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Ego Kibbles

April 28, 2012 by Chump Lady

Cheating is a profoundly narcissistic act. (Of course, cheaters don’t see it that way. Usually they cast it as selflessly liberating someone from the oppressive bonds of sexless marriage to a jerk…) But really cheating just all boils down to – ego kibbles. Cheaters need ego kibbles. Lots and lots of kibbles. Shrinks call ego […]

Filed Under: Best of Cheaters Decoded, Cheaters Decoded, Ego kibbles, Narcissism Tagged With: Ego Kibbles, Narcissism

The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’!

April 23, 2012 by Chump Lady

Ooh, pick me!

One of the most common mindfucks the cheated upon may experience after discovery of an affair, is the expectation that they will try harder to win back the cheater. This expectation either comes from the cheater directly —  “I cheated because you’re a lousy (partner, housekeeper, lay)” — and how are you going to up […]

Filed Under: Best of Cheaters Decoded, Cheaters Decoded, Pick me dance Tagged With: bargaining, competing for your marriage, humiliation

The Unified Theory of Cake

April 19, 2012 by Chump Lady

cake

Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the spouse. (“Having your cake and eating it too.”) In fact, cake is a preferred lifestyle for many. Ideally, the spouse is unaware of the AP, because that means the cheater […]

Filed Under: Best of Cheaters Decoded, Cake Eating, Cheater Tactics, Cheaters Decoded Tagged With: cake eating, emotional abuse, indecision, manipulation

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