Dear Chump Lady, I am having a problem. I was chumped 5 years ago this month. I am in a good place now, remarried, etc. But my issue is — I have two teenagers and I cannot talk to them about their father. They know what happened and all that, but I cannot talk to […]
UBT: You Will Use This to Illustrate Your Holiness
Hi Chump Lady, Could you translate this email that the ex sent me? We have been in the process of getting divorced for 5 years due to his many appeals and are still not divorced yet even though he lives in China making a six digit salary with his girlfriend ( which is a blessing!). […]
The Kid Calls the Felon OW ‘Mama’
Dear Chump Lady, I am divorced from a shitbag who decided to have an affair with a married coworker. Yes, I know, I should have seen it coming. Not to mention I am positive I held some of his red flags for him while watching them wave in the wind. He probably needed both hands […]
When Is It Okay to Tell Someone STOP?
Hi Chump Lady! The question I have for you is, when is it okay to tell someone to stop with their hurtful behavior and when should you stay silent? The other day, my ex cheater sent me a video he made with my son for the school virtual talent show. The video features my son, […]
UBT: Let’s Put Aside ‘Our Differences’ for These Special Times in Our Kids’ Lives
Dear Chump Lady, Here is a very topical subject dealing with Covid, Kids, and Warped Reality. I’ve been Chumped 2x by my Soon To Be Ex-Wife (STBXW) Quick background. In 2019 my wife dropped the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” bomb on me. She claimed there was nobody else and […]
‘My No Contact Stinks’
Dear Chump Lady, My no contact stinks. You have discussed no contact in your book and on your website. Many of the CN regulars speak of NC in the comments and have given sound advice. It sounds great, I don’t know how this is accomplished with my situation. My cheater ex works as a physician […]
‘I Lost My Meh’
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was really close to meh, until I had a tough day with kids, and then ran into my XH and his howorker at a trailhead and ended up wishing my XH would “disappear or just go somewhere and never come back,” to his face. Worst part is that the […]
Do I Have to Be Friendly With My Ex?
Hi Chump Lady, My question is about whether I’m supposed to be friendly to my cheating ex-husband when around the children (14-year-old twin girls). We are divorced now, it’s been 2 years since D-Day and after a bit of spackling and pick me dancing (around 5 months) I decided enough was enough and I wanted […]
Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
Hello Chump Lady, I was married for 17 years, together 19. Left him in 2015, divorced 2016. I lived with him in a very remote place in rural coastal Alaska, to a small town southwest of here. I left because his job is the health care worker in a small native village no way I […]
Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
Dear Chump Lady, I have unresolved in-law issues it seems, and can’t make sense of how I react to them more than my ex-husband and OWife. So I took my son to meet ex-inlaws. I was visiting their city so I thought why not take the kid to meet them. I dropped him informally at […]
