Good morning Chump Lady. I am feeling particularly strong today and thought I’d like to share some encouragement for those just starting their journey. As a backstory, I’m almost four years post D-Day and a little over a year post divorce. When I think back to those first two years, when my world was chaos, […]
The Kindness of Strangers
I feel like I need a corrective to yesterday’s column, “If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It.” Fact is, most of us get emotionally sloppy after D-Day. (Except for those of us, like me, born emotionally sloppy.) The advice to not let them see your hurt — vindictive freaks will use that in court, […]
Time for Another Mightiness Check In
Well, I sure am feeling the CN mightiness after yesterday’s epic blog birthday. THANK YOU for the Patreon love. But I wanted to check in, as I do here periodically, and see how your mighty is going. Did anyone see that story in the Washington Post about Anthony Anderson the amazing kid who sings German […]
A Valentine’s Day Reset
Dear Chump Lady and CN, Two years ago on Valentine’s Day (which also happens to be my birthday) I discovered my husband was carrying on an affair with his co-worker that he had eight months prior assured me he had completely ended. At this point I was already reduced to 85 pounds, on anti-depressants, and […]
Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity
I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with a quote from Bob Dylan — “I embrace the chaos.” I laughed. When you’re in a free fall, you’re going to go splat on the pavement whether you “embrace” it […]
Why Did You Leave?
Boy, we really bled a vein with the last post here “Why Did You Stay?”! UniquelyMe had a good suggestion, which was to follow that post up with something a bit more uplifting — Why did you go? (Assuming you left. A large subsection of cheaters just seem to go “poof!” Abandonment being another topic […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?
Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for about 2.5. For the last 3 months, we have been visiting a marriage counselor almost weekly, mostly to deal with some issues related to addiction and its aftermath. (He has been clean and sober for awhile, but it’s still […]
I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away
I confess, I sometimes enjoy my bully pulpit here so I can post youtube videos of artists I like, most of them obscure R&B performers. After yesterday’s epic post on how did we find out we were chumps, several folks asked for a post on how do you trust again. I’m working on that — […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats
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Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?
Dear Chump Lady, My tragicomedy of chumpdom is well-known here, so I won’t waste space rehashing it. I’m pretty far out at this point: my divorce was final two years ago, and it’s been more than four years since the D-day and separation (not counting a foolish eight months in bogus reconciliation.) Like most chumps […]
