Category: Cake Eating
Dear Chump Lady, How come he waited 20 years to blow up my life?
Dear Chump Lady, I know that my ex probably has NPD, but why didn’t I see any of this in over 27 years (believe me …
Infidelity *Is* Abuse
And a big hairy pox on those who think otherwise. Yes, the unicorns are at it again. Leading the sparkly unicorn brigade on HuffPo today …
Dear Chump Lady, Is she a cake eater?
Dear Chump Lady, I have been in a serious committed relationship for two years now. We have had ups and downs, but mostly due to …
Was Gonna Come Around… Really
One of the biggest mindfucks cake eaters play is this notion that gosh, they were going to be a properly repentant spouse, but you just …
When the Cheater Has a Personal Epiphany
Did anyone see this article on HuffPo today — “Why I Cheated on my Husband”? It’s quite a masterful mindfuck. Really, I think my ex-husband …
“I, Cake Eater”
Recently someone named “The Affair Partner” wrote to Chump Lady. I thought the lengthy comment deserved its own post. Why? So I can dice it, …
Cheater Word Salad
Chump Lady used to be a think tank editor in her younger days. Think tanks are those marble buildings on K St. in Washington, D.C. …
“It Wasn’t About You”
One of the stupidest things cheaters say is: “It wasn’t about you.” This is both infuriating and true. It wasn’t about you. They were not …
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters get married?
Dear Chump Lady, Why do serial cheaters get married? I really don’t understand this. I’ve been married four years and recently found out that my …
The Unified Theory of Cake
Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the …
