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  • 2021

    • March 2021

      • Mar 3 Dump ‘Scorned’ Already
      • Mar 2 UBT: A Letter from ‘The Baby’
      • Mar 1 Standing on Lies
    • February 2021

      • Feb 27 New Spanish Translation Posts of CL Have Arrived
      • Feb 27 Supéralo
      • Feb 27 Las paredes de tu casa cantan otra vez
      • Feb 27 Como dejar a un traicionero
      • Feb 27 Galletillas de Ego
      • Feb 26 Chumped But Not Down, What You Did Right
      • Feb 25 5 Things NOT to Do When You Discover Cheating
      • Feb 24 Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?
      • Feb 23 Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?
      • Feb 22 Reconciliation with the Timid Forest Creature
      • Feb 19 What Are You Throwing on the Virtual Bonfire?
      • Feb 18 ‘I Can’t Face Being a Single Mum’
      • Feb 17 When the Other Man Is Your Brother
      • Feb 16 We Reconciled… He Cheated Again
      • Feb 15 Don’t Send It, Three Reasons Why
      • Feb 14 And the Infidelity Valentine Poetry Contest Winners Are….
      • Feb 12 Some Changes to the Blog — All Good!
      • Feb 11 Am I Selfish for Leaving Him?
      • Feb 10 It’s Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!
      • Feb 9 UBT: Opening the Marriage to Save the Marriage?
      • Feb 8 Does Social Media Encourage Cheating?
      • Feb 5 Gain a Life, Gain Better Health?
      • Feb 4 Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’
      • Feb 3 Can I Tell His Family He Cheated?
      • Feb 2 Jealous of the Other Woman
      • Feb 1 UBT: The ‘Shame’ of Being Tiger Woods’ Mistress
    • January 2021

      • Jan 29 Jason Collier, Serial Douche
      • Jan 28 Help Her Be Friendly to Me
      • Jan 27 Struggling with No Contact
      • Jan 26 My Mom Sided with the Cheater
      • Jan 25 UBT: “I Made a List”
      • Jan 22 What Does Freedom Feels Like?
      • Jan 21 UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
      • Jan 20 UBT: I Can’t Remember
      • Jan 19 How Come I’m Not Over It Yet?
      • Jan 18 Is Pain a Choice?
      • Jan 15 Cheating Husband “Is a Predator”
      • Jan 14 The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
      • Jan 13 Sexy Affair Utterances?
      • Jan 12 UBT: I Only Date Married Men
      • Jan 11 He Walked Out for OW But Doesn’t Want a Divorce
      • Jan 8 Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?
      • Jan 7 Is He Just Your Average Narcissist?
      • Jan 6 But He’s Such a Nice Guy!
      • Jan 5 Does Mental Illness Make Him Less of a Cheater?
      • Jan 4 UBT: The Apology That Never Came
      • Jan 1 Gain a Life Version 2021
  • 2020

    • December 2020

      • Dec 31 Should I Send Her the Tape?
      • Dec 30 Why Is He So Mad at Me?
      • Dec 29 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
      • Dec 28 The Dying OW’s Confession
      • Dec 25 Merry Christmas!
      • Dec 24 UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
      • Dec 23 Smythe and Shkreli, Star-Crossed Schmoopies
      • Dec 22 ‘How Come All My Boyfriends Suck?’
      • Dec 21 When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend
      • Dec 18 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot like D-Day
      • Dec 17 UBT: Affair Proofing Your Marriage
      • Dec 16 Fractured Hallmark Holiday Specials
      • Dec 15 How Do I Make It Through the Holidays?
      • Dec 14 ‘Replaced’ and Still Feels Empty
      • Dec 11 On the First Day of Christmas My Cheater Gave to Me…
      • Dec 10 Lawyer Thinks She Has an Anger Issue
      • Dec 9 She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us
      • Dec 8 Debunking ‘Affair Fog’
      • Dec 7 What Advice Would You Give a Serial Cheater?
      • Dec 4 Your Long, Strange Hopium Trips
      • Dec 3 What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?
      • Dec 2 A Gain a Life Update… and Some Schmoopie Karma
      • Dec 1 UBT: How Do I Get My Gay Cheating Husband to Reconcile?
    • November 2020

      • Nov 30 ‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’
      • Nov 27 Old Crazy? New Tradition!
      • Nov 26 Chump Lady Gratitude Turkey Day Recipe Swap
      • Nov 25 ‘I Feel Trapped’
      • Nov 24 Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas
      • Nov 23 Controlling the Narrative
      • Nov 20 Your Snooping Sins
      • Nov 19 The Crown, The Cake
      • Nov 18 He Wants to ‘Explore His Feelings’ with Her Friend
      • Nov 17 What Made Her Special?
      • Nov 16 UBT: The Huggy Ex and the OW
      • Nov 13 Tell Me How You’re Mighty, COVID Edition 2.0
      • Nov 12 UBT: “True Love Is Never a Scandal”
      • Nov 11 UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby
      • Nov 10 UBT: “I Would Like to Have a Final Conversation”
      • Nov 9 UBT: “I Forgive You”
      • Nov 6 When They Won’t Leave
      • Nov 5 When Your Kids Believe the Lies
      • Nov 4 What Is the First Step?
      • Nov 3 I’m the OW and I’m Terrified He’ll Cheat on Me
      • Nov 2 When the Other Woman Was a Frienemy
    • October 2020

      • Oct 30 The Apology That Wasn’t
      • Oct 29 Why Does He Ignore My Co-Parenting Questions?
      • Oct 28 UBT: “You Might Appreciate Knowing Some of This”
      • Oct 27 Are There Cheaters Who Left No Clues?
      • Oct 26 STBX Wants to Come Over for the Holidays
      • Oct 23 Dumbest Insult Your Ex Tried?
      • Oct 22 Where’s My Justice?
      • Oct 21 Don’t Wait on That Apology
      • Oct 20 Jeffrey Toobin’s Troublesome Dick
      • Oct 19 My New Husband Is a ‘Sex Addict’
      • Oct 16 5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
      • Oct 15 He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.
      • Oct 14 ‘He Brought His Girlfriend And I Lost My Meh’
      • Oct 13 Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?
      • Oct 12 Is Monogamy Abuse?
      • Oct 9 Red Flags You Overlooked?
      • Oct 8 The ‘If You Aren’t Nicer’ Threat
      • Oct 7 ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’
      • Oct 6 The Family Next Door
      • Oct 5 Wife Wants to ‘Renegotiate’ the Relationship
      • Oct 2 Any Karma Stories?
      • Oct 1 When It’s More Affairs Than You First Knew
    • September 2020

      • Sep 30 Cheater Word Salad Attacks
      • Sep 29 Nearly Engaged…Then Busted
      • Sep 28 ‘He Had a Complete Change of Heart’
      • Sep 25 Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
      • Sep 24 UBT: ‘Mark Is Fine’
      • Sep 23 Esther Perel’s Myth of the Good Cheater
      • Sep 22 ‘My Sister Blames Me for My Husband’s Affair’
      • Sep 21 It’s the End of the World or the Beginning. I Can’t Tell.
      • Sep 18 Sad Sausage Tales?
      • Sep 17 When Will I Feel Indifferent?
      • Sep 16 He’s Sketchy, But Is He Cheating?
      • Sep 15 ‘I Can’t Talk to My Kids About Their Father’
      • Sep 14 UBT: ‘He Played Me Too’
      • Sep 11 Confrontation Flops?
      • Sep 10 How Do You Leave a Cheater?
      • Sep 9 UBT: ‘If You Need Me, I’ll Be There’
      • Sep 8 In-House Separation, She Won’t Move Out
      • Sep 7 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
      • Sep 4 Close Encounters of the Fake Tears Kind
      • Sep 3 ‘How Could He Walk Away from His Wife and Kids?’
      • Sep 2 Woman Has D-Day After Reading Ex’s Wedding Announcement
      • Sep 1 Tiffany Glass Windows
    • August 2020

      • Aug 31 Is This Jealousy?
      • Aug 28 Be Your Own UBT
      • Aug 27 UBT: Cheating on My Husband Made Me a Better Mother
      • Aug 26 The ‘People Pleaser’ Excuse
      • Aug 25 Jerry Falwell Jr., Jesus Swinger?
      • Aug 24 Chump Won’t Stop Doing Her Ex Favors
      • Aug 21 Most Ridiculous Excuse After Being Busted?
      • Aug 20 UBT: ‘My Dad Sucks’
      • Aug 19 Chumped and Questioning Feminism
      • Aug 18 Discovered CN by Googling ‘I Hate Esther Perel’
      • Aug 17 My Ex-Wife Wants Me to Go to Therapy with Her
      • Aug 14 Fix Your Picker Tips
      • Aug 13 A Decade of Chump Love
      • Aug 12 Can I Leave a Suicidal Cheater?
      • Aug 11 Is an ‘Emotional Affair’ Reason Enough to Leave?
      • Aug 10 A Chump Off the Old Block
      • Aug 7 Breaking No Contact: How’d That Go?
      • Aug 6 The Pretzel Logic of the 180
      • Aug 5 Dead Bedroom? Cheater
      • Aug 4 No One Is Entitled to Reconciliation
      • Aug 3 Is Reporting Him Revenge?
    • July 2020

      • Jul 31 Your Best Word Salad, Please
      • Jul 30 “Our Marriage Was Already Over”
      • Jul 29 UBT: You Will Use This to Illustrate Your Holiness
      • Jul 28 When Affair Partners Marry
      • Jul 27 One Guy Chump’s Gain a Life Story
      • Jul 24 How Are You All Self-Soothing?
      • Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, My Wife Is Near Perfect But I See Prostitutes
      • Jul 22 UBT: ‘Shortcut to Happiness’
      • Jul 21 When Does the Pain Stop?
      • Jul 20 UBT: I Was Too Much Into My Own Lies
      • Jul 17 What Did You Do With the Photos?
      • Jul 16 UBT: Gottman’s ‘Reviving Trust After an Affair’
      • Jul 15 The Resentment Rap
      • Jul 14 The Fiction of Unconditional Love
      • Jul 13 UBT: Jada’s ‘Entanglement’
      • Jul 10 The Wrong Pickle and Other Sins
      • Jul 9 UBT: “Your Cheating Spouse Is the Victim, NOT You!”
      • Jul 8 The Kid Calls the Felon OW ‘Mama’
      • Jul 7 The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
      • Jul 6 He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him
      • Jul 3 A Declaration of Independence for Chumps
      • Jul 2 Am I Going to Get Over This?
      • Jul 1 How Do You Get Past the Revulsion?
    • June 2020

      • Jun 30 Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
      • Jun 29 UBT: Affair Sex in the Marital Bed Is Wrong?
      • Jun 26 Chump Protagonists in TV Dramas?
      • Jun 25 Cheater Throws Them Out, OW Moves In
      • Jun 24 He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.
      • Jun 23 Escape After D-Day — ‘Should I Move?’
      • Jun 22 ‘I Trolled the Other Woman’
      • Jun 21 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 19 Your Triumph Moments
      • Jun 17 The LGBTQ+ Chump Perspective
      • Jun 17 How Come No One But Chumps Seems to Get It?
      • Jun 16 The Walls in Your House Will Sing
      • Jun 15 ‘I’m Afraid of Him’
      • Jun 12 The Stupid Things People Say to Chumps
      • Jun 11 When Is It Okay to Tell Someone STOP?
      • Jun 10 ‘I Have a Hate in My Heart Where Love Used to Be’
      • Jun 9 Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner
      • Jun 8 ‘Maybe He Was Right About Me?’
      • Jun 5 Cheating Excuses and Non Sequiturs — ‘It Didn’t Take That Much Time’
      • Jun 4 He’ll Send Support If She’ll Send Naked Pictures
      • Jun 3 Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?
      • Jun 2 UBT: Let’s Put Aside ‘Our Differences’ for These Special Times in Our Kids’ Lives
      • Jun 1 ‘I Let Him Come Over with Pizza’
    • May 2020

      • May 29 Who Filed for Divorce?
      • May 28 ‘My No Contact Stinks’
      • May 27 ‘I Just Want My Life Back’
      • May 26 ‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
      • May 25 Marine Chump: This Is Worse Than Being in Iraq
      • May 22 Infidelity, Divorce, Kids — How Did You Navigate It?
      • May 21 ‘I Turned the Tables’
      • May 20 UBT: Mother’s Day Wishes from the OW?
      • May 19 Why Blame the Chump?
      • May 18 How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?
      • May 15 Tell Me How You’re COVID-Era Mighty
      • May 14 UBT: He Blew Up the Marriage to Improve It
      • May 13 UBT: ‘My Life Is Rich and Full’…. That’s Why I’m Stalking You
      • May 12 When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
      • May 11 Mistress Is ‘Archaic’ and ‘Sexist’?
      • May 8 I’ll Be Seeing You In All the Old Familiar Places
      • May 7 UBT: “You’re the One True Love of My Life”
      • May 6 He’s Sad and I Feel Responsible
      • May 5 “I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?
      • May 4 ‘I Lost My Meh’
      • May 1 New Words for the Chump Condition?
    • April 2020

      • Apr 30 He Says ‘I Better Behave’
      • Apr 29 He Told Me He Loved Me
      • Apr 28 6 Ways to Respond (or Not) to Character Assassination
      • Apr 27 Is It Okay to Give a Cheater a Second Chance?
      • Apr 24 What Kept You Stuck with a Cheater?
      • Apr 23 Esther Wants to Help You Grieve
      • Apr 22 He Left Me. Why Won’t He Agree to a Divorce?
      • Apr 21 Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
      • Apr 20 UBT: “Will Our Affair Survive the Lockdown?”
      • Apr 17 Best No Contact Strategies?
      • Apr 16 Coronavirus Hoovering?
      • Apr 15 My Sister Is the Marriage Police
      • Apr 14 UBT: A Letter from the “Baby”
      • Apr 13 ‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’
      • Apr 10 Biggest Whopper You Bought?
      • Apr 9 Can You Imagine Being Quarantined With Your Ex?
      • Apr 8 Lies Are Exhausting
      • Apr 7 I Thought That Meh Was a Unicorn
      • Apr 6 Is This Intense Hate Normal?
      • Apr 3 Cake Speak?
      • Apr 2 Sparkles The Magnificent Dry Drunk Unicorn
      • Apr 1 Do I Have to Be Friendly With My Ex?
    • March 2020

      • Mar 31 Is This Cheating?
      • Mar 30 I’m Forced To Live with My Cheater Right Now
      • Mar 27 When This Crisis Is Over, I’m Gonna…
      • Mar 26 When You Work With Your Ex
      • Mar 25 I Still Want Her Back
      • Mar 24 Is All This Anger Normal?
      • Mar 23 ‘I Thought You Were Okay With It’
      • Mar 20 Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
      • Mar 19 Is This Meh or Did I Just Give Up?
      • Mar 18 What Do I Do with the Phantom Pain of Abandonment?
      • Mar 17 New Beginning Tuesday
      • Mar 16 Did She Cheat Because She’s Bipolar?
      • Mar 13 Omens and Portents
      • Mar 12 So Why the Hell Isn’t She Happy Now?
      • Mar 11 Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken
      • Mar 10 Grieving the Affair Partner and Other BS
      • Mar 9 How Did You Overcome the Financial Blows AND the Cheating?
      • Mar 6 Steal This Idea
      • Mar 5 Should I Give Him a Fourth Chance?
      • Mar 4 Did You Out Them on Social Media?
      • Mar 3 How Do I Support My Friend’s Reconciliation?
      • Mar 2 ‘He’s a Different Person Than I Used to Know’
    • February 2020

      • Feb 28 New Age Cheaterisms
      • Feb 27 Is He Gay? A Lost Soul? A Sex Addict?
      • Feb 26 Should I Write the OW?
      • Feb 25 Character Assassination: 6 Ways to React to a False Narrative
      • Feb 24 Cheater Doesn’t Understand Why Partner Is Reconciling with Him
      • Feb 21 How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
      • Feb 20 My Toxic MIL Sends Her “Love”
      • Feb 19 Apologize to Your Cheater, Says RIC Quack
      • Feb 18 Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?
      • Feb 17 ‘Don’t Call It Snooping’
      • Feb 14 And the Infidelity Valentine’s Poetry Winners Are…
      • Feb 13 Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?
      • Feb 12 ‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’
      • Feb 11 The ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’ Mindfuck
      • Feb 10 The OW Recommends a Self-Help Book
      • Feb 7 Jesus Cheaters and Other Holy Horrors
      • Feb 6 My Friend Is the Marriage Police
      • Feb 5 The Benevolent Other Woman
      • Feb 4 He Thinks He’s Done ‘Nothing Wrong’
      • Feb 3 The Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
    • January 2020

      • Jan 31 What Got You Unstuck?
      • Jan 30 Is This What Meh Looks Like?
      • Jan 29 ‘How Do I Handle the OW?’
      • Jan 28 Feeling Too Available
      • Jan 27 Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
      • Jan 24 Chump and Cheater Torch Songs
      • Jan 23 He Says I’m “UnChristian” for Divorcing Him
      • Jan 22 Nice versus Kind
      • Jan 21 Duped for a Quarter
      • Jan 20 ‘He Didn’t Suck’
      • Jan 17 How Cheap Is Your Cheater?
      • Jan 16 UBT: ‘It’s not all sunshine and rainbows over here’
      • Jan 15 ‘I Work with the Other Woman’
      • Jan 14 UBT: “Blowing up the Marriage to Improve the Marriage”
      • Jan 13 ‘I Fix Hearts. She Broke Mine.’
      • Jan 10 What Are You Doing to Combat Loneliness?
      • Jan 9 “People Don’t Want to be Called ‘Chump'”
      • Jan 8 UBT: ‘Don’t give up on me!’
      • Jan 7 Do I Tell Her Family Why We’re Divorced?
      • Jan 6 How Do I Get Over Feelings of Unfairness?
      • Jan 3 What Are You Throwing on the Virtual Bonfire?
      • Jan 2 And the Cheater Freak Winners are….
      • Jan 1 Get Over It
  • 2019

    • December 2019

      • Dec 31 STDs Don’t Define You
      • Dec 30 ‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
      • Dec 27 This Is Your Brain on Hopium
      • Dec 26 Sex After Divorce?
      • Dec 25 Cheater Freak Christmas?
      • Dec 24 Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
      • Dec 23 ‘My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat’
      • Dec 20 Tell Me How You’re Mighty Holiday Edition
      • Dec 19 UBT on Guy Who Wants to Keep Both Sex Workers and His Girlfriend
      • Dec 18 Holiday Sh*t Sandwiches
      • Dec 17 ‘I Can’t Trust That She Sucks’
      • Dec 16 UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents
      • Dec 13 Divorce Day Plans?
      • Dec 12 ‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
      • Dec 11 Where’s the Data on Reconciliation?
      • Dec 10 Hooker Habit Revealed, Cheater Threatens Suicide
      • Dec 9 Pick Me Dancing for Love
      • Dec 6 Redefining Intimacy
      • Dec 5 UBT: What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
      • Dec 4 He Left 3 Kids. How Can He Be Happy?
      • Dec 3 Interview with Dr. David Ley, ‘The Myth of Sex Addiction’ author
      • Dec 2 ‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’
    • November 2019

      • Nov 28 Happy Thanksgiving!
      • Nov 27 When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex
      • Nov 26 ‘We Had a Good Life. Why Did He Cheat?’
      • Nov 25 ‘None of My Choices Are Acceptable’
      • Nov 22 Worst Infidelity Advice Ever?
      • Nov 21 When They Cheat in Your Home
      • Nov 20 Husband Cheated. Mother Disappointed in ‘Us’
      • Nov 19 When You Want to Leave, But Just Had a Baby
      • Nov 18 Called the Other Woman, Got ‘Vague’ Answers
      • Nov 15 Did Your Pet Get You Through Your Break-Up?
      • Nov 14 UBT: ‘It’s Not Who I Am’
      • Nov 13 His Family Says ‘I Should Be Happy for Him’
      • Nov 12 Lies Are Exhausting
      • Nov 11 ‘Should I Divorce Him?’
      • Nov 8 Help Me Build a Better Support Site
      • Nov 7 ‘How Do I Know Friends Won’t Betray Me?’
      • Nov 6 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
      • Nov 5 Are ‘Emotional Friendships’ with Other Women Cheating?
      • Nov 4 Spending Holidays with Your Ex ‘For The Children’
      • Nov 1 Secret Names of Cell Phone Mystery
    • October 2019

      • Oct 31 Why Gaslighting Works
      • Oct 30 ‘The Other Woman Is Taunting Me’
      • Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
      • Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, What’s my ‘role’ in the break-up?
      • Oct 27 I Draw Naked People
      • Oct 25 Hope versus Hopium
      • Oct 24 Dear Chump Lady, She left me for her boss
      • Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
      • Oct 22 Have a Chat with Schmoopie? Just Don’t.
      • Oct 21 The Pollyanna Blameshift
      • Oct 18 Can I Get Some Mighty Here?
      • Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, But what if I leave him and he changes?
      • Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
      • Oct 15 When ‘Sex Addiction’ Turns Deadly
      • Oct 14 UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
      • Oct 11 No Contact Fails — The Blooper Reel
      • Oct 10 UBT: My Husband Stopped Cheating on Me After 35 Years
      • Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, She won’t move out
      • Oct 8 Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
      • Oct 7 Man Sues Affair Partner — And Wins
      • Oct 4 More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say
      • Oct 3 How to Leave a Cheater — Your Care Team
      • Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t know why I still want him
      • Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, I apologized to him for cheating on me
    • September 2019

      • Sep 30 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
      • Sep 27 No Contact Wins
      • Sep 26 Dump ‘Scorned’ Already
      • Sep 25 Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
      • Sep 24 Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
      • Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, I went grey rock, he went nuts
      • Sep 20 Real Monkey Love, Bad Monkey Love
      • Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to organize their video chat?
      • Sep 18 Your Very Best Spackle Please
      • Sep 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is divorcing him the right choice?
      • Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater or a muse?
      • Sep 14 Chump Lady Gets a Check
      • Sep 13 Therapy Fails?
      • Sep 12 How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?
      • Sep 11 Dear Chump Lady, I built my whole life around her
      • Sep 10 UBT This Jesus Cheater
      • Sep 9 When You’re Married and ‘Fall in Love’ with Someone Else
      • Sep 6 You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
      • Sep 5 UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
      • Sep 4 How to Deflect Gaslighting
      • Sep 3 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is a marriage counselor with a double life
      • Sep 2 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
    • August 2019

      • Aug 30 When Closure Is Eaten by Bears
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner
      • Aug 28 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Queries
      • Aug 27 No Tag Backs, OW
      • Aug 26 Cheating Wife Needs a ‘Safe Space’
      • Aug 23 The Kindness of Strangers
      • Aug 22 If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It
      • Aug 21 Gaslighting — Who’s The Crazy One Here?
      • Aug 20 The Dead-Eyed Stare
      • Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, The OW left him and I don’t know how I feel
      • Aug 16 Where Are They Now?
      • Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do I protect my son’s heart?
      • Aug 14 How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
      • Aug 13 UBT: “We Are Teachers, Not Demigods”
      • Aug 12 You Don’t Need Closure
      • Aug 9 Meh Sightings?
      • Aug 8 Which Came First, The Dead Marriage or the Affair?
      • Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, I feel unworthy
      • Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated
      • Aug 5 UBT: “I Miss the Kitties”
      • Aug 2 Where You Thought They Were, Where They Really Were
      • Aug 1 Why Can’t I Say ‘Cheater’?
    • July 2019

      • Jul 31 UBT the Trust Bank
      • Jul 30 Alan Dershowitz Is Human Garbage
      • Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart
      • Jul 27 Forums Ending Aug. 1
      • Jul 26 Courage Fairies
      • Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
      • Jul 24 Devastating Writing on Making Your Needs Small
      • Jul 23 Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move on
      • Jul 22 When Men Are Cheated On
      • Jul 19 New Age Cheater Goop Speak
      • Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, How do I save my friend?
      • Jul 17 The Silent Chumps
      • Jul 16 The Ones Who Just Leave
      • Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to invite my ex to the party?
      • Jul 13 New Forums, New Features, News
      • Jul 12 Word Salad or Word Wisdom?
      • Jul 11 UBT: ‘Dear Therapist’
      • Jul 10 Why No Contact Works
      • Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, She changed him
      • Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL
      • Jul 5 Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
      • Jul 4 Chump Emancipation Proclamation
      • Jul 3 Dear Chump Lady, He said it was ‘just sex’
      • Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he’ll cheat on me
      • Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, She has abs of steel
    • June 2019

      • Jun 28 The Weirdest Things They Took or Left Behind
      • Jun 27 When Your D-Day Is After the Divorce
      • Jun 26 UBT: This Isn’t The Real Me
      • Jun 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep the OW away from my kids?
      • Jun 24 UBT — He Took the Soup
      • Jun 21 Unspouse Your House?
      • Jun 20 ‘I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time’
      • Jun 19 Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m ‘selfish’ for leaving him
      • Jun 18 The Plan B Offer
      • Jun 17 ‘Being Frank’ versus Being Chumped
      • Jun 16 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 14 Blameshifting Jujitso
      • Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, My wife cheated with a woman
      • Jun 12 DNA Testing Surprises
      • Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m pregnant and pick me dancing
      • Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW
      • Jun 7 Write Your Own Clickbait
      • Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me
      • Jun 5 UBT: The OW Wants Me to Save My Marriage
      • Jun 4 Surely You Must Have Known
      • Jun 3 UBT: The Burger-Flipping Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name
    • May 2019

      • May 31 Star-Crossed Schmoopies
      • May 30 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
      • May 29 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think he’s a narcissist
      • May 28 What Do You Tell Yourself?
      • May 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a Marine chump
      • May 24 Bad Apologies
      • May 23 Dear Chump Lady, What’s wrong with me?
      • May 22 Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’
      • May 21 The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
      • May 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why do you use foul language?
      • May 17 All Those Times You Didn’t Cheat
      • May 16 Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?
      • May 15 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their fabulousness
      • May 14 Dear Chump Lady, The lies are crazy
      • May 13 UBT: ProJared’s Divorce Statement
      • May 10 When Mother’s Day Sucks
      • May 9 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell the kids about the cheating?
      • May 8 Way to Take Down a Cheater
      • May 7 Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
      • May 6 Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy
      • May 3 What’s the Right Thing to Say?
      • May 2 Dear Chump Lady, How did he turn into a douche?
      • May 1 Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?
    • April 2019

      • Apr 30 The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
      • Apr 29 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like she traded up
      • Apr 26 RIC Tag Lines?
      • Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Nobody gets being chumped (except chumps)
      • Apr 24 UBT: Why Happy People Cheat
      • Apr 23 Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
      • Apr 22 Why Do You Still Do This? A Peek Behind the Scenes at Chump Central
      • Apr 19 Snark and Dance Tunes
      • Apr 18 Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?
      • Apr 17 UBT: “The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life”
      • Apr 16 David Brooks Can Bite Me
      • Apr 15 Dear Chump Lady, Is this weird?
      • Apr 12 What Are You Taking Back?
      • Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a Bunny Boiler
      • Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
      • Apr 9 Stupid Requests Cheaters Make?
      • Apr 8 La teoría unificada del postre
      • Apr 8 El humillante zapateo de ‘¡Elígeme a mí!’
      • Apr 8 Dear Chump Lady, Do I owe him an explanation?
      • Apr 5 Serenade the Universal Bullshit Translator
      • Apr 4 UBT: “People sometimes lie or ‘forget’ to keep their promises”
      • Apr 3 UBT: When the OW Doesn’t Trust Her Boyfriend
      • Apr 2 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
      • Apr 1 Dear Chump Lady, He told me not to tell
    • March 2019

      • Mar 29 Bitter Bunny Dating?
      • Mar 28 When You Piss Off the Unicorns
      • Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?
      • Mar 26 UBT: Eat, Pray, Happy Day?
      • Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, Please be mean
      • Mar 22 Mightiness Update
      • Mar 21 UBT: “I should be nice to you”
      • Mar 20 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
      • Mar 19 Beware the Timid Forest Creatures
      • Mar 18 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is the ‘Girl Next Door’
      • Mar 15 Be the UBT
      • Mar 14 UBT: “People Grow Apart”
      • Mar 13 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
      • Mar 12 Forgiving the ‘Sex Addict’
      • Mar 11 Dear Chump Lady, I want closure
      • Mar 10 Yes, That’s Chump Lady in Español
      • Mar 8 Imagine Justice
      • Mar 7 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so mad at my ex?
      • Mar 6 Dear Chump Lady, I want him to stay with the OW
      • Mar 5 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
      • Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get my ex’s voice out of my head
      • Mar 1 Your Heart and Your Wallet
    • February 2019

      • Feb 28 “I Didn’t Mean To” Debunked
      • Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street
      • Feb 26 Esther Perel Can Bite Me
      • Feb 25 Dear Chump Lady, He puts the OW phone to say ‘goodnight’ to our child
      • Feb 22 Got a Pep Talk?
      • Feb 21 The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
      • Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I feel a new man is the answer?
      • Feb 19 ‘Is it my fault my ex ran off with our nanny?’
      • Feb 18 Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave for an emotional affair?
      • Feb 15 When your ‘match’ is a married motivational speaker
      • Feb 14 And the Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
      • Feb 13 The ‘Bitch Be Crazy’ Red Flag
      • Feb 12 Playing the Victim?
      • Feb 11 Is Cake Better Than Abandonment?
      • Feb 8 What’s Your Patronus?
      • Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, I work with the OW and my ex
      • Feb 6 Dear Chump Lady, He sees me as the Fixer
      • Feb 5 A Masterclass in Boundaries
      • Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer
      • Feb 1 Infidelity Valentines
    • January 2019

      • Jan 31 How Do I Fix My Picker?
      • Jan 30 Don’t Send It
      • Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
      • Jan 28 Dear Chump Lady, My husband prefers porn to me
      • Jan 25 Glimpses of Meh?
      • Jan 24 UBT: “Neither of us are perfect”
      • Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
      • Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, He’s dating a mom at our kid’s school
      • Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
      • Jan 20 Get the F*ck Out Now
      • Jan 18 Best No Contact Strategies
      • Jan 17 Pain Shopping, Anyone?
      • Jan 16 Dear Chump Lady, He shoveled my snow, so he cares?
      • Jan 15 “Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?”
      • Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I’d divorce her, but she wants that
      • Jan 11 Got Jesus Cheaters?
      • Jan 10 Don’t Date This Person
      • Jan 9 Dear Chump Lady, Was I THAT bad?
      • Jan 8 “Why do cheaters need to punish the chump?”
      • Jan 7 Dear Chump Lady, He says he cheated to protect me
      • Jan 4 What’s In. What’s Out
      • Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
      • Jan 2 UBT: ‘A Letter to My Lover’s Wife’
      • Jan 1 Gain a Life
  • 2018

    • December 2018

      • Dec 31 ‘He sent me a poem on Christmas’
      • Dec 28 Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
      • Dec 27 Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
      • Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
      • Dec 25 UBT: “I wish I could take it back”
      • Dec 24 The Promise Land of Meh
      • Dec 21 Jingle Meh?
      • Dec 20 Dear Chump Lady, Where do I go with this anger?
      • Dec 19 Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
      • Dec 18 UBT: “There Are No Right Answers”
      • Dec 17 Chaos — The Fourth Channel?
      • Dec 14 Most Spectacularly Callous Christmas Dump?
      • Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted
      • Dec 12 UBT: “I Want to Dive Into You”
      • Dec 11 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
      • Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn
      • Dec 7 You Might Be a Chump If..
      • Dec 6 Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?
      • Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, I have no Seasons Greetings
      • Dec 4 ‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’
      • Dec 3 The Cheater Who Stole Christmas
    • November 2018

      • Nov 30 Schadenfreude Snark
      • Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, Please kick my ass
      • Nov 28 Out of Sight, Out of Mind
      • Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why do people assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
      • Nov 26 UBT: “I Don’t Mean to Worry You, But…”
      • Nov 23 Holiday Hoovering
      • Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
      • Nov 21 Bye-Bye, Cheater
      • Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to stay ‘friends’?
      • Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker
      • Nov 16 Chump Nation Gives Thanks
      • Nov 15 Cool. Bummer. Wow.
      • Nov 14 The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory
      • Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where do I put his stuff?
      • Nov 12 Dear Chump Lady, I drunk dialed
      • Nov 9 What Advice Would You Give an Earlier You?
      • Nov 8 Managing Divorce Expectations
      • Nov 7 Your Time on the Marriage Police Force
      • Nov 6 Dear Chump Lady, “I still wish I could call him”
      • Nov 5 How to Deal with Adult Child After D-Day?
      • Nov 2 Your Mightiest Moment?
      • Nov 1 The “What If They’re Really The One” Fear
    • October 2018

      • Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
      • Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Is this apology total baloney?
      • Oct 29 Love, The All-Purpose Spackle
      • Oct 26 The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
      • Oct 25 Respond to Mindfuckery with Ridicule
      • Oct 24 ‘I Found the OW’s Goodbye Letter in My Safe’
      • Oct 23 I Don’t Write for You
      • Oct 22 UBT: “You Represent Christmastime”
      • Oct 19 Twu Wuv Vows?
      • Oct 18 Reject the Plan B Offer
      • Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’s stuck on his ‘intentions’
      • Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, I have nightmares
      • Oct 15 The I-Know-What-I-Did-Was-Wrong-But-I-Did-It-Anyway Mindfuck
      • Oct 13 The First Chump Podcast!
      • Oct 12 Good Advice, Bad Advice?
      • Oct 11 Who’s Hoovering Who?
      • Oct 10 UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
      • Oct 9 What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
      • Oct 8 Dear Chump Lady, He left me to BLOG with the OW?
      • Oct 5 Radical Kindness
      • Oct 4 UBT: “I Don’t Understand”
      • Oct 3 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts Me Too”
      • Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, How did I not know?
      • Oct 1 When Entitlement Meets Vulnerability
    • September 2018

      • Sep 28 Worst Gift Ever?
      • Sep 27 Owning Your Chumpiness
      • Sep 26 Tiffany Glass Windows
      • Sep 25 Chump Lady Descends Into Middle Age
      • Sep 24 UBT: “I Found Myself and Had an Affair”
      • Sep 21 What It Looked Like, What It Was
      • Sep 20 Science Vindicates ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’
      • Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, Did my being controlling make him gay?
      • Sep 18 The Ones Who Just Leave
      • Sep 17 Let’s blame the children?
      • Sep 14 Stupid Shit Affair Partners Say?
      • Sep 13 UBT: ‘I hold no animosity for you’
      • Sep 12 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any good memories of him
      • Sep 11 Situational Truth
      • Sep 10 UBT: ‘Our Marriage Was Already Over’
      • Sep 7 Problem? Adulting vs. Escapism
      • Sep 6 Character Assassination? Probably.
      • Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t give up
      • Sep 4 Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?
      • Sep 3 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
    • August 2018

      • Aug 31 So, What Are You Taking Back?
      • Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, Can I go NC with my step-daughter?
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump, my brother is a cheater
      • Aug 28 UBT: Chump Lady’s ‘attitude’
      • Aug 27 The ‘Otherness’ of the OW
      • Aug 24 Biggest lie you bought?
      • Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, He got a ring tattoo for the OW
      • Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, Is pain a choice?
      • Aug 21 New Narc Strategy? Be Boring
      • Aug 20 UBT: “I’m sorry you feel that way”
      • Aug 17 God Rest Her Soul
      • Aug 16 “Our children deserved…”
      • Aug 15 Why blame the chump?
      • Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house
      • Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the OW
      • Aug 10 How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
      • Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, He keeps calling me “Babe”
      • Aug 8 “Closure,” Don’t Do It.
      • Aug 7 Nice vs. Kind
      • Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, Am I normal?
      • Aug 3 Ever Run into Your Ex?
      • Aug 2 How Do I Fix My Picker?
      • Aug 1 Cheater Exceptionalism
    • July 2018

      • Jul 31 Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford it
      • Jul 30 The Case of the Dangling Former Spouse
      • Jul 27 What’s Your Post-Infidelity Super Power?
      • Jul 26 Be the Support You Wish You Had
      • Jul 25 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
      • Jul 24 Entitlement Reinforcement
      • Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, I shouldn’t have looked…
      • Jul 20 The Selfies, OMG the Selfies
      • Jul 19 UBT: “I was just going to ride it out”
      • Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust
      • Jul 17 The Walls in Your House Will Sing
      • Jul 16 When You Perform the Pick Me Dance Wrong
      • Jul 13 Connecting with Other Chumps?
      • Jul 12 “Does divorcing her make me the Bad Guy?”
      • Jul 11 Chump Nation Subject of ‘Curious’ Podcast!
      • Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?
      • Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
      • Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back
      • Jul 6 Tell Me How You Suck
      • Jul 5 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
      • Jul 4 Happy Independence Day!
      • Jul 3 Emotional Affairs, Exit Affairs, and Ghosts
      • Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothes
    • June 2018

      • Jun 29 How to Find a Lawyer and Other Chump Survival Tips
      • Jun 28 When You Can’t Leave Because You Still “Love” Them
      • Jun 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why must cheaters add insult to injury?
      • Jun 26 How to Confront a Cheater
      • Jun 25 “What do I tell my crying children?”
      • Jun 22 Fear, You Don’t Own Me
      • Jun 21 Keeping Secrets
      • Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, I feel trapped
      • Jun 19 Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!
      • Jun 18 UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later
      • Jun 17 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 15 Recidivism?
      • Jun 14 Shocker. Rudy Giuliani Still a Cheater.
      • Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom
      • Jun 12 A “Trust That They Suck” Reminder
      • Jun 11 The Dead Cheater Dilemma
      • Jun 8 Apology Fails
      • Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged
      • Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, He’s promising to better himself… for her
      • Jun 5 Dear Chump Lady, She knew in her heart he was a cheater
      • Jun 4 Chump Nation Takes Australia!
      • Jun 1 Tales from the “Gain a Life” Side?
    • May 2018

      • May 31 Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
      • May 30 UBT: “I just want to help you!”
      • May 29 You Don’t Need It THAT Bad
      • May 28 Stupid Shit That People Say to Chumps
      • May 25 So what else didn’t you know about?
      • May 24 Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
      • May 23 UXWorld UBTs a Letter from KK
      • May 22 Cheaters Never Trade Up — The Lola Doctrine
      • May 21 How did you spackle over the incompatibility?
      • May 19 Chump Lady Heads to Australia!
      • May 18 Where Is Their SHAME?
      • May 17 When You Need Cheater Twu Wuv to Fail
      • May 16 Are Cheaters Timid Forest Creatures?
      • May 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he copying me?
      • May 14 Dear Chump Lady, Do cheaters blameshift?
      • May 12 Happy Mother’s Day! Take a Single Mom to Brunch
      • May 11 Monica Lewinsky Isn’t Going to the Ball
      • May 10 UBT: “You’re the one who still has my heart”
      • May 9 “I’ve changed!” — The Chump Response
      • May 8 UBT: Thanks to your book, my husband wants to leave me
      • May 7 Dear Chump Lady, Why does the OW want to meet me?
      • May 4 What You Thought It Was… What It Really Was
      • May 3 Dear Josh
      • May 2 Dear Chump Lady, He sexted his AUNT
      • May 1 Dear Chump Lady, The Hallmark Channel Is Fucking with My Head
    • April 2018

      • Apr 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’m too old to start over
      • Apr 27 Sunshine, Lollipops, Middle Fingers
      • Apr 26 When the Pick Me Dance Turns Deadly
      • Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit cheating?
      • Apr 24 I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
      • Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all do the same stupid shit?
      • Apr 20 Time for Another Mightiness Check In
      • Apr 19 Happy Blog Birthday, Chump Nation! Viva la Revolution!
      • Apr 18 When Affair Partners Marry
      • Apr 17 UBT: 7 Reasons Your Husband Left You For His Emotional Affair Partner
      • Apr 16 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop the smear campaign?
      • Apr 13 Time for Another Round of Bitch Cookie!
      • Apr 12 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
      • Apr 11 The Perils of Flunking No Contact
      • Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a narcissist?
      • Apr 9 UBT: What Sleeping with Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity
      • Apr 6 You Picked a Fine Time To Leave Me, Lucille
      • Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman — Who does that?!
      • Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m REALLY angry. Is this normal?
      • Apr 3 UBT: I Will Return with a Fuller Love
      • Apr 2 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want him, but she can’t have him
      • Apr 1 A Chump in a Land Down Under
    • March 2018

      • Mar 30 Most Audacious Lie?
      • Mar 29 UBT: I Didn’t Know How to Express My Unhappiness
      • Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
      • Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Better the Cheater I know, right?
      • Mar 26 Making the Marriage ‘A Good Place to Be’
      • Mar 25 My Gun Story… Or That Time I Found a Loaded Handgun Under My Bed
      • Mar 23 Stupid Cheater Life Plans
      • Mar 22 Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants $25,000
      • Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, He wants to move to New Zealand
      • Mar 20 You’d Like Them If You Really Knew Them
      • Mar 19 UBT: I cheated because you’re stale
      • Mar 16 Your Days on the Marriage Police Force?
      • Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, The cheater doesn’t know I’m pregnant
      • Mar 14 UBT: Affair Proof Your Marriage
      • Mar 13 Please Don’t Kill Yourself for a Fuckwit
      • Mar 12 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cheater because of her dad?
      • Mar 9 Hopium Translations
      • Mar 8 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
      • Mar 7 The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
      • Mar 6 But He’s a Really Nice Guy
      • Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, He keeps returning and crying
      • Mar 2 How Is Your Life Better Without a Cheater?
      • Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, He lies about everything… and why won’t he watch our dogs?
    • February 2018

      • Feb 28 UBTing the Sugar Daddy
      • Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, The OW must be really great for my wife to give up everything
      • Feb 26 Chump Lady on Orgies
      • Feb 25 Chump Lady Tweaks Her Site
      • Feb 23 Infidelity… It’s So Much More
      • Feb 22 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
      • Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, Can’t quite shake the rejection…
      • Feb 20 Australia, You Need to Up Your Scandal Game
      • Feb 19 The Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Somebody Else
      • Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he get to look like a Good Person?
      • Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, What’s in the minds of OW?
      • Feb 13 And the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Winners Are…
      • Feb 13 A Valentine’s Day Reset
      • Feb 12 Dead Cheaters and Terrible Discoveries
      • Feb 9 Check Your Bills for Boob Jobs and Other Great Advice
      • Feb 8 I Love You, But I’m Not In Love With You
      • Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, He cheated on me through fertility treatments
      • Feb 6 Financial Abuse and Your D-Day
      • Feb 5 Poor Nigel
      • Feb 2 Time Again for Infidelity Valentines!
      • Feb 1 Mayor of Nashville Feels Really Sad About Her Taxpayer-Funded Affair
    • January 2018

      • Jan 31 Affairs Improve Marriage?
      • Jan 30 How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
      • Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m not “the one”
      • Jan 26 If You Could Go Back in Time…
      • Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the unfairness?
      • Jan 24 UBT: “I’m Not a Terrible Person”
      • Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I pull the trigger on the divorce?
      • Jan 22 Don’t Need It THAT Bad
      • Jan 21 And The Cheater Freak Winner Is…
      • Jan 19 Profiles in Mightiness
      • Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront the affair partner?
      • Jan 17 Tuesday Is Coming
      • Jan 16 UBT: I’m a Real Silly Bunny
      • Jan 15 How Can We Challenge Blameshifting Therapists?
      • Jan 14 Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
      • Jan 12 New Script for Betrayed Political Wives?
      • Jan 11 UBT: In Defense of Dating a Married Man
      • Jan 10 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered a Switzerland Sister
      • Jan 9 Narcissists Be Crazy!
      • Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!
      • Jan 5 Dreams, Signs, and Cosmic Portents You’re a Chump
      • Jan 4 Snooping in the Modern Age
      • Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, What are OW thinking?
      • Jan 2 Dear Chump Lady, Is this my fault?
      • Jan 1 Dear Chump Lady, Why meh? Why not screaming?
  • 2017

    • December 2017

      • Dec 29 New Year’s Friday Challenge!
      • Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
      • Dec 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
      • Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
      • Dec 25 Dear Chump Lady, WTF Merry X-mas?!
      • Dec 22 Tell Me How You’re Mighty, Holiday Edition
      • Dec 21 Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone ever love me with stretchmarks?
      • Dec 20 UBT: “My dog loves Mark.”
      • Dec 19 Esther Perel in the #MeToo Era
      • Dec 18 You Could Be Friends!
      • Dec 15 Cheater Freak Christmas Countdown!
      • Dec 14 UBT: “We tried to stop so many times, but we couldn’t”
      • Dec 13 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day
      • Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, I miss being a full-time parent
      • Dec 11 Yeah, That’s Not an Apology
      • Dec 10 Some Holiday Uplift
      • Dec 8 What to Say to Sanctimonious Rubberneckers?
      • Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, The cheater wants to take family photos
      • Dec 6 UBT: “No One Is Perfect”
      • Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
      • Dec 4 “Feeling desperate, fearful, rage”
      • Dec 1 Sorry Not Sorry
    • November 2017

      • Nov 30 There’s the Door, Matt Lauer
      • Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, I need confirmation that he cheated
      • Nov 28 No, We Bitter, Hopeless Chumps Will Not Come to Your Dinner Party
      • Nov 27 UBT: “An Optimist’s Guide to Divorce”
      • Nov 24 Your Stupid Cheater Moments
      • Nov 23 UBT: “I just wanted to reach out to help you”
      • Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
      • Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop feeling sorry for him?
      • Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife has some weird requests
      • Nov 17 Fix Your Picker Tips
      • Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the data on reconciliation?
      • Nov 15 The Smugness of Friendly Divorce
      • Nov 14 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to the people who knew?
      • Nov 13 The Silent Chumps
      • Nov 10 Narcissist Mixtapes?
      • Nov 9 The Bullshit That Is the ‘Trust Bank’
      • Nov 8 Monogamy Is Not the Problem
      • Nov 7 UBT: I’m a broken empty person searching for meaning and happiness before I die
      • Nov 6 The Futility in Confronting Affair Partners
      • Nov 3 Bitch Cookie, Anyone?
      • Nov 2 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
      • Nov 1 Dear Chump Lady, I left my perfect husband
    • October 2017

      • Oct 31 What Married Men Tell Other Women
      • Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Help! I keep breaking no contact
      • Oct 29 Chump Lady Is Coming to Australia!
      • Oct 27 Mr./Ms. Sparkles Is Ready to Date You!
      • Oct 26 “Our Marriage Was Already Over”
      • Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, What if I leave and he really loves me?
      • Oct 24 Weinstein Does Outpatient Quackery
      • Oct 23 A Shout Out to All You Stalking Cheaters
      • Oct 20 The “Redeemable Cheater” Fallacy
      • Oct 19 When They Look Good on Paper
      • Oct 18 Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A Primer
      • Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t feel mighty. I got left.
      • Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with my cheater dad?
      • Oct 13 Divorce Hacks
      • Oct 12 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m terrified he will cheat on me
      • Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly nice?
      • Oct 10 Want to spot a narcissist? Just ask one.
      • Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, She says it was “just kissing”
      • Oct 7 Chump Lady Takes Back Paris
      • Oct 6 Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice You Got
      • Oct 5 Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
      • Oct 4 Problem? Adult solution vs. Cheater solution
      • Oct 3 Cheater Freak of the Week?
      • Oct 2 You might be a chump if…
      • Oct 1 A Week of Fridays!
    • September 2017

      • Sep 29 I Want What She’s Having
      • Sep 28 Dear Chump Lady, Help, I slept with my ex!
      • Sep 27 Anthony Weiner Gets Sent to the Clink
      • Sep 26 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I would’ve pressed charges
      • Sep 25 Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
      • Sep 22 What Got You Unstuck?
      • Sep 21 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to be friendly with my ex?
      • Sep 20 Situational Truth
      • Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t miss him at all. Is there something wrong with me?
      • Sep 18 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist thinks I’m responsible for my husband’s cheating
      • Sep 15 Rituals for New Lives?
      • Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, He loves me, he’s worried about me… he left?
      • Sep 13 One Off Cheaters versus Serial Cheaters?
      • Sep 12 The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
      • Sep 11 UBT: Esther Perel’s “Happy People Cheat”
      • Sep 8 Who You Thought You Were, Who You Really Are
      • Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to do No Contact
      • Sep 6 “I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time”
      • Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, We divorced… and now she wants to reconcile
      • Sep 4 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
      • Sep 1 What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was
    • August 2017

      • Aug 31 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
      • Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, Why is the OW calling our house?
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, He proposed… and then he cheated
      • Aug 28 UBT: You aren’t alone… you have the kids
      • Aug 25 How Did You Thwart Their Greatness?
      • Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, She wants me to fight for her?
      • Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
      • Aug 22 All Hail Joss Whedon the Conquering Douchebag
      • Aug 21 Dear Chump Lady, My husband died. Then I discovered his double life.
      • Aug 18 New Life Tattoos Anyone?
      • Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
      • Aug 16 Dear Chump Lady, Do they turn bad or were they always bad?
      • Aug 15 Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?
      • Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t get over being replaced
      • Aug 13 Chump Lady’s Book Now on AUDIO!
      • Aug 11 The Health Costs of Staying?
      • Aug 10 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t stop texting the OW in front of me
      • Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”
      • Aug 8 Character Assassination? Expect It.
      • Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t think my cheater is like the other cheaters…
      • Aug 4 It’s Taking Up Another’s Place
      • Aug 3 Chump Shaming as Competitive Sport
      • Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady. My husband cheated. My mother is disappointed in US.
      • Aug 1 Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the Other Woman
    • July 2017

      • Jul 31 UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
      • Jul 29 RIP Julie Gomoll
      • Jul 28 Cheater Warning Signs?
      • Jul 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a cheater and my wife is such a chump
      • Jul 26 UBT: Will Telling the Truth Hurt Your Relationship?
      • Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, He’s doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad
      • Jul 24 Dear Chump Lady, I didn’t just discover cheating — he’s a criminal too
      • Jul 21 Your Best No Contact Strategies
      • Jul 20 Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
      • Jul 19 The Trickle Truth is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
      • Jul 18 UBT: You’ll regret it
      • Jul 17 Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
      • Jul 14 Going No Contact with Stuff
      • Jul 13 Miracles Happen on Tuesdays
      • Jul 12 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
      • Jul 11 An Interview with Jen Waite, Author of “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing”
      • Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, The OW gave me a brownie plate
      • Jul 7 What makes you resilient?
      • Jul 6 Dear Chump Lady, Do I stay for the kids?
      • Jul 4 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants to date
      • Jul 4 A Chump Independence Proclamation
      • Jul 3 UBT: “I don’t handle rejection well”
    • June 2017

      • Jun 30 Merit Badges for Cheaters
      • Jun 29 Closure Does Not Exist
      • Jun 28 Dear Chump Lady, He brought his girlfriend and I lost my meh
      • Jun 27 When Affair Partners Marry
      • Jun 26 UBT: Cheaters and “Grace”
      • Jun 23 Flip the Script — The Un-Letter
      • Jun 22 The Unlikelihood of True Remorse
      • Jun 21 This Is Your Brain on Hopium
      • Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
      • Jun 19 UBT: “I can’t remember”
      • Jun 17 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 16 Strange Bedfellows
      • Jun 15 UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s Lemonade
      • Jun 14 UBT: Let’s just forget and forgive
      • Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he hate me?
      • Jun 12 Get Mighty, Retrain in a Tech Career
      • Jun 9 Rage Plumbing and Other Acts of Productive Anger
      • Jun 8 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry as hell
      • Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, The OW exposed the affair on Facebook
      • Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is having an emotional affair with his HS girlfriend
      • Jun 5 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the pick-me dance?
      • Jun 2 The Sentence That Changed Your Life?
      • Jun 1 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
    • May 2017

      • May 31 The Decline of Tiger Woods
      • May 30 Dear Chump Lady, How do I know when I’m done?
      • May 29 Dear Chump Lady, I smell a generous settlement…
      • May 26 If Cheaters Wrote Children’s Book Titles…
      • May 25 Jesus Cheaters
      • May 24 Dear Chump Lady, We had a good life. Why did he cheat?
      • May 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
      • May 22 Huma Finally Leaves
      • May 19 Stupid Shit Schmoopies Say
      • May 18 The Bitch-Be-Crazy Red Flag
      • May 17 UBT: “You’re nobody’s muse.”
      • May 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
      • May 15 Open Marriage Skepticism
      • May 12 Happy Mother’s Day to Single Moms
      • May 11 Emotional Vomiting and the Kindness of Strangers
      • May 10 Dear Chump Lady, I’ve got a problem with self-worth
      • May 9 Dear Chump Lady, The court wants me to say she is a “good parent.” I can’t.
      • May 8 UBT: Leaving and Cleaving
      • May 5 Gift Registries for Cheaters?
      • May 4 Might Want to Rethink that “Character” Thing
      • May 3 5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
      • May 2 Dear Chump Lady, He divorced me because we don’t have “chemistry”
      • May 1 You Want to Date a Chump? Here’s Where to Find Them
    • April 2017

      • Apr 28 Not Your Job Anymore
      • Apr 27 Kids and Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
      • Apr 26 The Fallacy of “Unmet Needs”
      • Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles The Magnificent Personality Changing Dry Drunk Unicorn?
      • Apr 24 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I have to pay her when she cheated?
      • Apr 23 Abuse Goes with Substance Abuse
      • Apr 21 Best Sassy Chump Retorts?
      • Apr 20 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t stand a chance dating
      • Apr 19 5 Years of Chump Lady? 5 Lessons Learned
      • Apr 18 Paltering — Another Kind of Mindfuckery
      • Apr 17 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid he’ll turn the kids against me
      • Apr 14 Your Nominees for the Mighty Award
      • Apr 13 The Ones Who Just Leave
      • Apr 12 And the Mighty Award Goes to Dianne Bentley!
      • Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, Should I reconcile with a sex addict?
      • Apr 10 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I betrayed the OW
      • Apr 7 Your Most Ridiculous RIC Nuggets
      • Apr 6 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
      • Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, Tell those wives to maintain their dignity
      • Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave if he has cancer?
      • Apr 3 Why No Contact Works
    • March 2017

      • Mar 31 Therapy with Cheaters
      • Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’ll leave him after I lose 20 lbs
      • Mar 29 UBT: “You’re incapable of forgiveness”
      • Mar 28 Facebook Is NOT Helping You Move On
      • Mar 27 Is Huma Abedin Really Working It Out with Anthony Weiner?
      • Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t admit to cheating
      • Mar 24 What’s the Dumbest Lie You Ever Fell For?
      • Mar 23 Forgiveness Trolls
      • Mar 22 Dear Chump Lady, Should I fight for her?
      • Mar 21 You Get Over It – A Chump Story
      • Mar 20 A Chump Minstrel Show
      • Mar 17 New Infidelity Euphemisms
      • Mar 16 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
      • Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, When does this get easier?
      • Mar 14 Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
      • Mar 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I thinking “If only…”?
      • Mar 10 Your Imaginary Chump-Cheater Biopics
      • Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, My husband ran off with the nanny and it’s my fault?
      • Mar 8 You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
      • Mar 7 UBT: “You don’t need the specifics”
      • Mar 6 UBT: “This Isn’t the Real Me”
      • Mar 3 Tell Me How You’re Mighty!
      • Mar 2 UBT: “I was just experimenting”
      • Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Help! I regret posting OW on expose-a-homewrecker sites
    • February 2017

      • Feb 28 Close Encounters with Affair Partners
      • Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, Am I responsible for the kids’ relationship with their dad?
      • Feb 24 I Am a Rock. I Am an Island.
      • Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Did she leave because I’m not good enough?
      • Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
      • Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, My heart hasn’t caught up to my divorce
      • Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, My mother doesn’t support my divorce
      • Feb 17 Nice versus Kind
      • Feb 16 UBT: There Is No Right or Wrong in the World
      • Feb 15 What Lessons Did You Learn From Cheating?
      • Feb 14 And the Valentine’s Day Poetry Winners Are…
      • Feb 13 UBT: 12 Lessons I Learned From Cheating
      • Feb 10 UBT: “My heart is now open and the feelings are felt.”
      • Feb 9 Dear Chump Lady, He’s in the closet. How do I tell his wife?
      • Feb 8 Unconditional Love
      • Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, Do I miss the mindfuck?
      • Feb 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
      • Feb 5 The Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Poetry Contest
      • Feb 3 What a Good Friend Looks Like
      • Feb 2 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
      • Feb 1 Dear Chump Lady, My wife is near perfect, but I see prostitutes
    • January 2017

      • Jan 31 How Do I Divorce a Narcissist?
      • Jan 30 What Did Your Sad Sausage Want Sympathy For?
      • Jan 27 Your Best No Contact Strategies
      • Jan 26 Sorry Is as Sorry Does
      • Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I tell my pregnant SIL her husband is cheating?
      • Jan 24 Lies Are Exhausting
      • Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, Cheater’s mom enables him in his affair
      • Jan 20 What’s Your Patronus?
      • Jan 19 The Power of Ridicule
      • Jan 18 The “I Fail to Understand Your Hostility” Mindfuck
      • Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, My husband says the children should not be told of his affair
      • Jan 16 When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
      • Jan 13 Biggest Empowerment Jolt after D-Day?
      • Jan 12 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants an open marriage
      • Jan 11 The Cheater Was Going to Stop… Really
      • Jan 10 Got Anger?
      • Jan 9 The Fallacy of Blissful Ignorance
      • Jan 6 Overcoming Awkward Firsts
      • Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, He’s just flawed, he’s not bad?
      • Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
      • Jan 3 UBT: Chump Lady’s Attitude
      • Jan 2 Get Over It
  • 2016

    • December 2016

      • Dec 30 Stupid Shit Said in Therapy
      • Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, He butt-dialed me from the OW’s
      • Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
      • Dec 27 Stupid Shit Other People Say
      • Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, Is PTSD a reason for cheating?
      • Dec 23 Tis the Season for New Traditions
      • Dec 22 UBT: He blew up the marriage to improve it
      • Dec 21 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
      • Dec 20 Compartmentalization
      • Dec 19 Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
      • Dec 16 Moments of Meh
      • Dec 15 Quit Waiting for an Apology
      • Dec 14 Dear Chump Lady, How do I co-parent with an addict?
      • Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, Should my cheater be in the delivery room?
      • Dec 12 How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
      • Dec 9 Tips for Starting a New Life?
      • Dec 8 Cool. Bummer. Wow.
      • Dec 7 UBT: A Letter from “the Baby”
      • Dec 6 UBT: The OW told me to jump off a bridge
      • Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Just divorced and my ex is introducing her affair partner to the kids
      • Dec 2 The Annual Christmas Freak Countdown
      • Dec 1 Making a Vow to Yourself
    • November 2016

      • Nov 30 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like D-Day…
      • Nov 29 UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
      • Nov 28 Dear Chump Lady, Don’t confess an affair?
      • Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
      • Nov 24 Things We Are Grateful For
      • Nov 23 Things We Are Not Grateful For
      • Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, Husband said OW’s name during sex
      • Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, When dating, how do I know if someone is a cheater?
      • Nov 18 Co-Parenting With Fuckwits, Your Thoughts…
      • Nov 17 The Walls In Your House Will Sing
      • Nov 16 UBT: Ask Your Spouse Directly If They’ve Been Cheating
      • Nov 15 UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
      • Nov 14 Cheating Is a Very “Individual” Thing
      • Nov 11 Tell Me Something Good
      • Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, I just got HPV, but I’ve been monogamous for 30 years
      • Nov 9 Dear America, You’re in an abusive relationship
      • Nov 8 UBT: If You Accuse Me of Cheating, I Will Cheat
      • Nov 7 Anthony Weiner Does Sex Rehab
      • Nov 4 I Don’t Need Your Permission
      • Nov 3 Flip the Script, Chumps
      • Nov 2 UBT: It Has Nothing To Do With You
      • Nov 1 What Did You Lose By Reconciling?
    • October 2016

      • Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife wants to come back
      • Oct 28 The Pep Talk You Would Give Yourself at D-Day
      • Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, My ex doesn’t want me to date
      • Oct 26 Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
      • Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, My “friend” is an OW
      • Oct 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do you ask for a divorce?
      • Oct 21 Have a Bitch Cookie
      • Oct 20 The Stranger
      • Oct 19 Dear Chump Lady, He apologized. Now what?
      • Oct 18 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
      • Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, Please help un-chump my mom
      • Oct 14 Ghoulies and Ghosties and Long-Legged Beasties and Things That Cheat in the Night
      • Oct 13 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Queries
      • Oct 12 The “Children Are Resilient” Argument
      • Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, He says he thought he’d never get caught
      • Oct 10 Yeah, That’s Not An Apology
      • Oct 7 The Day of the Deadbeat
      • Oct 6 Tori’s Marriage-Saving Pregnancy
      • Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, I need some karma stories STAT!
      • Oct 4 Dear Chump Lady, He’s not a bad person, he’s just a sex addict
      • Oct 3 Everyone Cheats?
    • September 2016

      • Sep 30 Hashtags for #Cheaters
      • Sep 29 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
      • Sep 28 WTF Trivago Guy?
      • Sep 27 Dear Chump Lady, How long do you think this affair was going on?
      • Sep 26 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
      • Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, Apparently I am “spiteful”
      • Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
      • Sep 21 Your Obligatory Brangelina Post
      • Sep 20 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any proof but…
      • Sep 19 UBT: How do I find that next married man?
      • Sep 16 That Moment of Chump Rebellion
      • Sep 15 Dear Chump Lady, My ex sent me a goodbye letter
      • Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I second guessing my decision to break up?
      • Sep 13 The Condescension of Other Women
      • Sep 12 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he suck at remorse?
      • Sep 9 Eat, Pray, Gay?
      • Sep 8 Dear Chump Lady, Why do people help cheaters cheat?
      • Sep 7 Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is For Suckers
      • Sep 6 Dear Chump Lady, I neglected him and this is all my fault
      • Sep 4 Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
      • Sep 2 Meh Sightings
      • Sep 1 UBT: “Respect my relationship with the OW”
    • August 2016

      • Aug 31 When Your Cheater Is Also a Sicko
      • Aug 30 Huma Frees Herself
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t seem to block him
      • Aug 26 Your Most Un-Meh Moment
      • Aug 25 Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX just to mess with him?
      • Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?
      • Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters work from the same script?
      • Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, I lost the moral high ground when I told people my wife was cheating
      • Aug 19 Time Again for a Mightiness Check
      • Aug 18 Dear Chump Lady, How can I save my friend?
      • Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, What if he changes for the next woman?
      • Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t trust women
      • Aug 15 Anthony Weiner Gets Catfished
      • Aug 12 Snappy “I’d Rather” Cheater Comebacks
      • Aug 11 Dear Chump Lady, Are affairs addictions?
      • Aug 10 The Pick Me Dance… After Death?
      • Aug 9 Living with Your Ex… For The Children?
      • Aug 8 Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants to live in my basement
      • Aug 5 You Might Be a Cheater If…
      • Aug 4 UBT: “We Aren’t All Homewreckers”
      • Aug 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why does everyone assume cheating is the chump’s fault?
      • Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, Can I please destroy the OW?
      • Aug 1 China’s Mistress Dispelling Services
    • July 2016

      • Jul 29 A Chump Coming Out Party?
      • Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, I stay to protect my son from the Other Woman
      • Jul 27 Finding a Friend You Can Confide In
      • Jul 26 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the devaluing?
      • Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m struggling with no contact and kids
      • Jul 22 Ashley Madison Wants You to “Find Your Moment”
      • Jul 21 Dear Chump Lady, Is Affair Fog real?
      • Jul 20 I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
      • Jul 19 Dear Chump Lady, I have a Switzerland cousin
      • Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater and I want to change
      • Jul 17 A Chump Emancipation Proclamation
      • Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
      • Jul 14 Eat, Pray, Kibble, Divorce
      • Jul 13 The Ready Chump Response to “I’ve Changed!”
      • Jul 12 Being the Marriage Police
      • Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the tall, blonde Other Woman
      • Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep myself from rewriting history?
      • Jul 7 Dear Chump Lady, When do I tell him I’m dumping him?
      • Jul 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over losing the dream?
      • Jul 5 Don’t Be Bitter!
      • Jul 4 But I Always Come Back to You
      • Jul 1 The Museum of Broken Relationships
    • June 2016

      • Jun 30 A Plea for Civility
      • Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, Can I let people know he’s a fraud?
      • Jun 28 Affair Enablers
      • Jun 27 But I Love Her (Him)
      • Jun 24 What Inspirational Quote Helped You Through?
      • Jun 23 Dear Chump Lady, She’s pregnant by the Other Man
      • Jun 22 Knowing When a Marriage Is Over
      • Jun 21 Embrace the Chaos
      • Jun 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do I handle the OW?
      • Jun 19 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 17 Dating Disaster Stories, Anyone?
      • Jun 16 Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
      • Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’m too available
      • Jun 14 The Blog Odometer Rolled Over 10 Million
      • Jun 13 Ask Me Anything Tonight
      • Jun 13 UBT: “I will return with a fuller love for you”
      • Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope
      • Jun 9 An Imperfect Beginning
      • Jun 8 Do Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem?
      • Jun 7 Ask Me Anything!
      • Jun 7 Tom Jones Eulogizes His Chump
      • Jun 6 Dear Chump Lady, When I threaten to leave, he says he’ll change
      • Jun 3 New Age Cheaterisms
      • Jun 2 A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
      • Jun 1 UBT: “Why My Affair Will Turn Into a Healthy Relationship!”
    • May 2016

      • May 30 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he ignore my questions?
      • May 30 Paula Broadwell Wants Us to Stop Saying “Mistress”
      • May 27 No Contact Fails — The Outtakes
      • May 26 UBT: “You have to set me free within the marriage.”
      • May 25 UBT This Jesus Cheater Please
      • May 24 UBT: “I lied to you because you can’t accept the truth”
      • May 23 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband wants me to sponsor his citizenship
      • May 20 Time for a Mightiness Check In!
      • May 19 You Need a Lawyer
      • May 18 How to Suffer — A Chump Manual
      • May 17 Dear Chump Lady, I’m 9 months pregnant and he’s introducing his girlfriend
      • May 16 Dear Chump Lady, I was completely duped. How do I ever trust again?
      • May 15 A Feast of Mightiness!
      • May 13 Cheater or Child? Who Said It Best?
      • May 12 Dear Chump Lady, I’m considering just giving up
      • May 11 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with cheating ex at my daughter’s graduation?
      • May 10 Official Book Day!
      • May 9 UBT: Esther Perel on Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
      • May 8 Happy Mothers’ Day!
      • May 6 The Fuckwit Pride Parade
      • May 5 Dear Chump Lady, My insecurity made him cheat?
      • May 4 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is taunting me
      • May 3 UBT: “Please Don’t Give Up On Me!”
      • May 2 Science Vindicates “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life”
    • April 2016

      • Apr 29 UBT: “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage”
      • Apr 28 Dear Chump Lady, Which came first — the death of the marriage or the affair?
      • Apr 27 Let Me Tell You All About Them!
      • Apr 26 If You Think I’m THAT Sort of Person…
      • Apr 25 UBT: Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’
      • Apr 22 UBT: “I Made a Terrible Mistake”
      • Apr 21 Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me
      • Apr 20 Dear Chump Lady, Is he just your average narcissist?
      • Apr 19 The Blog Turns 4 Today!
      • Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, I chased my cheater through a mall…
      • Apr 15 How Pretty Did You “Pick Me” Dance?
      • Apr 14 Cream of Mindfuck Soup
      • Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, What’s age-appropriate disclosure with kids?
      • Apr 12 Cool, Bummer, Wow
      • Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, How do I say goodbye?
      • Apr 8 Oh the Places You’ll Go!
      • Apr 7 UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
      • Apr 6 UBT: Fred Armisen: Cheating “Is Just Something That Happens”
      • Apr 5 50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
      • Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I feel stupid for outing my cheater in an email blast
      • Apr 3 New Book! Book Launch Party!
      • Apr 1 UBT: “A letter to my husband from his cheating wife”
    • March 2016

      • Mar 31 When Your Cheater Is Also a Predator
      • Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, Anyone else experience Switzerland friends?
      • Mar 29 Sweet Spackle Alabama
      • Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, My daughter considers ex’s affair partner “family”
      • Mar 25 Make Your Own Cheater Memes!
      • Mar 24 Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
      • Mar 23 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating husband won’t move out
      • Mar 22 UBT: “Cheating is a symptom, not the disease”
      • Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, How do you confront a cheater?
      • Mar 18 UBT Me, Please
      • Mar 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
      • Mar 16 Dear Chump Lady, My friend doesn’t listen to your advice
      • Mar 15 UBT: You cheated for the excitement!
      • Mar 14 Surely You Must’ve Known
      • Mar 11 The 3 Douchiest Things You Don’t Miss
      • Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
      • Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, I’m an ex-Marine chump
      • Mar 8 UBT: “I wish I could take it all back”
      • Mar 7 Remarry Your Ex?
      • Mar 6 How Do You Ask Chump Lady a Question?
      • Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, He’s gone. Now how do I get him out of my head?
      • Mar 3 UBT: Our Marriage Was Already Over
      • Mar 2 Dear Chump Lady, He wants the OW so he can “live a little”
      • Mar 1 The Dead-Eyed Stare
    • February 2016

      • Feb 29 UBT: Jennifer Garner’s Shit Sandwich
      • Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, Do OW hate women?
      • Feb 25 50 Shades of Moral Ambiguity
      • Feb 24 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
      • Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Is the cheating my fault?
      • Feb 22 UBT: “My husband has stopped cheating on me after 35 years.”
      • Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
      • Feb 18 UBT: “I Didn’t Mean To”
      • Feb 17 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is “The One”?
      • Feb 16 And the winner is….!
      • Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single available men?
      • Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with kids, social media, and inappropriate ex?
      • Feb 12 Dear Chump Lady, Do we have to do things “as a family”?
      • Feb 11 Social Media Shame for Deadbeats
      • Feb 10 Tiffany Glass Windows
      • Feb 9 Fourth Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
      • Feb 8 Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t want to unfriend the OW
      • Feb 5 Time Again for a Mightiness Check
      • Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, She ghosted me
      • Feb 3 Co-parenting Cake
      • Feb 2 Dear Chump Lady, He has a “seasonal disorder”
      • Feb 1 The Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels
    • January 2016

      • Jan 29 Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
      • Jan 28 UBT: “In Defense of Dating a Married Man”
      • Jan 27 Should You Warn the Next One?
      • Jan 26 Coming From a “Place of Rage” — or Lucidity?
      • Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, He’s come out of the “fog” and wants us back
      • Jan 22 Chump Lady Answers Her Google Search Term Queries
      • Jan 21 A Public Service Announcement for Remorseless Cheaters
      • Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, “I need to forgive the OW” — WTF?
      • Jan 19 UBT: “Found Myself and Had an Affair”
      • Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, I need to be needed
      • Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in “Affair Fog”?
      • Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t deal with her mindfuckery
      • Jan 13 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t cope with the guilt” of who he is
      • Jan 12 UBT: Married Trader with a Sugar Baby
      • Jan 11 Dear Chump Lady, Divorce and then date? Is this a good idea?
      • Jan 8 Potty-Mouthed Infidelity Speak
      • Jan 6 Don’t Date This Person
      • Jan 6 And the Winner Is… Cheater Takes OW to Disneyland Instead of Kids
      • Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, I let the OW get to me. Help.
      • Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Can you please stop me begging for my marriage?
      • Jan 1 Chump Resolutions 2016
  • 2015

    • December 2015

      • Dec 31 Family Therapy with Your Abuser — WTF?
      • Dec 30 The Compassion Trap
      • Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, How do I fix my picker?
      • Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, He apologized to the OW for not leaving me
      • Dec 25 Merry Meh-Mas
      • Dec 24 Nice Vs. Kind
      • Dec 23 We Could Be Friends!
      • Dec 22 Situational Truth
      • Dec 21 Reconsider? Let’s not
      • Dec 18 Cheater Freak Christmas!
      • Dec 17 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to date for dull to find decent?
      • Dec 16 Dear Chump Lady, She hated my poem
      • Dec 15 Single at the Holidays
      • Dec 14 The “Anyone Could Cheat” Defense
      • Dec 11 Leave a Cheater, Give a Refugee Kid a Christmas
      • Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so angry with my ex?
      • Dec 9 UBT: Adele’s “Hello”
      • Dec 8 The Promise Land of Meh Town
      • Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Woman and I feel a lot of guilt
      • Dec 4 Chump Revolution? Buy This Book
      • Dec 3 Dear Chump Lady, How can we challenge blameshifting therapists?
      • Dec 2 UBT: “Other Men” Explain Their Affairs
      • Dec 1 Dear Chump Lady, The “Other Woman” wrote me a letter…
    • November 2015

      • Nov 30 UBT: 7 Reasons Why Cheating Was Your Fault
      • Nov 27 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
      • Nov 26 Happy Thanksgiving!
      • Nov 25 Old crazy? New tradition!
      • Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
      • Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, The Other Woman told me to read your blog…
      • Nov 20 UBT: Mo’Nique’s Give Men a Pass for Cheating
      • Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My mom is a serial cheater
      • Nov 18 The Myth of the 50-50 Marriage
      • Nov 17 UBT: “The Ethicist”
      • Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Did he cheat because I confided my fears?
      • Nov 16 Thoughts on Nihilism
      • Nov 13 Debunking Monogamish
      • Nov 12 The Cheater Work Ethic
      • Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, “We never had sex anymore…”
      • Nov 10 The Pick Me Dance for Fun and Profit
      • Nov 9 UBT OW: I Just Want to Reach Out and Help You!
      • Nov 6 Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
      • Nov 5 Cheater Mad Libs: How I Met My True Love Derrick
      • Nov 4 Dear Chump Lady, I have a back-stabbing mother-in-law
      • Nov 3 UBT: “I’m Not Trying to Be Dramatic.”
      • Nov 2 How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity
    • October 2015

      • Oct 30 Deconstructing Frumpiness (and Chumpiness)
      • Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t compete with their Fabulousness
      • Oct 28 A New Chump Credo
      • Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I keep handing out chances?
      • Oct 26 Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is for Suckers
      • Oct 23 That Unicorn Ran Off with Your Cash
      • Oct 22 Write Your Own Cheater Click Bait
      • Oct 21 The Pretzel Logic of the 180
      • Oct 20 UBT: “Loving Your Husband Hurts ME Too!”
      • Oct 19 The Rock Bottom Remainders
      • Oct 16 What Made You Leave a Cheater?
      • Oct 15 Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
      • Oct 14 UBT: Michelle Duggar’s Marriage Advice
      • Oct 13 The “People Pleaser” Excuse
      • Oct 12 Divorce? Hey, You’re Doing It All Wrong
      • Oct 9 Dear Chump Lady, My ex denies that he cheated. Others believe it.
      • Oct 8 Where Does “Meh” Go When the OW Moves In Next Door?
      • Oct 7 UBT: “How Having an Affair Saved My Life.”
      • Oct 6 Dear Chump Lady, How can I help my mom forgive herself for being a chump?
      • Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, I want them to know I know
      • Oct 2 Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
      • Oct 1 Potential Addiction
    • September 2015

      • Sep 30 UBT: “I’m unable to remain faithful to my perfect husband.”
      • Sep 29 UBT: “It happened and it’s not my fault.”
      • Sep 28 Leave a Cheater, Gain a Dog?
      • Sep 26 And the Arts & Crafts winner is…
      • Sep 25 Chump Lady Ages Into Another Birthday
      • Sep 24 Early Wingnut Warning Signs
      • Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, How do they flip so fast?
      • Sep 21 Dear Josh, You’re a Chump
      • Sep 20 Naming Abuse
      • Sep 18 Arts and Crafts for Cheaters
      • Sep 17 UBT: Cheaters didn’t know “what else” to do!
      • Sep 16 Give Up on “Closure”
      • Sep 15 A Guy Chump’s Tale from the Other Side
      • Sep 14 UBT: “You don’t love me the way I need to be loved”
      • Sep 11 Dump “Scorned” Already
      • Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife wants me to go to therapy with her
      • Sep 9 Etiquette for Mistresses?
      • Sep 8 Character Assassination? Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down
      • Sep 6 Be a Hellraiser, Not a Chump
      • Sep 4 UBT: “Sometimes You Need to Betray the Social Order”
      • Sep 3 UBT: “I Wasn’t Trying to Manipulate You”
      • Sep 2 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
      • Sep 1 Where’s Esther?
    • August 2015

      • Aug 31 UBT: “I Don’t Even Like Him”
      • Aug 28 Time again for Jesus Cheaters
      • Aug 27 Ashley Madison, You Saucy Minx
      • Aug 26 UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat.”
      • Aug 25 Your Life Version 2.0
      • Aug 24 The Good Advice Chumps Won’t Take… Now
      • Aug 21 Infidelity Advice for the Newly Chumped?
      • Aug 20 AM Genie Out of the Bottle
      • Aug 19 The Data Hits the Fan
      • Aug 18 Technology and Divorce: What you don’t know can hurt you financially
      • Aug 17 Why Is It So Hard to Remember They Suck?
      • Aug 16 What is the difference between cheaters and chumps?
      • Aug 14 Worst Infidelity Advice?
      • Aug 13 Is the Mid-Life Crisis Real?
      • Aug 12 When Escape Is Your Best Option
      • Aug 11 Welcome to the Dating Jungle
      • Aug 10 How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Not Fall in Love with the Bomb
      • Aug 8 State Rep Invents Gay Affair to Hide Real Affair
      • Aug 7 Your Very Best Spackle, Please
      • Aug 6 UBT: “Affairs are about opportunity.”
      • Aug 5 What Is It With the Nannies?
      • Aug 4 Honor Among Cheaters
      • Aug 3 Dear Chump Lady, My husband is trying to pimp me out to strangers
    • July 2015

      • Jul 31 Time for a Mightiness Check In
      • Jul 30 Your “It’s Not Okay” List
      • Jul 29 A Trust That They Suck Refresher Course
      • Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, Divorce is more than I can deal with
      • Jul 27 Take Back Your Power
      • Jul 24 The Compassion Trap
      • Jul 23 The Dead-Eyed Stare
      • Jul 22 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do when my kids are with OW?
      • Jul 21 The Helpless Other Woman
      • Jul 20 Ashley Madison’s Data Held Hostage
      • Jul 17 The Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
      • Jul 16 Dear Chump Lady, Is this meh or did I just give up?
      • Jul 14 Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
      • Jul 14 Dear Chump Lady, How do I support my friend’s reconciliation?
      • Jul 13 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater
      • Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Why is she sorry NOW?
      • Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, What made her so special?
      • Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist wants to know how I caused my husband to cheat
      • Jul 7 Reconciliation Stories
      • Jul 6 UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
      • Jul 3 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t evict him from my head
      • Jul 2 UBT: “The Most Common Mistakes Made By Betrayed Spouses in Recovering from an Affair”
      • Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
    • June 2015

      • Jun 30 Affair Enablers
      • Jun 29 The Narcissist Checklist
      • Jun 26 Aspiring to Marriage
      • Jun 26 Eat, Pray, Kibble
      • Jun 25 You Don’t Need it THAT Bad
      • Jun 24 Lyle Mitchell, Chump
      • Jun 23 Dear Chump Lady, How do I heal my “kindness flaw”?
      • Jun 22 Dear Chump Lady, Make nice with the OW… or else
      • Jun 21 Happy Father’s Day!
      • Jun 19 UBT: “Should I ask you for a handout?”
      • Jun 18 Dear Chump Lady, The OW says she will “destroy” me
      • Jun 17 Unconditional What?
      • Jun 16 Parents Who Abandon
      • Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, Why is he suddenly being nice?
      • Jun 12 UBT: “I’m sorry you don’t love me.”
      • Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m wondering if I did the right thing divorcing him?
      • Jun 10 Most Pathetic Play for Kibbles?
      • Jun 9 Why No Contact Works
      • Jun 7 UBT: “My handling of your situation is beyond fault.”
      • Jun 6 The Chump and the Psychic
      • Jun 5 A Bad Day to Be Bobby Flay
      • Jun 4 Dear Chump Lady, How come my boyfriends suck?
      • Jun 3 So How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
      • Jun 2 Interview with Dr. David Ley, author of “The Myth of Sex Addiction”
    • May 2015

      • May 31 Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says I shouldn’t tell people he cheated
      • May 31 Denny, We Hardly Knew You
      • May 29 Leave a Cheater, Gain a Cat?
      • May 28 UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
      • May 27 Adult Friend Finder Is Hacked
      • May 26 The Dreaded Fear They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
      • May 25 Happy Memorial Day
      • May 23 Duggar Family Dysfunction
      • May 22 The Full Life Circle of an OW
      • May 21 UBT: “Affair Proofing” Your Marriage
      • May 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do you get through the middle of leaving?
      • May 19 Dear Chump Lady, What is it with cheaters and ennui?
      • May 18 Kids and Affair Partners — The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich
      • May 17 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
      • May 15 What Dreams Did You Crush?
      • May 14 Dear Chump Lady, Is It Okay to Fuck with His Head?
      • May 13 Tiger Woods Cheated Again, Surprise!
      • May 12 Announcing My New Book
      • May 11 UBT: “I have the best sex with married men.”
      • May 9 Happy Mother’s Day — Take a Single Mom to Lunch
      • May 8 If You Don’t Take Her to Brunch, She’ll Have an Affair?
      • May 7 UBT: “The explanations were never good enough.”
      • May 6 UBT: “You’re not capable of forgiveness.”
      • May 5 UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
      • May 3 Every Piece of Crappy Reconciliation Advice
      • May 1 Cheater Compares Herself to Martin Luther King, Jr.
    • April 2015

      • Apr 30 Craziest Thing They Asked for in the Divorce?
      • Apr 29 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t decide”
      • Apr 28 UBT: “There Are No Right Answers in the Aftermath of Infidelity”
      • Apr 27 It’s “Complicated”
      • Apr 26 Troll Compendium
      • Apr 24 Bobby Betray
      • Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, I just discovered that my mom cheated
      • Apr 22 UBT: Joseph’s Letter
      • Apr 21 Forgive $38K in Back Child Support?
      • Apr 20 You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
      • Apr 19 Happy Blog Birthday!
      • Apr 17 You Might Be a Chump If…
      • Apr 16 Surely You Must’ve Known
      • Apr 15 Why Sleeping With Dean McDermott Is a Very Bad Idea
      • Apr 14 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to host the OW’s kid?
      • Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t feel sorry, he just feels bad. WTF?
      • Apr 11 Seriously, Shayanna, Really?
      • Apr 10 What’s Your Patronus?
      • Apr 9 In Defense of Anger
      • Apr 8 Dear Chump Lady, My ex wants us to be “One Big Happy Family”
      • Apr 7 Nice vs. Kind
      • Apr 6 Dear Chump Lady, How do I help my friend move on?
      • Apr 3 Financial Infidelity
      • Apr 2 I Haven’t Been Happy for a Long Time
      • Apr 1 My Cheater, My House
    • March 2015

      • Mar 31 HGTV’s Hilary Farr, Queen of the Boundaries
      • Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?
      • Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, How do I manage weekly contact?
      • Mar 26 The UBT Takes on Aimee
      • Mar 25 Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
      • Mar 24 The OW Were Not Amused
      • Mar 23 “Slut Shaming” the Other Woman
      • Mar 21 Red Flags You Were With a Cheater?
      • Mar 20 Monica Lewinsky, The Poorest of Sausages
      • Mar 19 Affairs Save Marriages
      • Mar 18 Australian Ad Board Finds Ashley Madison Ad Discriminatory to Women
      • Mar 16 When Affair Partners Marry
      • Mar 15 Why Did You Leave?
      • Mar 13 Why Did You Stay?
      • Mar 12 Dear Beyonce
      • Mar 11 Is “Sex Addiction” Real?
      • Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, My teenagers blame me
      • Mar 9 Pain Shopping?
      • Mar 6 Cheaters Who’ve Got Game
      • Mar 5 Toxic Shame — Or Just Being a Jerk?
      • Mar 4 Enough with Divorce Shame
      • Mar 3 Dissolving the Ego
      • Mar 2 Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word
      • Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, How can I stay the course?
    • February 2015

      • Feb 28 Some Good News in a Wicked World
      • Feb 27 UBT My Husband’s Craigslist Ad
      • Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, The Zoloft Isn’t Helping
      • Feb 25 How To Leave Someone, How to Be Left
      • Feb 24 Please Don’t Take Their Word for It
      • Feb 23 The UBT Takes On Mother-In-Laws
      • Feb 20 80 Rosebushes and Other Chump Manias
      • Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?
      • Feb 18 UBT: I Wish You Were Still Nice
      • Feb 17 Being the Marriage Police
      • Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, How could he turn into a completely different person?
      • Feb 14 And the Winners of the Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest Are…
      • Feb 13 Help Annabel Go to School
      • Feb 12 UBT: Maybe Our Problem Is We Work Too Well Together
      • Feb 11 Stupid Shit Cake Eaters Say
      • Feb 10 Dear Chump Lady, Do I just like drama?
      • Feb 9 Don’t Need It That Bad
      • Feb 8 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I didn’t care
      • Feb 6 Tiffany Glass Windows
      • Feb 5 Cheater Goggles
      • Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, How do I break through to her?
      • Feb 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters all work from the same script?
      • Feb 1 The Third Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest!
    • January 2015

      • Jan 30 The “Plan B” Offer
      • Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m due to give birth and found him sexting…
      • Jan 28 Don’t Ask Amy
      • Jan 27 What Did You Do That You’ve Never Done Before?
      • Jan 26 Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
      • Jan 23 What Would You Tell Yourself at D-Day?
      • Jan 22 Don’t Judge Me
      • Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants a polyamorist marriage
      • Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, I found my cheating dad’s homemade porn
      • Jan 19 Dear Chump Lady, My ex is trying to bully me into 50/50 custody
      • Jan 17 Sparkly Shoes and Orphan Update
      • Jan 16 Chumpfetti, or How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?
      • Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, What do I make of this “goodbye letter” from my ex?
      • Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, “I couldn’t forgive a mistake.”
      • Jan 13 Chump Lady Talks to Her Trolls Today
      • Jan 12 Can Affair Relationships Last? Are You Super, Duper Special?
      • Jan 10 Twelve Days of Cheater Freakiness
      • Jan 9 “Eat Your Pudding” and Other Sexy Affair Utterances
      • Jan 8 You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
      • Jan 7 How Not to Be a Cheater?
      • Jan 6 Leveling the Financial Playing Field on Your Way Out the Door
      • Jan 5 More Mightiness!
      • Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, My wife is a serial cheater.
      • Jan 2 Dear Chump Lady, Where do you find the strength?
      • Jan 1 Roto-Rooter and the Dawn of a New Year
  • 2014

    • December 2014

      • Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, How do I leave without him getting violent?
      • Dec 30 Dear Chump Lady, 2×4 me. I slept with my ex.
      • Dec 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why should I agree to divorce him?
      • Dec 27 Chump Encouragement from the Other Side
      • Dec 26 Dear Chump Lady, Still kind of stuck…
      • Dec 25 Merry Christmas!
      • Dec 24 Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?
      • Dec 23 It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like… Infidelity
      • Dec 21 Searching for Meaning in Ambiguity
      • Dec 21 Operation Sparkly Shoes
      • Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, What did you do on the anniversary of your D-Day?
      • Dec 18 Don’t Let Them Steal Another Day
      • Dec 17 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a statute of limitations on this chump thing?
      • Dec 16 How Pretty Did You Dance?
      • Dec 15 Being Anti-Cheating Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Sex Positive
      • Dec 14 Dear Chump Lady, Lack of melatonin made him cheat
      • Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my chumpy friend to wise up?
      • Dec 11 Double-Decker Holiday Shit Sandwiches
      • Dec 10 When Cheaters Do Therapy… Some Precautions
      • Dec 9 Man Busts Cheating Woman at Detroit Lions Game
      • Dec 8 Cheater Freak Christmas Contest!
      • Dec 6 Dear Chump Lady, He’s moved on. I haven’t.
      • Dec 5 Come Back to Us, Dean!
      • Dec 5 At Last! New Serverdom!
      • Dec 4 Dear Chump Lady, Seeing prostitutes makes for good parenting? WTF?
      • Dec 3 Jesus Cheaters
      • Dec 2 Don’t Date This Person
      • Dec 1 Dear Chump Lady, I put her through med school. She put me through hell.
    • November 2014

      • Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, “31 and can’t start my life over”
      • Nov 28 Dear Chump Lady, I just need to hear her say she’s sorry
      • Nov 27 Happy Thanksgiving!
      • Nov 26 The New I Do WTFever Makes Me Happy
      • Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, The cheaters live next door…
      • Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, My daughter wants to show me pictures of the OW
      • Nov 24 Chump Lady Video!
      • Nov 22 Dear Chump Lady, Am I looking at this the wrong way?
      • Nov 21 Dear Chump Lady, My dad is a narcissist
      • Nov 20 Designated Server Doom!
      • Nov 20 Site Down, Check Twitter for Updates
      • Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, My sister blames me for my husband’s affair
      • Nov 18 Best Chump Retorts?
      • Nov 16 Esther Perel Should STFU
      • Nov 15 And the Cake Winners Are…
      • Nov 14 Sugar Babies Saving Marriages?
      • Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to spend the holidays with my cheating ex
      • Nov 12 Talk Cake to Me
      • Nov 11 But I Always Come Back to You
      • Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of spontaneous “confessions”?
      • Nov 9 Buy an Orphan a Book or Some Sparkly Shoes
      • Nov 8 Dear Chump Lady, My wife had an affair with her therapist
      • Nov 7 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an insensitive jerk because my husband wants to date?
      • Nov 6 Life Post-Cheater — What Did You Change?
      • Nov 5 The Cure for Cheating — Plastic Surgery? WTF?
      • Nov 4 Blame a Chump, Save a Unicorn
      • Nov 3 Dear Chump Lady, Do you think my married boyfriend loves me?
      • Nov 2 Christie Brinkley vindicated?
      • Nov 2 And the winner is….!
    • October 2014

      • Oct 31 Cheater Halloween Contest!
      • Oct 30 Dear Chump Lady, Santa isn’t visiting his crappy apartment
      • Oct 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind?
      • Oct 28 What Would You Do If You Got This Letter?
      • Oct 27 Still Tweaking the Site, Bear with Me
      • Oct 26 Dear Chump Lady, He fooled me, he fooled my daughter
      • Oct 25 Dean McDermott “I’m Not the First Person to Ever Cheat”
      • Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, Why does he want to remain friends?
      • Oct 22 Bear With the Site Wigginess
      • Oct 22 Eat, Pray, Forgive? WTF?
      • Oct 21 Trickle Truth, It’s Neither Trickle Nor Truth
      • Oct 19 Dear Chump Lady, My dad is cheating on his girlfriend
      • Oct 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m working with the OW
      • Oct 17 There’s Going to Be Some Changes Around Here…
      • Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t remember”
      • Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, Is “True Tori” a Good Thing?
      • Oct 14 Dear Chump Lady, I cheated on my husband
      • Oct 13 Worst Infidelity Advice Ever
      • Oct 11 Dear Chump Lady, Why does my pink hair make me feel better?
      • Oct 10 Season 2 of True Tori… Why?
      • Oct 9 Are There Circumstances When an Affair Is Not Immoral?
      • Oct 7 How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
      • Oct 6 Don’t Send It. Three Reasons Why.
      • Oct 6 Spackle & Spackle Associates
      • Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, Am I selfish for wanting a divorce?
      • Oct 3 The Benevolent OW
      • Oct 2 Chump Kids
      • Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, How badly will this screw up my kids?
    • September 2014

      • Sep 29 The Ones Who Just Leave
      • Sep 28 Dear Chump Lady, He started cheating the first month we dated
      • Sep 26 Debunking “Monogamish”
      • Sep 25 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
      • Sep 24 Dear Chump Lady, The OW calls me for advice!
      • Sep 23 There’s No Excuse for Cheating… But Here Are 7 Reasons Why It’s Your Fault
      • Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I was strong like you guys
      • Sep 20 Even Honey Boo Boo’s Mom Can Leave a Cheater
      • Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, I was okay… until he got a new boyfriend
      • Sep 18 So What Do You Call Them?
      • Sep 17 Dear Chump Lady, The OW signs my child support checks
      • Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, She’s having an affair with her boss
      • Sep 15 Dreadful Cheater Holidays
      • Sep 13 Poor Mark Sanford
      • Sep 12 Don’t Need It That Bad
      • Sep 11 Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
      • Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, How did you experience the stages of grief?
      • Sep 9 Dear Chump Lady, Am I “bitter” if I tell people she cheated?
      • Sep 9 Chump Lady Is Back… and Morphing
      • Sep 8 Gah! Glitches! Damn you Word Press!
      • Sep 8 Dear Chump Lady, Is this a unicorn?
      • Sep 6 Dear Chump Lady, I’m trying to divorce in India. What should I do?
      • Sep 5 Chump Lady Gets a Letter
      • Sep 4 Dear Chump Lady, Who gets the friends?
      • Sep 3 50 Shades of Subtle Nuance
      • Sep 1 The Mindfuck Channel Only Has Three Stations
      • Sep 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
    • August 2014

      • Aug 30 Dear Chump Lady, My fiancé is friends with a nest of cheaters
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, Got close to meh, and then… boom.
      • Aug 28 Dear Chump Lady, I’m meeting his bitch-ass lawyer
      • Aug 27 Create Some Fake Credentials for Chump Lady!
      • Aug 26 Meaningless Flings and the Myth of the Good Cheater
      • Aug 25 It’s not an affair! It’s an act of “exuberant defiance.”
      • Aug 23 Mistress Greeting Cards… Really.
      • Aug 22 They’re Not “Wayward”
      • Aug 21 Confessions of a Better Sort of Cheater
      • Aug 20 Dear Chump Lady, Did you take the drugs? Did they help?
      • Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, Is a “morality clause” insane?
      • Aug 18 This Monogamist’s Take on Orgies
      • Aug 16 Cheater Word Salad
      • Aug 15 Dear Chump Lady, She wants to apologize for cheating on me
      • Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s the Karma?
      • Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is sex addiction a myth?
      • Aug 11 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
      • Aug 10 A Public Service Announcement for Chumps?
      • Aug 8 A Serial Cheater’s Relationship “Advice”
      • Aug 7 Dear Chump Lady, What can I do about her smear campaign?
      • Aug 6 Chump Lady Answers Her Search Term Questions
      • Aug 5 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?
      • Aug 4 Cheaters Are Timid Forest Creatures
      • Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, I want the satisfaction of a confrontation
    • July 2014

      • Jul 31 Time for More MIGHTINESS
      • Jul 30 Why Did Daddy Leave Us? Because Daddy Is an Asshole
      • Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, Why did he come back if only to hurt me?
      • Jul 28 Fairy Dust Forgiveness
      • Jul 27 Forgiveness Troll Says Take a Survey
      • Jul 25 An Imperfect Beginning?
      • Jul 25 Hello from BlogHer
      • Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, The hope still gets me
      • Jul 22 BlogHer, Trolls, and Other News
      • Jul 22 And the Bitch Cookie Goes to…!
      • Jul 21 Better the Devil You Know?
      • Jul 19 Dear Chump Lady, He never told his adult kids their mom cheated
      • Jul 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’d have never met her — if I’d only been better?
      • Jul 16 Beware Jesus Cheaters… There’s a New Blog in Town
      • Jul 15 Making Character Cool?
      • Jul 14 When Your Cheater Is a Sicko
      • Jul 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there any way back from an emotional affair?
      • Jul 11 The Kindle Version of the CL Survival Guide to Infidelity is Available
      • Jul 11 Dear Chump Lady, Am I divorcing too soon?
      • Jul 11 Dr. George Simon Interviews Chump Lady
      • Jul 10 If You Thought I Was That Sort of Person, You Shouldn’t Be With Me
      • Jul 9 Dear Chump Lady, My husband was using prostitutes
      • Jul 8 Dear Chump Lady, My cheater wants to live in my basement
      • Jul 6 The Pretzel Logic of the 180
      • Jul 5 Trapped in a Cabin with Tori
      • Jul 4 Happy Independence Day! Let Reason Be Your Oracle
      • Jul 2 What Gift Do You Give a Cheater?
      • Jul 1 Dear Chump Lady, I have to paternity check my kids
    • June 2014

      • Jun 29 Reconciliation — What did you try? What did you buy?
      • Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, I’m dating a ‘cheater apologist’
      • Jun 28 Chump Nation Number One!
      • Jun 27 The Chump Cloak of Invisibility
      • Jun 27 Ta-DA! It’s for sale!
      • Jun 26 Dear Chump Lady, What kind of person DOES this?
      • Jun 25 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over my envy?
      • Jun 24 The Fog Comes Softly on Little Cheater Feet
      • Jun 23 My Cheater Is an Eagle Scout
      • Jun 22 Dear Chump Lady, He wants an open marriage
      • Jun 20 Yes I Am a Chump
      • Jun 18 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband and my father are both cheaters
      • Jun 17 Real Love. The Antidote to Douchieness.
      • Jun 17 Woe! “Marriage is a bed sheet that can never be straightened.”
      • Jun 16 The “School of Life” Can Bite Me. Part 1
      • Jun 15 Who Did You Become While Married to a Cheater?
      • Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Abandoned while pregnant, should he pay support?
      • Jun 12 Joseph’s Letter? Return to Sender
      • Jun 11 Dear Chump Lady, Reconciling from his emotional affair is not working
      • Jun 10 Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
      • Jun 9 Problem, Adult Solution, Cheater Solution
      • Jun 8 Dear Chump Lady, I suspect an affair
      • Jun 6 The Exceedingly Un-special Tori Spelling
      • Jun 5 Men Cheat Because Women ‘Feminize’ Them… Says Idiot
      • Jun 4 Did the Tree of Karma Fall on Your Cheater?
      • Jun 3 Dear Chump Lady, He doesn’t want me, so why hold up the divorce?
      • Jun 2 Why Do We Over Share?
      • Jun 1 I’m on to you!
    • May 2014

      • May 31 Over Sharing and Chumpdom
      • May 30 When Tattooing His Penis Just Isn’t Enough
      • May 29 Owning Your Chumpiness
      • May 28 Dear Chump Lady, Should I trust him again?
      • May 27 Anyone want to be on a HuffPo video panel?
      • May 26 Cheaters, You’re Not Entitled to Reconciliation
      • May 25 A Different Kind of Memorial Day
      • May 24 Potty Mouth Day
      • May 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?
      • May 22 When Splendid People Cheat
      • May 21 “How Affairs Make My Marriage Stronger”
      • May 20 Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?
      • May 18 How Do You Trust Again?
      • May 17 I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away
      • May 16 How Did You Find Out?
      • May 15 When You’re the Parent in the Relationship
      • May 14 Why Women Cheat?
      • May 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t she give up?
      • May 12 Dear Chump Lady, Why am I stuck?
      • May 11 Happy Mother’s Day!
      • May 10 Dear Chump Lady, What’s your take on religious OW?
      • May 9 Soul Blazing and Navel Gazing
      • May 9 And the Golden Sleeping Bag Goes to…
      • May 8 Imitation is the highest form of flattery…
      • May 8 And the Cheater Affliction Award Goes to…
      • May 7 Shame! It’s Like an Icepick through Your Head!
      • May 6 All the Good Ones Are Gone
      • May 4 Dear Chump Lady, How do you get out of limbo?
      • May 3 Dear Chump Lady, Why do I think my marriage still has a shot… when it doesn’t?
      • May 2 What Are You Taking Back?
      • May 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I take back Sparkles the Magnificent Personality-Changing Dry-Drunk Unicorn?
    • April 2014

      • Apr 30 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to tolerate the OM around my kids?
      • Apr 29 Nice vs. Kind
      • Apr 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is it wrong to have feelings for my friend’s wife?
      • Apr 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is every cheater mentally ill?
      • Apr 24 Dear Chump Lady, Sympathy for the OW?
      • Apr 23 Lillias White Will Cure What Ails You
      • Apr 23 Cyberstalking, Bullies, and Censorship
      • Apr 22 Dear Chump Lady, My kids have never met the OW
      • Apr 20 When Unicorns Meet Ashley Madison…
      • Apr 19 Bitter Bunnies for Easter…
      • Apr 18 The Forgiveness Trolls
      • Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, I wish I’d filed
      • Apr 17 Translating Other Woman-ese
      • Apr 16 So Sad When Cheater Loves Goes Bad
      • Apr 15 Stupidest Blameshifting You Got?
      • Apr 14 Why You Can’t “Nice” People Out of Affairs
      • Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is cyberstalking me
      • Apr 12 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a cheater?
      • Apr 11 Dear Chump Lady, My husband doesn’t know the OW ratted him out
      • Apr 10 Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
      • Apr 9 Whore My Blog Around Please
      • Apr 9 “You Create Your Own Pain.” Yeah, right…
      • Apr 8 Jesus Cheaters in the News
      • Apr 7 Translating Cheater-ese
      • Apr 6 Chump-to-Chump Get Togethers, Anyone?
      • Apr 4 Dear Chump Lady, I need to hear her say she was wrong
      • Apr 3 Dear Chump Lady, So what does a good relationship look like?
      • Apr 2 ‘Chump Son’ Passes Away
      • Apr 2 Good Shrink, Bad Shrink
      • Apr 1 Sing Like a Bird?
    • March 2014

      • Mar 31 Dear Chump Lady, I’m jealous of the OW
      • Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, I have cancer. But the OW “suffers.”
      • Mar 29 How Did You Get Unstuck?
      • Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, Do I get revenge through the media?
      • Mar 27 Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me
      • Mar 26 Dear Chump Lady, Son wants me to be friends with my ex
      • Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, I still want to call him
      • Mar 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep them from picking me?
      • Mar 23 Dear Chump Lady, He says my insecurity made him cheat
      • Mar 22 Prayers Needed for Chump Son
      • Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe I was a bad wife?
      • Mar 20 Cheap Shit Cheaters Do
      • Mar 19 “But He’s Really A Nice Guy”
      • Mar 18 Cosmic Signs You’re a Chump
      • Mar 17 Dear Chump Lady, I feel guilty for divorcing her
      • Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my boyfriend was a cheater after he died
      • Mar 14 Some Language on Language
      • Mar 13 Visiting Unicorns
      • Mar 12 Dear Chump Lady, I think my story is unique…
      • Mar 10 Dear Chump Lady, Unicorns are real
      • Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats
      • Mar 7 You Might Be a Chump If…
      • Mar 6 The Hail Mary Play for Kibbles
      • Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, He left to go “find himself”
      • Mar 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW and I’m pregnant
      • Mar 3 Please Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
      • Mar 2 Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
      • Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Should I reach out to his ex-wife?
    • February 2014

      • Feb 28 The Condescension of Other Women
      • Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, Why can’t I accept that he sucks?
      • Feb 26 Talent and Fuckupedness
      • Feb 25 Love Without Respect
      • Feb 24 Dear Chump Lady, I just can’t seem to pull the plug
      • Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, Can I pull a prank on the OW for revenge?
      • Feb 21 Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just sexting
      • Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get to “meh” in a world full of cheaters?
      • Feb 19 Dear Chump Lady, The kids are starting to ask questions
      • Feb 18 Infidelity Science
      • Feb 16 Dear Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex wants to take a family vacation together
      • Feb 15 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my friend to stop being a chump?
      • Feb 14 And the winner of the Valentine’s Day Contest is….
      • Feb 13 Dear Chump Lady, Am I the Only One?
      • Feb 12 Dear Chump Lady, Can I destroy the OW, please?
      • Feb 11 Dear Chump Lady, He butt dialed me from the OW’s
      • Feb 9 Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference
      • Feb 7 Dear Chump Lady, Now that I’m done, he’s “ill”
      • Feb 6 My ex is a fuck up. I don’t want my kids to be fuck ups too.
      • Feb 5 Dear Chump Lady, Is pornography infidelity?
      • Feb 4 Dear Chump Lady, Maybe the OW is really “the one” and I’m not
      • Feb 3 Making the Marriage a “Good Place to Be” and Other Reconciliation Nonsense
      • Feb 2 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still angry
    • January 2014

      • Jan 31 The Second Annual Infidelity Valentine’s Day Contest
      • Jan 30 Dear Chump Lady, Please explain the paralysis
      • Jan 29 Dear Chump Lady, My ex gave me an STD
      • Jan 28 A New Interview with Dr. George Simon
      • Jan 28 Narcissist Dads
      • Jan 27 Narkles
      • Jan 26 Dear Chump Lady, What did I do to make her leave me?
      • Jan 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I survive day to day?
      • Jan 24 Chump Lady’s Conspiracy Theory on Divorce Shame
      • Jan 23 Dear Chump Lady, I’m confused, well sorta
      • Jan 22 A Word about Reconciliation
      • Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, I’m just the dog sitter
      • Jan 21 The Affliction of Being Single
      • Jan 20 Dear Chump Lady, I’m not a lesbian
      • Jan 19 Why I Can’t Care About Philandering French Presidents
      • Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, My son keeps confronting his cheating father
      • Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, He’s threatening me with defamation of character
      • Jan 16 FaceBook Is Not Helping You Move On
      • Jan 14 Tell Me How You’re Mighty
      • Jan 14 Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump in the making
      • Jan 13 Escape Tips
      • Jan 12 Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
      • Jan 10 Going No Contact. And Staying No Contact.
      • Jan 9 Dear Chump Lady, She’s a cake eater. And gay.
      • Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, Is the OW a Dominatrix?
      • Jan 7 When Cheaters Give Infidelity Advice
      • Jan 5 Dear Chump Lady, I made a fool out of myself
      • Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, He says the cheating had ‘nothing to do with me’
      • Jan 1 Get Over It
  • 2013

    • December 2013

      • Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, Is he a decent man with a series of unfortunate events?
      • Dec 30 Dear Chump Lady, How do I deal with the folks who believe the disordered person?
      • Dec 28 Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to be a bitter misogynist, but…
      • Dec 26 How to Quit Things
      • Dec 21 On the First Day of Christmas My Cheater Freak Gave to Me…
      • Dec 20 Dear Chump Lady, He has a problem with women… but he’s working on it
      • Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do with the presents?
      • Dec 18 I Demand an Apology
      • Dec 17 Reconsider Me? No, Please Don’t
      • Dec 16 Where Did Chump Lady Come From?
      • Dec 15 Dear Chump Lady, I’m so mad at myself
      • Dec 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a middle path?
      • Dec 12 Dear Chump Lady, How do I make it through the holidays?
      • Dec 11 Freak of the Week
      • Dec 10 Naming It
      • Dec 9 Dear Chump Lady, It’s my D-Day Anniversary
      • Dec 9 Dear Chump Lady, Am I a chump for believing they were “just friends”?
      • Dec 7 When Good People Have Affairs — a Smackdown
      • Dec 6 Don’t Hate. It’s Bad Strategy.
      • Dec 5 Dear Chump Lady, Sex after divorce?
      • Dec 4 Dear Chump Lady, I’m not finding peace
      • Dec 3 A ‘Trust That They Suck’ Refresher Course
      • Dec 2 Dear Chump Lady, Explain “poofing”
    • November 2013

      • Nov 30 Dear Chump Lady, Is it okay to fuck with his head?
      • Nov 29 Dear Chump Lady, Should I confront him about his emotional affair?
      • Nov 28 Happy Thanksgiving!
      • Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t kick hope
      • Nov 26 Dear Chump Lady, Bye Bye Cheater
      • Nov 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the OW. Do I give his wife the details?
      • Nov 24 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the Other Woman?
      • Nov 22 A Better Class of Cheater?
      • Nov 21 Grieving the Affair Partner… And Other Indignities
      • Nov 20 Dear Chump Lady, I feel like a sell out
      • Nov 19 Dear Chump Lady, She knew cheating was a deal breaker…
      • Nov 18 What NOT to Say to a Friend Who’s Been Cheated on
      • Nov 17 Dear Chump Lady, Gifts for my cheating ex from the kids?
      • Nov 15 I Love You But I’m Not In Love with You
      • Nov 14 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters feel the need to punish?
      • Nov 13 Dear Chump Lady, Is there a deeper reason behind cheating?
      • Nov 12 The Holiday Season and Chumpdom
      • Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, Hysterical bonding… WTF?!
      • Nov 10 Dear Chump Lady, When does it get better?
      • Nov 8 Cheater Stories
      • Nov 7 Enough with the Divorce Shame
      • Nov 6 The “Upside” of Infidelity
      • Nov 5 Dear Chump Lady, I never exposed his affair
      • Nov 3 Dear Chump Lady, I know exactly what to do. I can’t seem to do it.
      • Nov 2 Lost Unicorn
      • Nov 2 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his wife I was cheating with her husband?
      • Nov 1 She’s a Home Wrecker
    • October 2013

      • Oct 31 Dear Chump Lady, Will anyone get it?
      • Oct 30 Why? Why? Why? Closure!
      • Oct 29 What Is This ‘Meh’ You Speak of?
      • Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him another chance?
      • Oct 26 Chump Dating Questionnaire
      • Oct 25 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in romantic love?
      • Oct 24 Spiffy new site improvements…
      • Oct 24 This Is What You Missed, You Idiot
      • Oct 23 Dear Chump Lady, Is it possible to be too meh?
      • Oct 22 Dear Chump Lady, Did I do a bad thing?
      • Oct 21 Situational Truth
      • Oct 19 A Million Hits!
      • Oct 18 In Praise of Good Men
      • Oct 17 Dear Chump Lady, How can I trust my cheater again?
      • Oct 15 7 Reasons I Don’t Accept Rielle Hunter’s Apology
      • Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say?
      • Oct 14 A Polyamorist Speaks Out
      • Oct 14 Five Life Lessons from New Orleans
      • Oct 10 Rock Throwers vs.Tiffany Glass Windows
      • Oct 10 Dear Chump Lady, Did you have a defining moment?
      • Oct 9 Monogamy Is Not the Problem
      • Oct 7 It Takes Three?
      • Oct 7 Standing on Lies
      • Oct 5 Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for a new chump?
      • Oct 3 Dear Chump Lady, Can “meh” exist for a unicorn?
      • Oct 3 Dear Chump Lady, Am I guilty of splitting too?
      • Oct 2 Love, the All-Purpose Spackle
      • Oct 1 Dear Chump Lady, I’m ready to date. Now what?
    • September 2013

      • Sep 29 How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?
      • Sep 27 Dear Chump Lady, My friend is an OW
      • Sep 27 And the winner of the Meh mug is…
      • Sep 26 Dear Chump Lady, Why does it feel like he’s better than me?
      • Sep 25 A Message of Hope from a Fellow Chump
      • Sep 24 Cheating Is a Lot Like Obesity? WTF?
      • Sep 23 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t leave the cake eater
      • Sep 22 Dear Chump Lady, OW gives my kid ‘Grand Theft Auto’
      • Sep 20 Best Curses Contest
      • Sep 19 Dear Chump Lady, What do you tell a 2-year old?
      • Sep 18 Dear Chump Lady, But He’s Such a Nice Guy!
      • Sep 17 Divorce Party, What Do You Think?
      • Sep 16 Dear Chump Lady, Should I tell his wife?
      • Sep 13 What’s the Stupidest Lie You Bought?
      • Sep 12 Early Wing Nut Warning Signs
      • Sep 11 Dear Chump Lady, No one seems to know we’ve broken up
      • Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, Should I push for full custody?
      • Sep 9 How to Escape a Narcissist
      • Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, Should I hold out for more money?
      • Sep 6 And the winner of the Meh mug is….
      • Sep 5 Dear Chump Lady, When can I tell my in-laws the truth?
      • Sep 3 So What Have You Done for YOU Lately?
      • Sep 1 Your Best Resentments
    • August 2013

      • Aug 31 Dear Chump Lady, May I sext?
      • Aug 30 Technology and Cheating
      • Aug 29 Dear Chump Lady, He says it was just a “game”
      • Aug 28 Oops, I Slept With Your Boyfriend
      • Aug 27 Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself with the OW?
      • Aug 26 Dear Chump Lady, How can I keep the homewrecker away from my kids?
      • Aug 25 The ‘Anti-Cheating Ring’
      • Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, Can you cheat a cheater?
      • Aug 23 Dear Chump Lady, Can I date yet?
      • Aug 22 Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband is on Match.com
      • Aug 21 We Both Love You
      • Aug 20 Hurt People Hurt People and Other Bullshit
      • Aug 19 Dear Chump Lady, I can’t meet him halfway…. literally
      • Aug 17 Dear Chump Lady, The AP wants my friends
      • Aug 16 The Futility of Confronting Affair Partners
      • Aug 16 Chump Lady Has Computer Woes
      • Aug 14 Dear Chump Lady, I Live in Limbo
      • Aug 13 Dear Chump Lady, He wants to be FRIENDS?
      • Aug 12 Dear Chump Lady, The OW is Chinese
      • Aug 11 Don’t Be a Chump, Be a Hell Raiser
      • Aug 9 Dear Chump Lady, Are they all this way?
      • Aug 7 Narcissists Be Crazy!
      • Aug 7 A comment on the comments
      • Aug 6 Dear Chump Lady, Should I give him time to change?
      • Aug 5 Cheaters and Misogyny/Misandry
      • Aug 4 Remedial Chumpdom
      • Aug 3 A Chump’s Cautionary Tale
      • Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife is a SAHM
    • July 2013

      • Jul 31 An Inspiring Chump Letter
      • Jul 30 Weiner Word Salad
      • Jul 30 Dear Chump Lady, I’m second guessing myself
      • Jul 29 The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fucktard
      • Jul 29 Dear Chump Lady, I want to rescue my friend
      • Jul 28 Dear Chump Lady, A home security system? WTF?
      • Jul 26 Dear Chump Lady, I’m trapped financially
      • Jul 26 Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!
      • Jul 25 Dear Chump Lady, What’s an exit affair?
      • Jul 23 A Letter to Huma
      • Jul 23 Dear Chump Lady, Should we call cheaters out?
      • Jul 22 On second thought
      • Jul 21 Dear Chump Lady, What do I say to my cheater?
      • Jul 19 Reconciliation and Entitlement
      • Jul 18 Dear Chump Lady, I’m obsessed with the other woman
      • Jul 17 Dear Chump Lady, My wife won’t go to counseling
      • Jul 16 Dear Chump Lady, Parental alienation and teenagers?
      • Jul 15 Dear Chump Lady, Help me get my bad ass back
      • Jul 14 Dear Chump Lady, Got any happy stories?
      • Jul 12 Real Remorse? Or Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse?
      • Jul 11 Musings on Giving a Shit
      • Jul 10 Dear Chump Lady, Do you believe in affair fog?
      • Jul 9 Chump Lady Asks a Favor
      • Jul 7 Dear Chump Lady, He coulda been a contender
      • Jul 7 A Master Mindfucker
      • Jul 5 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with a man-child?
      • Jul 4 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell what she’s done?
      • Jul 3 Close Encounters of the Affair Partner Kind
      • Jul 2 Dear Chump Lady, My mom is friends with my cheating ex
      • Jul 1 You Are Not the Boss of Me
    • June 2013

      • Jun 29 Dear Chump Lady, He won’t move out
      • Jun 28 The Doctor Is a Quack!
      • Jun 27 Dear Chump Lady, The OW means nothing to him. The OW means everything to him.
      • Jun 26 Dear Chump Lady, Sex with the STBX?
      • Jun 25 Don’t Be Bitter
      • Jun 24 Got a Revenge Story?
      • Jun 23 Your Beautiful, Beautiful Brokenness
      • Jun 20 Warning Signals
      • Jun 19 The Fear That They’re Going to Be Better for Someone Else
      • Jun 18 Kissing Your Abuser
      • Jun 18 Three Marriages, One Name Change
      • Jun 17 Dear Chump Lady, Please decode the cake
      • Jun 15 Dear Chump Lady, Happy Father’s Day. Or else.
      • Jun 13 Dear Chump Lady, Where’s my Meh?
      • Jun 11 Write a Dating Profile for Your Ex
      • Jun 10 Dear Chump Lady, She cheated 49 days into our marriage. WTF?
      • Jun 9 Psychotic Individualism and the Amish
      • Jun 7 Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my mom to leave my cheater dad?
      • Jun 6 The Flip Side of Resilience
      • Jun 4 ‘Kids Are Resilient!’ and Other Things Cheaters Should Never Say
      • Jun 3 Dear Chump Lady, Is No Contact the Only Way?
    • May 2013

      • May 31 How to Go No Contact
      • May 30 Why Is No Contact So Hard?
      • May 28 Kick Fear in the Ass and Laugh at Its Haircut
      • May 24 What Do We See in Narcissists Anyway?
      • May 22 The Unlikelihood of Immediate Remorse
      • May 21 Stupid Shit Pat Robertson Says
      • May 20 Dear Chump Lady, The dreaded unicorns are trying to pull me back
      • May 17 Are All Cheaters Created Equal?
      • May 15 How To Leave a Scary Person
      • May 14 A Public Service Announcement for Chumps
      • May 13 Dear Chump Lady, How do I know what kind of person he is?
      • May 13 Asshole Songs!
      • May 10 This Mother’s Day? Take a Single Mom to Brunch
      • May 9 Dear Chump Lady, Now she forgets?
      • May 8 Other Women and the Universal Sisterhood
      • May 7 Escaping Monsters
      • May 7 Types of Affair Partners
      • May 5 New TV Series “Mistresses”
      • May 4 Stupid Shit the Affair Partner Says
      • May 3 Dear Chump Lady, He was my *best friend* — Now what?
      • May 2 When Cheaters Forgive Themselves
      • May 1 Stay Married to a Cheater… by Law
    • April 2013

      • Apr 30 Brushes with Sociopaths
      • Apr 29 More Inspiration Monday
      • Apr 28 Some Inspiration!
      • Apr 26 Sex Addiction Is a “Blessing”
      • Apr 25 Dear Chump Lady, *Now* he wants to be an involved parent? WTF?
      • Apr 24 Showcase a Narcissist! Mark Sanford
      • Apr 23 Dear Chump Lady, Are there cheaters who left no clues?
      • Apr 22 Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
      • Apr 21 Dear Chump Lady, Are all chumps created equal?
      • Apr 19 Happy Anniversary ChumpLady.com!
      • Apr 18 Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell my 3-year old?
      • Apr 17 A Good Day for Love
      • Apr 17 Stupid Shit Other People Say
      • Apr 16 Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he admit it?
      • Apr 15 We Out Number You
      • Apr 15 Being Thankful for Your Cheater
      • Apr 13 Dear Chump Lady, How do open up again emotionally?
      • Apr 12 Rethinking Infidelity
      • Apr 11 Chump Bait
      • Apr 10 Sure Doesn’t Look Like Love…
      • Apr 9 Dear Chump Lady, Is “Meh” forgiveness?
      • Apr 7 The Compassion Trap
      • Apr 5 Dear Chump Lady, Complicated love rhombus…
      • Apr 3 Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon
      • Apr 1 Cheating on the Pregnant, and Other Acts of Abandonment
    • March 2013

      • Mar 30 Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
      • Mar 28 Dear Chump Lady, What if they never really had sex?
      • Mar 28 Get a Life
      • Mar 27 Dear Chump Lady, Is the sexless marriage a myth?
      • Mar 26 Carolyn Hax Gives Dreadful Infidelity Advice… Again
      • Mar 25 Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?
      • Mar 23 Grieving the Affair Partner, Don’t Make Any Decisions! and Other Nonsense
      • Mar 22 Introducing — Chump Chat!
      • Mar 21 Dear Chump Lady, Does he really love the OW?
      • Mar 20 Dear Chump Lady, What do I do about the RAGE?
      • Mar 19 Dear Chump Lady, Am I an asshole for wanting to leave?
      • Mar 18 Kids and the Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.
      • Mar 15 Dear Chump Lady, How come I don’t feel like a success story?
      • Mar 12 When Narcissists Get Chumped
      • Mar 12 Ugly Artifact Discovered in Innocent Shed
      • Mar 11 The Last Good Deed of Ed Murphy
      • Mar 9 Dear Chump Lady, Explain this guy…
      • Mar 7 Living with Uncertainty
      • Mar 6 Dear Chump Lady, How long must I be paranoid?
      • Mar 6 Chump Lady Gets Hip to Social Media
      • Mar 5 Dear Chump Lady, Is She Just a Fuck Up?
      • Mar 4 Don’t Reason with a Narcissist
      • Mar 3 Boundaries. Does anyone have them?
      • Mar 1 Dear Chump Lady, Not everyone who reconciles is pathetic
    • February 2013

      • Feb 28 Infidelity *Is* Abuse
      • Feb 27 Dear Chump Lady, My cheater promises to live like a “dog in a cage”
      • Feb 26 Dear Chump Lady, What about the one-time cheater?
      • Feb 25 Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry at the people who knew
      • Feb 23 Dear Chump Lady, Any perspective for the other person?
      • Feb 22 Dear Chump Lady, How do I get past approval seeking?
      • Feb 21 Stupid Cheater Moments
      • Feb 20 Republican Senator Kept Son Secret for 35 Years… WTF Cheaters…
      • Feb 20 Dear Chump Lady, Please catalog icky cheater lyrics
      • Feb 19 More craptacular advice, Part 2
      • Feb 18 The very bad, no good infidelity advice you should reject… spit on… then set alight… and stomp on
      • Feb 17 Dear Chump Lady, I am jealous!
      • Feb 15 Homewrecker and Proud?
      • Feb 14 And the winners are….
      • Feb 14 Happy Valentine’s Day!
      • Feb 13 Dear Chump Lady, Why be friends with cheaters?
      • Feb 12 The Futility of ‘Affair-Proofing’
      • Feb 11 Need some tunes to get you through?
      • Feb 10 Dear Chump Lady, He’s been two-timing me… and her
      • Feb 8 Bill + Shelley
      • Feb 7 Infidelity Valentine’s Contest
      • Feb 7 If You’re Really Sorry, Cheaters? Let Me Help You
      • Feb 6 One Hell of a Work Ethic
      • Feb 5 Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid to tell him I want a divorce
      • Feb 4 Part Four, Not Everything Is Pathological
      • Feb 3 Don’t Throw Stones at Tiffany Glass Windows
      • Feb 1 Dear Chump Lady, Arrrgh! No Contact!
    • January 2013

      • Jan 31 Part Three, Your Mother Was Right
      • Jan 30 Part Two, When They Look Good on Paper
      • Jan 29 Don’t Get Chumped Again, Part One
      • Jan 28 A Reminder About the Chump Lady Manifesto
      • Jan 26 Nugget O’ Insight
      • Jan 25 Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell the kids?
      • Jan 24 Got Anger?
      • Jan 22 The Canard That Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem
      • Jan 22 Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with the OW?
      • Jan 21 Dear Chump Lady, Any advice for the spineless?
      • Jan 19 Lance, A Cheater’s Cheater
      • Jan 18 Dear Chump Lady, Why are cheaters so brazen?
      • Jan 17 Dear Chump Lady, Imagine this…
      • Jan 16 Owning Your Chumpiness
      • Jan 15 Dear Chump Lady, How do you define cheating?
      • Jan 13 Healing from Infidelity as Competitive Sport
      • Jan 13 Dear Chump Lady, Should I go after child support?
      • Jan 11 Dear Chump Lady, The OW wants to “be me”
      • Jan 10 A New Monogamy?
      • Jan 10 Shameless merchandising comes to Chump Lady
      • Jan 9 A letter from a child of a cheater — Don’t stay together
      • Jan 8 Dear Chump Lady, What’s inside the mind of the OW?
      • Jan 7 Financial Infidelity
      • Jan 6 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters cry? And why do we fall for it?
      • Jan 4 The Forgiveness Imperative
      • Jan 4 Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cake eater?
      • Jan 3 Dear Chump Lady, How long do I wait this out?
      • Jan 2 On Saying “Fuck”
      • Jan 1 Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell his parents he is a cheater?
  • 2012

    • December 2012

      • Dec 31 Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
      • Dec 29 You Could Be Friends!
      • Dec 27 Dear Chump Lady, What part of her withering assessment of me should I own?
      • Dec 26 When the Holidays Suck
      • Dec 23 Dear Chump Lady, When does it stop hurting?
      • Dec 22 Dear Chump Lady, More on how I got chumped as an OW…
      • Dec 20 Was Gonna Come Around… Really
      • Dec 19 Dear Chump Lady, How could I have avoided being the OW?
      • Dec 18 Trust That They Suck
      • Dec 16 A moment out from our regularly scheduled programming…
      • Dec 16 Near Beginnings
      • Dec 14 The “B” Word
      • Dec 13 When the Cheater Has a Personal Epiphany
      • Dec 12 Do It for the Children
      • Dec 10 Dear Chump Lady, I’m sending myself an apology
      • Dec 7 Dear Chump Lady, What else can I do?
      • Dec 6 A Spectrum of Chumps
      • Dec 4 And Then the Cage Comes Down!
      • Dec 2 The Psychopath Test
      • Dec 1 Very Evolved People Who Stay Friends
    • November 2012

      • Nov 30 “Chump Chat” anyone?
      • Nov 29 My Useless Masters Degree in African History Explains Infidelity
      • Nov 27 Dear Chump Lady, Revenge is a bad idea, right?
      • Nov 26 Chump Lady FAQ
      • Nov 23 Cheating and High Fructose Corn Syrup
      • Nov 22 Things I’m Thankful for After Infidelity
      • Nov 19 Deconstructing Frumpiness
      • Nov 16 Dear Chump Lady, Please decode this
      • Nov 15 A Public Service Announcement to Remorseless Cheaters
      • Nov 13 Thank You Hater!
      • Nov 11 Dear Chump Lady, I’m still having sex with my STBX. What gives?
      • Nov 10 Batshit Crazy OW Brings Down CIA Director
      • Nov 9 Cheating in the Age of Technology
      • Nov 7 Trust in the Good Times
      • Nov 6 I Am Not a “Hippy Chick”
      • Nov 5 Unpredictable Love
      • Nov 3 Bridges of Bullshit
      • Nov 2 The Power of Spackle
    • October 2012

      • Oct 31 Situational Truths
      • Oct 30 Surely You Must Have Known
      • Oct 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is following your heart ever justified?
      • Oct 27 Dear Chump Lady, I still love the stupid fuck. Help.
      • Oct 26 But what if the BS truly sucks?
      • Oct 23 Chump Lady Blog Is on Huffington Post Today
      • Oct 19 “We Grew Apart”
      • Oct 18 Sux in the City
      • Oct 18 A Dinesh of a Mess
      • Oct 17 Hello from Minnesota
      • Oct 16 Dear Chump Lady, To Tell or Not to Tell
      • Oct 15 Dear Chump Lady, My boyfriend had an EA
      • Oct 14 Chump Lady on HuffPo Again Talking About Jealousy
      • Oct 12 They’re Not “Wayward”
      • Oct 10 Marriage Counseling Quackery
      • Oct 9 A Reluctant Cheerleader for Divorce
      • Oct 3 Arnold Being Arnold
      • Oct 2 Who’s Your Friend?
      • Oct 1 Chump Lady Appears on Huffington Post Live
    • September 2012

      • Sep 28 “I, Cake Eater”
      • Sep 26 Cheater Word Salad
      • Sep 25 Happy Birthday Chump Lady
      • Sep 24 Do You Have to Forgive a Cheater?
      • Sep 23 Soft Vengeance
      • Sep 21 How to Get Revenge on a Cheater
      • Sep 20 Dear Chump Lady, What do you think about revenge affairs?
      • Sep 18 Tinker, Tailor, Soldier… Oh just forget it
      • Sep 17 “The Walls in Your House Sing Again”
      • Sep 14 Dear Chump Lady, What if my cheating wife comes back?
      • Sep 13 Hate On Me, Hater
      • Sep 10 Dear Chump Lady, How do I set boundaries with my kids about my ex?
      • Sep 8 More Good Cheating Songs
      • Sep 7 Dear Chump Lady, Should I waste any more time in limbo?
      • Sep 4 It’s All Very Complicated… You Wouldn’t Understand
      • Sep 2 Dear Chump Lady, Is Sex Addiction a Myth?
      • Sep 1 Sorry Is As Sorry Does
    • August 2012

      • Aug 31 “Not the Only Fool In Town”
      • Aug 30 “It Wasn’t About You”
      • Aug 27 Dear Chump Lady, I’m the Other Man…
      • Aug 24 Dear Chump Lady, How Do I Move On?
      • Aug 20 Dear Chump Lady, Can I Keep the OW Away from My Kids?
      • Aug 8 How to Get Over a Broken Heart… Go to New Orleans
      • Aug 2 Dear Chump Lady, But I Took a VOW…
      • Aug 1 Dear Abby Kicks Infidelity Ass
    • July 2012

      • Jul 29 The Trap of the False Equivalency
      • Jul 27 Dear Chump Lady, As a unicorn, I am offended
      • Jul 25 Five Things That Keep You Stuck With a Cheater
      • Jul 19 Dear Chump Lady, Why are you a hater?
      • Jul 16 The Mid-Life Crisis Made Me Do It. Really?
      • Jul 12 Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters get married?
    • June 2012

      • Jun 29 An interview with Dr. George Simon on “Character Disturbance”
      • Jun 11 Untangling the Skein of Fuckupedness
      • Jun 5 Gaslighting — The Fine Art of Making You Believe You’re Crazy
    • May 2012

      • May 31 An open letter to Dan Savage
      • May 30 Dear Chump Lady, He’s worried about his girlfriend, WTF?
      • May 30 How to Leave a Cheater
      • May 28 Dear Chump Lady, She says she’s sorry…
      • May 28 Dear Chump Lady, Is she prettier?
      • May 22 I just discovered I was cheated on. Now what?
      • May 22 What NOT to do
      • May 3 A Spectrum of Cheaters
    • April 2012

      • Apr 28 Ego Kibbles
      • Apr 23 The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!
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