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Red Flags You Overlooked?

October 9, 2020 by Chump Lady

Today’s Friday Challenge is brought to you by Spackle! It brightens! It whitens! Do you have some unsightly behavior you need covering? SPACKLE! *** Every healthy relationship possess a small degree of spackle. You overlook the bad morning breath, the way she leaves her shoes everywhere, how he drives 10 miles under the speed limit. […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, Spackle Tagged With: red flags

The LGBTQ+ Chump Perspective

June 17, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Your blog and book have been real lifesavers for me, and they’ve helped me both frame my own experience and describe it to others. I certainly have seen several other LGBTQ+ people who routinely comment on your posts and participate in the related discussion forums elsewhere. I, for one, appreciate that your […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, Gay cheating Tagged With: LGBTQ+, Rainbow chumps

‘Other Chumps Infuriate Me’

April 13, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I was cheated on years ago. It was a horrible, messy, painful two years. I wish I’d had your book back then to save me the heartbreak. I’m mostly over it, except for one thing. Every time I hear a chump making the same excuses I used to make, I get absolutely […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, Hopium Tagged With: Anger, Hopium

Stupid Shit I Thought About Infidelity Until It Happened to Me

September 24, 2019 by Chump Lady

Stay friends

In the past, we’ve catalogued Stupid Shit Other People Say about cheating. However, I feel it’s only fair to acknowledge that I was once capable of saying such stupid shit myself. Maybe you were too. One lasting gift of infidelity is that you’re never so smug again. What did I learn? Well, I thought I’d make a […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Chumps Decoded Tagged With: Blameshifting, infidelity

Chump Lady Gets a Check

September 14, 2019 by Chump Lady

A little miracle happened Friday night — and I wanted to post and say thank you to Chump Nation. I came home from work, went through the stack of mail, and found a letter that looked rather ominously official. It was from the literary agency that represents my book — Leave a Cheater, Gain a […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, Gain a life Tagged With: Gain a Life, Leave a Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, I’m angry with myself for not leaving sooner

August 29, 2019 by Chump Lady

Mindfuck blender

Dear Chump Lady. I recently read your book, and it’s helped me a lot to not contact my ex-boyfriend (which had previously been very difficult), and to fully acknowledge his bullshit answers on evidence that never made sense. I first (yes, first…) discovered his cheating about three years ago. It came with the baggage of […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Chumps Decoded, No contact Tagged With: How to leave a cheater, Regrets

Devastating Writing on Making Your Needs Small

July 24, 2019 by Chump Lady

Narcissist Goldfish

Whoever this writer CJ Hauser is, she’s done an absolutely magnificent job of describing the chump condition. Go read her. Go buy her book. A reader sent me Hauser’s recent essay in the Paris Review — The Crane Wife. It begins as Hauser has just canceled her wedding and goes ahead days later with a […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded Tagged With: CJ Hauser, infidelity

When Men Are Cheated On

July 22, 2019 by Chump Lady

If Google analytics are to be believed (and they know everything right?) about half of the people who read here are men. Where are they? Mostly lurking. (Assuming they aren’t your stalking ex. Google doesn’t have a break down for that. Yet.) With 26 million-plus page views and nearly 5 million unique visitors — that’s […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded Tagged With: Cheating, Cuck, Guy Chumps, infidelity

The Silent Chumps

July 17, 2019 by Chump Lady

The first year I started this blog, I was asked to appear on a HuffPo video panel. The subject was on being friendly with your exes. (Mine was the “no thanks” vote.) Before the segment began, the other panelists and I were chatting and introducing ourselves, off air. I said howdy, mentioned my blog, and […]

Filed Under: Chump Lady, Chumps Decoded Tagged With: infidelity, Shame

Dear Chump Lady, Am I the toxic one?

May 1, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady: I’m not sure it’s possible to get through this nightmare of truth-trickling and gaslighting without picking up a maladaptive strategy or two. But I am really really ready to put them down now. From raking him about his movements to stalking his social media, I am starting to resemble the Eight Signs […]

Filed Under: Chumps Decoded, No contact, Trust that they suck, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness, What Not to Do Tagged With: Hypervigilance

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