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Is Cake Better Than Abandonment?

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Have you heard the story of the threesome B. Smith, her husband Dan Gasby — and his girlfriend Alex Lerner? B. Smith is a retired lifestyle celebrity and restauranteur. Gasby is a former television executive. And Lerner is a blonde, white woman who nicely fills out a tight sweater. All three of them live together. […]

Dear Chump Lady, Where do I go with this anger?

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Dear Chump Lady, After a year of being told lies about an affair I finally found the truth on the laptop. So he’s 50 and she’s a 24 year old work colleague who still lives at home. We have been together 11 years and have a little boy. He told me he is with this […]

UBT: “I Want to Dive Into You”

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Dear Chump Lady, I am currently in the divorce process with my cheating wife. We have been married for 15 years, with 4 kids. This summer, she started an affair with a friend of ours, the husband of a close friend of hers, and the godfather to one of our kids. You know, the kind […]

‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’

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Dear Chump Lady, I am sorry to say that I cheated on my wife. For two and a half years, I was involved with the Other Woman. When my ex found out, I’ll admit I threw every play you’ve described out on the table, and didn’t even realize how much of a cliche I was. […]

Dear Chump Lady, My wife kissed a coworker

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Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were good friends for 5 years, dated for almost another 5 and have been married for 8 years, have 2 kids, with our 9th anniversary coming up at the end of this month. Prior to marriage, she had dated only one other guy, I dated several others and […]

The “What If They’re Really The One” Fear

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I had the pleasure last evening to be on the BBC Radio show “After the Watershed” talking about life post-infidelity. (Have a listen!) One of the presenters, Sarah, had been chumped horribly — had four kids with her cheater, discovered her ex’s double life when the youngest was a toddler, performed a two-year long Pick […]

Reject the Plan B Offer

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If things don’t work out with her, perhaps you and I could work things out. This was in my “Universal Bullshit Translator” requests this morning. This statement is so cake-y and so common. Yeah, right, I want to be Plan B! Thanks for being so bold and out there with it, Cheaterpants. How many of […]

UBT: ‘Our Marriage Was Already Over’

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Here’s some one-size-fits-all cheater bullshit for you — “Our marriage was already over.” Cheaters say it to affair partners, “We’re all but divorced!” “We’re separated!” “Just roommates!” And cheaters say it to their spouses when they’re discovered cheating. Our marriage was already over. Well, yes, yes it was when you fucked that other person. But […]

Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?

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Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling with her feelings for me”, that whilst I was a great dad and someone she admired, she had changed and we had “drifted apart”. Yadda Yadda Yadda. I told her […]