Should I Write the OW?

February 26, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My husband left “temporarily” two years ago after my teenagers confronted him about his chronic emotional and verbal abuse. After a weird few weeks, he started accepting he had a problem and swore he wanted to get back together. He also swore the woman he moved in with was a lesbian roommate. […]

The Benevolent Other Woman

February 5, 2020 by Chump Lady

An alert chump sent me A Letter To The Woman Whose Man Cheated On Her With Me. The OW is “Aria.” The chump girlfriend is “Candy.” I think these names have to be made up. Aria? Seriously? You’re an operatic solo full of passion and meaning and the chump is some frivolous confection? A Mars […]

‘How Do I Handle the OW?’

January 29, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, How do I handle this bitch?! My husband left me last year because he needed “space.” Come to find out he has been seen with one of my “friends” — a mom at the children’s school — for the last two years! They live in the same apartment complex. I spoke to her husband […]

‘He Didn’t Suck’

January 20, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Finding your webpage was the best thing happened to me lately as I was about to lose my sanity. I spent hours reading about people’s stories, but I did not come across a case similar to mine, so I am still struggling. I know this is long, but I do not know […]

‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’

December 30, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Can you please tell me why cheaters so badly want to remain friends? A little background information — my ex-husband and I were married for 16 years, have 2 kids (15 & 12), have been separated for a little over 2 years, divorced for one. I found out 2 days before our […]

UBT on Guy Who Wants to Keep Both Sex Workers and His Girlfriend

December 19, 2019 by Chump Lady

‘Tis the season for cake. Here’s a new flavor, courtesy of some whackadoodle advice columnist at Slate — a guy who’s dating an “amazing” woman, but doesn’t want to give up his hooker habit. I (35, male) started dating someone (33, female) recently that I’ve really enjoyed connecting with and have found a higher level […]

UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents

December 16, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My ex, after a year and a half, thinks that we should still be buying joint gifts for the kids, and signing them from ‘mom and dad’. I disagree and have sent him a request that I will be doing my own Christmas with the boys at my house and he should […]

‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’

December 12, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered in September 2018 that my husband of 3 years (together a total of 13 years) had been having a 2-year affair with his coworker. (The affair started before our 1-year wedding anniversary and spanned our time trying to get pregnant, our time doing IVF, while I was pregnant and while […]

He Left 3 Kids. How Can He Be Happy?

December 4, 2019 by Chump Lady

Hello Chump Lady, 10 weeks ago I found out that my husband of 9 years (together 14, 3 kids aged 6,4 and 1) has been having an affair for over a year. The affair partner (now girlfriend?! Vomit) is a mutual friend who knows me and my kids. It started when I was 6 months […]