Category: Children and infidelity

Dear Chump Lady, My cheating wife is a SAHM

Dear ChumpLady, My wife of 10 years, a stay at home mom (SAHM), developed chemistry with the father of my son’s buddy from school in …

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The Unending Punishment of Breeding with a Fucktard

If you’ve had the misfortune of breeding with a fucktard, you know that this misery just keeps paying dividends. You may successfully remove yourself from …

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Dear Chump Lady, Parental alienation and teenagers?

Dear Chump Lady, Married 16 years to what appeared to be a nice women. Three kids in the process. Marriage was not great all the …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with a man-child?

Dear Chump Lady, I’m having a hard time with the concept of co-parenting and “what’s best for the children”. My STBX (would have been 21 …

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Dear Chump Lady, Happy Father’s Day. Or else.

Dear Chump Lady, I am new to your blog, and I can’t tell you how happy I am to have found it. I have been …

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Dear Chump Lady, How can I get my mom to leave my cheater dad?

Dear Chump Lady, I only discovered your site a few days ago and you have made me feel SO MUCH BETTER about what I’m going …

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The Flip Side of Resilience

While it’s not okay for cheaters to rely on the resilience of children and chumps — it is okay IMO for chumps to find comfort …

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‘Kids Are Resilient!’ and Other Things Cheaters Should Never Say

Here’s a familiar scenario: A chump, distraught over impending divorce, will worry about the kids. Invariably, the cheater blithely says, “Oh, don’t worry about the …

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Dear Chump Lady, *Now* he wants to be an involved parent? WTF?

I have removed this letter at the request of the original poster. But have left the advice intact.  For the record — do NOT send …

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Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell my 3-year old?

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (married for 7 years, together for 10 total) was a stay-at-home mom to our 3-year old daughter, and I discovered …

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Cheating on the Pregnant, and Other Acts of Abandonment

I was reading Modern Love in the Sunday New York Times yesterday (one of life’s great pleasures). It was a story about a women in …

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Kids and the Affair Partner(s). The Unavoidable Shit Sandwich.

How do I protect my kids from my spouse’s affair partner(s)? How do I shield my kids deal from this new blended family that’s been …

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Dear Chump Lady, What do I tell the kids?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for almost 17 years, together for 21 years.  The first time I caught him cheating it was all …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to co-parent with the OW?

Hi Chump Lady, In my local  newspaper is an advice column called “Ex Etiquette.”  The only thing this column inspires me to think is “what …

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A letter from a child of a cheater — Don’t stay together

I got this letter sent to me after my last Huffington Post essay. Posting it to get your thoughts and provoke discussion. I did write …

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Do It for the Children

Oh how I loathe articles about how divorce hurts children! And not only because they frequently use “impact” as a verb. And are full of …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I set boundaries with my kids about my ex?

Dear Chump Lady, My cheating ex-wife avoids me. We don’t speak on the phone. And she does not go to events with our kids if …

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Dear Chump Lady, Can I Keep the OW Away from My Kids?

Dear Chump Lady, I tried to take the high road regarding my cheating ex-husband having my kids around the OW (who he had a long-term …

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