Category: Bad Infidelity Advice
Debunking Why Happy People Cheat
I’m sure you’re all curious “Why Happy People Cheat.” There are about a bazillion Why Happy People Cheat articles on the interwebs, from the Atlantic Monthly …
Stupid Things People Say to Chumps
People say a lot of stupid, insensitive things to chumps. It’s everything from the grossly mistaken — “Gee, the affair partner doesn’t seem all that …
‘Why Won’t She Get Over It?’
Here’s a bit of etiquette the New York Times was asked to weigh in on this week: “I Cheated on My Wife, Why Won’t She …
My Friend Won’t Listen to Your Advice
Dear Chump Lady, My friend reads your blog, but doesn’t take your advice. I (and several other friends) have coached her through the hurts and …
Have a Chat with Schmoopie? Just Don’t.
The Universal Bullshit Translator has choked down Lori Gottlieb’s “Dear Therapist” dreck before. But like an undigested glob of upchuck, she’s back. Splat. With advice …
Pain Shopping, Anyone?
A chump wrote to ask me what I thought about “pain shopping.” I had no idea what it was. So I asked her, “What’s pain …
UBT: Affair Proof Your Marriage
“Affair Proof Your Marriage” articles are so ubiquitous, I hesitate to feed them to the Universal Bullshit Translator. It just rolled its circuits at me. Really? …
Your Most Ridiculous RIC Nuggets
If you were ever an Amazon chump, somewhere there moldering on your bookshelf (or ashen in an incinerator somewhere) are the 50 Save Your Marriage …
You Might Actually Suck, But You’re Still a Chump
Several people sent me the HuffPo article that ran recently “4 Huge Mistakes I Made As a Wife (Now Ex-Wife).” On the shallow face of it, …
The Cheater Was Going to Stop… Really
Following up from Monday’s “Ignorance Is Bliss” post, I’d like to throw a bucket of cold water on another cheating fallacy — that it’s okay to …
Stupid Shit Other People Say
It’s not just cheaters who say stupid shit. Other people are horribly insensitive too! Everything from the grossly mistaken — gee, the affair partner doesn’t seem all …
UBT: Ask Your Spouse Directly If They’ve Been Cheating
People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …
Apologize to Your Cheating Husband, Says Quack
If people ever think I made up the Reconciliation Industrial Complex, that it’s a wee bit overstated, consider this misogynist piece of crap that ran in …
UBT: You cheated for the excitement!
Today’s Universal Bullshit Translator fodder comes from SELF magazine. (Something narcissistically dunderheaded from a publication called SELF? No, you don’t say.) What To Do After Cheating …
Family Therapy with Your Abuser — WTF?
If you ever thought the Reconciliation Industrial Complex has gone too far, get a load of this — “Domestic abuse victims to join abusers in …
The “Anyone Could Cheat” Defense
The other day “Roaring” left this comment: I had an email exchange with my (former) minister earlier today that really frustrated me. I reached out …
Dear Chump Lady, How can we challenge blameshifting therapists?
Dear Chump Lady, I find myself truly saddened, perplexed, outraged, confused? Am I going crazy? or is this really the philosophy around infidelity and how …
UBT: Mo’Nique’s Give Men a Pass for Cheating
So, this was in my Facebook feed this week, and probably yours too — comedian Mo’Nique gave an interview saying you should give your spouse a “pass …
The Myth of the 50-50 Marriage
A trope of reconciliation sites is the line that you brought 50 percent of the problems to the marriage, but the affair is “100 percent” …
Worst Infidelity Advice?
Worst infidelity advice ever? Don’t decide anything for six months to a year. If I could wave my magic chump wand and eradicate one …
