Here’s a problem people new to this infidelity shit get stuck on all the time — they don’t really trust that their cheater sucks. They pine. They spackle. They remember the good times. They spend a lot of time in therapist’s offices trying to “untangle the skein of fuckupedness.” They wonder what they did to […]
A Spectrum of Chumps
Just like there is a spectrum of cheaters, there is a spectrum of chumps. Those chumps for whom a shit sandwich is a new and revolting discovery, and those who consider shit sandwiches part of a healthy and well-balanced diet. (Who am I without my daily intake of humiliation?) Pause and consider — what kind […]
Five Things That Keep You Stuck With a Cheater
Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with a cheater and prevent you from moving on. 1. Hope. Codependency has been described as the addiction to the POTENTIAL of things. Are you hooked on a cheater’s potential? Wow, […]
Untangling the Skein of Fuckupedness
Veronica Sawyer: Heather, why can’t you just be a friend? Why do you have to be such a mega-bitch? Heather Duke: Because I can be. From the movie “Heathers” (1988) Why do cheaters cheat? Because they CAN. It’s that simple. Do you need more of an answer? Okay. Because of greediness. Because of narcissism. Because […]
