Hi Chump Lady, My question is about whether I’m supposed to be friendly to my cheating ex-husband when around the children (14-year-old twin girls). We are divorced now, it’s been 2 years since D-Day and after a bit of spackling and pick me dancing (around 5 months) I decided enough was enough and I wanted […]
Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
Hello Chump Lady, I was married for 17 years, together 19. Left him in 2015, divorced 2016. I lived with him in a very remote place in rural coastal Alaska, to a small town southwest of here. I left because his job is the health care worker in a small native village no way I […]
Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
Dear Chump Lady, I have unresolved in-law issues it seems, and can’t make sense of how I react to them more than my ex-husband and OWife. So I took my son to meet ex-inlaws. I was visiting their city so I thought why not take the kid to meet them. I dropped him informally at […]
‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
Dear Chump Lady, Can you please tell me why cheaters so badly want to remain friends? A little background information — my ex-husband and I were married for 16 years, have 2 kids (15 & 12), have been separated for a little over 2 years, divorced for one. I found out 2 days before our […]
UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents
Dear Chump Lady, My ex, after a year and a half, thinks that we should still be buying joint gifts for the kids, and signing them from ‘mom and dad’. I disagree and have sent him a request that I will be doing my own Christmas with the boys at my house and he should […]
‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered in September 2018 that my husband of 3 years (together a total of 13 years) had been having a 2-year affair with his coworker. (The affair started before our 1-year wedding anniversary and spanned our time trying to get pregnant, our time doing IVF, while I was pregnant and while […]
Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to organize their video chat?
Dear Chump Lady, Some backstory before I dive into my current issue: My ex-husband (as of July) told me he wanted to separate in January 2018. We are from Arizona, but were stationed in Maryland at the time. Oh, and I was 8 weeks pregnant with our second child. He encouraged me to move back […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I protect my son’s heart?
Dear Chump Lady, My D-day was over 3 years ago now and the divorce has been final for over a year. I have taken your advice and other than the “when and where” of our child exchange I do not engage in contact with the ex at all. Unfortunately that does not stop him from […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I keep the OW away from my kids?
Dear Chump Lady, I tried to take the high road regarding my cheating ex-husband having my kids around the OW (who he had a long-term affair with). I’ve been divorced for two years, and he claims the OW isn’t in the picture any more, or around my kids. But my kids tell a different story. […]
When Mother’s Day Sucks
Dear Chump Lady, Exactly one year ago from Mother’s Day, I was opening gifts, receiving flowers, and left alone in the morning to catch up on some much needed sleep. The next day I woke up with so much gratitude, I said to my husband, “Thank you for a wonderful day, I am so grateful […]
