Hi Chump Lady! The question I have for you is, when is it okay to tell someone to stop with their hurtful behavior and when should you stay silent? The other day, my ex cheater sent me a video he made with my son for the school virtual talent show. The video features my son, […]
UBT: Let’s Put Aside ‘Our Differences’ for These Special Times in Our Kids’ Lives
Dear Chump Lady, Here is a very topical subject dealing with Covid, Kids, and Warped Reality. I’ve been Chumped 2x by my Soon To Be Ex-Wife (STBXW) Quick background. In 2019 my wife dropped the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” bomb on me. She claimed there was nobody else and […]
‘My No Contact Stinks’
Dear Chump Lady, My no contact stinks. You have discussed no contact in your book and on your website. Many of the CN regulars speak of NC in the comments and have given sound advice. It sounds great, I don’t know how this is accomplished with my situation. My cheater ex works as a physician […]
‘I Lost My Meh’
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was really close to meh, until I had a tough day with kids, and then ran into my XH and his howorker at a trailhead and ended up wishing my XH would “disappear or just go somewhere and never come back,” to his face. Worst part is that the […]
Do I Have to Be Friendly With My Ex?
Hi Chump Lady, My question is about whether I’m supposed to be friendly to my cheating ex-husband when around the children (14-year-old twin girls). We are divorced now, it’s been 2 years since D-Day and after a bit of spackling and pick me dancing (around 5 months) I decided enough was enough and I wanted […]
Coronavirus and Co-Parenting with Fuckwits
Hello Chump Lady, I was married for 17 years, together 19. Left him in 2015, divorced 2016. I lived with him in a very remote place in rural coastal Alaska, to a small town southwest of here. I left because his job is the health care worker in a small native village no way I […]
Ex-MIL Thinks I Should Get Along with OW for My Son’s Sake
Dear Chump Lady, I have unresolved in-law issues it seems, and can’t make sense of how I react to them more than my ex-husband and OWife. So I took my son to meet ex-inlaws. I was visiting their city so I thought why not take the kid to meet them. I dropped him informally at […]
‘Why Does My Ex Want to Be Friends?’
Dear Chump Lady, Can you please tell me why cheaters so badly want to remain friends? A little background information — my ex-husband and I were married for 16 years, have 2 kids (15 & 12), have been separated for a little over 2 years, divorced for one. I found out 2 days before our […]
UBT Responds to Ex Dictating Where Kids Can Open Presents
Dear Chump Lady, My ex, after a year and a half, thinks that we should still be buying joint gifts for the kids, and signing them from ‘mom and dad’. I disagree and have sent him a request that I will be doing my own Christmas with the boys at my house and he should […]
‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered in September 2018 that my husband of 3 years (together a total of 13 years) had been having a 2-year affair with his coworker. (The affair started before our 1-year wedding anniversary and spanned our time trying to get pregnant, our time doing IVF, while I was pregnant and while […]
