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Lawyer Thinks She Has an Anger Issue

December 10, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hello Chump Lady, My D-day was October 2019, I found you early and you have helped me keep sane. I have three children. At D-Day they were 8, 6 and 3. He had been having an affair for over a year with a ho-worker. I thought he was depressed and I was doing a samba […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, co-parenting with a fuckwit, Uncategorized Tagged With: Custody trial, divorce lawyer

Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas

November 24, 2020 by Chump Lady

A bag of narcissist ego chow

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick me dance. We were together for 25 years with the last few years legally married (same sex marriage). My ex was having an affair and ultimately ended up moving in […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, Ego kibbles, No contact, Pick me dance Tagged With: Cake, No Contact, Triangulation

When Your Kids Believe the Lies

November 5, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, What can you say to your adult children to make them understand that the gaslighting, lying, cheating, stealing, abusive break up and divorce is not “People grow in different directions, so all relationships are temporary.”? Background, my EX, her father, started gaslighting, lying, cheating, stealing and being abusive and I, like most […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, Telling people Tagged With: Lies

‘I Can’t Talk to My Kids About Their Father’

September 15, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I am having a problem. I was chumped 5 years ago this month. I am in a good place now, remarried, etc. But my issue is — I have two teenagers and I cannot talk to them about their father. They know what happened and all that, but I cannot talk to […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Children and infidelity, co-parenting with a fuckwit, Divorce Tagged With: Abandonment, co-parenting with a fuckwit

UBT: Cheating on My Husband Made Me a Better Mother

August 27, 2020 by Chump Lady

Who’s ready for another personal testimonial to the wonders of cheating? It brightens! It whitens! It dices! It slices! And it’s good for stubborn stains. I bring you Medium’s Cheating on My Husband Made Me a Better Mother — “My affair made me happier and, by consequence, also my kids” by Elle Silver. I know, […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, Narcissism, universal bullshit translator Tagged With: Narcissist, Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘My Dad Sucks’

August 20, 2020 by Chump Lady

How children feel about their cheating parents is a topic the Universal Bullshit Translator has rightly shied away from. My standard advice to chumps here is let the kids figure out that relationship for themselves. Tell the truth (“Dad has a girlfriend, that’s why we’re divorcing”) and don’t editorialize (i.e., “Dad’s a slut”). Recognize that […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, universal bullshit translator Tagged With: Are The Kids Alright?, Universal Bullshit Translator

Infidelity, Divorce, Kids — How Did You Navigate It?

May 22, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I wish I would have found your site a decade ago.. alas spilled milk… I’m in a 19 year marriage to a selfish/self centered woman who I chumpily still love. 13 years ago she found an affair partner online that I found out about. We went to counseling and “reconciled”… Since then […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, Divorce Tagged With: Children and infidelity

UBT: A Letter from the “Baby”

April 14, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I have one that I would LOVE to go through the Universal Bullshit Translator. As a chump I so want to believe he is truly sorry for what he has done, but his actions have not shown that, at least to me. While I still wait for Tuesday and that dreamed of place called Meh, this […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Children and infidelity, Pick me dance Tagged With: Pick Me Dance

Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake

January 27, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I have unresolved in-law issues it seems, and can’t make sense of how I react to them more than my ex-husband and OWife. So I took my son to meet ex-inlaws. I was visiting their city so I thought why not take the kid to meet them. I dropped him informally at […]

Filed Under: Children and infidelity, co-parenting with a fuckwit, Pick me dance Tagged With: Ex-In-laws, Pick Me Dance

He Says I’m “UnChristian” for Divorcing Him

January 23, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady – I’m 6.5 months since D-day and filed for divorce 2.5 months ago. My daughters are 17 and 20. The 20 year-old and I discovered the affair after returning from a family vacation (which he skipped again) and the house was magically clean and all visible signs of me hidden. His response […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Children and infidelity, Jesus cheaters, Telling people Tagged With: Jesus cheaters

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