Category: Character disorder

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6 Thoughts on Character Assassination

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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mindfuck

Does Social Media Encourage Cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, First and foremost, thank you for writing Leave A Cheater, Gain a Life! It was immensely helpful, but I still can’t seem …

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Dear Chump Lady, My Wife Is Near Perfect But I See Prostitutes

Hi Chump Lady, I happened upon your website and it seems to contain a lot of good advice for certain circumstances. But there are others, …

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‘How Do I Know Friends Won’t Betray Me?’

Dear Chump Lady, I am a year and a half out from discovery and four months since divorce. I am strictly keeping no contact. I’m …

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Dear Chump Lady, I went grey rock, he went nuts

Dear Chump Lady, My chronically cheating EX husband is unfortunately stuck in my life until one of us keels over because I had a baby …

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“Why do cheaters need to punish the chump?”

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been separated about 8 months from my STBX cheater. We were married for 7 years when he began having an affair …

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Situational Truth

Stephen Colbert coined the awesome word “truthiness” — when referring to politicians who spin their own versions of reality. They seem so sure of themselves, …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why is he copying me?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex cheated on me relentlessly, with a mind-boggling amount of women. We had four D-days before I had the strength to …

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Dear Chump Lady, Why won’t he get a life?!

Dear Chump Lady, Cheater has been with the same OW since all this started — over three years ago, when I was pregnant with my …

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Character Assassination? Expect It.

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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Cheater Warning Signs?

Wouldn’t it be nice if every toxic person just came with a giant forehead tattoo? Then you could really sort the wheat from the chaff. …

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Divorcing the Disordered — An Interview with Dr. George Simon

In 2013 I interviewed friend of the blog, Dr. George Simon for HuffPo. I thought it’s long past time to rerun this column, as I …

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The Day of the Deadbeat

By request, today’s “fun” Friday challenge is to share your deadbeat ex stories. #dayofthedeadbeat Unfortunately, infidelity tends to go with other sorts of shitty behavior …

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The Ready Chump Response to “I’ve Changed!”

I reckon I’ve read tens of thousands of infidelity stories to date. Maybe hundreds of thousands. (I should crunch the numbers.) And one common recitation …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do they flip so fast?

Hi CL, I’m guessing by now you’ve heard it all but here’s my story: My soon-to-be-exhusband and I have a one-year old together, we never had …

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Dear Josh, You’re a Chump

Dear Josh of Somewhere in the Mid-Atlantic, You don’t know me. I run an infidelity blog. I happened to have dinner this evening seated next …

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Character Assassination? Don’t Let the Bastards Grind You Down

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m a serial cheater

Dear Chump Lady: I was recently on your pages reading about cheaters without remorse. I am a serial cheater – at least four times with …

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Cheaters Who’ve Got Game

The other night my husband and I were watching a documentary about the poet Charles Bukowski, someone whose writing we both admire. We both came …

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Don’t Judge Me

In yesterday’s comments the subject of “judgement” came up and a chump asked if I would write a column on, you know, the phenomenon of calling …

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