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The Kindness of Strangers

August 23, 2019 by Chump Lady

I feel like I need a corrective to yesterday’s column, “If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It.” Fact is, most of us get emotionally sloppy after D-Day. (Except for those of us, like me, born emotionally sloppy.) The advice to not let them see your hurt — vindictive freaks will use that in court, […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side Tagged With: Kindness

Time for Another Mightiness Check In

April 20, 2018 by Chump Lady

Well, I sure am feeling the CN mightiness after yesterday’s epic blog birthday. THANK YOU for the Patreon love. But I wanted to check in, as I do here periodically, and see how your mighty is going. Did anyone see that story in the Washington Post about Anthony Anderson the amazing kid who sings German […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side, Gain a life Tagged With: Mighty

A Valentine’s Day Reset

February 13, 2018 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady and CN, Two years ago on Valentine’s Day (which also happens to be my birthday) I discovered my husband was carrying on an affair with his co-worker that he had eight months prior assured me he had completely ended. At this point I was already reduced to 85 pounds, on anti-depressants, and […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side, Gain a life, Valentine's Day

Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity

October 15, 2015 by Chump Lady

I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with a quote from Bob Dylan — “I embrace the chaos.” I laughed. When you’re in a free fall, you’re going to go splat on the pavement whether you “embrace” it […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side, Chumps Decoded

Why Did You Leave?

March 15, 2015 by Chump Lady

Boy, we really bled a vein with the last post here “Why Did You Stay?”! UniquelyMe had a good suggestion, which was to follow that post up with something a bit more uplifting — Why did you go? (Assuming you left. A large subsection of cheaters just seem to go “poof!” Abandonment being another topic […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side, How to leave a cheater

Dear Chump Lady, How do I get through today?

August 5, 2014 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady,  My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for about 2.5. For the last 3 months, we have been visiting a marriage counselor almost weekly, mostly to deal with some issues related to addiction and its aftermath. (He has been clean and sober for awhile, but it’s still […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side, Deception, Early days after discovery

I Don’t Feel the Need to Give It Away

May 17, 2014 by Chump Lady

I confess, I sometimes enjoy my bully pulpit here so I can post youtube videos of artists I like, most of them obscure R&B performers. After yesterday’s epic post on how did we find out we were chumps, several folks asked for a post on how do you trust again. I’m working on that — […]

Filed Under: Better on the other side

Dear Chump Lady, I’m afraid I’m going to grow old alone with cats

March 9, 2014 by Chump Lady

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Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Better on the other side

Dear Chump Lady, How do I ever trust again?

March 2, 2014 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My tragicomedy of chumpdom is well-known here, so I won’t waste space rehashing it. I’m pretty far out at this point: my divorce was final two years ago, and it’s been more than four years since the D-day and separation (not counting a foolish eight months in bogus reconciliation.) Like most chumps […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Better on the other side, Dating, Gain a life

Dear Chump Lady, When does it get better?

November 10, 2013 by Chump Lady

Dear Tracy, I am getting a doctorate in public policy and think that is all wonderful. I am also a chump. My husband abruptly walked out with two duffel bags shortly after my first semester in the program ended. That was three days before Christmas. He left everything– his belongings, the house, and me. I […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Better on the other side, Gain a life

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