Well, I sure am feeling the CN mightiness after yesterday’s epic blog birthday. THANK YOU for the Patreon love. But I wanted to check in, as I do here periodically, and see how your mighty is going. Did anyone see that story in the Washington Post about Anthony Anderson the amazing kid who sings German […]
A Valentine’s Day Reset
Dear Chump Lady and CN, Two years ago on Valentine’s Day (which also happens to be my birthday) I discovered my husband was carrying on an affair with his co-worker that he had eight months prior assured me he had completely ended. At this point I was already reduced to 85 pounds, on anti-depressants, and […]
Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with a quote from Bob Dylan — “I embrace the chaos.” I laughed. When you’re in a free fall, you’re going to go splat on the pavement whether you “embrace” it […]
Why Did You Leave?
Boy, we really bled a vein with the last post here “Why Did You Stay?”! UniquelyMe had a good suggestion, which was to follow that post up with something a bit more uplifting — Why did you go? (Assuming you left. A large subsection of cheaters just seem to go “poof!” Abandonment being another topic […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for about 2.5. For the last 3 months, we have been visiting a marriage counselor almost weekly, mostly to deal with some issues related to addiction and its aftermath. (He has been clean and sober for awhile, but it’s still […]
I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away
I confess, I sometimes enjoy my bully pulpit here so I can post youtube videos of artists I like, most of them obscure R&B performers. After yesterday’s epic post on how did we find out we were chumps, several folks asked for a post on how do you trust again. I’m working on that — […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats
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Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
Dear Chump Lady, My tragicomedy of chumpdom is well-known here, so I won’t waste space rehashing it. I’m pretty far out at this point: my divorce was final two years ago, and it’s been more than four years since the D-day and separation (not counting a foolish eight months in bogus reconciliation.) Like most chumps […]
Dear Chump Lady, When does it get better?
Dear Tracy, I am getting a doctorate in public policy and think that is all wonderful. I am also a chump. My husband abruptly walked out with two duffel bags shortly after my first semester in the program ended. That was three days before Christmas. He left everything– his belongings, the house, and me. I […]
Dear Chump Lady, Did you have a defining moment?
Dear Chump Lady, I have found online dating profiles for my husband, secret emails, I have been gas-lighted in many ways, he has given away money meant for me to have medical work done and more — but what he did yesterday was a defining moment for me. To set the stage, we live paycheck […]
