Category: Chumps Decoded
‘Why Do I Miss Him?’
Hey Chump Lady, I’ve been separated from my lying, cheating FW for 5 months and 18 days. (But who’s counting?) This is not the first …
How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty?
Dear Chump Lady, I kicked my husband out of the house 2 years ago, finally, after a (at least) 10-year history of him cheating on …
Undervaluing Your Accomplishments
So, Mr. CL sent me this Buzzfeed article about happy confessions. This one stood out: The confession we needed from MadeMeSmile Phaesporic must have a …
This Is Your Brain on Hopium
Hopium is a powerful drug. You can hand a chump the most desperate set of circumstances, and goddamn it, that chump will work with it. …
Reframe It
I often think of CN as a place to deprogram chumps from the RIC. To “decolonize the mind” in the words of the great Kenyan …
You Might Be a Chump If…
Time for another rousing round of You Might Be a Chump If… ! In the vein of comedian Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be a Redneck …
Red Flags You Overlooked?
Today’s Friday Challenge is brought to you by Spackle! It brightens! It whitens! Do you have some unsightly behavior you need covering? SPACKLE! *** Every …
The LGBTQ+ Chump Perspective
Dear Chump Lady, Your blog and book have been real lifesavers for me, and they’ve helped me both frame my own experience and describe it …
‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’
Dear Chump Lady, I was cheated on years ago. It was a horrible, messy, painful two years. I wish I’d had your book back then …
Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me
In the past, we’ve catalogued Stupid Shit Other People Say about cheating. However, I feel it’s only fair to acknowledge that I was once capable of saying …
Chump Lady Gets a Check
A little miracle happened Friday night — and I wanted to post and say thank you to Chump Nation. I came home from work, went …
Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner
Dear Chump Lady. I recently read your book, and it’s helped me a lot to not contact my ex-boyfriend (which had previously been very difficult), …
Devastating Writing on Making Your Needs Small
Whoever this writer CJ Hauser is, she’s done an absolutely magnificent job of describing the chump condition. Go read her. Go buy her book. A …
When Men Are Cheated On
If Google analytics are to be believed (and they know everything right?) about half of the people who read here are men. Where are they? …
The Silent Chumps
The first year I started this blog, I was asked to appear on a HuffPo video panel. The subject was on being friendly with your …
Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?
Dear Chump Lady: I’m not sure it’s possible to get through this nightmare of truth-trickling and gaslighting without picking up a maladaptive strategy or two. …
Dear Chump Lady, How do I forgive myself?
Dear Chump Lady, I stayed in a marriage with a serial cheater/sex addict. I know I should have been out of there thirty seconds after …
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Dear Chump Lady, I have a question for the New Year — as we’re all thinking about new beginnings. It’s a simple question but I’m …
Join the International Academy for the Advancement of Chump Studies
This one goes out to the pseudo-therapist-sexologist quacks everywhere and the diploma mills who love them. I’m rerunning my piece on Chump Credentials. Join IAACS now! …
You Might Be a Chump If..
Time for another rousing round of You Might Be a Chump If… ! In the vein of comedian Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be a Redneck …
