Category: Cheaters Decoded
What Married Men Tell Other Women
Hi Chump Lady! I would love you to write about “What married men tell other women, to get them to join them in the affair.” …
“Our Marriage Was Already Over”
Here’s some one-size-fits-all cheater bullshit for you — “Our marriage was already over.” Cheaters say it to affair partners, “We’re all but divorced!” “We’re separated!” …
Problem? Adult solution vs. Cheater solution
Cheaters often react to adult problems in selfish ways. CN member Chris described the issue this way: PROBLEM: My wife and I argue often, mostly …
One Off Cheaters versus Serial Cheaters?
Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering about serial versus (presumably) one-off cheaters. I know they both suck. But it’s hard if your cheater only cheated …
Dear Chump Lady, In our bed? WTF?
Dear Chump Lady, I would love to hear your take on this: When my former significant other was sneaking around behind my back having her affair, …
Cheaters Suffer from “Low Self-Esteem”?
If you spend any time on reconciliation boards, you’ll read a lot of creative excuses being thrown around about the deep shame and inadequacy that …
Cheater Warning Signs?
Wouldn’t it be nice if every toxic person just came with a giant forehead tattoo? Then you could really sort the wheat from the chaff. …
Stupid Shit Schmoopies Say
If you’ve ever had the pleasure of discovering your partner’s secret correspondence to a fuckbuddy, you know how ridiculous kibble-speak can be. Devastating? Sure. But …
Unconditional Love
One common example of the Stupid Shit Cheaters Say is cheaters’ disappointment that they were not loved “unconditionally.” Apparently, they are capable of “unconditional love” …
What Did Your Sad Sausage Want Sympathy For?
The sad sausage self-pity channel probably provokes more Stupid Shit Cheaters Say than the other two channels, rage and “charm.” It’s kind of absurd for …
Compartmentalization
The excuse is often given for cheaters that they are “compartmentalized.” Cheating on you is nothing personal, it’s just that you were in Spouse Compartment, …
Cheating Is a Very “Individual” Thing
One of the mindfucks that surrounds infidelity, or really disordered behavior in general, is that it is “exceptional.” Hey, this isn’t the real him. He …
Dear Chump Lady, Why do cheaters work from the same script?
Dear Chump Lady, After faithfully reading this blog and thinking about all that we have been through I still have questions. 1. How did all …
I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
“I love you but I’m not in love with you” is classic cheater-speak. Chumps misunderstand this statement as a definitive goodbye, I’m leaving for my …
But I Always Come Back to You
If you ever had any doubts that cheating was about unbridled narcissism, look to the Boomerang Cheaters. They screw around but then assure you, hey, it’s okay — …
Do Cheaters Have Low Self Esteem?
If you spend any time on reconciliation boards, you’ll read a lot of creative excuses being thrown around about the deep shame and inadequacy that …
Dear Chump Lady, Is he just your average narcissist?
Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now and am learning tons about all the different kinds of fuckwits out …
UBT Me, Please
Well, this doesn’t happen very often. A cheater submitted their OWN bullshit to the Universal Bullshit Translator. Yes. Really. This blog is absolute crap! I believe …
The Dead-Eyed Stare
So what about those dead-eyed stares, huh? The other day a thread broke out on the blank look cheaters give you when you confront them …
A Public Service Announcement for Remorseless Cheaters
Dear Cheaters, Apparently there is still some confusion out there that your extracurricular shenanigans are wrong. In the interest of members of the unsuspecting public …
