Category: Cake Eating

I Don’t Want to Spend Holidays with My Ex

Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought …

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He Left for OW, But Stays in Touch Daily

Dear Chump Lady, My gaslighting began on Halloween 2020. The now-ex and I finished walking the dogs and were sitting out on the patio drink …

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butt face

UBT: ‘I Will Return With a Fuller Love’

There’s nothing like a good serving of cake to make cheaters really appreciate their chumps. Shana submitted this gem to the Universal Bullshit Translator and says …

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‘My Husband Wants to Date’

Dear Chump Lady, Am I being unreasonable for having a problem with my husband’s ongoing relationship with a woman he tried unsuccessfully to seduce? One …

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Lizzobye

‘She Refuses to Understand We Are Over’

Dear Chump Lady Happy late pride. I have been reading your website for a while. It really helped me get through a lot of grief …

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mindfuck

Confronting a Divorce-Phobic Cheater

Hi Chump Lady! I work in retail, and today I ran into my soon-to-be-ex and his affair partner (ex’s best friend’s girlfriend) while on my break. We’d …

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She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’

Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …

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My Ex Wants to Live in My Basement

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 28 years gave me the speech 5 years ago.  He loved me, but was not in love with me, …

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cheater overlap

Her Husband Wants an Open Marriage

Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage.  So I’d like your take …

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limbo

How Do You Get Out of Limbo?

Hi Chump Lady, I need your advise desperately. I married at 30, had a fulling marriage for what would have been 30 years this past …

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Did You File First?

I’ve read a gazillion chumps stories, and one thing that never ceases to astound me is how cheaters don’t file for divorce. Oh sure, they …

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not a unicorn

UBT: ‘I’m Trying Right Now’

Dear Chump Lady: I am checking in for some support and encouragement as I enter the home stretch of leaving the cheater. The hoovering is …

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I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You

Hi Chump Lady: I am currently living with a cake eater, although I am making progress getting her out of the door, we have recently …

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mindfuck

How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty?

Dear Chump Lady, I kicked my husband out of the house 2 years ago, finally, after a (at least) 10-year history of him cheating on …

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Agape douchebag

Being Compared with an Affair Partner

One of the classic “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” utterances is, “You know, if you met (the Schmoopie), you’d really like (him/her)! They’re a lot like …

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Avoid feelings of paralysis

Living Together Until Cheating Wife’s Affair Partner Is Free

Dear Chump Lady, I need some real advice as I am not doing well. I met my wife in 2000 and we married in 2003 …

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twu luv

‘My Husband Got Engaged’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged. (This statement does not contain a typo, although even a search engine tried to get me to add …

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chasing unicorn

Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …

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Stupid Stuff Cake Eaters Say

Hey, are you the one they really love? Is the cheating okay because they’ll always come back to you? Your Friday Challenge is to talk cake …

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butt face

UBT: I Will Return With a Fuller Love

There’s nothing like a good serving of cake to make cheaters really appreciate their chumps. Shana submitted this gem to the Universal Bullshit Translator and says …

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