Dear Chump Lady, Exactly one year ago from Mother’s Day, I was opening gifts, receiving flowers, and left alone in the morning to catch up on some much needed sleep. The next day I woke up with so much gratitude, I said to my husband, “Thank you for a wonderful day, I am so grateful […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so mad at my ex?
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop being so angry at my cheating ex? I get flashes of it and it makes me tired. He’s off living his single life with affair partner and gets 50/50 shared custody of our child. (I’m happy with that, although I miss my child lots). He’s just become so […]
Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street
Dear Chump Lady, I divorced my (abusive) ex-husband a year ago after 17 years of marriage and 4 children. That wasn’t fun for him, so he decided to choose bars, cocaine parties and hookers over the whole marriage/family gig. He is now allowed 4 hours a month with the kids, which he rarely blesses us […]
Dear Chump Lady, He puts the OW phone to say ‘goodnight’ to our child
Dear Chump Lady, I kicked my husband out two weeks ago after discovering his affair with a woman 20 years older than me. He’s now moved in with her, and within a week they had a bedroom set up for my son and are planning on keeping him several nights each week. My STBX has […]
Dear Chump Lady, He’s dating a mom at our kid’s school
Dear Chump Lady, I was cheated on by my husband and father of young children after 16 years together, left absolutely shattered. I played the pick me dance and I think he got off on it, until eventually I played the fuck off song. I am getting better and better at practising meh or at […]
Dear Chump Lady, The OW dresses my children in her clothes
Dear Chump Lady, I am 15 months into this crappy situation now, have just wrangled myself a good settlement that my soon-to-be-ex’s stepfather had to pay (cheater has no money, how original), and am moving to my new property on Monday. My cheating ex is still with the low-rent staff member he left me for. […]
Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom
Dear Chump Lady, I’m a mom of two young kids. (My son will be 3 in August and my daughter turned 1 two weeks ago). Six months ago my husband of four years (together nine years total) told me he wanted “out.” He said he tried marriage, but it wasn’t working out for him. He […]
Dear Chump Lady, Why does he get to look like a Good Person?
Dear Chump Lady, I didn’t think Valentine’s Day would bother me as much as it did. I was married for 18 years, with my husband for 25. I supported him through medical school and 7 years of a surgical residency by working full-time and raising 2 kids. He had an affair 3 years ago with […]
How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Once upon a time I got a call for a post on how to co-parent with a narcissist. So, here’s your article. If I were feeling flippant (as I often am), I could answer this in two sentences: You cannot co-anything with a narcissist. You are only permitted to orbit. Seriously, this whole notion of reciprocity […]
Dear Chump Lady, He exults in my parenting “mistakes”
Dear Chump Lady, Here is where I am at —overall, happy. I managed to get my divorce finally finalized more than a year ago. I have a full-time job, half-time parenting and a boyfriend. I have a home and a dog and all the basics that a woman could want plus a little more. I’m […]
