep 7
Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is For Suckers
Sep 6
Dear Chump Lady, I neglected him and this is all my fault
Sep 4
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Sep 2
Meh Sightings
Sep 1
UBT: “Respect my relationship with the OW”
August 2016
Aug 31
When Your Cheater Is Also a Sicko
Aug 30
Huma Frees Herself
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to block him
Aug 26
Your Most Un-Meh Moment
Aug 25
Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX just to mess with him?
Aug 24
Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
Aug 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters work from the same script?
Aug 22
Dear Chump Lady, I lost the moral high ground when I told people my wife was cheating
Aug 19
Time Again for a Mightiness Check
Aug 18
Dear Chump Lady, How can I save my friend?
Aug 17
Dear Chump Lady, What if he changes for the next woman?
Aug 15
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t trust women
Aug 15
Anthony Weiner Gets Catfished
Aug 12
Snappy “I’d Rather” Cheater Comebacks
Aug 11
Dear Chump Lady, Are affairs addictions?
Aug 10
The Pick Me Dance… After Death?
Aug 9
Living with Your Ex… For The Children?
Aug 8
Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants to live in my basement
Aug 5
You Might Be a Cheater If…
Aug 4
UBT: “We Aren’t All Homewreckers”
Aug 3
Dear Chump Lady, Why does everyone assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
Aug 2
Dear Chump Lady, Can I please destroy the OW?
Aug 1
China’s Mistress Dispelling Services
July 2016
Jul 29
A Chump Coming Out Party?
Jul 28
Dear Chump Lady, I stay to protect my son from the Other Woman
Jul 27
Finding a Friend You Can Confide In
Jul 26
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the devaluing?
Jul 25
Dear Chump Lady, I’m struggling with no contact and kids
Jul 22
Ashley Madison Wants You to “Find Your Moment”
Jul 21
Dear Chump Lady, Is Affair Fog real?
Jul 20
I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
Jul 19
Dear Chump Lady, I have a Switzerland cousin
Jul 18
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater and I want to change
Jul 17
A Chump Emancipation Proclamation
Jul 15
Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
Jul 14
Eat, Pray, Kibble, Divorce
Jul 13
The Ready Chump Response to “I’ve Changed!”
Jul 12
Being the Marriage Police
Jul 11
Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
Jul 8
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep myself from rewriting history?
Jul 7
Dear Chump Lady, When do I tell him I’m dumping him?
Jul 6
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over losing the dream?
Jul 5
Don’t Be Bitter!
Jul 4
But I Always Come Back to You
Jul 1
The Museum of Broken Relationships
June 2016
Jun 30
A Plea for Civility
Jun 29
Dear Chump Lady, Can I let people know he’s a fraud?
Jun 28
Affair Enablers
Jun 27
But I Love Her (Him)
Jun 24
What Inspirational Quote Helped You Through?
Jun 23
Dear Chump Lady, She’s pregnant by the Other Man
Jun 22
Knowing When a Marriage Is Over
Jun 21
Embrace the Chaos
Jun 20
Dear Chump Lady, How do I handle the OW?
Jun 19
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 17
Dating Disaster Stories, Anyone?
Jun 16
Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
Jun 15
Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’m too available
Jun 14
The Blog Odometer Rolled Over 10 Million
Jun 13
Ask Me Anything Tonight
Jun 13
UBT: “I will return with a fuller love for you”
Jun 10
Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
Jun 9
An Imperfect Beginning
Jun 8
Do Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem?
Jun 7
Ask Me Anything!
Jun 7
Tom Jones Eulogizes His Chump
Jun 6
Dear Chump Lady, When I threaten to leave, he says he’ll change
Jun 3
New Age Cheaterisms
Jun 2
A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
Jun 1
UBT: “Why My Affair Will Turn Into a Healthy Relationship!”
May 2016
May 30
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he ignore my questions?
May 30
Paula Broadwell Wants Us to Stop Saying “Mistress”
May 27
No Contact Fails — The Outtakes
May 26
UBT: “You have to set me free within the marriage.”
May 25
UBT This Jesus Cheater Please
May 24
UBT: “I lied to you because you can’t accept the truth”
May 23
Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband wants me to sponsor his citizenship
May 20
Time for a Mightiness Check In!
May 19
You Need a Lawyer
May 18
How to Suffer — A Chump Manual
May 17
Dear Chump Lady, I’m 9 months pregnant and he’s introducing his girlfriend
May 16
Dear Chump Lady, I was completely duped. How do I ever trust again?
May 15
A Feast of Mightiness!
May 13
Cheater or Child? Who Said It Best?
May 12
Dear Chump Lady, I’m considering just giving up
May 11
Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with cheating ex at my daughter’s graduation?
May 10
Official Book Day!
May 9
UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
May 8
Happy Mothers’ Day!
May 6
The Fuckwit Pride Parade
May 5
Dear Chump Lady, My insecurity made him cheat?
May 4
Dear Chump Lady, The OW is taunting me
May 3
UBT: “Please Don’t Give Up On Me!”
May 2
Science Vindicates “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life”
April 2016
Apr 29
UBT: “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage”
Apr 28
Dear Chump Lady, Which came first — the death of the marriage or the affair?
Apr 27
Let Me Tell You All About Them!
Apr 26
If You Think I’m THAT Sort of Person…
Apr 25
UBT: Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
Apr 22
UBT: “I Made a Terrible Mistake”
Apr 21
Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me
Apr 20
Dear Chump Lady, Is he just your average narcissist?
Apr 19
The Blog Turns 4 Today!
Apr 18
Dear Chump Lady, I chased my cheater through a mall…
Apr 15
How Pretty Did You “Pick Me” Dance?
Apr 14
Cream of Mindfuck Soup
Apr 13
Dear Chump Lady, What’s age-appropriate disclosure with kids?
Apr 12
Cool, Bummer, Wow
Apr 11
Dear Chump Lady, How do I say goodbye?
Apr 8
Oh the Places You’ll Go!
Apr 7
UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
Apr 6
UBT: Fred Armisen: Cheating “Is Just Something That Happens”
Apr 5
50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
Apr 4
Dear Chump Lady, I feel stupid for outing my cheater in an email blast
Apr 3
New Book! Book Launch Party!
Apr 1
UBT: “A letter to my husband from his cheating wife”
March 2016
Mar 31
When Your Cheater Is Also a Predator
Mar 30
Dear Chump Lady, Anyone else experience Switzerland friends?
Mar 29
Sweet Spackle Alabama
Mar 28
Dear Chump Lady, My daughter considers ex’s affair partner “family”
Mar 25
Make Your Own Cheater Memes!
Mar 24
Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
Mar 23
Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband won’t move out
Mar 22
UBT: “Cheating is a symptom, not the disease”
Mar 21
Dear Chump Lady, How do you confront a cheater?
Mar 18
UBT Me, Please
Mar 17
Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
Mar 16
Dear Chump Lady, My friend doesn’t listen to your advice
Mar 15
UBT: You cheated for the excitement!
Mar 14
Surely You Must’ve Known
Mar 11
The 3 Douchiest Things You Don’t Miss
Mar 10
Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
Mar 9
Dear Chump Lady, I’m an ex-Marine chump
Mar 8
UBT: “I wish I could take it all back”
Mar 7
Remarry Your Ex?
Mar 6
How Do You Ask Chump Lady a Question?
Mar 4
Dear Chump Lady, He’s gone. Now how do I get him out of my head?
Mar 3
UBT: Our Marriage Was Already Over
Mar 2
Dear Chump Lady, He wants the OW so he can “live a little”
Mar 1
The Dead-Eyed Stare
February 2016
Feb 29
UBT: Jennifer Garner’s Shit Sandwich
Feb 26
Dear Chump Lady, Do OW hate women?
Feb 25
50 Shades of Moral Ambiguity
Feb 24
Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
Feb 23
Dear Chump Lady, Is the cheating my fault?
Feb 22
UBT: “My husband has stopped cheating on me after 35 years.”
Feb 19
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Feb 18
UBT: “I Didn’t Mean To”
Feb 17
Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is “The One”?
Feb 16
And the winner is….!
Feb 16
Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single available men?
Feb 15
Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with kids, social media, and inappropriate ex?
Feb 12
Dear Chump Lady, Do we have to do things “as a family”?
Feb 11
Social Media Shame for Deadbeats
Feb 10
Tiffany Glass Windows
Feb 9
Fourth Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
Feb 8
Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t want to unfriend the OW
Feb 5
Time Again for a Mightiness Check
Feb 4
Dear Chump Lady, She ghosted me
Feb 3
Co-parenting Cake
Feb 2
Dear Chump Lady, He has a “seasonal disorder”
Feb 1
The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
January 2016
Jan 29
Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
Jan 28
UBT: “In Defense of Dating a Married Man”
Jan 27
Should You Warn the Next One?
Jan 26
Coming From a “Place of Rage” — or Lucidity?
Jan 25
Dear Chump Lady, He’s come out of the “fog” and wants us back
Jan 22
Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Term Queries
Jan 21
A Public Service Announcement for Remorseless Cheaters
Jan 20
Dear Chump Lady, “I need to forgive the OW” — WTF?
Jan 19
UBT: “Found Myself and Had an Affair”
Jan 18
Dear Chump Lady, I need to be needed
Jan 15
Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in “Affair Fog”?
Jan 14
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t deal with her mindfuckery
Jan 13
Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t cope with the guilt” of who he is
Jan 12
UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby
Jan 11
Dear Chump Lady, Divorce and then date? Is this a good idea?
Jan 8
Potty-Mouthed Infidelity Speak
Jan 6
Don’t Date This Person
Jan 6
And the Winner Is… Cheater Takes OW to Disneyland Instead of Kids
Jan 5
Dear Chump Lady, I let the OW get to me. Help.
Jan 4
Dear Chump Lady, Can you please stop me begging for my marriage?
Jan 1
Chump Resolutions 2016
2015
December 2015
Dec 31
Family Therapy with Your Abuser — WTF?
Dec 30
The Compassion Trap
Dec 29
Dear Chump Lady, How do I fix my picker?
Dec 28
Dear Chump Lady, He apologized to the OW for not leaving me
Dec 25
Merry Meh-Mas
Dec 24
Nice Vs. Kind
Dec 23
We Could Be Friends!
Dec 22
Situational Truth
Dec 21
Reconsider? Let’s not
Dec 18
Cheater Freak Christmas!
Dec 17
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to date for dull to find decent?
Dec 16
Dear Chump Lady, She hated my poem
Dec 15
Single at the Holidays
Dec 14
The “Anyone Could Cheat” Defense
Dec 11
Leave a Cheater, Give a Refugee Kid a Christmas
Dec 10
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so angry with my ex?
Dec 9
UBT: Adele’s “Hello”
Dec 8
The Promise Land of Meh Town
Dec 7
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Woman and I feel a lot of guilt
Dec 4
Chump Revolution? Buy This Book
Dec 3
Dear Chump Lady, How can we challenge blameshifting therapists?
Dec 2
UBT: “Other Men” Explain Their Affairs
Dec 1
Dear Chump Lady, The “Other Woman” wrote me a letter…
November 2015
Nov 30
UBT: 7 Reasons Why Cheating Was Your Fault
Nov 27
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
Nov 26
Happy Thanksgiving!
Nov 25
Old crazy? New tradition!
Nov 24
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Nov 22
Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman told me to read your blog…
Nov 20
UBT: Mo’Nique’s Give Men a Pass for Cheating
Nov 19
Dear Chump Lady, My mom is a serial cheater
Nov 18
The Myth of the 50-50 Marriage
Nov 17
UBT: “The Ethicist”
Nov 16
Dear Chump Lady, Did he cheat because I confided my fears?
Nov 16
Thoughts on Nihilism
Nov 13
Debunking Monogamish
Nov 12
The Cheater Work Ethic
Nov 11
Dear Chump Lady, “We never had sex anymore…”
Nov 10
The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
Nov 9
UBT OW: I Just Want to Reach Out and Help You!
Nov 6
Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
Nov 5
Cheater Mad Libs: How I Met My True Love Derrick
Nov 4
Dear Chump Lady, I have a back-stabbing mother-in-law
Nov 3
UBT: “I’m Not Trying to Be Dramatic.”
Nov 2
How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
October 2015
Oct 30
Deconstructing Frumpiness (and Chumpiness)
Oct 29
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
Oct 28
A New Chump Credo
Oct 27
Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
Oct 26
Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is for Suckers
Oct 23
That Unicorn Ran Off with Your Cash
Oct 22
Write Your Own Cheater Click Bait
Oct 21
The Pretzel Logic of the 180
Oct 20
UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts ME Too!”
Oct 19
The Rock Bottom Remainders
Oct 16
What Made You Leave a Cheater?
Oct 15
Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
Oct 14
UBT: Michelle Duggar’s Marriage Advice
Oct 13
The “People Pleaser” Excuse
Oct 12
Divorce? Hey, You’re Doing It All Wrong
Oct 9
Dear Chump Lady, My ex denies that he cheated. Others believe it.
Oct 8
Where Does “Meh” Go When the OW Moves In Next Door?
Oct 7
UBT: “How Having an Affair Saved My Life.”
Oct 6
Dear Chump Lady, How can I help my mom forgive herself for being a chump?
Oct 5
Dear Chump Lady, I want them to know I know
Oct 2
Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
Oct 1
Potential Addiction
September 2015
Sep 30
UBT: “I’m unable to remain faithful to my perfect husband.”
Sep 29
UBT: “It happened and it’s not my fault.”
Sep 28
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Dog?
Sep 26
And the Arts & Crafts winner is…
Sep 25
Chump Lady Ages Into Another Birthday
Sep 24
Early Wingnut Warning Signs
Sep 23
Dear Chump Lady, How do they flip so fast?
Sep 21
Dear Josh, You’re a Chump
Sep 20
Naming Abuse
Sep 18
Arts and Crafts for Cheaters
Sep 17
UBT: Cheaters didn’t know “what else” to do!
Sep 16
Give Up on “Closure”
Sep 15
A Guy Chump’s Tale from the Other Side
Sep 14
UBT: “You don’t love me the way I need to be loved”
Sep 11
Dump “Scorned” Already
Sep 10
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife wants me to go to therapy with her
Sep 9
Etiquette for Mistresses?
Sep 8
Character Assassination? Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down
Sep 6
Be a Hellraiser, Not a Chump
Sep 4
UBT: “Sometimes You Need to Betray the Social Order”
Sep 3
UBT: “I Wasn’t Trying to Manipulate You”
Sep 2
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
Sep 1
Where’s Esther?
August 2015
Aug 31
UBT: “I Don’t Even Like Him”
Aug 28
Time again for Jesus Cheaters
Aug 27
Ashley Madison, You Saucy Minx
Aug 26
UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat.”
Aug 25
Your Life Version 2.0
Aug 24
The Good Advice Chumps Won’t Take… Now
Aug 21
Infidelity Advice for the Newly Chumped?
Aug 20
AM Genie Out of the Bottle
Aug 19
The Data Hits the Fan
Aug 18
Technology and Divorce: What you don’t know can hurt you financially
Aug 17
Why Is It So Hard to Remember They Suck?
Aug 16
What is the difference between cheaters and chumps?
Aug 14
Worst Infidelity Advice?
Aug 13
Is the Mid-Life Crisis Real?
Aug 12
When Escape Is Your Best Option
Aug 11
Welcome to the Dating Jungle
Aug 10
How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Not Fall in Love with the Bomb
Aug 8
State Rep Invents Gay Affair to Hide Real Affair
Aug 7
Your Very Best Spackle, Please
Aug 6
UBT: “Affairs are about opportunity.”
Aug 5
What Is It With the Nannies?
Aug 4
Honor Among Cheaters
Aug 3
Dear Chump Lady, My husband is trying to pimp me out to strangers
July 2015
Jul 31
Time for a Mightiness Check In
Jul 30
Your “It’s Not Okay” List
Jul 29
A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
Jul 28
Dear Chump Lady, Divorce is more than I can deal with
Jul 27
Take Back Your Power
Jul 24
The Compassion Trap
Jul 23
The Dead-Eyed Stare
Jul 22
Dear Chump Lady, What do I do when my kids are with OW?
Jul 21
The Helpless Other Woman
Jul 20
Ashley Madison’s Data Held Hostage
Jul 17
The Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Jul 16
Dear Chump Lady, Is this meh or did I just give up?
Jul 14
Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
Jul 14
Dear Chump Lady, How do I support my friend’s reconciliation?
Jul 13
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater
Jul 10
Dear Chump Lady, Why is she sorry NOW?
Jul 9
Dear Chump Lady, What made her so special?
Jul 8
Dear Chump Lady, My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat
Jul 7
Reconciliation Stories
Jul 6
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Jul 3
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t evict him from my head
Jul 2
UBT: “The Most Common Mistakes Made By Betrayed Spouses in Recovering from an Affair”
Jul 1
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
June 2015
Jun 30
Affair Enablers
Jun 29
The Narcissist Checklist
Jun 26
Aspiring to Marriage
Jun 26
Eat, Pray, Kibble
Jun 25
You Don’t Need it THAT Bad
Jun 24
Lyle Mitchell, Chump
Jun 23
Dear Chump Lady, How do I heal my “kindness flaw”?
Jun 22
Dear Chump Lady, Make nice with the OW… or else
Jun 21
Happy Father’s Day!
Jun 19
UBT: “Should I ask you for a handout?”
Jun 18
Dear Chump Lady, The OW says she will “destroy” me
Jun 17
Unconditional What?
Jun 16
Parents Who Abandon
Jun 15
Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly being nice?
Jun 12
UBT: “I’m sorry you don’t love me.”
Jun 11
Dear Chump Lady, I’m wondering if I did the right thing divorcing him?
Jun 10
Most Pathetic Play for Kibbles?
Jun 9
Why No Contact Works
Jun 7
UBT: “My handling of your situation is beyond fault.”
Jun 6
The Chump and the Psychic
Jun 5
A Bad Day to Be Bobby Flay
Jun 4
Dear Chump Lady, How come my boyfriends suck?
Jun 3
So How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
Jun 2
Interview with Dr. David Ley, author of “The Myth of Sex Addiction”
May 2015
May 31
Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says I shouldn’t tell people he cheated
May 31
Denny, We Hardly Knew You
May 29
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Cat?
May 28
UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
May 27
Adult Friend Finder Is Hacked
May 26
The Dreaded Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
May 25
Happy Memorial Day
May 23
Duggar Family Dysfunction
May 22
The Full Life Circle of an OW
May 21
UBT: “Affair Proofing” Your Marriage
May 20
Dear Chump Lady, How do you get through the middle of leaving?
May 19
Dear Chump Lady, What is it with cheaters and ennui?
May 18
Kids and Affair Partners — The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich
May 17
Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
May 15
What Dreams Did You Crush?
May 14
Dear Chump Lady, Is It Okay to Fuck with His Head?
May 13
Tiger Woods Cheated Again, Surprise!
May 12
Announcing My New Book
May 11
UBT: “I have the best sex with married men.”
May 9
Happy Mother’s Day — Take a Single Mom to Lunch
May 8
If You Don’t Take Her to Brunch, She’ll Have an Affair?
May 7
UBT: “The explanations were never good enough.”
May 6
UBT: “You’re not capable of forgiveness.”
May 5
UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
May 3
Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice
May 1
Cheater Compares Herself to Martin Luther King, Jr.
April 2015
Apr 30
Craziest Thing They Asked for in the Divorce?
Apr 29
Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t decide”
Apr 28
UBT: “There Are No Right Answers in the Aftermath of Infidelity”
Apr 27
It’s “Complicated”
Apr 26
Troll Compendium
Apr 24
Bobby Betray
Apr 23
Dear Chump Lady, I just discovered that my mom cheated
Apr 22
UBT: Joseph’s Letter
Apr 21
Forgive $38K in Back Child Support?
Apr 20
You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
Apr 19
Happy Blog Birthday!
Apr 17
You Might Be a Chump If…
Apr 16
Surely You Must’ve Known
Apr 15
Why Sleeping With Dean McDermott Is a Very Bad Idea
Apr 14
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to host the OW’s kid?
Apr 13
Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad. WTF?
Apr 11
Seriously, Shayanna, Really?
Apr 10
What’s Your Patronus?
Apr 9
In Defense of Anger
Apr 8
Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants us to be “One Big Happy Family”
Apr 7
Nice vs. Kind
Apr 6
Dear Chump Lady, How do I help my friend move on?
Apr 3
Financial Infidelity
Apr 2
I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
Apr 1
My Cheater, My House
March 2015
Mar 31
HGTV’s Hilary Farr, Queen of the Boundaries
Mar 30
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?
Mar 27
Dear Chump Lady, How do I manage weekly contact?
Mar 26
The UBT Takes on Aimee
Mar 25
Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
Mar 24
The OW Were Not Amused
Mar 21
Red Flags You Were With a Cheater?
Mar 20
Monica Lewinsky, The Poorest of Sausages
Mar 19
Affairs Save Marriages
Mar 18
Australian Ad Board Finds Ashley Madison Ad Discriminatory to Women
Mar 16
When Affair Partners Marry
Mar 15
Why Did You Leave?
Mar 13
Why Did You Stay?
Mar 12
Dear Beyonce
Mar 11
Is “Sex Addiction” Real?
Mar 10
Dear Chump Lady, My teenagers blame me
Mar 9
Pain Shopping?
Mar 6
Cheaters Who’ve Got Game
Mar 5
Toxic Shame — Or Just Being a Jerk?
Mar 4
Enough with Divorce Shame
Mar 3
Dissolving the Ego
Mar 2
Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word
Mar 1
Dear Chump Lady, How can I stay the course?
February 2015
Feb 28
Some Good News in a Wicked World
Feb 27
UBT My Husband’s Craigslist Ad
Feb 26
Dear Chump Lady, The Zoloft Isn’t Helping
Feb 25
How To Leave Someone, How to Be Left
Feb 24
Please Don’t Take Their Word for It
Feb 23
The UBT Takes On Mother-In-Laws
Feb 20
80 Rosebushes and Other Chump Manias
Feb 19
Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
Feb 18
UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
Feb 17
Being the Marriage Police
Feb 16
Dear Chump Lady, How could he turn into a completely different person?
Feb 14
And the Winners of the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest Are…
Feb 13
Help Annabel Go to School
Feb 12
UBT: Maybe Our Problem Is We Work Too Well Together
Feb 11
Stupid Shit Cake Eaters Say
Feb 10
Dear Chump Lady, Do I just like drama?
Feb 9
Don’t Need It That Bad
Feb 8
Dear Chump Lady, I wish I didn’t care
Feb 6
Tiffany Glass Windows
Feb 5
Cheater Goggles
Feb 4
Dear Chump Lady, How do I break through to her?
Feb 3
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all work from the same script?
Feb 1
The Third Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest!
January 2015
Jan 30
The “Plan B” Offer
Jan 29
Dear Chump Lady, I’m due to give birth and found him sexting…
Jan 28
Don’t Ask Amy
Jan 27
What Did You Do That You’ve Never Done Before?
Jan 26
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
Jan 23
What Would You Tell Yourself at D-Day?
Jan 22
Don’t Judge Me
Jan 21
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants a polyamorist marriage
Jan 20
Dear Chump Lady, I found my cheating dad’s homemade porn
Jan 19
Dear Chump Lady, My ex is trying to bully me into 50/50 custody
Jan 17
Sparkly Shoes and Orphan Update
Jan 16
Chumpfetti, or How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
Jan 15
Dear Chump Lady, What do I make of this “goodbye letter” from my ex?
Jan 14
Dear Chump Lady, “I couldn’t forgive a mistake.”
Jan 13
Chump Lady Talks to Her Trolls Today
Jan 12
Can Affair Relationships Last? Are You Super, Duper Special?
Jan 10
Twelve Days of Cheater Freakiness
Jan 9
“Eat Your Pudding” and Other Sexy Affair Utterances
Jan 8
You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
Jan 7
How Not to Be a Cheater?
Jan 6
Leveling the Financial Playing Field on Your Way Out the Door
Jan 5
More Mightiness!
Jan 3
Dear Chump Lady, My wife is a serial cheater.
Jan 2
Dear Chump Lady, Where do you find the strength?
Jan 1
Roto-Rooter and the Dawn of a New Year
2014
December 2014
Dec 31
Dear Chump Lady, How do I leave without him getting violent?
Dec 30
Dear Chump Lady, 2×4 me. I slept with my ex.
Dec 29
Dear Chump Lady, Why should I agree to divorce him?
Dec 27
Chump Encouragement from the Other Side
Dec 26
Dear Chump Lady, Still kind of stuck…
Dec 25
Merry Christmas!
Dec 24
Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
Dec 23
It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like… Infidelity
Dec 21
Searching for Meaning in Ambiguity
Dec 21
Operation Sparkly Shoes
Dec 19
Dear Chump Lady, What did you do on the anniversary of your D-Day?
Dec 18
Don’t Let Them Steal Another Day
Dec 17
Dear Chump Lady, Is there a statute of limitations on this chump thing?
Dec 16
How Pretty Did You Dance?
Dec 15
Being Anti-Cheating Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Sex Positive
Dec 14
Dear Chump Lady, Lack of melatonin made him cheat
Dec 12
Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my chumpy friend to wise up?
Dec 11
Double-Decker Holiday Shit Sandwiches
Dec 10
When Cheaters Do Therapy… Some Precautions
Dec 9
Man Busts Cheating Woman at Detroit Lions Game
Dec 8
Cheater Freak Christmas Contest!
Dec 6
Dear Chump Lady, He’s moved on. I haven’t.
Dec 5
Come Back to Us, Dean!
Dec 5
At Last! New Serverdom!
Dec 4
Dear Chump Lady, Seeing prostitutes makes for good parenting? WTF?
Dec 3
Jesus Cheaters
Dec 2
Don’t Date This Person
Dec 1
Dear Chump Lady, I put her through med school. She put me through hell.
November 2014
Nov 29
Dear Chump Lady, “31 and can’t start my life over”
Nov 28
Dear Chump Lady, I just need to hear her say she’s sorry
Nov 27
Happy Thanksgiving!
Nov 26
The New I Do WTFever Makes Me Happy
Nov 25
Dear Chump Lady, The cheaters live next door…
Nov 24
Dear Chump Lady, My daughter wants to show me pictures of the OW
Nov 24
Chump Lady Video!
Nov 22
Dear Chump Lady, Am I looking at this the wrong way?
Nov 21
Dear Chump Lady, My dad is a narcissist
Nov 20
Designated Server Doom!
Nov 19
Dear Chump Lady, My sister blames me for my husband’s affair
Nov 18
Best Chump Retorts?
Nov 16
Esther Perel Should STFU
Nov 15
And the Cake Winners Are…
Nov 14
Sugar Babies Saving Marriages?
Nov 13
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to spend the holidays with my cheating ex
Nov 12
Talk Cake to Me
Nov 11
But I Always Come Back to You
Nov 10
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of spontaneous “confessions”?
Nov 9
Buy an Orphan a Book or Some Sparkly Shoes
Nov 8
Dear Chump Lady, My wife had an affair with her therapist
Nov 7
Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
Nov 6
Life Post-Cheater — What Did You Change?
Nov 5
The Cure for Cheating — Plastic Surgery? WTF?
Nov 4
Blame a Chump, Save a Unicorn
Nov 3
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
Nov 2
Christie Brinkley vindicated?
Nov 2
And the winner is….!
October 2014
Oct 31
Cheater Halloween Contest!
Oct 30
Dear Chump Lady, Santa isn’t visiting his crappy apartment
Oct 29
Dear Chump Lady, Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind?
Oct 28
What Would You Do If You Got This Letter?
Oct 27
Still Tweaking the Site, Bear with Me
Oct 26
Dear Chump Lady, He fooled me, he fooled my daughter
Oct 25
Dean McDermott “I’m Not the First Person to Ever Cheat”
Oct 23
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to remain friends?
Oct 22
Bear With the Site Wigginess
Oct 22
Eat, Pray, Forgive? WTF?
Oct 21
Trickle Truth, It’s Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Oct 19
Dear Chump Lady, My dad is cheating on his girlfriend
Oct 18
Dear Chump Lady, I’m working with the OW
Oct 17
There’s Going to Be Some Changes Around Here…
Oct 16
Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
Oct 15
Dear Chump Lady, Is “True Tori” a Good Thing?
Oct 14
Dear Chump Lady, I cheated on my husband
Oct 13
Worst Infidelity Advice Ever
Oct 11
Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
Oct 10
Season 2 of True Tori… Why?
Oct 9
Are There Circumstances When an Affair Is Not Immoral?
Oct 7
How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Oct 6
Don’t Send It. Three Reasons Why.
Oct 6
Spackle & Spackle Associates
Oct 5
Dear Chump Lady, Am I selfish for wanting a divorce?
Oct 3
The Benevolent OW
Oct 2
Chump Kids
Oct 1
Dear Chump Lady, How badly will this screw up my kids?
September 2014
Sep 29
The Ones Who Just Leave
Sep 28
Dear Chump Lady, He started cheating the first month we dated
Sep 26
Debunking “Monogamish”
Sep 25
Happy Birthday Chump Lady
Sep 24
Dear Chump Lady, The OW calls me for advice!
Sep 23
There’s No Excuse for Cheating… But Here Are 7 Reasons Why It’s Your Fault
Sep 22
Dear Chump Lady, I wish I was strong like you guys
Sep 20
Even Honey Boo Boo’s Mom Can Leave a Cheater
Sep 19
Dear Chump Lady, I was okay… until he got a new boyfriend
Sep 18
So What Do You Call Them?
Sep 17
Dear Chump Lady, The OW signs my child support checks
Sep 16
Dear Chump Lady, She’s having an affair with her boss
Sep 15
Dreadful Cheater Holidays
Sep 13
Poor Mark Sanford
Sep 12
Don’t Need It That Bad
Sep 11
Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
Sep 10
Dear Chump Lady, How did you experience the stages of grief?
Sep 9
Dear Chump Lady, Am I “bitter” if I tell people she cheated?
Sep 8
Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
Sep 6
Dear Chump Lady, I’m trying to divorce in India. What should I do?
Sep 5
Chump Lady Gets a Letter
Sep 4
Dear Chump Lady, Who gets the friends?
Sep 3
50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
Sep 1
The Mindfuck Channel Only Has Three Stations
Sep 1
Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
August 2014
Aug 30
Dear Chump Lady, My fiancé is friends with a nest of cheaters
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, Got close to meh, and then… boom.
Aug 28
Dear Chump Lady, I’m meeting his bitch-ass lawyer
Aug 27
Create Some Fake Credentials for Chump Lady!
Aug 26
Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
Aug 25
It’s not an affair! It’s an act of “exuberant defiance.”
Aug 23
Mistress Greeting Cards… Really.
Aug 22
They’re Not “Wayward”
Aug 21
Confessions of a Better Sort of Cheater
Aug 20
Dear Chump Lady, Did you take the drugs? Did they help?
Aug 19
Dear Chump Lady, Is a “morality clause” insane?
Aug 18
This Monogamist’s Take on Orgies
Aug 16
Cheater Word Salad
Aug 15
Dear Chump Lady, She wants to apologize for cheating on me
Aug 13
Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
Aug 13
Dear Chump Lady, Is sex addiction a myth?
Aug 11
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
Aug 10
A Public Service Announcement for Chumps?
Aug 8
A Serial Cheater’s Relationship “Advice”
Aug 7
Dear Chump Lady, What can I do about her smear campaign?
Aug 6
Chump Lady Answers Her Search Term Questions
Aug 5
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?
Aug 4
Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
Aug 2
Dear Chump Lady, I want the satisfaction of a confrontation
July 2014
Jul 31
Time for More MIGHTINESS
Jul 30
Why Did Daddy Leave Us? Because Daddy Is an Asshole
Jul 29
Dear Chump Lady, Why did he come back if only to hurt me?
Jul 28
Fairy Dust Forgiveness
Jul 27
Forgiveness Troll Says Take a Survey
Jul 25
An Imperfect Beginning?
Jul 23
Dear Chump Lady, The hope still gets me
Jul 22
And the Bitch Cookie Goes to…!
Jul 21
Better the Devil You Know?
Jul 19
Dear Chump Lady, He never told his adult kids their mom cheated
Jul 17
Dear Chump Lady, He’d have never met her — if I’d only been better?
Jul 16
Beware Jesus Cheaters… There’s a New Blog in Town
Jul 15
Making Character Cool?
Jul 14
When Your Cheater Is a Sicko
Jul 13
Dear Chump Lady, Is there any way back from an emotional affair?
Jul 11
The Kindle Version of the CL Survival Guide to Infidelity is Available
Jul 11
Dear Chump Lady, Am I divorcing too soon?
Jul 11
Dr. George Simon Interviews Chump Lady
Jul 10
If You Thought I Was That Sort of Person, You Shouldn’t Be With Me
Jul 9
Dear Chump Lady, My husband was using prostitutes
Jul 8
Dear Chump Lady, My cheater wants to live in my basement
Jul 6
The Pretzel Logic of the 180
Jul 5
Trapped in a Cabin with Tori
Jul 4
Happy Independence Day! Let Reason Be Your Oracle
Jul 2
What Gift Do You Give a Cheater?
Jul 1
Dear Chump Lady, I have to paternity check my kids
June 2014
Jun 29
Reconciliation — What did you try? What did you buy?
Jun 29
Dear Chump Lady, I’m dating a ‘cheater apologist’
Jun 28
Chump Nation Number One!
Jun 27
The Chump Cloak of Invisibility
Jun 27
Ta-DA! It’s for sale!
Jun 26
Dear Chump Lady, What kind of person DOES this?
Jun 25
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
Jun 24
The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
Jun 23
My Cheater Is an Eagle Scout
Jun 22
Dear Chump Lady, He wants an open marriage
Jun 20
Yes I Am a Chump
Jun 18
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband and my father are both cheaters
Jun 17
Real Love. The Antidote to Douchieness.
Jun 17
Woe! “Marriage is a bed sheet that can never be straightened.”
Jun 16
The “School of Life” Can Bite Me. Part 1
Jun 15
Who Did You Become While Married to a Cheater?
Jun 13
Dear Chump Lady, Abandoned while pregnant, should he pay support?
Jun 12
Joseph’s Letter? Return to Sender
Jun 11
Dear Chump Lady, Reconciling from his emotional affair is not working
Jun 10
Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
Jun 9
Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
Jun 8
Dear Chump Lady, I suspect an affair
Jun 6
The Exceedingly Un-special Tori Spelling
Jun 5
Men Cheat Because Women ‘Feminize’ Them… Says Idiot
Jun 4
Did the Tree of Karma Fall on Your Cheater?
Jun 3
Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t want me, so why hold up the divorce?
Jun 2
Why Do We Over Share?
May 2014
May 31
Over Sharing and Chumpdom
May 30
When Tattooing His Penis Just Isn’t Enough
May 29
Owning Your Chumpiness
May 28
Dear Chump Lady, Should I trust him again?
May 26
Cheaters, You’re Not Entitled to Reconciliation
May 25
A Different Kind of Memorial Day
May 24
Potty Mouth Day
May 23
Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
May 22
When Splendid People Cheat
May 21
“How Affairs Make My Marriage Stronger”
May 20
Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
May 18
How Do You Trust Again?
May 17
I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away
May 16
How Did You Find Out?
May 15
When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
May 14
Why Women Cheat?
May 13
Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t she give up?
May 12
Dear Chump Lady, Why am I stuck?
May 11
Happy Mother’s Day!
May 10
Dear Chump Lady, What’s your take on religious OW?
May 9
Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
May 9
And the Golden Sleeping Bag Goes to…
May 8
Imitation is the highest form of flattery…
May 8
And the Cheater Affliction Award Goes to…
May 7
Shame! It’s Like an Icepick through Your Head!
May 6
All the Good Ones Are Gone
May 4
Dear Chump Lady, How do you get out of limbo?
May 3
Dear Chump Lady, Why do I think my marriage still has a shot… when it doesn’t?
May 2
What Are You Taking Back?
May 1
Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles the Magnificent Personality-Changing Dry-Drunk Unicorn?
April 2014
Apr 30
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to tolerate the OM around my kids?
Apr 29
Nice vs. Kind
Apr 28
Dear Chump Lady, Is it wrong to have feelings for my friend’s wife?
Apr 27
Dear Chump Lady, Is every cheater mentally ill?
Apr 24
Dear Chump Lady, Sympathy for the OW?
Apr 23
Lillias White Will Cure What Ails You
Apr 23
Cyberstalking, Bullies, and Censorship
Apr 22
Dear Chump Lady, My kids have never met the OW
Apr 20
When Unicorns Meet Ashley Madison…
Apr 19
Bitter Bunnies for Easter…
Apr 18
The Forgiveness Trolls
Apr 18
Dear Chump Lady, I wish I’d filed
Apr 17
Translating Other Woman-ese
Apr 16
So Sad When Cheater Loves Goes Bad
Apr 15
Stupidest Blameshifting You Got?
Apr 14
Why You Can’t “Nice” People Out of Affairs
Apr 13
Dear Chump Lady, The OW is cyberstalking me
Apr 12
Dear Chump Lady, Is he a cheater?
Apr 11
Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t know the OW ratted him out
Apr 10
Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
Apr 9
Whore My Blog Around Please
Apr 9
“You Create Your Own Pain.” Yeah, right…
Apr 8
Jesus Cheaters in the News
Apr 7
Translating Cheater-ese
Apr 6
Chump-to-Chump Get Togethers, Anyone?
Apr 4
Dear Chump Lady, I need to hear her say she was wrong
Apr 3
Dear Chump Lady, So what does a good relationship look like?
Apr 2
‘Chump Son’ Passes Away
Apr 2
Good Shrink, Bad Shrink
Apr 1
Sing Like a Bird?
March 2014
Mar 31
Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the OW
Mar 30
Dear Chump Lady, I have cancer. But the OW “suffers.”
Mar 29
How Did You Get Unstuck?
Mar 28
Dear Chump Lady, Do I get revenge through the media?
Mar 27
Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
Mar 26
Dear Chump Lady, Son wants me to be friends with my ex
Mar 25
Dear Chump Lady, I still want to call him
Mar 24
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep them from picking me?
Mar 23
Dear Chump Lady, He says my insecurity made him cheat
Mar 22
Prayers Needed for Chump Son
Mar 21
Dear Chump Lady, Maybe I was a bad wife?
Mar 20
Cheap Shit Cheaters Do
Mar 19
“But He’s Really A Nice Guy”
Mar 18
Cosmic Signs You’re a Chump
Mar 17
Dear Chump Lady, I feel guilty for divorcing her
Mar 15
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my boyfriend was a cheater after he died
Mar 14
Some Language on Language
Mar 13
Visiting Unicorns
Mar 12
Dear Chump Lady, I think my story is unique…
Mar 10
Dear Chump Lady, Unicorns are real
Mar 9
Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats
Mar 7
You Might Be a Chump If…
Mar 6
The Hail Mary Play for Kibbles
Mar 5
Dear Chump Lady, He left to go “find himself”
Mar 4
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m pregnant
Mar 3
Please Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
Mar 2
Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
Mar 1
Dear Chump Lady, Should I reach out to his ex-wife?
February 2014
Feb 28
The Condescension of Other Women
Feb 27
Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
Feb 26
Talent and Fuckupedness
Feb 25
Love Without Respect
Feb 24
Dear Chump Lady, I just can’t seem to pull the plug
Feb 22
Dear Chump Lady, Can I pull a prank on the OW for revenge?
Feb 21
Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just sexting
Feb 20
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get to “meh” in a world full of cheaters?
Feb 19
Dear Chump Lady, The kids are starting to ask questions
Feb 18
Infidelity Science
Feb 16
Dear Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex wants to take a family vacation together
Feb 15
Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my friend to stop being a chump?
Feb 14
And the winner of the Valentine’s Day Contest is….
Feb 13
Dear Chump Lady, Am I the Only One?
Feb 12
Dear Chump Lady, Can I destroy the OW, please?
Feb 11
Dear Chump Lady, He butt dialed me from the OW’s
Feb 9
Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
Feb 7
Dear Chump Lady, Now that I’m done, he’s “ill”
Feb 6
My ex is a fuck up. I don’t want my kids to be fuck ups too.
Feb 5
Dear Chump Lady, Is pornography infidelity?
Feb 4
Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is really “the one” and I’m not
Feb 3
Making the Marriage a “Good Place to Be” and Other Reconciliation Nonsense
Feb 2
Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry
January 2014
Jan 31
The Second Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
Jan 30
Dear Chump Lady, Please explain the paralysis
Jan 29
Dear Chump Lady, My ex gave me an STD
Jan 28
A New Interview with Dr. George Simon
Jan 28
Narcissist Dads
Jan 27
Narkles
Jan 26
Dear Chump Lady, What did I do to make her leave me?
Jan 24
Dear Chump Lady, How do I survive day to day?
Jan 24
Chump Lady’s Conspiracy Theory on Divorce Shame
Jan 23
Dear Chump Lady, I’m confused, well sorta
Jan 22
A Word about Reconciliation
Jan 22
Dear Chump Lady, I’m just the dog sitter
Jan 21
The Affliction of Being Single
Jan 20
Dear Chump Lady, I’m not a lesbian
Jan 19
Why I Can’t Care About Philandering French Presidents
Jan 18
Dear Chump Lady, My son keeps confronting his cheating father
Jan 17
Dear Chump Lady, He’s threatening me with defamation of character
Jan 16
FaceBook Is Not Helping You Move On
Jan 14
Tell Me How You’re Mighty
Jan 14
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump in the making
Jan 13
Escape Tips
Jan 12
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
Jan 10
Going No Contact. And Staying No Contact.
Jan 9
Dear Chump Lady, She’s a cake eater. And gay.
Jan 8
Dear Chump Lady, Is the OW a Dominatrix?
Jan 7
When Cheaters Give Infidelity Advice
Jan 5
Dear Chump Lady, I made a fool out of myself
Jan 3
Dear Chump Lady, He says the cheating had ‘nothing to do with me’
Jan 1
Get Over It
2013
December 2013
Dec 31
Dear Chump Lady, Is he a decent man with a series of unfortunate events?
Dec 30
Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with the folks who believe the disordered person?
Dec 28
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to be a bitter misogynist, but…
Dec 26
How to Quit Things
Dec 21
On the First Day of Christmas My Cheater Freak Gave to Me…
Dec 20
Dear Chump Lady, He has a problem with women… but he’s working on it
Dec 19
Dear Chump Lady, What do I do with the presents?
Dec 18
I Demand an Apology
Dec 17
Reconsider Me? No, Please Don’t
Dec 16
Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
Dec 15
Dear Chump Lady, I’m so mad at myself
Dec 13
Dear Chump Lady, Is there a middle path?
Dec 12
Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
Dec 11
Freak of the Week
Dec 10
Naming It
Dec 9
Dear Chump Lady, It’s my D-Day Anniversary
Dec 9
Dear Chump Lady, Am I a chump for believing they were “just friends”?
Dec 7
When Good People Have Affairs — a Smackdown
Dec 6
Don’t Hate. It’s Bad Strategy.
Dec 5
Dear Chump Lady, Sex after divorce?
Dec 4
Dear Chump Lady, I’m not finding peace
Dec 3
A ‘Trust That They Suck’ Refresher Course
Dec 2
Dear Chump Lady, Explain “poofing”
November 2013
Nov 30
Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
Nov 29
Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront him about his emotional affair?
Nov 28
Happy Thanksgiving!
Nov 27
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
Nov 26
Dear Chump Lady, Bye Bye Cheater
Nov 25
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW. Do I give his wife the details?
Nov 24
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the Other Woman?
Nov 22
A Better Class of Cheater?
Nov 21
Grieving the Affair Partner… And Other Indignities
Nov 20
Dear Chump Lady, I feel like a sell out
Nov 19
Dear Chump Lady, She knew cheating was a deal breaker…
Nov 18
What NOT to Say to a Friend Who’s Been Cheated on
Nov 17
Dear Chump Lady, Gifts for my cheating ex from the kids?
Nov 15
I Love You But I’m Not In Love with You
Nov 14
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters feel the need to punish?
Nov 13
Dear Chump Lady, Is there a deeper reason behind cheating?
Nov 12
The Holiday Season and Chumpdom
Nov 11
Dear Chump Lady, Hysterical bonding… WTF?!
Nov 10
Dear Chump Lady, When does it get better?
Nov 8
Cheater Stories
Nov 7
Enough with the Divorce Shame
Nov 6
The “Upside” of Infidelity
Nov 5
Dear Chump Lady, I never exposed his affair
Nov 3
Dear Chump Lady, I know exactly what to do. I can’t seem to do it.
Nov 2
Lost Unicorn
Nov 2
Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his wife I was cheating with her husband?
Nov 1
She’s a Home Wrecker
October 2013
Oct 31
Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone get it?
Oct 30
Why? Why? Why? Closure!
Oct 29
What Is This ‘Meh’ You Speak of?
Oct 28
Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him another chance?
Oct 26
Chump Dating Questionnaire
Oct 25
Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in romantic love?
Oct 24
Spiffy new site improvements…
Oct 24
This Is What You Missed, You Idiot
Oct 23
Dear Chump Lady, Is it possible to be too meh?
Oct 22
Dear Chump Lady, Did I do a bad thing?
Oct 21
Situational Truth
Oct 19
A Million Hits!
Oct 18
In Praise of Good Men
Oct 17
Dear Chump Lady, How can I trust my cheater again?
Oct 15
7 Reasons I Don’t Accept Rielle Hunter’s Apology
Oct 15
Dear Chump Lady, What do I say?
Oct 14
A Polyamorist Speaks Out
Oct 14
Five Life Lessons from New Orleans
Oct 10
Rock Throwers vs.Tiffany Glass Windows
Oct 10
Dear Chump Lady, Did you have a defining moment?
Oct 9
Monogamy Is Not the Problem
Oct 7
It Takes Three?
Oct 7
Standing on Lies
Oct 5
Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for a new chump?
Oct 3
Dear Chump Lady, Can “meh” exist for a unicorn?
Oct 3
Dear Chump Lady, Am I guilty of splitting too?
Oct 2
Love, the All-Purpose Spackle
Oct 1
Dear Chump Lady, I’m ready to date. Now what?
September 2013
Sep 29
How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
Sep 27
Dear Chump Lady, My friend is an OW
Sep 27
And the winner of the Meh mug is…
Sep 26
Dear Chump Lady, Why does it feel like he’s better than me?
Sep 25
A Message of Hope from a Fellow Chump
Sep 24
Cheating Is a Lot Like Obesity? WTF?
Sep 23
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t leave the cake eater
Sep 22
Dear Chump Lady, OW gives my kid ‘Grand Theft Auto’
Sep 20
Best Curses Contest
Sep 19
Dear Chump Lady, What do you tell a 2-year old?
Sep 18
Dear Chump Lady, But He’s Such a Nice Guy!
Sep 17
Divorce Party, What Do You Think?
Sep 16
Dear Chump Lady, Should I tell his wife?
Sep 13
What’s the Stupidest Lie You Bought?
Sep 12
Early Wing Nut Warning Signs
Sep 11
Dear Chump Lady, No one seems to know we’ve broken up
Sep 10
Dear Chump Lady, Should I push for full custody?
Sep 9
How to Escape a Narcissist
Sep 7
Dear Chump Lady, Should I hold out for more money?
Sep 6
And the winner of the Meh mug is….
Sep 5
Dear Chump Lady, When can I tell my in-laws the truth?
Sep 3
So What Have You Done for YOU Lately?
Sep 1
Your Best Resentments
August 2013
Aug 31
Dear Chump Lady, May I sext?
Aug 30
Technology and Cheating
Aug 29
Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just a “game”
Aug 28
Oops, I Slept With Your Boyfriend
Aug 27
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself with the OW?
Aug 26
Dear Chump Lady, How can I keep the homewrecker away from my kids?
Aug 25
The ‘Anti-Cheating Ring’
Aug 24
Dear Chump Lady, Can you cheat a cheater?
Aug 23
Dear Chump Lady, Can I date yet?
Aug 22
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband is on Match.com
Aug 21
We Both Love You
Aug 20
Hurt People Hurt People and Other Bullshit
Aug 19
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t meet him halfway…. literally
Aug 17
Dear Chump Lady, The AP wants my friends
Aug 16
The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
Aug 16
Chump Lady Has Computer Woes
Aug 14
Dear Chump Lady, I Live in Limbo
Aug 13
Dear Chump Lady, He wants to be FRIENDS?
Aug 12
Dear Chump Lady, The OW is Chinese
Aug 11
Don’t Be a Chump, Be a Hell Raiser
Aug 9
Dear Chump Lady, Are they all this way?
Aug 7
Narcissists Be Crazy!
Aug 7
A comment on the comments
Aug 6
Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him time to change?
Aug 5
Cheaters and Misogyny/Misandry
Aug 4
Remedial Chumpdom
Aug 3
A Chump’s Cautionary Tale
Aug 2
Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife is a SAHM
July 2013
Jul 31
An Inspiring Chump Letter
Jul 30
Weiner Word Salad
Jul 30
Dear Chump Lady, I’m second guessing myself
Jul 29
The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fucktard
Jul 29
Dear Chump Lady, I want to rescue my friend
Jul 28
Dear Chump Lady, A home security system? WTF?
Jul 26
Dear Chump Lady, I’m trapped financially
Jul 26
Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!
Jul 25
Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
Jul 23
A Letter to Huma
Jul 23
Dear Chump Lady, Should we call cheaters out?
Jul 22
On second thought
Jul 21
Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to my cheater?
Jul 19
Reconciliation and Entitlement
Jul 18
Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the other woman
Jul 17
Dear Chump Lady, My wife won’t go to counseling
Jul 16
Dear Chump Lady, Parental alienation and teenagers?
Jul 15
Dear Chump Lady, Help me get my bad ass back
Jul 14
Dear Chump Lady, Got any happy stories?
Jul 12
Real Remorse? Or Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse?
Jul 11
Musings on Giving a Shit
Jul 10
Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
Jul 9
Chump Lady Asks a Favor
Jul 7
Dear Chump Lady, He coulda been a contender
Jul 7
A Master Mindfucker
Jul 5
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with a man-child?
Jul 4
Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell what she’s done?
Jul 3
Close Encounters of the Affair Partner Kind
Jul 2
Dear Chump Lady, My mom is friends with my cheating ex
Jul 1
You Are Not the Boss of Me
June 2013
Jun 29
Dear Chump Lady, He won’t move out
Jun 28
The Doctor Is a Quack!
Jun 27
Dear Chump Lady, The OW means nothing to him. The OW means everything to him.
Jun 26
Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX?
Jun 25
Don’t Be Bitter
Jun 24
Got a Revenge Story?
Jun 23
Your Beautiful, Beautiful Brokenness
Jun 20
Warning Signals
Jun 19
The Fear That They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
Jun 18
Kissing Your Abuser
Jun 18
Three Marriages, One Name Change
Jun 17
Dear Chump Lady, Please decode the cake
Jun 15
Dear Chump Lady, Happy Father’s Day. Or else.
Jun 13
Dear Chump Lady, Where’s my Meh?
Jun 11
Write a Dating Profile for Your Ex
Jun 10
Dear Chump Lady, She cheated 49 days into our marriage. WTF?
Jun 9
Psychotic Individualism and the Amish
Jun 7
Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my mom to leave my cheater dad?
Jun 6
The Flip Side of Resilience
Jun 4
‘Kids Are Resilient!’ and Other Things Cheaters Should Never Say
Jun 3
Dear Chump Lady, Is No Contact the Only Way?
May 2013
May 31
How to Go No Contact
May 30
Why Is No Contact So Hard?
May 28
Kick Fear in the Ass and Laugh at Its Haircut
May 24
What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
May 22
The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
May 21
Stupid Shit Pat Robertson Says
May 20
Dear Chump Lady, The dreaded unicorns are trying to pull me back
May 17
Are All Cheaters Created Equal?
May 15
How To Leave a Scary Person
May 14
A Public Service Announcement for Chumps
May 13
Dear Chump Lady, How do I know what kind of person he is?
May 13
Asshole Songs!
May 10
This Mother’s Day? Take a Single Mom to Brunch
May 9
Dear Chump Lady, Now she forgets?
May 8
Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
May 7
Escaping Monsters
May 7
Types of Affair Partners
May 5
New TV Series “Mistresses”
May 4
Stupid Shit the Affair Partner Says
May 3
Dear Chump Lady, He was my *best friend* — Now what?
May 2
When Cheaters Forgive Themselves
May 1
Stay Married to a Cheater… by Law
April 2013
Apr 30
Brushes with Sociopaths
Apr 29
More Inspiration Monday
Apr 28
Some Inspiration!
Apr 26
Sex Addiction Is a “Blessing”
Apr 25
Dear Chump Lady, *Now* he wants to be an involved parent? WTF?
Apr 24
Showcase a Narcissist! Mark Sanford
Apr 23
Dear Chump Lady, Are there cheaters who left no clues?
Apr 22
Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
Apr 21
Dear Chump Lady, Are all chumps created equal?
Apr 19
Happy Anniversary ChumpLady.com!
Apr 18
Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell my 3-year old?
Apr 17
A Good Day for Love
Apr 17
Stupid Shit Other People Say
Apr 16
Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit it?
Apr 15
We Out Number You
Apr 15
Being Thankful for Your Cheater
Apr 13
Dear Chump Lady, How do open up again emotionally?
Apr 12
Rethinking Infidelity
Apr 11
Chump Bait
Apr 10
Sure Doesn’t Look Like Love…
Apr 9
Dear Chump Lady, Is “Meh” forgiveness?
Apr 7
The Compassion Trap
Apr 5
Dear Chump Lady, Complicated love rhombus…
Apr 3
Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
Apr 1
Cheating on the Pregnant, and Other Acts of Abandonment
March 2013
Mar 30
Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
Mar 28
Dear Chump Lady, What if they never really had sex?
Mar 28
Get a Life
Mar 27
Dear Chump Lady, Is the sexless marriage a myth?
Mar 26
Carolyn Hax Gives Dreadful Infidelity Advice… Again
Mar 25
Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
Mar 23
Grieving the Affair Partner, Don’t Make Any Decisions! and Other Nonsense
Mar 22
Introducing — Chump Chat!
Mar 21
Dear Chump Lady, Does he really love the OW?
Mar 20
Dear Chump Lady, What do I do about the RAGE?
Mar 19
Dear Chump Lady, Am I an asshole for wanting to leave?
Mar 18
Kids and the Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
Mar 15
Dear Chump Lady, How come I don’t feel like a success story?
Mar 12
When Narcissists Get Chumped
Mar 12
Ugly Artifact Discovered in Innocent Shed
Mar 11
The Last Good Deed of Ed Murphy
Mar 9
Dear Chump Lady, Explain this guy…
Mar 7
Living with Uncertainty
Mar 6
Dear Chump Lady, How long must I be paranoid?
Mar 6
Chump Lady Gets Hip to Social Media
Mar 5
Dear Chump Lady, Is She Just a Fuck Up?
Mar 4
Don’t Reason with a Narcissist
Mar 3
Boundaries. Does anyone have them?
Mar 1
Dear Chump Lady, Not everyone who reconciles is pathetic
February 2013
Feb 28
Infidelity *Is* Abuse
Feb 27
Dear Chump Lady, My cheater promises to live like a “dog in a cage”
Feb 26
Dear Chump Lady, What about the one-time cheater?
Feb 25
Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry at the people who knew
Feb 23
Dear Chump Lady, Any perspective for the other person?
Feb 22
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get past approval seeking?
Feb 21
Stupid Cheater Moments
Feb 20
Republican Senator Kept Son Secret for 35 Years… WTF Cheaters…
Feb 20
Dear Chump Lady, Please catalog icky cheater lyrics
Feb 19
More craptacular advice, Part 2
Feb 18
The very bad, no good infidelity advice you should reject… spit on… then set alight… and stomp on
Feb 17
Dear Chump Lady, I am jealous!
Feb 15
Homewrecker and Proud?
Feb 14
And the winners are….
Feb 14
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Feb 13
Dear Chump Lady, Why be friends with cheaters?
Feb 12
The Futility of ‘Affair-Proofing’
Feb 11
Need some tunes to get you through?
Feb 10
Dear Chump Lady, He’s been two-timing me… and her
Feb 8
Bill + Shelley
Feb 7
Infidelity Valentine’s Contest
Feb 7
If You’re Really Sorry, Cheaters? Let Me Help You
Feb 6
One Hell of a Work Ethic
Feb 5
Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid to tell him I want a divorce
Feb 4
Part Four, Not Everything Is Pathological
Feb 3
Don’t Throw Stones at Tiffany Glass Windows
Feb 1
Dear Chump Lady, Arrrgh! No Contact!
January 2013
Jan 31
Part Three, Your Mother Was Right
Jan 30
Part Two, When They Look Good on Paper
Jan 29
Don’t Get Chumped Again, Part One
Jan 28
A Reminder About the Chump Lady Manifesto
Jan 26
Nugget O’ Insight
Jan 25
Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell the kids?
Jan 24
Got Anger?
Jan 22
The Canard That Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem
Jan 22
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with the OW?
Jan 21
Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for the spineless?
Jan 19
Lance, A Cheater’s Cheater
Jan 18
Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
Jan 16
Owning Your Chumpiness
Jan 15
Dear Chump Lady, How do you define cheating?
Jan 13
Healing from Infidelity as Competitive Sport
Jan 13
Dear Chump Lady, Should I go after child support?
Jan 11
Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants to “be me”
Jan 10
A New Monogamy?
Jan 10
Shameless merchandising comes to Chump Lady
Jan 9
A letter from a child of a cheater — Don’t stay together
Jan 8
Dear Chump Lady, What’s inside the mind of the OW?
Jan 7
Financial Infidelity
Jan 6
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters cry? And why do we fall for it?
Jan 4
The Forgiveness Imperative
Jan 4
Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cake eater?
Jan 3
Dear Chump Lady, How long do I wait this out?
Jan 2
On Saying “Fuck”
Jan 1
Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his parents he is a cheater?
2012
December 2012
Dec 31
Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
Dec 29
You Could Be Friends!
Dec 27
Dear Chump Lady, What part of her withering assessment of me should I own?
Dec 26
When the Holidays Suck
Dec 23
Dear Chump Lady, When does it stop hurting?
Dec 22
Dear Chump Lady, More on how I got chumped as an OW…
Dec 20
Was Gonna Come Around… Really
Dec 19
Dear Chump Lady, How could I have avoided being the OW?
Dec 16
A moment out from our regularly scheduled programming…
Dec 16
Near Beginnings
Dec 14
The “B” Word
Dec 13
When the Cheater Has a Personal Epiphany
Dec 12
Do It for the Children
Dec 10
Dear Chump Lady, I’m sending myself an apology
Dec 7
Dear Chump Lady, What else can I do?
Dec 6
A Spectrum of Chumps
Dec 4
And Then the Cage Comes Down!
Dec 2
The Psychopath Test
Dec 1
Very Evolved People Who Stay Friends
November 2012
Nov 30
“Chump Chat” anyone?
Nov 29
My Useless Masters Degree in African History Explains Infidelity
Nov 27
Dear Chump Lady, Revenge is a bad idea, right?
Nov 26
Chump Lady FAQ
Nov 23
Cheating and High Fructose Corn Syrup
Nov 22
Things I’m Thankful for After Infidelity
Nov 19
Deconstructing Frumpiness
Nov 16
Dear Chump Lady, Please decode this
Nov 15
A Public Service Announcement to Remorseless Cheaters
Nov 13
Thank You Hater!
Nov 11
Dear Chump Lady, I’m still having sex with my STBX. What gives?
Nov 10
Batshit Crazy OW Brings Down CIA Director
Nov 9
Cheating in the Age of Technology
Nov 7
Trust in the Good Times
Nov 6
I Am Not a “Hippy Chick”
Nov 5
Unpredictable Love
Nov 3
Bridges of Bullshit
Nov 2
The Power of Spackle
October 2012
Oct 31
Situational Truths
Oct 30
Surely You Must Have Known
Oct 28
Dear Chump Lady, Is following your heart ever justified?
Oct 27
Dear Chump Lady, I still love the stupid fuck. Help.
Oct 26
But what if the BS truly sucks?
Oct 19
“We Grew Apart”
Oct 18
Sux in the City
Oct 18
A Dinesh of a Mess
Oct 16
Dear Chump Lady, To Tell or Not to Tell
Oct 15
Dear Chump Lady, My boyfriend had an EA
Oct 12
They’re Not “Wayward”
Oct 10
Marriage Counseling Quackery
Oct 9
A Reluctant Cheerleader for Divorce
Oct 3
Arnold Being Arnold
Oct 2
Who’s Your Friend?
Oct 1
Chump Lady Appears on Huffington Post Live
September 2012
Sep 28
“I, Cake Eater”
Sep 26
Cheater Word Salad
Sep 25
Happy Birthday Chump Lady
Sep 24
Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
Sep 23
Soft Vengeance
Sep 21
How to Get Revenge on a Cheater
Sep 20
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think about revenge affairs?
Sep 18
Tinker, Tailor, Soldier… Oh just forget it
Sep 17
“The Walls in Your House Sing Again”
Sep 14
Dear Chump Lady, What if my cheating wife comes back?
Sep 13
Hate On Me, Hater
Sep 10
Dear Chump Lady, How do I set boundaries with my kids about my ex?
Sep 8
More Good Cheating Songs
Sep 7
Dear Chump Lady, Should I waste any more time in limbo?
Sep 4
It’s All Very Complicated… You Wouldn’t Understand
Sep 2
Dear Chump Lady, Is Sex Addiction a Myth?
Sep 1
Sorry Is As Sorry Does
August 2012
Aug 31
“Not the Only Fool In Town”
Aug 30
“It Wasn’t About You”
Aug 27
Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Man…
Aug 24
Dear Chump Lady, How Do I Move On?
Aug 20
Dear Chump Lady, Can I Keep the OW Away from My Kids?
Aug 8
How to Get Over a Broken Heart… Go to New Orleans
Aug 2
Dear Chump Lady, But I Took a VOW…
Aug 1
Dear Abby Kicks Infidelity Ass
July 2012
Jul 29
The Trap of the False Equivalency
Jul 27
Dear Chump Lady, As a unicorn, I am offended
Jul 25
Five Things That Keep You Stuck With a Cheater
Jul 19
Dear Chump Lady, Why are you a hater?
Jul 16
The Mid-Life Crisis Made Me Do It. Really?
Jul 12
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters get married?
June 2012
Jun 29
An interview with Dr. George Simon on “Character Disturbance”
Jun 5
Gaslighting — The Fine Art of Making You Believe You’re Crazy
May 2012
May 31
An open letter to Dan Savage
May 30
Dear Chump Lady, He’s worried about his girlfriend, WTF?
May 30
How to Leave a Cheater
May 28
Dear Chump Lady, She says she’s sorry…
May 28
Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
May 22
I just discovered I was cheated on. Now what?
May 22
What NOT to do
May 3
A Spectrum of Cheaters
April 2012
Apr 28
Ego Kibbles
Apr 23
The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
Apr 19
The Unified Theory of Cake
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