Dear Chump Lady, I’ve been separated about 8 months from my STBX cheater. We were married for 7 years when he began having an affair …
I got a really nice letter from a really nice reader “Chump Chap.” He wrote to me after he realized that he’d just gotten a …
Wouldn’t it be nice if every toxic person just came with a giant forehead tattoo? Then you could really sort the wheat from the chaff. …
A reader wrote in to suggest some discussion topics and one of them was: Is there a relationship between being a cheater and misogyny / …
If I had to name a single characteristic that defines every wing nut, it would be: “you’re not the boss of me.” That ability to …
Chumps, did anyone warn you? And I don’t even mean about the cheating, but that too of course. Did anyone close to you, a friend, …
One comment I keep seeing come up on Chump Lady, over and over again, is when the cheater says to the chump, “I’ve forgiven myself! …
From an upcoming post on Huffington Post Divorce… Is Bob hitting you? Did he smack your head into a wall and now you’ve got some …
Dear Chump Lady, So, I was reading a single mom blog today and she was talking about how the single dads out there seem like …
Writing this blog, I get dismissed frequently as being bitter and rather pessimistic in my outlook about cheaters. Hey, everyone makes mistakes, we’re only human, …
If you spend any time on reconciliation boards, you’ll read a lot of creative excuses being thrown around about the deep shame and inadequacy that …
Dear Chumplady, Why are cheaters so brazen? Lori Dear Lori Because we are such chumps. Really, can you imagine anyone cheating on Vladimir Putin? Couldn’t …
I was on a HuffPo panel about infidelity recently, and one of the commentators made an interesting observation to us fellow panel members before the …
Dear Chump Lady, Long story short, a man I was dating for just over 2 years – I actually dated him some 20 years ago …
May I just take a moment to say that I hate the term “Wayward”? As in “wayward spouse,” (WS) or as it is known in …
Chump Lady was recently approached by a nice man Trevor, who sent a complimentary email introducing himself and his website, thinking we had much in …
Chump Lady is very honored to interview Dr. George Simon, author of “In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People” and his new book …
Cheating is a profoundly narcissistic act. (Of course, cheaters don’t see it that way. Usually they cast it as selflessly liberating someone from the oppressive …
One of the most common mindfucks the cheated upon may experience after discovery of an affair, is the expectation that they will try harder to …
Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the …