Category: Cake Eating
Don’t Stay For the Children
Oh how I loathe articles about how divorce hurts children! And not only because they frequently use “impact” as a verb. And are full of …
Why Isn’t She HAPPY Now?
Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling …
I Don’t Want to Spend Holidays with My Ex
Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought …
He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily
Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …
UBT: ‘I Will Return With a Fuller Love’
There’s nothing like a good serving of cake to make cheaters really appreciate their chumps. Shana submitted this gem to the Universal Bullshit Translator and says …
‘My Husband Wants to Date’
Dear Chump Lady, Am I being unreasonable for having a problem with my husband’s ongoing relationship with a woman he tried unsuccessfully to seduce? One …
‘She Refuses to Understand We Are Over’
Dear Chump Lady Happy late pride. I have been reading your website for a while. It really helped me get through a lot of grief …
Confronting a Divorce-Phobic Cheater
Hi Chump Lady! I work in retail, and today I ran into my soon-to-be-ex and his affair partner (ex’s best friend’s girlfriend) while on my break. We’d …
She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’
Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …
My Ex Wants to Live in My Basement
Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 28 years gave me the speech 5 years ago. He loved me, but was not in love with me, …
Her Husband Wants an Open Marriage
Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage. So I’d like your take …
How Do You Get Out of Limbo?
Hi Chump Lady, I need your advise desperately. I married at 30, had a fulling marriage for what would have been 30 years this past …
Did You File First?
I’ve read a gazillion chumps stories, and one thing that never ceases to astound me is how cheaters don’t file for divorce. Oh sure, they …
UBT: ‘I’m Trying Right Now’
Dear Chump Lady: I am checking in for some support and encouragement as I enter the home stretch of leaving the cheater. The hoovering is …
I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
Hi Chump Lady: I am currently living with a cake eater, although I am making progress getting her out of the door, we have recently …
How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty?
Dear Chump Lady, I kicked my husband out of the house 2 years ago, finally, after a (at least) 10-year history of him cheating on …
Being Compared with an Affair Partner
One of the classic “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” utterances is, “You know, if you met (the Schmoopie), you’d really like (him/her)! They’re a lot like …
Living Together Until Cheating Wife’s Affair Partner Is Free
Dear Chump Lady, I need some real advice as I am not doing well. I met my wife in 2000 and we married in 2003 …
‘My Husband Got Engaged’
Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged. (This statement does not contain a typo, although even a search engine tried to get me to add …
Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?
Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …
