Category: Blameshifting

When Splendid People Cheat

So, yesterday I got to tangling with remorseful cheaters on an infidelity board (Talk About Marriage). Someone posted my article skewering that Victoria Milan survey …

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Stupidest Blameshifting You Got?

According to Andrew G. Marshall, some of the forces that compel cheaters to cheat are nagging and childrearing. Yesterday, “blue” recounted that her husband told …

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Translating Cheater-ese

Some days I like to fire up the ol’ Universal Bullshit Translator I keep here at Chump Headquarters. So often the crap cheaters feed us …

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Dear Chump Lady, He says my insecurity made him cheat

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband had a old flame from high school that he had a emotional relationship with. Having the old flame hovering in …

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Dear Chump Lady, Maybe I was a bad wife?

Dear Chump Lady, What if I really was a “bad wife”? I gained weight after we got married and even more after having children. Which, …

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When Cheaters Give Infidelity Advice

Every day or so people send me goofy articles on infidelity. Maybe goofy is the wrong word. Offensive? Dunder-headed? They run the gambit from spouses …

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I Love You But I’m Not In Love with You

“I love you but I’m not in love with you” is a cheater classic. Chumps misunderstand this statement as a definitive goodbye, I’m leaving for …

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Oh hey! I know that mindfuck!

I’m sorry… I’m still obsessed with Weiner gate. Yesterday the NY Post reported: Pressed for specifics, the prickly pol said, “I sought the help of …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why blame the chump?

Dear Chump Lady, Why are these so called experts so rabid about blaming chumps for their part in creating a situation where they got betrayed? …

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Infidelity *Is* Abuse

And a big hairy pox on those who think otherwise. Yes, the unicorns are at it again. Leading the sparkly unicorn brigade on HuffPo today …

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If You’re Really Sorry, Cheaters? Let Me Help You

Writing this blog, I get dismissed frequently as being bitter and rather pessimistic in my outlook about cheaters. Hey, everyone makes mistakes, we’re only human, …

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“We Grew Apart”

Chump Lady recently got into an exchange of comments with a fellow “Zalkreb” on Huffington Post. (Should we trust the opinion anyone who sounds like …

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Cheater Word Salad

Chump Lady used to be a think tank editor in her younger days. Think tanks are those marble buildings on K St. in Washington, D.C. …

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Gaslighting — The Fine Art of Making You Believe You’re Crazy

The late comedian Richard Pryor had a joke that went… His wife walks in on him having sex with another woman. Pryor tells his freaked …

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