Category: Abandonment
Living with Your Ex… For The Children?
The most amazing case of cake-eating appeared in the Washington Post last week, “Daddy’s home — Why I let my ex live with us on the …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep myself from rewriting history?
Dear Chump Lady, After 18 years together, 16 of those married, we started having problems about 3 years ago after I had a run with …
Dear Chump Lady, When do I tell him I’m dumping him?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for four years with two children (2 years and 5 months). I got the shock of my life …
Dear Chump Lady, Can I let people know he’s a fraud?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for over 30 years (two now-grown children) and lived in blissfully unaware chumpdom for most of that time. …
Dear Chump Lady, I’m 9 months pregnant and he’s introducing his girlfriend
Dear Chump Lady, I sit here writing to you 9 months pregnant with my sixth child, and 4.5 months into a separation, (3 months since …
Dear Chump Lady, My world has crashed around me
Dear Chump Lady, Hubby and I are in our late 30s, married for 12 years. We struggled with infertility and loss for years before I …
UBT: “I’m in a Good Place Now”
Dear Chump Lady, So two years ago my husband of 25 years left me for his technician, immediately moved her in, got her pregnant and they are …
Social Media Shame for Deadbeats
God bless the state of Arizona and governor Doug Ducey. It’s not like me to praise an arid state known for its golf courses and …
The Compassion Trap
“What we want most is only to be held…and told…that everything (everything is a funny thing, is baby milk and Papa’s eyes, is roaring logs …
Dear Chump Lady, “We never had sex anymore…”
Dear Chump Lay This is a “My truth hurts” story. Been married 20 years and found out 4 months ago that hubby was cheating. Truth …
Parents Who Abandon
The day my 17-year-old son passed his driver’s test (hurrah!), was the same day I learned his father took him off his health insurance back in April …
Dear Chump Lady, How do you get through the middle of leaving?
Hi Chump Lady, I have a question for you: how do you get through the middle of this leaving-your-cheater process, as in, not the terrible …
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think stress made him cheat?
Dear Chump Lady, Am hoping you will be able to help me. I will try and be brief with my background information. My husband and …
How To Leave Someone, How to Be Left
I think chumps are often misunderstood as sore losers. People can be incredibly tone deaf about infidelity — she left you? Hey, it’s all for …
Dear Chump Lady, How could he turn into a completely different person?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 10 years suddenly left me 6 months ago, with ZERO warning, and is ever-so-cliché-ly dating his former office manager, …
Dear Chump Lady, Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind?
Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …
The Ones Who Just Leave
A lot of the advice I give here is on no contact, or gauging the sincerity of a cheater’s remorse, or of decoding the mindfuckery …
Dear Chump Lady, Should I divorce his cheating, Mormon ass?
Dear Chump Lady, My story began last October when my husband of 11 years had a three week affair with random online girl. I found …
Why Did Daddy Leave Us? Because Daddy Is an Asshole
The blog Scary Mommy ran a moving essay by Eden Strong entitled “Why Did Daddy Leave Us?” Strong runs a blog called “It’s Not My Shame …
Dear Chump Lady, Why did he come back if only to hurt me?
Dear Chump Lady, I found your blog a few weeks ago, after finding out I had been cheated on for the upteenth time in six …
